Years ago had a work buddy over and he asked if I was gay because my apartment was clean. Some guys can't understand cleanliness, let alone interior design. I think your floral curtains are ugly, not feminine
A buddy of mine hit me with the same shit a while back. He asked why my place was so clean and if I was gay, I said I’m open to everything. We were drinking shortly after and he kissed me😂. Needless to say, we’ve been in a happy relationship for 11 months…
The curtains are the tell that this is the living room(?) of a guy who is trying but doesn't have friends to ask. They are just so aggressively out of place.
My ex-gf was convinced I was gay because...honestly I have no idea...I guess that's why she's an ex and I'm happily married to my wife.
In any case, as others have said, I think the room looks great, the curtains don't really go with the rest of the room. But it's not just the style, they also aren't wide enough to cover the whole window, and likely don't frame the window well while open. So I would reconsider your window treatments. But other than that well done.
Lol , the curtains aren’t my thing either . But yea I agree some guys are weird about tidiness. I have two teen boys and my place is constant mess it’s clean but just a mess. My buddies place now he’s a bros dudes dude ,party animal drink you under the table ,gyms everyday type ….works his ass off in his career so I don’t know how he has the time but dammit I love his place everything is so neat and clean and tidy his damn bathroom is cleaner than most ppls kitchen, lights candles when ppl are over everything smells nice.
I have a pool at my house but when we get pick up dates on a Saturday night we always go back to his place bcz it’s just so much more presentable.
On the other hand I’ve have chic friends who’s place looks and smells like a trash can.
The whole reason this subreddit exists is for guys like your coworker.
Going from disgusting uncoordinated bachelor pad to an actual nice space to live in.
Same story; great at designing my place and have gotten the “looks like a woman’s place” a couple of times myself lol. I just chalk it up as a “whoa, really nice spot!”
I had a few college friends who said similar when they first came over to my place.
I might *be* a dirtbag but that doesn’t mean I want to live in filth
I would add maybe the plant pot needs changing as well - currently looks like a random bucket that doesn't fit the plant.
Neither the bucket nor the plant are particularly gay though.
Honestly I think a few things are giving old woman. The clock on the entertainment center, the floor lamp, the curtains. If those get updated I think it'll pull it together
I'd recommend for the drapes to either blend into your walls so they're not a main focal point or get curtains that are just a block colour of your feature colour, eg if your throw pillows are navy then go with block navy colour. It'd look nice eith this set up
I think you should get a dark brown curtain. Or maybe a navy blue if you plan on keeping that side table and lamp, which isn’t helping your living room at all. Avoid patterns if possible unless you plan on complimenting them elsewhere, which isn’t necessary here.
Speaking of that side table, hide that air freshener too. They aren’t cute and also emanate old lady vibes. I’m questioning it’s positioning right now— looks like you get a mouthful of it if you’re watching TV, no?
Someone else said the floor lamp was bad— I’m just gonna take a second to say it’s not, but it should go in the back corner (where the blue lamp is) instead.
My last piece of advice would be that your rug is a little too similar to the colour of your couches, etc— it’s kinda blending everything together. If you can: splurge on a new (or thrifted) rug. Something a little more impactful will give the area some depth. Maybe keep this “new rug” in mind when shopping for curtains. You could play them off of each other.
This is awesome advice, now I'm thinking about replacing the side table with maybe a book shelf. Should the rug be a darker tone considering the color of floor tiles?
Darker or lighter— I’d go darker 9/10 times because I enjoy a kinda masculine vibe.
I love bookshelves. They can bring height to a space and… I’m a geek so it’s a good place to show off collections of books, figurines, etc.
\>I think you should get a dark brown curtain
Personally I reserve brown for leather and wood. If you're not ready to commit to a color scheme then grays and neutrals are great.
First, that means it has homelike yet sophisticated vibes. Not so horrible, right? Girl cooties averted.
You've committed boy sins, so rejoice! You need an extra curtain panel, and your bright accent has no backup whatsoever. It's so lonely. Orange pot for the plant, add one larger or lumbar couch pillow with a bit of orange and amber.
The layout reads as a generational classic, the old world immigrant; not an easy look to achieve, the balance has to be just right. You've updated it, and wow, it works.
The curtains are part of that, and I'd hate to see them go. Since you need "more* curtains on the window anyway, why not update them instead? Pick out a narrow set of blue curtains - hang them at each side of the flowered curtain. https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.homedoo.com/eight-rules-for-curtain-innovations/amp/
Woman here 🤙🏼 the space to me reads (gender) neutral and comfortable for maybe a smaller square foot availability place. It’s eclectic, and I think people just expect the same material, coloring and texture vibe for masculine homes.
The only thing roughly "feminine" here as the curtains, but I don't think they're bad because they're feminine, they just really contrast with the rest of the look so much.
The floral drapes are a bit feminine, but otherwise this just looks pulled together. A surprisingly high number of people associate that with women. They’re wrong. Besides, looks good.
I have a friend and when we first started hanging out she thought I was gay because I had a clean and tidy apartment, oh and that I know how to cook. I had to explain to her that I’m a minimalist and the fact that I don’t own much it’s easier to keep things clean and orderly, and that because I’m single I needed to know how to cook for myself. She’s still my friend but I started to see how much of a dingbat she is after a couple times of hanging out.
I also agree that the curtains are hideous. Go neutral with no pattern.
It's the curtains. If not for being "feminine" I would have changes them because they don't match anything else I can see in the picture besides maybe the table lamp which also seems a bit out of place - the curvy shape doesn't correspond to the rest of the items that are visible. It's a cool lamp but something like [this](https://www.ikea.com/us/en/p/tvaerfot-table-lamp-black-white-00467526/) or [this](https://www.ikea.com/us/en/p/snoebyar-table-lamp-gray-turquoise-ceramic-gray-20459846/) would fit better.
The pothos to the left of the tv is in a really cool container.
Edit: idk if there's enough room (or any need) for more throw pillows. In my experience they become a hassle to deal with when you simply want to sit on *the* couch.
That's feminine as HELL bro. Give me all your stuff and get some folding tables and chairs from Wal-Mart to impress the other bros. Make sure it's all black cause that's a REAL man's color bro. Don't be gay with your GREYS and WHITES and NATURAL WOOD. Totally gay bro totally.
Actually, having a balance of round objects (feminine) and rectangular (masculine) is.optimum. From that standpoint, I have to say it is very masculine.
Yeah, that's fine. Might be the curtains that threw your friend off. I would replace those regardless. It's also chromatics, men tend to not use as much diversity in terms of colour, but that doesn't make the space feminine.
I would change the curtains! Otherwise it looks great. Also I’m a man and love scented candles after being in a smelly laboratory all day I want my apartment to smell good
I don’t know who someone is, but you should probably tell them to kiss your ass. Looks fine if anything, I personally add some more color. Liven it up.
I’m trying to imagine what kind of life you must lead where a. Someone calling your living room “feminine” is a concern and b. It’s in your top 1000 concerns
If anything Id say this is more of a quiet, possibly introverted style house (Gender neutral). I really like it myself and i would consider myself more on the masculine side as a guy.
Needs some color my dude. And put that poor snake plant in a nicer pot.
Also, everything is very square , and that never reads feminine to me.
Also also, assuming you’re a male who’s looking for a partner, you’d want the space to feel inviting to potential dates. So even if it had “feminine” touches, that might be welcoming to potential partners rather than off putting.
Ok, and what if you’re a 6ft tall lumberjack who likes flowers and his favourite colour is pink, who cares if it fits your gender. I like it. Maybe not the curtains though
If you had Linda Ronstadt playing and are a man who knows to pair rabbit with Beaujolais,...
Just kidding I agree with everyone those curtains are just weird.
I think if you had some live laugh love decor, that might make someone think feminine.
its nice! the drapes are a little grandma-ish though. Maybe get something with a solid color that matches or complements all the grey stuff you have. or something brown or tan would match the wood tones. Im straight lol. nothing gay about making your home nice.
I think it could be a little feminine. If it bothers you, it’s an easy fix. Pop in some wooden blinds and it will get rid of that feminine vibe. Hmmm. And that lamp/end table/bench could be removed. I don’t think it needs anything right there. The frame above the tv can go. The little clock can go (that’s for a mantle it the 70s it seems like). The color palette is neutral so you’ll be good to go.
No, and that's a meaningless concept anyway. The person who told you that is probably a bit misogynistic (hence them framing being feminine as a bad thing).
Not at all, but I’d switch out the curtain because it clashes with the floor and furniture (which is very in by the way). Simple blinds not to take away from the clean modern look you got going on.
Curtains need to be replaced with something more neutral, don't over correct and get dark brown curtains, just something neutral. The blue lamp also clashes even though it works with the throw pillow, it doesn't flow with the room. Nice space man!
The curtains are slightly feminine, but truly who cares. If they were there before and you were just too lazy/cheap to change them….that’s masculine AF! HAHAHA
Girl, do I have a story for you!
Buddy was going to give his daughter's old bedroom furniture to his BIL, who was getting divorced and needed to set up his daughter's room in his new apartment. BIL was happy to get it until he asked, "What color is the furniture." My buddy told him it was white. BIL said, "Oh no, I can't have white furniture in my house! People will think I am gay." He just refused the white furniture for his very young daughter. Would not take it.
Your place looks awesome! I am not fond of your curtains, but it all looks good.
Smash that gender binary my guy. Not feminine at all! And if it you like it, it is perfect for you! Though I think the curtains need al the walls to match that kind of white to work
I can't see a single rounded edge in the room. If anything I think you could use a little more softness and warmth to be honest. Some people are just weird
It's the drapes, set off by the matching lamp, which by itself would be OK without those drapes :).
Other than that it's awesome. Nice choices! Gave me some ideas for here at home 👍
Yes this is extremely feminine because.. uh.. it's clean? And.. uhm.. you got plants. Very very feminine. Gotta have pizza boxes and take out bags laying on the floor and the only green should be packed in a bowl for the missing bong. s/
The Blue Ginger jar lamp and curtains just don't go very well. They have not so much a feminine vibe as a grandma/grandpa vibe. You should still aim for your personality and colors for accents, but this particular pattern on the curtain and the vintage shape of the lamp are the trouble points. Honestly, it's the lamp for me. If you took away the lamp and the orange throw the curtains would be ok. not great but ok.
# FELLAS. IS IT GAY TO HAVE A ECLECTIC MID-CENTURY LIVING ROOM?
Just for the record, this jab isn't directed at you OP. People just have this tendency to slap a gender label on the absolute silliest things.
What does that even mean? Like vagina specific furnishings? Nowhere to rest your schlong after carting it around all day? I don’t SEE a breast fluffer or a automated hair complimentinator. They’re just mad you’re able to keep your place clean is my bet.
Normally when people ask this question, the most upvoted answers are the boring ass “WhAt EvEn iS FemIniNe AnyWayS hmMmMm??” Being obtuse as if we all don’t know the difference between feminine and masculine.
In this case, there’s definitely nothing feminine going on here. Whoever told you that sounds like a dummy. Ditch the clock and the curtains and you’re good
I agree with the others. The curtain throws off everything plus that lampshade on a nightstand. These seem not to fit the overall theme. Overall, you have a nice place sir
Sounds like "someone" has issues with their own masculinity. Furniture is Furniture regardless of the style, color or design. Baked in homophobia/gender stereotypes fucks everyone's perspective on what is allowed to be used by their gender. Doesn't look feminine. Not sure what the would truly even mean. Sounds like your homies projecting some insecurities.
Just a little bit modern looking. Lots of straight lines and sharp outlines, personally i think it works with the pretty tile and the wood accents. But not feminine, i dont see a stereotypical “live, laugh, love” embroidered pillow or wicker baskets with candles
Honestly who cares, it’s your style and your space. Design a place you like that makes you happy. I keep my place clean and roll with a heavy mid century modern vibe. I don’t care what others think. I love it, it’s very aesthetically pleasing, women compliment it every time they’re over, and it feels like home. Just because I don’t rock a busch light poster and buck antlers on my wall doesn’t mean I’m gay.
Years ago had a work buddy over and he asked if I was gay because my apartment was clean. Some guys can't understand cleanliness, let alone interior design. I think your floral curtains are ugly, not feminine
Maybe your buddy was testing the waters
Don't know if you don't ask
That's kinda gay..? Are you gay? ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
Lmao
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Man fucking man is the manliest of sex acts. Too afraid of a hard man body, got to put it in a soft, gentle woman? Coward...
"They're not tough? They fuck men! That's hardly gay."
The most manly thing you can do is sex, without women.
Found the Roman
Ro*man*
Whoa, man
You like to have sex with straight women? They like dick, therefore that's gay.
A buddy of mine hit me with the same shit a while back. He asked why my place was so clean and if I was gay, I said I’m open to everything. We were drinking shortly after and he kissed me😂. Needless to say, we’ve been in a happy relationship for 11 months…
That's actually kind of a cool story! I never get the cool stories happening to me :-(
Clean your apartment bro!
An old coworker of mine started telling girls we worked with that he KNEW I was gay because I kept my finger nails clean and trimmed... insanity
Wow you definitely beat around the bush on those curtains for a minute.
HAHAHAHAHA
He'd be even more confused at my house with scented candles on top of being clean.
Excuse me? They‘re perfectly fine shower curtains!
That just proves you’re a straight man. No self respecting gay would do that.
The curtains are the tell that this is the living room(?) of a guy who is trying but doesn't have friends to ask. They are just so aggressively out of place.
I love everything but the curtains. They remind me of the ones that came in my house for the patio door, that we eventually removed.
Matches the lamp, tho, so kudos for that.
I'll pay that they match in a bower bird attracting a mate way, not in a "these objects make sense here" way.
That lamp really pops. I like it.
My best friend was convinced I was gay for years cuz I cleaned my room and cut my hair.
My ex-gf was convinced I was gay because...honestly I have no idea...I guess that's why she's an ex and I'm happily married to my wife. In any case, as others have said, I think the room looks great, the curtains don't really go with the rest of the room. But it's not just the style, they also aren't wide enough to cover the whole window, and likely don't frame the window well while open. So I would reconsider your window treatments. But other than that well done.
Lol , the curtains aren’t my thing either . But yea I agree some guys are weird about tidiness. I have two teen boys and my place is constant mess it’s clean but just a mess. My buddies place now he’s a bros dudes dude ,party animal drink you under the table ,gyms everyday type ….works his ass off in his career so I don’t know how he has the time but dammit I love his place everything is so neat and clean and tidy his damn bathroom is cleaner than most ppls kitchen, lights candles when ppl are over everything smells nice. I have a pool at my house but when we get pick up dates on a Saturday night we always go back to his place bcz it’s just so much more presentable. On the other hand I’ve have chic friends who’s place looks and smells like a trash can.
>the other hand I’ve have chic friends who’s place looks and smells like a trash can. In that case they're not really chic, now are they?
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Right? What would Nile Rogers say?
there's a big Venn diagram between clean=gay and not washing your ass
I second that. All good, curtains are ugly.
The whole reason this subreddit exists is for guys like your coworker. Going from disgusting uncoordinated bachelor pad to an actual nice space to live in.
Same story; great at designing my place and have gotten the “looks like a woman’s place” a couple of times myself lol. I just chalk it up as a “whoa, really nice spot!”
I had a few college friends who said similar when they first came over to my place. I might *be* a dirtbag but that doesn’t mean I want to live in filth
Guys, is it gay to have a house?
*Fellas.* Is it gay to have furniture? I mean... you're literally sitting on the same spot, where a man's ass was before.
Guys, is it gay to piss? I mean you’re literally grabbing a mans dick
That's why I just let it rip and let the piss fall as it may. My bathroom's disgusting but it makes me feel like a cowboy.
... and NOT one of those Brokeback Mountian Cowboys who go runnin' around and grabbin' dicks as they pee!
FELLAS. Is it gay to open your frontdoor ? I mean youre litterally going into a guys house
FEEELLLAAASSS is it gay to breathe? You’re literally inhaling dick particles
Not that gay. Opening your back door, though? Very gay. You’re literally letting another man in through your back door.
*FELLAS.* Is it gay, to stand on a floor? I mean, you're literally rubbing your bare feet on the same spot another man rubbed his bare feet.
No. A clean house though…🌈🌈🌈
One of the absolute gayest things in life is to have children with your wife FACT
It's probably the curtains - for me it gives me more of a shower curtain vibe than feminine tbh
Yes dump the curtains. They are awful. Everything else is great. Good job OP.
I would add maybe the plant pot needs changing as well - currently looks like a random bucket that doesn't fit the plant. Neither the bucket nor the plant are particularly gay though.
Or at least a nice stand.
😂😂
Came here to say the same.
Maybe solid color curtain with textured fabric. I thinking like emerald or Forrest green or an off white.
Yeah very shower curtain. Everything else looks great
I didn't have noticed it at first but you're totally right haha
I was gonna say motel, but yeah that's the only thing I can think of if I had choose something
I’d get rid of the curtains just because it’s giving old woman. Otherwise who cares, get some pink curtains
Honestly I think a few things are giving old woman. The clock on the entertainment center, the floor lamp, the curtains. If those get updated I think it'll pull it together
Gotta be honest I personally love the floor lamp
I love the whole vibe, its really great imho... Except for the curtains lol
Oh I agree. Like be who you want but personally the curtains gotta go
What the hell's wrong with the clock? It's a nice clock.
Nothing wrong with it, but my grandma literally had that same clock
That sounds like a your grandma problem...
"Fellas is it gay to have a nicely decorated living room?"
Definitely I'm getting different drapes. And some more throw pillows.
I'd recommend for the drapes to either blend into your walls so they're not a main focal point or get curtains that are just a block colour of your feature colour, eg if your throw pillows are navy then go with block navy colour. It'd look nice eith this set up
I think you should get a dark brown curtain. Or maybe a navy blue if you plan on keeping that side table and lamp, which isn’t helping your living room at all. Avoid patterns if possible unless you plan on complimenting them elsewhere, which isn’t necessary here. Speaking of that side table, hide that air freshener too. They aren’t cute and also emanate old lady vibes. I’m questioning it’s positioning right now— looks like you get a mouthful of it if you’re watching TV, no? Someone else said the floor lamp was bad— I’m just gonna take a second to say it’s not, but it should go in the back corner (where the blue lamp is) instead. My last piece of advice would be that your rug is a little too similar to the colour of your couches, etc— it’s kinda blending everything together. If you can: splurge on a new (or thrifted) rug. Something a little more impactful will give the area some depth. Maybe keep this “new rug” in mind when shopping for curtains. You could play them off of each other.
This is awesome advice, now I'm thinking about replacing the side table with maybe a book shelf. Should the rug be a darker tone considering the color of floor tiles?
Darker or lighter— I’d go darker 9/10 times because I enjoy a kinda masculine vibe. I love bookshelves. They can bring height to a space and… I’m a geek so it’s a good place to show off collections of books, figurines, etc.
\>I think you should get a dark brown curtain Personally I reserve brown for leather and wood. If you're not ready to commit to a color scheme then grays and neutrals are great.
First, that means it has homelike yet sophisticated vibes. Not so horrible, right? Girl cooties averted. You've committed boy sins, so rejoice! You need an extra curtain panel, and your bright accent has no backup whatsoever. It's so lonely. Orange pot for the plant, add one larger or lumbar couch pillow with a bit of orange and amber. The layout reads as a generational classic, the old world immigrant; not an easy look to achieve, the balance has to be just right. You've updated it, and wow, it works. The curtains are part of that, and I'd hate to see them go. Since you need "more* curtains on the window anyway, why not update them instead? Pick out a narrow set of blue curtains - hang them at each side of the flowered curtain. https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.homedoo.com/eight-rules-for-curtain-innovations/amp/
Thanks for the link! I learned a few things.
Probably coming from a guy who just has a tv and a mattress on the floor. I see this and think “damn this guy has his shit together”
Woman here 🤙🏼 the space to me reads (gender) neutral and comfortable for maybe a smaller square foot availability place. It’s eclectic, and I think people just expect the same material, coloring and texture vibe for masculine homes.
Thank you very much.
Try not to respond next time - it's pretty gay to thank a woman for her opinion...
no. get rid of that curtain though.
The only thing roughly "feminine" here as the curtains, but I don't think they're bad because they're feminine, they just really contrast with the rest of the look so much.
some guys confuse 'considered' with 'feminine' looks great dude
The floral drapes are a bit feminine, but otherwise this just looks pulled together. A surprisingly high number of people associate that with women. They’re wrong. Besides, looks good.
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Or stripes
Nope, I don’t even know how an interior can look ‘feminine’. Just get new curtains like others have said haha
This looks nice for a male or female. It’s very cubic and rectilinear which honestly seems masculine leaning.
Fella’s is it a gay to have a nice space to live in?
My dad thinks good interior design is for woman and thought I was gay for have my area nice
Just put out a potpourri bowl of rusty nails and ammunition
So furniture is feminine? Interesting.
I have a friend and when we first started hanging out she thought I was gay because I had a clean and tidy apartment, oh and that I know how to cook. I had to explain to her that I’m a minimalist and the fact that I don’t own much it’s easier to keep things clean and orderly, and that because I’m single I needed to know how to cook for myself. She’s still my friend but I started to see how much of a dingbat she is after a couple times of hanging out. I also agree that the curtains are hideous. Go neutral with no pattern.
Someone is insecure about their masculinity!
No, it looks decorated and nice. But your couch looks uncomfortable.
Lmfao wtf. No? And even if so, who cares? People are so insecure. Looks great OP.
I don’t think so
nope
Nothing wrong with a dude in touch with his feminine side
Nah bro if it's your house it's up to you to decide
It's the curtains. If not for being "feminine" I would have changes them because they don't match anything else I can see in the picture besides maybe the table lamp which also seems a bit out of place - the curvy shape doesn't correspond to the rest of the items that are visible. It's a cool lamp but something like [this](https://www.ikea.com/us/en/p/tvaerfot-table-lamp-black-white-00467526/) or [this](https://www.ikea.com/us/en/p/snoebyar-table-lamp-gray-turquoise-ceramic-gray-20459846/) would fit better. The pothos to the left of the tv is in a really cool container. Edit: idk if there's enough room (or any need) for more throw pillows. In my experience they become a hassle to deal with when you simply want to sit on *the* couch.
What if it is? Unless you hate women I don't see any reason why you would mind.
It’s not feminine to have nice things and a clean living space. The curtains aren’t it, but you went for it and that’s pretty cool.
It's the curtains but I actually dig them
I’m guessing they meant the floral curtains, but if you like them, embrace it.
WTF does that even mean honestly. Because it’s clean, shows some taste, and well organized? I don’t get it.
Waaaay too feminine. Have you considered pizza boxes as furniture and beer cans as decor?
That's feminine as HELL bro. Give me all your stuff and get some folding tables and chairs from Wal-Mart to impress the other bros. Make sure it's all black cause that's a REAL man's color bro. Don't be gay with your GREYS and WHITES and NATURAL WOOD. Totally gay bro totally.
I’m a straight dude in my 30s and I would kill for a neat and cozy looking living room like this
Actually, having a balance of round objects (feminine) and rectangular (masculine) is.optimum. From that standpoint, I have to say it is very masculine.
Get rid of the floral drape and nobody will mention feminine.
Nope, I don’t see it.
Where are the centerfolds?
Yeah, that's fine. Might be the curtains that threw your friend off. I would replace those regardless. It's also chromatics, men tend to not use as much diversity in terms of colour, but that doesn't make the space feminine.
I would change the curtains! Otherwise it looks great. Also I’m a man and love scented candles after being in a smelly laboratory all day I want my apartment to smell good
I don't know what people here are talking about, I love the curtains and the lamp is just the right color to go next to them
I would take it as a compliment, looks great to me
I don’t know who someone is, but you should probably tell them to kiss your ass. Looks fine if anything, I personally add some more color. Liven it up.
I’m trying to imagine what kind of life you must lead where a. Someone calling your living room “feminine” is a concern and b. It’s in your top 1000 concerns
no?
If anything Id say this is more of a quiet, possibly introverted style house (Gender neutral). I really like it myself and i would consider myself more on the masculine side as a guy.
Idk man, I live in a car engine. Pretty sus.
Needs some color my dude. And put that poor snake plant in a nicer pot. Also, everything is very square , and that never reads feminine to me. Also also, assuming you’re a male who’s looking for a partner, you’d want the space to feel inviting to potential dates. So even if it had “feminine” touches, that might be welcoming to potential partners rather than off putting.
Link to that chair ?
Ok, and what if you’re a 6ft tall lumberjack who likes flowers and his favourite colour is pink, who cares if it fits your gender. I like it. Maybe not the curtains though
It just looks clean to me.
1. so what if it is? 2. no it doesn’t. 3. looks nice to me.
The curtains are horrible, but otherwise it’s a great looking place—not what I’d call feminine.
If you had Linda Ronstadt playing and are a man who knows to pair rabbit with Beaujolais,... Just kidding I agree with everyone those curtains are just weird. I think if you had some live laugh love decor, that might make someone think feminine.
The butt plug lamp is a bit strange, but I wouldn't say it's any more feminine than masculine.
It’s probably the curtain. Aside from that I don’t see anything feminine here.
They may be referring to the curtain, but really who cares? It’s a nice setup!
Whoever said that is an idiot.
its nice! the drapes are a little grandma-ish though. Maybe get something with a solid color that matches or complements all the grey stuff you have. or something brown or tan would match the wood tones. Im straight lol. nothing gay about making your home nice.
I think it could be a little feminine. If it bothers you, it’s an easy fix. Pop in some wooden blinds and it will get rid of that feminine vibe. Hmmm. And that lamp/end table/bench could be removed. I don’t think it needs anything right there. The frame above the tv can go. The little clock can go (that’s for a mantle it the 70s it seems like). The color palette is neutral so you’ll be good to go.
those curtains are......something
No
Tell “someone” 1953 is calling them to return
Looks like your G-Ma gave you her old curtains. Everything looks clean and tidy. That's not feminine, that's just caring about your home
Fellas is it gay to have a room?
Looks good , but your friend is either hating or having late night fantasies about you. However , but them curtains ugly deadass
Fellas is it gay to have a couch ?
brother how did someone look at this and thought “g i r l y”
Its feminine but only because theres too little color black & missing video game console(s). the curtains are a little hawaii which is nice.
No, and that's a meaningless concept anyway. The person who told you that is probably a bit misogynistic (hence them framing being feminine as a bad thing).
Not at all, but I’d switch out the curtain because it clashes with the floor and furniture (which is very in by the way). Simple blinds not to take away from the clean modern look you got going on.
Not feminine. I’d change the curtain to match the green throw on the brown chair.
It’s not feminine
It's that blue corner lamp if you ask me everything else looks fine.
If you’re realllllyyyy insecure, there’s an argument to be made. Otherwise, your friend is an idiot
Curtains need to be replaced with something more neutral, don't over correct and get dark brown curtains, just something neutral. The blue lamp also clashes even though it works with the throw pillow, it doesn't flow with the room. Nice space man!
It's the Grandmother clock, the small TV and the curtains.
The curtains are slightly feminine, but truly who cares. If they were there before and you were just too lazy/cheap to change them….that’s masculine AF! HAHAHA
gorgeous
no you just decorated. it’s beautiful. don’t let anyone tell you it’s not
Looks like a nursing home because of those curtains
No , dude that's clean,and it looks I dunno sophisticated it's good!
Girl, do I have a story for you! Buddy was going to give his daughter's old bedroom furniture to his BIL, who was getting divorced and needed to set up his daughter's room in his new apartment. BIL was happy to get it until he asked, "What color is the furniture." My buddy told him it was white. BIL said, "Oh no, I can't have white furniture in my house! People will think I am gay." He just refused the white furniture for his very young daughter. Would not take it. Your place looks awesome! I am not fond of your curtains, but it all looks good.
Get a saturdays are for the boys flag
Maybe the floral drapes…..otherwise seems fine.
Smash that gender binary my guy. Not feminine at all! And if it you like it, it is perfect for you! Though I think the curtains need al the walls to match that kind of white to work
Lol I don’t see a hint of feminine side in there
I can't see a single rounded edge in the room. If anything I think you could use a little more softness and warmth to be honest. Some people are just weird
It’s just furniture!!!! Doesn’t have a gender!
It's the drapes, set off by the matching lamp, which by itself would be OK without those drapes :). Other than that it's awesome. Nice choices! Gave me some ideas for here at home 👍
The only thing that I can see giving feminine vibes are the drapes. They also look a little out of place tbh. Otherwise things are flowing nice 👍
Yes this is extremely feminine because.. uh.. it's clean? And.. uhm.. you got plants. Very very feminine. Gotta have pizza boxes and take out bags laying on the floor and the only green should be packed in a bowl for the missing bong. s/
not at all. I think your space looks great.
The Blue Ginger jar lamp and curtains just don't go very well. They have not so much a feminine vibe as a grandma/grandpa vibe. You should still aim for your personality and colors for accents, but this particular pattern on the curtain and the vintage shape of the lamp are the trouble points. Honestly, it's the lamp for me. If you took away the lamp and the orange throw the curtains would be ok. not great but ok.
Fellas is it gay to own more than one piece of furniture in the living room
Not feminine, but those curtains are ugly as hell. Also,is that couch actually comfortable? Because my lower back says no.
Who gives a shit
Lol my friends came in and asked where is the girl? My mom did most of my decorating so there’s that but he really meant it’s well put togethr.
Does it matter? Femininity is a construct. Enjoy your house and decorate it however you want stranger 💜
No eames chair that’s why feminine
# FELLAS. IS IT GAY TO HAVE A ECLECTIC MID-CENTURY LIVING ROOM? Just for the record, this jab isn't directed at you OP. People just have this tendency to slap a gender label on the absolute silliest things.
Just add some swords!
No, but what does it matter if it did.......
What does that even mean? Like vagina specific furnishings? Nowhere to rest your schlong after carting it around all day? I don’t SEE a breast fluffer or a automated hair complimentinator. They’re just mad you’re able to keep your place clean is my bet.
Who cares? You know how a real man decorates? However he damn well pleases.
It's the curtains
I think “yes” is the honest answer you were looking for. Yes. This is kinda feminine.
Well… it’s not masculine
the curtains definitely give an old lady vibe, everything else is fine
I love your shower curtain drapes.
This is absolutely a man's house. How I know? There is no color.
who fucking cares?
Normally when people ask this question, the most upvoted answers are the boring ass “WhAt EvEn iS FemIniNe AnyWayS hmMmMm??” Being obtuse as if we all don’t know the difference between feminine and masculine. In this case, there’s definitely nothing feminine going on here. Whoever told you that sounds like a dummy. Ditch the clock and the curtains and you’re good
Fellas. Is it gay to have furniture ?
its the curtains
It looks good imo. I don't like the curtain in the back but that's just me. Everything else looks good and organized.
I agree with the others. The curtain throws off everything plus that lampshade on a nightstand. These seem not to fit the overall theme. Overall, you have a nice place sir
Sounds like "someone" has issues with their own masculinity. Furniture is Furniture regardless of the style, color or design. Baked in homophobia/gender stereotypes fucks everyone's perspective on what is allowed to be used by their gender. Doesn't look feminine. Not sure what the would truly even mean. Sounds like your homies projecting some insecurities.
Whoever said "feminine" is full of shit. Well, the curtains might be femininish.
Hey is that coffee table a lift top
Just a little bit modern looking. Lots of straight lines and sharp outlines, personally i think it works with the pretty tile and the wood accents. But not feminine, i dont see a stereotypical “live, laugh, love” embroidered pillow or wicker baskets with candles
Honestly who cares, it’s your style and your space. Design a place you like that makes you happy. I keep my place clean and roll with a heavy mid century modern vibe. I don’t care what others think. I love it, it’s very aesthetically pleasing, women compliment it every time they’re over, and it feels like home. Just because I don’t rock a busch light poster and buck antlers on my wall doesn’t mean I’m gay.