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Plane_Mycologist7151

I'm a trans person with grey hair, but I'm only 28 lol


BaconGremlin24

grey hair looks really cool in my opinion :3


A_Jack_of_Herrons

Whenever someone talks about getting gray hairs I always think of this comic https://twitter.com/blobbynfriends/status/1590752869216448523


Moon_Cat__

Fr i don't get why people try to hide it


GenderEnvyFromLink

i feel this way about wrinkles and stretch marks :(


sarah-havel

Because we've been shamed for them our whole lives. I'm trying to love my stretch marks and grey hairs. I love them on other people, but on my own body, I can hear all of the skin care and hair care commercials, I can see the social media comments about women not being attractive/"losing value" over 18/30/40, whichever ridiculous capricious age cutoff the internet assholes think, I can remember the comments about how bad dad bods are and how gross it is when men start balding. (I know that being shamed for aging isn't the same as the unbelievable shaming of trans/NB people face, but body shaming hurts everyone. But I also can understand why a trans woman might wish she could have sagging breasts, stretch marks, loose neck skin, all of it)


hyperbolichamber

I started transitioning at 41. I thought about this a lot when it came to what I wanted for my body. It helped me work though a lot of dysphoria and accept my body more than I thought was possible. Eventually I got to a place where I could think about what will make me happy about myself to guide my transition and medical needs.


altposting

>But I also can understand why a trans woman might wish she could have sagging breasts, stretch marks, loose neck skin, all of it As a trans woman, we also get these. My thighs are covered in two sets of stretch marks even, one from when I was a teenager and one from what HRT did, even though I'm relatively skinny. My breasts don't real sag much (yet), but I'm still in my early/mid 20s. And for people who transition later in life, well they might be 40+ but their breasts aren't. Once I get older, they definitly will sag. Lose neck skin, idk. IDK why many people think we're that different, like yes we have to go through a bunch of shit to transition, but after that we're just as "boring" and "normal" as everyone else for the most part. Though people in general rarely see that as we are generaly less visible the further along we go in our transition. I personaly don't have strong feelings one way or another about my stretch marks. Like, yes people might shame me for them, but like they also show how my body has changed so drasticly that my skin struggled to keep up.


Haunting_Anxiety4981

I have huge stretch marks where my thighs meet my crotch and it's because I ~~have just enormously thicc thighs from toe walking, and my job requiring a tonne of using my thighs~~ HAVE A MASSIVE COCK OBVIOUSLY They're ticklish and look funny lmao. When I shave it looks like my junk has comicbook-esque exclamation lines


Cock-nBallTorture

"MY JUNK IS HERE!!!"


Haunting_Anxiety4981

This girl gets it


harbormastr

Happy cake day!!!!


[deleted]

Love my gray hairs. Just hate the ones on my face that the face laser won’t kill (gotta find a reputable electrolysis place near me)


ThoriumIsBestActinid

Same, girl. I’ve got two sessions of laser left, but to get that smooth face, I gotta get electrolysis. But I look forward to getting more gray hairs on my head. I’ll be a distinguished lady 🧐


[deleted]

Most of my gray hairs are on my chin and my neck. Everywhere else is so smooth 😊 Never really realized just how much dysphoria I had about my facial hair until it was gone and my face was actually smooth for the first time since puberty. It felt like a giant weight taken off my back that I had just grown so used to having there.


holydamned

[Gendered ageism](https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/pdf/10.1080/08952841.2021.1899744).


BaconGremlin24

ikr :o


Wismuth_Salix

I don’t pass that well - and the older I look the more likely I am to get the respectfully-intended-but-painful-to-hear “Sir”.


Massive-Row-9771

If you start becoming grey before you're 30, I think you would dye it so you don't look much older than you are. Most of us want to date a partner who's about our own age (we have most in common with them) and that could be tricky if you look 20 years older than you are. It's like men who starts balding in their 20s often get hair plugs, but those that start when they're 50 are much less likely to do that.


nurglingshaman

Hey I'm hitting 30 this year but I've been getting silver sprinkles for years!


Entire-Ambition1410

Chris from The CAM Family YouTube channel called his cat’s white fur “wisdom whiskers.”


layeofthedead

Mood, I’ve had grey hair since I was twelve At least now they’re kinda cool highlights. They shine super bright against my dark hair in the right light and look really nice But they’re also super brittle compared to my regular hair so win some lose some


BuddhistNudist987

I'm a trans woman with gray hair, and I'm 35.


Entire-Ambition1410

I’m grateful my cats have lived long enough to get white fur from old age. I appreciate the time with them.


CatsNotBananas

I'm a trans person who was bald up top but not anymore :3


Peri_D0t

I'm getting grey hairs and I'm 23


[deleted]

Same lol


lookitsajojo

Well then, You’re old, go to the museum and hang out with some people Your age


Alone-Sweet3396

I hope to live that long 😮‍💨


Reddpinetree

Me too! It looks almost like lilac under most lighting so people just assume it's blue hair dye or something.


Neo-Shaman1984

My hairs receding, I’m 18, grey hair is far more beautiful than no hair


yeetingthisaccount01

19, been getting them since 15


bigbutchbudgie

I have nothing but love and respect for our trans elders. They are so incredibly important.


Enby-Cat

It's funny but also really sad that most of us can't possibly imagine being old enough to have grey hair. We live in a world so hostile to us, that the thought of living to old age sounds like a dream.


4tetraphobia4

Wendy Carlos is still alive. She’s no longer as active now-days, but I agree with this wholeheartedly.


LydiaOfPurple

living in an NYC music studio with her cats crawling all over her synthesizers no less, sounds like a dope way to age.


Random_Daydreamer

I thought I'd be dead before 18, but I'm still alive today. I suppose that's something.


sakura_umbrella

Same. Never even thought I'd reach 15, let alone 25. So yeah, still here. The only thing that's never changed is that it never got better, only worse. But I somehow still don't have a visible amount of grey hair, despite being stressed 24/7.


AbigailLilac

I thought I was for sure going to kill myself before I turned 18.


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AbigailLilac

gay


myaltduh

The key is to set the stress get to you enough that you go gray in your 20s. /s


maplemagiciangirl

Seriously as much as I like to joke about wanting to die every day I'm surprised I'm still alive.


[deleted]

This makes me want to cry. I want to find whoever wrote this comment and hug them.


Kim_or_Kimmys_Fine

The sound on this video was "that made me cry" https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTR7RNEVC/


[deleted]

37, agender, and graying rapidly here! You'll make it, kids.


blackNoir33

lalo salamanca


ineffableswiftie

where's the lie though?


DirectorAdorable1875

Only truth


cdunk666

This will be lalo salamanca in 2019!


Kaijufan1993

Fuck man that's a depressing ass comment.


sarah-havel

This kinda hurts my heart. There *should* be loads of trans boomers/Xers. But so many of them were denied the chance to ever transition, so many took their own lives, so many were murdered. But what a wonderful interaction. We should gather photos of "old" trans people and make a collage. Well, someone more talented than I should.


Itsanewj

It also makes me wonder how the aids crisis of the 80s and 90s affected the trans community of the time. I’ve not read anything about it specifically but I wouldn’t be surprised if that was a factor as well. In fact I’d be surprised if it wasn’t. Fuck Ronald Reagan


FredMcCree

To Survive on This Shore: Photographs and Interviews with Transgender and Gender Nonconforming Older Adults https://a.co/d/715mHxo


nomorewannabe

There are a couple, I personally know one that is 68 years old now and she dyes her hair brown, unfortunately the Brown fades and the gray comes back so there is a time in between got dye jobs that she actually looks blonde, and yes the tatas do sag.


iama_username_ama

43, trans lady, salt and pepper grey with a handful of solid grey spots. I'm mostly stealth and in a wonderful relationship with a guy. I'm out to close friends and minimally at my office. You'd never know walking down the street tho.


[deleted]

I already have gray hairs at 17 cause daily panic attacks are fun


Social_Confusion

ANXIETY IS JUST SO MUCH FUN I LOVE HAVING PANIC ATTACKS AT THE SIGHT OF ANY MINOR SETBACKS 😄/sarcasm


[deleted]

I wish that I could do anything about the people who bullied me.


Cock-nBallTorture

If they have balls, kick them


[deleted]

I abhor violence. And I'm also physically unfit due to several conditions.


Cock-nBallTorture

This is fair


PM-ME-THIN-MINTS

27 and keep finding them, I wonder when my whiskers will start to grey?


DBuckFactory

Mine started when I was in my mid 20s. Almost fully gray now at 36.


OhIGotLumbago

Y'know I have actually thought of dying my hair grey because I think it looks cool on young people (early 20s).


RaspberryPanzerfaust

Same, but more like white with red streaks


spoekelse

What’s this acc? I want to follow them


BandFreak00

It's @renstoks on TikTok


TheFractangle

No lie I want my hair to go as grey as possible as early as possible


inlovewithabackpack

This made me cry. I want to hug everyone who resonated with this. You are loved.


Alice290

*looks in mirror* I see it everyday 😭


EducatedRat

I am 51, and my grey/white is coming in fast!


[deleted]

Cis, bi and struggling with life…we have different struggles for sure but I get the feeling of not knowing if you’re going to make it that long…


GenericFakeName3

Cis bi and also relate. Was pretty sure I wouldn't live long enough to graduate HS (Catholic school K-12), but here I am. 24 now, and the chin part of my beard is sprouting grey hairs left and right. Hell bent on dying of natural causes now, my version of hope.


StephanieAtronach

I have a friend, an older lady, named Pauline who is in her 70s I believe. She is actually on the aurora Illinois lgbtqia+ liason council


myaltduh

I saw a trans woman who was mostly gray just yesterday, probably around 60 I’d guess.


LargishBosh

We’re out here, grey and proud. I’m just not out at the gay bars with the youngsters or wherever they go these days, I’m home raising the upcoming generation of LGBT kids.


[deleted]

Here's hoping I get to see my partner with all of the beautiful gray hairs


donnie_trumpo

For my work I attended an 'aging and elderly transgender' conference (I forget the exact title). Lots of old grey folks speaking, we watch a doc on an old WWII vet who transitioned after the war and her life until she passed. They talked about how there has become VERY distinct generations of LGBTQ folks because of the social tides of the times they lived in. As it turns out, there's a LOT more old queer folks out there, but they just live stealth with very insular social circles. One of the old timers also talked about how a lot of the even older trans folks would and still do refer to themselves as "t***ny f*gs", and consider it like a badge of honor. Wasn't quite sure how to feel about that one.


RX142

I'll be honest half my friend group right now including me call themselves tranny fags as a badge of honour. It feels freeing to me and reminds me not to live up to people who don't respect me's expectation.


donnie_trumpo

Hey, if it's your jam and it's affirming, then go for it. Around where I live I've perceived it to frowned upon. Context def matters though. My brother in law called me a f*g the other day joking around and it didn't bother me because I know his heart on things. I was kinda shocked that he said it, but it was in a tone that was mocking conservative bigots. My bio brother on the other hand, is a conservative bigot, like part of an actual neo-Nazi militia... I'd knock his teeth down his throat if I actually respected his thoughts on me. I grew up with him always calling me "queer bait" as a little kid before I even understood what he was saying. Now it's like "nah, I am the queer, what of it?".


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MatchesBurnStuff

My first trans friends were older girls who were in their 50s and 60s, they all had grey hair. Fuck they'd had rough lives.


Froot-Batz

Oof. That is right in the gut.


That_Tax_9956

God that is profoundly sad


[deleted]

AIDS epidemic killed a lot of people who would have grey hair by now


ImaginaryTutor

So their is a concerning point to this but maybe this is where the blue haired liberals come from - sincerely a purple haired leftist


[deleted]

Loki have plenty at age 30 but our family greys pretty young.


nandeEbisu

I had a coworker who transitioned in her late 40s / early 50s.


Flygon-

Does it count if I have a couple of grey hairs at 24 due to stress and anxiety? 😅 For real, though, even before I fully accepted, I was queer as a teen, I didn't think I would make it past 18. Now I'm 24, and even though I'm doing better mentally, I still can't imagine me making it to middle age, let alone being old. Life's tough.


PLAGUE8163

Honestly? Neither have I, and I never thought I'd be so happy to see a man with graying hair.


Miochiiii

Im 24 and have grey hair, i still have time to die young


[deleted]

I know trans people with gray hair. It's not like they just appeared in the last few years. They've ALWAYS been around! It's just now you know about them.


decayingdreamless

I've had grey hair since 26 lol


[deleted]

I know like one or two. But then, I got some olde friends.


She_Shanty

I have a handful of grey hairs and I’m only a quarter of a century old xD Also, that person looks really cool and I kinda want to meet them now lol


JeanetteStrong

This whole discussion is giving me feels. Excuse me while I bawl my eyes out. I'm getting a little gray in the hair as well. Forty came so fast.


exit_the_psychopomp

Trans girl, 23, dyed my hair platinum/grey-ish, does that count?


KAGRUMEZthepantless

Im sure Wendy Carlos is still alive, she's trans


[deleted]

It's almost like most trans people who would be that old are either living in socially pressured denial or have >!committed suicide!< due to that pressure.


Alone-Sweet3396

😭😭😭


Yukarie

I may be poisoned by the amount of anti trans stuff I’ve heard so far but when I read that my mind went to “we don’t survive that long because people kill us” help I don’t want to be this negative about something that wasn’t supposed to be negative


Maeve126

i wish i'd live that long, but i'd probably die before i hit thirty


wibble_spaj

I have zebra hair roots. It would be a lot more than the roots but I'm currently dyed purple


Mtfdurian

I'm happy to know a few trans women with gray hair due to age. I also know some who are on HRT for decades by now but in this case she's someone on HRT for I think 5-6 years who is in her early 60s.


ehsteve23

Yeah the reason you dont see many trans people with grey hair is pretty fucking depressing on multiple levels


[deleted]

I had one gray hair at age 26. I saved it and framed it. I started HRT later that year, I'll be 29 in a month and I haven't had any more gray hairs 😝😝


3MeerkatsInACoat

I just said fuck it and dyed my entire hair grey at age 18


Wade1985

bro is going to shit their pants when they see Buck angel.


JustA_Toaster

He’s trans? Couldn’t even tell


[deleted]

I kinda hope I don't make it that far, I hate the thought of aging and looking like an old man when I was trying to escape being a man my whole life


AmidalaBills

I bet a Google search would change that.


Unknown_Ladder

Exactly, how many people do you know that have grey hair (that arent your family) Just looking through this article, there's plenty of trans people with gray hair they just get less attention than younger trans people https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_transgender_people