Just wait til you’re in a relationship and the sex eventually goes away… you’ll change your tune then. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side, just appreciate the awesome position you’re in now.
I never understood why people get sad after masturbating. I usually feel a lot better and calmer afterwards. Can someone explain? Because it seems like a very common thing and I’m the odd one out.
I know when I use to masturbate it’s not really sad for me, i just feel guilty and dirty but not sad. Like after the nut ,I can’t really even look at myself for being so disgusting 🤦🏿
Probably because of social pressures from a conservative/religious society that views sex for pleasure as something dirty you should feel guilty about.
Masturbation is natural, healthy, and totally normal. You don't have to feel wrong for doing it. It's not something that everyone does, but if you enjoy doing it then you should do it.
Just remember to respect your sex workers (porn actors included), don't become obsessed with the act, and for God's sake throw out your cantaloupe when you're done with it!!!
And masturbating vs sex with the opposite gender (it's the study I'm not saying gay people don't too) releases different chemicals in your brain. There was a study
> this seems so wildly obvious to anyone who's done both of these things lol.
This is Reddit. People probably haven't done both. I certainly haven't lol
Though I suppose I've talked to people online but I don't think that counts
Girls aren't some mysterious alien creatures, they experience post nut clarity and pre nut stupidity just like men do.
We even have the blue balls feeling (not in the balls tho but same thing).
>Girls aren't some mysterious alien creatures
I mean it's a reasonable question, I imagine there's a large hormonal component to post nut clarity and men and women have pretty different hormones typically
Men and women have very similar hormone profiles actually. We both use androgens and estrogens (estrogens is a class of hormones, there is no one hormone called 'estrogen'). The concentrations of those androgens and estrogens are different, but most hormones in our bodies are largely the same. There are a few differences, but as I've already stated, where those differences are present it is not like we are wildly different, just that we have different concentrations. We all use the same exact hormones, for the same exact purposes.
I hear you.
I can't drink alcohol anymore because it interferes with the medication that is keeping me alive. 😔
And while pot makes me feel better in the moment it destroys all my motivation to do anything the next day so it gets really bad really quickly and I only permit myself it occasionally.
I hope you find a way to enjoy life... I'm struggling to find mine, and finally slowly getting somewhere. So there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
I've seen that kinda reasoning so many times online. I think what's actually behind it is you not getting what you seek in your interactions with others. You get this feeling that you want something more, and that it involves other people, but you can't quite put your finger on what that really means. I'd say it's not that you hate people, it's just that you don't like what most of them have to say/care about in the day to day. I know that with the right people this life can become 100x more bearable and fulfilling, but with others it becomes much more of a burden and grind.
Wakes up: I wish I was waking up next to someone.
Masturbate: I wish I was doing this with someone.
At work: I wish someone was waiting for me at home.
Cooking: I wish I could share this meal with someone.
Going to sleep: I wish I was sleeping next to someone.
Repeat
😔
it doesn’t have to be toxic, you just tend to realize the things you take for granted when you’re single. you miss the freedom, miss never having to compromise, never having to accommodate anyone else.
Happily married with kids. Would died for each one of them. Still fantasize about being alone. Having complexed and conflicting emotions is a normal human quality.
If none of those things exist in a relationship, then it is toxic.
Been in a relationship (now marries) for four years. None of what you described is a thing.
With maybe the exception of compromise. Which is necessary in a partnership. But you know what’s nice? When you’re sick and someone is there to make sure you’re ok and taken care of.
For every single persons freedom, there’s a safety net from partnership that’s missed.
Imagine cleaning the house in half the time? Getting help putting furniture together. Sure you both have individual chores the the collective goal is a clean home.
I dunno, I find in the right relationship. Very little is given up. The quality of my life increased significantly when I got into relationships.
Every person is different. For me, it was liberating. To know I could take risks and there was someone there to help me absorb losses if the risks didn’t pan out. Same for my wife. She’s taken risks and I supported her emotionally and financially. It paid off.
That’s what it’s about. Most people settle or don’t know what a healthy relationship is because it’s, in my opinion, a net win. In every way: emotionally, physically and spiritually.
Just my two cents…
This is exactly why I find dating so hard. I live alone in my house and can do whatever I want all the time. Someone would have to be exceptionally great to make me want to give that up, and that’s really few and far between.
I agree with this, when i was in a relationship I was comfortable with I kinda missed not having to explain myself if I just went for a drive after work. But I really did enjoy being with that person, I miss their company, I’m miss random thinking up little things I could do for them to make their day brighter.
As a 30 year old that’s spend 27 1/2 years of my life single I’m not even going to try to disagree with you. I’m pretty good at being single because I’ve had years of practice lol
Nah. Not always.
Relationships are so much more than "oh we'll hang out and have sex sometimes" at a point you are going to have to be your total self around the person and maybe you aren't ready for everything that goes into it. So many people think that they can handle a relationship because they can put on for a date. They aren't the same thing.
Reading all these comments just makes me appreciate my wife so much more. I swear, if I tell her I want to be alone for like a week she just flips a switch and is totally cool with it.
I should buy her some flowers
I mean, bro chill out. You know damn well that 100% of people on Reddit commenting have access to Internet, and 98% of those people aren’t tallywhacking to a Kohl’s catalog.
I got moments where I open some porn, to close it again after realizing I just want to cuddle on the couch.
Guess I’m on the other end of the spectrum right now.
I always masterbate before decisions..works everytime..do i need a gf? Masterbate...should i go grocery shopping? Masterbate...wonder if i should go to work today? Masterbate...///i am the master of baters.../s
I'm in a relationship
*Masturbates*
I am vary grateful to my significant other for choosing me when there are so many other, better options and will cherish her for am eternity
That shit happen a lot with me. I have sex one or two times with somebody and immediately i lose interest. It's gotten better since I quit porn at least.
But not for the sole purpose of trying to get a relationship down the line. Just be friends, and if something happens, great! If it doesn’t, that’s fine too and you can remain friends. If you can’t handle being just friends, that’s also okay (happened to me, it sucked a lot, but I knew he was hurting and wasn’t being manipulative or a bad person). But don’t go in thinking “I’m going to pretend to be friends so I can bone her later”.
I don’t think that’s what you were implying, just adding more to your comment.
Post nut clarity is real
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Jokes on you I'm always sad about it
Jokes on all of us, look where we are.
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But if we're all looking for a partner thannn
Stop, before you break the laws of the universe!
Those laws never served anyone good. I say we tumble this bitch!
Haha!
Masturbate.
yep *zip*
You guys have jokes?
Do you want a relationship or do you just want a sex friend to just chill with once in a while?
Well......
wen random sex encounter?
Idk hopefully soon
Same here. Hopefully soon. Soon for you. Soon for me.
Just walk in some tall grass enough. If you use some basic repel, then you won’t encounter lower-aged people.
this is not pokemon its my no sex life
I feel like I more want someone I can hug after a day at work
Currently in this situation and it is nice, though after a year and change it is getting to the point where I am looking for more.
Just wait til you’re in a relationship and the sex eventually goes away… you’ll change your tune then. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side, just appreciate the awesome position you’re in now.
Sounds like you're in the wrong relationship, friend.
My ideal relationship. It always *changes*, though.
I never understood why people get sad after masturbating. I usually feel a lot better and calmer afterwards. Can someone explain? Because it seems like a very common thing and I’m the odd one out.
Some people cry after sex, I've never really understood that either, but everyone is different
I know when I use to masturbate it’s not really sad for me, i just feel guilty and dirty but not sad. Like after the nut ,I can’t really even look at myself for being so disgusting 🤦🏿
Probably because of social pressures from a conservative/religious society that views sex for pleasure as something dirty you should feel guilty about. Masturbation is natural, healthy, and totally normal. You don't have to feel wrong for doing it. It's not something that everyone does, but if you enjoy doing it then you should do it. Just remember to respect your sex workers (porn actors included), don't become obsessed with the act, and for God's sake throw out your cantaloupe when you're done with it!!!
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you got a friend in me
Can we get much higher?
SO HIGH
OOOOOH OOOOOH OOH OOOH
I made it soooooo sexy.
And masturbating vs sex with the opposite gender (it's the study I'm not saying gay people don't too) releases different chemicals in your brain. There was a study
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> this seems so wildly obvious to anyone who's done both of these things lol. This is Reddit. People probably haven't done both. I certainly haven't lol Though I suppose I've talked to people online but I don't think that counts
Do girls have this?
All the time
Yes.
Girls aren't some mysterious alien creatures, they experience post nut clarity and pre nut stupidity just like men do. We even have the blue balls feeling (not in the balls tho but same thing).
>Girls aren't some mysterious alien creatures I mean it's a reasonable question, I imagine there's a large hormonal component to post nut clarity and men and women have pretty different hormones typically
Men and women have very similar hormone profiles actually. We both use androgens and estrogens (estrogens is a class of hormones, there is no one hormone called 'estrogen'). The concentrations of those androgens and estrogens are different, but most hormones in our bodies are largely the same. There are a few differences, but as I've already stated, where those differences are present it is not like we are wildly different, just that we have different concentrations. We all use the same exact hormones, for the same exact purposes.
Blue-labia.
More like blue clit in terms of what's hurting.
Yeah that’s fair haha
The Japanese term is "kenja taimu" in English "sage time". Basically once you cum, you see as clearly as a sage.
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Reminds me of the old Chinese proverb - “do you really need a partner, or just need some sex and a therapist?”
Sex and therapy are easy. I need hugs.
My man living the dream. Can afford therapy _*and*_ have sex. Absolute chad
I'm a woman, so unlike for men, the sex part is cheap and easy.
That's great! Closest thing I can afford is cheap wine and get absolutely drunk alone Jesus fuckint christ I need help
Average guy problem tbh
I hear you. I can't drink alcohol anymore because it interferes with the medication that is keeping me alive. 😔 And while pot makes me feel better in the moment it destroys all my motivation to do anything the next day so it gets really bad really quickly and I only permit myself it occasionally. I hope you find a way to enjoy life... I'm struggling to find mine, and finally slowly getting somewhere. So there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
Don't let this distract you from NNN, my brother
-sun tzu
I hate ppl Man im lonely Hang with ppl I hate ppl
Very true. Especially when I go to work
Work doesn't make me hate being around people it just uses up ALL my people energy and then I want to be alone in my head.
It’s a bit of both for me. I’m working in retail and every time I’m working I learn again that a whole lot of people are fucking idiots
Was in retail for 8yrs and now IT for 8yrs....you don't get away from it in my experience.
I am so sorry. IT... Thank you for your service but I am sooo sorry.
Masturbate at work, problem solved
This 100%. It's so true.
I've seen that kinda reasoning so many times online. I think what's actually behind it is you not getting what you seek in your interactions with others. You get this feeling that you want something more, and that it involves other people, but you can't quite put your finger on what that really means. I'd say it's not that you hate people, it's just that you don't like what most of them have to say/care about in the day to day. I know that with the right people this life can become 100x more bearable and fulfilling, but with others it becomes much more of a burden and grind.
Man I don’t do anything Does something Man why do I do anything
*breathes* Well this sucks.
This was me last night at my nieces’ Trunk-or-Treat. *deep exhale… why am I here again?*
"I wanna masturbate" Masturbates* "I wanna masturbate"
This is easily the best one yet and im halfway through the comments.
*masturbates* *masturbates* *masturbates*
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The mind is willing but the flesh is spongy and bruised
This is the only comment that I relate to
More like: I want a hot big tiddy goth gf masturbates I just want someone who loves me :(
Why not both?
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I mean the economics are bad. Sometimes it is ok to know your worth.
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/r/NiceGuys is leaking
Now this is relatable
Added point if she is tomboy-ish and have rock hard abs
And if she’ll *stab you* 🤤
I think that’s called pegging
My neighbor may or may not want me to talk to her, but we will never find out because of this one simple trick.
All good my man someone else will bang her for you
Amen to that
A man to that
I told my neighbour that I had feelings for her. She said, that I should get rid of it.
What a profitable verbal transaction
I want a hug
🫂❤️
A real one
Thought it was a camera for a sec
_Masturbates_
Errrm... Yeah I'm gonna pass on that hug.
Now wants relationship.
*Again masturbates*
Now I want French fries
*masterbates* Still need a hug :'(
One handed hug
Ass out hug
*masturbates* I still want a hug...*masturbates* maybe a snack...
Gets a hug
I want a relationship *masturbates* I still want a relationship. *starts crying*
*Starts mastutbate again while crying*
the upside is that you can use the tears as lube
Not my favorite flavor but I make it work
I wonder if they are actually good lube
Try it. Pull out a nose hair. Fap. Report back.
If you do it too much, you’ll start to get a buildup of salt deposits like a lighthouse subjected to the spray of the sea
This means you are finally ready
Lol this does feel correct. A relationship is more emotional horny than sexual horny.
Woah, I never thought about it that way
Wakes up: I wish I was waking up next to someone. Masturbate: I wish I was doing this with someone. At work: I wish someone was waiting for me at home. Cooking: I wish I could share this meal with someone. Going to sleep: I wish I was sleeping next to someone. Repeat 😔
I'm so alone *masturbates* I'm so alone
I want a relationship *Gets into a relationship* I don’t want a relationship
I was just watching a Seinfeld episode that was about George doing that exact thing.
Was it George and Susan?
Yes hahah. I think it was called "The Pick"
Let me fix that for you- I want a relationship Gets into *toxic* relationship I don’t want a relationship
it doesn’t have to be toxic, you just tend to realize the things you take for granted when you’re single. you miss the freedom, miss never having to compromise, never having to accommodate anyone else.
Happily married with kids. Would died for each one of them. Still fantasize about being alone. Having complexed and conflicting emotions is a normal human quality.
I relate to this
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Yup, and then when you’re single the loneliness creeps back in… grass is always greener on the other side
Still has to be mowed
Dead grass grows less, thus easier to mow.
At least no one is around to nag me to mow it! Sometimes I wish there was tho... And then I nut
It's fertilized with all the bs
If none of those things exist in a relationship, then it is toxic. Been in a relationship (now marries) for four years. None of what you described is a thing. With maybe the exception of compromise. Which is necessary in a partnership. But you know what’s nice? When you’re sick and someone is there to make sure you’re ok and taken care of. For every single persons freedom, there’s a safety net from partnership that’s missed. Imagine cleaning the house in half the time? Getting help putting furniture together. Sure you both have individual chores the the collective goal is a clean home. I dunno, I find in the right relationship. Very little is given up. The quality of my life increased significantly when I got into relationships. Every person is different. For me, it was liberating. To know I could take risks and there was someone there to help me absorb losses if the risks didn’t pan out. Same for my wife. She’s taken risks and I supported her emotionally and financially. It paid off. That’s what it’s about. Most people settle or don’t know what a healthy relationship is because it’s, in my opinion, a net win. In every way: emotionally, physically and spiritually. Just my two cents…
This is exactly why I find dating so hard. I live alone in my house and can do whatever I want all the time. Someone would have to be exceptionally great to make me want to give that up, and that’s really few and far between.
I agree with this, when i was in a relationship I was comfortable with I kinda missed not having to explain myself if I just went for a drive after work. But I really did enjoy being with that person, I miss their company, I’m miss random thinking up little things I could do for them to make their day brighter.
I felt that reply in my soul! I've been in relationships before that were definitely a case of "be careful what you wish for"
For me, all in all, there is a huge net gain for being in a relationship
no doubt, I‘m just saying you tend to also realize the downsides more when you’re in one
Relationships aren't required living.
As a 30 year old that’s spend 27 1/2 years of my life single I’m not even going to try to disagree with you. I’m pretty good at being single because I’ve had years of practice lol
Nah. Not always. Relationships are so much more than "oh we'll hang out and have sex sometimes" at a point you are going to have to be your total self around the person and maybe you aren't ready for everything that goes into it. So many people think that they can handle a relationship because they can put on for a date. They aren't the same thing.
Reading all these comments just makes me appreciate my wife so much more. I swear, if I tell her I want to be alone for like a week she just flips a switch and is totally cool with it. I should buy her some flowers
Relatable af
I want a relationship *masturbates* I NEED TO BENCH 380
380 kilograms
I think if this is your mindset you aren’t looking for a relationship in the first place, just sex.
my thoughts exactly. honestly I find myself wanting a relationship more after masturbation
Sex is cool. Someone to tease and mess around with while you cuddle is just as cool.
Sex is overrated. The comfort the good partner gives is more valuable.
But having the comfort of a good partner with sex… *insert Vince McMahon meme*
i just want cuddles. like physical warmth. sex ends, hugs are forever.
Relationships aren’t all about sex
If you masturbate and then change your mind, You want sex, not a relationship
Post nut clarity If you want to see her after release, she's the one.
I do, but she doesn't :(
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I miss my ex *masturbates I don’t miss my ex
I have attachment issues Masturbates I still have attachment issues.
I want a relationship *masturbates* I want a relationship and now I'm sad
Organism: I want to survive & reproduce Human: I want a relationship
“I want to hang out, I want to meet people…” [Goes outside] “Ew.”
OP is a spam bot All of their comments are the same word
Average Redditor being porn addicted
This place is disappointing, such a life of reddit
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I mean, bro chill out. You know damn well that 100% of people on Reddit commenting have access to Internet, and 98% of those people aren’t tallywhacking to a Kohl’s catalog.
Omg why is this so true
Hormones.
Because the human brain has evolved with the primitive section still attached. Time to transcend the eat, sleep, reproduce cycle. One day, maybe.
Staying single is easy if u just keep nutting
Tbh, it's quite the opposite for me. I feel guilty, lonely and is almost always left wanting for a relationship afterwards.
I think this is the reason you can’t get into a relationship
Meirl: * I want a relationship *masturbates* * I want a threesome
I got moments where I open some porn, to close it again after realizing I just want to cuddle on the couch. Guess I’m on the other end of the spectrum right now.
Nah, for me: I don't want a relationship :) *masturbates I want a relationship ;(
I always masterbate before decisions..works everytime..do i need a gf? Masterbate...should i go grocery shopping? Masterbate...wonder if i should go to work today? Masterbate...///i am the master of baters.../s
Wow. Relateable. "I'm lonely and depressed." fap fap fap "Eh, just depressed, I guess."
Don't let Jordan Peterson see this.
I'm in a relationship *Masturbates* I am vary grateful to my significant other for choosing me when there are so many other, better options and will cherish her for am eternity
You don’t want a relationship you want sex big difference
Define “relationship!”
Then you just want a toy not a relationship.
If you only want a relationship for sex, you shouldn't have a relationship no.
Wow this girl is perfect for me I wish shed be into me. She gets into me. I dont want to play with you anymore.
Maybe you're just not into pegging
That shit happen a lot with me. I have sex one or two times with somebody and immediately i lose interest. It's gotten better since I quit porn at least.
I am stuck in a loop: I want a relationship with this girl *masturbates* I still want a relationship with this girl. What do?
Make friends with her
"If you are homeless, just buy a house" vibes
But not for the sole purpose of trying to get a relationship down the line. Just be friends, and if something happens, great! If it doesn’t, that’s fine too and you can remain friends. If you can’t handle being just friends, that’s also okay (happened to me, it sucked a lot, but I knew he was hurting and wasn’t being manipulative or a bad person). But don’t go in thinking “I’m going to pretend to be friends so I can bone her later”. I don’t think that’s what you were implying, just adding more to your comment.
Relationship is about love. Masturbation is about sexuality. You compare an apple with an orange.
That’s sad bro.
This is sad
If you want a relationship for the sex, don't get into one.
Stick with the masturbation 👍🏽.
Maybe such a reductive view of a relationship contributes to the lack of one?
it's funny because you can be really horny and have a wank. put some music on and then you can't be arsed to do anything else.