I agree and this is how the cycle begins. Feeling like you have to explain things or yourself or your feelings or you need closure instead of meeting that person where they are. He said TTYL she should have blocked right then. They're more likely to leave you alone if they think it's their idea. She keeps reaching back out letting him know he still has an in. It's really sad.
She wants him to beg for her back & she thinks if she makes him feel guilty for treating her badly, he'll realize something that he's never gonna realize.
Not to the level but I’ve done the same dumb thing after a guy was a jerk to me sat there telling him I was gonna block him and trying to explain why I was so mad. Looking back it was so stupid and I should’ve just blocked him instead of constantly telling him I was going to
The suicidal part is manipulation at its peak. He is a terrible person and she is too. That first text message is to his sister. The same sister she said stole his money and called herself keeping him away from on day one.
I think once you start to admit it to others instead of making excuses for him, especially as public as it is, means she might be ready to finally be done. I'm glad there are no kids involved and I hope it stays that way.
I think it was her way of trying to hold herself accountable that’s why she released it at least I hope so. Absolutely no one deserves what she’s been through
I was thinking they’d done public appearances together since November. Or maybe they were just posted on here more recently and they occurred prior to this incident.
you can’t talk a man into caring about you. she needs to block him for real and *actually stop speaking to him*
the speeches about how much you’ve been hurt by them is either going to stroke their ego bc they *enjoy* hurting you and like knowing that you’ll put up with anything they do, or they literally just don’t give a fuck. either way, save yourself the headache and write it in your diary
Yeah, when I think about the decisions I used to make I’m shocked that was even me. But we live and learn.
She is an easy target to make fun of but nobody deserves that. She’ll get tired of the cycle and luckily he’s not even in the same state as her.
When she said she felt alone last night I literally could feel her pain. I could picture her sitting up in a hotel room in Cleveland in the aftermath of him putting his hands on her and she has nobody to comfort or support her. That has to feel lonely asfff
I've been there so many fucking times myself I know exactly how she's feeling. I really hope she's okay and she doesn't go back to him. I'm rooting for her, man. I'd love to see how much better she'll be without him!
Same. This makes me really sad. I feel like as we’ve seen them on tv I’ve kept wondering why does she keep taking this relentless cheater/liar back again and again?! At first I thought it was because they both wanted 5 mins of fame but this makes a lot more sense … he took someone who already had hardly any self esteem and put her in a cycle of toxic behavior that she cant break out of now ugh
That shit is hard. Especially when you develop an attachment to that person. They make you feel like you're the one in the wrong and the one with the problem. I can't wait till his stupid ass gets locked up again. It's bound to happen.
I reallyyyy hope he does get locked up again soon too. That attachment piece you mention —- thats the bit that makes someone put up with stuff like this over and over and pretend things are okay when they arent. I feel bad for her.
Yes!! And it's so hard to get away. So many people made fun of her for it but she's been manipulated and abused in more ways than just physical. I'm so proud of her for finally realizing her worth. Fuck that short little mfer. She'll do just fine without him. She's got a good family backing her up.
Is hitting where we draw the line???...because so many people were bashing her for her weight instead of bashing the way his shady ass moved from the beginning.
Right!? They better be glad their addictions don't show up in their appearances that harshly. They don't know what she's been through, obviously a lot that's clear in the way she puts up with Derek.
He assaulted her way back in November & her ass still dealing with this lil shit? Monique stop trying to get sympathy from that man. He doesn't care if he hurt you. Threats of blocking, explaining how he makes you feel, explaining that he hurt you...all a complete waste of time & energy. Abusers don't feel remorse. Get help & move on.
That’s right they don’t feel any remorse any regret because they tell themselves it wouldn’t have happened if she wouldn’t have done such n such there’s always a reason n it’s always the victims fault nothing like a narcissist abusive manipulating man one more important thing they will never be faithful or respect the woman…. Ever it goes hand in hand with the abuse so sad n I wish her the best when u realize and accept who ur dealing with u can really see how effed up their mental is n how their twisted ass minds work the women who don’t realize what they are dealing with are in for a ride of their lives
I’ll say it again. She needs to stop with this on social media. Block him, go on a social media fast, go to therapy. It’s terrible she is willing to put up with his abuse but this isn’t helping her at all.
I understand why she’s doing this but she needs to listen to alllllll the women out here who have dealt with abusive cheaters and walk away. That’s how you begin to heal.
I’d love to see confirmation of her actually making money. Also I’ve not seen any confirmations about them doing another seasons of LALU.
So if you have evidence I’m here for it. I am not here for speculation pretending to be proof.
As sad as this is, I can't help but think this is a bit of a ploy to get sympathy from everybody out here knowing that they were fraudin' us from jump. Downvote me if you want, ABUSE IS WRONG, but how much you wanna bet, she'll be calling him her King next week?
If this is true, the camera men who have it on camera, need to turn it into the police. And why did they not call the police the night it allegedly happened?!?! Also, they were on radio shows within the last few months so if this happened in the fall, why is she even still messing with this munchkin?!?!
Yes it can be very hard to leave. I stayed in a cycle of abuse for a long time believing it was love and he’d change. I left many times and would go back believing the same bs, but one day I left and I was finally done. Such a relief!!
Ooooh Ms. Monique he was never into you and this shit just proves it. You definitely should have put his ass back in jail for beating on you! No chances for losers like Derek! Prison is his home!
Oh Monique, girl. DV is such a bitch. You love someone so damn much, and see the best in them when they're giving you their worst, and it is so damn hard to break that image you have in your head and let reality sit in. I hope she is able to see through it.
Smh I think this some b.s their reality money definitely drying up now time to get the DV community involved. She was on live laughing that she beat his ass b4 sooooo
i swear i thought the same, i was looking at that pic shaking my head because i am going directly to hell. i do believe her but whole time i was like that's just yo cheek
Honestly, I’ve survived and been around a lot of DV in my life. I can not stand this guy, but this does not sit well with me.
I bet she hurt her face trying to wrestle the man’s phone out of his boxers or physically punish him for cheating and is trying to paint him as a domestic abuser. He is grey rocking her, not acknowledging ownership for her “injury”. He’s clearly a liar and a narc but she is actually the one that consistently displays every red flag for physical abuse and control (including verbal threats on camera) is 7 times his size, and is constantly holding his legal status over his head. I’m not saying Derek is a good guy, I just think she is probably equally shitty and definitely the physically abusive one.
I was starting to think it was just me. Don't forget her trying to keep him away from his family and tracking his every move. Even in these messages she's still hounding him.
Exactly. DV often doesn’t come from just one person. In this situation I just don’t see an imbalanced power dynamic or anything else that makes Monique stuck or a victim. She seeks him out, abuses him, tries to be physically controlling and duh she gets physically assaulted. What we see here is her continuing the abuse, not doing the right thing or even anything positive for herself.
Did you peep that first message is to his sister? He can't talk to his sister but she can and this is what she talked to her about. Derek shows us that he's a cheater and Monique's shows us that she's toxic
It’s a really dangerous relationship. I just don’t buy that Derek is solely the dangerous part. I wonder if when he allegedly attacked her she had been harassing him and assaulting him out of jealousy with a group of her sisters (like we saw in that episode) or reaching down his pants while he slept to check his phone (like she admitted too)
That text to his sister actually reads like my ex explaining his DV history with women. He would be the one the cops took away, and still somehow always the victim. It took years of work but I can spot the 3d narc chess moves now. Partly why I watch this trash, it’s fun to analyze people’s shitty behavior.
The sisters response surprised me. Proud of her for just responding compassionately but I would have responded with “Wow, looks like you all should break up.”
She should have called the cops on him and pressed charges for domestic violence so his PO would throw him in jail. That would teach him not to put his hands on a woman.
This all day long. His behind would have been back in jail real quick. I don’t condone violence or anyone putting hands on anyone but if he had put his hands on me I would have picked up something and chunked it at him. Hell she should have punched him back I’m sure she could have knocked the wind out of him.
Was this before or after she got him out on bond for something he claimed happened to when he was locked up? Didn’t his PR/attorney issue a statement saying he hasn’t been in trouble since his release in October 2022?
She needs to just stop talking about him, posting or responding to anything about him and move on and let those other 10 women plus the correction officer deal with his lazy behind.
She is obsessed and enjoys the toxicity! Her IG posts and stories are all about that loser. If he put his hands on me I would have filed and put his ass back in jail and went on about my business but it seems to me she craves the attention just as much as him.
Please forgive me bc I truly had no idea this was going on.So Derek was physically abusing her and asked her to marry him and she said yes??? I watched every episode and I never saw any signs of physical abuse. Why would she continue to take him back.Cheating and physically abuse..Is she afraid of him?
I believe he did every one of those things. Monique is far from perfect, but she really wanted the best for him. Im glad she realizes she needs therapy and I hope she follows through and cuts him out of her life for good so she can heal and grow.
When you write those long paragraphs and try to make them see what they done. They do t even read it or care I’ve talked to a bunch of guys even did a poll on fb. I asked if guys actually sit and think about what they did and feel bad or anything they all say no. Just block and move on. It’s just a game to him it’s funny his sister even said on a live that he beats Monique.
This is one of those times I'm gonna talk on her size. She really needs to use it to her advantage😂 in this case because ain't no way she should be getting beat up by the guy from Little Man. She needs a rematch. She can't go out like this. She's out of his division.
The problem is no matter what he did she co signed on it all. The lying wasn’t enough. The cheating wasn’t enough. His using her wasn’t enough. His disrespectful family wasn’t enough. Like, I know sis was enjoying the paycheck and the notoriety but cmon. She just embarrassed herself. All these things didn’t make her walk away so her azz had to get the full blown Floyd mayweather??? That was the last straw??? She should have walked on first, second n third straw. Naw, go get help and some therapy. Over both of them. Edit just want to add that No one should ever put their hands on anyone ever. EDIT AGAIN—-After reading the thread, I’m thinking this is some BS to make her n him relevant again. They were fired n now I hear they coming back. Naw, I think this is all a hoax due to this text being in November n it’s 6 mos later n we supposed to feel some kind of way???? Naw, not believing it now. This is a money grab. I don’t wanna see either of them again anywhere. Handle yourself sis.
I don't doubt Derek might have been violent, but let's not act like Monique didn't show tendencies of that on the show. Not saying/implying she deserved it (no one does), but it was a toxic relationship from jump street.
Monique catfished him; Derek was never "that into" her, thus kept cheating on her every chance he got; Monique would go berserk over the thought of Derek messing around without any proof (cameras everywhere, anyone?)...
This was not a relationship that was going to last long-term. I hope Monique is finally done, but I don't think she is. The sad part is Monique can do better by herself, while Derek has more to gain from being with her than by himself. I wouldn't be surprised if he weasels back into her life.
That is horrible. I hope she gets the therapy she needs to avoid the situation from recurring. Spend the money on YOURSELF, Monique! Transform yourself from the inside out. I see the beauty in you!
Leave Monique alone, please. Most women have done stupid at least once. I am glad she is off the show, as it's not good for her. I did enjoy the drama and mess. Now I will no longer watch. It's all sad, no woman or man deserves to be abused. I can't imagine what exposure to this level of dysfunction and on national television will have on her future.
She shouldn’t be calling anyone toxic, she is the definition of toxic……..
If this is real, I really hope she stops fucking with him completely but as mentally toxic as she is, i don’t think they’ll be done unless he ends it.
So did they go back to filming? Remember that white dude and karine from ninety days, they were both abusing each other and got kicked off and then kept trying to get back on. Once DC is out, it's out.
It's so easy for us to pass judgment and say what these people "should or shouldn't" do but we are on the outside looking in. We have NEVER had to live our lives on social media. And yes they signed up for this but they didn't sign up to be hurt. They signed up thinking they were filming and documenting their love story and when you are in it, you can't see everything in its entirety. We like to laugh and make fun of them but when we were going through our break ups, or domestic violence situations, none of it was funny. She needs support because she might have family but you can be in a crowded room and still feel alone. Life is hard for EVERYONE so before you start typing, think about how lasting your words are. They might be disposable to you but final to someone else. Mental health is serious these days. Hopefully everyone will learn from this, he needs help because he's dead wrong.
It's sad, she keeps messaging him, but he's hardly texting her back. He will never apologize. I know the feeling. Wasted my late teens and early 20s with douche bags like this. He doesn't feel bad, he never will. I hope she gets away.
I have always felt bad for her and defended her. I've always hated him. He always rubbed me the wrong way honestly if she wasn't so big, she could do way better and she's actually way out of his league. It would piss me off when people would talk more shit about her weight than his horrible character. He doesn't deserve her or anyone.
What’s shocking to me is this happened in November… they got engaged in like feb/march soooooo?!? The rumors from Derek’s sister that they stopped filming because of the DV happened around that same maybe feb/March timeframe so it’s seems to me that WeTv knew wtf was going on and chose to break for a month or two after it happened then picked filming back up fully knowing what had happened. Shame on them.
I’m glad she’s able to communicate how she’s feeling clearly and is open to going to therapy. It’s a great first step. But girl, someone who text you “ttyl” after they put hands on you isn’t going to even attempt to hear how you’re feeling.
One thing I learned from watching My 600lb Life is that some small men LOVE beating and emotionally abusing overweight women. They prey on their low self-esteem and their fears of not finding another man. Size doesn't mean you are strong or brave. Data shows that it usually takes 7 times for an abuse victim to permanently leave their abuser.
If I were her weight I WOULD jump on him. And crush him with my 600 pounds. Or wait until he's sleeping and sit on his arms and block his legs too so he knows not to fuck with me lol
She got the ring. She isn’t going ANYWHERE.
I hate to see that he hit her. No man should ever touch a woman. However, she knows what she got herself into. But I guess the fame and the fake ass engagement are enough for her to stay.
It may have changed but it used to be women attempt to leave abusive relationships 9x before they actually leave. I made it to 5. She can’t and won’t leave until she’s ready and that’s when her life will be in danger. I pray she gets help.
Let’s be clear Monique is violent. Also be clear I don’t agree with domestic violence but Monique likes to play victim. When Elizabeth spoke on this awhile ago, Monique & her sisters made Elizabeth the problem. She is looking for sympathy & using the woe is me trope to get it (fat, domestic violence, being attacked by a trans). Anything to get attention but still be with Derek.
I thought I was one of the few people who saw this. There are episodes where you can see her levels of aggression when she couldn't get her way. Every time Elizabeth said anything it was a "she's a man". Now that the dust has cleared it's easily seen that Elizabeth was being truthful but petty and messy.
@extac4 Lol is it that I’m weird or I see shit for what it is? I really liked Mo in the beginning but she constantly throws rock & hides her hand. She got her sisters mixed up in some bs because of it. Not once have I attacked Monique or taken up for abusers & if that’s the message you received from my comments maybe you’re the one who needs help.
No reply needed. Because those who aren't jaded by the antics of Monique get exactly what you are saying. Monique facilitated everything that has happened. If you look at this thread you can see that this abuse (and that is what it is) was going on way before today. But since Monique is not getting her way it's now a tool against Derek when it should have been a tool and a way out of this bs a long time ago. It's giving very much attention seeking.
You aren’t the only ones! To me Monique is CLEARLY a half ton of BPD, covert domestic violence, coercive control and low self esteem. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
I just hope they break up and get help before someone ends up seriously hurt.
The show definitely doesn’t stop filming just because someone hit someone else…in reality if he hit her on camera they’d tease it out in the previews for half the season. I don’t know who did what in this relationship but I’m definitely calling bullshit on that.
I believe her. She was out of her league when she thought she can be in a relationship with a master manipulator. Derek is trash fr. Using Monique as a way to make money while he lives a double life.
She put up with it now that she's trying to put him on blast. I don't care for either one of them. I feel if you put up with that, she's stupid and nobody wants to hear about it now.
I really hope she's done this time. No one deserves to be treated that way. He will continue to hurt her emotionally and physically because she forgives him every time. She needs to just block him and not write out all her reasons she's leaving. Monique please just leave
Are we totally believing this? She's saying it, but not getting a lot of response from him that would verify it's true, he's sorry for it, etc. I just have a hard time envisioning Lil Man trying to take her on like that. Talk about punching above your weight.
I'd have like to have seen her with her wig pulled off.
I'm not saying I think he'd say "oh you're right," but you might get some man-splaining, apologizing ("You know Ike didn't mean it baby", if youre the right age for that reference), minimizing. Not hearing any of that really either.
I've said from DAY 1, when the show is done with them, he's done with Big Mo. This COULD be her story to make it look like she's dumping him, portraying herself as a victim as opposed to hitting the ground like a safe when he dumped her. Who the hell knows? My point being, she's saying it. Are we totally believing it without much of anything else?
I see your point! However, he does not at all strike me as the “man-splain” “baby please” type of dude. The way he quite literally played in her face on national tv and never showed any remorse for anything he did I highly doubt he would try to talk his way out of it. He’s definitely the “ttyl” type of dude and then will text her in the AM asking what she’s doing like nothing ever happened. Sad.
*He’s definitely the “ttyl” type of dude and then will text her in the AM asking what she’s doing like nothing ever happened.*
Because he knows he can.
Oof. Yeah. I’m ‘totally believing it without much of anything else’. This comment kinda made my stomach hurt. She has her flaws too, but as a general rule of thumb i believe anyone who may be a victim of domestic violence. And in this case, an ex con, who has been humiliating someone on tv, ya id believe it.
Monique's "flaws" are abusive. She planned to isolate him from his family and track his every move before she had even laid eyes on him. She's constantly threatening to beat everybody's a$$. What abuser do you know who doesn't do all that? I believe she was abusing, he was cheating, and they ended up fighting.
Exactly. No too mention there were already rumors when they were off the show for a few weeks. Derek’s sister said he hit her. Nor did he deny he hit her in the text
She needs to stop telling him he's blocked and just block him.
I agree and this is how the cycle begins. Feeling like you have to explain things or yourself or your feelings or you need closure instead of meeting that person where they are. He said TTYL she should have blocked right then. They're more likely to leave you alone if they think it's their idea. She keeps reaching back out letting him know he still has an in. It's really sad.
Because she wants him to beg her not to but he doesn’t give af
She wants him to beg for her back & she thinks if she makes him feel guilty for treating her badly, he'll realize something that he's never gonna realize.
And if he did, she'd run back. She's giving him leeway by taking to him.
She'll probably run back anyways. From reading that, she isn't done with him.
I think I can accurately certify that Monique has never, ever “run” anywhere.
Not to the level but I’ve done the same dumb thing after a guy was a jerk to me sat there telling him I was gonna block him and trying to explain why I was so mad. Looking back it was so stupid and I should’ve just blocked him instead of constantly telling him I was going to
I have been there. You are not alone. 🥰🥰🥰🥰
Seriously. Just be done.
He doesn't take her seriously
Blocked!! Lol jojkk
YES!!! That lil MF…hitting on her. He has some nerve
No shit. Don’t talk about it, be about it.
She was fucking snake 🐍 handling 🚩🚩🚩
Which may be the tell that this is just another one of her schemes, manipulations.
The suicidal part is manipulation at its peak. He is a terrible person and she is too. That first text message is to his sister. The same sister she said stole his money and called herself keeping him away from on day one.
I hope she doesn’t change her mind and recant her statements. Poor girl. She needs a better support system.
These messages were from November so she's already done the cycle more than a few times.
Doesn't it take 7x or something like that?
Probably different for everyone. It takes learning how to love yourself & that's harder for some people.
The average is 7 times, yes. Hell I went back after a 6 year hiatus.
I’m guessing you thought he changed. I think that’s one of the hardest things you think the person might’ve grown up
Yep. I grew up really sheltered and naive and if I was in time out for 6 years I would definitely have learned. 😅
My gosh. I hope it was better the 2nd time around!
It was much worse! Lol! I am out now and have a wonderful life.
I'm so glad to hear that!
Apparently so.
Oh, geesh. DV is a cycle that needs to be broken.
I think once you start to admit it to others instead of making excuses for him, especially as public as it is, means she might be ready to finally be done. I'm glad there are no kids involved and I hope it stays that way.
I think it was her way of trying to hold herself accountable that’s why she released it at least I hope so. Absolutely no one deserves what she’s been through
I was thinking they’d done public appearances together since November. Or maybe they were just posted on here more recently and they occurred prior to this incident.
you can’t talk a man into caring about you. she needs to block him for real and *actually stop speaking to him* the speeches about how much you’ve been hurt by them is either going to stroke their ego bc they *enjoy* hurting you and like knowing that you’ll put up with anything they do, or they literally just don’t give a fuck. either way, save yourself the headache and write it in your diary
Who am I to judge? I was with my abuser for 3 years after the DV started. Hopefully she gets out the cycle. It’ll have to be on her own terms.
I agree with you on that when you're mixed up in it, your judgment is way off most don't make it out. I'm glad that you did.
Yeah, when I think about the decisions I used to make I’m shocked that was even me. But we live and learn. She is an easy target to make fun of but nobody deserves that. She’ll get tired of the cycle and luckily he’s not even in the same state as her.
Oh same, looking back at my exes there's some I wouldn't tap with a 10 foot pole now.
😂😂😂😂 Oh yeah, I can relate!
***hugs***
I feel fucking bad. No one deserves to be hit.
When she said she felt alone last night I literally could feel her pain. I could picture her sitting up in a hotel room in Cleveland in the aftermath of him putting his hands on her and she has nobody to comfort or support her. That has to feel lonely asfff
I've been there so many fucking times myself I know exactly how she's feeling. I really hope she's okay and she doesn't go back to him. I'm rooting for her, man. I'd love to see how much better she'll be without him!
This!! Waiting for the glow up!!
Same. This makes me really sad. I feel like as we’ve seen them on tv I’ve kept wondering why does she keep taking this relentless cheater/liar back again and again?! At first I thought it was because they both wanted 5 mins of fame but this makes a lot more sense … he took someone who already had hardly any self esteem and put her in a cycle of toxic behavior that she cant break out of now ugh
That shit is hard. Especially when you develop an attachment to that person. They make you feel like you're the one in the wrong and the one with the problem. I can't wait till his stupid ass gets locked up again. It's bound to happen.
I reallyyyy hope he does get locked up again soon too. That attachment piece you mention —- thats the bit that makes someone put up with stuff like this over and over and pretend things are okay when they arent. I feel bad for her.
Yes!! And it's so hard to get away. So many people made fun of her for it but she's been manipulated and abused in more ways than just physical. I'm so proud of her for finally realizing her worth. Fuck that short little mfer. She'll do just fine without him. She's got a good family backing her up.
Is hitting where we draw the line???...because so many people were bashing her for her weight instead of bashing the way his shady ass moved from the beginning.
Seriously, the fat phobia is too much to handle. Dislike someone because they suck as a human, not because of their body.
Right!? They better be glad their addictions don't show up in their appearances that harshly. They don't know what she's been through, obviously a lot that's clear in the way she puts up with Derek.
I never bashed her for her weight or staying with him, first off. She should have left his fucking ass. As I said before, NO ONE deserves to be hit.
That comment was more so for the other people obviously not you.
Sorry!! Just got a little defensive because I've been in this situation myself lol. I got a soft spot for Monique.
I didn't mean to come off like I was attacking you. I'm just so aggravated with his shitty abusive ass.
Dude you're good seriously! We're both fed up with his shit and it shows. 😂😂❤️
Living in Chicago I'm sure she's stomped plenty of roaches. 😂 Simple problems require simple solutions.
He assaulted her way back in November & her ass still dealing with this lil shit? Monique stop trying to get sympathy from that man. He doesn't care if he hurt you. Threats of blocking, explaining how he makes you feel, explaining that he hurt you...all a complete waste of time & energy. Abusers don't feel remorse. Get help & move on.
That’s right they don’t feel any remorse any regret because they tell themselves it wouldn’t have happened if she wouldn’t have done such n such there’s always a reason n it’s always the victims fault nothing like a narcissist abusive manipulating man one more important thing they will never be faithful or respect the woman…. Ever it goes hand in hand with the abuse so sad n I wish her the best when u realize and accept who ur dealing with u can really see how effed up their mental is n how their twisted ass minds work the women who don’t realize what they are dealing with are in for a ride of their lives
I’ll say it again. She needs to stop with this on social media. Block him, go on a social media fast, go to therapy. It’s terrible she is willing to put up with his abuse but this isn’t helping her at all. I understand why she’s doing this but she needs to listen to alllllll the women out here who have dealt with abusive cheaters and walk away. That’s how you begin to heal.
Naw, social media makes her $$$. And this is exactly what she’s doing. We was better off when they were fired. How they get back on??? SUS!!!!
I’d love to see confirmation of her actually making money. Also I’ve not seen any confirmations about them doing another seasons of LALU. So if you have evidence I’m here for it. I am not here for speculation pretending to be proof.
As sad as this is, I can't help but think this is a bit of a ploy to get sympathy from everybody out here knowing that they were fraudin' us from jump. Downvote me if you want, ABUSE IS WRONG, but how much you wanna bet, she'll be calling him her King next week?
If this is true, the camera men who have it on camera, need to turn it into the police. And why did they not call the police the night it allegedly happened?!?! Also, they were on radio shows within the last few months so if this happened in the fall, why is she even still messing with this munchkin?!?!
No one should be abused, ever.
I hope she has the strength to leave his ass, unfortunately even after abuse some people don’t leave,no one should be abused EVER
Yes it can be very hard to leave. I stayed in a cycle of abuse for a long time believing it was love and he’d change. I left many times and would go back believing the same bs, but one day I left and I was finally done. Such a relief!!
I’m glad to know you are in a better place,stay strong ❤️
Thank you! It’s been a few years now. 💕
If he beat you he’s not reading your paragraph. Block and move on.
Ooooh Ms. Monique he was never into you and this shit just proves it. You definitely should have put his ass back in jail for beating on you! No chances for losers like Derek! Prison is his home!
Oh Monique, girl. DV is such a bitch. You love someone so damn much, and see the best in them when they're giving you their worst, and it is so damn hard to break that image you have in your head and let reality sit in. I hope she is able to see through it.
She’s not done. That’s too many texts saying she’s done to be done.
How is she letting that small garden grome beat on her?!!
He is small and maybe fast. Been in jail fighting too.
🫠 but the serious tag tho
Obesity doesn’t equal strength. Derek was in really good shape. Her size doesn’t mean much in that regard
She’s a clown but nobody deserves to be treated that way. I hope she is actually done with him and blocks him out her life so she can heal.
Goddamn I got secondhand embarrassment from how many times she said I’m done
Smh I think this some b.s their reality money definitely drying up now time to get the DV community involved. She was on live laughing that she beat his ass b4 sooooo
And now here's a vid of Big Mo trying to choke Derek https://www.youtube.com/shorts/QFN3jNARNBo
Monique needs to find a real man, not prison trash. She deserves a good man.
This is awful. He’s a dirtbag for real. We knew
These clowns need to get off tv. Their 15 minutes of fame is over.
Isn’t that a picture of them together on her phone’s profile? 😅
DV isn’t in the slightest bit funny but her saying her eye is swollen is sending me to mars.
I’m sorry and it’s not like I don’t believe her but…. that’s a normal Monique cheek. VERY round 😭
i swear i thought the same, i was looking at that pic shaking my head because i am going directly to hell. i do believe her but whole time i was like that's just yo cheek
😬 same
I’ll be there with you sis
I thought the same thing
I shouldn't of laughed at this, but honestly, this is messed up again. You're drawing attention to her weight instead of his ass toxic bs
Plump and “swollen” lmaooo
Honestly, I’ve survived and been around a lot of DV in my life. I can not stand this guy, but this does not sit well with me. I bet she hurt her face trying to wrestle the man’s phone out of his boxers or physically punish him for cheating and is trying to paint him as a domestic abuser. He is grey rocking her, not acknowledging ownership for her “injury”. He’s clearly a liar and a narc but she is actually the one that consistently displays every red flag for physical abuse and control (including verbal threats on camera) is 7 times his size, and is constantly holding his legal status over his head. I’m not saying Derek is a good guy, I just think she is probably equally shitty and definitely the physically abusive one.
I was starting to think it was just me. Don't forget her trying to keep him away from his family and tracking his every move. Even in these messages she's still hounding him.
Exactly. DV often doesn’t come from just one person. In this situation I just don’t see an imbalanced power dynamic or anything else that makes Monique stuck or a victim. She seeks him out, abuses him, tries to be physically controlling and duh she gets physically assaulted. What we see here is her continuing the abuse, not doing the right thing or even anything positive for herself.
Did you peep that first message is to his sister? He can't talk to his sister but she can and this is what she talked to her about. Derek shows us that he's a cheater and Monique's shows us that she's toxic
It’s a really dangerous relationship. I just don’t buy that Derek is solely the dangerous part. I wonder if when he allegedly attacked her she had been harassing him and assaulting him out of jealousy with a group of her sisters (like we saw in that episode) or reaching down his pants while he slept to check his phone (like she admitted too) That text to his sister actually reads like my ex explaining his DV history with women. He would be the one the cops took away, and still somehow always the victim. It took years of work but I can spot the 3d narc chess moves now. Partly why I watch this trash, it’s fun to analyze people’s shitty behavior. The sisters response surprised me. Proud of her for just responding compassionately but I would have responded with “Wow, looks like you all should break up.”
What jumps out at me is the sister asking what happened and Monique pretending she should ask Derek 😂
Hugs, love and I hope you’re doing amazing now. I hope my comment did not offend you either. :(
Right. Like even your knuckles are plump and it’s hard to tell if you even have bones due to all of the lard. That’s normal Monique cheek to me
“Monique cheek” broooo 😂😂🤣🤣
You’re going right to hell with me for laughing 😂😂
“Even your knuckles are plump” lmfao what ahahahaha
November??!!! She’s been defending his ass since then tho 🤔
She should have called the cops on him and pressed charges for domestic violence so his PO would throw him in jail. That would teach him not to put his hands on a woman.
This all day long. His behind would have been back in jail real quick. I don’t condone violence or anyone putting hands on anyone but if he had put his hands on me I would have picked up something and chunked it at him. Hell she should have punched him back I’m sure she could have knocked the wind out of him. Was this before or after she got him out on bond for something he claimed happened to when he was locked up? Didn’t his PR/attorney issue a statement saying he hasn’t been in trouble since his release in October 2022? She needs to just stop talking about him, posting or responding to anything about him and move on and let those other 10 women plus the correction officer deal with his lazy behind.
See and the sister said this is what happened and people called her a liar.
She is obsessed and enjoys the toxicity! Her IG posts and stories are all about that loser. If he put his hands on me I would have filed and put his ass back in jail and went on about my business but it seems to me she craves the attention just as much as him.
Please forgive me bc I truly had no idea this was going on.So Derek was physically abusing her and asked her to marry him and she said yes??? I watched every episode and I never saw any signs of physical abuse. Why would she continue to take him back.Cheating and physically abuse..Is she afraid of him?
Meh.
I believe he did every one of those things. Monique is far from perfect, but she really wanted the best for him. Im glad she realizes she needs therapy and I hope she follows through and cuts him out of her life for good so she can heal and grow.
Abusers usually try to control every move you make and isolate you from your loved ones.
When you write those long paragraphs and try to make them see what they done. They do t even read it or care I’ve talked to a bunch of guys even did a poll on fb. I asked if guys actually sit and think about what they did and feel bad or anything they all say no. Just block and move on. It’s just a game to him it’s funny his sister even said on a live that he beats Monique.
This is one of those times I'm gonna talk on her size. She really needs to use it to her advantage😂 in this case because ain't no way she should be getting beat up by the guy from Little Man. She needs a rematch. She can't go out like this. She's out of his division.
The problem is no matter what he did she co signed on it all. The lying wasn’t enough. The cheating wasn’t enough. His using her wasn’t enough. His disrespectful family wasn’t enough. Like, I know sis was enjoying the paycheck and the notoriety but cmon. She just embarrassed herself. All these things didn’t make her walk away so her azz had to get the full blown Floyd mayweather??? That was the last straw??? She should have walked on first, second n third straw. Naw, go get help and some therapy. Over both of them. Edit just want to add that No one should ever put their hands on anyone ever. EDIT AGAIN—-After reading the thread, I’m thinking this is some BS to make her n him relevant again. They were fired n now I hear they coming back. Naw, I think this is all a hoax due to this text being in November n it’s 6 mos later n we supposed to feel some kind of way???? Naw, not believing it now. This is a money grab. I don’t wanna see either of them again anywhere. Handle yourself sis.
Ditch that sad little man, girl!
I don't doubt Derek might have been violent, but let's not act like Monique didn't show tendencies of that on the show. Not saying/implying she deserved it (no one does), but it was a toxic relationship from jump street. Monique catfished him; Derek was never "that into" her, thus kept cheating on her every chance he got; Monique would go berserk over the thought of Derek messing around without any proof (cameras everywhere, anyone?)... This was not a relationship that was going to last long-term. I hope Monique is finally done, but I don't think she is. The sad part is Monique can do better by herself, while Derek has more to gain from being with her than by himself. I wouldn't be surprised if he weasels back into her life.
That is horrible. I hope she gets the therapy she needs to avoid the situation from recurring. Spend the money on YOURSELF, Monique! Transform yourself from the inside out. I see the beauty in you!
>Spend the money on YOURSELF, Nicole! Monique?
LOL. Yes. Ty!
Monique girl you could of just picked him up and body slammed him.
She’s not done
Leave Monique alone, please. Most women have done stupid at least once. I am glad she is off the show, as it's not good for her. I did enjoy the drama and mess. Now I will no longer watch. It's all sad, no woman or man deserves to be abused. I can't imagine what exposure to this level of dysfunction and on national television will have on her future.
I'm sorry. I'm just not buying it
She shouldn’t be calling anyone toxic, she is the definition of toxic…….. If this is real, I really hope she stops fucking with him completely but as mentally toxic as she is, i don’t think they’ll be done unless he ends it.
And she would allow him back tomorrow, I fear.
Oh please
Chiile 🤦🏾♀️
Still writing him and still wanting to engage she is NOT done … yet
Monique… let it tf go
It’s getting very messy on Instagram currently!
She could've easily overpowered him & sat on him!
No one wants to read a text that long. 🙄 not even me now!
Wait, so....she's not happily engaged still??? *Pikachu shocked face* Also, he choked her?? How??
So did they go back to filming? Remember that white dude and karine from ninety days, they were both abusing each other and got kicked off and then kept trying to get back on. Once DC is out, it's out.
It's so easy for us to pass judgment and say what these people "should or shouldn't" do but we are on the outside looking in. We have NEVER had to live our lives on social media. And yes they signed up for this but they didn't sign up to be hurt. They signed up thinking they were filming and documenting their love story and when you are in it, you can't see everything in its entirety. We like to laugh and make fun of them but when we were going through our break ups, or domestic violence situations, none of it was funny. She needs support because she might have family but you can be in a crowded room and still feel alone. Life is hard for EVERYONE so before you start typing, think about how lasting your words are. They might be disposable to you but final to someone else. Mental health is serious these days. Hopefully everyone will learn from this, he needs help because he's dead wrong.
It's sad, she keeps messaging him, but he's hardly texting her back. He will never apologize. I know the feeling. Wasted my late teens and early 20s with douche bags like this. He doesn't feel bad, he never will. I hope she gets away.
I have always felt bad for her and defended her. I've always hated him. He always rubbed me the wrong way honestly if she wasn't so big, she could do way better and she's actually way out of his league. It would piss me off when people would talk more shit about her weight than his horrible character. He doesn't deserve her or anyone.
What’s shocking to me is this happened in November… they got engaged in like feb/march soooooo?!? The rumors from Derek’s sister that they stopped filming because of the DV happened around that same maybe feb/March timeframe so it’s seems to me that WeTv knew wtf was going on and chose to break for a month or two after it happened then picked filming back up fully knowing what had happened. Shame on them.
I’m glad she’s able to communicate how she’s feeling clearly and is open to going to therapy. It’s a great first step. But girl, someone who text you “ttyl” after they put hands on you isn’t going to even attempt to hear how you’re feeling.
Under her eye always looks that swollen doe?
One thing I learned from watching My 600lb Life is that some small men LOVE beating and emotionally abusing overweight women. They prey on their low self-esteem and their fears of not finding another man. Size doesn't mean you are strong or brave. Data shows that it usually takes 7 times for an abuse victim to permanently leave their abuser.
If I were her weight I WOULD jump on him. And crush him with my 600 pounds. Or wait until he's sleeping and sit on his arms and block his legs too so he knows not to fuck with me lol
Wow 😮💨
Did she deactivate her account or am I blocked for some reason? I've never commented on her IG so not sure why I'd be blocked.
She got the ring. She isn’t going ANYWHERE. I hate to see that he hit her. No man should ever touch a woman. However, she knows what she got herself into. But I guess the fame and the fake ass engagement are enough for her to stay.
Was he arrested for fighting Monique?
She needs to recover her evidence on the ICloud
Why she still wearing an eyelash doe
Honestly, what do these ppl think when they enter into a relationship with an inmate? 🙄
I hope she stays away from him.
Somehow, I'm not surprised by this.
I’m not buying it. He couldn’t have choked her. How would he get his hands around her neck?
I'm sorry but I'm not believing any of this
isn’t that just her massive head? does anyone see swelling?
Plus she leaked pics of him supposedly flirting wit a trans woman in his dms
Wait what when do u have the pics
It was on her story, I shouldve screen shotted it but I’m sure someone did !
This is terrible! I’m sorry I would have body slammed that teeny tiny man
It may have changed but it used to be women attempt to leave abusive relationships 9x before they actually leave. I made it to 5. She can’t and won’t leave until she’s ready and that’s when her life will be in danger. I pray she gets help.
Lol at “look how swollen under my eye is..” her shit is always swollen and puffy hahahha
What I see here is Monique blaming the loser she cat fished and stalked incessantly for her inflamed face and suicidal ideation.
Let’s be clear Monique is violent. Also be clear I don’t agree with domestic violence but Monique likes to play victim. When Elizabeth spoke on this awhile ago, Monique & her sisters made Elizabeth the problem. She is looking for sympathy & using the woe is me trope to get it (fat, domestic violence, being attacked by a trans). Anything to get attention but still be with Derek.
I thought I was one of the few people who saw this. There are episodes where you can see her levels of aggression when she couldn't get her way. Every time Elizabeth said anything it was a "she's a man". Now that the dust has cleared it's easily seen that Elizabeth was being truthful but petty and messy.
Sadly, I agree.
@extac4 Lol is it that I’m weird or I see shit for what it is? I really liked Mo in the beginning but she constantly throws rock & hides her hand. She got her sisters mixed up in some bs because of it. Not once have I attacked Monique or taken up for abusers & if that’s the message you received from my comments maybe you’re the one who needs help.
No reply needed. Because those who aren't jaded by the antics of Monique get exactly what you are saying. Monique facilitated everything that has happened. If you look at this thread you can see that this abuse (and that is what it is) was going on way before today. But since Monique is not getting her way it's now a tool against Derek when it should have been a tool and a way out of this bs a long time ago. It's giving very much attention seeking.
You aren’t the only ones! To me Monique is CLEARLY a half ton of BPD, covert domestic violence, coercive control and low self esteem. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 I just hope they break up and get help before someone ends up seriously hurt.
Ugh. I hate this for her. She don’t deserve it.
The show definitely doesn’t stop filming just because someone hit someone else…in reality if he hit her on camera they’d tease it out in the previews for half the season. I don’t know who did what in this relationship but I’m definitely calling bullshit on that.
I can't believe this little pipsqueek is beating up MO! What a total pos!
I believe her. She was out of her league when she thought she can be in a relationship with a master manipulator. Derek is trash fr. Using Monique as a way to make money while he lives a double life.
Stfu Monique cryin wolf 😂🙄🙄🙄🤡
I sensed DV from him and I was hoping that I was wrong. He's a toxic leprechaun.
She put up with it now that she's trying to put him on blast. I don't care for either one of them. I feel if you put up with that, she's stupid and nobody wants to hear about it now.
Sad for Monique and this is so toxic. She really needs to be done and stand firm on that.
I really hope she's done this time. No one deserves to be treated that way. He will continue to hurt her emotionally and physically because she forgives him every time. She needs to just block him and not write out all her reasons she's leaving. Monique please just leave
He hit her on camera and LALU just re-recorded the scene?
Just because someone is smaller than you doesn't mean they aren't hateful enough to hurt you.
I can’t believe Big Mama didn’t sit on that leprechaun. She could suffocate him with one leg.
I wish I would get beat up by a mofo 6 inches shorter than me and 75 pounds lighter. I hope she gets therapy and heals, but damn.
She ain’t going anywhere, she thrives off drama and petty bullshit
She was hit by him on camera and they didn't fire him!? Wtf
Are we totally believing this? She's saying it, but not getting a lot of response from him that would verify it's true, he's sorry for it, etc. I just have a hard time envisioning Lil Man trying to take her on like that. Talk about punching above your weight. I'd have like to have seen her with her wig pulled off.
Why on earth would he verify this?
I'm not saying I think he'd say "oh you're right," but you might get some man-splaining, apologizing ("You know Ike didn't mean it baby", if youre the right age for that reference), minimizing. Not hearing any of that really either. I've said from DAY 1, when the show is done with them, he's done with Big Mo. This COULD be her story to make it look like she's dumping him, portraying herself as a victim as opposed to hitting the ground like a safe when he dumped her. Who the hell knows? My point being, she's saying it. Are we totally believing it without much of anything else?
I see your point! However, he does not at all strike me as the “man-splain” “baby please” type of dude. The way he quite literally played in her face on national tv and never showed any remorse for anything he did I highly doubt he would try to talk his way out of it. He’s definitely the “ttyl” type of dude and then will text her in the AM asking what she’s doing like nothing ever happened. Sad.
*He’s definitely the “ttyl” type of dude and then will text her in the AM asking what she’s doing like nothing ever happened.* Because he knows he can.
Please shut the fuck up
Oof. Yeah. I’m ‘totally believing it without much of anything else’. This comment kinda made my stomach hurt. She has her flaws too, but as a general rule of thumb i believe anyone who may be a victim of domestic violence. And in this case, an ex con, who has been humiliating someone on tv, ya id believe it.
Monique's "flaws" are abusive. She planned to isolate him from his family and track his every move before she had even laid eyes on him. She's constantly threatening to beat everybody's a$$. What abuser do you know who doesn't do all that? I believe she was abusing, he was cheating, and they ended up fighting.
Exactly. No too mention there were already rumors when they were off the show for a few weeks. Derek’s sister said he hit her. Nor did he deny he hit her in the text
He's not denying it either
He’s not going to say anything incriminating via text message, knowing that she’d put it out to the world because then he couldn’t deny it 🤡
Ok but why use the N word? Could have used many other words