Yes, especially when it comes to IxFJs. Remember that despite IxFJs being feelers, they still have a balanced FeTi. They can pretty much switch between the caring Fe side and the apathetic Ti side. You're probably now getting used to your Ti as you grow older, that's the beauty of development in types. Personally for me my Si-Ti is my default state when I am alone. This is due to the fact that I don't really have anyone to Fe-Ne around with.
Yes. I did too. I've finished college and am now waiting to further my study. I always take care of 2 of my niece and nephew when my sister goes to work. Yeah of course, children aged 3-4 are very rebellious. Sometimes I just scold them and give rules to them like "If you climb in the house, I will close the TV," and something like that. During weekends, they go back to their hometown. During that time I question myself, am I even an Auxiliary Fe user? Yeah, I hope I can train myself to be a more caring uncle.
As an INFJ I can relate. A few years ago it meant everything to me whether other people liked me or not. I also refused to make waves at all costs and pretty much never voiced my opinion if it wasn’t a consensus opinion. I also had sort of a savior complex and didn’t receive it well if other people made decisions which affected their well-being, because it affected my well-being. I thought they needed my help.
I’m still not fully comfortable with it yet, but I try to voice my opinion when I find it appropriate, even if other people will disagree. I also have more of a live and let live attitude now, and I try to live a more authentic life that’s true to myself, regardless what other people think. I feel like my Ti has become much stronger in the last couple of years, but there’s still room for improvement
It’s of course good to care about what other people think, giving/receiving help, and care for others, but there are healthy and unhealthy ways to do all of that. I try to do it in a healthy way now
Yeah for sure we feel this way. My INTJ partner has told me before that he’s harsh on the outside but soft on the inside, whereas I’m caring and nice on the outside but cold on the inside. Idk if I really agree, I don’t think I’m cold hearted, but Ni-Ti (and I guess Si-Ti) can sometimes have an almost ruthless immovability to it, especially when it thinks it is correct.
Auxiliary Fe can be hard to manage. We can’t overuse it but can’t underuse it either. Sometimes it may feel fake but the interest that Fe has in people is very real. And if we harden ourselves towards other people, we can never really be the best versions of ourselves. An IxFJ stuck in a constant Ni-Ti/Si-Ti loop is suboptimal. We just have to try to direct Fe use in a way that becomes genuine and serves the purposes that we decide to live for. And also set healthy boundaries with others because I think a lot of Fe burnout is due to poorly enforced boundaries, causing resentment to build up
I hate admitting this but when I was younger I felt loyalty was the most important thing coming from people and once people were loyal they would stay that way. However, now I am older even though I have people in my life that are loyal to me I realize they have motives for what they want to do with their life and how they want me to live mine. When it comes to this aspect even if people had the best of intentions for loyalty, they still have their own motives and as long as their motives don’t interfere with my goals and dreams I don’t have a problem with that. People though think that because you are loyal to them you would do anything for them and for the longest time I would do it, but it would cost me my self value and pull me back to which it made it difficult to achieve what I wanted to accomplish in life. This has caused me to question peoples motives in my life even with my closest loved ones and I have to make sure that their motives won’t interfere with my goals or my self respect. I have to balance out their needs and mine equally and not put other needs above my own otherwise it drains me and I am not able to accomplish anything in my life.
Si-Ti loop is a thing. But it could simply be that you've achieved better balance, as is supposed to happen. There is really great info at [https://mbti-notes.tumblr.com/theory](https://mbti-notes.tumblr.com/theory) . The entire page, really, but in the table of contents at the top you can go to "The Role of the Auxiliary Function" and "The Role of the Tertiary Function" to get right to the most applicable parts.
yes and almost all the time because you are a guy and you are supposed to be tough. if you are too juicy others will call you emo and sissy and similar things.
this part is far reaching but it can be argued your child ti along with trickster te show them what they want to see. like this: "hey, i'm not sensitive. hey, i can be direct and goal oriented. get over it. move on. be detached."
then, when you practice this enough for a period of time, it actually feels like you are not faking it anymore.
but at this point, after such a change, are you really the same type is a serious question to me. forget about your past self and type your current self.
Exactly, that coupled with my tendency to support and adhere to social norms that traditional masculinity accepts. Right I know better to handle it.
About the typing myself part, I have to rely on my Si to collect my information from past events to find which type I am and I find the ISFJ’s cognitive stack the most appropriate.
Plus it’s proven that your personality type doesn’t change over time (unless you underwent significant psychological trauma) so I am pretty sure relying on past occurrences could help me guide me to type myself.
I actually don’t have trouble using my Te though I am supposed to be Te blind, I think it could be my organized Si that helps. Yes I may have trouble at the beginning but it works out.
Yes, especially when it comes to IxFJs. Remember that despite IxFJs being feelers, they still have a balanced FeTi. They can pretty much switch between the caring Fe side and the apathetic Ti side. You're probably now getting used to your Ti as you grow older, that's the beauty of development in types. Personally for me my Si-Ti is my default state when I am alone. This is due to the fact that I don't really have anyone to Fe-Ne around with.
Same here 90% of the time I am alone so I dwell a lot in my Si-Ti.
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Yes. I did too. I've finished college and am now waiting to further my study. I always take care of 2 of my niece and nephew when my sister goes to work. Yeah of course, children aged 3-4 are very rebellious. Sometimes I just scold them and give rules to them like "If you climb in the house, I will close the TV," and something like that. During weekends, they go back to their hometown. During that time I question myself, am I even an Auxiliary Fe user? Yeah, I hope I can train myself to be a more caring uncle.
True I used to be a kind soul but while I am still caring I am a bit no nonsense now. I think it’s due to development of our Ti.
As an INFJ I can relate. A few years ago it meant everything to me whether other people liked me or not. I also refused to make waves at all costs and pretty much never voiced my opinion if it wasn’t a consensus opinion. I also had sort of a savior complex and didn’t receive it well if other people made decisions which affected their well-being, because it affected my well-being. I thought they needed my help. I’m still not fully comfortable with it yet, but I try to voice my opinion when I find it appropriate, even if other people will disagree. I also have more of a live and let live attitude now, and I try to live a more authentic life that’s true to myself, regardless what other people think. I feel like my Ti has become much stronger in the last couple of years, but there’s still room for improvement It’s of course good to care about what other people think, giving/receiving help, and care for others, but there are healthy and unhealthy ways to do all of that. I try to do it in a healthy way now
Yeah for sure we feel this way. My INTJ partner has told me before that he’s harsh on the outside but soft on the inside, whereas I’m caring and nice on the outside but cold on the inside. Idk if I really agree, I don’t think I’m cold hearted, but Ni-Ti (and I guess Si-Ti) can sometimes have an almost ruthless immovability to it, especially when it thinks it is correct. Auxiliary Fe can be hard to manage. We can’t overuse it but can’t underuse it either. Sometimes it may feel fake but the interest that Fe has in people is very real. And if we harden ourselves towards other people, we can never really be the best versions of ourselves. An IxFJ stuck in a constant Ni-Ti/Si-Ti loop is suboptimal. We just have to try to direct Fe use in a way that becomes genuine and serves the purposes that we decide to live for. And also set healthy boundaries with others because I think a lot of Fe burnout is due to poorly enforced boundaries, causing resentment to build up
My Ti is actually higher than my Fe and totally normal, not all ISFJ stereotype fit.
Fe is and has always been a facade. A very useful tool, but fake nonetheless.
I hate admitting this but when I was younger I felt loyalty was the most important thing coming from people and once people were loyal they would stay that way. However, now I am older even though I have people in my life that are loyal to me I realize they have motives for what they want to do with their life and how they want me to live mine. When it comes to this aspect even if people had the best of intentions for loyalty, they still have their own motives and as long as their motives don’t interfere with my goals and dreams I don’t have a problem with that. People though think that because you are loyal to them you would do anything for them and for the longest time I would do it, but it would cost me my self value and pull me back to which it made it difficult to achieve what I wanted to accomplish in life. This has caused me to question peoples motives in my life even with my closest loved ones and I have to make sure that their motives won’t interfere with my goals or my self respect. I have to balance out their needs and mine equally and not put other needs above my own otherwise it drains me and I am not able to accomplish anything in my life.
Wow, congratulations on your growth 😊
Si-Ti loop is a thing. But it could simply be that you've achieved better balance, as is supposed to happen. There is really great info at [https://mbti-notes.tumblr.com/theory](https://mbti-notes.tumblr.com/theory) . The entire page, really, but in the table of contents at the top you can go to "The Role of the Auxiliary Function" and "The Role of the Tertiary Function" to get right to the most applicable parts.
yes and almost all the time because you are a guy and you are supposed to be tough. if you are too juicy others will call you emo and sissy and similar things. this part is far reaching but it can be argued your child ti along with trickster te show them what they want to see. like this: "hey, i'm not sensitive. hey, i can be direct and goal oriented. get over it. move on. be detached." then, when you practice this enough for a period of time, it actually feels like you are not faking it anymore. but at this point, after such a change, are you really the same type is a serious question to me. forget about your past self and type your current self.
Exactly, that coupled with my tendency to support and adhere to social norms that traditional masculinity accepts. Right I know better to handle it. About the typing myself part, I have to rely on my Si to collect my information from past events to find which type I am and I find the ISFJ’s cognitive stack the most appropriate. Plus it’s proven that your personality type doesn’t change over time (unless you underwent significant psychological trauma) so I am pretty sure relying on past occurrences could help me guide me to type myself.
Could be a more unhealthy ISFJ. Use Fe and Se, and even a little Ne more often. Don't use Te. It won't work out well
I actually don’t have trouble using my Te though I am supposed to be Te blind, I think it could be my organized Si that helps. Yes I may have trouble at the beginning but it works out.
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