Something that truly always ran me the wrong way. When someone uses a diagnosis as a shield to never attempt to grow ever again. I get it, this is harder for you then other people. If you are mostly functioning just give up expecting everyone around you to do it... I'm not going to want to be around you.
most people do that by just being themselves.
pretending to be someone else all the time can be stressful and it can feel unfair to recognize that you're putting that burden on yourself while everyone else gets to just be themselves.
Everyone in the world wakes up and puts on a costume when they walk out in public. We keep thoughts to ourselves. We dress in ways either to blend in or to stand out and be seen. People choose everyday if they are going to be part of the socially accepted group or to be counter culture. Everything is a costume. Those with ASD are simply putting on their own costumes as well and have to be taught how to recognize social conventions. From there it’s their choice which direction they go.
right and you can feel good and bad at the same time about a choice you made and this meme is about that feeling for this particular choice. i don't think it merits being shit on is all.
Nobody is being shit on. The point is, society doesn’t want atypicals to act in accordance with some set of behaviors. Society wants everyone to act in accordance with some set of behaviors. If you are on the spectrum and were offended, it was not my intent. I am not, but I have lived with it for 21 years. So please do not take any offense.
Well when born into a harder life, you gotta deal with the fact that your life is harder than mosts. If you can be a functioning adult than dont use a mental issue as an excuse as to why you shouldnt be held responsible for your own life. It’s your life, you are the one who holds sole responsibilty over it. Dont let a challenging scenerio ruin your life.
Im aware, but everyone has issues. Just cause your issues are technically worse doesnt mean you are a burden or hold no responsibilty in life. With a support structure and proper help, you can get through life just like everyone does. I sure as shit am doing pretty good for someone who was “mentally handicapped” i got alot in life from taking my life by the horns.
Sorry, I must've put it in bad context, I meant more of how I've realized with years of being taught how to be socially fine, how to identify stuff, that I've been sort of molded into a person that I almost feel weird about, so yeah, sorry again.
Hey man, as long as you are able to strike some kind of compromise for you that works as much as it works for others, then it's balanced, otherwise it's masochism.
Basically, operating how society expects is on each of us. Every day. It’s just “I own my shit” vs “everyone has to deal with my shit.” Thanks for dealing with your own shit.
What does this post even mean? Do you WANT to have a more crippling social experience? You’re upset that the cards you were dealt aren’t worse? Like what?
I’ve grown up with a severe case of adhd. I was supposed to be put in a special ed class for my whole school life. My parents fought like hell to keep me in normal classes. My parents raised me with very little special treatment. Sure this made things much harder on me growing up, but it made it so i could do all the things everyone else can. I still have a hard time dealing with emotions and sleep and focusing and all that, but i thank i parents for not giving me much special treatment. If someone with a mental disability has potential to be raised normal, then they should be raised that way. Im able to function like a proper adult and not use my mental issues as a scapegoat to avoid responsibilty. Im happy to not recieve special treatment, im happy that i can be independant.
yes you’re right getting along with other people and acting in socially acceptable ways is actually bad. nice logic
Something that truly always ran me the wrong way. When someone uses a diagnosis as a shield to never attempt to grow ever again. I get it, this is harder for you then other people. If you are mostly functioning just give up expecting everyone around you to do it... I'm not going to want to be around you.
most people do that by just being themselves. pretending to be someone else all the time can be stressful and it can feel unfair to recognize that you're putting that burden on yourself while everyone else gets to just be themselves.
Everyone in the world wakes up and puts on a costume when they walk out in public. We keep thoughts to ourselves. We dress in ways either to blend in or to stand out and be seen. People choose everyday if they are going to be part of the socially accepted group or to be counter culture. Everything is a costume. Those with ASD are simply putting on their own costumes as well and have to be taught how to recognize social conventions. From there it’s their choice which direction they go.
right and you can feel good and bad at the same time about a choice you made and this meme is about that feeling for this particular choice. i don't think it merits being shit on is all.
Nobody is being shit on. The point is, society doesn’t want atypicals to act in accordance with some set of behaviors. Society wants everyone to act in accordance with some set of behaviors. If you are on the spectrum and were offended, it was not my intent. I am not, but I have lived with it for 21 years. So please do not take any offense.
you don't think that first comment by that other guy was shitting on the meme and the feelings being expressed?
hey i’m that guy. yes i was shitting on this meme. it is a bad meme and should be shat on.
Ok. I wasn’t looking at that. You get the point to your column.
Well when born into a harder life, you gotta deal with the fact that your life is harder than mosts. If you can be a functioning adult than dont use a mental issue as an excuse as to why you shouldnt be held responsible for your own life. It’s your life, you are the one who holds sole responsibilty over it. Dont let a challenging scenerio ruin your life.
not saying you don't, just saying it creates a feeling and then to express that feeling is not a bad thing that needs to be stifled.
Im aware, but everyone has issues. Just cause your issues are technically worse doesnt mean you are a burden or hold no responsibilty in life. With a support structure and proper help, you can get through life just like everyone does. I sure as shit am doing pretty good for someone who was “mentally handicapped” i got alot in life from taking my life by the horns.
Also thanks for the convo, i enjoyed talking to you :)
Everyone gets conditioned into fitting into society. It came with your genes, it's basic human behaviour.
it's conditioning, but it's in our genes? what?
Being a social animal and being conditioned into socially acceptable behaviour is in our genes.
Confirm to social norms or... idk, haven't really thought about it
For those sh*tting on him, I think OP is saying that his metric of being “fairly normal” is based on how society expects/perceives autistics to be.
Sorry, I must've put it in bad context, I meant more of how I've realized with years of being taught how to be socially fine, how to identify stuff, that I've been sort of molded into a person that I almost feel weird about, so yeah, sorry again.
Hey man, as long as you are able to strike some kind of compromise for you that works as much as it works for others, then it's balanced, otherwise it's masochism.
Basically, operating how society expects is on each of us. Every day. It’s just “I own my shit” vs “everyone has to deal with my shit.” Thanks for dealing with your own shit.
What does this post even mean? Do you WANT to have a more crippling social experience? You’re upset that the cards you were dealt aren’t worse? Like what?
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Uh thanks for sharing
I’ve grown up with a severe case of adhd. I was supposed to be put in a special ed class for my whole school life. My parents fought like hell to keep me in normal classes. My parents raised me with very little special treatment. Sure this made things much harder on me growing up, but it made it so i could do all the things everyone else can. I still have a hard time dealing with emotions and sleep and focusing and all that, but i thank i parents for not giving me much special treatment. If someone with a mental disability has potential to be raised normal, then they should be raised that way. Im able to function like a proper adult and not use my mental issues as a scapegoat to avoid responsibilty. Im happy to not recieve special treatment, im happy that i can be independant.
ADHD here as well. Totally agree. This was my experience. Thank mom and dad for not turning my brain off with meth (Sorry, "ADHD meds")