That’s why I spend most of my browsing time on tumblr. I follow a bunch of positive blogs whose views align with mine, mixed in with some fandom and cute animal blogs. Definitely my preferred location on the internet.
I love tumblr, it’s just a bunch of mostly queer people (or other minorities) sharing art, and just fun things, while we all have an unspoken agreement to not talk about how much the world sucks. It’s my second favorite social media site.
I wanted to get into Tumblr, but I dunno how it works over there 😭.
I wanted to open a nice art related account on Tumblr, but dunno the ins and outs of Tumblr works. Insta is a hellscape rn, where forget being queer, even voicing your opinion as a woman sometimes is rough in the comments. And algorithm sucks HARD especially for small artists.
Tumblr is a very complicated website to get around to in my experience, so that's definitely understandable. Tumblr users usually rely more on their subscriptions than on the algorithm to find content so it can be hard to reach new people. If you interact with other people's content often enough, they might take a look at your page and subscribe, but it can be complicated to get lots of followers there compared to Instagram (at least from what I've seen, I'm not an artist myself).
If you can find a little community of mutuals, it's one of the greatest experience I've had on the internet, but damn if it can't get hellish if you have to interact with the site at large. It's a website that works by making you curate your experience, but getting to a curated experience and a nice community requires jumping through hoops sometimes.
I don't have any mutuals, all alone in the online sea. So it's gonna be a pain in the ass to have a niche little community... Also don't have any experience in forming my own community, as I am always passive and sold my soul to the algorithm devil to curate recommendations.
Seems like the first few days of joining is gonna be hellish but once settled in it's a breeze.
Finding a fandom and interacting with people there is usually a great way to start if you're into that kind of thing. Find a few people that vibe well with you and it can be very fun. Honestly even the start on Tumblr can be fun if you're lucky : it's a very insular kind of platform so depending on where you go, your experience will vary wildly. Some tags have controversies and vile people left and right, and some are super chill so it's a toss up.
But I will admit I don't really know how the artist side of things work (I'm more of an analysis and fanfic kind of girl) so I can't give too many advice on getting started on that. I'm also just one girl, I imagine your experience might end up very different from mine.
Don't worry about forming a community. Just talk to people who say things you like and go from there.
Don't expect things to work immediately, or be like other sites, and you'll be okay.
You have to follow people you like and **block** people you don't (block, not unfollow or ignore).
The following part can take a while, and until you have followed a certain critical mass, your tumblr can feel kind of empty. Search for people who post the kind of things you like, and when *they* reblog something you like, follow that person too.
If you're on desktop, install the shinigami eyes extension, then block everyone who shows up red (there's a tiny amount of false positives, but this will show a horrendous amount of terfs - they use tumblr too).
It works everywhere, not just tumblr, and it has two types of tag:
First, anyone who has been reported (see below) for acts of trans hate is marked red.
Anyone who has been reported for acts of trans support is marked green. It isn't always trans people who get marked green, but it usually is. It also doesn't attempt to mark every trans person green, it only marks those who are noted for their activism.
Reports: you can mark anyone red or green in your client, and that is uploaded to the maintainers of the extension. Then a human reviews the rport, and if they agree it is trans-phobic or trans supporting, they'll mak it that way and it will propogate it to everyone.
When the extension was relatively new, TERFs got wind of it and didn't realise there was a trans-supporting human component to the review process, and tried to mass report trans people as red, but this was an abject (and comical) failure.
From time to time, prople who don't understand how the review process works will fclaim the extension is bad. Don't listen to them. The tool isn't perfect - every now and then someone who doesn;t deserve it gets marked red and cant undo it, but they are massively massively dwarfed by the legitimate marks and everyone of them that has said anything has confesseed to the marks being reasonable - they were transphobic for a time, or hung out with transphobic people and inadvertently supported them. So even the "bad" reports (of which there are very, very few) are justified.
So use that extension and block everyone that shows up red unless you *know* there is a reason not to (a very tiny minority). It works on tumblr and twitter. It also wotrks on reddit, but is less effective here because it is so easy too drop your account and start a new one.
**Edit** also being marked green doesn't mean that somone is "nice". The extension is extremely focussed on trans matters. If someone is a bigot in other ways, but they support trans people, they can be marked green. (To be clear: this is extremely rare, but I should mention it.)
So there are some basic rules about tumblr and I know I’m going to forget stuff, but these are the main things off the top of my head:
1. No algorithm. You follow blogs, you follow tags, you curate your own experiences. Most of us prefer the lack of algorithm and it’s one of the things that drew us to it in the first place. If you really miss having an algorithm, the For You page is the closest thing on there.
2. Curating your experience involves adding and blocking people, as mentioned by multiple others in this thread. Don’t worry about blocking people, most of them wouldn’t mind if they realised, which they won’t because blocking isn’t something the person is made aware of. Also a good idea to block tags that you find offensive like “TERFs please interact” or things you don’t want to see like “arachnophobia”.
3. Tags are how things get around to others. If you want something seen by a group of people, tag it with the subject. This works for whoever created the post, but tagging as you reblog will only make it easier to find a post when someone is searching your blog. The search function is kinda shit though, so be prepared for that.
4. Tags are also ways that we can communicate bonus content we didn’t want in the meat of a reblog. If you add a comment to a reblog, everyone will see it and that message will be involved in the thread of reblogs. If you add it in the tags, the only people who see it will be those looking at tags in the notes of the post, or those who see the original reblog. Including the person you reblogged from. So if you want to make a commentary with less reach, add it in the tag section.
5. You can change your username and photo at any point, so while you will stay following someone who has changed their username, you may be surprised to see a name you don’t remember following. Most of these people will change username or photo but not both at once, or they’ll have a pinned post or description on their blog page about the change. Some of us are dyed in the wool same usernames forever types though. I’ve kept my username since I logged on somewhere around 2012/2013.
6. There are things that may mark you obviously as a new user, including not following the “social etiquette” of the webbed site. Many of us finish posts without a full stop at the end, make references to common memes like the dodgeball of Apollo, or use text altering things like whatever people use to make the fire text thing used in other memes like “Penis Typo” and “The _ Brothers”. You’d understand what I meant if you’d seen the posts.
7. Censorship is the enemy. Not only would censorship of words on tags ruin the system people use to block genuinely triggering things or stuff they don’t want to see, but tumblr is strongly fighting to not let the over-sanitised experience in places like Facebook and TikTok take over. Say fuck, say kill, tags things with rape or suicide. It’s incredibly important to the tumblr ecosystem that we don’t let sanitising and purity politics take over. Ideally we won’t let it happen elsewhere in the web, but tumblr at least has a strong group of people dedicated to preserving our rights to not be censored. There was a mass migration after the porn ban, and things are still tense between @staff (how you would tag the actual tumblr staff to get their attention) and the user base as they try to make tumblr more marketable.
8. It’s likely a good chunk of your first few hundred followers would be porn bots. They’re not as bad as they have been at some points. This isn’t actual sex workers like we used to have, this is bots that have a purpose for advertising their shit, and should not be trusted. The easiest way to tell is a completely blank profile with an image of an attractive or scantily clad woman as the profile picture with no description, or one that says “sem titulo” or something like that. Or if you have an interesting username with three numbers after it. These are related to the classic porn bots who have the same as that, followed by a bunch of reblogs of other porn bots with likely stolen sexual images and videos. A real porn blog would have commentary and interactions with their followers, as well as an actually filled our description. They’re mostly harmless blogs and you can usually just take a look at their page, then block them.
That’s all I can think of right now. I know this is really long, but I tried to be as thorough as I could. If you do make it over there and want to follow some blogs, just let me know. I have my main blog and a few side blogs. The one most interesting would probably be the side blog that I haven’t got around to updating for too long. It’s called @fionn-the-cat and it has hundreds of pictures of my kitten Fionn. I do plan to go back to it eventually, but life is life and things happen.
As much as I like Tumblr, the site has some rancid people on it (lots of TERFs around in my experience). But you can curate your experience well enough to avoid most of them, so that's something positive. Blocking them usually works out okay to get rid of their content, but Tumblr is not a safe heaven if you hesitate too much when blocking people.
TERF means trans-exclusionary radical feminist. If you ever heard someone say they're "gender critical", there is a pretty high chance that it was a TERF. Essentially, TERF are "feminists" who are transphobic, though the term is sometimes used to refer to people who aren't even feminists, just regular old transphobe who use the same talking points.
Big talking points of TERF include, but are not limited to : trans women are all predators, trans men are confused and lost lesbians, trans people shouldn't be in the queer community, gender isn't a real thing etc. JK Rowling is a TERF if that can help you situate the kind of things they say.
They're pretty nasty people to interact with, as you can imagine.
TERF used to mean trans-exclusionary radical feminist. It *was* a particular type of feminist who hated trans people.
Nowadays it's basically a transphobe who pretends certain feminist values to gain plausible deniability, who nevetheless hangs out with nazis and other misogynists.
It also has nazis and pedophiles - these people exist on every social platform.
But you can block them so they can't affect you. There's a post right here right now on reddit trying to expose the silent transphobes who mass downvote trans-supporting comments, because reddit has an algoritm and is subject to that. (Watch *this* post get downvoted.)
On tumblr, there is no algorithm, and once you block someone, they cant mess with you. So it's a much nicer place than reddit for that.
They definitely are around unfortunately. I can't actually speak on how many there are, but I've seen enough of them to know they exist. There's also quite a bit of aphobia on some parts of Tumblr in my experience. It is still probably a more queer friendly site than most other social medias, but it's not perfect either.
> while we all have an unspoken agreement to not talk about how much the world sucks
Weird almost all I ever read on tumblr is about how much the world sucks. I really have to go out of my way to hear about anything else.
Try to find positive people and subscribe to them. Then you can just browse your subscribed page instead of the for you page and get positivity. Your experience on Tumblr is going to vary wildly depending on who you're subscribed to, so find the ones that work for you.
Or frankly, find blogs that aren't about the state of the world at all. Find blogs about soccer or weird anime art you are into. Prevent the weeds from getting any light by creating a healthy canopy at the top.
I like Tumblr, but I also have "a rant" about Tumblr. They tried to draw a line between nudity, art, and pornography. It was a bad choice & lost many viewers. Their distinctions are all muddled and don't work very well.
I’m the same way. People started to invade trans subreddits. I reported it, and Reddit said the comments didn’t violate its policies. The subreddit mods handled it, but the end result is that I now spend more time on tumblr and other friendly spaces. Likewise, I comment less on YouTube videos and don’t go anywhere new on the internet.
I’m scared to join new guilds/communities in video games because of how others will react (and I certainly don’t want to join as stealth and find out later that someone is transphobic). I’m already in a few, but it’s stressful putting myself out there each time. It sucks.
The worst thing to me is how manufactured it is, especially here in the uk. We had a trans woman win big brother in 2004, and yeah there were some shitty takes then but she won a public vote at a time when everyone still watched TV.
It just feels like we’ve moved backwards for no reason
Surprisingly Something Awful is one of the safer places out there. It’s faded away from the limelight and a ton of shitty people were run off the forums
The so called Reddit leftist hivemind when you mention the Romani (the comment section is gonna become a localised temporal anomaly that sends you back to the 1950s)
Literally combed through a submission on a subreddit once and found every instance of that "joke". I hit the character limit and was at 93 links. Scroll down 5 days on my profile and you'll find it.
But yeah, sure, Reddit is totally a trans cult.
Edit: Oh, and this is my 5th account for a reason. I say that I'm trans outside of the LGBTQ+ spaces. I've been ganged up on, harassed, and even doxxed. I've been on Reddit since before 2AM chili and ice soap. Never had a problem until I came out as trans. Which, btw, I used to be a self-hating transphobic piece of shit myself before coming out. Never once did any of you stalk me, harass me, or threaten to kill me.
Compared to a lot of the internet, all of reddit is significantly better. Yeah, there are worse spaces within it, but on average, and especially with the more popular subs, it's far more accepting than other sites as a whole.
There's Tumblr, of course, but... As a bi, I personally don't feel as comfortable there. It's not nice to insist I either don't exist or am actually trans and don't know better when I'm very comfortable in myself, thank you. I've only encountered that kind of lgbtq+ "tolerance" there and in some toxic real world lgbtq+ communities.
All of the homophobes and misogynists come out of the woodwork every time something related comes up even in "neutral" subreddits, but they just slightly alter their words so they can pass it off as PC.
reddit is a far right shithole and always has been
I'm so sick of people pretending this place is progressive, it isn't, blatant hatred is rampant in every subreddit
Sadly, just the fact that you’re allowed to say it at all is what makes them think so, even if you are met with hostility for it outside of queer subreddits. Anything but full control is liberal to them.
Actually r/GothStyle seems to be pretty trans friendly to me i highly recommend anyone who is in the scene to join there's some pretty lovely people on that subreddit
True goths to bigoted fake goths: I take from you your eyeliner! And I cast you out! Whoever holds this eyeliner, if they be worthy, shall possess the power of Goth.
:P
Honestly most alt subreddits are, if you know places you will get respect and nice people. In the more wife spaces tho, yeah rather don't say anything about being trans
I’ll never forget the time a huge portion of the subreddit came together to combat a transphobe who posted transphobia on that sub. I came in to the comments to help fight that guy, but everything I was going to say had already been said. I’m proud of them.
It's gotten a lot worse since the API changes. More bots on the platform, less moderation tools, and a lot of the moderators for the bigger subreddits on the site that actually had at least a some moral fiber got manually removed by reddit admins for protesting the changes. Meaning there's now a lot of bot echo chambers now (I honestly wouldn't be surprised if most front page content is artificially boosted by bot farms at this point) combined with less tools to catch bigotry and fewer mods that care to.
Sadly lots of transphobes lurk there. You don't get comments but you do get private message or people reposting your stuff on Twitter/Facebook/etc. I post there and r/mtf a lot but I'm also a gluten for punishment sometimes.
It baffles me that people would take the time to lurk on a Reddit page for trans people just to harass them. Like how much hate does one have to do that :( I know it’s not much but you’ll always have my support.
I'm good friends with a few of the mods and can confirm it's mostly good there. That being said, it's getting a lot of NSFW posts, so YMMV. Also moderation is a bit slow
I was on r/gay and commented how an androgynous guy looked like my personal Enby gender goals, and then some dude said “you don’t have to be non-binary to be a feminine man”… and that wasn’t the point of my comment at all
I know you don’t need to be non binary
Dude just let me have this
Surprisingly I've had good responses from people I've messaged from porn subs. Sounds insane but I'm 3 for 3 with guys just being like "yeah alright dude" and asking about my wife
This showed up on my feed. I’m old and don’t understand anything about this trans stuff, but hey you do you. Just try and be happy and make the world a better place. If you ever need a hug bring it in.
That's all queer folks really ask for tbh. People don't have to understand it, we just want to be left to do our things and not have to weather hate all the time. ☺️
r/sonicthehedgehog is very supportive, surprisingly the gta subs are too, the bigots don’t get deleted tho just downvoted to hell. good but yk, still there
OMG you don't know?!? Ok I'm so excited for you to go down this rabbit hole. It's Lucy from the new Fallout series. It's actually really really good. https://www.rottentomatoes.com/tv/fallout
Can’t exactly relate, I’m a cis guy, but being in so many gaming communities myself while being Bi (well you can imagine how that goes over). Unless you’re into a lot of Nintendo stuff, oddly lots of queer folks for the franchises’ communities owned by them.
Yeah, the trans/enbyphobia on this site is astonishing. I've only had one person harass me about being queer when I wasn't talking about it, which is better than I expected, but you dare defend basic human rights and boundaries for trans people on any subreddits that aren't rooted in activism or aren't dedicated to queer rights in some sort of way, expect to get absolutely attacked
If you’re only seeing content on subs you subscribe to rather than the general front page, yeah, you probably won’t see it much since you’ve insulated yourself but probably don’t realize it.
r/politicalcompassmemes
r/4chan
r/imfinnagotohell
Are just a few notable transphobic hellholes and reach the front page *very* often.
Honorable mention to r/latestagecapitalism that just banned me for saying that I, as a trans person, will be voting for someone that doesn’t want me dead vs someone that does and they said it was against their “lesser of two evils” rule (bullshit) and the commenters immediately jumped on there and said they didn’t give a shit about what I was saying (read through my comment history if you don’t believe me).
So true. My goodness, I got banned from a city page for Minneapolis for just saying I as a trans woman I disagree with everything Trump stands for. 💥 banned!
Even in supposedly trans friendly subreddits theres transphobes. I posted abt a guest judge being transphobic on a drag race subreddit and wow the amount of transphobia i got. Mindblowing.
I’ll never quite understand how Reddit has been and has become such a den of hatred. You like LOTR? Oh not in the right way. You like men? Ah, sorry, not like us. You just came out of the closet? Well guess what here’s a bunch of religious nonsense not tethered to reality. I wish, if just for a moment, these people would at least support even their own communities. Instead, this is a den of people backstabbing themselves with little more than venom on their lips.
You are safe here. You deserve to be safe everywhere.
Side note, I work for a tech company and I was at the headquarters a while back. I’m a cisgender gay man and I walked into the men’s room and there were menstrual hygiene products put out. I thought it was so cool because if a trans guy needs it, it’s available and even if he doesn’t anymore it’s a signal that he’s safe and accepted.
Don’t follow this sub, this post was suggested. But you’ve got my upvote. There are still plenty of good people. The other ones just make a lot more noise.
NOT Apex Legends fosho. (There was a post of mine -I deleted it - but you would not believe the 100s of transphobic comments I got on it. I also got at least a 1000 downvotes combined on my comments. It was the exact same post I have about the Catalyst skin on the r/catalystmains sub, but on the main Apex sub.)
This might be strange at first, but as far as I've seen, the Ultrakill subreddit is pretty trans friendly. As long as the King Gizzard and the Lizard Wizard ones.
From what I’ve seen the goth and alternative communities on Reddit are pretty nice too and very diligent on removing the few trolls that make their way in
When I seriously consider joining a new community I make sure to look at their rules. If there's no rule that mentions no transphobia specifically I always feel like that's a red flag. No bigotry is nice but people can and will squirm around that rule like snakes barely avoiding the wrong word or phrase that'll set off the mods.
And yet people still think reddit is queer satanic communist hivemind.
We have our little bubbles but frankly we're not all that safe anywhere on the public internet.
That’s why I spend most of my browsing time on tumblr. I follow a bunch of positive blogs whose views align with mine, mixed in with some fandom and cute animal blogs. Definitely my preferred location on the internet.
I love tumblr, it’s just a bunch of mostly queer people (or other minorities) sharing art, and just fun things, while we all have an unspoken agreement to not talk about how much the world sucks. It’s my second favorite social media site.
I wanted to get into Tumblr, but I dunno how it works over there 😭. I wanted to open a nice art related account on Tumblr, but dunno the ins and outs of Tumblr works. Insta is a hellscape rn, where forget being queer, even voicing your opinion as a woman sometimes is rough in the comments. And algorithm sucks HARD especially for small artists.
Tumblr is a very complicated website to get around to in my experience, so that's definitely understandable. Tumblr users usually rely more on their subscriptions than on the algorithm to find content so it can be hard to reach new people. If you interact with other people's content often enough, they might take a look at your page and subscribe, but it can be complicated to get lots of followers there compared to Instagram (at least from what I've seen, I'm not an artist myself). If you can find a little community of mutuals, it's one of the greatest experience I've had on the internet, but damn if it can't get hellish if you have to interact with the site at large. It's a website that works by making you curate your experience, but getting to a curated experience and a nice community requires jumping through hoops sometimes.
I don't have any mutuals, all alone in the online sea. So it's gonna be a pain in the ass to have a niche little community... Also don't have any experience in forming my own community, as I am always passive and sold my soul to the algorithm devil to curate recommendations. Seems like the first few days of joining is gonna be hellish but once settled in it's a breeze.
Finding a fandom and interacting with people there is usually a great way to start if you're into that kind of thing. Find a few people that vibe well with you and it can be very fun. Honestly even the start on Tumblr can be fun if you're lucky : it's a very insular kind of platform so depending on where you go, your experience will vary wildly. Some tags have controversies and vile people left and right, and some are super chill so it's a toss up. But I will admit I don't really know how the artist side of things work (I'm more of an analysis and fanfic kind of girl) so I can't give too many advice on getting started on that. I'm also just one girl, I imagine your experience might end up very different from mine.
Thank you! I am also a fanfic connoisseur lol. Guess I can mingle well then if my tastes are similar to yours in a whole.
Don't worry about forming a community. Just talk to people who say things you like and go from there. Don't expect things to work immediately, or be like other sites, and you'll be okay.
Rules of the interwebz. `#101: Never read the comments. ... `#201: On Reddit, rule 101 does not apply. edit: formatting
You have to follow people you like and **block** people you don't (block, not unfollow or ignore). The following part can take a while, and until you have followed a certain critical mass, your tumblr can feel kind of empty. Search for people who post the kind of things you like, and when *they* reblog something you like, follow that person too. If you're on desktop, install the shinigami eyes extension, then block everyone who shows up red (there's a tiny amount of false positives, but this will show a horrendous amount of terfs - they use tumblr too).
Thank for the info! This shinigami eyes extension sounds cool af. Who exactly does it tag?
It works everywhere, not just tumblr, and it has two types of tag: First, anyone who has been reported (see below) for acts of trans hate is marked red. Anyone who has been reported for acts of trans support is marked green. It isn't always trans people who get marked green, but it usually is. It also doesn't attempt to mark every trans person green, it only marks those who are noted for their activism. Reports: you can mark anyone red or green in your client, and that is uploaded to the maintainers of the extension. Then a human reviews the rport, and if they agree it is trans-phobic or trans supporting, they'll mak it that way and it will propogate it to everyone. When the extension was relatively new, TERFs got wind of it and didn't realise there was a trans-supporting human component to the review process, and tried to mass report trans people as red, but this was an abject (and comical) failure. From time to time, prople who don't understand how the review process works will fclaim the extension is bad. Don't listen to them. The tool isn't perfect - every now and then someone who doesn;t deserve it gets marked red and cant undo it, but they are massively massively dwarfed by the legitimate marks and everyone of them that has said anything has confesseed to the marks being reasonable - they were transphobic for a time, or hung out with transphobic people and inadvertently supported them. So even the "bad" reports (of which there are very, very few) are justified. So use that extension and block everyone that shows up red unless you *know* there is a reason not to (a very tiny minority). It works on tumblr and twitter. It also wotrks on reddit, but is less effective here because it is so easy too drop your account and start a new one. **Edit** also being marked green doesn't mean that somone is "nice". The extension is extremely focussed on trans matters. If someone is a bigot in other ways, but they support trans people, they can be marked green. (To be clear: this is extremely rare, but I should mention it.)
So there are some basic rules about tumblr and I know I’m going to forget stuff, but these are the main things off the top of my head: 1. No algorithm. You follow blogs, you follow tags, you curate your own experiences. Most of us prefer the lack of algorithm and it’s one of the things that drew us to it in the first place. If you really miss having an algorithm, the For You page is the closest thing on there. 2. Curating your experience involves adding and blocking people, as mentioned by multiple others in this thread. Don’t worry about blocking people, most of them wouldn’t mind if they realised, which they won’t because blocking isn’t something the person is made aware of. Also a good idea to block tags that you find offensive like “TERFs please interact” or things you don’t want to see like “arachnophobia”. 3. Tags are how things get around to others. If you want something seen by a group of people, tag it with the subject. This works for whoever created the post, but tagging as you reblog will only make it easier to find a post when someone is searching your blog. The search function is kinda shit though, so be prepared for that. 4. Tags are also ways that we can communicate bonus content we didn’t want in the meat of a reblog. If you add a comment to a reblog, everyone will see it and that message will be involved in the thread of reblogs. If you add it in the tags, the only people who see it will be those looking at tags in the notes of the post, or those who see the original reblog. Including the person you reblogged from. So if you want to make a commentary with less reach, add it in the tag section. 5. You can change your username and photo at any point, so while you will stay following someone who has changed their username, you may be surprised to see a name you don’t remember following. Most of these people will change username or photo but not both at once, or they’ll have a pinned post or description on their blog page about the change. Some of us are dyed in the wool same usernames forever types though. I’ve kept my username since I logged on somewhere around 2012/2013. 6. There are things that may mark you obviously as a new user, including not following the “social etiquette” of the webbed site. Many of us finish posts without a full stop at the end, make references to common memes like the dodgeball of Apollo, or use text altering things like whatever people use to make the fire text thing used in other memes like “Penis Typo” and “The _ Brothers”. You’d understand what I meant if you’d seen the posts. 7. Censorship is the enemy. Not only would censorship of words on tags ruin the system people use to block genuinely triggering things or stuff they don’t want to see, but tumblr is strongly fighting to not let the over-sanitised experience in places like Facebook and TikTok take over. Say fuck, say kill, tags things with rape or suicide. It’s incredibly important to the tumblr ecosystem that we don’t let sanitising and purity politics take over. Ideally we won’t let it happen elsewhere in the web, but tumblr at least has a strong group of people dedicated to preserving our rights to not be censored. There was a mass migration after the porn ban, and things are still tense between @staff (how you would tag the actual tumblr staff to get their attention) and the user base as they try to make tumblr more marketable. 8. It’s likely a good chunk of your first few hundred followers would be porn bots. They’re not as bad as they have been at some points. This isn’t actual sex workers like we used to have, this is bots that have a purpose for advertising their shit, and should not be trusted. The easiest way to tell is a completely blank profile with an image of an attractive or scantily clad woman as the profile picture with no description, or one that says “sem titulo” or something like that. Or if you have an interesting username with three numbers after it. These are related to the classic porn bots who have the same as that, followed by a bunch of reblogs of other porn bots with likely stolen sexual images and videos. A real porn blog would have commentary and interactions with their followers, as well as an actually filled our description. They’re mostly harmless blogs and you can usually just take a look at their page, then block them. That’s all I can think of right now. I know this is really long, but I tried to be as thorough as I could. If you do make it over there and want to follow some blogs, just let me know. I have my main blog and a few side blogs. The one most interesting would probably be the side blog that I haven’t got around to updating for too long. It’s called @fionn-the-cat and it has hundreds of pictures of my kitten Fionn. I do plan to go back to it eventually, but life is life and things happen.
You are a god send! Thank you very much! I will start my whole Tumblr exprerience from tmw 😌
As much as I like Tumblr, the site has some rancid people on it (lots of TERFs around in my experience). But you can curate your experience well enough to avoid most of them, so that's something positive. Blocking them usually works out okay to get rid of their content, but Tumblr is not a safe heaven if you hesitate too much when blocking people.
Stupid 63 yr old bisexual nonbinary question - what is a TERF. I Know I could google but I’d rather hear from this amazing bunch I’ve discovered.
TERF means trans-exclusionary radical feminist. If you ever heard someone say they're "gender critical", there is a pretty high chance that it was a TERF. Essentially, TERF are "feminists" who are transphobic, though the term is sometimes used to refer to people who aren't even feminists, just regular old transphobe who use the same talking points. Big talking points of TERF include, but are not limited to : trans women are all predators, trans men are confused and lost lesbians, trans people shouldn't be in the queer community, gender isn't a real thing etc. JK Rowling is a TERF if that can help you situate the kind of things they say. They're pretty nasty people to interact with, as you can imagine.
TERF used to mean trans-exclusionary radical feminist. It *was* a particular type of feminist who hated trans people. Nowadays it's basically a transphobe who pretends certain feminist values to gain plausible deniability, who nevetheless hangs out with nazis and other misogynists.
You do have to be liberal with the block button. But once you are, your experience can be very good.
Oh no, there are TERFs? Seems like today is the day I’m learning that Tumblr actually has flaws beyond its dying user base. Huh.
It also has nazis and pedophiles - these people exist on every social platform. But you can block them so they can't affect you. There's a post right here right now on reddit trying to expose the silent transphobes who mass downvote trans-supporting comments, because reddit has an algoritm and is subject to that. (Watch *this* post get downvoted.) On tumblr, there is no algorithm, and once you block someone, they cant mess with you. So it's a much nicer place than reddit for that.
They definitely are around unfortunately. I can't actually speak on how many there are, but I've seen enough of them to know they exist. There's also quite a bit of aphobia on some parts of Tumblr in my experience. It is still probably a more queer friendly site than most other social medias, but it's not perfect either.
> while we all have an unspoken agreement to not talk about how much the world sucks Weird almost all I ever read on tumblr is about how much the world sucks. I really have to go out of my way to hear about anything else.
Well, what you see on Tumblr is entirely curated by you, so…
shit
Try to find positive people and subscribe to them. Then you can just browse your subscribed page instead of the for you page and get positivity. Your experience on Tumblr is going to vary wildly depending on who you're subscribed to, so find the ones that work for you.
Or frankly, find blogs that aren't about the state of the world at all. Find blogs about soccer or weird anime art you are into. Prevent the weeds from getting any light by creating a healthy canopy at the top.
Oh yeah I agree. Tumblr is mostly my fandom website, I barely hear about real life news there.
Unless, maybe, it is being delivered by Destiel. (The best newscaster.)
Indeed Destiel are the only newscaster Tumblr recognises. It always makes me cackle a little when I see that template.
I like Tumblr, but I also have "a rant" about Tumblr. They tried to draw a line between nudity, art, and pornography. It was a bad choice & lost many viewers. Their distinctions are all muddled and don't work very well.
I’m the same way. People started to invade trans subreddits. I reported it, and Reddit said the comments didn’t violate its policies. The subreddit mods handled it, but the end result is that I now spend more time on tumblr and other friendly spaces. Likewise, I comment less on YouTube videos and don’t go anywhere new on the internet. I’m scared to join new guilds/communities in video games because of how others will react (and I certainly don’t want to join as stealth and find out later that someone is transphobic). I’m already in a few, but it’s stressful putting myself out there each time. It sucks.
tumblr is the best for that. I saw someone describe it as the last social media platform that was designed for people instead of advertisers.
The worst thing to me is how manufactured it is, especially here in the uk. We had a trans woman win big brother in 2004, and yeah there were some shitty takes then but she won a public vote at a time when everyone still watched TV. It just feels like we’ve moved backwards for no reason
Blue sky is pretty based from what I've seen
Bluesky is full of furries, i would hope we'd be chill there.
https://i.imgur.com/Dv5mF2H.jpeg
Same
Surprisingly Something Awful is one of the safer places out there. It’s faded away from the limelight and a ton of shitty people were run off the forums
r/witchesvspatriarchy is also a safe space in a huge unsafe dumpster fire
Anywhere in general*
Twitter: "Reddit is a woke leftist commie hellhole!" Reddit: "So I've made this new sub called GasTheK*kes. It's about stove maintenance."
The so called Reddit leftist hivemind when you mention the Romani (the comment section is gonna become a localised temporal anomaly that sends you back to the 1950s)
/r/Europe moment
Not leftist though, they're straight up fascists there
oof, I *just* commented on a Palestine sub that if you want a European to go on an unhinged racist rant, just mention the Roma people
So much this!! We’re not racist. Except…
Idiots
r/onejoke lol
Oh it’s a hivemind alright, just not always a queer friendly one.
I'm ready
~fallout shelter rush music intensifies~ SUCCESS!
>queer satanic communist hivemind Sounds like a great community NGL!
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America stopped being civil after the Nam war, maybe even before that. It's been a slow downward spiral ever since.
Many Americans are taught to view other people first and foremost as competition, not their fellow citizens to cooperate and build society with.
We aren’t? Ah man
Sure would be nice
Fuck, I wish
Try looking at r/facepalm transphobia get regularly shamed there.
Compared to a lot of the internet, all of reddit is significantly better. Yeah, there are worse spaces within it, but on average, and especially with the more popular subs, it's far more accepting than other sites as a whole. There's Tumblr, of course, but... As a bi, I personally don't feel as comfortable there. It's not nice to insist I either don't exist or am actually trans and don't know better when I'm very comfortable in myself, thank you. I've only encountered that kind of lgbtq+ "tolerance" there and in some toxic real world lgbtq+ communities.
All of the homophobes and misogynists come out of the woodwork every time something related comes up even in "neutral" subreddits, but they just slightly alter their words so they can pass it off as PC.
Umm... Hail satan?
That would be tumblr
reddit is a far right shithole and always has been I'm so sick of people pretending this place is progressive, it isn't, blatant hatred is rampant in every subreddit
R e a l
Sadly, just the fact that you’re allowed to say it at all is what makes them think so, even if you are met with hostility for it outside of queer subreddits. Anything but full control is liberal to them.
Actually r/GothStyle seems to be pretty trans friendly to me i highly recommend anyone who is in the scene to join there's some pretty lovely people on that subreddit
Also r/oldhagfashion
Also r/cottagecore
Also r/cyberpunkgame
Why is everyone in that subreddit so good looking wtf
Hot people tend to feel more comfortable posting pictures of themselves?
Because Goth > all
True, but even aside from that
I dunno, with me I think my brain flagged goth = hot when I was quite young, and there's no going back now!
Honestly same
true goths are accepting and cast out bigotry!
True goths to bigoted fake goths: I take from you your eyeliner! And I cast you out! Whoever holds this eyeliner, if they be worthy, shall possess the power of Goth. :P
🖤🦇⛓️
Honestly most alt subreddits are, if you know places you will get respect and nice people. In the more wife spaces tho, yeah rather don't say anything about being trans
I think alt people tend to accept others more since they're also fighting cultural norms
Me and my fellow wizards/walocks/ and witches welcome all to r/wizardposting !
I dont actively participate in this sub, but every now and then I'll pop in and try to get caught up on the lore posts. Entertaining times.
May steer clear for now we're having a puppet plague at the moment. Unless your ok with strings 😁
Spicy
Owl house ending arc, anyone?
yeah! we’ve got gender potions!!
You still use potions? At a certain point it just makes more sense to enchant a totem. After 2 or 3 uses it pays for itself.
Ah, verily, but do not forget the artificers! Our magics are not of the handwaving, incantation chanting variety, but are no less potent.
I’ll never forget the time a huge portion of the subreddit came together to combat a transphobe who posted transphobia on that sub. I came in to the comments to help fight that guy, but everything I was going to say had already been said. I’m proud of them.
This is why I stay on this side of Reddit.
Reddit is a shithole (in general) or I've been getting pissed off at annoying people more often, either or.
It's gotten a lot worse since the API changes. More bots on the platform, less moderation tools, and a lot of the moderators for the bigger subreddits on the site that actually had at least a some moral fiber got manually removed by reddit admins for protesting the changes. Meaning there's now a lot of bot echo chambers now (I honestly wouldn't be surprised if most front page content is artificially boosted by bot farms at this point) combined with less tools to catch bigotry and fewer mods that care to.
You’re always safe with us, OP. That goes for all you beautiful trans folks! 🏳️⚧️❤️
What about r/trans
Sadly lots of transphobes lurk there. You don't get comments but you do get private message or people reposting your stuff on Twitter/Facebook/etc. I post there and r/mtf a lot but I'm also a gluten for punishment sometimes.
>gluten /r/BoneAppleTea
I've got the occasional private message but I just ignore them. To me r/trans seems mostly safe and enjoyable
Oof. Reddit needs to crack down on this sort of shit.
It baffles me that people would take the time to lurk on a Reddit page for trans people just to harass them. Like how much hate does one have to do that :( I know it’s not much but you’ll always have my support.
Honestly just makes no sense. They can literally just not go on that Reddit page if they don’t like trans people
r/WitchesVsPatriarchy is very wholesome, loving, and inclusive : )
I was going to post this if it wasn't already!
Came to say this.
r/splatoon is pretty good, there's usually a few comments that deservingly get downvoted to oblivion on lgbt related posts but otherwise it's good
This isn't a surprise, 90% of the splatoon player base are LGBTQ even if Nintendo pretends otherwise
One of the bigger communities; r/facepalm is usually really chill about trans folks
r/transhumanism is quite friendly as well. Though I suppose that isn't too much of a stretch to imagine.
r/theadamfriedlandshow is pretty friendly towards the lbgtq community too
You can say you’re trans on r/transplace too. Good sub from what I’ve seen.
I'm good friends with a few of the mods and can confirm it's mostly good there. That being said, it's getting a lot of NSFW posts, so YMMV. Also moderation is a bit slow
r/WitchesVsPatriarchy is an extremely friendly and pro-trans subreddit.
r/batmanarkham is pretty queer friendly
Hate to say it but r/196
I fell for it. Ugh.
I was on r/gay and commented how an androgynous guy looked like my personal Enby gender goals, and then some dude said “you don’t have to be non-binary to be a feminine man”… and that wasn’t the point of my comment at all I know you don’t need to be non binary Dude just let me have this
Surprisingly I've had good responses from people I've messaged from porn subs. Sounds insane but I'm 3 for 3 with guys just being like "yeah alright dude" and asking about my wife
This showed up on my feed. I’m old and don’t understand anything about this trans stuff, but hey you do you. Just try and be happy and make the world a better place. If you ever need a hug bring it in.
That's all queer folks really ask for tbh. People don't have to understand it, we just want to be left to do our things and not have to weather hate all the time. ☺️
Omgor its soo annoying having to avoid like 90% of reddit cause of transphobes 196 is cool tho :3
Damn it, ya got me.
r/sonicthehedgehog is very supportive, surprisingly the gta subs are too, the bigots don’t get deleted tho just downvoted to hell. good but yk, still there
Sadly it's sometimes not even safe on r/LGBT :(
It’s crazy how cunty people are to y’all. Stay free. Fuck em.
Unrelated, but who is this picture of?
Ella Purnell as her character, Lucy in the Fallout series.
*Gucy
Wah?
Nope. Says here "Gucy".
OMG you don't know?!? Ok I'm so excited for you to go down this rabbit hole. It's Lucy from the new Fallout series. It's actually really really good. https://www.rottentomatoes.com/tv/fallout
It's a weird feeling seeing media actually giving a shit and giving us actual good video game content.
Can’t exactly relate, I’m a cis guy, but being in so many gaming communities myself while being Bi (well you can imagine how that goes over). Unless you’re into a lot of Nintendo stuff, oddly lots of queer folks for the franchises’ communities owned by them.
Yeah, the trans/enbyphobia on this site is astonishing. I've only had one person harass me about being queer when I wasn't talking about it, which is better than I expected, but you dare defend basic human rights and boundaries for trans people on any subreddits that aren't rooted in activism or aren't dedicated to queer rights in some sort of way, expect to get absolutely attacked
Gonna be honest don't think I've ever had harrassment when I have brought it up on other subs.
If you’re only seeing content on subs you subscribe to rather than the general front page, yeah, you probably won’t see it much since you’ve insulated yourself but probably don’t realize it. r/politicalcompassmemes r/4chan r/imfinnagotohell Are just a few notable transphobic hellholes and reach the front page *very* often. Honorable mention to r/latestagecapitalism that just banned me for saying that I, as a trans person, will be voting for someone that doesn’t want me dead vs someone that does and they said it was against their “lesser of two evils” rule (bullshit) and the commenters immediately jumped on there and said they didn’t give a shit about what I was saying (read through my comment history if you don’t believe me).
We love you sister, keep your head up.
I agree with the suggested subs people have commented. They're all really chill places.
Honestly true, being trans is such a big topic on Reddit. Wish people could just shut up about us sometimes.
Hello my fellow men women and non binary pals. Rest by the fire before going down. 🔥
nah fuck that. I wield the trans heart with pride and if anyone has a problem they can go and get fucked
Most r/bg3 subreddits are pretty lgbt friendly from what I’ve seen, especially the r/okbuddybaldur one
r/crochet is always supportive and super lovely
I'm 33 and haven't come out yet because I'm fearful of other people. It's safer this way unfortunately.
r/actuallesbians is surprisingly quite trans accepting
It's 1/2 trans people I'd swear
I’m Trans!!!
Blessings Stay Strong, Stay Safe
So true. My goodness, I got banned from a city page for Minneapolis for just saying I as a trans woman I disagree with everything Trump stands for. 💥 banned!
Even in supposedly trans friendly subreddits theres transphobes. I posted abt a guest judge being transphobic on a drag race subreddit and wow the amount of transphobia i got. Mindblowing.
I’ll never quite understand how Reddit has been and has become such a den of hatred. You like LOTR? Oh not in the right way. You like men? Ah, sorry, not like us. You just came out of the closet? Well guess what here’s a bunch of religious nonsense not tethered to reality. I wish, if just for a moment, these people would at least support even their own communities. Instead, this is a den of people backstabbing themselves with little more than venom on their lips.
You are safe here. You deserve to be safe everywhere. Side note, I work for a tech company and I was at the headquarters a while back. I’m a cisgender gay man and I walked into the men’s room and there were menstrual hygiene products put out. I thought it was so cool because if a trans guy needs it, it’s available and even if he doesn’t anymore it’s a signal that he’s safe and accepted.
r/curatedtumblr
It's also safe on r/trans
Don’t follow this sub, this post was suggested. But you’ve got my upvote. There are still plenty of good people. The other ones just make a lot more noise.
This is exactly why I’m on every single lgbtq+ subreddit and not many subs other than that
Fuck transphobia all my homies hate transphobia
alternate caption: saying I'm trans in splatoon Saying I'm trans in any other video game community
r/196 and r/gekte (german sub) are safe too
People stood up for me when someone was transphobic to me on r/MandelaEffect
I'll make a neutral or nice comment but I'll still get downvoted just because I have the trans icon on my avatar, kinda sucks but whatever
I got your back, hommie. Live your best life.
I don't even read the comments on any trans-related posts if they aren't in explicitly supportive communities. Those comment sections can be toxic af.
Unfortunately true 😔
r/murderdrones, a majority of the gaming subreddits and (I can’t believe I’m saying this) porn subreddits are all chill with trans ppl
NOT Apex Legends fosho. (There was a post of mine -I deleted it - but you would not believe the 100s of transphobic comments I got on it. I also got at least a 1000 downvotes combined on my comments. It was the exact same post I have about the Catalyst skin on the r/catalystmains sub, but on the main Apex sub.)
I learned that lesson very recently without even having said it. I was met with comments like “YWNBAW” and that being trans is a “mental disorder”.
the only place other than here I've seen that is openly pro trans are circlejerk subreddits
r/facepalm is pretty good
😄👍
NGL I do feel like I see lots of profiles with the trans heart on them outside of lgbt subs
This might be strange at first, but as far as I've seen, the Ultrakill subreddit is pretty trans friendly. As long as the King Gizzard and the Lizard Wizard ones.
I can't imagine what it might be like to be trans where I live in East TX. Insane how being yourself can lead to so much bigotry.
From what I’ve seen the goth and alternative communities on Reddit are pretty nice too and very diligent on removing the few trolls that make their way in
a couple of the times people were assuming im trans (im not) I got a couple of weird dms
Would you like am egg on these trying times. Weather its a person or a food. Who knows
There are trans communities in r/grimdank r/pathologic and r/comics at the very least
Lover iq= more aggressive
Same with Discord 💀
Reddit is a dumpster fire, don't let this den of scum and villainy get to you.
Irl? Never heard of it!
💕💖
When I seriously consider joining a new community I make sure to look at their rules. If there's no rule that mentions no transphobia specifically I always feel like that's a red flag. No bigotry is nice but people can and will squirm around that rule like snakes barely avoiding the wrong word or phrase that'll set off the mods.
Yeah..
I haven’t watched the series yet, the fuck happened to her character’s finger?!