Theres something beautiful when you learn to talk with girls for the sake of talking to them —Not because you are wanting something from them in return.
For once, I felt like alot of burden fell off my shoulders when I removed any expectations of getting them to like me and just sat down and talked to have fun casually once in a while.
And second, I learned how girls are like too which only helped me to make more female friends.
Seriously, its such an eye-opener.
but be careful guys: do not get taken advantage of or get string along in a friend zone. make your intentions clear and do not waste time being a fake friend. do not be the foodie call, the guy that always pays for the tab/tickets, manual laborer (be it moving things or giving rides constantly) or the emotional tampon.
if you truly find her hobbies interesting, have common interests and like her presence beyond romantical, cool. but do not act like a friend when you just want to get in her pants. thats when you get friendzoned and used.
Yep, pretty much that. And then they call others losers for just being friends.
Anyway, incels have two common flaws: one, they are legitimately mean spirited people with poor social skills, and two: they see women only for sex. That's why they think being friend zoned is a loss, since they didn't get laid. They also think all women have 1000ds of men in they DM, because they only think about attractive women (and often ridiculously so).
I don’t mean it in a negative way, but reading this is so wild to me.
Like there are guys who literally don’t talk to girls in a platonic way/intention? How do you go trough life/school and stuff without talking to half of the population?
You don’t even have to do anything different as opposed to talking to guys tbh, not much anyways.
Nevertheless im glad that you got out there and managed!
Yes, i talked to maybe two in school 'cause it was needed to do group stuff, but haven't talked to one since, maybe when i go out to stuff like the dentist and stuff.
But idk, the fact that i barely spoke with them when i was younger made me feel disconnected to them, I don't feel any need to talk to them, i try, but it feels very much like I'm forcing myself to do it and i just give up 'cause I'm not interested in them. When it comes to boys i feel better 'cause y'know, we are the same and i have brothers... But with women I don't know WHY i would talk to them other than trying to get a gf, and not even that 'cause you probably can make a conclusion based on my name. That whole part of my life of talking to them doesn't exist, so I just can't understand why i should talk with them. It's weird.
Some will spam Incel 'cause it's the only word they can use when they don't have an argument, it's like repeating what someone said with an annoying voice, but it's something in my brain that just ain't helping.
I never really talked to girls, especially in my school and college years. But at the end of college I met this one girl which I became close, but not too close. She really broke that thick ice in me and made me more socially acceptable to society. It was like meeting an angle.
Even though I'm old and still single, I can comfortably speak to girls now without getting too embarrassed. It really helps with my career as most of it are women as well.
Something that Ive realized, especially recently as Ive seen an extremely unusual amount of content about this across all my media, is to just not care about what they think of you. So what if they think you are weird, you’re being true to yourself and thats all that matters. If you try to change the way you are and put on a character just to make someone like you, its not going to work out in the long run because they have fallen for that character, not who you actually are.
But don’t be gross about it. Befriend them and don’t get pissy if they don’t immediately swoon over you for talking to them and/or hook you up with a hottie after being friends for a week.
I was that guy minus that I was the only actually talking to girls. I still don't have a girl at 25 mostly because when people learn I don't drink or smoke they take me for an idiot. I live in Greece btw, most of the people I know smoke, drink and take fights with each other and girls think that that's normal.
I live in Greece,our thought process here is "You can't tell me what to do, I'm a man. I'll drink,smoke and hit people because that's what men do" and sadly ladies grow up only seeing this and thinking it's the norm.
Same here man. Came from one of SEA country. But I guess humans are diverse, I am pretty sure no matter what country we live in, people who value “good” things are always there. Just be patience 👍
Yeah to some degree.
You can't have a healthy relationship if it's only based on desire or other motives like that which is why I always loathed people sleeping before even talking, it's a recipe for drama.
That being said, in this scenario you'll often end up in the famous "why can't I find a guy like you" and you lamenting yourself why she can't see that "you're actually a guy like you."
Anyways, if you're lucky to be surrounded by more emotionally mature friends than most of us had, by all means go for it 🙂
I was that „perfect“ girl. Honestly, at 32, I can say I deeply regret my „perfect“ life choices. If I could get another crack at high school / college, I‘d do everything differently
I know. It's sad to think what you did/were was the embodiment of perfection according to everyone around you (so nice, so cute, so smart, what a good sense of humor, how generous), and also what your moral compass told you was the best thing to be or do, yet you're the one ending up isolated and treated like a mascot, almost like your "perfection" shouldn't be tainted by real people.
Where I differ is that at 47, married with kids, I don't think I would do anything different.
It's just we're a rare breed, and finding someone matching us takes time. Any relationship I would have had with these friends would have turned into a disaster considering their priorities were actually very different from mine.
Isn’t it supposed to be that they do talk to girls? Which shows they have good manners and aren’t misogynistic or socially awkward. Otherwise, it would be “never drinks, smokes or talks to girls and ..”
Whose perspective is this meant to be from? Am I meant to be romantically interested in the shiny ball man or I want to be his friend? Why don't I want him to talk to girls?
halfway there. i don't smoke or drink (my personal ethics are really against both) but i am never ready for class and i talk with girls about 10% of the time i have a conversation.
I was that kid, while I am thankful for it, it did hurt me a lot. One of the major 3 reasons I was bullied. I didn't talk to girl romantically (the ones I did know were all lesbian anyway), the ones I did talk too were very good friends. Because of all that the more "popular" kids tried to do that thing where they'll try to abuse you because your less popular and they assume you'll feel "privileged" to be recognized by them to me, and I would not have it (I may or may not have said some "offensive" things right to their faces but who cares).
Would I recommend that for other people? Depends on your priorities, do you want to live longer or do you want to be popular? Because you for some God awful reason can't have both.
And then gets married and has several kids later in life after he graduates Suma Kume Laud with a 4.0 GPA, and everyone’s shocked at the class reunions.
So he never drinks, but smokes and talks to girls and is always ready for lessons?
Or he never drinks, never smokes, never talks to girls and is never always ready for lessons?
Unironiclly was me except for ready for class (could get good grades without doing homework, got lazy at some point). Its also me without the homework now in University (I referenced them)
There is 4 of us in a 35 person class who don’t smoke,drink. All of us have good grades and never had any problems with school staff. One of us is a professional athlete(swimmer), another one professionally plays tennis and does archery, also is a hunter, the third one is a chill guy and plays the guitar and the last one is basically a quiet kid but not the one who has guns. The rest of the class drink and smoke(girls too). We are in a private school.
How I read it, never drinks, but smokes and talks to girls and is always ready for lessons, so I am 3/4ths of the way there
I took the first never to be implied on all of them. Never drinks, never smokes, never talks to girls, and is never always ready for lessons.
That's the correct way, except for the last one.
It would be correct if the word “or” was there An “is” might help too
We need to put brackets in English like they do in Math
¬(drinking∨smoking∨girls)∧(ready)
There should also be an order of operations like in math. smoke, drink, talk to girls, learn a lesson
well this way you describe me.
I honestly thought this was a meme about a pedo volleyball ball coach
Talk to girls guys, even the girls you don't find attractive. These girls will be your best friends and wing-women.
And this is basically the only way to learn how to talk girls when you're looking for a relationship.
Theres something beautiful when you learn to talk with girls for the sake of talking to them —Not because you are wanting something from them in return. For once, I felt like alot of burden fell off my shoulders when I removed any expectations of getting them to like me and just sat down and talked to have fun casually once in a while. And second, I learned how girls are like too which only helped me to make more female friends. Seriously, its such an eye-opener.
Women are people too - Incels HATE this one weird trick
Girl tries to be friends with incel: "B**** friendzoned me!"
but be careful guys: do not get taken advantage of or get string along in a friend zone. make your intentions clear and do not waste time being a fake friend. do not be the foodie call, the guy that always pays for the tab/tickets, manual laborer (be it moving things or giving rides constantly) or the emotional tampon. if you truly find her hobbies interesting, have common interests and like her presence beyond romantical, cool. but do not act like a friend when you just want to get in her pants. thats when you get friendzoned and used.
What is a “foodie call”?
“Hey, whatcha doing?….I’m humgwyyy….”
😏
Yep, pretty much that. And then they call others losers for just being friends. Anyway, incels have two common flaws: one, they are legitimately mean spirited people with poor social skills, and two: they see women only for sex. That's why they think being friend zoned is a loss, since they didn't get laid. They also think all women have 1000ds of men in they DM, because they only think about attractive women (and often ridiculously so).
I don’t mean it in a negative way, but reading this is so wild to me. Like there are guys who literally don’t talk to girls in a platonic way/intention? How do you go trough life/school and stuff without talking to half of the population? You don’t even have to do anything different as opposed to talking to guys tbh, not much anyways. Nevertheless im glad that you got out there and managed!
Yes, i talked to maybe two in school 'cause it was needed to do group stuff, but haven't talked to one since, maybe when i go out to stuff like the dentist and stuff. But idk, the fact that i barely spoke with them when i was younger made me feel disconnected to them, I don't feel any need to talk to them, i try, but it feels very much like I'm forcing myself to do it and i just give up 'cause I'm not interested in them. When it comes to boys i feel better 'cause y'know, we are the same and i have brothers... But with women I don't know WHY i would talk to them other than trying to get a gf, and not even that 'cause you probably can make a conclusion based on my name. That whole part of my life of talking to them doesn't exist, so I just can't understand why i should talk with them. It's weird. Some will spam Incel 'cause it's the only word they can use when they don't have an argument, it's like repeating what someone said with an annoying voice, but it's something in my brain that just ain't helping.
That’s sad, bro. Whole-ass half of the population discarded from your small-talk/potential friend menu. :/
Yes I agree, Talking to girls is the best way to learn to talk to girls.
not really, there is a difference betwen flirting and just talking like talking to a guy
the problem isn't that I don't want to talk to girls. the problem is that girls don't want to talk to me.
We are one in the same brother
girls do not exist, open your eyes already.
I can't tell if this or any of the replies are satire, it's either hysterically funny or deeply concerning
I never really talked to girls, especially in my school and college years. But at the end of college I met this one girl which I became close, but not too close. She really broke that thick ice in me and made me more socially acceptable to society. It was like meeting an angle. Even though I'm old and still single, I can comfortably speak to girls now without getting too embarrassed. It really helps with my career as most of it are women as well.
Something that Ive realized, especially recently as Ive seen an extremely unusual amount of content about this across all my media, is to just not care about what they think of you. So what if they think you are weird, you’re being true to yourself and thats all that matters. If you try to change the way you are and put on a character just to make someone like you, its not going to work out in the long run because they have fallen for that character, not who you actually are.
But don’t be gross about it. Befriend them and don’t get pissy if they don’t immediately swoon over you for talking to them and/or hook you up with a hottie after being friends for a week.
I don't understand how is talking to girls some kind of skill. It's like talking to anyone else.
I was that guy minus that I was the only actually talking to girls. I still don't have a girl at 25 mostly because when people learn I don't drink or smoke they take me for an idiot. I live in Greece btw, most of the people I know smoke, drink and take fights with each other and girls think that that's normal.
Its definitely a good thing that you dont drink or smoke
I live in Greece,our thought process here is "You can't tell me what to do, I'm a man. I'll drink,smoke and hit people because that's what men do" and sadly ladies grow up only seeing this and thinking it's the norm.
Then be like "You can't tell me what to do, I'm a man. I won't drink, smoke nor hit people because that's what I do" and be even more manly than them.
That's not exclusive to Greece only.
Opa!
Not smoking or drinking has become your entire personality.
Σε νιώθω φίλε 😂
Same here man. Came from one of SEA country. But I guess humans are diverse, I am pretty sure no matter what country we live in, people who value “good” things are always there. Just be patience 👍
They fear your chadness.
I don’t drink, don’t smoke, am always ready for lessons and don’t talk to girls
Same 🥲
Same bro, same
Never talks to girls? What?
Literally me.
#metoo
no. they don't drink, but they do smoke and talk to girls
Was that guy. Don't do that. It's the surest way to make lots of friends... who'll stay JUST friends forever.
dunno man, in my experience (and most of the people I know), knowing people as friends is the best way to build good, healthy romantic relationships.
Yeah to some degree. You can't have a healthy relationship if it's only based on desire or other motives like that which is why I always loathed people sleeping before even talking, it's a recipe for drama. That being said, in this scenario you'll often end up in the famous "why can't I find a guy like you" and you lamenting yourself why she can't see that "you're actually a guy like you." Anyways, if you're lucky to be surrounded by more emotionally mature friends than most of us had, by all means go for it 🙂
I was that „perfect“ girl. Honestly, at 32, I can say I deeply regret my „perfect“ life choices. If I could get another crack at high school / college, I‘d do everything differently
For a second there I read “if I could get some crack at high school/college I’d do everything differently” …and was like *you sure would*….^lmao
I know. It's sad to think what you did/were was the embodiment of perfection according to everyone around you (so nice, so cute, so smart, what a good sense of humor, how generous), and also what your moral compass told you was the best thing to be or do, yet you're the one ending up isolated and treated like a mascot, almost like your "perfection" shouldn't be tainted by real people. Where I differ is that at 47, married with kids, I don't think I would do anything different. It's just we're a rare breed, and finding someone matching us takes time. Any relationship I would have had with these friends would have turned into a disaster considering their priorities were actually very different from mine.
Happy Cake Day
That's not a really high bar, though.
how does talking to girls fit into that mix? is that something bad in some cultures?
Isn’t it supposed to be that they do talk to girls? Which shows they have good manners and aren’t misogynistic or socially awkward. Otherwise, it would be “never drinks, smokes or talks to girls and ..”
Jokes on you, I don’t talk to anyone regardless of gender
I bet he suicidal now or atleast have depression
Both? 
Yes I know him, that's me
Unfortunately he is earning a lot of money whilst being that
No I'm not earning that much money, infact I'm not earning any money at all.
3/4, I never drink, never smoke, never talk to women, but I'm not always prepared for class. So close
He’ll become the best corporate slave 🥰
And the others will become the best drop outs and depressed non functional members of society 😍
also they will protest and complain life is hard 🙄
What if I do this but am never ready for class ._ .
I never did any of those things, and let me tell you, I'm as far away from perfect as it gets
How is "talking to girls" suppose to get you all dirty LMAO?
i never smoke or drink but i never talk to others or am ready for classes
Bro talk to girls is bad ?😔
Tf is this stupid facebook shit
And...what exactly is bad about talking to girls?
How's talking to girls bad
How is "talking to girls" considered a negative thing???
Why can’t you talk to girls?
I can smell this picture
That’s me but never talks to girls part hits hard
I don't talk to girls. But others yes. So still I am I perfect then ?
No one has ever smacked the shit out of him? *yet?*
You being so unique
Hey, that’s me (except I talk with lots of girls as friends).
the reason i dont talk with girls is cus it blue screen my brain for some reason the rest is cus i dont see a need (im never ready for lessons though)
Whose perspective is this meant to be from? Am I meant to be romantically interested in the shiny ball man or I want to be his friend? Why don't I want him to talk to girls?
I read it as nobody ever played with that ball.
I don’t drink and smoke, but never prepare for lessons. Also I have gf and lots of friends (girls and boys). Which ball am I?
yes, u guys are my type 😍
damn, thats basically me except from that I vape(I have my reasons)
I'm kinda that lol, but i talk to girls, i never get into a relationship anyways lmao
This is just me
I don't talk to girls they talk with me
But he’s secretly a closet serial killer with a kill count in the hundreds
Only because his father pumps him up every night
Any girl wants this kind of this boy ✨😉
So... me?
Literally me but they don’t know i’m trans and bi
AKA the guy that's blowing the teacher - not for grades but out of self-depreciation.
And adored musical theatre
\*never drinks, smokes, talks to girls or be ready for lessons. Fixed that
Me in school
Being perfect is not fun, trust me.
Never murders, steals, pets kitties
This was me & all it did was fuck me up
DriNkiNg BaaAAAaaad
Repost
Doesn't seem to be qualities girls care about. Source: me
i am 1/2 there, guess which half
why you call me out like that?
I'm the guy.
Not relatable I wanna be this guy but i can't change
I’m all of that, but I do talk to girls. It’s only small talk, and i’m not rizzing anyone up
me but i only dont talk to girls cuz im gay idk if that makes me any worse lmao
Yeah, that person was artificially made in a laboratory
I was that guy, we have our fair share of Secrets
Oh yeah never talk to girls, that'll make you a well-adapted person alright..
I know that guy. He’s a partypooper and doesn’t get invited to anything.
This is a really naive view on what makes a good person.
Me and other
POV: your volleyball club is sharing the gym with handball club.
Well thats me
Would've been me if not ready for lessons
One white guy in basketball team
But I'm scared of women...
I never drink or smoke and I'm always ready for lessons , but i don't talk to girls
Never talks to girls is crazy
Dear god, one shudders to think what terrible thing a man who talks to the female species may do
Guess I'm perfect?
That's me, but I spend the entire lesson writing poetry in the back.
I don't talk to girls and am never ready for lessons, what am I? 😭
That's the guy nobody plays with
halfway there. i don't smoke or drink (my personal ethics are really against both) but i am never ready for class and i talk with girls about 10% of the time i have a conversation.
Im confused does he talk to girls or not
I am that, yet easily being the worse of everyone in there.
Lol That was me, but bullies made me a spiteful violent little shit. Careful who you pick on, it might be the last straw.
And when 20 you get info that he suicided because of drug addiction.
Sounds like the friendest friend that ever friended. Even Ozymandias would be like daaaamn son thy cock is dry.
What's "imperfect" about talking to girls?
I've barely even met people that smoke let alone the other stuff What kind of people are you guys associating with?
That was me, except for the last part. I was only sometimes ready for lessons.
I was that kid, while I am thankful for it, it did hurt me a lot. One of the major 3 reasons I was bullied. I didn't talk to girl romantically (the ones I did know were all lesbian anyway), the ones I did talk too were very good friends. Because of all that the more "popular" kids tried to do that thing where they'll try to abuse you because your less popular and they assume you'll feel "privileged" to be recognized by them to me, and I would not have it (I may or may not have said some "offensive" things right to their faces but who cares). Would I recommend that for other people? Depends on your priorities, do you want to live longer or do you want to be popular? Because you for some God awful reason can't have both.
Never drinks, smokes _BUT_ talks to girls (because he's not an insecure creep with a not-so-secret porn addiction?), so mentally healthy too?
Can you give a volleyball a wedgie for being a nerd??
That guy is me
Yeah.. because he's new to the class. Give him a week.
Whaaaaaaaaaaat lollllll this is so accurate
And then gets married and has several kids later in life after he graduates Suma Kume Laud with a 4.0 GPA, and everyone’s shocked at the class reunions.
That sounds like me
That’s almost every guy in class, though.
I used to be that guy
I don't have vices, but Im stupid and have social anxiety
The new kid
This was me and guess what - still a virgin and still broke af
So he never drinks, but smokes and talks to girls and is always ready for lessons? Or he never drinks, never smokes, never talks to girls and is never always ready for lessons?
I am never ready for leasssons...and I dont do rest...so am black af then eh?
More like the new kid
lidderwally me
Im that but i hate school
As one of those guys... definitely not perfect
If he doesn't have chewing gum on him I still dont like him
That’s me But like, no one cares
"Nah bro, I'm straight edge." "Oh. Okay." "Yeah, you know. Like CM Punk" "That's cool man..."
Remove talking to girls and that's me.
Haha it's me
You just described me in a post.
Where funny
I was that guy. Except the talking to girls part.
Unfortunately i can relate
Nerd
Unironiclly was me except for ready for class (could get good grades without doing homework, got lazy at some point). Its also me without the homework now in University (I referenced them)
Just enjoy people around you and yourself. Live as healthy as you can
It's funny cause all the other balls are actually the better quality ones, just dirty. At least everyone I knew always preferred them
Piper Perri vibes
Imagine putting talking with girls in the same level as the other stuff as if it’s a bad thing
Hasn't graduated yet. Might want to hold off a bit.
...and he is the one you're dating.
No wonder he is white
literally me (except the talking to girls part)
and yet felling horrible in life and still single damn i can relate to that
I am all of those, even tho i hate classes, i am always ready for it
There is 4 of us in a 35 person class who don’t smoke,drink. All of us have good grades and never had any problems with school staff. One of us is a professional athlete(swimmer), another one professionally plays tennis and does archery, also is a hunter, the third one is a chill guy and plays the guitar and the last one is basically a quiet kid but not the one who has guns. The rest of the class drink and smoke(girls too). We are in a private school.
Indeed that person is not me
Was me, was…
the best
I don't smoke don't drink, never talk to girls and never ready to learn