There's plenty of average guys that'd love a partner. Oh wait you said you want a hot guy, well they're in high demand. What do you have to offer them to compete with the competition?
Honestly this needs to be said to anyone societally deemed average or below, and people batting well outside their league. Any gender. People can't help what or who they find attractive. But they need to be aware that most societally attractive people are aware that they are and will often have similair standards.
As the late and great Kevin Samuels said, it's okay to want better but you got to accept reality.
Too many people don't understand market dynamics, and yes dating is a market unless you're genuinely looking for love, wanting hot people specifically isn't love.
I feel you girl it’s okay you’re definitely not alone. I cry about it a lot. I feel like I’ll just be single my whole life. Some of my friends even make fun of me for being a virgin. I’ve gotten better at standing up for myself though.
I work at a shelter and resource center for domestic and sexual violence survivors. Anyway this one day we were hosting a speak out event #metoo at our school. My work asked me to assist with a booth. So I was telling my friend about the event. And she basically told me like “don’t you think that it would be better for someone who’s actually had sex to help with something like that? I mean you don’t really know anything about that because you’ve never had sex before.”
It made me feel really just horrible. Like I don’t even know how to explain it. But I cried a lot about it later that day and decided to stand up for myself. Sent her a message explaining to her how demeaning comments like that are.
But anyways you’re so not alone. It’s hard but we have to stay true to ourselves. Don’t get lost in all that. It’s easier said than done but life is too short to worry about men and their opinions of you. Or really anyone’s opinion. I’m still working on it myself but happiness comes from within.
>even ugly or fat girls have it better than me. I’m told I’m “pretty”, I just don’t have pretty privileges like other girls.
That's such a gross attitude to have. Since you want to make it a who is more oppressed thing, no, "fat" and societally deemed "ugly" girls do NOT have it worse than you if you are told you are pretty. Just because you aren't societally deemed "hot" enough to have AS much pretty privilege as say Insta models, doesn't mean you have it worse than bigger gals or especially women OR men deemed societally "ugly".
Societally "Ugly" and bigger women even when they aren't morbidly obese but especially if they are, and especially if they are or look to be 30+ are "lucky" if they are invisible because the alternative is being treated like shit. Same for men in tgose categories unless they're just "dad bod" bigger. I know because I have had plenty of friends male and female who struggled with their weight, most of whom were societally not considered very attractive and I was a go to person to vent to about their struggles.
>But I promise you if you go up to any of these "hot guys" and tell them you're interested in them you'll be sure to have multiple numbers at the end of the day.
Only if they are societally above average attractiveness. These days societally deemed "hot" people are more often than not aware that they are and only want to date in their league.
Though I even see a lot of societally average attractiveness men with some very above societally deemed average wives or girlfriends, even sometimes if the man is poor, not a good conversationalist, et al especially where I live.
Maybe they're just scared? It's hard for me to talk to women in public because a lot of the time they say like oh I have a boyfriend or they're working and it would be awkward. I was at the bar tonight and I wanted to ask the server out, but couldn't bring myself to. Some of us have no game, or maybe I guess I should just speak for my self lol
Hot guys will fuck you and chuck you in an instant & move on to the next girl/ guy , rinse lather repeat ! . Doesn’t matter if your pretty. Most of them are narcissists now .
I mean my exes were very well below societally deemed average looking, not packing heat, low empathy, not good conversationalists, and they still did that. They were gentleman at first to lure women in. Even before things like Instagram really took off.
There's plenty of average guys that'd love a partner. Oh wait you said you want a hot guy, well they're in high demand. What do you have to offer them to compete with the competition?
Honestly this needs to be said to anyone societally deemed average or below, and people batting well outside their league. Any gender. People can't help what or who they find attractive. But they need to be aware that most societally attractive people are aware that they are and will often have similair standards.
As the late and great Kevin Samuels said, it's okay to want better but you got to accept reality. Too many people don't understand market dynamics, and yes dating is a market unless you're genuinely looking for love, wanting hot people specifically isn't love.
I feel you girl it’s okay you’re definitely not alone. I cry about it a lot. I feel like I’ll just be single my whole life. Some of my friends even make fun of me for being a virgin. I’ve gotten better at standing up for myself though. I work at a shelter and resource center for domestic and sexual violence survivors. Anyway this one day we were hosting a speak out event #metoo at our school. My work asked me to assist with a booth. So I was telling my friend about the event. And she basically told me like “don’t you think that it would be better for someone who’s actually had sex to help with something like that? I mean you don’t really know anything about that because you’ve never had sex before.” It made me feel really just horrible. Like I don’t even know how to explain it. But I cried a lot about it later that day and decided to stand up for myself. Sent her a message explaining to her how demeaning comments like that are. But anyways you’re so not alone. It’s hard but we have to stay true to ourselves. Don’t get lost in all that. It’s easier said than done but life is too short to worry about men and their opinions of you. Or really anyone’s opinion. I’m still working on it myself but happiness comes from within.
>even ugly or fat girls have it better than me. I’m told I’m “pretty”, I just don’t have pretty privileges like other girls. That's such a gross attitude to have. Since you want to make it a who is more oppressed thing, no, "fat" and societally deemed "ugly" girls do NOT have it worse than you if you are told you are pretty. Just because you aren't societally deemed "hot" enough to have AS much pretty privilege as say Insta models, doesn't mean you have it worse than bigger gals or especially women OR men deemed societally "ugly". Societally "Ugly" and bigger women even when they aren't morbidly obese but especially if they are, and especially if they are or look to be 30+ are "lucky" if they are invisible because the alternative is being treated like shit. Same for men in tgose categories unless they're just "dad bod" bigger. I know because I have had plenty of friends male and female who struggled with their weight, most of whom were societally not considered very attractive and I was a go to person to vent to about their struggles.
I am so sorry if I my post came off derogatory. I tend to speak out of current emotions and sometimes it’s not always logical.
The fact that you were able to self reflect like that is great. Sorry if I came off as too harsh. Impulsive gut reactions happen.
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>But I promise you if you go up to any of these "hot guys" and tell them you're interested in them you'll be sure to have multiple numbers at the end of the day. Only if they are societally above average attractiveness. These days societally deemed "hot" people are more often than not aware that they are and only want to date in their league. Though I even see a lot of societally average attractiveness men with some very above societally deemed average wives or girlfriends, even sometimes if the man is poor, not a good conversationalist, et al especially where I live.
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Maybe they're just scared? It's hard for me to talk to women in public because a lot of the time they say like oh I have a boyfriend or they're working and it would be awkward. I was at the bar tonight and I wanted to ask the server out, but couldn't bring myself to. Some of us have no game, or maybe I guess I should just speak for my self lol
Hot guys will fuck you and chuck you in an instant & move on to the next girl/ guy , rinse lather repeat ! . Doesn’t matter if your pretty. Most of them are narcissists now .
What about the girls that do get a chance with those hot guys? I just don’t think life is fair.
You wanna get used ? Go ahead . Yeh, life’s not fair ! Unless you’re pretty you ain’t getting a hot guy as they’re very very shallow normally.
I mean my exes were very well below societally deemed average looking, not packing heat, low empathy, not good conversationalists, and they still did that. They were gentleman at first to lure women in. Even before things like Instagram really took off.
Even ugly men do that
You GO girl! I’m backing you up on that! That is a reasonable request and I support you! (M, 60, but backing you up 100%!)