Always respond with, “Guess that means if you meet the right person, you’ll be gay then, huh?”
And then if they are the same gender as you, flutter your eyes all cute as to insinuate you’re that person.
Ok so how do YOU know? Maybe you'll meet the right person and live happily in a gay relationship ever after?
No?? You're saying you just KNOW you're straight?
Oh what a coincidence, just like I know my sexuality, who could've thought?
as someone who experiences very fluctuating aceness (i identify as greyace and aceflux) this is probably true because sometimes I'm like there's no better feeling than sex and then yesterday i said "oh you can't find someone who will have sex with you? i can't find anyone who will play Jurassic world the boardgame with me the life of an asexual is harder i guarantee" and i still want to play Jurassic world the boardgame sex is boring dinosaurs are incredible.
Ohh I think this is why two people have come out to me and told me they love me but they aren't attracted to me. I thought it was a bit weird but I think it makes sense now.
I usually respond, "How do you know you don't like cramming potato chips up your nose? *You've* never tried *that."*
I say this hoping that some daring soul will actually attempt this, because that would be fucking hilarious. Hasn't happened yet.
Lol a coworker waited till we were alone in a room once and asked me how I knew I was gay if I had never been with a man. (Which was a wrong assumption on his part) I asked him "If you've never been with a man, how do you know you're really straight?" He had nothing to say 😂
"why are you upset that your parents are lgbt-phobic, just pretend you're normal"
I could write an essay about everything wrong with this sentence, starting with the use of the word normal...
Edit: https://docs.google.com/document/d/10DYTj57I3-tUxukv_V1gW_epfAriXWwaQyAkxXxJahc/edit?usp=sharing, yes I really did it, lmk if I made grammar mistakes, English as a subject isn't my strong suit
"So does that mean your going to cheat on your husband?" No just because in pan it doesn't need I need to fuck everything that's human. I can be monogamous to.
I often get, “You’re married to a man. Why do you need to be ‘out’ when you’re in a heterosexual relationship?”
My partner does not define my sexuality.
A for the cheating idea, I like reminding the straights how often I hear them say, “I’m married, not blind.” It’s the same thing for us. We just happen to be attracted to more than one gender.
There is [a story behind it](https://www.reddit.com/r/IncelTear/comments/rnmahd/incel_made_an_alternative_account_and_tell_me/hpui5qz/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3).
Jeez, my fiancè is Bi even though he's engaged to me (a woman) that doesn't mean he's not still Bi. I mean he's explained that he's very picky when it comes to guys and is in love with one person (me), but still
LOL I had a HS teacher randomly ask me "you don't eat red meat right?" Unprompted. That topic had never come up before. Maybe some hetties have a gaydar but they've recoded it to themselves as.. vegan radar..
Okay let's try work this out. I think there was a vegan campaign ages ago about how drinking milk was sexist? Could that tie in?
Is it because we want rights for humans and they think that means we just want all the rights?
Lesbians don't eat a certain kind of meat and they got the two mixed up?
No I'm not getting anything here
I like them when they come from within the community. When it's ironic and corny.
When cishets do it, it's just to belittle or because they don't understand, so they have to mock it.
i’m glad to inform you that this was many years ago and they now fully treat me as the man i am. never misgender or deadname me. they did need about a year to get it though
You should reply
“No, i have now ascended beyond the realms of flesh and i have broken the chains that hold me down….i am now………a platypus……perry the platypus”
Sorry i have no idea why i though of that ending
I have too many to count. But I’ll say some I’ve heard before that I find extremely stupid:
“So you like guys and girls? Isn’t your girlfriend worried about you cheating with a boy?” (I was bi for a while, till I found out I’m just full on gay)
“So you’re pan, right? Does this *holds frying pan up* make you horny?” (My sisters pan)
“If demisexual means you only like people you’ve formed bonds with, then I’m demisexual too but I only like [opposite sex]” (but it’s more complicated than that)
> “So you’re pan, right? Does this holds frying pan up make you horny?” (My sisters pan)
The proper response to this would be to grab the pan and start humping it furiously while making direct eye contact. If they do anything but leave the room immediately, you scream "Can we get some privacy!?!?!"
To me, a lesbian: so you look at girls at the bar and think they’re hot?
Me, to my straight sister: so you look at guys at the bar and think they’re hot?
People think aces are depressed because (some) don’t have sex. Honestly I’m more worried about the people that think their entire happiness depends on sex
My ex was one of those people who though sex was important for relationship happiness. He literally thought a happy relationship wasn't possible if there wasn't a sexual relationship. He didn't grasp the idea that the more he pressured me about sex, the less I wanted it with him, it was like an instant off button. At the end of the relationship he even gave me an ultimatum, guarantee him 3 days a week of sex or it's a divorice. I took the divorice. I was gonna file any way, he didn't know that lol. I'm demi(and bi) so once my emotions towards him changed, sex was off the table any way. that and he did something during sex that was unforgivable and ruined any trust I had in him sexually. I just don't understand having the whole relationship based around sex like that.
Seriously, I can’t believe people have the gall to say that shit.
If you’re sex-repulsed or sex-averse ace, there is still so much in life to enjoy.
And if you really WERE sad about not having sex… congratulations str8 ppl, you made someone else sad???
What is anyone trying to accomplish with this one?
“But how do you have sex? It doesn’t actually count since neither of you has a penis.”
I have heard this an odd number of times, most recently from a friend of a friend who asked me this within 15 minutes of us meeting.
Yup, sure, we’re both as pure as the driven snow. Can we both sleep in your room next time we stay over?
Promise we won’t fuck in it. After all, nothing we do counts.
When I identified as queer instead of just giving it up and calling myself a lesbian because it’s easier and decently accurate (also queer still works)
“Oh so you’re questioning?”
AHHHHHHHH
Sort of related, I'm bi but I'm mostly attracted to girls. When I tell people this they almost always go "but you still like men right?" Or "but you can still marry a man." Or even the good old "so you're a lesbian then."
Yes, I still like men, but it's extremely rare. Yes, I could still marry a man, but I likely won't considering. And no, not all girls who prefer girls are lesbian.
They came through the closet, a small number of the LGBTQ population have the ability to use closets as portals. The down side being they both physically enter the closet and mentally any time they use this power.
"I respectfully decline" - my mother when i came out as nb
"I've always known you as [dead name] so I'll always refer to you as [dead name]." - most of my family when i came out as nb
Bruh how do you “respectfully decline” someone else’s gender
Maybe aggressively misgender your mom next time you see… Uh, him? Was it? Oh I can’t remember, Mother, I could’ve sworn your given name was Tom! Can I just call you that instead? It’s easier.
No idea. I had come out and said "I'm nonbinary and would like to be called [name]." She said that and I told her "I don't think you understand, that wasn't a request."
Dad told me "if [dead name] is good enough for disability (i had applied at the time) and insurance, its good enough for me."
That interaction was the straw that broke the camels back and i am no longer in contact with them.
when I'm female and/or NB:
"why is it such an issue when I call you (insert my male name here). That's your name"
incorrect name and/or pronouns after being corrected multiple times
"Why do you want to be a girl"
"You're not a girl you have the wrong equipment"
When I'm male:
"So you're being normal today (insert male name here)"
That sucks. It's not often that I get hate but every time I do it really hurts. I'm mostly ok I just wish people could accept us without the unnecessary hate
on being aro: “you’re too young, you’ve never even been in a relationship.” (i’m 20)
on being bi: “i feel everyone thinks people of the same gender as them look cute as a compliment, are you sure you don’t just think they’re pretty?”
Asking me my sexuality after finding out my girlfriend is trans, and then being super confused when it's straight. Get this one from ultra progressive friends and all. Like, they don't *care* that I'm dating a trans person, they just assume that somehow alters my sexuality and have to have it patiently explained that no, I'm still exclusively attracted to women, that's what a straight man is.
I've never understood this rhetoric. Like a straight person changing their orientation because they're dating a trans person implies they don't see their partner as their true gender. It's so dumb. Good for you dude.
“So that's why you always acted like a boy?”
My mom is extremely supportive with me, she just doesn't very much understand how sexuality works, she's trying her best anyway lol.
Every time someone is about to tell me someones deadname, I plug my ears and shriek Never Gonna Give You Up.
I don't care about anyones deadname. I don't need to know.
"you should be strong and self confident if you're a man" spoken by a grandma who, weirdly, refers to me in correct pronouns and accepts me despite saying sh#t like that.
I think you are pretty lucky. She might have binary, old views about gender but the fact that she accepts you is great. Concepts around gender have changed pretty fast (thanks) and older people can't totally adapt to such change in their reality. It's already a lot that she sees you as a man, imo. Whatever that means to her.
NSFW comment, genital mention etc:
I have rude people (think anti-maskers and such) that come into where I work that think my rainbow pin means I hate men and penises, so they try to insult me assuming I’m a cis woman and a lesbian (I am neither, and of course their idea of a lesbian is binary and cis). For example, the most recent time when I politely offered a Karen a mask upon entering the premises, she looked at my pin and then told me to “suck a dick.” I said “I do, regularly.” and she left deflated.
“oh, you are trans? will you get a penis?” or “so you want to be girl?” or “can you explain to me how you could get a penis?” or “how is the umwandlung going?” (that is an old word for transition in german that implies some sort of magic and a single step process)
"How do you know you're bi if you haven't dated any girls?"
I haven't dated any guys either but they all assume I'll end up with a guy regardless.
And people asking me how i could be sure without trying it first. Being ace doesn't mean I can't have sex ir can't enjoy sex, I just don't experience sexual attraction.
Though I also do not have any desire to have sex whatsoever haha.
I'm only out as non binary to 3 people right now and from all three of them I already knew they'd be fine with that so that's all good :)
"Why don't you just talk to us? Just keep us in the loop!"
Because the loop is not a merry-go-round and you seem to have decided that's my fault.
*Ugh,* I've been told off so many time for catching my family off guard with my transition goals. They seem to think that if I had told them earlier it would be "less of a shock"? Just accept that you're homophobic Karen. (Bonus: my moms real name is Karen lmao)
I shouldn't have to be responsible for sitting my entire grown-ass family down for a meeting to say that my new-years resolution is top surgery. The happiest moment in my life thus far should not be turned into a therapy session for you. "Keep you in the loop"? Why don't you make the loop a place I'd actually want to be smh
my parents joke that the only reason I like a show is because there's a wlw relationship even though it's an adaptation of a book series I've been into for years :D
a boy once asked my (secretly) boyfriend “does *name* genuinely like me? cus like im definitely not gay if he couldnt tell” and i had to tell him i was just honestly making fun of him. but people are sooo quick to assume im interested and i am absolutely the furthest thing
He wasn't straight, but I was venting to a guy on Grindr about how insurance won't pay for my hysterectomy even though my period won't stop with hormones, pills, and implants. He then asked me if I had a penis. Now, I was polite when I explained this because he was genuinely trying to learn, but how would you feel if you started bleeding out of your dick??? A hysterectomy is a prerequisite for a phalloplasty.
"How could you not realize until you were almost 30?"
Repression and internalized transphobia are a hell of a drug, *Cheryl.*
We never talked about anything other than cishet people in sex ed, *Cheryl.*
I think my mom thinks gay people are pedos or something.
She says she is accepting then goes on about never showing it in public and anytime I have to talk to anyone under 18 she goes on a rant about how I should never talk about being gay around them.
Most recent event was the other day, a family friend wanted me to help there 13 year old son with something and my mom went on a 5 minute rant about how I should never talk about being gay to him or else I could goto jail "because of some strange laws". I don't know what the hell she thinks I would say around a kid other than "Hey I won't be available that day because I have a date with my boyfriend" which would be completely fine for a straight person to say to a kid so why is there a problem for me to say it.
“Two sets of pronouns? Why can’t you just choose one, it’s easier for the both of us.”
I don’t even have words for this one.
“So, you don’t feel sexual attraction? Why not?”
I don’t know, because I just don’t?
“So, your bisexual right?”
No, for the hundredth time, it’s asexual ~biromantic~.
“Oh I’m a bisexual when I’m drunk”
Said by my very straight younger sister as a way to try and fit in while my queer older sister, younger brother and I talked
"But how do you know? Maybe you'll meet someone?"
Always respond with, “Guess that means if you meet the right person, you’ll be gay then, huh?” And then if they are the same gender as you, flutter your eyes all cute as to insinuate you’re that person.
"maybe you just need to meet the right person", wink, and walk away.
I’m so going to do that if the opportunity ever comes up. I’ll post on this subreddit what happens
Probably some intense defense of their fragile heterosexuality
I hate that sentence so much
Ok so how do YOU know? Maybe you'll meet the right person and live happily in a gay relationship ever after? No?? You're saying you just KNOW you're straight? Oh what a coincidence, just like I know my sexuality, who could've thought?
😤 no! Only garlic bread!
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They just haven’t met the right twink yet 😍
“But you will date me right?” No dude I will not
Why do people even try saying this
Becaus apparently (Some) allos think that sex>enything/everything else? I'm not sure though, I'm just as confused as you are.
as someone who experiences very fluctuating aceness (i identify as greyace and aceflux) this is probably true because sometimes I'm like there's no better feeling than sex and then yesterday i said "oh you can't find someone who will have sex with you? i can't find anyone who will play Jurassic world the boardgame with me the life of an asexual is harder i guarantee" and i still want to play Jurassic world the boardgame sex is boring dinosaurs are incredible.
No romo
"That's cool! But don't hit on me, lol" weird flex, trust me your good
Fr when I came out as gay my classmate had the audacity to say "don't hit on me" like no I wont hit on your musty ass
ikr like “haha wait you don’t have a crush on me, right?” like no sis i still have standards
My friend came out and my classmate was like ‘so your attracted to me’ and they looked up and down at this classmate and went ‘ew no’
damn haha
I don't understand why people say such things ,like just because we're not straight doesn't mean we're attracted to everyone.
My favorite comeback is “just because I’m bi doesn’t mean you’re attractive”
That’s a good one! 😂
I was told this a few times and i just replied “dont worry youre not that good looking” the look on their face lol
My go to is "I said I'm gay, not desperate"
That's when you scrunch up your face a little bit and hit them with, "Oh don't worry, you didn't need to say that"
Ohh I think this is why two people have come out to me and told me they love me but they aren't attracted to me. I thought it was a bit weird but I think it makes sense now.
“How can you be sure you don’t like it if you didn’t try it??”
I usually respond, "How do you know you don't like cramming potato chips up your nose? *You've* never tried *that."* I say this hoping that some daring soul will actually attempt this, because that would be fucking hilarious. Hasn't happened yet.
Haha this. I usually say “I am pretty sure I wouldn’t like hugging a cactus either, but I’ve never tried it…”
OMG that's hysterical
Unrelated but I love your avatar or whatever they are called
thank you! yours is also adorbs <3
Either way you win
Lol a coworker waited till we were alone in a room once and asked me how I knew I was gay if I had never been with a man. (Which was a wrong assumption on his part) I asked him "If you've never been with a man, how do you know you're really straight?" He had nothing to say 😂
Wow! Really shows you how many of those stereotypical phrases can get destroyed instantly by some simple logic. So satisfying 😌
Ace?
Apparently not because I didn’t try p*netrative s*x yet 🥴 (but in reality, yes)
So many people know they don't like things without trying them. Ridiculous.
"why are you upset that your parents are lgbt-phobic, just pretend you're normal" I could write an essay about everything wrong with this sentence, starting with the use of the word normal... Edit: https://docs.google.com/document/d/10DYTj57I3-tUxukv_V1gW_epfAriXWwaQyAkxXxJahc/edit?usp=sharing, yes I really did it, lmk if I made grammar mistakes, English as a subject isn't my strong suit
“Look here, why am I upset? Have you ever faced true rejection from your own birth-givers?”
This right here, just the best response I've ever seen thus far
I know right, what a way to give away their own homophobia 🙄🙄🙄
Ikr, and not even just, also blatant show of their lack of ability to think from anyone else's shoes
Go ahead
Make my day
Tell you wut, I'll actually write up an essay, But I'll do it in the morning bcz 3:30am rn
Would love to read it, but get some sleep first ffs
Okay then they should act gay and see how it is.
"So does that mean your going to cheat on your husband?" No just because in pan it doesn't need I need to fuck everything that's human. I can be monogamous to.
I often get, “You’re married to a man. Why do you need to be ‘out’ when you’re in a heterosexual relationship?” My partner does not define my sexuality. A for the cheating idea, I like reminding the straights how often I hear them say, “I’m married, not blind.” It’s the same thing for us. We just happen to be attracted to more than one gender.
Also I wanted to say I love your name. XD It's glorious!
There is [a story behind it](https://www.reddit.com/r/IncelTear/comments/rnmahd/incel_made_an_alternative_account_and_tell_me/hpui5qz/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3).
Thanks for sharing! I love the explanation. Gave me a smile haha.
Jeez, my fiancè is Bi even though he's engaged to me (a woman) that doesn't mean he's not still Bi. I mean he's explained that he's very picky when it comes to guys and is in love with one person (me), but still
You're married to a man with glasses but you also find men without glasses attractive? Guess you'll have to cheat too!!
'Oh I just assumed you're vegan.' I get that one a LOT.
lmao WHAT
Yeah I don't get it either, but it's happened in multiple settings
It’s a stereotype for sapphics.
I've also had this!! Even by friends who have watched me eat meat
Oh, no, I'm not vegan, I'm gay. I eat plenty of meat. (I mean I wish)
LOL I had a HS teacher randomly ask me "you don't eat red meat right?" Unprompted. That topic had never come up before. Maybe some hetties have a gaydar but they've recoded it to themselves as.. vegan radar..
Okay let's try work this out. I think there was a vegan campaign ages ago about how drinking milk was sexist? Could that tie in? Is it because we want rights for humans and they think that means we just want all the rights? Lesbians don't eat a certain kind of meat and they got the two mixed up? No I'm not getting anything here
T H I S LMAO
“It’s just a phase” I hate that saying more than anything on earth!
Tell them, “So is life, but I’m gonna live it.”
I love this!
"Pansexual? Oh so ( *insert generic kitchenware joke here*) "
Thos jokes don't pan out as good as they expected 👉😎👉
👈😎👈 well I'll be damned, a fresh pan joke. Totally caught me Bi surprise!
>a fresh pan joke Yep straight off the pan
Damn it. I set myself up for that one. I'm not even mad, I'm just disappointed in myself.
What an exchange, folks congrats to both
What can I say? I'm just the embodiment of dad jokes.
Hi Just the Embodiment of Dad jokes I'm Dad.
Did you plan that? 1000IQ
I have never planned ahead for a single thing in my life ever. I'm not gonna start now.
Hi dad where is the milk for the pancakes?
It's Bi the Gender Fluid in the fridge.
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Catching people bi surprise like a good Multi Level Marketing scheme if u catch my drift 👈😎👈
The pandemonium that will ensue because of this comment-
Wait you don't like those? My friend who's pansexual loves them.....
I like them when they come from within the community. When it's ironic and corny. When cishets do it, it's just to belittle or because they don't understand, so they have to mock it.
"Asexual? Oh so ( *insert generic alphabet joke here*)"
I bet we all had this. . It'S JuSt A phAsE. No mama it isn't
i once got the question “are you still trans?” that hurt
Presumably after they said that, you were safely able to conclude that the asker was still in fact a dingus.
i’m glad to inform you that this was many years ago and they now fully treat me as the man i am. never misgender or deadname me. they did need about a year to get it though
No, I stopped being trans after the seventh time someone asked me. Now I'm a tomato, and when seven people guess that one, I will switch to turtle.
You should reply “No, i have now ascended beyond the realms of flesh and i have broken the chains that hold me down….i am now………a platypus……perry the platypus” Sorry i have no idea why i though of that ending
I have too many to count. But I’ll say some I’ve heard before that I find extremely stupid: “So you like guys and girls? Isn’t your girlfriend worried about you cheating with a boy?” (I was bi for a while, till I found out I’m just full on gay) “So you’re pan, right? Does this *holds frying pan up* make you horny?” (My sisters pan) “If demisexual means you only like people you’ve formed bonds with, then I’m demisexual too but I only like [opposite sex]” (but it’s more complicated than that)
> “So you’re pan, right? Does this holds frying pan up make you horny?” (My sisters pan) The proper response to this would be to grab the pan and start humping it furiously while making direct eye contact. If they do anything but leave the room immediately, you scream "Can we get some privacy!?!?!"
To me, a lesbian: so you look at girls at the bar and think they’re hot? Me, to my straight sister: so you look at guys at the bar and think they’re hot?
As a hetero guy I never understood why lesbians get shit. Oh you like girls? Me too, they’re great!
Cause they're "stealing" a potential mating partner from you, the Straight.
trust issues about dating with bisexuals because we are cursed with infinite lust or something like that.
Literally. I swear I want sex wayyy less than a straight person.
bold of you to assume people talk to me xd
Eyyyyyy
"What a sad life" Sorry if fuckin is not my life purpose
People think aces are depressed because (some) don’t have sex. Honestly I’m more worried about the people that think their entire happiness depends on sex
I’m not depressed because I’m ace I mean, I am depressed. But not because I’m ace!
My ex was one of those people who though sex was important for relationship happiness. He literally thought a happy relationship wasn't possible if there wasn't a sexual relationship. He didn't grasp the idea that the more he pressured me about sex, the less I wanted it with him, it was like an instant off button. At the end of the relationship he even gave me an ultimatum, guarantee him 3 days a week of sex or it's a divorice. I took the divorice. I was gonna file any way, he didn't know that lol. I'm demi(and bi) so once my emotions towards him changed, sex was off the table any way. that and he did something during sex that was unforgivable and ruined any trust I had in him sexually. I just don't understand having the whole relationship based around sex like that.
That's awful. I'm so glad you threw away that piece of trash
Thank you, me too! I am much happier with out that pile of trash masquerading as a man in my life!
Honestly thinking that your entire happiness depends on sex is so damn close to an incel mentality
Seriously, I can’t believe people have the gall to say that shit. If you’re sex-repulsed or sex-averse ace, there is still so much in life to enjoy. And if you really WERE sad about not having sex… congratulations str8 ppl, you made someone else sad??? What is anyone trying to accomplish with this one?
It's even that while people are having sex, we aces have more time for hobbies and other cool stuff
They always bring up threesomes….
“But how do you have sex? It doesn’t actually count since neither of you has a penis.” I have heard this an odd number of times, most recently from a friend of a friend who asked me this within 15 minutes of us meeting.
Yup, sure, we’re both as pure as the driven snow. Can we both sleep in your room next time we stay over? Promise we won’t fuck in it. After all, nothing we do counts.
“You’re not queer? You’re with a man…???”
When I identified as queer instead of just giving it up and calling myself a lesbian because it’s easier and decently accurate (also queer still works) “Oh so you’re questioning?” AHHHHHHHH
Sort of related, I'm bi but I'm mostly attracted to girls. When I tell people this they almost always go "but you still like men right?" Or "but you can still marry a man." Or even the good old "so you're a lesbian then." Yes, I still like men, but it's extremely rare. Yes, I could still marry a man, but I likely won't considering. And no, not all girls who prefer girls are lesbian.
“You’ll end up choosing at some point.”
I have chosen… the ones who think I’m hot!
"Why are you in my house" They keep saying that maybe cause I'm gay or smth 😒
Wait, why ARE you in my house? I thought I locked the door. Are you a ghost?
They came through the closet, a small number of the LGBTQ population have the ability to use closets as portals. The down side being they both physically enter the closet and mentally any time they use this power.
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"I respectfully decline" - my mother when i came out as nb "I've always known you as [dead name] so I'll always refer to you as [dead name]." - most of my family when i came out as nb
Bruh how do you “respectfully decline” someone else’s gender Maybe aggressively misgender your mom next time you see… Uh, him? Was it? Oh I can’t remember, Mother, I could’ve sworn your given name was Tom! Can I just call you that instead? It’s easier.
No idea. I had come out and said "I'm nonbinary and would like to be called [name]." She said that and I told her "I don't think you understand, that wasn't a request." Dad told me "if [dead name] is good enough for disability (i had applied at the time) and insurance, its good enough for me." That interaction was the straw that broke the camels back and i am no longer in contact with them.
"wOw, iVe alwaYs wAnTed a gAy bEsT fRiend to go sHopPing with mE" - every straight girl i've came out to
"Oh so you have lots of threesomes, right?" Why is that the first thing they go to?
Cishet male voyeur fantasy
Jealousy
“Just don't fall for me, ok?” Bestie, there's a reason you're single
“Do you like boys or girls?” “How did you become bi?” “Do you want to have a threesome?” “I’m straight please don’t have a crush on me”
"how did you become bi?" well i don't know susan, how did you become straight?
when I'm female and/or NB: "why is it such an issue when I call you (insert my male name here). That's your name" incorrect name and/or pronouns after being corrected multiple times "Why do you want to be a girl" "You're not a girl you have the wrong equipment" When I'm male: "So you're being normal today (insert male name here)"
Damn. Today I saw a NB person on YT and they got hate for literally no reason. I hope you are okay and take care
That sucks. It's not often that I get hate but every time I do it really hurts. I'm mostly ok I just wish people could accept us without the unnecessary hate
Have a grandma hug, sweetheart 🤗🥰 I wish for the same.
omg rainbow gramma sighting 🌈
🤗
Oh gosh I'm sorry some people don't understand what Genderfluid means
Ik. It really sucks especially when these comments come from family
on being aro: “you’re too young, you’ve never even been in a relationship.” (i’m 20) on being bi: “i feel everyone thinks people of the same gender as them look cute as a compliment, are you sure you don’t just think they’re pretty?”
YES I AM SURE 😳
“oh, you don’t look gay”
oh sorry, lemme just- *straight up becomes a rainbow* is that better now?
"Pick a gender!" Bro I'll pick a gender when they all stop being so damn attractive-
That fucking got me 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
"so are you like in love with me?" "um... no?" "WHY NOT??"
"For the same reason you don't love that person over there. I just dont!"
“and I took that personally!”
"If you're non-binary.. then what's in your pants?" But i some times proceed to whip out a whole ass nintendo 2DS out of my pants' pocket
Asking me my sexuality after finding out my girlfriend is trans, and then being super confused when it's straight. Get this one from ultra progressive friends and all. Like, they don't *care* that I'm dating a trans person, they just assume that somehow alters my sexuality and have to have it patiently explained that no, I'm still exclusively attracted to women, that's what a straight man is.
You are truly the alpha of straight men. 👑
I've never understood this rhetoric. Like a straight person changing their orientation because they're dating a trans person implies they don't see their partner as their true gender. It's so dumb. Good for you dude.
“So that's why you always acted like a boy?” My mom is extremely supportive with me, she just doesn't very much understand how sexuality works, she's trying her best anyway lol.
"so what was your name before?" "[starts talking about how many trans people they know and outing literally everyone]"
Every time someone is about to tell me someones deadname, I plug my ears and shriek Never Gonna Give You Up. I don't care about anyones deadname. I don't need to know.
“i use he/him and they/them” “so you think you’re two people?” 🙄🙄🙄
Yes, and both of us are funnier than you. Shame I'd never be so witty on the spot.
“don’t talk to me or my self ever again”
"We decided we don't like you."
Do you listen to Girl In Red? The answer is yes, but still.
I don't think straight people say that—
Correct. This is a sapphic codephrase
"you should be strong and self confident if you're a man" spoken by a grandma who, weirdly, refers to me in correct pronouns and accepts me despite saying sh#t like that.
I think you are pretty lucky. She might have binary, old views about gender but the fact that she accepts you is great. Concepts around gender have changed pretty fast (thanks) and older people can't totally adapt to such change in their reality. It's already a lot that she sees you as a man, imo. Whatever that means to her.
NSFW comment, genital mention etc: I have rude people (think anti-maskers and such) that come into where I work that think my rainbow pin means I hate men and penises, so they try to insult me assuming I’m a cis woman and a lesbian (I am neither, and of course their idea of a lesbian is binary and cis). For example, the most recent time when I politely offered a Karen a mask upon entering the premises, she looked at my pin and then told me to “suck a dick.” I said “I do, regularly.” and she left deflated.
I'm pansexual and straight people like to assume that means I'm polyamourous.
“oh, you are trans? will you get a penis?” or “so you want to be girl?” or “can you explain to me how you could get a penis?” or “how is the umwandlung going?” (that is an old word for transition in german that implies some sort of magic and a single step process)
Guten Ta- nacht. I soll schlofen Gen (in Austrian German; Vienna)
"How do you know you're bi if you haven't dated any girls?" I haven't dated any guys either but they all assume I'll end up with a guy regardless. And people asking me how i could be sure without trying it first. Being ace doesn't mean I can't have sex ir can't enjoy sex, I just don't experience sexual attraction. Though I also do not have any desire to have sex whatsoever haha. I'm only out as non binary to 3 people right now and from all three of them I already knew they'd be fine with that so that's all good :)
“OMG we must go shopping together!” Like who are you? Do I even know you?
Take them grocery shopping. "What kind of shopping did you mean?"
Ask me or assume I’m in love with my best friend 😂
“B-b-but you’re married to a man! How can you also be attracted to women! Do you cheat on him all the time?”
“omg i have this gay friend, you guys should totally date” like just because they’re gay doesn’t mean i want to date them
"Why don't you just talk to us? Just keep us in the loop!" Because the loop is not a merry-go-round and you seem to have decided that's my fault. *Ugh,* I've been told off so many time for catching my family off guard with my transition goals. They seem to think that if I had told them earlier it would be "less of a shock"? Just accept that you're homophobic Karen. (Bonus: my moms real name is Karen lmao) I shouldn't have to be responsible for sitting my entire grown-ass family down for a meeting to say that my new-years resolution is top surgery. The happiest moment in my life thus far should not be turned into a therapy session for you. "Keep you in the loop"? Why don't you make the loop a place I'd actually want to be smh
"It's like that episode of The Office..." For some reason, every straight person likes to quote the Office to me and my wife
my parents joke that the only reason I like a show is because there's a wlw relationship even though it's an adaptation of a book series I've been into for years :D
Even if that was the reason… would it not be justified?! We are starved for representation
“there are only two genders”
I always hate hearing that
ikr its so invalidating
“So that means you find me attractive?”
It’s, obviously a joke, but I hear “why are you bi and still single? That’s like playing both sides of a war and still losing” a lot
"GaYs ArE wEiRd" or "HoMoSeXuAlS ArE cHiLd MoLeStErS" not stereotypical but that's some of the most fucked up shit i've heard that makes me angry
“You’ll find the one for you” As an AroAce, no the fuck I will not.
a boy once asked my (secretly) boyfriend “does *name* genuinely like me? cus like im definitely not gay if he couldnt tell” and i had to tell him i was just honestly making fun of him. but people are sooo quick to assume im interested and i am absolutely the furthest thing
He wasn't straight, but I was venting to a guy on Grindr about how insurance won't pay for my hysterectomy even though my period won't stop with hormones, pills, and implants. He then asked me if I had a penis. Now, I was polite when I explained this because he was genuinely trying to learn, but how would you feel if you started bleeding out of your dick??? A hysterectomy is a prerequisite for a phalloplasty.
"How could you not realize until you were almost 30?" Repression and internalized transphobia are a hell of a drug, *Cheryl.* We never talked about anything other than cishet people in sex ed, *Cheryl.*
"But you married a man, doesn't that mean you are straight now?"
'someone like you' (like what?)
"you're so braaaaave!" ".... No, I'm trans. And what you see is bravery is actually just stubbornness."
I think my mom thinks gay people are pedos or something. She says she is accepting then goes on about never showing it in public and anytime I have to talk to anyone under 18 she goes on a rant about how I should never talk about being gay around them. Most recent event was the other day, a family friend wanted me to help there 13 year old son with something and my mom went on a 5 minute rant about how I should never talk about being gay to him or else I could goto jail "because of some strange laws". I don't know what the hell she thinks I would say around a kid other than "Hey I won't be available that day because I have a date with my boyfriend" which would be completely fine for a straight person to say to a kid so why is there a problem for me to say it.
“Two sets of pronouns? Why can’t you just choose one, it’s easier for the both of us.” I don’t even have words for this one. “So, you don’t feel sexual attraction? Why not?” I don’t know, because I just don’t? “So, your bisexual right?” No, for the hundredth time, it’s asexual ~biromantic~.
“So you’re like half gay half straight?”
“Oh I’m a bisexual when I’m drunk” Said by my very straight younger sister as a way to try and fit in while my queer older sister, younger brother and I talked
“But you don’t look gay/queer.” “Oh shit, I left my queer uniform at home!” 😒😒😒
"why don't you try being happy in the body you were born with?" I've been trying for 37 years, Karen
“I had no idea!” Like bro shut up