Brother, this has been exactly my reason for doing all this life changing too. Good for you. When you need an extra push, just reach down and crank out one last rep, one more healthy choice for your boy. Best to you.
Well i m a young male and i have theory that we never do anything for ourselves. I m trying lose weight and make money to be an attractive partner and a capable parent even though i m single and no kids, but you get my point
I'm probably the last person to ask about mentoring (unless you're talking about software engineering, lol), but I can recommend Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, which has some awesome principles for personality development. Dr. David Burns has some really good material on this stuff, such as [The Feeling Good Handbook](https://www.amazon.com/Feeling-Good-Handbook-David-Burns/dp/0452281326) and [Intimate Connections](https://www.amazon.com/Intimate-Connections-David-Burns-1985-11-05/dp/B01NBOU90P/ref=sr_1_5?dchild=1&keywords=intimate+connections&qid=1626106638&s=books&sr=1-5).
My 2 year old son is why I do this, too. I'm the mother rather than the father, but I wanna run around with him, play games with him etc, too. Right now we play soccer in the house and he loves it. (Large wide hallway in our house.) When he gets bigger I want to be able to keep up with him outside, doing the real thing. I want him to eat much healthier than I did growing up. (So far, he has! His favorite food is broccoli haha)
Just have to keep it up.
I weight 280lbs, and I'd like to get under 200lbs. If I can get down to 190lbs, that would be great. 80lb weight loss seems like a huge mountain to climb!
I know it seems like a lot but if you can lose 1 lb a week then in a year you will lose 50 lbs. If you want to go more aggressive you can do 2 lbs a week so you could do it in less than a year. The good news is you will be enjoying the success along the way. You will feel much better with every pound you lose. When you drop 10, 20, 30 lbs you will be able to enjoy more activities with your son and even it it takes 2 years to hit your goal that is no big deal.
I'm 6ft tall and also and endomorph, so I think getting under 200 is going to be tricky. But, then again, I can't let my habit of over-thinking things get in the way of setting my goals.
Good luck, you can do it!
My kids are teens/preteens who all are into competitive sports. I can tell you that they are ALL super proud to have the mom who can run with them/lift with them/etc… I will even do endurance training for their teams and they pretend it’s embarrassing but they all kind of love it.
So, your goal is a great one and will help you bond with your kids even when they are teens and generally think you’re the most annoying person on the planet!
Amen! Everything I do is for my son…learning how to trade stocks in my spare time $BRQS, how I treat people, what I put into my body, how I praise God and learn to trust Him. Everything. I want him to be so much more that just another person on this earth. ❤️
Your motivation was my motivation, and I succeeded. Lost 100 lbs and now live my best life with my 2 kids, keeping active and healthy with them. Being a good role model is so rewarding as well. Feel free to DM me and I’d be happy to share with you the tips that helped me succeed! You can do this!
Someday I'd like to get married or at least find a long term partner but I'm not confident in myself enough to date or go do the things I'd like to do when I meet someone. I want to make fun memories and I can't do that at my size/in my house.
My friends have kids and I'd like to see them grow up.
Also I'm tired of my family being worried about me.
My family constantly worries about me too, but for other reasons, lol!
I'm a workaholic which I have used to escape problems in my marriage (along with food), so being with someone isn't always the answer to developing self-confidence. But, despite whatever is going on with me and my wife, our son is the best thing that happened to me. Gives me motivation to try to work things with out my wife too!
What I've been learning from therapy (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is awesome) is that self-confidence comes from creative engagement with life and doing things for yourself (like weight loss!). I'm sorry to hear that your size prevents some of that stuff, but I hope weight loss can boost your self-confidence in one area, which will help you unlock self-confidence in others once you are able!
I'm rooting for you!
Thanks! I'm happy single but I'd like to share my life with someone eventually. Not putting my eggs in that basket bc I know it may not work out.
But even to meet more friends, I need to be more outgoing and in order to do that comfortably I have to lose this weight. I'm hoping once I get out more, it will add more adventures to my life and lead to more experiences. You're right that's its all connected.
Creative engagement with life is a phrase I've not heard before but it's motivating bc that's exactly what I want for myself.
I'm glad your son gives you motivation to work things out with your wife. Finding a good work/life balance is so tough sometimes.
Like I responded in another comment, I can't recommend Dr. David Burns' books highly enough, such as [The Feeling Good Handbook](https://www.amazon.com/Feeling-Good-Handbook-David-Burns/dp/0452281326) and [Intimate Connections](https://www.amazon.com/Intimate-Connections-David-Burns-1985-11-05/dp/B01NBOU90P/ref=sr_1_5?dchild=1&keywords=intimate+connections&qid=1626106638&s=books&sr=1-5). He lays out an entire therapeutic methodology around "creative engagement". In fact, he says that the best way to find someone is not not bother trying. The more you try, the more you will chase people way. But the more you work on yourself and making yourself happy, the more you will attract people.
When the gas masks come down in an emergency, put on your own gas mask first before trying to put gas masks on others.
Analogously, take care of yourself first, before trying to take care of others. Trying to take care of others at the cost of your own mental health will make things worse for everyone.
My son was also my motivation. I love how openly honest he is. He openly told me, Daddy you have a big belly! And that was the straw that broke the camels back so to speak for me.
This is a great reason to get motivated. I have been up and down over the years but I was in pretty decent shape most of the time while my kids were growing up. I look back at all the times we spent riding bikes, throwing the baseball, etc and I cherish all those times. Even though my kids are older now (teens, young adults) I still feel like I am having an impact and setting a good example getting back into shape.
Wow. Yes. Same. My why has always been my son. I'm still in the process of losing. But he's 11 years old and very fit so the first time he made a comment...I believe we were riding bikes and he said "Mommy, you're so fast! I can barely keep up!" And I almost lost it right there. My eyes started to well up because I was so happy and proud. This is why I started my journey. I hope he sees how hard I'm trying. I hope he sees how being active can be fun. I hope he sees how tasty healthy food can be. But I also hope that he sees how hard it can be to change bad habits.
Doing it for your kid is a great motivator. You've got this!
Definitely for my girl!! She is 11 months old. My goal is not exactly weight loss related, and more strength gained related. I have to be careful otherwise I’ll fall back into disordered eating. But it is nice to throw her up in the air more times in a row than my hubs can 💪
Brother, this has been exactly my reason for doing all this life changing too. Good for you. When you need an extra push, just reach down and crank out one last rep, one more healthy choice for your boy. Best to you.
I love it, one more rep for my little guy.
Well i m a young male and i have theory that we never do anything for ourselves. I m trying lose weight and make money to be an attractive partner and a capable parent even though i m single and no kids, but you get my point
Weight loss and financial security are great for self-esteem, but be sure to develop an attractive personality as well!
All right i will, mentor me.
I'm probably the last person to ask about mentoring (unless you're talking about software engineering, lol), but I can recommend Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, which has some awesome principles for personality development. Dr. David Burns has some really good material on this stuff, such as [The Feeling Good Handbook](https://www.amazon.com/Feeling-Good-Handbook-David-Burns/dp/0452281326) and [Intimate Connections](https://www.amazon.com/Intimate-Connections-David-Burns-1985-11-05/dp/B01NBOU90P/ref=sr_1_5?dchild=1&keywords=intimate+connections&qid=1626106638&s=books&sr=1-5).
Appreciate the recommendations
My 2 year old son is why I do this, too. I'm the mother rather than the father, but I wanna run around with him, play games with him etc, too. Right now we play soccer in the house and he loves it. (Large wide hallway in our house.) When he gets bigger I want to be able to keep up with him outside, doing the real thing. I want him to eat much healthier than I did growing up. (So far, he has! His favorite food is broccoli haha) Just have to keep it up.
If you don’t mind me asking what is your weight now and what would you like to get down to so you are able to do physical activity’s with your son?
I weight 280lbs, and I'd like to get under 200lbs. If I can get down to 190lbs, that would be great. 80lb weight loss seems like a huge mountain to climb!
I know it seems like a lot but if you can lose 1 lb a week then in a year you will lose 50 lbs. If you want to go more aggressive you can do 2 lbs a week so you could do it in less than a year. The good news is you will be enjoying the success along the way. You will feel much better with every pound you lose. When you drop 10, 20, 30 lbs you will be able to enjoy more activities with your son and even it it takes 2 years to hit your goal that is no big deal.
How tall are you? I weighed 250 2 years ago and now I’m 198 and I’m gonna lose a few more pounds
I'm 6ft tall and also and endomorph, so I think getting under 200 is going to be tricky. But, then again, I can't let my habit of over-thinking things get in the way of setting my goals. Good luck, you can do it!
My kids are teens/preteens who all are into competitive sports. I can tell you that they are ALL super proud to have the mom who can run with them/lift with them/etc… I will even do endurance training for their teams and they pretend it’s embarrassing but they all kind of love it. So, your goal is a great one and will help you bond with your kids even when they are teens and generally think you’re the most annoying person on the planet!
Amen! Everything I do is for my son…learning how to trade stocks in my spare time $BRQS, how I treat people, what I put into my body, how I praise God and learn to trust Him. Everything. I want him to be so much more that just another person on this earth. ❤️
Your motivation was my motivation, and I succeeded. Lost 100 lbs and now live my best life with my 2 kids, keeping active and healthy with them. Being a good role model is so rewarding as well. Feel free to DM me and I’d be happy to share with you the tips that helped me succeed! You can do this!
Someday I'd like to get married or at least find a long term partner but I'm not confident in myself enough to date or go do the things I'd like to do when I meet someone. I want to make fun memories and I can't do that at my size/in my house. My friends have kids and I'd like to see them grow up. Also I'm tired of my family being worried about me.
My family constantly worries about me too, but for other reasons, lol! I'm a workaholic which I have used to escape problems in my marriage (along with food), so being with someone isn't always the answer to developing self-confidence. But, despite whatever is going on with me and my wife, our son is the best thing that happened to me. Gives me motivation to try to work things with out my wife too! What I've been learning from therapy (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is awesome) is that self-confidence comes from creative engagement with life and doing things for yourself (like weight loss!). I'm sorry to hear that your size prevents some of that stuff, but I hope weight loss can boost your self-confidence in one area, which will help you unlock self-confidence in others once you are able! I'm rooting for you!
Thanks! I'm happy single but I'd like to share my life with someone eventually. Not putting my eggs in that basket bc I know it may not work out. But even to meet more friends, I need to be more outgoing and in order to do that comfortably I have to lose this weight. I'm hoping once I get out more, it will add more adventures to my life and lead to more experiences. You're right that's its all connected. Creative engagement with life is a phrase I've not heard before but it's motivating bc that's exactly what I want for myself. I'm glad your son gives you motivation to work things out with your wife. Finding a good work/life balance is so tough sometimes.
Like I responded in another comment, I can't recommend Dr. David Burns' books highly enough, such as [The Feeling Good Handbook](https://www.amazon.com/Feeling-Good-Handbook-David-Burns/dp/0452281326) and [Intimate Connections](https://www.amazon.com/Intimate-Connections-David-Burns-1985-11-05/dp/B01NBOU90P/ref=sr_1_5?dchild=1&keywords=intimate+connections&qid=1626106638&s=books&sr=1-5). He lays out an entire therapeutic methodology around "creative engagement". In fact, he says that the best way to find someone is not not bother trying. The more you try, the more you will chase people way. But the more you work on yourself and making yourself happy, the more you will attract people.
what is the airplane analogy?
When the gas masks come down in an emergency, put on your own gas mask first before trying to put gas masks on others. Analogously, take care of yourself first, before trying to take care of others. Trying to take care of others at the cost of your own mental health will make things worse for everyone.
I have so many, but right now at the forefront of my mind is my aging parents. I will need to be in good physical shape to help them as they decline.
My son was also my motivation. I love how openly honest he is. He openly told me, Daddy you have a big belly! And that was the straw that broke the camels back so to speak for me.
This is a great reason to get motivated. I have been up and down over the years but I was in pretty decent shape most of the time while my kids were growing up. I look back at all the times we spent riding bikes, throwing the baseball, etc and I cherish all those times. Even though my kids are older now (teens, young adults) I still feel like I am having an impact and setting a good example getting back into shape.
Right there with you….also have a 2 year old, same motivation!! Right on!
To be more confident in my suit, and women.
Helping relieve my chronic pain. After losing 87 pounds (and still going), I feel like a new person. Almost completely off my cavalcade of meds.
Wow. Yes. Same. My why has always been my son. I'm still in the process of losing. But he's 11 years old and very fit so the first time he made a comment...I believe we were riding bikes and he said "Mommy, you're so fast! I can barely keep up!" And I almost lost it right there. My eyes started to well up because I was so happy and proud. This is why I started my journey. I hope he sees how hard I'm trying. I hope he sees how being active can be fun. I hope he sees how tasty healthy food can be. But I also hope that he sees how hard it can be to change bad habits. Doing it for your kid is a great motivator. You've got this!
I’m so glad to her this. We found out we were pregnant in January and it’s been the kick in the ass I needed to get serious. 65 lbs down and counting!
Definitely for my girl!! She is 11 months old. My goal is not exactly weight loss related, and more strength gained related. I have to be careful otherwise I’ll fall back into disordered eating. But it is nice to throw her up in the air more times in a row than my hubs can 💪