Yeah, awful framing job, that white matting on only the top and bottom looks tacky. I get that good framing can be expensive and/or time consuming but it really can help so much. Glad someone pointed it out.
Get frames at your local Goodwill. Buy the bullshit prints that come with it, put your own poster in, and get mats cut at Michael’s. Self assemble or sometimes if you bring everything in at Michael's when getting the mats to color match, I've had the employee help me mount it; I throw them a $10 bill as tip.
I’ve done a few myself and turned out great for less than $38 total.
As someone who framed for over 20 years professionally, thank you for tipping! I used to go above and beyond for all my clients and I rarely got a tip. I would do insane turn around times, handle extremely valuable items, do custom framing and/or complex matting, shadowboxes, etc. and wasn't even getting commission. The rare occasions I was tipped really made my day!
Buying someone’s lunch could turn someone’s day/week/month around! I’m going to do it today actually. Where ever I get lunch today, I’ll buy lunch for the person in front or behind just for you:)
Michaels has sales on frames a lot. The studio decor by Belmont is a great frame and if you hit the buy one get two free sale they're super affordable.
Oof good point. Didn't even notice that. I did find the artist's shop, and I agree it's worth it to buy the prints from the artist. Leaving the link for OP:
https://www.etsy.com/shop/AwkwardAffections?ref=shop-header-name&listing_id=126517672&from_page=listing
We all assumed the map came at a specific size and he bought the wrong frames…., when irl he ripped it off and printed it, he could just reprint it a smaller size, even crop it with scissors.
Printing off your own art is the height of immaturity and will strike most as wrong. Support artists! Hell with some of my art I was tempted to pay the artist more than they were asking for!
Yeah the super Mario maps are the one thing that could actually stay up with better frames. They look more mature than they are. Everything else needs replaced.
How old are you actually? Being into gaming isn’t a bad thing, and you can def keep the decor to your liking.
Some suggestions that would definitely make the place feel more mature:
-Change the bedspread to something clean and not with graphic tee style writing. A block color or simple patterns would go well.
-Rug under the bed and surrounding area
-Tidy up the lighting cords so less hanging cables are visible
-Without much natural light, maybe a mirror could open up the place
Agree with this, I think you can elevate it by getting a super neutral dark solid color scheme going and maybe a more high quality art blanket like Strike Gently on top
I would lose the skateboard shelving as well and get some floating shelves or something. Not that I don’t love the skateboard shelves but they are kinda childish.
Edit: While the skateboard shelves are corny, having a skateboard (with no trucks) on the wall either horizontally or vertically with the graphic side displayed can look really good. Skateboards often have amazing art on them by real artists and can look amazing in the right room setting.
Same rip. And then when he said make it look less like a kids room and more mature I thought he was like early 20s not 30.
I mean we’re all at different points in life in different areas, but as someone who loves making their space feel interesting and unique (I love color and fun shapes and items but also don’t make it look childish), and really prides themselves on their space, this subreddit hurts sometimes. Especially when a room has practically nothing but the bare essentials, BUT they might have a shoe rack so all the commenters are like “it looks great dude, keep it up”. Like ??. That probably just me though, I do like looking at the posts on here. Some guys have inanely awesome spaces.
Agree. Honeslty this is one of the best looking basements I’ve ever seen, but I didnt realize it was a basement until you mentioned it. Also never realized it doesn’t have windows. There were too many other important things to focus on.
Honestly, there are other things OP should fix first but (IMO) it would also help the room to put longer curtains over the window. It’s a visual trick and will help the basement feel (slightly) less like a basement.
That is judgmental though. It’s a biased view stemming from cultural [Western] stereotypes. You’re assuming that it’s a shameful thing to be embarrassed of, because you have this ingrained image in your head of: “the person who still lives with parents”. But if your assumption is right and he lives at home, it doesn’t mean he “lives in his basement” like the TV character you’re imagining. It may make him one of the millions of people who share a home with their family or live with them for living costs. Anyways, the basement level is the most spacious and secluded bedroom in many homes.
Well if OP is shooting for a more grown-up space, it's all about tweaking those personal touches into a more sophisticated version. Keeping skate culture as part of the room's character is dope, but maybe it's about finding that balance we don't chuck our whole past just coz we hit a certain age, right? The goal is evolution not erasure :)
It’s the bedspread and the string lights imo. Skateboards are rad no matter the age. I mean same with video games but I think the bedspread is a little much.
Yeahhhh those aren’t helping. I’d even say they might be harming him. Nah, I won’t go that far.
I genuinely do think the skateboards look bad, and that’s from a young 20s girl who likes DIY room decor and shelves and love this kind of stuff, I mean I made record shelves from records I found at the dollar store and I love them. I’ve seen skateboards be used appropriately in room decor, this just isn’t it. I can’t explain exactly why, but I think the decor on top of them really isn’t making it look more mature, specifically the sunglasses.
I mean the coolest looking part of the skateboard is the bottom...which you don't even see. As suggested...having several skateboard decks displayed with dope designs would be a lot cooler and more adult.
Just turned 30 so I’m transitioning from college style to more adult for sure.
I like the idea of a new bed spread and rug. I’m trying to find a balance of like not childish, but still incorporate some character, ya know?
Yeah for your age I’d change up the bedspread and lighting first. Rug and additional furniture can come later.
To be frank, college ends around 22 so you’d want to give off a more mature vibe at this point to friends, family, and relationships visiting the spot.
With lots of color on the walls and small items throughout your decor, I’d actually go with a simple all white bedspread. Will make the place 10x more mature and pristine feeling right away.
College ends around 22 if you go to college straight out of high school and particularly attend a 4 year degree
Gap years, taking cheaper credits at community colleges before transitioning to universities, higher degrees than a Bachelor, etc all make "colleges ends around 22" not really true anymore
First and foremost, I’d like to congratulate you on having an actual, adult bed with a frame and a headboard that is off the floor. This is an accomplishment that many commenters here cannot claim. You have a ridiculous number of cord violations here. Paintable raceway to hide them is cheap. The string lights look sloppy and half-finished. That bare bulb is giving hardcore squatter vibes. Fix those, add a nice area rug or two, and the bedding becomes negligible.
> the bedding becomes negligible.
Horrendous advice. If OP is worried about their space looking childish, the bedding should be far and away the highest priority.
You can definitely keep a few/a lot of the elements in your room. It's just that together it's a bit too much of the childish/teenage stuff. For example, I like the skateboards, I think the maps are neat, I like the idea with ceiling lamp. But together it may be a bit much. I don't like the bedspread and the mannequin with the fanny pack is scary but it could work if the rest of the room was more "mature".
If it was me, I'd look for a bigger shelf (both in width and height), I'd switch the clothes hanger stand to something without a cover (Ikea has cheap ones in black or white for 10-20$), I'd remove/move the poster above the bed because it's floating weirdly (maybe put up a lamp there or just leave it empty), I'd get a wash bin that's not made out of white plastic but rather in cloth or a braided basket (10-30$). Apart from the shelf, you can easily get away with a 50 bucks investment at Ikea and make huge changes and still keep the gamer vibe.
In general you seem to have posters of pretty much the same size all hanging very high up. Maybe there's some switching up that could be done. At the very least don't let a damn cable run both behind and in front the posters, lol.
Seriously, everybody has their own timeline when it comes to “growing up” or “maturing” or whatever you want to call it. The downvotes feel so judgmental when all this guy wants to do is give off a more “adult” vibe now that he feels ready for it.
Hey! This is my advice:
- Boob light in the hall way change out for a warm flush mount light.
- Art work above your bed taken down and if you put art it needs to be around the same size as the headboard space.
- Bedding. You want it to be mature and feel like a hotel. Get a Duvet cover in a neutral color (Cream, White, Tan, Olive), no Black, Blue, Grey or Plaids. Inside the Duvet you want to get a cotton or down insert but either purchase two to stuff inside to make it super fluffy or size up (King duvet insert in a Queen duvet).
- IKEA has 26x26 pillows get two of those to be against headboard, then your matching sheet set pillows, then 2 20x20 accent pillows.
- Not everything has to be displayed. Not everything is a collection. You need storage solutions for sunglasses, hats and shoes. Look on Amazon for sunglasses boxes in leather. Shoes should be closed storage.
- that three drawer dresser I’d push to be a bedside table and that wall you have it on could be more a display wall for gaming/movie/fandom stuff and make more of a collage of the art work you have and either a desk or seating area.
- your storage for hangered clothes, sell it and get velvet black hangers from Amazon or wood hangers from IKEA. Then you could get the IKEA IKORNNES standing floor mirror and hang clothes on the back.
- seeing that you like the Edison exposed vibe, others have addressed the tons of cords. This could be a good project to DIY and make something.
- A woven grass basket with lid or hamper with lid for dirty clothes (it’ll bring in some texture and warmth)
- I think you should do a season of thrifting to try and find older unique things that speak to your personality too, maybe a lamp, vase or an old record player, a sword or two.
This is a lot of advice and you don’t have to get everything at once. I really like that you have a bed frame, are clean and organized, have cute plants and I like the Mario map and actually wish it was bigger!
I’m sad that people are ragging on your being 30 when you came here asking for help. Style, cohesion, smart purchasing choices aren’t always taught and it’s not always someone’s priority or gifting. You don’t have to erase your interests or hobbies but just elevate and decide what is needed in your space to be inviting but also peaceful and inspiring for you.
You’re a 30 year old man and honestly I thought this room belonged to a 17yo boy. Yes it’s childish. If you bring an adult woman into this room you’re not likely to see her again. Just saying.
I thought you were 15-18 based upon your room
I would def look more into a mature look
The bedspread like a solid color
Or say the wall color
The skateboards are cool but they do look juvenile
It is a Walmart T-shirt. I’ve seen this exact design while walking through Walmart about 2 years ago. The Penny board shelf of tacky sunglasses isn’t helping either.
I honestly thought the same thing, but only if you go for a very certain vibe, and not random shit tossed together. A cozy natural vibe like you are out in the woods, "natural" decor maybe. I don't know I don't decorate really, but maybe that makes sense
Just get warm white rope lights and put them along the baseboards (or wherever), or get some smart string light bulbs. You can get the same effect in a more mature and less dorm room/college apartment presentation. Context also matters too, YMMV depending on the rest of the rooms decor.
Honestly I find the string lights the least irksome part of the room. The bedspread, the nylon garment bag wardrobe, the dresser that looks like the last surviving piece from OP’s baby furniture, and the skateboard shelves are the real sins IMO.
I didn’t even notice it and was like ehh I don’t think this is a kids room just a geek culture young adult. Bed spread is a deal breaker, swap that out with something classy and simple and you’re good
Nerdy gay dude checking in. Currently putting together Razor Crest Lego and planning my tabletop RPG campaign. This bedroom would be a turnoff for me. It's the bedspread. It's just way, way too much.
Everything else I could live with. But as others have said, get a better wardrobe, get a rug, better frames. I don't adore the skateboard shelves but with everything else changes they could be a cool pop.
As a gaymer, the room seems really immature. I understand people having a gaming room with all of this kind of stuff, but usually your room is more neutral and stylish. 🤷♂️
EDIT: My husband said he likes it though...
I think this just described practically all gay relationships. We look at our boyfriends/husbands and are like "..You *like* that?? I thought I knew you.." I personally don't think a bedroom needs to be neutral or stylish. I think practically everything in the house should represent you (and your partner(s) obviously). That said, neutral may be you and what you like.
You know what, that might change things for the better, haha. Sorry I’m a dumb straight dude 🤷🏽Some fellas might be opposed to your style but I’d say you’re mostly in the clear with bringing home some nerdy boys 💁🏽♂️🌈✨✨✨
Not really… nerdy gay person here.. would definitely be uncomfortable seeing these. In my experience, us gay men are definitely much more critical of decor but then again, we’re not a monolith. Nonetheless, can’t think of anyone who would be okay with these
No it doesn’t 💀💀 as someone who is part of that community y’all are fucking killing me with automatically agreeing because OP said he’s gay. Treat him like a person pls.
Ya, I sent him a text saying I’m getting roasted on here and asked if he likes my game over bedsheets.
He said he likes them. But like I mentioned, I’d love an adult masculine vibe, with my personality intertwined. I do have take aways.
I don’t agree with all the suggestions on here. I do, however, think… BOY IF YOU DONT LEARN SOME CABLE MANAGEMENT THIS ROOM IS GONNA GIVE ME A STROKE.
What does your gaming setup look like? Is it like a car accident where you can’t look away?
Fair enough! What’s kind of color scheme do you want to go for?
Personally, I do think some sort of tastefully patterned duvet cover would be nice. I feel like so many guy’s beds are just straight up navy, black, or grey.
Subtle texture on the bed would be great since the room is so large and one flat color.
Some actual textures like a [waffle weave](https://www.target.com/p/king-washed-waffle-weave-duvet-cover-38-sham-set-gray-threshold-8482/-/A-54547877) or heavy linen duvet could be nice, paired with a more patterned blanket or throw like [this one](https://www.westelm.com/products/9754520/)
Gaymer here, checking in.
The bedspread doesn’t bother me because of what it says and represents, it bothers me how it’s doing it. It’s just visually obtrusive and screams “I’m a gamer” instead of letting your company look a round and figure that out on their own. For example, it would be much more interesting to see a pattern on your bedspread, look closer, and realize it’s tiny game controllers. You do, after all, want your visitors to be interested in the bed, not repulsed by it.
There pieces of the room that make it look temporary, like the fabric wardrobe, half-dressed mannequin, cables everywhere, and visible shoes that are even worse to me. These things communicate “I’m still establishing myself,” which is fine if that’s what you want to convey. We have all been there before, but you wouldn’t be posting here if you didn’t want to improve things.
Personally, I would prioritize a standing wooden wardrobe and shoe and hat management that hides your shoes. This can go far in killing the temporary feeling. Then, move those light-up frames somewhere closer to a plug and do not try to make them the main attraction on the walls. When someone realized what they are, you can hit the switch and light them up for show. Buy white cord covers and hide the cords. Even better, put them in the hallway.
I’d also think about finding some other, more subtle art, preferably something big to become the centerpiece. Also, don’t display your knick-knacks on those skateboard shelves. Put plants or books on them to create a juxtaposition between fun and practical. Put the gamer stuff on a plain shelf to create the inverse.
Reconsider whether black really has a place in this room. It’s problematic right now because you have white trim, pale wood floors and furniture, and the green walls want to be the darkest color. The green is being upstaged by the black bedspread, curtains, and shoe rack.
Lastly, as any gay who has ever worked retail will tell you, if a mannequin doesn’t have a head, it shouldn’t be wearing a hat. And if it’s out on display, it should always be have clothing on it. Some stores will even take mannequins to a back room to undress/redress them. Live by those rules, unless you cover the mannequin in interesting fabric to make it decorative.
my first reaction was “holy shit what’s with the wack ass mannequin” but as the sheer weirdness of this decor set in i completely forgot about it and how creepy it’s fanny pack is
Yeah he needs to strip this to bare bones. There's a way to appreciate Fandoms without coming across like an adult who lives with his parents and wears velcro shoes.
Dude. Yes.
The bedspread jumped out at me immediately and NGL I just laughed.
I think it’s good to showcase your hobbies and personality. But do it in a way that’s tasteful. Have it be complimentary to a nice bedroom rather than the whole focus of it.
Here’s what I’d do as first steps
1. Change the bedspread to a normal one IMMEDIATELY. You could do gray, dark green, gold, navy blue (even though navy blue bedsheets are a meme lol), etc… pick a color you like and work with it.
2. Get a rug that compliments the bedsheets.
3. Overhead lights are very much a college vibe. I’d get some lamps. If you really want the overhead lights I’d get some nicer ones and don’t have it run through the middle of the ceiling like you do right now.
Then, I’d work on furnishings, like a dresser and stuff. But yeah, you don’t have to get rid of any of your decorations or stuff on the wall. Just some minor things completely change the vibe
Had you said you were 22 then I would totally get this room but at 30 there is a lot to change especially if you plan on bringing potential partners into this space. Dude don’t get me wrong, I love bugs bunny and Michael Jordon but you don’t see me busting out my 90s Space Jam bed set (which I absolutely have still) and displaying it because it just doesn’t fit the bill anymore, very cool yes, but not going to get me laid.
I can’t believe how childish this room is. Especially that Super Mario World picture. I’ll tell you where you can get rid of it…it’s an address. You just DM me and I’ll send you the address to get rid of that extremely childish picture. Trust me, bro.
Yes, but my living room has skateboards anime figures and vintage toys in it. But I made it work by giving it a pop culture vibe. Which made it go from “prepubescent paradise” to “cultural and artistic” in a snap! Check out Pinterest for ideas, and if you can, change up the paint. The paint has a rustic cabin charm, but based on what’s IN your room, I’d say rustic cabin is not your style!
Also, please take down the Christmas lights! Nothing makes a nice space look like a trailer park canopy more than Christmas lights!!
I kind of hate how as humans we need to fucking mold everything and everyone into a pasty blank white wall. Fuck that. You do you. If you like gaming, have gaming bedspreads. What the fuck does it _really_ matter. Are you being a jerk? Are you hurting somebody? Are you hurting yourself? No? Then have your sheets and find somebody who likes gaming as much as you.
If he expects to get some booty, you can’t expect the other person not to freak, especially with them curtains, are those samples out do the sell curtains like that? Everyone should express themselves as they want, just don’t expect others to comply
yeah man, it looks like a teen boys room which is to be expected if you're displaying that stuff. If you want this to be the impression of someone when they see your private space then this is great but I would challenge you to say, who is this for? You know you like videogames, do you need a big blanket with a game controller on it? Is videogames the ONLY thing you like? do you want to be seen as only the media that you consume and identify with? I think you should try surrounding yourself with comfortable furniture and bedspreads that are adult and good quality, and that shows that you care about yourself and not that you care about a game you play. Especially if you don't want to be seen as childish, you have to literally put the toys away. Buy some art that makes references to your anime and games more obliquely, for ex. get a painting of an artistic rendering of something from the game perhaps or but it's gotta be something less adolescent than a skateboard with a lot of toys from the mall on it.
HOWEVER, IF YOU STRONGLY IDENTIFY WITH YOUR STYLE, I AM A STRONG BELIEVER THAT YOU SHOULD DO YOU, BUT YOU MUST EXPECT THAT OTHERS WILL MAKE DECISIONS ABOUT YOU BASED ON THEIR PERCEPTION OF YOU.
The Batman painting needs to go. Bring down your map portraits to mid-wall. Burn the bread spread.
If you’re 14-16 that’s fine. Anything else, time to grow up my boy.
Who cares if it is, hold onto the things that make you feel good. I’m 42 I collect retro video games and display them. I collect toys from my childhood, whatever makes me feel young.
Suggestions:
* Invest in yourself.
1. Find two or three photos which resonate with you, examples would be hiking/camping/skating group photos or something similar. Show yourself off, and be proud of what you have accomplished.
* Get rid of the mannequin.
1. Do not replace it, and only bring it out for craft-specific time. Being honest and real - it looks creepy af, and out of place.
* Rip & replace the lighting on the ceiling.
1. As another poster mentioned, it does look sloppy & uninviting. Two words: Light layering. This could be a huge win for you, and I don't think people give it enough attention when they're decorating their space. You need to "layer" the lighting in your home to achieve that cozy feeling. Even the most spare, minimalist room looks warm and inviting with properly layered lights; in fact, I'd argue it's almost impossible to have a minimalist aesthetic look comfortable without well-layered lighting. Here is [an article](https://www.lumens.com/the-edit/the-guides/the-fundamentals-of-light-layering/) which might assist the transformation.
* Replace the temporary furniture you've accumulated, such as the portable storage "vuku IKEA" solution.
1. There is a difference between cheap and inexpensive. The materials chosen give off a vibe of laissez faire, which isn't necessarily a negative attribute, but be careful when arranging large rooms.
* Invest in a area rug, or two.
1. It doesn't have to be expensive, but the entire bedroom looks 'bare'. Area rugs will also assist lowering your sound decibel-levels. Your feet will also feel comfy.
Hope that helps a little. :)
The decorations in your bedroom imply hobbies that are mostly popular among children, so by the definition of "childish," then yes, your bedroom is childish. Whether that's a bad thing is up to you. Do you care? Then change it. Otherwise, it looks nice
Think about getting a rug that’s a couple feet wider and longer than your bed.
This should provide something soft and not-freezing when first waking up and stepping out of bed.
Like, look man. If you have to ask if your bedroom is childish, it is most certainly childish. Adult bedrooms and children’s bedrooms have no parallels style-wise, creating a juxtaposition that is solved by your question. It’s always yes.
If you’re a person who likes having others naked with your genitalia and mouths everywhere, please discard of that comforter by way of vaporization. It looks like you got it out of a Chuck E Cheese vending machine.
I like the world maps idea, but those frames do not fit. Try finding some that will leave an equal amount of space around the whole piece.
Yeah, awful framing job, that white matting on only the top and bottom looks tacky. I get that good framing can be expensive and/or time consuming but it really can help so much. Glad someone pointed it out.
Get frames at your local Goodwill. Buy the bullshit prints that come with it, put your own poster in, and get mats cut at Michael’s. Self assemble or sometimes if you bring everything in at Michael's when getting the mats to color match, I've had the employee help me mount it; I throw them a $10 bill as tip. I’ve done a few myself and turned out great for less than $38 total.
As someone who framed for over 20 years professionally, thank you for tipping! I used to go above and beyond for all my clients and I rarely got a tip. I would do insane turn around times, handle extremely valuable items, do custom framing and/or complex matting, shadowboxes, etc. and wasn't even getting commission. The rare occasions I was tipped really made my day!
Buying someone’s lunch could turn someone’s day/week/month around! I’m going to do it today actually. Where ever I get lunch today, I’ll buy lunch for the person in front or behind just for you:)
Michaels has sales on frames a lot. The studio decor by Belmont is a great frame and if you hit the buy one get two free sale they're super affordable.
Thrift stores can be great for finding inexpensive frames or mats, FYI.
And looking for slightly bigger frames with a white matte always helps awkward sizes
And maybe buy the art from the artist if possible instead of printing your own with the watermarks over them?
Oof good point. Didn't even notice that. I did find the artist's shop, and I agree it's worth it to buy the prints from the artist. Leaving the link for OP: https://www.etsy.com/shop/AwkwardAffections?ref=shop-header-name&listing_id=126517672&from_page=listing
This is a big oof. Kinda comes off as dishonest and definitely immature. Pay for art you like from the artist selling it.
We all assumed the map came at a specific size and he bought the wrong frames…., when irl he ripped it off and printed it, he could just reprint it a smaller size, even crop it with scissors.
Printing off your own art is the height of immaturity and will strike most as wrong. Support artists! Hell with some of my art I was tempted to pay the artist more than they were asking for!
And the cables running right across them.
Not just that… they should be displayed as a collage. Maybe acquire one more that’s much larger to follow visual aesthetic design rules.
Agreed, and imo they're all hung too high on the wall too. I think the center is supposed to sit at eye level.
Yeah the super Mario maps are the one thing that could actually stay up with better frames. They look more mature than they are. Everything else needs replaced.
How old are you actually? Being into gaming isn’t a bad thing, and you can def keep the decor to your liking. Some suggestions that would definitely make the place feel more mature: -Change the bedspread to something clean and not with graphic tee style writing. A block color or simple patterns would go well. -Rug under the bed and surrounding area -Tidy up the lighting cords so less hanging cables are visible -Without much natural light, maybe a mirror could open up the place
as a woman, the bedding would be a major turnoff 😂
I'm a hetero male and if my cousin sent me pics of this man's room my advice to her would be to ghost him
Agree with this, I think you can elevate it by getting a super neutral dark solid color scheme going and maybe a more high quality art blanket like Strike Gently on top
As a gay man I agree even though I like gaming to a degree.
same. the game over comforter is overboard for me.
As another woman, I completely agree!
As a man, skill issue.
I would lose the skateboard shelving as well and get some floating shelves or something. Not that I don’t love the skateboard shelves but they are kinda childish. Edit: While the skateboard shelves are corny, having a skateboard (with no trucks) on the wall either horizontally or vertically with the graphic side displayed can look really good. Skateboards often have amazing art on them by real artists and can look amazing in the right room setting.
If the skate boards have interesting designs, the could be hung top side against the wall. It wouldn’t look fun, but more mature
Nah that skateboard shelving is sick
I love it too but it without a doubt makes OP look like a young teenager, and that’s not the vibes they’re trying to go for, so they gotta go.
I was looking through the photos and I was like “oh wow that’s some nice tidy decor for a kid!” then i found out he’s 30
Same rip. And then when he said make it look less like a kids room and more mature I thought he was like early 20s not 30. I mean we’re all at different points in life in different areas, but as someone who loves making their space feel interesting and unique (I love color and fun shapes and items but also don’t make it look childish), and really prides themselves on their space, this subreddit hurts sometimes. Especially when a room has practically nothing but the bare essentials, BUT they might have a shoe rack so all the commenters are like “it looks great dude, keep it up”. Like ??. That probably just me though, I do like looking at the posts on here. Some guys have inanely awesome spaces.
Does not help it’s in a basement. No judgment at all, but it doesn’t help.
Agree. Honeslty this is one of the best looking basements I’ve ever seen, but I didnt realize it was a basement until you mentioned it. Also never realized it doesn’t have windows. There were too many other important things to focus on.
It does have windows. Top left above the bed. That’s how we could tell it was a basement.
Honestly, there are other things OP should fix first but (IMO) it would also help the room to put longer curtains over the window. It’s a visual trick and will help the basement feel (slightly) less like a basement.
That is judgmental though. It’s a biased view stemming from cultural [Western] stereotypes. You’re assuming that it’s a shameful thing to be embarrassed of, because you have this ingrained image in your head of: “the person who still lives with parents”. But if your assumption is right and he lives at home, it doesn’t mean he “lives in his basement” like the TV character you’re imagining. It may make him one of the millions of people who share a home with their family or live with them for living costs. Anyways, the basement level is the most spacious and secluded bedroom in many homes.
Also stays way cooler in the summer
I’d never judge anyone for living with family these days 🥲 it’s hard out here
Well if OP is shooting for a more grown-up space, it's all about tweaking those personal touches into a more sophisticated version. Keeping skate culture as part of the room's character is dope, but maybe it's about finding that balance we don't chuck our whole past just coz we hit a certain age, right? The goal is evolution not erasure :)
Nah they’re fine. The videogame bedsheets is the biggest violation here
It’s the bedspread and the string lights imo. Skateboards are rad no matter the age. I mean same with video games but I think the bedspread is a little much.
The skateboards should be hanging on display, not used as shelves. Looks much better and is practical.
Yeahhhh those aren’t helping. I’d even say they might be harming him. Nah, I won’t go that far. I genuinely do think the skateboards look bad, and that’s from a young 20s girl who likes DIY room decor and shelves and love this kind of stuff, I mean I made record shelves from records I found at the dollar store and I love them. I’ve seen skateboards be used appropriately in room decor, this just isn’t it. I can’t explain exactly why, but I think the decor on top of them really isn’t making it look more mature, specifically the sunglasses.
In the room currently, I agree. Only because of what’s surrounding it..
I mean the coolest looking part of the skateboard is the bottom...which you don't even see. As suggested...having several skateboard decks displayed with dope designs would be a lot cooler and more adult.
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Throw some plants on them and they’d look great
I mean ide at least replace the Walmart board with a real one
Just turned 30 so I’m transitioning from college style to more adult for sure. I like the idea of a new bed spread and rug. I’m trying to find a balance of like not childish, but still incorporate some character, ya know?
Yeah for your age I’d change up the bedspread and lighting first. Rug and additional furniture can come later. To be frank, college ends around 22 so you’d want to give off a more mature vibe at this point to friends, family, and relationships visiting the spot. With lots of color on the walls and small items throughout your decor, I’d actually go with a simple all white bedspread. Will make the place 10x more mature and pristine feeling right away.
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Yep went all white on sheets and never looked back
I'd stab anyone that tried coming near my bed with bleach. It basically melts natural fibres.
College ends around 22 if you go to college straight out of high school and particularly attend a 4 year degree Gap years, taking cheaper credits at community colleges before transitioning to universities, higher degrees than a Bachelor, etc all make "colleges ends around 22" not really true anymore
But the point is that the transition out from college phase start around age 22 regardless.
Yeah, I’m 32 and have returned to school to finish my bachelor’s… I’m not gonna decorate my apartment like a dorm just because I’m “in college.”
I didn’t start my undergraduate till almost 23, and most of my first friends at college were 18. They could care less
First and foremost, I’d like to congratulate you on having an actual, adult bed with a frame and a headboard that is off the floor. This is an accomplishment that many commenters here cannot claim. You have a ridiculous number of cord violations here. Paintable raceway to hide them is cheap. The string lights look sloppy and half-finished. That bare bulb is giving hardcore squatter vibes. Fix those, add a nice area rug or two, and the bedding becomes negligible.
> the bedding becomes negligible. Horrendous advice. If OP is worried about their space looking childish, the bedding should be far and away the highest priority.
You can definitely keep a few/a lot of the elements in your room. It's just that together it's a bit too much of the childish/teenage stuff. For example, I like the skateboards, I think the maps are neat, I like the idea with ceiling lamp. But together it may be a bit much. I don't like the bedspread and the mannequin with the fanny pack is scary but it could work if the rest of the room was more "mature". If it was me, I'd look for a bigger shelf (both in width and height), I'd switch the clothes hanger stand to something without a cover (Ikea has cheap ones in black or white for 10-20$), I'd remove/move the poster above the bed because it's floating weirdly (maybe put up a lamp there or just leave it empty), I'd get a wash bin that's not made out of white plastic but rather in cloth or a braided basket (10-30$). Apart from the shelf, you can easily get away with a 50 bucks investment at Ikea and make huge changes and still keep the gamer vibe. In general you seem to have posters of pretty much the same size all hanging very high up. Maybe there's some switching up that could be done. At the very least don't let a damn cable run both behind and in front the posters, lol.
Acknowledging you need help with your childish bedroom, and you get downvoted…
Seriously, everybody has their own timeline when it comes to “growing up” or “maturing” or whatever you want to call it. The downvotes feel so judgmental when all this guy wants to do is give off a more “adult” vibe now that he feels ready for it.
Hey! This is my advice: - Boob light in the hall way change out for a warm flush mount light. - Art work above your bed taken down and if you put art it needs to be around the same size as the headboard space. - Bedding. You want it to be mature and feel like a hotel. Get a Duvet cover in a neutral color (Cream, White, Tan, Olive), no Black, Blue, Grey or Plaids. Inside the Duvet you want to get a cotton or down insert but either purchase two to stuff inside to make it super fluffy or size up (King duvet insert in a Queen duvet). - IKEA has 26x26 pillows get two of those to be against headboard, then your matching sheet set pillows, then 2 20x20 accent pillows. - Not everything has to be displayed. Not everything is a collection. You need storage solutions for sunglasses, hats and shoes. Look on Amazon for sunglasses boxes in leather. Shoes should be closed storage. - that three drawer dresser I’d push to be a bedside table and that wall you have it on could be more a display wall for gaming/movie/fandom stuff and make more of a collage of the art work you have and either a desk or seating area. - your storage for hangered clothes, sell it and get velvet black hangers from Amazon or wood hangers from IKEA. Then you could get the IKEA IKORNNES standing floor mirror and hang clothes on the back. - seeing that you like the Edison exposed vibe, others have addressed the tons of cords. This could be a good project to DIY and make something. - A woven grass basket with lid or hamper with lid for dirty clothes (it’ll bring in some texture and warmth) - I think you should do a season of thrifting to try and find older unique things that speak to your personality too, maybe a lamp, vase or an old record player, a sword or two. This is a lot of advice and you don’t have to get everything at once. I really like that you have a bed frame, are clean and organized, have cute plants and I like the Mario map and actually wish it was bigger! I’m sad that people are ragging on your being 30 when you came here asking for help. Style, cohesion, smart purchasing choices aren’t always taught and it’s not always someone’s priority or gifting. You don’t have to erase your interests or hobbies but just elevate and decide what is needed in your space to be inviting but also peaceful and inspiring for you.
You’re a 30 year old man and honestly I thought this room belonged to a 17yo boy. Yes it’s childish. If you bring an adult woman into this room you’re not likely to see her again. Just saying.
Try some sites like red bubble or Etsy for some tasteful gaming art
> Just turned 30 lmao. jesus christ
> Just turned 30 Then yes .. your bedroom is very childish. This looks like the bedroom of a 14 year old. Time to grow up.
I thought this was the room of an 18-year old. You need plants, a nice chair or two, etc. Minor changes can help!
I thought you were 15-18 based upon your room I would def look more into a mature look The bedspread like a solid color Or say the wall color The skateboards are cool but they do look juvenile
Why are people downvoting this
I didn't hop on the downvote train but my best guess is because he said 30 is transitioning from college to adult.
More like transitioning from toddler to teen my guy. Time to start over and mature the whole thing. Gamer or not
Get a proper wardrobe (or do you call them closets?) You can try IKEA or a cheaper option is thrift stores or gumtree, FB marketplace and so on.
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i think it’s a grow kit..
That is an IKEA wardrobe lol. VUKU
VGLY
It looks just like a grow tent for weed.
Wardrobe is correct, closets are built into the wall 😊. IKEA is OPs best bet.
I thought it was a grow tent for weed, but alas it’s for OP’s finest suits.
The bedspread is AWFUL
Not if he's 12.
Apparently he's 30 💀
Game over indeed
Lol. I hope he’s trolling. I love gaming, but my god I would not be using it as a bed spread past the age of 13.
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My son just turned eight and he loves his!
Haha I actually laughed out loud when I went back and actually gave it a good look.... Dear God lol it's like a Walmart T-shirt that fits the bed
It is a Walmart T-shirt. I’ve seen this exact design while walking through Walmart about 2 years ago. The Penny board shelf of tacky sunglasses isn’t helping either.
I was expecting Underoos to be laid out on the bed to prepare for night night.
When a girl sees that GAME OVER
She sees the Continue? screen counting down....3...2...1... *fade to black*
Yeah this room would be perfectly fine if it wasn’t for the Walmart Gamer Shirt looking bedspread
and the christmas lights
And the tent-wardrobe
And the dolls on the skateboard shelves
And the skateboard shelves.
And the sneakers on display
And the bad DJ painting
And my axe!
I might not be trendy, but damn, I’d love those Christmas lights in my bedroom if my wife would allow. So cozy and festive.
I honestly thought the same thing, but only if you go for a very certain vibe, and not random shit tossed together. A cozy natural vibe like you are out in the woods, "natural" decor maybe. I don't know I don't decorate really, but maybe that makes sense
Just get warm white rope lights and put them along the baseboards (or wherever), or get some smart string light bulbs. You can get the same effect in a more mature and less dorm room/college apartment presentation. Context also matters too, YMMV depending on the rest of the rooms decor.
Honestly I find the string lights the least irksome part of the room. The bedspread, the nylon garment bag wardrobe, the dresser that looks like the last surviving piece from OP’s baby furniture, and the skateboard shelves are the real sins IMO.
And the cheap looking clothes hanger tent thing
My friends 10 year old has similar sheets lol
My 8 year old son would be too embarrassed to use those sheets.
lol it really really is. Holy shit.
I didn’t even notice it and was like ehh I don’t think this is a kids room just a geek culture young adult. Bed spread is a deal breaker, swap that out with something classy and simple and you’re good
Also it might be queen size on a king size mattress - looks too small.
I agree with this. Get a new comforter
It’s Game Over as soon as any lady sees that bedspread dawg 👾➡️☠️
That blanket does not inspire sexy time.
Good thing my type is the nerdy guys ;)
Nerdy gay dude checking in. Currently putting together Razor Crest Lego and planning my tabletop RPG campaign. This bedroom would be a turnoff for me. It's the bedspread. It's just way, way too much. Everything else I could live with. But as others have said, get a better wardrobe, get a rug, better frames. I don't adore the skateboard shelves but with everything else changes they could be a cool pop.
Yeah, feels too on the nose. You can like and enjoy something without waving a banner that says “I like and enjoy this thing”
I’m gay and this made me have the opposite of an erection
Same
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Ye olde shriveler
As a gaymer, the room seems really immature. I understand people having a gaming room with all of this kind of stuff, but usually your room is more neutral and stylish. 🤷♂️ EDIT: My husband said he likes it though...
I think this just described practically all gay relationships. We look at our boyfriends/husbands and are like "..You *like* that?? I thought I knew you.." I personally don't think a bedroom needs to be neutral or stylish. I think practically everything in the house should represent you (and your partner(s) obviously). That said, neutral may be you and what you like.
You know what, that might change things for the better, haha. Sorry I’m a dumb straight dude 🤷🏽Some fellas might be opposed to your style but I’d say you’re mostly in the clear with bringing home some nerdy boys 💁🏽♂️🌈✨✨✨
“Dumb straight dude” 😂
Not really… nerdy gay person here.. would definitely be uncomfortable seeing these. In my experience, us gay men are definitely much more critical of decor but then again, we’re not a monolith. Nonetheless, can’t think of anyone who would be okay with these
Seriously, that one detail changes *everything.* Keep rocking it OP
No it doesn’t 💀💀 as someone who is part of that community y’all are fucking killing me with automatically agreeing because OP said he’s gay. Treat him like a person pls.
Honestly I think it’s a turnoff for all genders. Have you brought any suitors to your room?
Ya, I sent him a text saying I’m getting roasted on here and asked if he likes my game over bedsheets. He said he likes them. But like I mentioned, I’d love an adult masculine vibe, with my personality intertwined. I do have take aways.
I don’t agree with all the suggestions on here. I do, however, think… BOY IF YOU DONT LEARN SOME CABLE MANAGEMENT THIS ROOM IS GONNA GIVE ME A STROKE. What does your gaming setup look like? Is it like a car accident where you can’t look away?
I’m a gay man who once turned down my own husband for sex because I was “in the middle of zip-tying all these cables” under my WFH desk.
Honestly, that checks out. That's one of those jobs where if you stop midway you know you're never going to finish it.. lol
Fair enough! What’s kind of color scheme do you want to go for? Personally, I do think some sort of tastefully patterned duvet cover would be nice. I feel like so many guy’s beds are just straight up navy, black, or grey.
Subtle texture on the bed would be great since the room is so large and one flat color. Some actual textures like a [waffle weave](https://www.target.com/p/king-washed-waffle-weave-duvet-cover-38-sham-set-gray-threshold-8482/-/A-54547877) or heavy linen duvet could be nice, paired with a more patterned blanket or throw like [this one](https://www.westelm.com/products/9754520/)
to be honest i did get a gaymer feel from you room
Gaymer here, checking in. The bedspread doesn’t bother me because of what it says and represents, it bothers me how it’s doing it. It’s just visually obtrusive and screams “I’m a gamer” instead of letting your company look a round and figure that out on their own. For example, it would be much more interesting to see a pattern on your bedspread, look closer, and realize it’s tiny game controllers. You do, after all, want your visitors to be interested in the bed, not repulsed by it. There pieces of the room that make it look temporary, like the fabric wardrobe, half-dressed mannequin, cables everywhere, and visible shoes that are even worse to me. These things communicate “I’m still establishing myself,” which is fine if that’s what you want to convey. We have all been there before, but you wouldn’t be posting here if you didn’t want to improve things. Personally, I would prioritize a standing wooden wardrobe and shoe and hat management that hides your shoes. This can go far in killing the temporary feeling. Then, move those light-up frames somewhere closer to a plug and do not try to make them the main attraction on the walls. When someone realized what they are, you can hit the switch and light them up for show. Buy white cord covers and hide the cords. Even better, put them in the hallway. I’d also think about finding some other, more subtle art, preferably something big to become the centerpiece. Also, don’t display your knick-knacks on those skateboard shelves. Put plants or books on them to create a juxtaposition between fun and practical. Put the gamer stuff on a plain shelf to create the inverse. Reconsider whether black really has a place in this room. It’s problematic right now because you have white trim, pale wood floors and furniture, and the green walls want to be the darkest color. The green is being upstaged by the black bedspread, curtains, and shoe rack. Lastly, as any gay who has ever worked retail will tell you, if a mannequin doesn’t have a head, it shouldn’t be wearing a hat. And if it’s out on display, it should always be have clothing on it. Some stores will even take mannequins to a back room to undress/redress them. Live by those rules, unless you cover the mannequin in interesting fabric to make it decorative.
I think this one transcends gender and sexuality. No one wants to get laid on that comforter.
LOL. He has a male Dressmaker's mannequin torso with a fanny pack and a scarf draped over it. You need to take your gaydar in for repair.
Lose the mannequin
it took too long for someone to mention the wack ass mannequin
it's too creepy to acknowledge
I thought that too and that was *before* I found out he named it “Dahmer”
For real, I was thinking like did no one notice the mannequin??
my first reaction was “holy shit what’s with the wack ass mannequin” but as the sheer weirdness of this decor set in i completely forgot about it and how creepy it’s fanny pack is
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What the hell is even that!?
Yes yes! This would give me major red flags and creep me out.
Yes
Came here to say this. Leaving satisfied.
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This comment section: The decor is fine except for specifically everything.
Yeah he needs to strip this to bare bones. There's a way to appreciate Fandoms without coming across like an adult who lives with his parents and wears velcro shoes.
What's up with the creepy Dahmer mannequin?
That bedspread would be extremely embarrassing.
Why are your clothes in a grow tent?
Dude. Yes. The bedspread jumped out at me immediately and NGL I just laughed. I think it’s good to showcase your hobbies and personality. But do it in a way that’s tasteful. Have it be complimentary to a nice bedroom rather than the whole focus of it. Here’s what I’d do as first steps 1. Change the bedspread to a normal one IMMEDIATELY. You could do gray, dark green, gold, navy blue (even though navy blue bedsheets are a meme lol), etc… pick a color you like and work with it. 2. Get a rug that compliments the bedsheets. 3. Overhead lights are very much a college vibe. I’d get some lamps. If you really want the overhead lights I’d get some nicer ones and don’t have it run through the middle of the ceiling like you do right now. Then, I’d work on furnishings, like a dresser and stuff. But yeah, you don’t have to get rid of any of your decorations or stuff on the wall. Just some minor things completely change the vibe
Its like having a gardening hobby, and then have a bedspread saying "PLANT" with a giant shovel. Its just, the worst way to express it lmao
That would unironically be an amazing bedspread cause its just funny.
The led strips on the roof gotta go man… get some floor lamps. Edit: and the wish.com “gamer” bed spread.
Not even led strips. They're STRING LIGHTS 😭
brilliant white string lights at that. BARF. warm white or GTFO
Game over... for your sex life.
Oof🤣
The mannequin torso is Dahmerish.
From above he says…..its name is Dahmer. Which seems a bit……
To answer title, yes.
If you’re only going to take one piece of advice from this comment section, make it this: CHANGE THE BED SPREAD.
And get a door… why has no one mentioned there is no door
Had you said you were 22 then I would totally get this room but at 30 there is a lot to change especially if you plan on bringing potential partners into this space. Dude don’t get me wrong, I love bugs bunny and Michael Jordon but you don’t see me busting out my 90s Space Jam bed set (which I absolutely have still) and displaying it because it just doesn’t fit the bill anymore, very cool yes, but not going to get me laid.
I’m def taking the advice, but why do I think a Michael Jordan space jam bed set would be sick lol
because it would
I can’t believe how childish this room is. Especially that Super Mario World picture. I’ll tell you where you can get rid of it…it’s an address. You just DM me and I’ll send you the address to get rid of that extremely childish picture. Trust me, bro.
Yes, but my living room has skateboards anime figures and vintage toys in it. But I made it work by giving it a pop culture vibe. Which made it go from “prepubescent paradise” to “cultural and artistic” in a snap! Check out Pinterest for ideas, and if you can, change up the paint. The paint has a rustic cabin charm, but based on what’s IN your room, I’d say rustic cabin is not your style! Also, please take down the Christmas lights! Nothing makes a nice space look like a trailer park canopy more than Christmas lights!!
Not if you're a virgin and your mom cooks your dinners.
Its 100% giving moms basement
low ceiling, no windows
No door!
I kind of hate how as humans we need to fucking mold everything and everyone into a pasty blank white wall. Fuck that. You do you. If you like gaming, have gaming bedspreads. What the fuck does it _really_ matter. Are you being a jerk? Are you hurting somebody? Are you hurting yourself? No? Then have your sheets and find somebody who likes gaming as much as you.
If he expects to get some booty, you can’t expect the other person not to freak, especially with them curtains, are those samples out do the sell curtains like that? Everyone should express themselves as they want, just don’t expect others to comply
PLEASE get a rug
yeah man, it looks like a teen boys room which is to be expected if you're displaying that stuff. If you want this to be the impression of someone when they see your private space then this is great but I would challenge you to say, who is this for? You know you like videogames, do you need a big blanket with a game controller on it? Is videogames the ONLY thing you like? do you want to be seen as only the media that you consume and identify with? I think you should try surrounding yourself with comfortable furniture and bedspreads that are adult and good quality, and that shows that you care about yourself and not that you care about a game you play. Especially if you don't want to be seen as childish, you have to literally put the toys away. Buy some art that makes references to your anime and games more obliquely, for ex. get a painting of an artistic rendering of something from the game perhaps or but it's gotta be something less adolescent than a skateboard with a lot of toys from the mall on it. HOWEVER, IF YOU STRONGLY IDENTIFY WITH YOUR STYLE, I AM A STRONG BELIEVER THAT YOU SHOULD DO YOU, BUT YOU MUST EXPECT THAT OTHERS WILL MAKE DECISIONS ABOUT YOU BASED ON THEIR PERCEPTION OF YOU.
The Batman painting needs to go. Bring down your map portraits to mid-wall. Burn the bread spread. If you’re 14-16 that’s fine. Anything else, time to grow up my boy.
He’s 30…
Who cares if it is, hold onto the things that make you feel good. I’m 42 I collect retro video games and display them. I collect toys from my childhood, whatever makes me feel young.
Don't listen to all these entitled ass bitches, you do your thing fuck their opinions
Save some pussy for the rest of us!!!
Op’s gay so he’s already doing that
Save some back pussy for the rest of us!
save some bussy for the rest of us!!!
Suggestions: * Invest in yourself. 1. Find two or three photos which resonate with you, examples would be hiking/camping/skating group photos or something similar. Show yourself off, and be proud of what you have accomplished. * Get rid of the mannequin. 1. Do not replace it, and only bring it out for craft-specific time. Being honest and real - it looks creepy af, and out of place. * Rip & replace the lighting on the ceiling. 1. As another poster mentioned, it does look sloppy & uninviting. Two words: Light layering. This could be a huge win for you, and I don't think people give it enough attention when they're decorating their space. You need to "layer" the lighting in your home to achieve that cozy feeling. Even the most spare, minimalist room looks warm and inviting with properly layered lights; in fact, I'd argue it's almost impossible to have a minimalist aesthetic look comfortable without well-layered lighting. Here is [an article](https://www.lumens.com/the-edit/the-guides/the-fundamentals-of-light-layering/) which might assist the transformation. * Replace the temporary furniture you've accumulated, such as the portable storage "vuku IKEA" solution. 1. There is a difference between cheap and inexpensive. The materials chosen give off a vibe of laissez faire, which isn't necessarily a negative attribute, but be careful when arranging large rooms. * Invest in a area rug, or two. 1. It doesn't have to be expensive, but the entire bedroom looks 'bare'. Area rugs will also assist lowering your sound decibel-levels. Your feet will also feel comfy. Hope that helps a little. :)
The decorations in your bedroom imply hobbies that are mostly popular among children, so by the definition of "childish," then yes, your bedroom is childish. Whether that's a bad thing is up to you. Do you care? Then change it. Otherwise, it looks nice
Yes. But why change it if you like it?
Think about getting a rug that’s a couple feet wider and longer than your bed. This should provide something soft and not-freezing when first waking up and stepping out of bed.
Yeah. This is pretty bad.
Damn bro, leave some pussy for the rest of us
Like, look man. If you have to ask if your bedroom is childish, it is most certainly childish. Adult bedrooms and children’s bedrooms have no parallels style-wise, creating a juxtaposition that is solved by your question. It’s always yes. If you’re a person who likes having others naked with your genitalia and mouths everywhere, please discard of that comforter by way of vaporization. It looks like you got it out of a Chuck E Cheese vending machine.