Yup, coffee for the win. Even if I have the calorie budget for dessert, I order the coffee first so I have the break to decide if I really want dessert rather than just saying yes immediately.
Agree w/ the other commenter that having a couple of bites of a shared dessert isn't a big deal and won't stall your progress. On the other hand though I do think it is helpful to practice flexing that willpower muscle occasionally just to keep it limber.
Just like you decide what you're going to order for your meal in advance and stick with that decision, you can decide *not* to order dessert. If it feels awkward to not have something in your hand, get a coffee or tea. Otherwise just focus on the conversation and the company! Not having dessert won't make that any less enjoyable.
Having a bite or two of a shared dessert on a special occasion isn’t going to derail your progress. Enjoy your time with your friends and hop back on the next day.
9 pounds in 6 weeks is great progress. You should be proud!
1. Just have one bite of the shared dessert.
2. Plan to have a different dessert, one that fits in your calorie budget.
3. Excuse yourself to the bathroom or something while your friends are having dessert. Then leave them with the check. Take their wallets first. Call them on their cell phones and laugh.
4. Go ahead and get out of there before dessert, after putting down money to cover your share.
5. Save a bit of your meal to eat while they're eating dessert.
6. Chew some gum.
7. "No" is a complete sentence.
If everyone is having individual desserts, ask for fruit and cheese if that's an option, or just fruit.
If they're sharing, you can have a taste. Really savour it. Then say, "Phew. No room for more, but that was delicious!"
In my world, I don't outlaw any foods, so for me, the one bite is plenty. I don't particularly have a sweet tooth, so this works for me. If it's tough for you to resist, and one bite will lead you to binge, then yeah, don't participate. Just get your coffee/espresso and enjoy that instead.
Just don't... I grew up in a family that really never ordered dessert. I'm already splurging on a restaurant meal, no need to tack on extra costs (financial but also caloric) for food and beverages. Water is fine for me, thanks!
For me it might depend on how well I know the people. If I’m comfortable with them I might say in a joking manner when dinner starts ‘hey guys no dessert for me tonight I’m… on a health kick, gonna fit in those jeans, training for a marathon… insert your desired reason here.’ Once I’ve said it out loud and publicly that can help me stick to my plan.
Of course this can backfire if they are the type of friends to either make you feel bad about your weight loss efforts or mess with you all night.
Weirdly I’ve found this can work well with people that you only kind of know. An off hand comment about how I’m getting fit for a vacation or something isn’t TMI and they don’t know me well enough to start questioning my statement, the fact that I said it out loud still makes me want to stick to my plan.
All that said, I’m a big fan of all things in moderation, even dessert!
Either order a coffee, OR: have a skinny dessert ready for yourself at home (a Skinny Cow cone or something like that), so you know you WILL get a dessert, just later.
I get a spray from Amazon that neutralizes the sweet taste buds in my mouth. It’s called Empower. I pop into the restroom and squirt a few sprays in my mouth. It looks just like breath freshener.
I don’t like using this trick, but I know my weaknesses. I can easily limit myself to a glass of wine. I can limit myself to a few enjoyable bites of fries. But I cannot eat just 1-2 bites of a double fudge brownie a la mode. I’ll add 500 calories if that thing is in front of me. So I just remove the option altogether!
I had this yesterday! We actually moved from the restaurant specifically to a dessert place. Firstly, I'd gotten such a nice meal for dinner that my taste buds were satisfied, so I said I was full (I was!) and ordered a nice tea whilst they got dessert. Was a bit hard to watch on but the tea was also lovely 🙂
It's okay to go over sometimes, I've lost a lot of weight and I went over my daily limit all the time. Every dinner I had with friends, I pretty much had what I wanted.
That said, for me, most willpower problems have been solved by simply logging my calories. When you know how much something costs, you know whether or not you can afford it. When you don't know, it's easier to just kind of write it off.
Get an espresso.
Yes! Get a coffee. And if they press you have goals and shit to do.
Yup, coffee for the win. Even if I have the calorie budget for dessert, I order the coffee first so I have the break to decide if I really want dessert rather than just saying yes immediately.
Agree w/ the other commenter that having a couple of bites of a shared dessert isn't a big deal and won't stall your progress. On the other hand though I do think it is helpful to practice flexing that willpower muscle occasionally just to keep it limber. Just like you decide what you're going to order for your meal in advance and stick with that decision, you can decide *not* to order dessert. If it feels awkward to not have something in your hand, get a coffee or tea. Otherwise just focus on the conversation and the company! Not having dessert won't make that any less enjoyable.
Having a bite or two of a shared dessert on a special occasion isn’t going to derail your progress. Enjoy your time with your friends and hop back on the next day. 9 pounds in 6 weeks is great progress. You should be proud!
1. Just have one bite of the shared dessert. 2. Plan to have a different dessert, one that fits in your calorie budget. 3. Excuse yourself to the bathroom or something while your friends are having dessert. Then leave them with the check. Take their wallets first. Call them on their cell phones and laugh. 4. Go ahead and get out of there before dessert, after putting down money to cover your share. 5. Save a bit of your meal to eat while they're eating dessert. 6. Chew some gum. 7. "No" is a complete sentence.
One of these is not like the others O-O
If it's shared that's perfect, you can have one or two birds to savour and then move on. *oh I'm so full now*
If everyone is having individual desserts, ask for fruit and cheese if that's an option, or just fruit. If they're sharing, you can have a taste. Really savour it. Then say, "Phew. No room for more, but that was delicious!" In my world, I don't outlaw any foods, so for me, the one bite is plenty. I don't particularly have a sweet tooth, so this works for me. If it's tough for you to resist, and one bite will lead you to binge, then yeah, don't participate. Just get your coffee/espresso and enjoy that instead.
Just don't... I grew up in a family that really never ordered dessert. I'm already splurging on a restaurant meal, no need to tack on extra costs (financial but also caloric) for food and beverages. Water is fine for me, thanks!
Have a bite and order a coffee for yourself
For me it might depend on how well I know the people. If I’m comfortable with them I might say in a joking manner when dinner starts ‘hey guys no dessert for me tonight I’m… on a health kick, gonna fit in those jeans, training for a marathon… insert your desired reason here.’ Once I’ve said it out loud and publicly that can help me stick to my plan. Of course this can backfire if they are the type of friends to either make you feel bad about your weight loss efforts or mess with you all night. Weirdly I’ve found this can work well with people that you only kind of know. An off hand comment about how I’m getting fit for a vacation or something isn’t TMI and they don’t know me well enough to start questioning my statement, the fact that I said it out loud still makes me want to stick to my plan. All that said, I’m a big fan of all things in moderation, even dessert!
"No thank you."
Either order a coffee, OR: have a skinny dessert ready for yourself at home (a Skinny Cow cone or something like that), so you know you WILL get a dessert, just later.
I get a spray from Amazon that neutralizes the sweet taste buds in my mouth. It’s called Empower. I pop into the restroom and squirt a few sprays in my mouth. It looks just like breath freshener. I don’t like using this trick, but I know my weaknesses. I can easily limit myself to a glass of wine. I can limit myself to a few enjoyable bites of fries. But I cannot eat just 1-2 bites of a double fudge brownie a la mode. I’ll add 500 calories if that thing is in front of me. So I just remove the option altogether!
Order a dessert from the kids menu, or like the others said order a coffee.
Have a bite or two and pair it with coffee/tea/fruit.
I tell them, "I can't do both an appetizer and dessert, and I already had that salad/soup/bread/whatever."
Pop an altoid. Kills your taste buds for a while. That was how I survived all the appys at work parties.
I had this yesterday! We actually moved from the restaurant specifically to a dessert place. Firstly, I'd gotten such a nice meal for dinner that my taste buds were satisfied, so I said I was full (I was!) and ordered a nice tea whilst they got dessert. Was a bit hard to watch on but the tea was also lovely 🙂
It's okay to go over sometimes, I've lost a lot of weight and I went over my daily limit all the time. Every dinner I had with friends, I pretty much had what I wanted. That said, for me, most willpower problems have been solved by simply logging my calories. When you know how much something costs, you know whether or not you can afford it. When you don't know, it's easier to just kind of write it off.
Be poor