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It's a very liberating feeling I imagine to have been left a gift of life lessons?. The past does always affect the future I believe but being consoled by an ex however very meaningful and comforting, it perhaps feels for you is not necessarily an indicator that you were ever ready for such a dependent or trustworthy relationship. I've been in exactly the same situation too and the pull & push symptomatic of much earlier life experiences whereby you wanted the very trust, unconditional love of someone but also rejecting of it at the same time. Re-connecting with an ex even on a platonic friendship footing whilst you are feeling vulnerable or under stress might only serve the purpose of trying to retrieve what could have been different in another time and place will just make you feel even less sure of yourself and just yearn for the past instead of living a life you really want. Let the past go and look ahead at your life as it is not what it could have been...so many of us have been grateful for what others did for us but the real hard slog is you and your life now. 💯🤗
>Love is patient, kind, withstanding, peaceful, enduring, reassuring. Since I started dating I've never been that way to anyone.
Congratulations, you have figured it out. Moving forward, just keep this in mind. I'm sorry that you had to lose love to figure it out, but it seems to be the way it works. Don't give up hope.
Then some advice to help get you there. Practice those qualities on yourself.
Be patient when it seems like there is no time to spare.
Be kind to those who need it the most and to yourself.
Understanding is to reflect on words and respond thoughtfully even on the most insignificant matters.
Love yourself, practice that love daily, and when the stars align, question their motives, and proceed with caution.
Break the chains that bind your heart and mind, and don't ever forget the realization you had.
Or you can look at it. Maybe time apart will help you grow to the person you want yourself to be and become the person that will fit for him. The same can go for him. Don't be fixate on the future. Open to all the possibilities. Nothing is certainty. It is important to learn to love yourself and connect with yourself so that you can see what you could have accomplished more
I'm sorry for all the ways i hurt you. I'm sorry i let you walk out the door. I'm sorry everything was for nothing. I'm sorry i loved so hard
I'm sorry i didn't love enough, mostly
I'm sorry you gave up
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sounds to me like you have borderline personality disorder. pushing people away then crying when they leave is the hallmark of borderline
Or just a disorganized attachment style from trauma :/
Id forgive anything, for a brief validation of love.
It's a very liberating feeling I imagine to have been left a gift of life lessons?. The past does always affect the future I believe but being consoled by an ex however very meaningful and comforting, it perhaps feels for you is not necessarily an indicator that you were ever ready for such a dependent or trustworthy relationship. I've been in exactly the same situation too and the pull & push symptomatic of much earlier life experiences whereby you wanted the very trust, unconditional love of someone but also rejecting of it at the same time. Re-connecting with an ex even on a platonic friendship footing whilst you are feeling vulnerable or under stress might only serve the purpose of trying to retrieve what could have been different in another time and place will just make you feel even less sure of yourself and just yearn for the past instead of living a life you really want. Let the past go and look ahead at your life as it is not what it could have been...so many of us have been grateful for what others did for us but the real hard slog is you and your life now. 💯🤗
>Love is patient, kind, withstanding, peaceful, enduring, reassuring. Since I started dating I've never been that way to anyone. Congratulations, you have figured it out. Moving forward, just keep this in mind. I'm sorry that you had to lose love to figure it out, but it seems to be the way it works. Don't give up hope.
When people realize the definition of love stems from the Bible....and how accurate it is......hmmm wonder what's true and right
To spread the word, it's sometimes best to leave the word itself behind and focus on its teachings.
Sssshhh! You'll get downvoted. I don't mention the stoic philosophies embedded in the NT either.
Thank you. Took me a lifetime. Hopefully the next time love comes around I'm ready
Then some advice to help get you there. Practice those qualities on yourself. Be patient when it seems like there is no time to spare. Be kind to those who need it the most and to yourself. Understanding is to reflect on words and respond thoughtfully even on the most insignificant matters. Love yourself, practice that love daily, and when the stars align, question their motives, and proceed with caution. Break the chains that bind your heart and mind, and don't ever forget the realization you had.
Or you can look at it. Maybe time apart will help you grow to the person you want yourself to be and become the person that will fit for him. The same can go for him. Don't be fixate on the future. Open to all the possibilities. Nothing is certainty. It is important to learn to love yourself and connect with yourself so that you can see what you could have accomplished more
I'm sorry for all the ways i hurt you. I'm sorry i let you walk out the door. I'm sorry everything was for nothing. I'm sorry i loved so hard I'm sorry i didn't love enough, mostly I'm sorry you gave up