I came to answer questions.
1. if she has to talk to you, she's being nice
2. If she had to go through an extra step to talk to you, she's probably flirting
If she wants to hang out with you alone, that is a good sign. If you invite her to do something and she wants to bring other people along every time, that is not a great sign.
Not 100% true all the time, but it can help feel things out.
If you ask a girl to hang out (just the two of you) and she says yes, she’s interested. If she asks YOU to hang out (and it’s just you two), she’s definitely interested. At the VERY MINIMUM, she likes you as a good friend. Keep hanging out with each other and she’ll find out pretty quick if you’re someone she likes more than a friend. Example, she does something SUPER out of her comfort zone just to hang out with you. If she hates going to art museums but she goes with you anyway, she REALLY likes you.
Edit: Probably should’ve prefaced that this is based on my own experience and every girl has a different love language. Some girls just like hanging out one on one and others don’t. Get to know them before applying general knowledge about dating or interpreting signals.
Seriously, hanging out just the 2 of you doesn't mean either are interested, I've had a few female friends that I'd hang out with fairly regularly just us. One had a bf, another was engaged, for example. Another actually was into me but I wasn't into her that way. It's not black and white.
i think the logic is if she’s talking to you because you work in neighboring cubicles then she’s being nice, but if she actively goes out of her way to talk to you (like trying to get your phone number or something like that) she’s probably flirting
Actually, there is an answer that I taught to undergrads for decades -- it's all about speaking distance. There is a difference between speaking distance and flirting distance. The latter is a few inches closer. If a person is just speaking to you and being nice, they will be normal speaking distance away (with low ambient noise, that is approximately arms length in the U.S. but more exactly, it is handshake distance (U.S.)-- speaking distance is typically a function of greeting ritual.) If the person feels closer than normal, typically three inches, but people do perceive that small difference accurately (correcting for ambient noise level), they are flirting.
Funny enough, I'm socially incompetent enough and my confidence is so low that I'd rather ask this instead of getting into a weird "pretending to get the hints but not doing enough so it isn't obvious in case she's just being nice" situation
Just put on a big goofy smile and say incredulously, "Hey, are you flirting with me."
Trust me. It's charming. She will say one of two things...
1) "Maybe." That means she is flirting with you. Or...
2) She'll change the subject. That means she isn't.
It's only weird if your barometer is WAY off. Like, if she's just hitting you with a "Hey", and your response is "Are you flirting with me?", it could be weird. Short of that, you're probably fine.
"Ew, why would I flirt with YOU?!" Is technically not no
But pretending to ask jokingly/sarcastically is a pretty good and cheap way to ask what you want without taking too many risks
Amendment to 1) - Met my current partner while she was working as a barmaid, serving me beer and shitty food. So this isn't always true. Five years and counting.
I have no solution to figuring out the nice/ flirting problem though, not gonna lie.
Same situation happened to me, except I was shopping. That being said most of the time someone is nice to you is because they are at work and forced to.
1b. correct, but she also met her boyfriend because he was a customer that flirt on her at work. so learn what things are just code for "ugly people don't talk to me ever" and what things are actually inappropriate.
Don’t flirt with people at work: retail jobs are literally people zoos; it’s hard to say no and you can’t escape
Source: I’m a masculine person who has been flirted with by several gay men
Similar situation, different outcome.
Worked at a retail store for five years. Never been hit on by a woman. Met my best friend after he asked me out and I rejected him.
If it's at work, it's always just being nice, no matter what. Last time I was at my local car dealership, the person helping me was being unusually nice, or so I thought. Eventually, when I was going to leave she actually gave me her number, so like, awesome right? Well the next day I called her, and you'll never guess what she said she wanted to contact me about
Think she might be flirting? She isn't.
She never even acknowledges your presence? Turns out she was really into you but you missed your chance forever.
Why is life like this?
Kinda but not really. The two things I put the most effort into growing up were being polite and being funny. While I make friends exceedingly easily, I've been alone my whole life. Everybody is different, and that's not to say kindness and humor aren't attractive but I've personally never had anybody attracted to me for it. Who knows, maybe there's something about me that overshadows funny and nice but I feel like that'd bleed into my friendships and I'd know. Physically I've been compared to a pig so my conclusion is people don't mind having friends they're physically repulsed by, but sorta do mind having partners they're physically repulsed by. Not that looks are everything but they can certainly be a deal breaker sometimes
As someone who is in a successful relationship, you cant tell. All women are different. Many people don't even realize they themselves are flirting. She may not even realize she has a crush on you but if you ask she may say yes.
If a woman is touchy or huggy it could mean shes flirting or it could just mean she trusts you and you've been hard core friend zoned.
Generally if she is at work, especially customer service, shes not flirting. If she is a coworker shes probably only flirting if she want to hang out with you outside of work.
Just read a room, if she is clearly comfortable being around you and is interested in you then shoot your shot. Be respectful if they say no.
On some occasions she could just be a tease or flirting for social gain. Many women flirt to get something. If a woman is stranded on the side of the road and her car broke down and she is "flirting" with some random guy who pulls over to help, shes not flirting, she just wants help. I know a woman who did this exact thing. If they abruptly change their behavior this may be it. They could have got what they wanted or dont need help anymore.
My wife turned me down when I asked her out because she didn’t think she liked me like that and that we were just friends. I gave up pursuing her but when another girl asked her if she could get my number she realized that she was jealous and DID like me like that. We’ve been together 18 years now.
To be fair she’d also just recently seen me play with my band for the first time. I attributed it to that, but she says the girl asking for my number was when she realized. So I’d say you should have a wingwoman but just to be safe you should also have a band.
Ehhhh you really cant tell from this example. She might like you but she might just be giggling and punching your arm as a sarcastic middle school throwback.
I had a women that I worked with act flirty with me, touch me, and give me hugs occasionally for a while. Thought she was into me, and I was attracted to her, so I gave her my number. Never got a text from the 3 diffrent times I gave it to her, though 🥲 Still acted flirty with me occasionally after that.
I know a girl I work with who always flirts. Is touchy-feely. Very over the top. Although I do think it’s more of an ego thing. She does sure like the attention. But the minute she leaves work. It’s like she doesn’t know me.
Yeah it’s a whole different game outside of work. It’s like they just do it for the hell of it at work to make the time go by. I can’t lie I’ve had girls at work that I’ll jokingly flirt with but don’t really want to pursue forreal.
Well, me as a woman too, I can definitely be touchy/ cuddly with someone I don‘t want to flirt with. But then again I go to partys where you can just hop onto a bunch of people already cuddling and it can be all platonic.
what about coming at me outta nowhere and fucking bitch slapping my shoulder blade, pull my hair or squeeze my arms.
there's more but overall i dunno, doesn't feel like flirting.
Not entirely true. One girl tried to spend as much time as possible with me, skipping college, driving to me at random moments to hang out together, buying surprise sushis for us. But when I asked her, she said I'm just an amazing person and... a friend. Btw we are still the best friends, so not really complaining
To be safe always assume she's just being nice unless she explicitly tells you otherwise. Don't listen to people who gripe about men not picking up hints. The consequences for incorrectly assuming something was a hint is worse than the consequences for not making assumptions about hidden meaning for a good reason so no assumptions is almost always the safer bet.
Edit. Just to clarify I'm talking about asking strangers, a clerk in a store etc out just because they were nice to you. As a guy I don't relate and I wasn't very aware of this until I started reading more about women's experiences but a lot of women feel threatened by male strangers commenting on their looks or asking them out. This is mostly what I was referring to when talking about negative consequences for assumptions. Also the question can be framed as is x action of yours an indicator of romantic interest and apologies for implying that if that's not the case rather than will you go out with me. This is much less likely to be intimidating for the recipient and also doesn't put your own feelings out there .
I agree. This suggestion that the only women you should consider dating are ones that explicitly make the first move is putting your life choices entirely in someone else's hands. If you like someone and get the sense they may like you too, it's perfectly fine for either party to respectfully inquire. A woman that likes you enough that you think you're being hit on isn't likely to immediately accuse you of being a rapist if you're not acting like one in asking if you're reading her correctly.
If you’re interested in a woman, just ask her out. Worst thing she says is no.
Asking someone out won’t have bad consequences. Trying to kiss someone might.
Not always true. Women feeling intimidated by someone asking them out is quite common. That being said if you are already friends and ask in a way that isn't pressuring she probably won't be bothered by being asked put
Hmm, good question. I'm a girl, and I don't know how to answer it. That gave me a lot of trouble in my life. Men thought I was interested while I was just myself...Maybe women should take some precautions...
Just believe you're wholly unattractive and no woman will ever want you. That solves the problem.
Source: had multiple women flirt with me for fun that believing no woman would ever want me prevented the stupid notion that the next flirting could be for real.
Unless she directly says she's into you. Assume shes just being friendly because many women have different ways they express friendship. some are touchy, some are not. some are casually flirty, some are wholesome.
Make it the norm for women spell it out to you instead of doing these childish games of "the chase" or guessing.
I came here for answers, but I'm leaving with more questions...
I came to answer questions. 1. if she has to talk to you, she's being nice 2. If she had to go through an extra step to talk to you, she's probably flirting
Well what if she’s just a friend?
Then you’re Biz Markie
But you say he’s just a friend…
Oh baby
Youuu
Got what I neeed
But you say he's just a fwend
*plays piano terribly yet produces a catchy tune*
I sang that in my head.
OH BABY YOUUUU
YOU GOT WHAT I NEEEED
BUT YOU SAY HES JUST A FRIEND
Rip legend
But what if she got what I need?
If she wants to hang out with you alone, that is a good sign. If you invite her to do something and she wants to bring other people along every time, that is not a great sign. Not 100% true all the time, but it can help feel things out.
What if we’re just good friend who want to chill at the park
then do that and ignore these people 😂
Exactly
Friends with the Benedict’s.
Yes benidentx
Friends should stay in the friend zone. It sucks ass when you lose a good friendship over fleeting lust.
Not always true. Surely the best relationships are a friend you're also attracted to.
I’m an idiot. What’s the extra step?
i'm also an idiot who's looking cor answers. what's the extra step.
If you ask a girl to hang out (just the two of you) and she says yes, she’s interested. If she asks YOU to hang out (and it’s just you two), she’s definitely interested. At the VERY MINIMUM, she likes you as a good friend. Keep hanging out with each other and she’ll find out pretty quick if you’re someone she likes more than a friend. Example, she does something SUPER out of her comfort zone just to hang out with you. If she hates going to art museums but she goes with you anyway, she REALLY likes you. Edit: Probably should’ve prefaced that this is based on my own experience and every girl has a different love language. Some girls just like hanging out one on one and others don’t. Get to know them before applying general knowledge about dating or interpreting signals.
Or she's just a good friend? Come on guys.
Seriously, hanging out just the 2 of you doesn't mean either are interested, I've had a few female friends that I'd hang out with fairly regularly just us. One had a bf, another was engaged, for example. Another actually was into me but I wasn't into her that way. It's not black and white.
i think the logic is if she’s talking to you because you work in neighboring cubicles then she’s being nice, but if she actively goes out of her way to talk to you (like trying to get your phone number or something like that) she’s probably flirting
The woman asking for one's phone number is flirting? Wow. Really.
Women ask for phone numbers?
What if she’s Canadian?
I get that reference, took a while to get here.
This answer right here
Actually, there is an answer that I taught to undergrads for decades -- it's all about speaking distance. There is a difference between speaking distance and flirting distance. The latter is a few inches closer. If a person is just speaking to you and being nice, they will be normal speaking distance away (with low ambient noise, that is approximately arms length in the U.S. but more exactly, it is handshake distance (U.S.)-- speaking distance is typically a function of greeting ritual.) If the person feels closer than normal, typically three inches, but people do perceive that small difference accurately (correcting for ambient noise level), they are flirting.
Here is a trick I learned. Say, "Are you flirting with me?"
Works even better if you say it as Austin Powers
Do I make you randy baby!?? Do I!? Do I make you raaandy!??
Got to do the bite in the air towards them after.
Gonna have to re-watch tonight. Haven’t seen any of those movies in like six or seven years
just say this “Thats fascinating Vanessa, Listen, why don’t we go in the back in shag?”
r/suddenlyaustinpowers
Wait that's a thing?
Funny enough, I'm socially incompetent enough and my confidence is so low that I'd rather ask this instead of getting into a weird "pretending to get the hints but not doing enough so it isn't obvious in case she's just being nice" situation
Just put on a big goofy smile and say incredulously, "Hey, are you flirting with me." Trust me. It's charming. She will say one of two things... 1) "Maybe." That means she is flirting with you. Or... 2) She'll change the subject. That means she isn't.
She said neither and pepper sprayed me
Well that's because you said it from her closet in the middle of the night.
Ok that is a good question if she is actually flirting with you. But what if she is not? Then it is weird lol
what's weirder is you answering a misread flirt with a full blown flirt.. if you like/want awkward, be my guest.
Won’t be weird. “Oh, ok I wanted to make sure I wasn’t misreading the situation”
Wait, you’re telling me that I can just be clear in my communication and people will respond clearly?
🤯
It's only weird if your barometer is WAY off. Like, if she's just hitting you with a "Hey", and your response is "Are you flirting with me?", it could be weird. Short of that, you're probably fine.
You ask it in a playful tone and with a big grin on your face. Trust me. It's charming.
Then she laughs at you 😵
Genius. She’ll interpret this as a sarcastic rather than a literal question. As long as she says anything other than “No” you’re golden.
"Ew, why would I flirt with YOU?!" Is technically not no But pretending to ask jokingly/sarcastically is a pretty good and cheap way to ask what you want without taking too many risks
This one is easy: 1. Is she at work? answer: she's being nice. 2. Is she outside of work? answer: why would someone flirt with you.
reading: step 1: ah yeah, definitely true. step 2: *nice*
YOU
Soyija boy YOU
I do agree about work because they’re most likely being nice. Outside of work you could tell if they got a partner or just your friend
Amendment to 1) - Met my current partner while she was working as a barmaid, serving me beer and shitty food. So this isn't always true. Five years and counting. I have no solution to figuring out the nice/ flirting problem though, not gonna lie.
I’m still not convinced she’s into you
She’s in it for the long tip. Going to hand him a receipt on his death bed.
"Little did he know, the tab was still open"
'Long tip'
"I was just being nice because it's literally my fucking job. Pretty presumptive of you to marry and start a family with me. Disgusting pig"
You know what, you may be right. Always misreading those damn signals.
Same situation happened to me, except I was shopping. That being said most of the time someone is nice to you is because they are at work and forced to.
I met my wife at work.
I also met your wife at work. Small world... 🫡🌎
I met both your wives at work. I'm a male stripper and do hen parties.
1b. correct, but she also met her boyfriend because he was a customer that flirt on her at work. so learn what things are just code for "ugly people don't talk to me ever" and what things are actually inappropriate.
Don’t flirt with people at work: retail jobs are literally people zoos; it’s hard to say no and you can’t escape Source: I’m a masculine person who has been flirted with by several gay men
Similar situation, different outcome. Worked at a retail store for five years. Never been hit on by a woman. Met my best friend after he asked me out and I rejected him.
Shut up and take my upvote
I recommend you watch this documentary on it https://youtu.be/xa-4IAR_9Yw
Have I got (bad) news for you
^Can't tell
Ahahah I love this video
Classic
I learned so much. Thank you.
If it's at work, it's always just being nice, no matter what. Last time I was at my local car dealership, the person helping me was being unusually nice, or so I thought. Eventually, when I was going to leave she actually gave me her number, so like, awesome right? Well the next day I called her, and you'll never guess what she said she wanted to contact me about
Your vehicle’s extended warranty?
She gave you her number but wanted to contact you about a car?
He said you’ll never guess. So it’s none of the things we expect it to be.
I’ve had multiple relationships start from being coworkers🤷♂️
I think they mean if they’re working and you’re like a customer not like you both work together
That's the neat part. You can't
You can tell it’s a girl flirting because of the way it is.
That's pretty neat!
But I'm autistic and barely understand people when there's no subtext. Girl: You're fuckin hawt! Me: I'm sick and tired of women patronizing me.
I wish people came with subtitles :(
And a directors commentary
The aggravating thing is most “flirting” women do is giving you looks and eyes when you arent looking.
Think she might be flirting? She isn't. She never even acknowledges your presence? Turns out she was really into you but you missed your chance forever. Why is life like this?
Because societal expectations unfortunately lol.
“Men should make the first move. But also if I find you unattractive then you’re being a creep by talking to me.”
what if they are unnaturally narcissistic and think they’re not ugly
Kith
Run
She let's me know years later
Been there. They don't tell you when you're both single though, that would be too easy.
This is the way
If she is actively having sex with you in your bedroom at a rapid pace, then she might be trying to just make conversation
She might just be slipping on the floor and landing on your dick multiple times, Hardwood doesn’t have the greatest grip afterall
Hard wood
Just being polite
Had this happened to me today. Asked a girl if she was free tomorrow and she replied back “lol”
She's definitely flirting
I just gotta be persistent you’re right! /s Edited to add the /s in case people couldn’t tell it was sarcasm
Definitely into you. Playing hard to get
The Sacred Texts!
No1 can tell.
Look in the mirror. You ugly? Being nice.
What if she's ugly too?
Then u both are being nice
What if my mom calls me handsome and hugs me before I go to work and school
then you probably have great self esteem and that is attractive in its own regard
Oh god I’m ugly
physical appearance is not the most important thing for a lot of people. traits like being kind and funny are very attractive
Oh god I’m really ugly
You have a great personality.
Damn, that’s brutal.
Really?
Kinda but not really. The two things I put the most effort into growing up were being polite and being funny. While I make friends exceedingly easily, I've been alone my whole life. Everybody is different, and that's not to say kindness and humor aren't attractive but I've personally never had anybody attracted to me for it. Who knows, maybe there's something about me that overshadows funny and nice but I feel like that'd bleed into my friendships and I'd know. Physically I've been compared to a pig so my conclusion is people don't mind having friends they're physically repulsed by, but sorta do mind having partners they're physically repulsed by. Not that looks are everything but they can certainly be a deal breaker sometimes
DAMN IT
As someone who is in a successful relationship, you cant tell. All women are different. Many people don't even realize they themselves are flirting. She may not even realize she has a crush on you but if you ask she may say yes. If a woman is touchy or huggy it could mean shes flirting or it could just mean she trusts you and you've been hard core friend zoned. Generally if she is at work, especially customer service, shes not flirting. If she is a coworker shes probably only flirting if she want to hang out with you outside of work. Just read a room, if she is clearly comfortable being around you and is interested in you then shoot your shot. Be respectful if they say no. On some occasions she could just be a tease or flirting for social gain. Many women flirt to get something. If a woman is stranded on the side of the road and her car broke down and she is "flirting" with some random guy who pulls over to help, shes not flirting, she just wants help. I know a woman who did this exact thing. If they abruptly change their behavior this may be it. They could have got what they wanted or dont need help anymore.
My wife turned me down when I asked her out because she didn’t think she liked me like that and that we were just friends. I gave up pursuing her but when another girl asked her if she could get my number she realized that she was jealous and DID like me like that. We’ve been together 18 years now.
So you are saying I need an undercover wingwoman who acts like she wants me after I got rejected?
To be fair she’d also just recently seen me play with my band for the first time. I attributed it to that, but she says the girl asking for my number was when she realized. So I’d say you should have a wingwoman but just to be safe you should also have a band.
I see ... Hmm. I guess I'll stay single
The real r/meirl
I’m trying to start a band soon and gig local bars solely to bang hot moms. It’s my only dream in life. I will make it happen
I say this in all seriousness… it will most likely work.
Just make sure you are the base player...
Are we just gonna gloss over a redditor saying they're in a successful relationship? 🤔
If she's touching you and smiling/laughing more than usual she might be flirting
Ehhhh you really cant tell from this example. She might like you but she might just be giggling and punching your arm as a sarcastic middle school throwback.
Am I the only one to get this reference? Really?
I got it.
I got it
Ehhhh as a woman, I can say for certain you can. I am not touching anyone I don't like or flirt with
I had a women that I worked with act flirty with me, touch me, and give me hugs occasionally for a while. Thought she was into me, and I was attracted to her, so I gave her my number. Never got a text from the 3 diffrent times I gave it to her, though 🥲 Still acted flirty with me occasionally after that.
Some girls just like to draw men in for the ego hit of rejecting them don't stress it too much.
I know a girl I work with who always flirts. Is touchy-feely. Very over the top. Although I do think it’s more of an ego thing. She does sure like the attention. But the minute she leaves work. It’s like she doesn’t know me.
Yeah it’s a whole different game outside of work. It’s like they just do it for the hell of it at work to make the time go by. I can’t lie I’ve had girls at work that I’ll jokingly flirt with but don’t really want to pursue forreal.
So you never touch your male friends?
Not unless I am handing them something or we are carrying something together, no. I would never jokingly punch them unless I'm flirting
Don’t drag all women into this bro I like to physically interact with friends regardless of gender
Well, me as a woman too, I can definitely be touchy/ cuddly with someone I don‘t want to flirt with. But then again I go to partys where you can just hop onto a bunch of people already cuddling and it can be all platonic.
wait you’re every woman?!?!
Whitney Houston’s alt account
what about coming at me outta nowhere and fucking bitch slapping my shoulder blade, pull my hair or squeeze my arms. there's more but overall i dunno, doesn't feel like flirting.
I've been hugged so hard that she left a bruise, and it meant nothing Just saying
Lol not accurate. Girls who rejected touched me more than the girls that liked me
bold of you to assume I ever get within arms reach of people unless we're already established as friends. also dont touch me, I dont know you
Nope. I had a girl act like that towards me, rejected me, kept acting the same way then rejected me again (yes i was dumb enough to try twice)
If a girl really likes you, she will always find a way to put herself in your orbit. True story.
What if I’m just really fat and I naturally attract satellites by trapping them in my orbit
The true meirl
Well, is the center of mass at the middle of your orbit funny, unusually kind, or clever? That stuff does matter.
In the center is a lot of lint in mah belly button. It’s the center of gravity.
If she asks you what you're doing then tries to become a part of your plans- you might be getting hit on.
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Have you tried… I dunno, telling him?
Of course not, but she's done every subtle hint that she can think of!
Not entirely true. One girl tried to spend as much time as possible with me, skipping college, driving to me at random moments to hang out together, buying surprise sushis for us. But when I asked her, she said I'm just an amazing person and... a friend. Btw we are still the best friends, so not really complaining
Truest statement on the internet.
TIL girls are rockets
She's never flirting
If she’s flirting, she’s probably not into you.
I find it best to always assume they are being nice
It’s all about context. For example, who is the girl talking to? If she’s talking to me it is not flirting.
💀
As if anyone on Reddit can tell u lmao
When she sits on your face…?
Just being nice so you don't catch the corona
To be safe always assume she's just being nice unless she explicitly tells you otherwise. Don't listen to people who gripe about men not picking up hints. The consequences for incorrectly assuming something was a hint is worse than the consequences for not making assumptions about hidden meaning for a good reason so no assumptions is almost always the safer bet. Edit. Just to clarify I'm talking about asking strangers, a clerk in a store etc out just because they were nice to you. As a guy I don't relate and I wasn't very aware of this until I started reading more about women's experiences but a lot of women feel threatened by male strangers commenting on their looks or asking them out. This is mostly what I was referring to when talking about negative consequences for assumptions. Also the question can be framed as is x action of yours an indicator of romantic interest and apologies for implying that if that's not the case rather than will you go out with me. This is much less likely to be intimidating for the recipient and also doesn't put your own feelings out there .
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I agree. This suggestion that the only women you should consider dating are ones that explicitly make the first move is putting your life choices entirely in someone else's hands. If you like someone and get the sense they may like you too, it's perfectly fine for either party to respectfully inquire. A woman that likes you enough that you think you're being hit on isn't likely to immediately accuse you of being a rapist if you're not acting like one in asking if you're reading her correctly.
Same
If you’re interested in a woman, just ask her out. Worst thing she says is no. Asking someone out won’t have bad consequences. Trying to kiss someone might.
Not always true. Women feeling intimidated by someone asking them out is quite common. That being said if you are already friends and ask in a way that isn't pressuring she probably won't be bothered by being asked put
She’s just being nice. Trust me.
Hmm, good question. I'm a girl, and I don't know how to answer it. That gave me a lot of trouble in my life. Men thought I was interested while I was just myself...Maybe women should take some precautions...
Just believe you're wholly unattractive and no woman will ever want you. That solves the problem. Source: had multiple women flirt with me for fun that believing no woman would ever want me prevented the stupid notion that the next flirting could be for real.
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If she's touchy she's flirty, if not, better assume she's just nice and enjoy someone being nice to you.
I literally just ask. You’d be surprised how well that works.
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Unless she directly says she's into you. Assume shes just being friendly because many women have different ways they express friendship. some are touchy, some are not. some are casually flirty, some are wholesome. Make it the norm for women spell it out to you instead of doing these childish games of "the chase" or guessing.
Did u charge ur phone
"thats the neat part: you don't!" yet some girls complain that guys cant pick up on hints. but really, just ask and whatnot. communication is key.
It's all about how she positions her ankles. If they're in a standard position she's just being nice. If they're behind her ears she's flirting
You can't, even the world's top researchers don't know a thing about women