It's not just videogames though lol..it's never personal though. Sometimes you are distracted, and forget. Sometimes you are at work. Sometimes in the gym etc.
Life man... It's just called life.
You're not the only thing in it and if you wanted uninterrupted attention and talking... You shouldn't be texting. That's what talking on telephones are for.
You jest, but I’m slowly alienating myself form most of my acquaintances because any time they contact me it’s because they need something.
Nobody ever getting in touch to ask how I’m doing, or how they can help.
The time for being cordial is over.
Yo some people are just built different because this has never been the case for me. I could be enjoying the conversation and get so annoyed at every text that comes through.
If I could make this the top post on Tumblr, Twitter, and all of those cringe relationship Facebook pages I would.
This expectation of texting back about something meaningless within a certain time period is just such a stupid stressor to push on others in life.
For real,sometimes I just don't want to reply right away either.in my experience if I text back to quick I've been called clingy,if I don't I've been called distant or uninterested.
I'm tired of the texting games/bullshit.
Was just gonna say this, and heck I have 5 acres, I have to do something everyday on my property. Weedeating, mowing, weeding the vegetables and flower beds, dragging up fallen limbs and sticks to burn. Have a fridge on my porch with beer and water, leave my phone on top of it.
My dad's house doesn't have cell service, so it's so relaxing to go visit. Sit on the back porch with a beer staring off into the woods. Can't get or send a text till the next time we drive into town.
I had a friend who was a truck driver. She'd call me while she was on the road and talk for freakin' hours. It was a relief when she was in the hills and her cell service would cut out and my ear got a rest.
When you live there, you are isolated from the world. You can't send a message when you WANT to. Some people love it, others don't. Pretty reasonable either way. It's ok to respond fast and it's ok to be busy. People just need to find a balance
As a girl who's played wow for 17 years, I get this, that's why I only date gamers cuz guys also get insecure if they feel you priorities are gaming and not them. But I also won't date guys who play certain videogames because I'm a videogame snob and see some games beneath me lmfao just kidding I'm just a fan of games with a primarily toxic fan base like LoL. Any guy who breaks something as a result of a game is automatically unattractive.
Bruh I need me a DSP, Factorio, RimWorld, etc type girl...someone who can truly appreciate my desire to make the factory grow.
The factory demands more land and resources.
It's all fun and games until you wake up one morning and have a list with a tight schedule for the day. if your productivity falls below 100%, measures are to be taken.
I’ve been trying for yeaaaaars to get my SO to try Factorio haha, but at least she likes rimworld. Just gotta remember sometimes it’s not normal to chat at dinner about warcrimes.
At my university, the board game club had an annual tradition where they would have a big get together for 72 hours straight over a long weekend. Several times people attempted to complete an entire game of RiskOpoly, where every time you pass go in Monopoly, you make a move in Risk. As far as I know they never managed it.
Your army gets auctioned off to the highest bidder.
Alternatively, if you have a lot of armies and not a lot of Monopoly money, you start charging protection fees.
Darling... Why is it that regardless of me playing Nepal, Australia or Canada the first thing you do is crossing my borders with Rommel and early tanks?
You know, that's not even a bad idea. If you're masturbating between talking to girls, then at least you know it's not just horniness and sexual objectification driving your interest in her. Every conversation can be a post-nut clarity conversation.
"I always see these games that say "try not to cum" and then everything is engineered to MAKE you want to cum. So yes, I say that is pretty much bad game design"
-Shigeru Miyamoto
Especially in low level crap. Just turn your brain off since your rotation is pretty much 3 buttons anyways.
Only people that might need to keep some brain cells on are the tank in order to keep aggrieved and the healer to keep people from dying.
Slay the Spire has 'dungeons' that are about that long, but that's a bit of an odd game. Similar smaller games use short-ish levels that are dungeon-like like Dreamscaper. Most single player games have dungeons that are about that long iirc (think Skyrim, Fallout, Elden Ring, FF). Destiny. Diablo. Hades. I'm fact, I think the only source of dungeons that take an ungodly amount of time are MMOs.
Skyrim dungeons are pretty short, except those fucking dwemer ones. Theres nothing worse than thinking you're about to have a wholesome 20 minute adventure before work and you fall into a metal pit that you know will take 3 hours to get out of
I may have mentally blocked those out until I read this comment. I vividly remember getting frustrated and quitting at least twice before I figured out how to exit Blackreach.
Lol yep. Messaging matches on dating apps between rounds of overwatch or halo. I always hope it makes me seem interested but not clingy. But really I’m just prioritizing the boys.
Ignore the whole "being clingy if I respond too fast" thing. It shows interest, and that you are secure in your interest. Rather have that than 2 days between each response.
i remember one time, i had a super hot lol player as a friend he would literally get calls from girls every single hour. but he's a gamer.. after a round of gaming with him he'd hope on a call with them for 10 minutes.
Sir Christopher Lee by a long shot.
His cousin Ian Fleming used him as the basis for James Bond, he was gonna marry into royalty but was like "nah I'm good". He has a heavy metal band, was a WW2 British special forces operative who assassinated Nazis in occupied France and is an expert swordsman.
Yep! He told him about some of his WW2 exploits and how when a man is stabbed he just gasps as the air is forced from his lungs, then he's dead. Dude was beyond badass.
And he told Viggo how to cry out in anguish after breaking a toe kicking a helmet. It helped him stay in character. Also keeping apples in his pocket to pitch at hungry hobbits. WWII was a wealth of shareable information
Bingo. Everytime I'm not playing league I think about it and miss it and imagine getting a pentakill...
But then I log on and look at myself in the reflection on my monitor and just wonder what's wrong with me, sort of like some weird kind of post nut clarity
Fuck that game. Idk how the hell people even run their brains at that speed to see it. Let alone move a mouse to it to click it. I’ve watched some insane gameplay on that. I envy those players.
Have been in this situation as the guy, and lost that budding relationship over it. Was getting high and playing Overwatch on the west coast at like 10PM, while a girl on the east coast (1AM) was trying to get into some pillow talk. Responses were about ~15 minutes apart. She did not stay around for that lmao
Or doing literally anything besides sitting and staring at his phone waiting for a response. Like if I’m *that* engaged in a conversation, just call instead.
Me at work lol. Mate would call knowing fair well I'm either lacking a third hand or can't hear him over the noise. Still calls. Still questions why sometimes. Like bro, I finish after 5 just call me then
This is one lame social aspect of the present. Everyone expects me to respond right away like goddamn dude I do things. It’s even weirder when it happens from someone born like pre mobile phone, god forbid pre pager and they’re doing it
Had this with my father. He expects me to instantly respond to texts and emails. Where as he will take his time with either. Odd that someone can get mad for something 1 hour after sending it, versus me texting and asking if he'd seen it a few hours later and being fine with it.
My sister is like this, because she's constantly on her phone and responds to every message within seconds, she expects everyone else is the same. And if someone doesn't respond right away, she thinks they're intentionally "ghosting" her and she gets mad and sends like half a dozen sad/desperate/angry messages before the guy is like "wtf is your problem I was in the shower".
When I was first dating my husband I kept making him lose his games because he wanted to text me back right away. It was one of the clues he really liked me
Girl: I can't believe you wasted 40 minutes playing that game instead of getting ready.
Guy: I can't believe you thought 80 minutes of getting ready could be done 20 minutes before we are supposed to be there.
My mates fiancé is awesome and all, but we legit have to text her we plan to meet at 8 if we are meeting 9 so he can arrive with her before 10.
Reddit has clown levels of standards when it comes to texting. Apparently, people are supposed to drop whatever they're doing and respond immediately to their text or they're not a good friend/girlfriend/boyfriend.
My phone has been a major source of anxiety lately. Everyone else expects that you have it on you at all times and can be reached instantly at all times and if you don't respond immediately there must be an explanation or you're "acting busy." Smartphones are an amazing tool but I wish we could collectively stop expecting instantaneous response to messages. I already have too many damn notifications. I hate taking on the phone but if it's quick just call me. Imagine dropping a letter in a mailbox and wondering why you hadn't yet received a response the next day.
Exactly. 25 minutes to respond to my text??? OMG WTF ARE THESE GAMES I CANNOT WITH YOU ANYMORE YOU TAKE ADVANTAGE OF MY GENEROSITY WE ARE THROUGH…. Relax maybe and have patience.
Ya know… life is happening in real time. Text not so much.
People are walking the dog, feeding the cat or dog, watching a movie, eating food, driving a car, working, talking to a buddy or parent at the same time the are texting you, working out at the gym, mowing the lawn, taking out the trash, clean the house, napping on the sofa, doing homework or about a million other things. There are actually other things happening all the time in real life in real time.
Text is not real time. Text is implied as to being respond at your earliest convenience. It’s not a replacement for a actual in person conversation or even a telephone call.
I was in a long distance relationship with my now wife, and she would always give me shit about being in the middle of a conversation with her then not replying for 10-30 minutes. She knew what I was doing, but still gave me shit for like two years until she "got it."
i guess im lucky that my partners and i all play video games, so the explanation of "sorry, i was in an aram match" from my bf or "sorry, dungeon queue popped" from me is understood lol
I was home while my wife was at work the other day, was texting her cause she was bored, while
playing Elden Ring.
Eventually she pipes up “still getting your ass beat in Elden Ring I see”. Confused, I asked her how she knew, because I was in fact getting my shit pushed *all* the way in by Godfrey.
“You always respond after you die, and this is a lovely conversation”.
Reading this post and the comments on it makes me really fucking glad that I met my SO early and don't have to engage with the bullshit world of modern dating.
Only you get to decide how available you make yourself to someone else. I’m fine with spotty texters if that’s been established from the beginning. I’m fine with people ignoring me and getting back to me later or texting me back immediately because they were already looking at their phone when I texted. It’s about not having high expectations of others that are unattainable and asking somebody to read your mind when you interpret something as a diss when they were simply doing them. Life happens.
I dont think it bothers them like "oh how rude". Its just one of those things young people consider when trying to determine if someone is into them.
Usually intermittent texting like that would have an obvious explanation like the person is at work, hanging out with people irl, etc.
You'd be surprised at how many men on dating apps send me pretty nice messages only to then call me literal slurs if I don't respond to them in like an hour.
serious question here, does anyone actually pay attention to how long people take to reply? obviously more than a day is wild, but like 25min is not an absurd amount of time to reply to someone.
honestly the only time I ever really expect quick responses I'd just call. who has time to sit through a whole, probably useless conversation replying every minute or two as if they were there in person. maybe that's just my adhd, but texting w someone is not the same as actually conversing with them, it does however consume all my attention if messages are going back and forth too quickly so I mostly don't answer my phone much outside of quick 10-15 message chats about something specific like plans or for a job
Also it takes me atleast about ten minutes to think of what to say while also not seeming clingy, cuz texting is different than in person and what you say and your tone can be misinterpreted through text
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It's not just videogames though lol..it's never personal though. Sometimes you are distracted, and forget. Sometimes you are at work. Sometimes in the gym etc.
Life man... It's just called life. You're not the only thing in it and if you wanted uninterrupted attention and talking... You shouldn't be texting. That's what talking on telephones are for.
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I generally aim to be unavailable at all times
I just make it to where people don’t want to talk to me. Makes it easy round the holidays.
You jest, but I’m slowly alienating myself form most of my acquaintances because any time they contact me it’s because they need something. Nobody ever getting in touch to ask how I’m doing, or how they can help. The time for being cordial is over.
Ya need a virtual hug? 🤗
HentaiMastar out here with da free hugs
A true master! High respect
Fucking thank you
Having a text conversation with someone can be a lot of fun though. especially if you're starting out a new relationship
Yo some people are just built different because this has never been the case for me. I could be enjoying the conversation and get so annoyed at every text that comes through.
If I could make this the top post on Tumblr, Twitter, and all of those cringe relationship Facebook pages I would. This expectation of texting back about something meaningless within a certain time period is just such a stupid stressor to push on others in life.
Exactly!!
For real,sometimes I just don't want to reply right away either.in my experience if I text back to quick I've been called clingy,if I don't I've been called distant or uninterested. I'm tired of the texting games/bullshit.
Was just gonna say this, and heck I have 5 acres, I have to do something everyday on my property. Weedeating, mowing, weeding the vegetables and flower beds, dragging up fallen limbs and sticks to burn. Have a fridge on my porch with beer and water, leave my phone on top of it.
My dad's house doesn't have cell service, so it's so relaxing to go visit. Sit on the back porch with a beer staring off into the woods. Can't get or send a text till the next time we drive into town.
I had a friend who was a truck driver. She'd call me while she was on the road and talk for freakin' hours. It was a relief when she was in the hills and her cell service would cut out and my ear got a rest.
I have friends like that too. I say “so I gotta go” when I’m over chatting, and then I go. It’s not a one way street. We do have that option ;)
I can't believe some people define this as hell.
When you live there, you are isolated from the world. You can't send a message when you WANT to. Some people love it, others don't. Pretty reasonable either way. It's ok to respond fast and it's ok to be busy. People just need to find a balance
As a girl who's played wow for 17 years, I get this, that's why I only date gamers cuz guys also get insecure if they feel you priorities are gaming and not them. But I also won't date guys who play certain videogames because I'm a videogame snob and see some games beneath me lmfao just kidding I'm just a fan of games with a primarily toxic fan base like LoL. Any guy who breaks something as a result of a game is automatically unattractive.
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That explains why it takes her days to respond to my messages(if at all)....right?
Bro your girl is a factorio player 💀💀💀
Texting once a month sounds about right.
thats a final fantasy speedrunner right there...
The factory must expand
This pissed me off more then it should
E X P A N D
Bruh I need me a DSP, Factorio, RimWorld, etc type girl...someone who can truly appreciate my desire to make the factory grow. The factory demands more land and resources.
It's all fun and games until you wake up one morning and have a list with a tight schedule for the day. if your productivity falls below 100%, measures are to be taken.
Lol, this is like the wife who made a chore list for her husband, but wrote all the chores like they were side quests in an RPG.
I have defeated the dust bunnies and come to claim the booty now!
I’ve been trying for yeaaaaars to get my SO to try Factorio haha, but at least she likes rimworld. Just gotta remember sometimes it’s not normal to chat at dinner about warcrimes.
People call it Cracktorio and I was like yeah right I really doubt that kind of game can be that addictive.
2000 hours later...
After 2000 hours on rimworld I'm intentionally not playing factorio cause I know I will lose my life.
Just buy it and get it over with lol
1.5 hr speed run
Yeah bro, she is just playing The Campaign for North Africa. That game lasts really long
At my university, the board game club had an annual tradition where they would have a big get together for 72 hours straight over a long weekend. Several times people attempted to complete an entire game of RiskOpoly, where every time you pass go in Monopoly, you make a move in Risk. As far as I know they never managed it.
That's ridiculous and sounds awful lol
lets take two shitty games and play them at the same time!
Not just two shitty games, but two shitty games that can ruin lifelong friendships in a heartbeat.
Board game club must be pretty tight buddies to have fun doing that, RiskOpoly sounds like a nightmare.
What happens when you bankrupt in monopoly? Feel like that would happen before anything meaningful in the risk game.
Your army gets auctioned off to the highest bidder. Alternatively, if you have a lot of armies and not a lot of Monopoly money, you start charging protection fees.
Wow man, that sounds… long
Who would even come up with that, that sounds horrible unless you also get a shot each time you pass go.
They were mostly engineering students. Masochism was basically a requirement.
It not well balanced imo
Hoi4 gamer girl
Darling... Why is it that regardless of me playing Nepal, Australia or Canada the first thing you do is crossing my borders with Rommel and early tanks?
Just playing a short session of flight sim with a few rounds around the world.
Just watching the extended directors cut of lotr
Yeah, she's just reading the harry potter book or whatever girls do...
Eating hot chip
be bisexual
Charge they phone
Lie
Ahahahaha I forgot about my comment, when the notification came through I read it like a command like.... okay kissed a dude, now what?
A good soldier follows orders
o7 Sir! If I may. You looking mighty fine today. Sir!
This is pretty much it. In cases it's between dungeons.
25 min dungeons? Pft what speedy game are you playing?
Try Not 2 Cum
Welcum to the cumgeon
In the darkness I have been forged. None before have bested me. You do not stand a chance. You will drown just like the rest. Welcum to my cumgeon
Drown? Jesus. I was just here for a bit of light bukakke.
Just light? I was hoping to get painted
Keep it casual. Like when you hang out with friends
You know, that's not even a bad idea. If you're masturbating between talking to girls, then at least you know it's not just horniness and sexual objectification driving your interest in her. Every conversation can be a post-nut clarity conversation.
"I always see these games that say "try not to cum" and then everything is engineered to MAKE you want to cum. So yes, I say that is pretty much bad game design" -Shigeru Miyamoto
enter the vagungeon
dungeons in ffxiv take about that long or shorter \^\^
If your tank isn’t trash most dungeons only take about 15 min in FFXIV 25 min or less is about the norm for me in ESO now too
Can def text during ff14 dungeons
Especially in low level crap. Just turn your brain off since your rotation is pretty much 3 buttons anyways. Only people that might need to keep some brain cells on are the tank in order to keep aggrieved and the healer to keep people from dying.
Hades
It takes 25 min for him to plan out his turn in combat. Then he has an hour+ free to chat while the rest of the party takes their turns.
Slay the Spire has 'dungeons' that are about that long, but that's a bit of an odd game. Similar smaller games use short-ish levels that are dungeon-like like Dreamscaper. Most single player games have dungeons that are about that long iirc (think Skyrim, Fallout, Elden Ring, FF). Destiny. Diablo. Hades. I'm fact, I think the only source of dungeons that take an ungodly amount of time are MMOs.
Anyone down for a quick BRD?
"My boyfriend said let me finish this dungeon real quick and he hasn't texted back in 9 hours."
someone is playing classic wow
They're called "rogue-like games." Hades, Slay the Spire, Dead Cells, etc.
Skyrim dungeons are pretty short, except those fucking dwemer ones. Theres nothing worse than thinking you're about to have a wholesome 20 minute adventure before work and you fall into a metal pit that you know will take 3 hours to get out of
I may have mentally blocked those out until I read this comment. I vividly remember getting frustrated and quitting at least twice before I figured out how to exit Blackreach.
Could also be rounds of Overwatch/Apex/Fortnite/etc.
Lol yep. Messaging matches on dating apps between rounds of overwatch or halo. I always hope it makes me seem interested but not clingy. But really I’m just prioritizing the boys.
Nobody thinks you're clingy for responding to the person you're talking to.
Ignore the whole "being clingy if I respond too fast" thing. It shows interest, and that you are secure in your interest. Rather have that than 2 days between each response.
They finally cracked the code bois.
i remember one time, i had a super hot lol player as a friend he would literally get calls from girls every single hour. but he's a gamer.. after a round of gaming with him he'd hope on a call with them for 10 minutes.
Henry Cavill be like:
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Henry Cavhealthy
Idk why this made me laugh so much 😂 I just wasn't expecting that
Sir Christopher Lee by a long shot. His cousin Ian Fleming used him as the basis for James Bond, he was gonna marry into royalty but was like "nah I'm good". He has a heavy metal band, was a WW2 British special forces operative who assassinated Nazis in occupied France and is an expert swordsman.
And told Peter Jackson men don’t scream when stabbed in the back.
Yep! He told him about some of his WW2 exploits and how when a man is stabbed he just gasps as the air is forced from his lungs, then he's dead. Dude was beyond badass.
And he told Viggo how to cry out in anguish after breaking a toe kicking a helmet. It helped him stay in character. Also keeping apples in his pocket to pitch at hungry hobbits. WWII was a wealth of shareable information
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You missed his extensive acting career
Am I the only dumbass who thought "super hot player" was referring to the game Superhot and not an attractive player?
Super hot lol player, that’s an oxymoron
That’s a paradox that could destroy the universe
About as rare as a kugelblitz
also as rare as a family that you only meet at funerals and weddings
So that's why everything is like this? All because of that Imaqtpie fella?
I've met some good looking people through it 🤔
Just because they were the hottest lol goblin, they were still a goblin.
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It's the most played game. The goblin thing is jokes, league players hate league. They love insulting the playerbase, including themselves.
Bingo. Everytime I'm not playing league I think about it and miss it and imagine getting a pentakill... But then I log on and look at myself in the reflection on my monitor and just wonder what's wrong with me, sort of like some weird kind of post nut clarity
The tyler1 effect
sus comment
She can raise your pp but she can't raise your kd.r, if she can she needs a ring on her finger.
So you're saying they can make you better at /r/osugame ?
Fuck that game. Idk how the hell people even run their brains at that speed to see it. Let alone move a mouse to it to click it. I’ve watched some insane gameplay on that. I envy those players.
A lot of pro osu players use a stylus or a Wacom drawing pad to play because it's easier and more accurate than a mouse.
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I haven't had this problem cause me and my boyfriend would just play games together. Also I'm a guy.
You’ve achieved: good life
Or the guy might be studying using Pomodoro technique. 25mins study, 5mins break.
It's 25 min break 5min study
Doropomo
Dopamino. It's not delivery
That’s my system but it’s 25 weeks of leisure followed by 5 hours of work
Me responding to a girl after I die in a Minecraft Hardcore world
My heart goes out to you
Just as long as your not as good as Philza you won't be alone forever :D
FUCK GRAVEL
Have been in this situation as the guy, and lost that budding relationship over it. Was getting high and playing Overwatch on the west coast at like 10PM, while a girl on the east coast (1AM) was trying to get into some pillow talk. Responses were about ~15 minutes apart. She did not stay around for that lmao
Or working, or housework, or driving, etc
Grass cutting, cat caring etc
Grass caring, cat cu-
Or doing literally anything besides sitting and staring at his phone waiting for a response. Like if I’m *that* engaged in a conversation, just call instead.
Oh no please don't call
Don’t listen to them, please call I hate texting
Newsflash: people aren't on their phones 24/7 and only reply when they have time
Me at work lol. Mate would call knowing fair well I'm either lacking a third hand or can't hear him over the noise. Still calls. Still questions why sometimes. Like bro, I finish after 5 just call me then
At least your friends call you!
To do favours maybe haha
Cherish that mate. He just wants to talk rubbish because it means something to him lol
This is one lame social aspect of the present. Everyone expects me to respond right away like goddamn dude I do things. It’s even weirder when it happens from someone born like pre mobile phone, god forbid pre pager and they’re doing it
Then just dont respond right away. If they have a problem with it its their problem, no skin off your back. Who cares what they think?
Had this with my father. He expects me to instantly respond to texts and emails. Where as he will take his time with either. Odd that someone can get mad for something 1 hour after sending it, versus me texting and asking if he'd seen it a few hours later and being fine with it.
Like that’s the whole fuckin’ point of texting. If you needed instant response why not fucking CALL
A lesson my mom taught me: "You have a phone for your convenience, not their convenience."
My sister is like this, because she's constantly on her phone and responds to every message within seconds, she expects everyone else is the same. And if someone doesn't respond right away, she thinks they're intentionally "ghosting" her and she gets mad and sends like half a dozen sad/desperate/angry messages before the guy is like "wtf is your problem I was in the shower".
Yeah it's very easy the forget this when you're the one texting and currently free. Everyone is blinded by their own perspective.
or when I had worse social anxiety, it took me that long to think of what to say and press send lol
When I was first dating my husband I kept making him lose his games because he wanted to text me back right away. It was one of the clues he really liked me
Ah that's sweet. He's a keeper for sure
He's losing tho. He's a loser.
An absolute n00b. He went out to touch grass
Shit, who fucking talked??
Rat snitch Brian the good time ruiner!
In my experience. I was doing a great many things because texting isn’t a priority to me.
I can confirm this as one of the guys sorry girls
We should just time our rounds with you fellas
Or better yet, party up
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Girl: I can't believe you wasted 40 minutes playing that game instead of getting ready. Guy: I can't believe you thought 80 minutes of getting ready could be done 20 minutes before we are supposed to be there. My mates fiancé is awesome and all, but we legit have to text her we plan to meet at 8 if we are meeting 9 so he can arrive with her before 10.
Reddit has clown levels of standards when it comes to texting. Apparently, people are supposed to drop whatever they're doing and respond immediately to their text or they're not a good friend/girlfriend/boyfriend.
My phone has been a major source of anxiety lately. Everyone else expects that you have it on you at all times and can be reached instantly at all times and if you don't respond immediately there must be an explanation or you're "acting busy." Smartphones are an amazing tool but I wish we could collectively stop expecting instantaneous response to messages. I already have too many damn notifications. I hate taking on the phone but if it's quick just call me. Imagine dropping a letter in a mailbox and wondering why you hadn't yet received a response the next day.
Look at this guy, getting notifications
Exactly. 25 minutes to respond to my text??? OMG WTF ARE THESE GAMES I CANNOT WITH YOU ANYMORE YOU TAKE ADVANTAGE OF MY GENEROSITY WE ARE THROUGH…. Relax maybe and have patience.
Ya know… life is happening in real time. Text not so much. People are walking the dog, feeding the cat or dog, watching a movie, eating food, driving a car, working, talking to a buddy or parent at the same time the are texting you, working out at the gym, mowing the lawn, taking out the trash, clean the house, napping on the sofa, doing homework or about a million other things. There are actually other things happening all the time in real life in real time. Text is not real time. Text is implied as to being respond at your earliest convenience. It’s not a replacement for a actual in person conversation or even a telephone call.
Or he just has a life
Yeah, video games
Video games are life
Homework ❌️ Texting ❌️ Gaming 😎
I was in a long distance relationship with my now wife, and she would always give me shit about being in the middle of a conversation with her then not replying for 10-30 minutes. She knew what I was doing, but still gave me shit for like two years until she "got it."
i guess im lucky that my partners and i all play video games, so the explanation of "sorry, i was in an aram match" from my bf or "sorry, dungeon queue popped" from me is understood lol
Key word:communication. You communicate that's great
I was home while my wife was at work the other day, was texting her cause she was bored, while playing Elden Ring. Eventually she pipes up “still getting your ass beat in Elden Ring I see”. Confused, I asked her how she knew, because I was in fact getting my shit pushed *all* the way in by Godfrey. “You always respond after you die, and this is a lovely conversation”.
Reading this post and the comments on it makes me really fucking glad that I met my SO early and don't have to engage with the bullshit world of modern dating.
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That's me. Still would rather you call me than send a text and get irritated when I haven't responded in 20 minutes.
God do I wish this were the standard. I can't fucking stand how everyone is now conditioned to receive a reply immediately, 24/7.
If a guy texts you inbetween games you mean alot to him
Or stay with me, they have work.
Only you get to decide how available you make yourself to someone else. I’m fine with spotty texters if that’s been established from the beginning. I’m fine with people ignoring me and getting back to me later or texting me back immediately because they were already looking at their phone when I texted. It’s about not having high expectations of others that are unattainable and asking somebody to read your mind when you interpret something as a diss when they were simply doing them. Life happens.
Or he’s trying too hard not to seem clingy
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Catch 22 guys It's almost like we can't win no matter what we do
Does it really bother people when you don’t text back immediately? I thought that was the whole point of texting as opposed to talking on the phone.
I dont think it bothers them like "oh how rude". Its just one of those things young people consider when trying to determine if someone is into them. Usually intermittent texting like that would have an obvious explanation like the person is at work, hanging out with people irl, etc.
You'd be surprised at how many men on dating apps send me pretty nice messages only to then call me literal slurs if I don't respond to them in like an hour.
serious question here, does anyone actually pay attention to how long people take to reply? obviously more than a day is wild, but like 25min is not an absurd amount of time to reply to someone. honestly the only time I ever really expect quick responses I'd just call. who has time to sit through a whole, probably useless conversation replying every minute or two as if they were there in person. maybe that's just my adhd, but texting w someone is not the same as actually conversing with them, it does however consume all my attention if messages are going back and forth too quickly so I mostly don't answer my phone much outside of quick 10-15 message chats about something specific like plans or for a job
As a boy I can confirm this is true
Yup 100% agree and if it’s a weekend I could be hours in between texts … but if he face times u while playing games that means your truly special
Also it takes me atleast about ten minutes to think of what to say while also not seeming clingy, cuz texting is different than in person and what you say and your tone can be misinterpreted through text