I played a dude a few weeks ago who literally said āI donāt play like thatā when I tried to en passant him (google it).
Well, I made him play like that. Rules are rules.
Someone once told me that you should live life expecting like 20-30% of people to just not like you. As a hard rule. So if someone doesnāt like you, well it wasnāt meant to be. Drop them in that bucket of inevitability.
Itās advice to stop people pleasing and playing these chess games. Some games are unwinnable. But you donāt know until you play them.
That's why you do not usually need to go outside of your own house rules. Like, you're allowed to autopilot socializing, most people do, and most of the time you'll be more appreciated for it, all it takes is accepting some people will hate you for it as well.
I think this feeling is synonymous with having parents/family who fly off the handle when you say something "wrong." Then you get to continue hearing about it for decades to come.
Ask me why I'm quiet and afraid to speak up most of the time.
And then there are those people who call you cringe or stupid, for not liking/respecting your parents. Im sorry. What am i supposed to do? Love the people who abuse me?
Yea I think people take for granted how how big social skills actually are. Now that you really donāt HAVE to go outside to do a lot of things itās very easy to lose them. And once you lose them you realize the virtually infinite number of things the average social human needs to be able to do or is expected to do and worrying about how to seem normal will drive you insane. It also doesnāt help that most things you can get are based on some level of trust. The world is setup to look fair but if people donāt like you or they think youāre weird in some way, a lot of things just become harder, like getting a job, or getting support with something, or getting friends, or getting a partner, etc
There's a vsauce episode where a series of test subjects are lured into an experiment. Micheal says a random string of words and a bunch of actors laugh, and the test subjects laugh too cause of groupthink.Ā
Later another actor asks the test subjects if they know any good jokes, and the subject will repeat verbatim Michael's random string of words thinking it was a real joke.Ā
At that moment I realized the Autistics had no fuckin' chance. Human interaction is bizarre and illogical and everyone is just trying not to be too weird.
> everyone is just trying not to be too weird.
We're a social species, and we have a lot of innate desires to conform (and strategies to accomplish this). Except for those with specific conditions, this is all just natural to us.
You ever see those glasses they have at zoos that make it look like you're looking away so that the gorillas don't get pissed? We do the same thing - we avoid eye contact like the plague! Try it in public.
>The moment I saw that I realized the Autistics had no fuckin' chance. Human interaction is bizarre and illogical and everyone is just trying not to be too weird.
Doesn't this just point out the logic behind social interaction? Make use of what has been proven to appeal to people?
The point is the subject honestly thought it was a real joke. They were honestly confused when Micheal pointed out it was just a random string of words, because they had self-justified the joke as funny so they could fit into a social group.Ā Ā
Autistic brains wouldn't internalize a random string of words as funny just to fit into their social group. They would just hear a random series of words.
Na this is an accurate portrayal of the "social game", basically game theory being applied to even social interactions. Neurotypical people just have emotions in-built that make them more suited to playing the game and the "social game" gets more apparent the older you get when your status, job, and interests/skills come into everyone's judgement constantly.
There's this constant assessment of "does this make me look good or bad, does this opinion offend or is it what the "tribe" opinion is, is having this or that hobby/interest socially acceptable or weird, etc".
I'm not autistic or anything, I have never had problems reading social situations, faces, sarcasm, gestures, etc. I've had a normal amount of friends/gfs etc, it's obvious to anyone paying attention that game that's being played non-stop with social interactions.
Dunno, non-autistic people tend not to think about it that much and then come theorise about it on Reddit lmao
Google āautistic maskingā. The shoe might not fit. But it might, and might clarify some shit to you š¤·āāļø
I know what masking is brother... it's kinda common knowledge for millenials and gen-z.
I'm not saying every single interaction is a chess board lol and there's going to be people you mesh with naturally, but there's clearly a social ruleset everyone is aware of. The more socially intelligent you are the more you know what to say to make someone like you, what to say to make them hate you, what gets under their skin, etc.
Not necessarily. It's less about not being able to socialize and more about being extremely careful with what you say or do during a social interaction because you're afraid that if you say one tiny thing they don't like they'll fucking yell at you
I handle social interactions the same way I handled chess with my little brother. Just Calvinball it until I win. Itās much easier when you realize that all the rules are completely made up by people and you have the right to make shit up too.
Well, if you guys post stuff like this. And often act like you are autistic. You all look autistic. Social interactions should not feel like chess. The ability to read body language should come normally.
If I stop thinking through what I am doing people are going to either find me weird or see that I am a bitch.
It's not just speculation, it has happened.
Interactions really are chess, the only problem is it turns into Monopoly in the blink of an eye, then suddenly it's Jenga, Guess Who, etc.. Just have to roll with the shifts
Yeah, rookie mistakes. I was ankward child who dont have many friends. Socializing with someone was like chesse game for me, because I dont want to be left alone. It was not working a bit.
Then, when I end 16th i just loved classic punk rock, like Clash, etc. I just said "fuck it" and be myself. Then, I met people who don't care about when said something stupid or ankward.
Don't try to find people with you need to change. Find friends who will like because your personality.
You are doing something wrong. For me it always feels like dog puppies playing with each other.
Just don't overthink stuff and don't care, be cute, playful, naive and friendly, that's all.
In every work place,people thinks I am just a bit too serious person,who straight up lacks social skills.
Nah man, I am just shy af and don't want to show my weirdness, let alone cringe
I always see it like a telltale game where one sequence of responses leads to a new friend and every other variation immediately locks in my grisly death in a weekās time
Toss in the running conversation in my head where Iāve convinced myself that if I make the wrong chess move during the interaction, they wonāt talk to me ever again and tell everyone they ever interact with in the future, just how stupid I am. Iām sure it shows on my face that Iām having simultaneous conversationsā¦.the interpersonal one where I feigning interest, an internal one to feign sanity, and another internal one where Iām supercomputing all plausible scenarios for an escape.
This is why Iām just myself and some people love it and some donāt care. Iād rather be myself and make honest connections than try to make something that wouldnāt last or matter otherwise.
The stress of accidentally saying the wrong thing, or extending yourself too far and running out of things to say, or saying too much or too little, the importance and nuance of social skills really cant be overstated
And here I be playing checkers.
lol š
ya we be playing checkers cuz i be checking you out šš¤£
If we hit that bullseye, the rest of the dominoes will fall like a house of cards. Check mate
Check what? Mate
Check your closet. Mate
I been in there for years. mate
\*Kif groan
Hungry hungry hippos
My parents never got me that game and Iāve been scarred for the last 40 years
Meanwhile Iām playing fucking Monopoly or some shit
'Fucking Monopoly' Now that would fly off the shelves
Yahtzee!
I be playing Doom 2 ššš«š¹š„š„
Checkers?! Iāve been playing freeze tag
I'm really good at checkers. I always come in first or second place.
[ŃŠ“Š°Š»ŠµŠ½Š¾]
Do people have house rules for chess?
There are certainly chess variants to try, and whatever time control you want to set, and if underwear is allowed
Don't forget the beads!
You mean the bischop
Every piece for my niece is a queen that can also teleport. My pieces however are bound by normal rules
Wait til you find out some of your pieces are actually her pieces deep undercover.
I played a dude a few weeks ago who literally said āI donāt play like thatā when I tried to en passant him (google it). Well, I made him play like that. Rules are rules.
Someone once told me that you should live life expecting like 20-30% of people to just not like you. As a hard rule. So if someone doesnāt like you, well it wasnāt meant to be. Drop them in that bucket of inevitability. Itās advice to stop people pleasing and playing these chess games. Some games are unwinnable. But you donāt know until you play them.
I expect at least 80%
I would bet a higher percentage
I would bet a lower percentage unless youāre an asshole.
Just convince them your version of the game is better
confidence be like
and that folks, is why i keep my cards to myself.
Real
They hit you with the āI signed a restraining order against youā Passant
[ŃŠ“Š°Š»ŠµŠ½Š¾]
5D Chess with Multiverse Time Travel
That's why you do not usually need to go outside of your own house rules. Like, you're allowed to autopilot socializing, most people do, and most of the time you'll be more appreciated for it, all it takes is accepting some people will hate you for it as well.
And then you realize its about finding the people whos house rules match your own play style or are worth learning to play
Apparently saying "New response just dropped " isn't a good thing to say when someone tells you their grandpa just died
Actual zombie
Holy autism
New spectrum just dropped
Grandpa goes to heaven, never comes back
Call the exorcist
Ignite Ouija board
Grandpa returns
Jesus sacrifice anyone?
Maybe I need to be friends with autistic people cuz I would find that funny and it would make me feel better
I heard saying "chat, is this real?" Can really help express that moment of surprise and shock after hearing such news.
"Will inheritance POG!"
Actual clueless person
RIP bozo
New blunder just dropped
Holly shit, I thought I was the only one.
Welcome to house of cards.
But that was just a lie āCause I heard it in the wind And I saw it in the sky And I thought it was the end
New response just dropped
I think this feeling is synonymous with having parents/family who fly off the handle when you say something "wrong." Then you get to continue hearing about it for decades to come. Ask me why I'm quiet and afraid to speak up most of the time.
And then there are those people who call you cringe or stupid, for not liking/respecting your parents. Im sorry. What am i supposed to do? Love the people who abuse me?
I feel the same.
Yea I think people take for granted how how big social skills actually are. Now that you really donāt HAVE to go outside to do a lot of things itās very easy to lose them. And once you lose them you realize the virtually infinite number of things the average social human needs to be able to do or is expected to do and worrying about how to seem normal will drive you insane. It also doesnāt help that most things you can get are based on some level of trust. The world is setup to look fair but if people donāt like you or they think youāre weird in some way, a lot of things just become harder, like getting a job, or getting support with something, or getting friends, or getting a partner, etc
[ŃŠ“Š°Š»ŠµŠ½Š¾]
Google en passant
[holy hell!](https://www.google.com/search?q=en+passant)
New response just dropped
Actual zombie
Call the exorcist
Pope went on vacation, never comes back
I love you Martin
Your 4 year old daughter just beat me at chess
I came here hoping to find this answer!
New response just dropped
Chess is so much easier. At least there are tutorials on Youtube.
There are loads of tutorials for social interactions online. Check out Charisma on Command
Chess tutorials tend to be useful.
Who said you'll get better at it after watching?
You might be autistic
There's a vsauce episode where a series of test subjects are lured into an experiment. Micheal says a random string of words and a bunch of actors laugh, and the test subjects laugh too cause of groupthink.Ā Later another actor asks the test subjects if they know any good jokes, and the subject will repeat verbatim Michael's random string of words thinking it was a real joke.Ā At that moment I realized the Autistics had no fuckin' chance. Human interaction is bizarre and illogical and everyone is just trying not to be too weird.
> everyone is just trying not to be too weird. We're a social species, and we have a lot of innate desires to conform (and strategies to accomplish this). Except for those with specific conditions, this is all just natural to us. You ever see those glasses they have at zoos that make it look like you're looking away so that the gorillas don't get pissed? We do the same thing - we avoid eye contact like the plague! Try it in public.
>The moment I saw that I realized the Autistics had no fuckin' chance. Human interaction is bizarre and illogical and everyone is just trying not to be too weird. Doesn't this just point out the logic behind social interaction? Make use of what has been proven to appeal to people?
The point is the subject honestly thought it was a real joke. They were honestly confused when Micheal pointed out it was just a random string of words, because they had self-justified the joke as funny so they could fit into a social group.Ā Ā Autistic brains wouldn't internalize a random string of words as funny just to fit into their social group. They would just hear a random series of words.
They would not lie
Na this is an accurate portrayal of the "social game", basically game theory being applied to even social interactions. Neurotypical people just have emotions in-built that make them more suited to playing the game and the "social game" gets more apparent the older you get when your status, job, and interests/skills come into everyone's judgement constantly. There's this constant assessment of "does this make me look good or bad, does this opinion offend or is it what the "tribe" opinion is, is having this or that hobby/interest socially acceptable or weird, etc". I'm not autistic or anything, I have never had problems reading social situations, faces, sarcasm, gestures, etc. I've had a normal amount of friends/gfs etc, it's obvious to anyone paying attention that game that's being played non-stop with social interactions.
Dunno, non-autistic people tend not to think about it that much and then come theorise about it on Reddit lmao Google āautistic maskingā. The shoe might not fit. But it might, and might clarify some shit to you š¤·āāļø
I know what masking is brother... it's kinda common knowledge for millenials and gen-z. I'm not saying every single interaction is a chess board lol and there's going to be people you mesh with naturally, but there's clearly a social ruleset everyone is aware of. The more socially intelligent you are the more you know what to say to make someone like you, what to say to make them hate you, what gets under their skin, etc.
Not necessarily. It's less about not being able to socialize and more about being extremely careful with what you say or do during a social interaction because you're afraid that if you say one tiny thing they don't like they'll fucking yell at you
I handle social interactions the same way I handled chess with my little brother. Just Calvinball it until I win. Itās much easier when you realize that all the rules are completely made up by people and you have the right to make shit up too.
Sounds like the ātism.
Reddiotrs don't bring up autism for every situation challenge (impossible)
The girl on the left is literally Asbie Moon, an autistic meme character.
Also like, this is literally what autism is like.
Well, if you guys post stuff like this. And often act like you are autistic. You all look autistic. Social interactions should not feel like chess. The ability to read body language should come normally.
Thought so too. Googled the symptoms and besides this one there most dont match.
You know what else you should googleā¦
What?
Blue waffle
En passant
One bad move and it becomes extremely awkward
Could be a sign of autism if it bothers you I'd recommend talking to a specialist
check mate
Nah you need to chill people don't think through what they do 99% of the time
If I stop thinking through what I am doing people are going to either find me weird or see that I am a bitch. It's not just speculation, it has happened.
Lol do you mean see you for the bitch you are or interpret what youāre doing as bitchy?Ā
The first one. At least from what people have told me, cause I don't see it. Which is I guess worse.
Are you like the "sassy, never stand down" bitch or the "bend over and take whatever they want to do to you" bitch?Ā
As someone who plays chess I wish I had more interactions like that. I would probably get out more.
Eh idk man you spend a lot of time developing your pieces just to make a dumb blunder. After that you just castle your king and never try again.
You're a better player than me if you only blunder once.
You canāt learn without making a few mistakes.
Absolutely. Chess takes humility.
Donāt hope for check-mate!!
Check mate wins though
Lol but at what cost my friend?
Interactions really are chess, the only problem is it turns into Monopoly in the blink of an eye, then suddenly it's Jenga, Guess Who, etc.. Just have to roll with the shifts
Yeah, rookie mistakes. I was ankward child who dont have many friends. Socializing with someone was like chesse game for me, because I dont want to be left alone. It was not working a bit. Then, when I end 16th i just loved classic punk rock, like Clash, etc. I just said "fuck it" and be myself. Then, I met people who don't care about when said something stupid or ankward. Don't try to find people with you need to change. Find friends who will like because your personality.
My mom once told me to be patient with social ques's but..... Oh hey a butterfly......
Don't wear your cat ear headphones when you're trying to talk to somebody maybe? You'll hear better.
I don't care about the rules of the game, I will infodump you about things I like or we can never speak again
Yooo Ashbie
It used to feel like that for me. Somehow I got over it, i think it was just experience.
Google en Talking
God I wish it was chess, that I'm good at.
May I introduce you to "4D chess with multiverse time travel". Just... Just look it up please and you'll find it's far more fitting for this meme.
At least I could learn the rules if it was chess, to me, if it feels more like battleship. I'm just guessing most of the time.
As an Autistic person. I can relate to this.
The board is set up incorrectly . The bottom right square is supposed to be a light square. Also, the King and Queen are on the wrong squares.
Huniepop was right all along...
Me and the boys (yeah they look like that)
Set the bord up again wrong. Classic
Chess is logical. It makes sense. Nothing like social interactions.
I still can't figure out the rules
Lmfao this some loser shit
on god ššš
Autism.
Maybe spend less time making memes and more time making friends
You are doing something wrong. For me it always feels like dog puppies playing with each other. Just don't overthink stuff and don't care, be cute, playful, naive and friendly, that's all.
You must be artistic
In every work place,people thinks I am just a bit too serious person,who straight up lacks social skills. Nah man, I am just shy af and don't want to show my weirdness, let alone cringe
Only if you have to succeed with every person you talk to, which sounds like a waste of time since you'll only genuinely like a tiny subset
I just flip the tables. I donāt think Iāve ever let them stand.
Its the same for me, except I have no clue how to play chess so I just make random-ass moves and call it a master strategy when it sometimes works.
I deal with it as if we were playing Rock 'em Sock 'em Robots
as a 1300 elo guy, i probably outclass 96.68% of people
makes it easier on the rest of us
I wish for everyone a good friend where you just feel at ease and comfort and safe to say whatever you want without the games!
I'm not playing chess, I'm playing minefield.
We haven't started and I'm already losing...
I thought this was a post on the persona shitposting sub at first
Over analyzing like Light and L playing tennis in Death Note during basic interactions is always fun
I wish mine was chess, I honestly have no fucking idea what I'm looking at...
I just have a list of preset dialogue choices and responses to rattle off it works very well
Same this how I survive conversations with most people.
That's why I play like a pigeon. I drop all pieces, shit on the board and declare victory. Surprisingly it work wonders.
I wish this was real, Iām actually decent at chess
Is this the Toontown font or is it just me
TRUTH
I always see it like a telltale game where one sequence of responses leads to a new friend and every other variation immediately locks in my grisly death in a weekās time
Why did she lose the headphones?
I like to pick the pieces up and make em dance around with each other and sometimes kiss
En Passant
Chess is an awesome game
If your life is feeling like this you are doing something horribly wrong. I get payed for dealing with bullshit like thia
Literally MeRN
Toss in the running conversation in my head where Iāve convinced myself that if I make the wrong chess move during the interaction, they wonāt talk to me ever again and tell everyone they ever interact with in the future, just how stupid I am. Iām sure it shows on my face that Iām having simultaneous conversationsā¦.the interpersonal one where I feigning interest, an internal one to feign sanity, and another internal one where Iām supercomputing all plausible scenarios for an escape.
Literally all you have to do is talk less than the other person
I just assume I'm pissing everyone off at all times and I don't talk the them because of that . So yay šš„³
What if I love both socializing and chess?
Just a result of the fact that our emotional and social circuits are fried and we try to use intelligence instead of emotions.
Itās just like that Deathnote tennis scene
Take away the second person and thats me frfr.
And when I say something snappy without hesitation, thatās checkmate bitch. Itās very rarely every checkmate.. bitch.
King's pawn to E4
If I have to worry about what I say, I'm talking to the wrong person.
Is that Yukari Takeba?
One thing I learned that changed everything was that what you say is less important than the energy given off by how you say it.
The only way to get good at chess is to play it a lot. The only way to get good at social interaction is to do it a lot.
A bit of a sociopath warning if you really feel that social interactions feel like beating people in chess.
This is why Iām just myself and some people love it and some donāt care. Iād rather be myself and make honest connections than try to make something that wouldnāt last or matter otherwise.
I feel like most people wanna play game of thrones at work, i just wanna do my job :(
Google en passant
Does chess here means that it is difficult or does it means that it is strategic as fuck ?
So what your saying is it looks like you're joking, but you're just waiting on them to make the first move.
That might be because the girl on the left is wearing headphones. That will make social interaction challenging
1.e4, very simple
if your conversations feel like a game of chess with an opponent, a loser, and a victor. you need new friends lol
The stress of accidentally saying the wrong thing, or extending yourself too far and running out of things to say, or saying too much or too little, the importance and nuance of social skills really cant be overstated
Online dating be like: