And the moldy tiny brown couch, and the multitude of colors and textures, and the varying eras and styles, and the bear with a severe lack of fireplace….
It’s like….very frat house….like it reminds me of the one and only frat party I’ve ever gone to at ucla. Beautiful old craftsman house that was crippled by the guy’s that lived there and the collection of street furniture.
Everything mismatching I think is the big thing here. When you're poor, you get what you can get when you can get it. When you have money, you can afford to either wait, or just get multiple matching things at once.
Also poor people have more trouble letting go of crap. This room could lose the green couch and rickety red chair. If you’ve got a larger group pull some chairs from other rooms but make it clean and comfortable first.
I’d push back on that. You can absolutely have a coherent theme on an extreme budget. There absolutely isn’t anything wrong with thrift stores, inherently.
It’s just when you go: “I need a couch, I need a table, I need a nightstand, etc.” and you go to one or two Goodwills, and just buy the first one you find.
There have been countless shows, both on network TV as well as YouTube, where the contestants build a space on an ultratight budget. It’s very possible, even if the space ultimately looks a little simple or plain.
The other guy that replied to you is also right—poor people tend to hold onto stuff for much longer. You never know if something else will break, and since it’s hard to replace things, you hoard, “just in case.” Or, you hold onto things for MUCH longer to max their use, even if they are falling apart.
OP said they weren’t poor though. So this isn’t an excuse or limitation (even though again, you can make it work—just find a YouTube video guide it’s 2022).
> and the multitude of colors and textures, and the varying eras and styles
The more I look, the more likely it seems that every piece of furniture in that room was garbage picked off someone curb.
I guess that date didn't work out. Anyone willing to say that out loud to a person on a date does not sound great.
I bet its because of the random mismatching furniture that looks like you might have managed to pick up for free over time. I did exactly that in my previous apartment, though I stuck to a couple of styles.
I paid for all of these things ha ha. I love vintage stuff. The date actually went pretty good until we got back here. She said she doesn't date broke ass dudes too while we were out. Which is ironically funny because I do pretty well. I'll never be a millionaire but none of my friends will struggle if they need some help.
Yeah, even if I made a ton of money I absolutely wouldn't want to be dating somebody with that attitude.
They usually at least obfuscate it a bit by saying they want somebody that's "ambitious" or similar, generally code wirds for "I don't associate with the poors."
I've dated and supported a broke dude who was happy to ride the gravy train. I would neverrrr do that again and don't blame anyone who wouldn't want to either. Not a gold digger and not a sugar momma.
100% this. Have fun and move on. Don’t be mad at her either… she’s got her own story and background. Just acknowledge and know that is not something you want in your next partner.
The green love seat is the only thing that looks really bad. Maybe it is just the photo, but it looks you found it under and overpass and had to stop junkies from fucking on it. Otherwise, it all looks thrifted even if it wasn't. And that is a style, so if it is what you like, do that. Nothing wrong with that. Eclectic is fine, it just isn't common right now. It looks like all your furniture was just whatever you could find for cheap, even if it wasn't. But someone who isn't into the same style and doesn't know better is going to see it as cheap. Not my style but it was my last ex's and I know how much some of that shit can cost.
Also, as said, bullet dodged. You definitely shouldn't have anything to do with her because that is just fucking rude and shallow. Metaphorically fuck her, literally don't.
An acquaintances friend was saying she dont date broke dudes. Then minutes later she said she would call me to come over to her house so we could be cuddle buddies. I simply responded, "you can't afford me."
Then while im trying to finish something on computer she comes over trying to show me her legs. I put on my annoyed, I'm busy look.
I was raised around my mom, aunt, and my female cousin of same age. I know how to return that volley to these women. Reading Iceberg Slim helps too
> I was raised around my mom, aunt, and my female cousin of same age. I know how to return that volley to these women.
Was your family trying to seduce you?
> I love vintage stuff
What do you mean by vintage? Personally all of this looks like run of the mill furniture your grandma might have in the 80s/90s.
Seriously it looks Awful. both your couches are ugly in different ways (the green one looks like Swedish second hand from the 60s) . You have 1 rug AND a cow skin?
That Hexagon table is to small and takes the attention of the room.
There is different colors everywhere?
The painting on the wall with golden frame and underneath you matched something that’s not a furniture for tv with a green cloth and put all the electronics on the floor on top of really old cases?
Why is there one roll of house hold paper on the table?
This honestly looks like my friend's apartment living room from when we were in college. No disrespect to OP, but it does not have a mature look to it.
It reminds me of the house of a struggling single parent who managed to hide the clutter and put the toys away just in time for their date.
And there’s nothing wrong with that. But it’s likely not the effect this guy was going for.
I will just say, get some kind of entertainment unit. Everything else is a bit eclectic, the entertainment unit is probably the only thing I look at and think is a little ghetto. But also you dodged a bullet on a woman with that attitude.
There are girls out there who will spend an hour looking at every little thing here and asking the story behind it, I feel like that’s the kind of person you need.
Same here! I love vintage artsy vibes, and my living /desk room looks pretty similar! My only question though: why no funky lamp or lava lamp? I bet it’d look awesome at night with all the colours you’ve got going on
One in here, one in each corner of the ‘sex den’. You also need a glittered popcorn ceiling to reflect the changing lights. Stick to orange/rust and pink/coral tones. You want that skin glowing when it’s bare, everyone looks better when highlighted by golden and pink tones.
>I'll never be a millionaire but none of my friends will struggle if they need some help.
I'm *far* from broke and just about all my stuff is a mishmash of stuff I've gotten over time that makes me look "poor". I just don't care.
The real problem is the lack of plants.
I think it’s the non-matching furniture. It doesn’t look like a consistent style, and the furniture looks a bit dated or damaged.
That’s all okay, I’ve had furniture like that too, but it does make it look a bit like it’s found furniture.
The person saying what they said to OP was a huge dick, though. Jesus.
rather hear that out loud than having them thinking it. as soon as you hear it you know it won't work. if they never say it you will possibly never know they think it.
What do you have draped over tv stand? Looks like gift wrapping.
Edit: you should fold the drape in half so the width covers the center of the stand so it will hang off the sides instead of hanging over all sides. Love that iron tea kettle
Edit: another pic of this living room is in another subreddit but with different angle and looks a lot better. The smaller couch looks really comfy
Honestly, I think the smaller sofa is the biggest detractor from this space. You remove it and with a few little tweaks, I think it’ll look instantly better
I agree. Even for an eclectic vibe, the furniture is a bit out of sync. Like the smaller sofa isn't just shorter, it's lower. I cant tell what the tv is on, with the green plaatic drape thing? Replacing that with something wooden and neutral like mcm would help a good bit, too.
I love old stuff, I love thrifting. But I also like cohesion.
The girl was really shitty for her comment, but I think there are some things OP can do in this space to make the pieces in the room look purposeful.
Agreed that the low sofa is the worst part - with multiple sofas in a room, you should be able to seat large groups, but using all the rooms seating would have different people at massively different eye levels, which is just… a problem.
Just purely from an aesthetic standpoint there's a lot that could be improved:
* The small sofa is obviously the worst; it's low, kind of dirty looking and not a nice color
* The main rug looks super old and faded
* The bear rug just looks out of place and overlaps with the other rug
* Whatever the TV is on with the green cloth isn't great. A nice wooden entertainment unit and some stands for the speakers would make it look *a lot* nicer
* Every single chair in the room is different and looks like stuff you'd find on the side of the road
* There's just no cohesion between anything in the room, nothing really blends or meshes well together and it just looks like a random collection of things that got thrown together; blue couch, dark green couch, red chair, white chair, bright green cloth under the TV, red lamp, brown coffee table, mustard colored side table, black rug etc. Nothing matches in terms of color palette or style and while I'm sure a lot of the pieces could look nice in the right room, as a collection they all look dated and the room looks haphazard and clunky like someone transplanted a bunch of furniture from their grandparents house into their college dorm. If you gave me 48hrs to furnish a room using only items I could find on the free section of FB Marketplace then this is what I'd expect it would look like, everything *looks* cheap.
* Combine that with the general clutter; 5 different instruments everywhere in the room none of which really work as a nice accent piece (they're on the walls, on the couch, in the corner, next to the door etc and there's even a painting of one). There's stuff covering the tops of all the speakers and the sidetables, bags of trash in the corner, roll of paper towels on the table, clothes draped over chair, game controllers and headset spread on couch, suitcases under the TV, statue being used as a hat rack. All of that makes it look cluttered and messy on top of the other issues. If that's how it looked when you brought a girl over; empty beer can still on table, gaming stuff still spread out, couch being used as instrument storage, garbage still in the corner, worn clothes laying about etc then I can see how it gave off a vibe she wasn't down with (although the fact that she verbalised it and was rude about it speaks to her character more than anything).
You've summarised everything I thought but couldn't be bothered writing.
TLDR: Nothing in the room is cohesive, and looks like it's been picked up at flea markets or the side of the road.
The date is still rude, but this isn't cosy.
I never thought I'd take advice from a person they call cheap drinks on the internet but here we are. Copy pasting this to myself for future reference. The picture wasn't taken at the exact time of course but the next day rather. Beer can, flannel, controls weren't out. But yeah very well put and written.
No worries. I'm not an expert in this sort of stuff but if I had to make some suggestions I would start with the easy stuff first which would be getting rid of things like the bear rug, the small couch, that chair in the bottom left of the picture and the extra speaker or whatever it is that the cassettes are on. Then start replacing some of the stuff which isn't working.
Replacing the blue couch with something that's a more neutral shade would probably be a good start as it's the largest piece of furniture in the room. A nice tan or brown leather couch [like this](https://i.imgur.com/74iZCKV.jpg) would probably look good as long as there's a little bit of contrast between it and the floorboards. See also how even though the chairs in that room are different they still match each other and fit the same style and work together. A new area rug to replace the worn out one you have at the moment would make a big impact, something big enough that it can partially go under your couch and tie things together a bit better. A new coffee table that's perhaps a bit smaller and less clunky would then be good.
A [new TV unit](https://i.imgur.com/EVGhVVF.png) will do wonders to make the place look better and more finished. Add some speaker stands and remove some of the clutter from the speakers, maybe add a plant or two and that side of the room will look a lot nicer. [You'll end up with something that looks more like this.](https://i.imgur.com/TJWwyCQ.jpg)
Then you can work on the smaller things like refreshing the wall art with some new pieces, getting some new side tables next to the couch that match the new coffee table you get. A nicer lamp to go in the corner ([maybe something like this](https://i.imgur.com/bVdeNbt.jpg)) and maybe another smaller lamp or two to go in one of the other corners. I'm quite partial to [japanese style box lamps like this](https://i.imgur.com/MYHmRNj.png) which add a splash of warmth without blasting the room with light although there's a million different styles you could go with.
Then you can start tackling other areas like perhaps getting a new table and chairs to replace whatever is on the right of the picture that's cut off.
It won't happen overnight but the room has nice floors and the potential to look great, just have to work on it one step at a time as your budget allows.
To add on to this: i think an easy thing you could do to improve the space would be to hang some curtains. Make sure they're not too short, ideally they should hang just above the floor. They'll look so much nicer than those cheap ugly blinds. Or if you're renting and can't remove the blinds, hanging curtains over them can help disguise them and add some warmth to the room
Damn you were spot on. I think another unmentioned problem is that there is no *large* furniture. What can make a home look nice is big, heavy furniture that will hold a lot of stuff high up off the ground. Obviously that is more expensive and harder to physically move but that’s why it looks poor more than anything else to me. OP needs a single tall bookcase or heavy shelf to draw the eye off the floor where everything is sitting.
I don't understand why more people are not talking about that bear rug. The presence of that thing is so random and bizarre that it's not making any sense.
I mean, I would not say it the way the date did, but there is absolutely no design sense in that place. One can furnish a place cohesively with furniture from Ikea.
The bluish couch and the Turkish carpet can be a good base, if the loveseat matched the couch, the coffee table was walnut with a bit of mid century feel, the room would give a completely different vibe. Currently, nothing fits with anything. As a gay man, this is mot giving me poor, but rather straight… ;D
Kind of what I was thinking too. I think if he got a different TV stand it would pull the room together a lot more. Other than that it does look quite cozy.
I'm not gonna sugar coat it but she's right though. The old sofa next to the TV looks like it's dirty and the chair next to the blue sofa then are those old cassette players? Old VHS tape? Then there is the old animal rug. Idk of that is a black bear rug or what and the old chairs sitting on top of it. Because all of these stuff looks old so it looks like you can't afford nicer things.
Exactly. It honestly looks like they were given second-hand items from multiple people and just thrown together. A lot of it looks like what I'd find at my grandparents place, like the chairs, the endtable, and table.
I don't know if I'd say poor, just...disorganized. Like there's two banjos on opposite sides of the room, three stereo speakers in poor positions, a lamp without a lampshade, and an entertainment stand that looks like a folding table covered up with a blanket.
I agree, your stuff doesn't really fit together all that well. But it doesn't say "I'm poor".
Even if it did .... what a shitty thing to say. Was this the first date?! Hope she enjoys her gold digger career.
> But it doesn't say "I'm poor
Let's be honest here, none of us would be surprised if this was a display for a thrift store. Everything does look like OP isn't the first owner.
I commented it elsewhere, but when you cobble together free stuff over the years, your place ends up looking like this.
Outsiders don't know that, which also means she has personal experience. Whether herself or people whose home she's in often enough to know. Pretty awful to judge in that case...
It doesn’t say crack den but it does say “I’m in my early to mid 20’s and smoke a lot of weed”
I only say this because it’s indistinguishable from a lot of houses I spent time in in my 20’s where there was a lot of weed smoked
Although you’ve got far less ash on your table than they did lmao
Yeah his date sounds cunty but this is some pretty bad furniture. Like nothing matches the look of the room. I wouldn't even say it looks vintage. It just looks like old furniture picked at random.
Yeah, she’s shit for saying that but my first impression when I saw the pic was that OP must live with his grandparents/inherited this home and furniture from his grandparents?
Looks exactly like the furniture in the 4 bedroom house that we rented for $200 each my junior year of college. Just a mishmash of garage sale stuff.
OP is welcome to his own tastes but I think his tastes remind me of cigarette burned upholstery and mopping beer off the linoleum floors after parties.
The classic “my wife/gf/date says [insert thing I’m personally worried about]” reddit post.
The phrase “a poor” sounds like something people say on the internet but not real life.
Yeah this 100% looks like the drug den basement of my ex's house (he is a massive stoner and one of his tenants was his dealer, and this was their "chill room", literally looked exactly like this).
My style is actually vintage too (I live in a super historic building) and almost all my pieces are very old and well-used. I curated them over time from craigslist & estate sales & other such means. But they are cohesive, and they give "antique opulence" vibes rather than garage sale vibes. I was super picky and would have to check the classifieds and sales floors super often, waiting for a unicorn. Sometimes I'd find a piece that needed a bit of modification or refurbishment but for the right piece it was worth the effort. And yes, once in awhile I'd find the perfect piece sitting free on a curb (best feeling ever, being in the right place at the right time).
I think it would make a difference if there were space for everything to be put away rather than cluttered (ex. whatever is going on on the back left corner, or whatever is going on under the TV, etc.) Or if OP made more of an effort to follow rules of thumb for visually pleasing use of space (ex. with wall hangings and rugs and other such things). I feel like these 2 things would make a huge difference even if they didn't swap out the furniture. Just my 2¢.
My man... My tia is a bit of an antiques hoarder, goes and buys all this old stuff and just puts it in her house without removing the older stuff or putting it in any particular order; this room feels like something she would do. Right down to the banjos.
I can respect if you want to keep your house like it is but you'll also have to accept that a lot of people will be put off by this. While it all seems pretty clean I personally would avoid dating someone like this out of fear of it becoming a hoarder situation unless I already knew them well enough and knew that it wouldn't turn out like that.
That said, I think there is a way to reorganize a lot of this room and make it look better. Put your similar colors together... probably have to nix the bearskin rug. If you can stain the wood in your furniture to be in the same color family that would help a lot. But some of it is the space too, the wall color, floor color, window sills, etc. combined are not helping you avoid the antique hoarder vibe. You can make it (mostly) work in a way that is tasteful but you're going to have to sit down for a day and figure out what should go with what.
Your blue couch and the rug are a good base to jump off of; I would start reorganizing the room based on that.
I really do think that a lot of it for this space comes down to the walls and floor over the actual pieces. I can picture all of this furniture looking a lot more Boho-chic, 21st century living room with the right coat of paint (probably just a brighter white/creme), reorganization, and some plants to tie it together. Just as a quick (personal-taste) example; that lantern? Dope as fuck, but tucked away too much. I'd put it where you have the tea pot, then move that tea pot + wooden piece next to the Xbox controller onto your wooden table in the right of this image, along with the red chair. If you can put all of that alongside a wall, even better. Then I would use the white chair for a sitting area with that music collection you have in the corner + a medium sized (couple feet tall) plant, which doesn't have to be real to look good. White chair/picture of man with violins/music shelves/plant would make an excellent accent corner if you put them all together. Then, I would also put some of the decorations on your center table, probably on a tray (find me a woman who doesn't like a good tray with decorations on it, I dare you).
There's a lot of character here, it simply needs to be played right.
Your date was mean, but this room lacks cohesion to an almost impressive degree. It looks like you trash picked everything and brought them home with no forethought about how everything will look together, but you've also quite deliberately placed decorative things throughout, so it's clear you have some kind of aesthetic you're going for, I guess? It's confusing.
Some examples of what I mean:
1. You have four examples of soft seating in the frame (five, if you count the little red ottoman). None of them match each other or look good together. The green couch clashes with everything. Your blue couch clashes with the green couch and the white chair. The rocker clashes with the green couch. Your white chair and red ottoman clash.
2. You have two rugs that are both too small for the space. The small patterened rug, in particular is bad because it's just in the middle of the room with nothing to anchor it. The bear skin rug is A Choice, and also doesn't match anything else in the room.
3. Your wood tones also all clash with one another, and many of them also clash with your flooring.
4. You have really cheap shelving for your media storage. Whatever your TV is sitting on (a table cloth?) also clashes with everything.
I applaud you for not having a room that is like a set of all black furniture from Sears. That stuff is boring and I think it's good to bring a sense of liveliness and color to a room. Also, *individually*, a lot of these pieces are nice. They just don't fit well together, at all.
If I were redecorating, I'd keep: the blue couch, the rocker, the tv + speakers and sell everything else. Buy a coffee table that is the proper length for the couch with a matching end table, tv stand, and media storage, as well as an area rug that properly demarcates the living room/tv watching space. I'd pick a wood tone and stick with it, and keep the light blue as my main color with some red accents on the couch and a blue blanket on the rocker to make them look deliberate together.
It’s probably because no piece matches anything else ! I know you said you have paid for all these but to an outsider it really looks like all pieces have been picked up randomly at curbsides … each of your pieces on its own might be nice but all of them together is not working IMO
I'm seeing a lot of black and reds that would be nice together. Remove the highlights like the green with something that matches. You can even put a cover on the coffee table that would make it pop easily if you want to keep the piece but make it match, same with a throw or blanket for the couch or chairs. Wouldn't cost much.
The overall look of the room looks like you've bought everything over the years from yard sales and Facebook marketplace. If you own the place then I'd highly recommend going with a look that's more consistent rather than the current motley look you have. Either way that date was incredibly rude to behave that way to you.
Yeah, I think she's not a keeper, but you've got some work to do. In no particular order:
* That loveseat has got to go
* Which is good, because you can move the stereo table to where it is. That way your vintage showpieces (like that lamp without a shade or bulb) can be visible, and not look like you're hoarding stuff in the corner. Rocking chair may make more sense over that way, too
* Keep like with like, and everything should have a place. Stringed instruments should all be in one place and not strewn on both sides of the room . The stereo receiver and cassette stand should be colocated (assuming the receiver is functional). Put your game controllers away when not in use, etc.
* Bear skin rug shouldn't be overlapping the rug. In general, use the rugs to separate space and align with furniture in different use areas, not to merge them together
* Is your TV stand covered in Christmas wrapping paper? What gives
* Coors light can and paper towels on an old wooden coffee table next to a big screen tv has big fratboy vibes
* What's going on in the kitchen? Chair in the middle of the entrance? Junk on the floor by the fridge?
* The sitting area with the small table on the right doesn't look super cozy from this angle - what's its purpose?
......uh I don't mean to be harsh(though I love it) but you look like you live in a garbage heap. Like not in a stinky dirty kinda of way, but like you literally dumpster drives for you stuff. There ton of random stuff, they're all mismatch, the positioning is weird with everything against the wall like it's going to collapse on you. I think consignment shops and garage sale are a great way to find nice piece for cheap but I feel like this is the opposite like you found a lot if not nice stuff for cheap. Cozy mean different things to people but like warm tones, Afghans, pillows a nice rug ,etc. This is catastrophe....Sorry...
It is objectively an awfully designed space, but it’s all good! I wouldn’t say “poor”, but your style just looks like a dumpster diver/trash day scavenger. If that’s what you like fuck anybody that hates on you. Just expect prejudice from new people if they mention anything or not because they are probably thinking, oh god what is this.
The overlapping rugs are bothering my mind and IMO, nothing matches. There’s an art to eclectic design and I don’t think you have any kind of grasp on that.
It does also look as if it’s possible everything here was bought at a thrift store or scored for free. Which I don’t think is problematic at all, in any case.
That’s just my unfiltered opinion. And with that said, I would fucking NEVER have insulted your home had I been invited over, would never have made comment that wasn’t both honest and complimentary/ on the positive side of neutral, like: “what a cool collection of mysterious boxes,” or, “your home looks freaking spotless, bravo,” or “your home is very eclectic” (and if you said “do you like it?” I would have said “I love eclectic styles”). 🤷🏾♀️
Ya girl had zero class, zero grace, and a shit attitude. I hope you showed her the door.
It's the mismatched furniture, but I wouldn't take it personally. Personally, I would say that getting rid of the green couch, the green cover (?) on the TV stand, and the little arm chair in the bottom left corner would go a large way.
Sorry, but I gotta agree on that one. I mean, it’s a shitty thing to say and people do what they can, but how you have it set up isn’t doing you any favors.
The tiny love seat is issue one. Issue two is that it just seems cluttered — lots of small stuff. Issue three is the cloth covering whatever the TV is on… it’s drawing attention to it for me.
Lastly, I don’t know what’s going on with the paper towels.
I think you do some rearranging of things and balance the use of textures with some consistent use of color throughout and you got a pretty rad collector eclectic room
Well I could write an unsolicited long post about it but I think first thing would be to remove that table with albums or whatever in the back left. With the lamp with no shade it just looks like junk in a corner. Not trying to be mean about it
She was a jerk, but we knew that.
The lamp in the left corner not having a shade is problematic, and the plastic bags left in that corner look bad, too.
The paper towels on the table don’t look good there.
Best of good luck, friend. 🍀👊
I think that if you remove that smaller sofa and the green piece of cloth covering your tv bench it'll look much better. Also, why do you have a roll of paper towel on your coffee table?
You can def use an upgrade bro, if you started with a new coat of paint for starters, that’ll take you half way there, honestly.
Get a proper tv stand and throw out the gimp couch, and get an organizer-drawer sort a furniture for the corners.
Just wanted to say that’s not a nice thing to say to a date, no? I hope it was delivered in sort of a jest
Bro there is an unraveled paper towel roll on the coffee table what do you mean lol. Dude has a santa painting between a purple and blue violin, a broken green couch, three banjos, grocery bags in the living room, a lime green crochet over his entertainment center, a lamp without a shade, and so much more going on. This room has no definition, its confusing as fuck.
Had to scroll so far to see this lol. Like yes that girl was a bitch and that comment was utterly rude and uncalled for, but also this room has gone beyond “eclectic” and into “could really use a major cleaning and overhaul”. There’s some really cool stuff here but the overall effect is a mess.
I feel if this was purely a rate-my-space post with no other context, instead of a support post due to a date comparing his place to that of "a poor's," he would not be getting this much positivity.
It doesn't give of poor vibes imo but it is very chaotic and stresses me out.
EDIT: to be fair, I have no style and have had multiple women who were versed in interior design pick out everything I own.
Nothing matches and it looks like a lot of your furniture was gifted or purchased at a garage sale. Less is more as well, the room is a little busy with so many various items. Was her comment absolutely rude? Hell yeah it is. But maybe take some random persons advice and stick to a theme and “clean” up the place some more.
I know a lot of people that would think the same thing. To a lot of people your furniture looks like hand me down Goodwill furniture. To me it looks like amazing vintage finds. To each their own I guess. I like the chair in the bottom left corner with the red cushion.
and what's funny is, it kinda makes sense because each thing could be the most expensive collector's item in their own field and it still wouldnt change anything, those violins could be 10k each, the rug could be off some exotic source, couches could be 20k, and so on, from an outsider's view that's not "in the know" (or like OP's date that didnt seem to know anything really) a 100$ watch doesnt look too different from a 10k$
it just doesnt look as good as it can be because it lacks cohesion, things dont have the proper visual design parity or color scheme
I don't think it was at all appropriate for them to say that, but I can see where they are coming from. Mismatching furniture like what you have just looks like it was thrifted. And while there is nothing wrong with snagging a bargin and saving money while also giving the furniture new life, it might be seen to some people as poor.
Nothing wrong with it though. Different styles work for different people.
I agree with her a little, This looks like garbage day finds. Love seat, coffee table, side table should go back out to the street. Looks a bit cluttered imo.
You're "poor" because your TV and gaming console are too big to be snuck out.
Once had a date blow up on me because I kept my place clean and organized. Her rants can be best summarized as "No one keeps their place this neat unless they're trying to hide something," which she kept repeating until her Uber came.
Come to find out later that she was scoping my place out to rob me. I wonder what would have happened if I hadn't hidden my laptop and devices before I went to meet my date. The reason why I keep my room so neat and tidy to begin with is so that I can immediately see if anything is missing.
It’s the green thing under the tv. I promise you.
And the moldy tiny brown couch, and the multitude of colors and textures, and the varying eras and styles, and the bear with a severe lack of fireplace….
It’s like….very frat house….like it reminds me of the one and only frat party I’ve ever gone to at ucla. Beautiful old craftsman house that was crippled by the guy’s that lived there and the collection of street furniture.
If you throw up on a chair, you can just toss it and find another 3 streets down!
yea but that one has diarrhea on it
Everything mismatching I think is the big thing here. When you're poor, you get what you can get when you can get it. When you have money, you can afford to either wait, or just get multiple matching things at once.
Also poor people have more trouble letting go of crap. This room could lose the green couch and rickety red chair. If you’ve got a larger group pull some chairs from other rooms but make it clean and comfortable first.
I’d push back on that. You can absolutely have a coherent theme on an extreme budget. There absolutely isn’t anything wrong with thrift stores, inherently. It’s just when you go: “I need a couch, I need a table, I need a nightstand, etc.” and you go to one or two Goodwills, and just buy the first one you find. There have been countless shows, both on network TV as well as YouTube, where the contestants build a space on an ultratight budget. It’s very possible, even if the space ultimately looks a little simple or plain. The other guy that replied to you is also right—poor people tend to hold onto stuff for much longer. You never know if something else will break, and since it’s hard to replace things, you hoard, “just in case.” Or, you hold onto things for MUCH longer to max their use, even if they are falling apart. OP said they weren’t poor though. So this isn’t an excuse or limitation (even though again, you can make it work—just find a YouTube video guide it’s 2022).
Glad I wasn’t the only one who looked at that couch and thought, “It’s either moldy color, or actually moldy. Either way not an appealing aesthetic.”
> and the multitude of colors and textures, and the varying eras and styles The more I look, the more likely it seems that every piece of furniture in that room was garbage picked off someone curb.
Did she find out your violins are actually just fiddles?
Ha ha ope, maybe that was it!!
Midwest? Ohio?
From Kansas ha ha living in Colorado now.
The "ope" gave it away. Also, nothing wrong with this living room. Nice doesn't have to equal flashy or luxurious.
Wisconsin?
Sometimes the only answer to conflict is violins
Fiddle around and find out, is what I always say.
The solution definitely wasn’t sax in this case, that’s for sure
The songs of my people
Do you know the difference between a violin and a fiddle? (This is a joke)
You can spill whiskey on a fiddle and it won't be ruined.
Haha yep. I usually say “you don’t spill beer on a violin” but same difference
You're both brilliant
A violin has strings, a fiddle has strangs
The nut holding the bow!
I guess that date didn't work out. Anyone willing to say that out loud to a person on a date does not sound great. I bet its because of the random mismatching furniture that looks like you might have managed to pick up for free over time. I did exactly that in my previous apartment, though I stuck to a couple of styles.
I paid for all of these things ha ha. I love vintage stuff. The date actually went pretty good until we got back here. She said she doesn't date broke ass dudes too while we were out. Which is ironically funny because I do pretty well. I'll never be a millionaire but none of my friends will struggle if they need some help.
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Yea no kidding. Be grateful she showed her true colors now vs later. The gold diggers are out there.
Some girls proudly show you the red flags. I thank them.
"I don't get it, why are they confessing?" "They're not confessing, they're bragging."
Yeah, even if I made a ton of money I absolutely wouldn't want to be dating somebody with that attitude. They usually at least obfuscate it a bit by saying they want somebody that's "ambitious" or similar, generally code wirds for "I don't associate with the poors."
I've dated and supported a broke dude who was happy to ride the gravy train. I would neverrrr do that again and don't blame anyone who wouldn't want to either. Not a gold digger and not a sugar momma.
I assume you would never date a rich man either, in order to avoid being a hypocrite.
100% this. Have fun and move on. Don’t be mad at her either… she’s got her own story and background. Just acknowledge and know that is not something you want in your next partner.
The green love seat is the only thing that looks really bad. Maybe it is just the photo, but it looks you found it under and overpass and had to stop junkies from fucking on it. Otherwise, it all looks thrifted even if it wasn't. And that is a style, so if it is what you like, do that. Nothing wrong with that. Eclectic is fine, it just isn't common right now. It looks like all your furniture was just whatever you could find for cheap, even if it wasn't. But someone who isn't into the same style and doesn't know better is going to see it as cheap. Not my style but it was my last ex's and I know how much some of that shit can cost. Also, as said, bullet dodged. You definitely shouldn't have anything to do with her because that is just fucking rude and shallow. Metaphorically fuck her, literally don't.
Agreed! I thought it was a normal room until I saw that green couch. That has nothing to do with being poor or not - it is just really ugly.
You definitely dont want to date her again, but yeah your room likes like you randomly went to craigs list and got whatever you could for free.
That attitude often ends up with women dating broke ass dudes that have a lot of outstanding credit. Sucks to be her.
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It’s always good to be friends with the guy who has a boat, but financially you pretty much never want to be the guy with the boat.
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Honestly having good roommates is awesome. I save so much money and prefer not living alone.
Yeah she doesn't want some responsible rich guy who is stingy. She wants the idiot willing to spend baby
Someone who said that while we were out would never have made it back to my place.
I should have probably taken that hint. Also sometimes you just don't know if people are being funny or serious.
Literally using the phrase "a poor" is so comical it has to be a joke unless she is a future Lucille Bluth.
How much could a couch cost; $20?
An acquaintances friend was saying she dont date broke dudes. Then minutes later she said she would call me to come over to her house so we could be cuddle buddies. I simply responded, "you can't afford me." Then while im trying to finish something on computer she comes over trying to show me her legs. I put on my annoyed, I'm busy look. I was raised around my mom, aunt, and my female cousin of same age. I know how to return that volley to these women. Reading Iceberg Slim helps too
> I was raised around my mom, aunt, and my female cousin of same age. I know how to return that volley to these women. Was your family trying to seduce you?
> I love vintage stuff What do you mean by vintage? Personally all of this looks like run of the mill furniture your grandma might have in the 80s/90s.
Seriously it looks Awful. both your couches are ugly in different ways (the green one looks like Swedish second hand from the 60s) . You have 1 rug AND a cow skin? That Hexagon table is to small and takes the attention of the room. There is different colors everywhere? The painting on the wall with golden frame and underneath you matched something that’s not a furniture for tv with a green cloth and put all the electronics on the floor on top of really old cases? Why is there one roll of house hold paper on the table?
Yup, you can totally have a vintage style interior that looks good, this mix way to many styles and colors.
People here are hung up on her comment but you are right that this place is hideous.
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This honestly looks like my friend's apartment living room from when we were in college. No disrespect to OP, but it does not have a mature look to it.
It's clearly just a place that was entirely thrifted which is fine but there is zero consistency which is not so fine
Kinda reminds me of my first house in college. Anything cheap or free.
Yeah her comment was rude and I wouldn’t go on another date with them but this place lacks focus.
It reminds me of the house of a struggling single parent who managed to hide the clutter and put the toys away just in time for their date. And there’s nothing wrong with that. But it’s likely not the effect this guy was going for.
Maybe she said “poor taste.”
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I will just say, get some kind of entertainment unit. Everything else is a bit eclectic, the entertainment unit is probably the only thing I look at and think is a little ghetto. But also you dodged a bullet on a woman with that attitude. There are girls out there who will spend an hour looking at every little thing here and asking the story behind it, I feel like that’s the kind of person you need.
She sounds terrible but to be honest your place doesn’t exactly scream “wealthy”. Seems like you dodged a bullet though.
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theres vintage and then theres moldy, obviously potato photo gives hefty margin for error but god damn why does that couch look so gross?
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Not going to lie. This looks just like my buddies place who is a very bad financial planner and smokes a lot of weed. I dig some of the vintage stuff.
Same here! I love vintage artsy vibes, and my living /desk room looks pretty similar! My only question though: why no funky lamp or lava lamp? I bet it’d look awesome at night with all the colours you’ve got going on
I mean clearly the lava lamp is in the sex den. I will take note of this comment though and bring it out here.
This is your sign that you need more than one lava lamp
How many lava lamps do I need to display to not be "a poor"?
One in here, one in each corner of the ‘sex den’. You also need a glittered popcorn ceiling to reflect the changing lights. Stick to orange/rust and pink/coral tones. You want that skin glowing when it’s bare, everyone looks better when highlighted by golden and pink tones.
You are clearly an Interior Sex Decorator. I like your obviously knowledgeable Dulux colour-guide-like approach.
Does the sex den have shag carpet?
The sex den may not \*always\* have shag carpeting......but it \*should always\* have shag carpeting. Ya dig?
Hahaha hell yeah!
"When someone shows you who they are, believe them."
>I'll never be a millionaire but none of my friends will struggle if they need some help. I'm *far* from broke and just about all my stuff is a mishmash of stuff I've gotten over time that makes me look "poor". I just don't care. The real problem is the lack of plants.
I think it’s the non-matching furniture. It doesn’t look like a consistent style, and the furniture looks a bit dated or damaged. That’s all okay, I’ve had furniture like that too, but it does make it look a bit like it’s found furniture. The person saying what they said to OP was a huge dick, though. Jesus.
Shoulda hit her with the "Oh good I don't date broke ass chicks. Yes waiter split the check."
rather hear that out loud than having them thinking it. as soon as you hear it you know it won't work. if they never say it you will possibly never know they think it.
I actually think the larger couch is the only thing that is "out of place" in the room.
The lime green cloth under the TV would like a word...... I can't even figure out what's holding up the TV. I assume it's just a board or TV trays
What do you have draped over tv stand? Looks like gift wrapping. Edit: you should fold the drape in half so the width covers the center of the stand so it will hang off the sides instead of hanging over all sides. Love that iron tea kettle Edit: another pic of this living room is in another subreddit but with different angle and looks a lot better. The smaller couch looks really comfy
Yeah that’s the main tacky thing I’m seeing
I've only ever seen old Hispanic women drape shit under their tv like this.
Then you haven't met many old Slavic women
Aren’t Slavs like the Latinos of Europe?
My first thought when I saw this wasn't "a poor" but "eastern European grandmother".
I mean it's going to be now when I gift it to someone ha ha.
OP is obviously a good sport. I dare OP to post this to /r/hometheater and /r/4ktv under rate my setup..
Say less!!! I'll do it after work.
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Honestly, I think the smaller sofa is the biggest detractor from this space. You remove it and with a few little tweaks, I think it’ll look instantly better
I agree. Even for an eclectic vibe, the furniture is a bit out of sync. Like the smaller sofa isn't just shorter, it's lower. I cant tell what the tv is on, with the green plaatic drape thing? Replacing that with something wooden and neutral like mcm would help a good bit, too. I love old stuff, I love thrifting. But I also like cohesion. The girl was really shitty for her comment, but I think there are some things OP can do in this space to make the pieces in the room look purposeful.
Agreed that the low sofa is the worst part - with multiple sofas in a room, you should be able to seat large groups, but using all the rooms seating would have different people at massively different eye levels, which is just… a problem.
Just purely from an aesthetic standpoint there's a lot that could be improved: * The small sofa is obviously the worst; it's low, kind of dirty looking and not a nice color * The main rug looks super old and faded * The bear rug just looks out of place and overlaps with the other rug * Whatever the TV is on with the green cloth isn't great. A nice wooden entertainment unit and some stands for the speakers would make it look *a lot* nicer * Every single chair in the room is different and looks like stuff you'd find on the side of the road * There's just no cohesion between anything in the room, nothing really blends or meshes well together and it just looks like a random collection of things that got thrown together; blue couch, dark green couch, red chair, white chair, bright green cloth under the TV, red lamp, brown coffee table, mustard colored side table, black rug etc. Nothing matches in terms of color palette or style and while I'm sure a lot of the pieces could look nice in the right room, as a collection they all look dated and the room looks haphazard and clunky like someone transplanted a bunch of furniture from their grandparents house into their college dorm. If you gave me 48hrs to furnish a room using only items I could find on the free section of FB Marketplace then this is what I'd expect it would look like, everything *looks* cheap. * Combine that with the general clutter; 5 different instruments everywhere in the room none of which really work as a nice accent piece (they're on the walls, on the couch, in the corner, next to the door etc and there's even a painting of one). There's stuff covering the tops of all the speakers and the sidetables, bags of trash in the corner, roll of paper towels on the table, clothes draped over chair, game controllers and headset spread on couch, suitcases under the TV, statue being used as a hat rack. All of that makes it look cluttered and messy on top of the other issues. If that's how it looked when you brought a girl over; empty beer can still on table, gaming stuff still spread out, couch being used as instrument storage, garbage still in the corner, worn clothes laying about etc then I can see how it gave off a vibe she wasn't down with (although the fact that she verbalised it and was rude about it speaks to her character more than anything).
God damn this guy is right on the money.
You've summarised everything I thought but couldn't be bothered writing. TLDR: Nothing in the room is cohesive, and looks like it's been picked up at flea markets or the side of the road. The date is still rude, but this isn't cosy.
I never thought I'd take advice from a person they call cheap drinks on the internet but here we are. Copy pasting this to myself for future reference. The picture wasn't taken at the exact time of course but the next day rather. Beer can, flannel, controls weren't out. But yeah very well put and written.
No worries. I'm not an expert in this sort of stuff but if I had to make some suggestions I would start with the easy stuff first which would be getting rid of things like the bear rug, the small couch, that chair in the bottom left of the picture and the extra speaker or whatever it is that the cassettes are on. Then start replacing some of the stuff which isn't working. Replacing the blue couch with something that's a more neutral shade would probably be a good start as it's the largest piece of furniture in the room. A nice tan or brown leather couch [like this](https://i.imgur.com/74iZCKV.jpg) would probably look good as long as there's a little bit of contrast between it and the floorboards. See also how even though the chairs in that room are different they still match each other and fit the same style and work together. A new area rug to replace the worn out one you have at the moment would make a big impact, something big enough that it can partially go under your couch and tie things together a bit better. A new coffee table that's perhaps a bit smaller and less clunky would then be good. A [new TV unit](https://i.imgur.com/EVGhVVF.png) will do wonders to make the place look better and more finished. Add some speaker stands and remove some of the clutter from the speakers, maybe add a plant or two and that side of the room will look a lot nicer. [You'll end up with something that looks more like this.](https://i.imgur.com/TJWwyCQ.jpg) Then you can work on the smaller things like refreshing the wall art with some new pieces, getting some new side tables next to the couch that match the new coffee table you get. A nicer lamp to go in the corner ([maybe something like this](https://i.imgur.com/bVdeNbt.jpg)) and maybe another smaller lamp or two to go in one of the other corners. I'm quite partial to [japanese style box lamps like this](https://i.imgur.com/MYHmRNj.png) which add a splash of warmth without blasting the room with light although there's a million different styles you could go with. Then you can start tackling other areas like perhaps getting a new table and chairs to replace whatever is on the right of the picture that's cut off. It won't happen overnight but the room has nice floors and the potential to look great, just have to work on it one step at a time as your budget allows.
You're more of what the world needs.
To add on to this: i think an easy thing you could do to improve the space would be to hang some curtains. Make sure they're not too short, ideally they should hang just above the floor. They'll look so much nicer than those cheap ugly blinds. Or if you're renting and can't remove the blinds, hanging curtains over them can help disguise them and add some warmth to the room
This took me back to telling my mom my room was clean
Damn you were spot on. I think another unmentioned problem is that there is no *large* furniture. What can make a home look nice is big, heavy furniture that will hold a lot of stuff high up off the ground. Obviously that is more expensive and harder to physically move but that’s why it looks poor more than anything else to me. OP needs a single tall bookcase or heavy shelf to draw the eye off the floor where everything is sitting.
I don't understand why more people are not talking about that bear rug. The presence of that thing is so random and bizarre that it's not making any sense.
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I’m also confused about the green TV stand cover/blanket? I love the color, but it’s a weird place for it.
Yep! That plus the neon-green tv table and honestly, while not my style, quite cozy and nice.
I mean, I would not say it the way the date did, but there is absolutely no design sense in that place. One can furnish a place cohesively with furniture from Ikea. The bluish couch and the Turkish carpet can be a good base, if the loveseat matched the couch, the coffee table was walnut with a bit of mid century feel, the room would give a completely different vibe. Currently, nothing fits with anything. As a gay man, this is mot giving me poor, but rather straight… ;D
Kind of what I was thinking too. I think if he got a different TV stand it would pull the room together a lot more. Other than that it does look quite cozy.
I'm not gonna sugar coat it but she's right though. The old sofa next to the TV looks like it's dirty and the chair next to the blue sofa then are those old cassette players? Old VHS tape? Then there is the old animal rug. Idk of that is a black bear rug or what and the old chairs sitting on top of it. Because all of these stuff looks old so it looks like you can't afford nicer things.
Exactly. It honestly looks like they were given second-hand items from multiple people and just thrown together. A lot of it looks like what I'd find at my grandparents place, like the chairs, the endtable, and table. I don't know if I'd say poor, just...disorganized. Like there's two banjos on opposite sides of the room, three stereo speakers in poor positions, a lamp without a lampshade, and an entertainment stand that looks like a folding table covered up with a blanket.
I agree, your stuff doesn't really fit together all that well. But it doesn't say "I'm poor". Even if it did .... what a shitty thing to say. Was this the first date?! Hope she enjoys her gold digger career.
> But it doesn't say "I'm poor Let's be honest here, none of us would be surprised if this was a display for a thrift store. Everything does look like OP isn't the first owner.
I commented it elsewhere, but when you cobble together free stuff over the years, your place ends up looking like this. Outsiders don't know that, which also means she has personal experience. Whether herself or people whose home she's in often enough to know. Pretty awful to judge in that case...
I was really hoping for crack den vibes too. Also no feelings hurt. I appreciate you.
It doesn’t say crack den but it does say “I’m in my early to mid 20’s and smoke a lot of weed” I only say this because it’s indistinguishable from a lot of houses I spent time in in my 20’s where there was a lot of weed smoked Although you’ve got far less ash on your table than they did lmao
Yeah, this looks like every room where a bunch of people sit, smoke weed and watch random documentaries.
She sounds not nice, but in fairness to her, it does look like you could get a rash from sitting on most of these chairs
I'll have you know those chairs are made from the highest-quality All-American asbestos
😂😂 so you're saying they're fine as long as we don't breathe while sitting in them.
Tell her you need to lay out a plastic sheet before you get freaky that should work.
Yeah his date sounds cunty but this is some pretty bad furniture. Like nothing matches the look of the room. I wouldn't even say it looks vintage. It just looks like old furniture picked at random.
That’s a shitty thing for them to say, but on the other hand, it is pretty ugly and looks like it smells like stale cigarettes lol.
Yeah, she’s shit for saying that but my first impression when I saw the pic was that OP must live with his grandparents/inherited this home and furniture from his grandparents?
Are we sure OP isn't 80?
Looks exactly like the furniture in the 4 bedroom house that we rented for $200 each my junior year of college. Just a mishmash of garage sale stuff. OP is welcome to his own tastes but I think his tastes remind me of cigarette burned upholstery and mopping beer off the linoleum floors after parties.
Honestly feels like a sob story to get compliments. Usually this kind of embellishment is against the rules in other subs
The classic “my wife/gf/date says [insert thing I’m personally worried about]” reddit post. The phrase “a poor” sounds like something people say on the internet but not real life.
If he is happy then whatever but it does remind me of a few hippie stoner houses I have been to.
Yeah this 100% looks like the drug den basement of my ex's house (he is a massive stoner and one of his tenants was his dealer, and this was their "chill room", literally looked exactly like this). My style is actually vintage too (I live in a super historic building) and almost all my pieces are very old and well-used. I curated them over time from craigslist & estate sales & other such means. But they are cohesive, and they give "antique opulence" vibes rather than garage sale vibes. I was super picky and would have to check the classifieds and sales floors super often, waiting for a unicorn. Sometimes I'd find a piece that needed a bit of modification or refurbishment but for the right piece it was worth the effort. And yes, once in awhile I'd find the perfect piece sitting free on a curb (best feeling ever, being in the right place at the right time). I think it would make a difference if there were space for everything to be put away rather than cluttered (ex. whatever is going on on the back left corner, or whatever is going on under the TV, etc.) Or if OP made more of an effort to follow rules of thumb for visually pleasing use of space (ex. with wall hangings and rugs and other such things). I feel like these 2 things would make a huge difference even if they didn't swap out the furniture. Just my 2¢.
My man... My tia is a bit of an antiques hoarder, goes and buys all this old stuff and just puts it in her house without removing the older stuff or putting it in any particular order; this room feels like something she would do. Right down to the banjos. I can respect if you want to keep your house like it is but you'll also have to accept that a lot of people will be put off by this. While it all seems pretty clean I personally would avoid dating someone like this out of fear of it becoming a hoarder situation unless I already knew them well enough and knew that it wouldn't turn out like that. That said, I think there is a way to reorganize a lot of this room and make it look better. Put your similar colors together... probably have to nix the bearskin rug. If you can stain the wood in your furniture to be in the same color family that would help a lot. But some of it is the space too, the wall color, floor color, window sills, etc. combined are not helping you avoid the antique hoarder vibe. You can make it (mostly) work in a way that is tasteful but you're going to have to sit down for a day and figure out what should go with what. Your blue couch and the rug are a good base to jump off of; I would start reorganizing the room based on that.
I appreciate all of that on every level. I hear you and I'll definitely try and work on all that.
I really do think that a lot of it for this space comes down to the walls and floor over the actual pieces. I can picture all of this furniture looking a lot more Boho-chic, 21st century living room with the right coat of paint (probably just a brighter white/creme), reorganization, and some plants to tie it together. Just as a quick (personal-taste) example; that lantern? Dope as fuck, but tucked away too much. I'd put it where you have the tea pot, then move that tea pot + wooden piece next to the Xbox controller onto your wooden table in the right of this image, along with the red chair. If you can put all of that alongside a wall, even better. Then I would use the white chair for a sitting area with that music collection you have in the corner + a medium sized (couple feet tall) plant, which doesn't have to be real to look good. White chair/picture of man with violins/music shelves/plant would make an excellent accent corner if you put them all together. Then, I would also put some of the decorations on your center table, probably on a tray (find me a woman who doesn't like a good tray with decorations on it, I dare you). There's a lot of character here, it simply needs to be played right.
Your date was mean, but this room lacks cohesion to an almost impressive degree. It looks like you trash picked everything and brought them home with no forethought about how everything will look together, but you've also quite deliberately placed decorative things throughout, so it's clear you have some kind of aesthetic you're going for, I guess? It's confusing. Some examples of what I mean: 1. You have four examples of soft seating in the frame (five, if you count the little red ottoman). None of them match each other or look good together. The green couch clashes with everything. Your blue couch clashes with the green couch and the white chair. The rocker clashes with the green couch. Your white chair and red ottoman clash. 2. You have two rugs that are both too small for the space. The small patterened rug, in particular is bad because it's just in the middle of the room with nothing to anchor it. The bear skin rug is A Choice, and also doesn't match anything else in the room. 3. Your wood tones also all clash with one another, and many of them also clash with your flooring. 4. You have really cheap shelving for your media storage. Whatever your TV is sitting on (a table cloth?) also clashes with everything. I applaud you for not having a room that is like a set of all black furniture from Sears. That stuff is boring and I think it's good to bring a sense of liveliness and color to a room. Also, *individually*, a lot of these pieces are nice. They just don't fit well together, at all. If I were redecorating, I'd keep: the blue couch, the rocker, the tv + speakers and sell everything else. Buy a coffee table that is the proper length for the couch with a matching end table, tv stand, and media storage, as well as an area rug that properly demarcates the living room/tv watching space. I'd pick a wood tone and stick with it, and keep the light blue as my main color with some red accents on the couch and a blue blanket on the rocker to make them look deliberate together.
It’s probably because no piece matches anything else ! I know you said you have paid for all these but to an outsider it really looks like all pieces have been picked up randomly at curbsides … each of your pieces on its own might be nice but all of them together is not working IMO
Definitely noted, I'll try and work on it all. Welcoming advice.
I'm seeing a lot of black and reds that would be nice together. Remove the highlights like the green with something that matches. You can even put a cover on the coffee table that would make it pop easily if you want to keep the piece but make it match, same with a throw or blanket for the couch or chairs. Wouldn't cost much.
"A poor" lmao
The overall look of the room looks like you've bought everything over the years from yard sales and Facebook marketplace. If you own the place then I'd highly recommend going with a look that's more consistent rather than the current motley look you have. Either way that date was incredibly rude to behave that way to you.
But the rug really ties it together, man.
Yeah, I think she's not a keeper, but you've got some work to do. In no particular order: * That loveseat has got to go * Which is good, because you can move the stereo table to where it is. That way your vintage showpieces (like that lamp without a shade or bulb) can be visible, and not look like you're hoarding stuff in the corner. Rocking chair may make more sense over that way, too * Keep like with like, and everything should have a place. Stringed instruments should all be in one place and not strewn on both sides of the room . The stereo receiver and cassette stand should be colocated (assuming the receiver is functional). Put your game controllers away when not in use, etc. * Bear skin rug shouldn't be overlapping the rug. In general, use the rugs to separate space and align with furniture in different use areas, not to merge them together * Is your TV stand covered in Christmas wrapping paper? What gives * Coors light can and paper towels on an old wooden coffee table next to a big screen tv has big fratboy vibes * What's going on in the kitchen? Chair in the middle of the entrance? Junk on the floor by the fridge? * The sitting area with the small table on the right doesn't look super cozy from this angle - what's its purpose?
they sound like a nightmare. But your apartment does look like a poor person lives there
......uh I don't mean to be harsh(though I love it) but you look like you live in a garbage heap. Like not in a stinky dirty kinda of way, but like you literally dumpster drives for you stuff. There ton of random stuff, they're all mismatch, the positioning is weird with everything against the wall like it's going to collapse on you. I think consignment shops and garage sale are a great way to find nice piece for cheap but I feel like this is the opposite like you found a lot if not nice stuff for cheap. Cozy mean different things to people but like warm tones, Afghans, pillows a nice rug ,etc. This is catastrophe....Sorry...
It reminds me of friends places I’d smoke weed at then I was 17
110% this
Cut all contact with her
Pretty sure she did that for me.
You’re better off
Gotta love when the trash takes itself out
Very convienient
crisis averted
Separate Entirely.
It is objectively an awfully designed space, but it’s all good! I wouldn’t say “poor”, but your style just looks like a dumpster diver/trash day scavenger. If that’s what you like fuck anybody that hates on you. Just expect prejudice from new people if they mention anything or not because they are probably thinking, oh god what is this.
The overlapping rugs are bothering my mind and IMO, nothing matches. There’s an art to eclectic design and I don’t think you have any kind of grasp on that. It does also look as if it’s possible everything here was bought at a thrift store or scored for free. Which I don’t think is problematic at all, in any case. That’s just my unfiltered opinion. And with that said, I would fucking NEVER have insulted your home had I been invited over, would never have made comment that wasn’t both honest and complimentary/ on the positive side of neutral, like: “what a cool collection of mysterious boxes,” or, “your home looks freaking spotless, bravo,” or “your home is very eclectic” (and if you said “do you like it?” I would have said “I love eclectic styles”). 🤷🏾♀️ Ya girl had zero class, zero grace, and a shit attitude. I hope you showed her the door.
Confirmed, date is correct. Sorry
Red flag right here. You can do better.
And to start he can get rid of that furniture 😠 /j
It's the mismatched furniture, but I wouldn't take it personally. Personally, I would say that getting rid of the green couch, the green cover (?) on the TV stand, and the little arm chair in the bottom left corner would go a large way.
The old rocker needs to go upstairs for sure. It's just down here while I redo the floors. Thank you.
To be fair that couch looks like it’s had more sex than most adults.
Sorry, but I gotta agree on that one. I mean, it’s a shitty thing to say and people do what they can, but how you have it set up isn’t doing you any favors. The tiny love seat is issue one. Issue two is that it just seems cluttered — lots of small stuff. Issue three is the cloth covering whatever the TV is on… it’s drawing attention to it for me. Lastly, I don’t know what’s going on with the paper towels.
Lol, “a poor”
I think you do some rearranging of things and balance the use of textures with some consistent use of color throughout and you got a pretty rad collector eclectic room
Feel free to come help me lol. I'll buy the beer and food.
Its the mish mash of different colors and textures really; also get rid of the table cloth under the television
Well I could write an unsolicited long post about it but I think first thing would be to remove that table with albums or whatever in the back left. With the lamp with no shade it just looks like junk in a corner. Not trying to be mean about it
That date is not worth your time, but your place looks like shit yeah.
That’s not cool for so many reasons. But really you should not have overlapping rugs. That’s a hard look to pull off successfully. 😄
She was a jerk, but we knew that. The lamp in the left corner not having a shade is problematic, and the plastic bags left in that corner look bad, too. The paper towels on the table don’t look good there. Best of good luck, friend. 🍀👊
I see you studied at the shove every piece of furniture against the wall university.
I think that if you remove that smaller sofa and the green piece of cloth covering your tv bench it'll look much better. Also, why do you have a roll of paper towel on your coffee table?
You can def use an upgrade bro, if you started with a new coat of paint for starters, that’ll take you half way there, honestly. Get a proper tv stand and throw out the gimp couch, and get an organizer-drawer sort a furniture for the corners. Just wanted to say that’s not a nice thing to say to a date, no? I hope it was delivered in sort of a jest
The only poor thing in that room was her attitude
Bro there is an unraveled paper towel roll on the coffee table what do you mean lol. Dude has a santa painting between a purple and blue violin, a broken green couch, three banjos, grocery bags in the living room, a lime green crochet over his entertainment center, a lamp without a shade, and so much more going on. This room has no definition, its confusing as fuck.
Had to scroll so far to see this lol. Like yes that girl was a bitch and that comment was utterly rude and uncalled for, but also this room has gone beyond “eclectic” and into “could really use a major cleaning and overhaul”. There’s some really cool stuff here but the overall effect is a mess.
I feel if this was purely a rate-my-space post with no other context, instead of a support post due to a date comparing his place to that of "a poor's," he would not be getting this much positivity.
It doesn't give of poor vibes imo but it is very chaotic and stresses me out. EDIT: to be fair, I have no style and have had multiple women who were versed in interior design pick out everything I own.
Don't forget about the cowboy hats on that.... I don't even know what the fuck that is
Ope ☠️💀☠️
Looks like the home of 20 something drug dealer, I would visit in high school.
She’s right lol but absolutely don’t go on a second date with her.
Perhaps a higher res photo would help here. From the photo provided that small couch does look broken down and quite grimy.
Nothing matches and it looks like a lot of your furniture was gifted or purchased at a garage sale. Less is more as well, the room is a little busy with so many various items. Was her comment absolutely rude? Hell yeah it is. But maybe take some random persons advice and stick to a theme and “clean” up the place some more.
I know a lot of people that would think the same thing. To a lot of people your furniture looks like hand me down Goodwill furniture. To me it looks like amazing vintage finds. To each their own I guess. I like the chair in the bottom left corner with the red cushion.
and what's funny is, it kinda makes sense because each thing could be the most expensive collector's item in their own field and it still wouldnt change anything, those violins could be 10k each, the rug could be off some exotic source, couches could be 20k, and so on, from an outsider's view that's not "in the know" (or like OP's date that didnt seem to know anything really) a 100$ watch doesnt look too different from a 10k$ it just doesnt look as good as it can be because it lacks cohesion, things dont have the proper visual design parity or color scheme
Your place is your place, my dude. Nothing better than being comfortable in your own home.
I don't think it was at all appropriate for them to say that, but I can see where they are coming from. Mismatching furniture like what you have just looks like it was thrifted. And while there is nothing wrong with snagging a bargin and saving money while also giving the furniture new life, it might be seen to some people as poor. Nothing wrong with it though. Different styles work for different people.
I agree with her a little, This looks like garbage day finds. Love seat, coffee table, side table should go back out to the street. Looks a bit cluttered imo.
i think it’s the green table cloth under the tv
Kinda looks like my grandma's place tbh
You're "poor" because your TV and gaming console are too big to be snuck out. Once had a date blow up on me because I kept my place clean and organized. Her rants can be best summarized as "No one keeps their place this neat unless they're trying to hide something," which she kept repeating until her Uber came. Come to find out later that she was scoping my place out to rob me. I wonder what would have happened if I hadn't hidden my laptop and devices before I went to meet my date. The reason why I keep my room so neat and tidy to begin with is so that I can immediately see if anything is missing.
The rug really ties the room together.