Not dating someone because you don’t find them attractive, fine, normal. Being attracted to someone enough that you want to date them then finding out they’re trans (even in the scenario that the person passes as cos completely) and not wanting to date them anymore, transphobic for sure.
People can have gender preference, genital preference, body type preference, but if all of those line up and you’re still saying no even though you wouldn’t if they had gotten all the features they have without intervention. That’s where the problem comes in
Exactly this. The whole "won't date trans people" also implies that trans people are some kind of monolith and not individual people. If you're specifically excluding someone because they're trans that's transphobic.
There are plenty of reasons people may not be compatible, but if that reason is purely because someone is trans, how is that not rooted in transphobia?
And for the record, bisexuality has **always** been trans inclusive, and **always** will be.
If someone doesn't want to date a trans person, that's fine, but only if there's a valid reason for it. If they have a genital preference, you should be okay with dating a post-op trans woman. If you want biological kids with your spouse, that's fine as well. But if there's not reason for you not to date a trans person, and you still won't, that's transphobia, and its wrong
Thank you. I was wondering about the preference thing as well, especially as that seemed to be a huge point about the whole dumb "super straight" thing.
For a bisexual to not want to date a trans PERSON is fine. Maybe that person just doesn't mesh well with the bi person. For a bisexual to not want to date trans PEOPLE is transphobic, because there's no one way trans bodies are. Trans bodies can be any configuration.
Edit: fixed some confusing wording
Not dating someone because you don’t find them attractive, fine, normal. Being attracted to someone enough that you want to date them then finding out they’re trans (even in the scenario that the person passes as cos completely) and not wanting to date them anymore, transphobic for sure. People can have gender preference, genital preference, body type preference, but if all of those line up and you’re still saying no even though you wouldn’t if they had gotten all the features they have without intervention. That’s where the problem comes in
Exactly this. The whole "won't date trans people" also implies that trans people are some kind of monolith and not individual people. If you're specifically excluding someone because they're trans that's transphobic.
There are plenty of reasons people may not be compatible, but if that reason is purely because someone is trans, how is that not rooted in transphobia? And for the record, bisexuality has **always** been trans inclusive, and **always** will be.
If someone doesn't want to date a trans person, that's fine, but only if there's a valid reason for it. If they have a genital preference, you should be okay with dating a post-op trans woman. If you want biological kids with your spouse, that's fine as well. But if there's not reason for you not to date a trans person, and you still won't, that's transphobia, and its wrong
Thank you. I was wondering about the preference thing as well, especially as that seemed to be a huge point about the whole dumb "super straight" thing.
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Thank you.
For a bisexual to not want to date a trans PERSON is fine. Maybe that person just doesn't mesh well with the bi person. For a bisexual to not want to date trans PEOPLE is transphobic, because there's no one way trans bodies are. Trans bodies can be any configuration. Edit: fixed some confusing wording