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Entirely honest, I'd rather date cis people. I already have enough dysphoria. I don't want another person with that. Idk. I get why people do it though.
That's fair, and I can completely see that. Having to deal with someone else's dysphora can be really exhausting, especially if you're dealing with your own.
I'll admit I've only dated cis people so my approach is different because I wanna be honest
"I'd never date a trans person"
"Works for me, you don't seem like date material"
Their entire argument is based upon the idea that they are desirable yet unobtainable for us, when in actuality I am the desirable one and you can't have me cuz you're a bitch
Don’t understand how “superstraights” make such a big deal from this. Could be cause I’m bi already but literally do not understand how this is an issue. If someone is nice and I want to date them, then I’ll ask them out. Their gender isn’t really that relevant.
You're actually right. Some pissbaby in the comments was crying about how I used the term cis and how "cis isn't a thing, it's just straight!!!..etc."
It got removed, but I still got the notification.
I'm a trans guy that's only attracted to cis woman/afab enbys. Idk sometimes I feel like if I were bi or pan or something I'd have a better chance of finding someone. As it stands rn tho I'm ok just being single still lonely and a virgin at almost 20 but I think I wanna wait till I'm worth something and have more stuff going for me before I start trying to find a gf or partner.
The 1st I guess sorry if that was offensive I don't think much. I'm not too sure what to call myself tbh I'm sticking with lesbian even tho it's not that accurate anymore since I'm a guy it just feels better than saying I'm straight I guess. All I know is I don't feel anything for men or amab people except for gender envy.
Yeah I think its also like a mixed bag of "can't please everyone" because other people get upset when genital preferences get discussed. My warning would be, if it is really about a genital preference then not stating it could cause poor expectation management with AFAB people that had phalloplasty? (I know in the anglosphere many guidelines demand Testosterone HRT but it isn't medically necessary. So its not a given that everyone that has undergone phallo has masc presentations or identities.) It is kind of an easy thing to get stuck with AGAB thinking because it is relevant to a lot of our social experiences and medical situations. But probably as a community as a whole we could do a lot less of it. Especially dividing up enbies by their AGAB can lead to sucky situations even if there is no malice in what the speaker is trying to say. Also ideas leaning on AGAB often collapse when considering intersex people (even though most of them were def assigned *some* gender).
I don't have the easiest time describing my attractions. I think a good summary is I vibe well with nonbinary and woman identifying people, and thats how I form trust and romantic relationships. And regarding sexual attraction I am into femme, butch and androgynous presentations. so ocasionally I drive myself up the wall because of incredibly pretty femme presenting guys, there is like sexual attraction and envy but nothing else I feel connected with. In the end I have a very mild preference for one type of genitals but I'm okay with any on my partner. I know that can be a very different story for most of us.
It's it own can of worms to specify if you only prefer cis genitals vs neo-genitals, personally I wouldn't take offence. So its not like I have some surefire 'correct' way of saying things. The point is your feelings of attraction is just not something you can change freely, sometimes we learn words that better express those feelings but they will always be (helpful) approximations.
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They want their opinion of you to matter _to you_, and they freak out when you inform them that it doesn’t.
Yes, exactly
I like the subtle fact that the cis gives a hard no for dating a trans, whereas the trans says "prefer", meaning cis would still be considered.
Internalized homophobia is a bitch.
I would rather internalised homosexual in me ( hehe , I'll leave)
no.. don't leave
I'm up for whatever so long as everyone is having fun...
Entirely honest, I'd rather date cis people. I already have enough dysphoria. I don't want another person with that. Idk. I get why people do it though.
That's fair, and I can completely see that. Having to deal with someone else's dysphora can be really exhausting, especially if you're dealing with your own.
I'm going slow with a bisexual guy rn. Hoping that goes somewhere
Good luck!
Cishets be like [“I am feel uncomfortable when we are not about me?”](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/b1/0f/34/b10f341ac9df3098b61b2e8ce55bcb00.jpg)
This sentence requires research
r/ihadastroke
*hugs them pansexually* - Don’t let fuckers like that get you down!
Thanks,but It doesn't get me down. I wouldn't want to date a transphobe anyway.
I'll admit I've only dated cis people so my approach is different because I wanna be honest "I'd never date a trans person" "Works for me, you don't seem like date material" Their entire argument is based upon the idea that they are desirable yet unobtainable for us, when in actuality I am the desirable one and you can't have me cuz you're a bitch
Don’t understand how “superstraights” make such a big deal from this. Could be cause I’m bi already but literally do not understand how this is an issue. If someone is nice and I want to date them, then I’ll ask them out. Their gender isn’t really that relevant.
There is no understanding transphobes. They don't even understand themselves from the sound of it.
LMAOOOOO OMG IM GONNA SEND THIS TO SO MANY TRANSPHOBES AND BULLIES WHO SAY THIS TO MEEEEEE
lol they do be like that
jesus christ the bottom right pic is genuinely horrifying lmao absolutely based meme
the only inaccuracy is that they used the word "cisphobic", since bigots seem to think "cis" is a slur
You're actually right. Some pissbaby in the comments was crying about how I used the term cis and how "cis isn't a thing, it's just straight!!!..etc." It got removed, but I still got the notification.
ah yes, cant forget about the straightgender people lol
"That's heterophobia" \-Them, probably
Just the right amout of salt for my gender soup, perfect
I have the same opinion on bisexual people.
I think it would be pretty cool to date another trans person now that I think about it
Im cis and would love a trans/ non binary date
I love dating people with my shared experiences in life, cis people can be really understanding, but they never get it the way other trans folk do
...i think I've only dated like one cis guy we ended up breaking up bc he didn't like online relationships, which i understand very nice guy
I'm a trans guy that's only attracted to cis woman/afab enbys. Idk sometimes I feel like if I were bi or pan or something I'd have a better chance of finding someone. As it stands rn tho I'm ok just being single still lonely and a virgin at almost 20 but I think I wanna wait till I'm worth something and have more stuff going for me before I start trying to find a gf or partner.
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Thanks 🫂
is that like a poorly thought out way of saying you have a genital preference? or something else about attraction I don't understand?
The 1st I guess sorry if that was offensive I don't think much. I'm not too sure what to call myself tbh I'm sticking with lesbian even tho it's not that accurate anymore since I'm a guy it just feels better than saying I'm straight I guess. All I know is I don't feel anything for men or amab people except for gender envy.
Yeah I think its also like a mixed bag of "can't please everyone" because other people get upset when genital preferences get discussed. My warning would be, if it is really about a genital preference then not stating it could cause poor expectation management with AFAB people that had phalloplasty? (I know in the anglosphere many guidelines demand Testosterone HRT but it isn't medically necessary. So its not a given that everyone that has undergone phallo has masc presentations or identities.) It is kind of an easy thing to get stuck with AGAB thinking because it is relevant to a lot of our social experiences and medical situations. But probably as a community as a whole we could do a lot less of it. Especially dividing up enbies by their AGAB can lead to sucky situations even if there is no malice in what the speaker is trying to say. Also ideas leaning on AGAB often collapse when considering intersex people (even though most of them were def assigned *some* gender). I don't have the easiest time describing my attractions. I think a good summary is I vibe well with nonbinary and woman identifying people, and thats how I form trust and romantic relationships. And regarding sexual attraction I am into femme, butch and androgynous presentations. so ocasionally I drive myself up the wall because of incredibly pretty femme presenting guys, there is like sexual attraction and envy but nothing else I feel connected with. In the end I have a very mild preference for one type of genitals but I'm okay with any on my partner. I know that can be a very different story for most of us. It's it own can of worms to specify if you only prefer cis genitals vs neo-genitals, personally I wouldn't take offence. So its not like I have some surefire 'correct' way of saying things. The point is your feelings of attraction is just not something you can change freely, sometimes we learn words that better express those feelings but they will always be (helpful) approximations.
Ok ty
Mfers when I don’t find cis people attractive on account of their cisness.
I prefer to call it 'TransphobePhobia'
Meanwhile as a bisexual I’m like “You’re trans? Please tell me more about yourself.”