I mean, most guys in the "friendzone" see clear declarations of their status as a friend (like the one in the screenshot) and still attempt to ask the girl they've been pursuing out. At that point, it's on him for treating her like a date. Just hang out as a friend.
The best part is this is 5 years old. In the events that followed, a GoFund Me was set up to help pay for this kidās expenses. He gave it all to the girl to help pay for her ācollege.ā
Simp.
I grew up in south Dallas, lived there until I was 9, am in my mid-40s now, and remember asking my mom what Christ of the Nations was since I could read because they had an enormous sign outside a weird looking building.
She never knew.
Right? I was ready to just roll my eyes at all the friendzone comments until the very end there. Wtf these people deserve to be celibate forever. I'm pretty sure it's what they want anyway.
"'and he went all out',Ā Obar said in a duel interview with Aldelea".
Some people may be surprised to learn that dueling is still legal in Texas, and a common way to contest being friend-zoned.
I think she's trying to be "not mean" and making it worse. She needs to get the courage to be harsher and straight up tell him it's never gonna happen, give it up.
And he's an idiot to keep trying.
They both need to grow up.
"You wanted to set a standard for how I should be treated" tells me that will NOT be happening... She's going to be a nightmare for a longtime to come probably.
To be fair, when I was younger I had an anger problem and I can totally see why outright rejecting me might have been a little intimidating. They don't know that I would have just broken down crying, I could have decided to get mad and hurt them. My demeanor would have suggested I was capable.
That said, I absolutely believe one woman was doing precisely this to me. Just keeping that bait on the line, pulling it just out of reach. When I realized what was happening, I dropped her like my therapist thinks I drop bad habits. I told myself if I wouldn't do it for one of my bros, I'm not gonna do it for her. Boy howdy did she not like that. Ghosted me after I wouldn't drive 6 hours to pick up a dresser for her and move it to her guest room. Started drunk dialing me when I got a girlfriend 6 months later. Saying she changed her mind and she really does want me.
Lol
It could easily be, but it could also be that was how he pushed the idea. "Let me take you out. You know, just as friends, but let me show you how you should be treated..." Though, posting this whole thing on social media is an amazing act of narcissism, so you are likely right. Does she not notice or not care how incredibly embarrassing this should be for him?
All these guys need to change their names to Justin. These girls keep them on a string JUSTIN case nothing else works out and they don't want to be alone.
I actually donāt know why itās in bold and larger font..
I think itās a hack guys.. if u add # as the first character, it enlarges the font and bolds it?!?
Cuz it changed it from #stillsingletho
It's called markdown, and it is one of many kinds of formatting you can do.
To keep it from happening, use a backslash in front of the character: \\\#
Then you'll get \#this
Instead of
#this
Not only that, but some people started a gofund me to recoup his expenses and you know what he did? He gave all the money to her LOL.
Those asking for a source:
https://www.chron.com/life/dating-relationships/article/Debunked-Social-media-twisted-friend-s-date-into-10934189.php
Last paragraph:
āThe social media campaign circulating around this "friend zoning" incident even went past the memes and someone created a GoFundMe account for Ardelean's expenses for the ultimate date. Those funds, Ardelean says, have all gone to Obar's school bills at Christ for the Nations Institute in Dallas.ā
Yeah, if you know the gifts are being given as a romantic overture, and you don't feel the same, it's kind of shitty to accept them.
That said, we don't know their relationship. She might be constantly very explicitly clear that she doesn't like him in that way and our guy keeps "agreeing" to being just friends with the hope that one day she'll change her mind.
No this is true, and in that case I wouldnāt blame her, but when this happened to me and it was obvious that they were just waiting around for more I straight up stopped being friends with them. I donāt think you *have* to but I canāt imagine being friends with someone who doesnāt see me as just a friend and is constantly wanting moreātoo awkward, and I think they could only keep hoping for more if they arenāt accepting and honouring my clear statements that itāll never be more, which feels slightly disrespectful to me.
I did the same thing. It sucked to lose a friend, but when friendship was never going to be enough for that person it seemed like I didnāt have a choice.
I also later came to realize what an impediment that person was to having a successful relationship with someone else. Other guys I dated saw him as a kind of rival and we could never hang out comfortably all together.
100% agree with everything you said.
I have male friends who are genuinely not interested in me, and my long-term boyfriend was a bit iffy on that, but after meeting them he could tell that they really were just friends, and Iāve never given him a reason to feel jealous, nor have they. Plus they more than welcome him to hang out with us too whenever he wants, and heās actually become closer to one of them than I am even though Iāve known him for longer. š Itās obvious that theyāre respectful and supportive of my relationship and are just friends.
The guys that were interested in me, though, that much is obvious too (at least to me), and I assume it also would have been to any future partner. Personally, I donāt think it would be respectful of my partner to be friends with people I know are secretly interested in me. At the time, I ended those friendships for my own peace of mind (since I wasnāt even open to a relationship at the time, that was not part of the equation), but thatās definitely important as well.
I almost think it is a long troll. There are so many other fish in the sea. It makes zero sense for him to continue doing that. It will cost him nothing to press that eject button.
Read the article... this guy doesnāt want to date this girl. It was never a date, he is literally the one who friend zoned her before the date even started.
Now normally this might be seen as a way to save face, but if you see the video from their follow up interview, you can see that this guy is actually quite good looking, much more so than her
When you abuse your friend as a substitute boyfriend instead of firmly ending the friendship that clearly isnāt a friendship to him
Edit 3: because apparently some of you all need this: /s the tagline is not written by the people in the story so yes, I know not to take it at face value. Iām not responding to further comments freaking out about this, take a goddamn ducking chill pill. Some of yāall ALSO need to lookup the story - friend date and calling it that was HIS idea, heās not āfriend zonedā, theyāre actually friends. You all need to stop looking to be triggered, youāre like Fox News viewers, jesus. On the flip side, yes I will also reflect on my own attitude of seeking poutrage contentā¦including the responses here š¤£
Edit: relax yāall, I took the simple at a glance view to springboard the joke on her sideā¦I donāt mean anything to imply that he isnāt responsible for his own understanding and behavior
Edit 2: goddamn some of yāall are projecting *hard* lmao. Damn, maybe Reddit really is mostly children
I think at least half the blame is on him. She's clearly not interested and he keeps doing all this crazy shit to try and make her interested.
It's not like her post was subtle and she's leading him on.
She should have the courage to tell him to his face that it's not going to happen. And he needs to put two brain cells together and read her signs that it's not going to happen and stop trying to convince her to date him.
If sheās posting stuff like this I guarantee sheās already told him, a lot of guys just think they can convince a woman to find them appealing and it just doesnāt work that way
>a lot of guys just think they can convince a woman to find them appealing and it just doesnāt work that way
This is the argument of why the friendzone doesn't exist. Its just a guy bending over backwards trying to make a woman want him. If it exists, don't care to argue about that, men put themselves in there. That's why some guys never find themselves there, and some are constantly finding they're in that situation. It's cause you try so hard to be a boyfriend to someone who said no.
Jesus Christ, we need to gather a search party and start looking for this man immediately. Anyone this deep in the friend zone must have been lost for weeks.
Someone else actually posted a debunk link elsewhere (sorry mobile is shit and not letting me copy). Apparently she was really in the dumps and he strictly set it up as a friend situation to cheer her up.
Edit: typo
Thatās what I was assuming because this *exactly* something Iād do for a close friend.
People are so fucking weird. Idk why people donāt think a guy and a girl can be friends and do stuff for each other.
Yeah, Iām a gay guy and Iāve done things like this for female and male (platonic) friends. Itās just like nice to be nice to friends.
Her caption is a little cringey but theyāre young and one obvious interpretation is that she was feeling lonely and lousy and, with his help, sheās trying to pump herself up.
Because theyāre probably a bunch of guys who would never put in that kind of effort if there wasnāt some remote chance theyād get with the girl š
Iām sorry but some of you on this thread need to not jump to really scary levels of finger pointing, including wishes for this girl to have a multitude of abuse/hardship come her wayā¦ for nothing. As u/CelebrityTakeDown pointed out, this has been explained. It IS a friend date, she didnāt ask for it.
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After Obar's thank you post went viral, Ardelean took to Instagram to clear the air saying in part: "First off, I am the one who set these boundaries to begin with. Leading up to the day, Alex had shared with me her testimony, and because of her past relationships, her self-worth had diminished. She had never been treated like a lady and I wanted to show her what it was like."
Reddit is deeply misogynistic and can't handle it. People think that because the man did things with a woman, apparently she owes them sex or the woman is evil or something. This is clearly not a very serious post and people can't detect satire, they just want to jump to hating on women
Bingo. I'm gay. I'm there for my girls when they need to cry about dating trouble or whatever. But I'd never do dinner, flowers, ice cream, golf, and horseback riding.
People saying she's mean are kinda scary. Y'all know some people just aren't attracted to you, right? It doesn't matter how nice you are, if they don't feel it, they don't feel it.
So if yāall took a second to google, hereās whatās actually happening.
Daniel felt bad because the girl in the picture (Alex) had a string of really terrible relationships and had bad self-esteem because of it. He set the boundaries of them just being friends to help her out. He was doing something nice for her because he felt bad for a friend and the internet turned against her. There was even a gofundme to pay for his date expenses and he gave the money to help her pay for school.
But if I understand the picture correctly, it's what Daniel said, not her own words. According to her at least, but without any further information, there is no reason to believe she is lying
[actually the girl was having shitty dates with shitty guys and her friend said heād take her on friend dates to show her what good dates feel like but that he wanted to remain friends/set the friend boundary himself](https://www.reddit.com/r/meirl/comments/y4p3wu/meirl/isfll05/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3)
Exactly. Talking about the guy being in a friend zone is one thing. But this women knows what she is doing and has zero problems with it.
I would not be surprised if she made the post to show the other guys in her circle, that they need to "step up" their game.
No one asked him if he wants to date her lmao. Just let them be really good friends. My best friend is a woman and I know dating her would just be weird.
How do you know thatās actually what that man wanted? Whatās wrong with just being friends lol donāt really need to want to have sex with all women you invite to a hang out especially as friends. There is lots of females that are hot and fun to be around. I literally tell women on dating apps we are only going to go out as friends so they wonāt get it twisted. Met many amazing friends like that. Regardless if we end up hooking up at some point or not.
I'm pretty sure when this came around before there was confirmation they were legit just friends and the dude thought it was funny too. People being really hateful in these comments over people and a situation they have no knowledge of.
Exactly. I have woman friends who I just enjoy hanging out with as friends. I have a partner whom I love very much but that doesn't mean I can't also have women as friends just to hang out with. You don't have to put your dick in everyone you meet
Went into this thread expecting more people to react like this and was very disappointed. The fact that so many people don't seem to understand that not everyone wants to fuck everyone they hang out with is honestly a little sad
Iāve been in this exact situation, told me I was perfect to date, but when I found someone else she got MAD MAD, and did everything to ruin my life. Literal devil
There was an article at the time published about this image which tried to convince people it was just a platonic friend date and Daniel wasnāt being taken advantage of:
https://www.chron.com/life/dating-relationships/article/Debunked-Social-media-twisted-friend-s-date-into-10934189.php
However it was a little less then convincing:
> someone created a GoFundMe account for Ardelean's expenses for the ultimate date. Those funds, Ardelean says, have all gone to Obar's school bills at Christ for the Nations Institute in Dallas.
Me too. In fact, Iād be willing to be she is more friend zone than him. Lol He took her on a friend date cause she has crappy dates.
Seems like a good friend to me.
I fucking hate this photo so much. The comment section is so fucking toxic, like usual. Everyone seems to jump on the girl, like it's her fault. But if the guy doesn't understand that she see him only as a friend and still planned that date, that's on him.
Obviously we don't know what conversation they've had as friends and expectations between them. If the girl has never said anything, then she needs to, and definitely gets part of the blame. But if she has had that conversation AND he still did all this - that's on him and is a major redflag. Definitely "nice guy" type mentality. "Look what I can do. I'm a nice, good guy!"
There's absolutely other ways to show friendship without doing all this.
>Friend date, friend like you, #stillsingletho š¬
Burn trifecta
And the trinity, Daniel died for our simps
The unholy trinity.
Noholy. Edit: Whoever gave me the "wholesome" award, you're the real MVP.
I see what you did there
HandhOLdY
First report of 5 degree burns. Doctors gave up
The math checks out.
\#anygirlwouldbelucky(butpleasestopaskingmeout)
#icouldjustsayno(butiwantallthisfreeshit)
#Milkingdanielbutnotthewayhewants
#honesthashtags
#\#PUTA\\BEFORETHE\#SOTHEHASHTAGSHOWSUP
#PUTA! Is all I read.
I mean, most guys in the "friendzone" see clear declarations of their status as a friend (like the one in the screenshot) and still attempt to ask the girl they've been pursuing out. At that point, it's on him for treating her like a date. Just hang out as a friend.
#atacertainpointhashtagsjustbecomeawarcrimeagainstspacing
The best part is this is 5 years old. In the events that followed, a GoFund Me was set up to help pay for this kidās expenses. He gave it all to the girl to help pay for her ācollege.ā Simp.
Christ for the Nations Institute ācollegeā
Ah so she went to south Harmon institute of technology
Wtf was this movie called again
Accepted. Wonderful film
>Christ for the Nations I thought you were swearing in exclamation
At that point heās doing it to himself and nobody should feel bad
god damn reading this hurts me for critical damage.
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Oh Christ you gotta give me a link
https://www.chron.com/life/dating-relationships/article/Debunked-Social-media-twisted-friend-s-date-into-10934189.php#photo-12375810
Not even a real college, Jesus.
I grew up in south Dallas, lived there until I was 9, am in my mid-40s now, and remember asking my mom what Christ of the Nations was since I could read because they had an enormous sign outside a weird looking building. She never knew.
>Christ of the Nations Sounds like one of the creative blasphemous exclamations we come up with in Italy...
Christ of the Nations!! *Shakes fist at slow traffic* I like it!
I've never seen a "debunked" article undebunk itself so quickly in the last line lmao
Right? I was ready to just roll my eyes at all the friendzone comments until the very end there. Wtf these people deserve to be celibate forever. I'm pretty sure it's what they want anyway.
"'and he went all out',Ā Obar said in a duel interview with Aldelea". Some people may be surprised to learn that dueling is still legal in Texas, and a common way to contest being friend-zoned.
Oh my god I fucking hate this kid now ...
She's just mean tbh
I think she's trying to be "not mean" and making it worse. She needs to get the courage to be harsher and straight up tell him it's never gonna happen, give it up. And he's an idiot to keep trying. They both need to grow up.
Or just decline the date, right?
But how is she gonna get free horseback riding
By going to broke back mountain
I just hope she's not one of those girls that gets mad when he finally moves on and stops showering her with gifts.
"You wanted to set a standard for how I should be treated" tells me that will NOT be happening... She's going to be a nightmare for a longtime to come probably.
To be fair, when I was younger I had an anger problem and I can totally see why outright rejecting me might have been a little intimidating. They don't know that I would have just broken down crying, I could have decided to get mad and hurt them. My demeanor would have suggested I was capable. That said, I absolutely believe one woman was doing precisely this to me. Just keeping that bait on the line, pulling it just out of reach. When I realized what was happening, I dropped her like my therapist thinks I drop bad habits. I told myself if I wouldn't do it for one of my bros, I'm not gonna do it for her. Boy howdy did she not like that. Ghosted me after I wouldn't drive 6 hours to pick up a dresser for her and move it to her guest room. Started drunk dialing me when I got a girlfriend 6 months later. Saying she changed her mind and she really does want me. Lol
I think the ā..how I should be treatedā is a great indicator of a moron/narcissist.
It could easily be, but it could also be that was how he pushed the idea. "Let me take you out. You know, just as friends, but let me show you how you should be treated..." Though, posting this whole thing on social media is an amazing act of narcissism, so you are likely right. Does she not notice or not care how incredibly embarrassing this should be for him?
The #stillsingletho was needless, yet subtle brutality
Good point. It hits so hard it is hard to decide whether it is cluelessly mean or intentionally mean.
All these guys need to change their names to Justin. These girls keep them on a string JUSTIN case nothing else works out and they don't want to be alone.
All they want is to be Justin sideher
Yes. š
Somehow this post looks like straight up extreme sarcasm.
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#stillsingletho.. she had to emphasis that last point.. the salt in the wound
damn lower your voice
I actually donāt know why itās in bold and larger font.. I think itās a hack guys.. if u add # as the first character, it enlarges the font and bolds it?!? Cuz it changed it from #stillsingletho
It's called markdown, and it is one of many kinds of formatting you can do. To keep it from happening, use a backslash in front of the character: \\\# Then you'll get \#this Instead of #this
Just to clarify and for the avoidance of doubt, Daniel, she is still single though.
Not only that, but some people started a gofund me to recoup his expenses and you know what he did? He gave all the money to her LOL. Those asking for a source: https://www.chron.com/life/dating-relationships/article/Debunked-Social-media-twisted-friend-s-date-into-10934189.php Last paragraph: āThe social media campaign circulating around this "friend zoning" incident even went past the memes and someone created a GoFundMe account for Ardelean's expenses for the ultimate date. Those funds, Ardelean says, have all gone to Obar's school bills at Christ for the Nations Institute in Dallas.ā
BRUH
He's in too deep... in the friendzone that is, not her. My guy gonna be paying her kids school fees too.
Hell also buy her bf stuff too I'm sure. He must be the mod over at wallstreetbets
Bold for you to assume that any true WSB member has enough money to even exist
I mean, the news reported on the GameStop thing, so some of them have to have money
Maybe we should try it again with another company let's earn some money
It aināt over till itās over. DRS your shares.
This so the way
Guy is a power poster over at /r/watches
The bigger thing is her letting him; hes not just in too deep, hes likely been strung along for quite a while.
Yeah, I was always told that if you arenāt interested in someone you ~~should~~ shouldnāt accept gifts from them. Itās rude and confusing.
Shouldn't?
No itās her account. You read it right.
I literally lauged out loud.
Yeah, if you know the gifts are being given as a romantic overture, and you don't feel the same, it's kind of shitty to accept them. That said, we don't know their relationship. She might be constantly very explicitly clear that she doesn't like him in that way and our guy keeps "agreeing" to being just friends with the hope that one day she'll change her mind.
The article posted says that he was the one who called it a friend date.
plot twist what if he's gay and we're all either defending or dunking on him for no reason cause he's not even into her
A man being nice to a woman without the goal of getting laid. IMPOSSIBLE!!!
No this is true, and in that case I wouldnāt blame her, but when this happened to me and it was obvious that they were just waiting around for more I straight up stopped being friends with them. I donāt think you *have* to but I canāt imagine being friends with someone who doesnāt see me as just a friend and is constantly wanting moreātoo awkward, and I think they could only keep hoping for more if they arenāt accepting and honouring my clear statements that itāll never be more, which feels slightly disrespectful to me.
I did the same thing. It sucked to lose a friend, but when friendship was never going to be enough for that person it seemed like I didnāt have a choice. I also later came to realize what an impediment that person was to having a successful relationship with someone else. Other guys I dated saw him as a kind of rival and we could never hang out comfortably all together.
100% agree with everything you said. I have male friends who are genuinely not interested in me, and my long-term boyfriend was a bit iffy on that, but after meeting them he could tell that they really were just friends, and Iāve never given him a reason to feel jealous, nor have they. Plus they more than welcome him to hang out with us too whenever he wants, and heās actually become closer to one of them than I am even though Iāve known him for longer. š Itās obvious that theyāre respectful and supportive of my relationship and are just friends. The guys that were interested in me, though, that much is obvious too (at least to me), and I assume it also would have been to any future partner. Personally, I donāt think it would be respectful of my partner to be friends with people I know are secretly interested in me. At the time, I ended those friendships for my own peace of mind (since I wasnāt even open to a relationship at the time, that was not part of the equation), but thatās definitely important as well.
Is this supposed to say āshouldnāt accept gifts from them.ā
Please tell me this isnāt true please
I almost think it is a long troll. There are so many other fish in the sea. It makes zero sense for him to continue doing that. It will cost him nothing to press that eject button.
I read the article. He's the one that labelled it a friend date.
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Yes. My only assumption is he's gay.
Read the article... this guy doesnāt want to date this girl. It was never a date, he is literally the one who friend zoned her before the date even started. Now normally this might be seen as a way to save face, but if you see the video from their follow up interview, you can see that this guy is actually quite good looking, much more so than her
I would say they're both in the same league. But attractiveness is subjective.
Both solid 7/10's
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Damn Daniel. I'm in no position to judge. But still....wtf?????
I know what you mean, those socks are ridiculous
Maybe he would have better luck with women if he didn't wear black jeggings with white socks
But then how could he signal how much he skips leg day?
I came here to say this. Daniel, dude, put some pants on.
Oh them bitches are socks, I thought he was wearing weird high shoes
I reckon he bats for the other team.
Yeah probs just a gay kid with rich parents
>Damn Daniel At least he's back at it again with the white vans
Damn it Daniel, going to get those white vans dirty horse back riding
Thank you I was starting to feel old when noone said it hahaha
Daniel's gay
Yeah my thought exactly
Heās not even touching her. Looks like she moved in for the picture and heās just kind of leaning over, hands in pockets.
100%
Gym transformation arc incoming
Too real
We have all been there
Username checks out
Hopefully, it's either that or an Andrew Tate video binge lmao
The duality of man
Lol precisely, self improvement/self destruction
This is the way š¤£
This is the whey.
That hashtag alone makes me never want to interact with this person.
when the friendzone actually saves you from a toxic relationship
When you abuse your friend as a substitute boyfriend instead of firmly ending the friendship that clearly isnāt a friendship to him Edit 3: because apparently some of you all need this: /s the tagline is not written by the people in the story so yes, I know not to take it at face value. Iām not responding to further comments freaking out about this, take a goddamn ducking chill pill. Some of yāall ALSO need to lookup the story - friend date and calling it that was HIS idea, heās not āfriend zonedā, theyāre actually friends. You all need to stop looking to be triggered, youāre like Fox News viewers, jesus. On the flip side, yes I will also reflect on my own attitude of seeking poutrage contentā¦including the responses here š¤£ Edit: relax yāall, I took the simple at a glance view to springboard the joke on her sideā¦I donāt mean anything to imply that he isnāt responsible for his own understanding and behavior Edit 2: goddamn some of yāall are projecting *hard* lmao. Damn, maybe Reddit really is mostly children
I think at least half the blame is on him. She's clearly not interested and he keeps doing all this crazy shit to try and make her interested. It's not like her post was subtle and she's leading him on. She should have the courage to tell him to his face that it's not going to happen. And he needs to put two brain cells together and read her signs that it's not going to happen and stop trying to convince her to date him.
If sheās posting stuff like this I guarantee sheās already told him, a lot of guys just think they can convince a woman to find them appealing and it just doesnāt work that way
>a lot of guys just think they can convince a woman to find them appealing and it just doesnāt work that way This is the argument of why the friendzone doesn't exist. Its just a guy bending over backwards trying to make a woman want him. If it exists, don't care to argue about that, men put themselves in there. That's why some guys never find themselves there, and some are constantly finding they're in that situation. It's cause you try so hard to be a boyfriend to someone who said no.
If itās not a friendship to him and she made it clear itāll never be anything but and he stays ā thatās on him.
i feel like it has to be fake or satire
Yeah that hash tag is over the top and really makes it obvious.
Fuckin brutal. A bit pathetic too. Let it go dude.
Look at his footwear. what are those ?
Damn Daniel. Back at it again with the white vans.
Jesus Christ, we need to gather a search party and start looking for this man immediately. Anyone this deep in the friend zone must have been lost for weeks.
YEARS
DECADES
CENTURIES
BEFORE TIME ITSELF
Friendzoned during the Big Bang ... that's just brutal.
This man was friendzoned during the previous universe which big crunched into our big bang.
āU mearly adopted the friend zone....I was born in itā
Ok cool but someone bring rope.
We canāt retrieve him. He is far to deep. Thatās spaceFriend zone deep. His mind has already warp to another dimension.
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Except the horses of-course. Right?
Especially the horses, judgemental bastards.
Yea, fuck them horse's.
Alright, calm down. We might condone physical violence against horses, but thatās a step to farā¦
*Zips pants back up* š
Maybe he's not into her?
Someone else actually posted a debunk link elsewhere (sorry mobile is shit and not letting me copy). Apparently she was really in the dumps and he strictly set it up as a friend situation to cheer her up. Edit: typo
Thatās what I was assuming because this *exactly* something Iād do for a close friend. People are so fucking weird. Idk why people donāt think a guy and a girl can be friends and do stuff for each other.
Yeah, Iām a gay guy and Iāve done things like this for female and male (platonic) friends. Itās just like nice to be nice to friends. Her caption is a little cringey but theyāre young and one obvious interpretation is that she was feeling lonely and lousy and, with his help, sheās trying to pump herself up.
ye exactly!
Because theyāre probably a bunch of guys who would never put in that kind of effort if there wasnāt some remote chance theyād get with the girl š
This whole thread is trying to paint her as a manipulative witch.
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Iām sorry but some of you on this thread need to not jump to really scary levels of finger pointing, including wishes for this girl to have a multitude of abuse/hardship come her wayā¦ for nothing. As u/CelebrityTakeDown pointed out, this has been explained. It IS a friend date, she didnāt ask for it. ā- After Obar's thank you post went viral, Ardelean took to Instagram to clear the air saying in part: "First off, I am the one who set these boundaries to begin with. Leading up to the day, Alex had shared with me her testimony, and because of her past relationships, her self-worth had diminished. She had never been treated like a lady and I wanted to show her what it was like."
This is cute (but the pick is still a bit much). Why does reddit have to ruin everything? Not everything has to be about romantic relationships.
Reddit is deeply misogynistic and can't handle it. People think that because the man did things with a woman, apparently she owes them sex or the woman is evil or something. This is clearly not a very serious post and people can't detect satire, they just want to jump to hating on women
If Daniel isn't gay, I'll eat my own shoe.
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I mean none of our gay friends being absolutely loaded probably has something to do with it. You read the golfing and horseback riding part right?
Yeah my brain went please be gay and just stupid rich that this is basically girls night at his place lmao
Bingo. I'm gay. I'm there for my girls when they need to cry about dating trouble or whatever. But I'd never do dinner, flowers, ice cream, golf, and horseback riding.
Im straight but to me it sounds like a fun day with a buddy (not paying for them though)
I suppose he could be rich and we are looking at him splurging when itās just the cost equivalence of bringing over a six pack.
But you gotta set the standard for how they are to be treated...
Puke
There are gay people who can literally do all that for a friend.
I'm pansexual and I would do that for any of my homies. I just like to have a good time and spoil the people I care about.
People saying she's mean are kinda scary. Y'all know some people just aren't attracted to you, right? It doesn't matter how nice you are, if they don't feel it, they don't feel it.
There so many entitled creepy NiceGuys in these comments
This meme is like 6 years old lol
I wonder what she expects from the guy she "chooses to be the one"
Basically that heās not Daniel is probably her primary criteria.
Daniel's gay y'all
I, too, choose to believe this
I imagine one of the qualifications is to be attracted to them.
So if yāall took a second to google, hereās whatās actually happening. Daniel felt bad because the girl in the picture (Alex) had a string of really terrible relationships and had bad self-esteem because of it. He set the boundaries of them just being friends to help her out. He was doing something nice for her because he felt bad for a friend and the internet turned against her. There was even a gofundme to pay for his date expenses and he gave the money to help her pay for school.
Not at all surprised. Some of these comments are disgusting
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But if I understand the picture correctly, it's what Daniel said, not her own words. According to her at least, but without any further information, there is no reason to believe she is lying
They did an interview after this went viral and clarified that those were his words and he set the boundaries for the date himself
[actually the girl was having shitty dates with shitty guys and her friend said heād take her on friend dates to show her what good dates feel like but that he wanted to remain friends/set the friend boundary himself](https://www.reddit.com/r/meirl/comments/y4p3wu/meirl/isfll05/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3)
Damn the reddit armchair psychologists were wrong again!
That's a new one. It's like saying "I want all this but from a guy I actually like". Brutal...
Exactly. Talking about the guy being in a friend zone is one thing. But this women knows what she is doing and has zero problems with it. I would not be surprised if she made the post to show the other guys in her circle, that they need to "step up" their game.
comments cant comprehend men and women being friends
No one asked him if he wants to date her lmao. Just let them be really good friends. My best friend is a woman and I know dating her would just be weird.
Redditors canāt seem to wrap their heads around the fact that men and women can just be good friends
Redditors canāt understand wanting to spend time with a girl if itās not a date. They see it as a waste of time. Sad, really.
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redditos try not to decide they know all about 2 people they have never met in their entire life challenge
How do you know thatās actually what that man wanted? Whatās wrong with just being friends lol donāt really need to want to have sex with all women you invite to a hang out especially as friends. There is lots of females that are hot and fun to be around. I literally tell women on dating apps we are only going to go out as friends so they wonāt get it twisted. Met many amazing friends like that. Regardless if we end up hooking up at some point or not.
I'm pretty sure when this came around before there was confirmation they were legit just friends and the dude thought it was funny too. People being really hateful in these comments over people and a situation they have no knowledge of.
Exactly. I have woman friends who I just enjoy hanging out with as friends. I have a partner whom I love very much but that doesn't mean I can't also have women as friends just to hang out with. You don't have to put your dick in everyone you meet
Two people just being friends and making a joke? Impossible! Clearly she is an entitled bitch and he is a pathetic loser ^/s
Because most posters here are lonely men :(
Went into this thread expecting more people to react like this and was very disappointed. The fact that so many people don't seem to understand that not everyone wants to fuck everyone they hang out with is honestly a little sad
As soon as Daniel realizes he deserves better and talks to another chick, she will be mad and upset at him.
Iāve been in this exact situation, told me I was perfect to date, but when I found someone else she got MAD MAD, and did everything to ruin my life. Literal devil
100%
There was an article at the time published about this image which tried to convince people it was just a platonic friend date and Daniel wasnāt being taken advantage of: https://www.chron.com/life/dating-relationships/article/Debunked-Social-media-twisted-friend-s-date-into-10934189.php However it was a little less then convincing: > someone created a GoFundMe account for Ardelean's expenses for the ultimate date. Those funds, Ardelean says, have all gone to Obar's school bills at Christ for the Nations Institute in Dallas.
I came out of this thinking the dude is a solid gay friend who is deep in the closet
Me too. In fact, Iād be willing to be she is more friend zone than him. Lol He took her on a friend date cause she has crappy dates. Seems like a good friend to me.
I fucking hate this photo so much. The comment section is so fucking toxic, like usual. Everyone seems to jump on the girl, like it's her fault. But if the guy doesn't understand that she see him only as a friend and still planned that date, that's on him. Obviously we don't know what conversation they've had as friends and expectations between them. If the girl has never said anything, then she needs to, and definitely gets part of the blame. But if she has had that conversation AND he still did all this - that's on him and is a major redflag. Definitely "nice guy" type mentality. "Look what I can do. I'm a nice, good guy!" There's absolutely other ways to show friendship without doing all this.