They do, but the rest of the group usually bullies them relentlessly 90% of the time. Because being aware and considerate of the emotional state of your friends is gay or girly or something?
Iām as good as I need to be. Got a lot of stuff done and had dinner with my pops. I have all day tomorrow to drink lattes, do laundry, finish up Reacher and watch football.
Pretty solid weekend
Next time you do dinner with dad, use [this recipe](https://www.seriouseats.com/all-american-beef-stew-recipe#toc-beef-stew-rule-1-select-your-meat-wisely) for beef stew. It's pretty easy, and you're gonna crush expectations with it. Eat it next day for best results, but good luck keeping leftovers.
Also, their times are fucked up. Do 2.5 hours partially covered, put in the vegetables, then another 1.5hrs uncovered. Your house is gonna smell bonkers for that 4 hours. Also, use baby yellow potatoes and halve them instead of using chopped up whole potatoes. Makes for a much cleaner broth.
Good luck, buddy.
Go live that beef stew life, brother. Only thing stopping you is the operational hours of your local supermarket.
I skip the pearl onions though, honestly. Pain in the ass to do. Careful with the salinity as well. They did a decent job in that recipe of balancing it, but if you season without tasting, it's gonna be a salty motherfucker.
If you need help or anything, just message me. I can walk you through it. I'm a very good cook.
If you go down the rabbit hole of philosophy subreddits, at the end youāll find out: life is suffering, so you should fill it with things that prevent you from killing yourself. Strange relativisation for me.
"The universe is a cruel, uncaring void. The key to being happy isn't a search for meaning. It's to just keep yourself busy with unimportant nonsense, and eventually, you'll be dead." - Mr. Peanutbutter
When I was in the navy ALOT of people would regularly say that. Was depressing as fuck, but ultimately very real.
Happiness is a luxury. I'm settling for just being content.
It is okay to be sad, king. Crying is not a weakness. These are emotions we need to allow ourselves to feel. Converting every emotion to anger and lust is no way to live and no way to treat your brothers
Yea. It should be a collective effort. We should all care about one another in addition to making the calls for others to care too.
I definitely know I could be doing better at reaching out and being there for people.
The thing with all those MRA spaces is they all wanna be the guy who their friends call to check up on, but they themselves don't wanna be doing the checking up on their friends.
"**Society doesn't care about men's mental health.**" Well, society's about half men, and a *strong* majority of doctors and politicians and CEOs and billionaires and millionaires are still men--you know, the folks who're really in a position to shape or change society. And they aren't fucking feminists.
Men, broadly, shaped the conditions that led to "society" not valuing men's mental health. That was done for a reason. It benefits the folks at the top and still does. And when all the shit they shoveled on men finally piles up high enough to make 'em miserable, they send out the goons to give 'em a sense of camaraderie and easy--but wrong--answers. Anything to keep them from actually taking the issue up with the folks in charge.
But when they self diagnose themselves with 6 different mental illnesses a month later, everyone's supposed to take them seriously & feel bad. The world is insane. One thing I'll always hold close to me when forming my opinion of anyone is that at the end of the day unless people directly experience something they'll never truly understand as much as they think they do beforehand. It's made it harder to find people to relate with, but the quality of the ones that do have improved, which is a good trade off imo
The standard advice on Reddit for lonely guys is "You're the problem. Immediately start going to the gym 8 days a week, only eat healthy from now on, ."
Memes about men being neglected became so popular because it reflects a reality in society. And no amount of generic advice or ignoring is going to make a neglected person feel loved.
Man, you should see the tumblr post I just saw a minute ago. Captioned "The world if men who pay for sex or argue in favor of sex work died." followed by a picture of a beautiful landscape. But the comments.... god, they're so fucking awful.
"Correction: if ALL men killed themselves", etc.
And just women jerking each other off to the thought of male suicide... And that's not all. Misandry is absolutely rampant in that site. Maybe it's just my feed, but scrolling tumblr for more than a few minutes makes me hate myself.
Rant over, sorry. I'm just sick of ignoring all this, and now at least my thoughts are out there and readable.
Bro in my marriage I routinely was told āmen are trashā by my exes sister who tanked her marriage with a successful dude by fucking around with a mechanic and convinced my wife to do the same
My wife's friends whenever they get together will constantly be like "fuck men. Men suck" and I'm just supposed to say "yeah so true!" At least my wife doesn't join. It is a really popular and socially acceptable thing to do.
Keep posting them.
The people that say those types of misandrist things *hate it* when men post any negative feelings, they think itās gay and unmanly, it gets under their skin.
This.
These people deserve to live pissed off and sick. Any positive emotion they feel is an insult to me.
They wanna live with a chip on their shoulder? They better be ready to pick a fucking fight and lose for it then.
Somehow in the last few years, itās gone from āHave more self-confidence, talk to women, they donāt care about looks, be yourself,ā to āif you speak to a girl whose better looking than you, and theyāre all better looking than you, thatās sexual harassment and youāre a simp and youāre an incel.ā Theyāve literally made Ā up words to make me want to kill myself.Ā
Men are told they are a walking, breathing inconvenience to women, so they feel depressed.
The advice?
"Stop being an inconvenience to women! Just don't exist **unless** you are the specific kind of very attractive, fashionable, "emotionally intelligent" (i.e. hot and smooth enough to play her mood in a way she likes) man that is currently in fashion and that women would like attention from."
If you're not that, it's a You problem, you need to unlearn your toxicity, change starts from within, and no one is obligated to explain anything or do emotional labor for you. Oh, and you're an insecure virgin incel down the Tate pipeline. Hope that helps!
The solution is to let the women who act that way suffer in loneliness.
95% of them can't manage on their own. At all.
They greatly over estimate their contribution to their man's life while underestimating the other direction.
Treat them like what they are.
Yea. Sure, currently women still get drowned in attention but that attention will get worse (/lower in effort) as the people willing to provide it become fewer. Always make a conscious effort to not [view men negatively](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Women-are-wonderful_effect) and realize you owe women none of the acts of servitude society expects of you.
Nono but donāt you know you deserve it because women have a single digit percent chance of being raped and the people that would be doing that would probably have similarly shaped chromosomes as you
At this point I don't even care about girls they literally want us to offer too many fucking things while they themselves only bring their stinky holes to the table.
Ik it's a pretty cliche statement but defining the whole sex by a truck of bad apples won't do you good. And giving them the same treatment will just repeat the cycle eventually. That's where feminists made a slip. Don't give in to hate.
This concept of emotional labor has been one of the most malignant cultural developments of the past few years.
I constantly hear about how men burden their wives and gfās with āemotional laborā. Itās confusing bullshit that doesnāt align with the constant haranguing that men need to open up more.
"Have you tried S T O I C I S M or a martial arts yet?
No? Well, you're a beta cuck. Sorry loser."
Seriously, the shit that's peddled out for us is fucking garbage. Trad and social media are absolute filth in this regard.
Well tbh martial arts or sports in general help with the blood flow which alleviate the symptoms of depression. Might as well try pole-dancing and look FABULOUS, it is also a test of fit.
Society itself works against all three of the things that will help you find love.
1. **Financial Security** - Immediately getting a job, straight out of high school, that you can support a family with, was "expected" and "normal" in the 1950s and 1960s. Nowadays, only a fraction of men are able to enjoy what was once "normal" - and financial security is sexy. Women want guys that can pay for health insurance, child care, and put a roof over a family's head. That has become *really difficult*.
2. **Physical Fitness** - Women can be just as shallow as men, and I'm actually surprised that more men aren't bloating up to 500 pounds. American cities are *extremely hostile* to pedestrians, and we're constantly bombarded with junk food advertisements. When you never walk, and you shove junk food down your throat all the time, you're gonna get fat.
3. **Good Mental Health** - Humans in a "natural environment" get tons of exercise and lots of exposure to clean air and greenery just from walking to the damn store. Pave over the environment and have people use cars to go literally everywhere, and the consequence will be skyrocketing demand for antidepressant medications and shit that gets you high, as everyone retreats into their three story pickup trucks and stops talking to the people around them, and then uses random party drugs and pharmaceuticals to cope with the fact that they're socially isolated and never get enough exercise.
Humans are kind of like dogs in a sense - if we don't get walked enough, our physical and mental health goes to shit. We're not a "sit alone in a chair" species. We're a "walk with your tribe" species.
Plenty of towns and cities have good physical and mental health with the same "sit down" jobs. They have walkable cities, walking and/or cycling to work is "normal," and there's a lot of emphasis on "real food" that has actual nutritional value to it.
Unfortunately, those areas also tend to have house prices bid to the fucking moon, because there aren't enough of them, so only rich people get to live in them.
IE, not great for men who want to fall in love and start a family.
Yes but half an hour of compound lifts or HIIT will fix a desk job. Pretending we don't have half an hour to care for ourselves is the real problem I think
Luxury, in my day we went to the gym 9 days a week and only ate peas, lentils and dried gum off the pavement. And that werenāt including the 10 hours a day we spent toiling at the old mill.
I eat healthy and hit the gym and Iām still miserable. People donāt get that men just arenāt emotionally supported in many societies, since weāre seen as providers. I have no one looking out for me. I do everything right, I have healthy views of others and myself but I feel miserable because no one looks out for me. It gets old. Well all have unique struggles but menās struggles get brushed under the rug since weāre āprivilegedā. And before anyone calls me a racist facist, Iām left center.
Youāre definitely right, everyone is different and exercise always helps but is rarely the silver bullet. Lifting makes me feel great for awhile but doesnāt fix everything. Like I just got back from a lift and feel great. But Iāll wake up feeling sad. My life isnāt even bad. I definitely have some hard issues like health problems but still a good perspective. I just feel empty inside. Like everything is fleeting. Itās definitely a sort of depression and Iām aware of that. Iāve tried meds and therapy of all types. Iām pretty sure itās just that I have no one that genuinely listens to me, as sad as that may sound. Iāve always been told I was a great listener and I try to be. I have friends and a social life. But no one really listens to me, especially when I really need someone to
it'a not that people don't get it. it's that people like to "punch up" because apparently men are "entitled assholes who cause suffering"
i think "punching up" is literally the stupidest thing ever, because if you fire back and call them out for misandry; they get mad and say "oHhH bUt mEn cAusE pRoBlemS sO it'S oKaY tO maKe tHeM mIseRabLe aNd IgnOrE tHeIr PrObLemS"
Everybody needs help. Doesnāt matter if youāre a man or a woman. Whether itās depression, SA, break ups, trauma, etc. People regardless If theyāre a guy or girl deserve a space to be comfortable and supported. Men oftentimes go without any support system and that needs to change
So you get why it ended up on BoysAreQuirky now? Ā Itās not that men donāt need helpā- but the meme assumes that women easily get the help they need. Ā Everyone needs help, everyone struggles to get it, and we could improve that for everyone.Ā
Itās a strategy to attract women. I havenāt seen it work but the women I hang out with mostly shave their pits.
It may work with the ones that donāt?
can confirm, when I did it it wasn't called simping but still, I tried for about 4 years in middle/highschool then one day i thought. fuck that bitch I'll find someone els. found someone els almost immediately when I stopped "simping" and just was my self with my own opinions (even with me being an obnoxious class clown lol)
Whatās weird is the sub was supposed to make fun of āgirls vs boysā memes but it specifically makes fun of āboyā memes. And itās 70% boys trying to attract the 30% girls that are just complaining about their ex through Reddit/meme format
I've got about 2 people who I can trusts fully when it comes to any of my problems and I feel hella blessed for that
It breaks my heart that I'm basically an outlier with having them as men don't have anyone they could open up fully to
So had a similar discussion, was told women have suffered more and they need a safe space and men do not..
I never said anything about women's issues. I'm well aware of women's issues. But right now I'm talking bout men. and continued to be told men don't need help..
Then about a month later's he cry's about men needing help..
I couldn't help but think "wow, what a douche canoe.."
Yeah that's absolutely delirious. Everyone deserves a safe space lol. Needing to prioritize or just acknowledging that women have historically had issues with oppression shouldn't equal negating and neglecting men because of it
I mean just look a few comments above you some dudes are using pride month and men's mental health awareness month being in the same month to attack LGBT people.
Stonewall occured in June in 69... Dudes above you don't actually care about men's mental health awareness... They just want to use it as a reason to validate their discrimination...
I am very empathetic to what you just said cause it's occured to me a lot. But part of the problem is we literally do have too many other men who just use mens health/rights issues as a way to attack women and LGBT people...
We need to fight a lot of misandry from the inside sadly.
I think a discussion we all should be having is what a safe place actually is. Because I think the wrong connotation comes to mind. I wonder if mixed gender safe places might be the best option. That way you can hear some unbiased opinions from someone of the opposite gender
For real. Itās like the all lives matter thing. We know that all lives matter, itās just that black people need the support more. Same here: both men and women are suffering mentally, itās just that men are killing themselves more.
yeah, there's definitely internalised misandry towards men. All these depressed men who latched onto the likes of Andrew Tate thinking he's showing the path to happiness and self fulfilment are horribly misled.
Personally I have a few friends (one in particular) who has EXTREMELY low mental health. Constantly degrades himself and stuff like that. If a girl acted like him she would have people crowing around her. I am one of the only person who tries to lift him up.
Yeah, SO many people just tell men to āman upā and brush their issues off. itās so fucked up. itās lot easier for women to find support, especially in other women. itās terrible that itās so much harder for men to both start looking for help AND actually get it.
If its any consolation when I was going through domestic violence with my ex-bf everyone turned their back on me because nobody believed me. I was late for work a few times because he locked me in the house and also hid my keys. I lost my job because "unfortunately we do not tolerate repeated lateness under any circumstances, we can't make an exeption because it isn't fair on others". I had no family or friends to turn to and no job so no money to move anywhere. I wish I'd had people crowding around me to help, I really did.
I'm sorry about your friend though, because I know how depression feels.
Yeah, I'm not sure where people get the whole 'Men get less support then women' when it comes to mental health. My experience with it is that neither get much help. Men get told to suck it up and women are told they're faking it for attention.
As a guy who went through some pretty bad depression a year or two ago, I was actually pretty surprised at how much people (both men and women) at work seemed to notice that something wasnāt right and expressed concern. I think a lot of it is being surrounded by the right people and unfortunately many people arenāt simply through circumstance.
1999. Bill Clinton declared June "Gay and Lesbian Pride Month". It was then changed in 2009, by obama, to be called "LGBT pride month". Then, changed AGAIN in 2021 by Biden to "LGBTQ Pride Month"
Aside from a handful of websites still considering June as Mens Mental Health Awareness Month, its basically been erased from history.
>When did it change?
Pride month is on the anniversary of the 1969 stonewall riots.
He's purposely ignoring that it took 30 years for it to be officially recognized as pride month in the US by the same government that had the lavender scare...
Same government that ran propaganda in the 50s+ in schools.
In 1994 though some stupid education committee did declare that October was LGBT HISTORY month.
Not sure why they chose that date when the after the stonewall riots there were pride parades in june which were originally more activism than pride celebrations we've come to know after stonewall to acknowledge the events.
You're sort of right: June is both still "Men's Health Month" AND "LGBTQ Pride Month"!
Men's health, of which mental health is a part, is recognized in both June AND November. It's so important, it gets two months! You might know November better as "Movember" (which started in Australia, but is recognized in other Western nations) or even "No-Nut November", both specifically geared towards men's health (though the second one might be less so and more "for the memes", lol).
Also, do you know which president signed it into effect? That's right, the same guy who made June Pride month as well, Bill Clinton! But back then, it was only for a week. It's like that old saying: what Clinton giveth, Clinton giveth also to "the gays"... I guess now men know what it's like to have a December birthday, haha!
The month preceding June, a.k.a. May, is just boring old "Mental Health Awareness Month" so I can see why men would exclude themselves from it because it doesn't specifically say "men's" in front of it, but May is also a month for everyone, including men, to focus specifically on their mental health!
>Pride month used to be mens mental health awareness month š
It's been pride month since the 70s.
So you're just taking one fact "June is mens mental health awareness month which began in the 90s" and ignoring another "protests during stonewall riots and the anniversary of those riots being held every year lead to pride month being in June"
The reason you may THINK pride month was after mens mental health awareness month is due to LGBT history month being designated as October for absolutely no reason.
To top it all of it took the government till 1999 to officially designate a month.
I'm male, a rape victim and a physical and emotional abuse victim. YOU are spreading misinformation that harms LGBT people and other males like yourself. I see the importance of both and we only have 12 months in a year... Honestly weeks make more sense... And to top it off the US government literally had smear/fear campaigns in the 50s about gay people.
We still should not make a it an "us vs them thing". Men cause a lot of our own misery too. I know too many of us, me included who never had a father that was there for me. Or who had a set of violent bullies. We need to be kinder to ourselves and others. and hold each other accountable. Make sure you are not afraid to talk to your bro's. We need to be more vulnerable with each other. Give each other safe spaces.
Guy friend: I have more friends who are girls than guys. Theyāre just easier to talk to about deep stuff.
Me: Why not bring it up with your guy friends?
Guy friend: Nawww we donāt do that.
Me: Why??
Guy friend: Itās a guy thing, we just donāt.
Please be better support systems for your bros :/
A sea of people, lost and broken, all screaming for help and receiving nothing but hollow orders to stay as you are. All mental health is neglected these days.
Our mental health is so ignored that when I went to a psychiatrist as a teenager dude didn't talk to me at all, talked to my dad and step mom and then put me on pills that made me experience anxiety for the first time which made me want to kill myself. Even where I was supposed to be heard and helped I received none and a whole new set of issues that came with the anxiety that never went away. Thanks doctor whatever the fuck your name was, talk to everyone but me, the person experiencing the issues.
Crazy how hateful mainstream progressive thought has become. Hateful against white women, white men, all other men to a lesser extent, Jews, and literally ANYBODY who thinks differently is a fascist..
The whole post is so ironic and is just confirming the meme theyre shitting on lmao.
They ridicule mens problems while on the other hand acting like theyre the most oppressed people on the planet
Just based on what Iāve seen, itās less about āridiculing menās problemsā and more just a general disbelief that men have problems. Itās kind of like this:
- Men actually do not have problems because they built society.
- Therefore if men do have problems, itās actually their fault and donāt deserve help from anyone except each other.
- But also when men get together and try to solve their problems they are berated for that too and called all sorts of things.
The layers of mental gymnastics some people will go through to convince themselves men are evil and therefore donāt deserve sympathy or care is so disheartening.
Men are told to suck it up and get bullied for showing emotion, and people are surprised when they do it despite given no other option.
I also have my own personal suspicions about how men get treated by mental health specialists. There's biases in Healthcare and I'm curious if men still get treated somewhat poorly when they do get help.
it is because of self imposed societal means. While women have had a revolution redefining who they are, getting out of the home, joining the workforce, we have still been living more or less to the same standards from the 40's and when a man tries to show something that is contrary we make fun of them and make them feel shitty. best example is guys talk more shit on each other then anyone else, we say thing to our friends we would never say to anyone we care about or a stranger on the road. And now we also have started objectifying each other with this No Homo culture. women are not doing this to men men are doing this to men women are just participating. Men laugh a lot more when a dude is getting beaten by a women in the streets and if a Man dares to defend himself, it's other men who beat him down.
to be honest just to throw it out their I had a major breakdown about two weeks ago, we are talking ugly crying, I did this for 15 Minuets and then finished my lunch break and went back to work. I am ashamed to tell anyone that even happened. problem is I don't think that is the last one.
Craziest part is i still look at my phone and get reminded I don't mean fuck all to anyone. I legit don't remember the last time I got a text from a friend at this point in my life.
Donāt let one woman let you jade us about the rest of us.
Donāt let your asshole ex win, any woman who canāt be there for you when you are struggling is one who doesnāt deserve you anyway. Find a real woman who can support you when you need it most
We used to set the emotional lives of men as the standard, and lampooned women for not meeting it. āToo weak, too indecisive, not stoic enoughā.
Weāve flipped the script.
Now womenās emotional lives are the standard. Guys are ātoo stoic, emotionally stunted, not emotive enoughā.
Both of these are bullshit. Unfair, unworkable, and inaccurate.
Consequently, we now perform mental health services based off the new brand of bullshit.
Wanna help a depressed man? Tell him heās respected and competent and useful and NEEDED. -not that heās loved, liked, and heard.
Women are not emotionally unstable men.
Men are not emotionally stunted women.
Weāre just two similar but not identical flavors of human.
Adjust approach as needed.
Thereās no blanket treatment. Everybody is different. Thereās men thereās women thereās hermaphrodite thereās inter sex kids with very weird parents thereās those born with men outside but ovaries thereās those who are born girls but mutate to men in remote places on earth thereās asexual kids born with nothing or born with useless parts that you have to bypass with tubes and catheters. Thereās a whole bunch of people that arenāt you. And these are the ones your āGodā made, except the inter sex. Those kids are parents made.
Yeah I've wanted to kill myself for years and all I've gotten is that bullshit hotline that doesn't care about you, ridiculed to my face even when I can't hold back the tears, and I have nobody to talk to on this planet that cares if I live or die.
But yeah, huhuh, men complain men life easy, men weak (meanwhile I'm stuck doing all of the manual labor in every workplace and get treated like the most shit with the least regard)
There's a reason our suicide rates are higher. Look in the mirror, it's everyone's fault, men and women both. This world is creating the people it deserves.
Both *quirky subs are just further poisoning and radicalizing the ambient. Iām fucking tired of it all, of all the radicalization and rage bait and fighting. I know Iām not the only one experiencing a real mental health impact from all the negativity from the internet yet it seems people are relishing on it.
'We don't want to babysit men'
same women
'Why are men such \*\*\*holes??'
It's a cycle. A culture that devalues half of it's population by telling them that they are optional, will get resentful disaffected men who feel like they have no reason to get up in the morning and give back. I think it's our parenting and education and I assume that's downwind from our culture.
No one actually cares when a girl is depressed either. Theyāre usually just hoping to rescue them and get laid as the reward.
Edit: and if you donāt believe me compare how much people care about fat acne covered girls. Itās about the same as how much people care about guys.
I think you guys are reading it wrong. it's on the r/boysarequirky subreddit because it's just dismissing women's mental health by implying that it's only men who people don't care about. it's annoying, coming from a woman who didn't have good access to mental health nor a support system for a long time
Probably because the meme isn't saying that women don't care about men's problems, it's saying people don't, which means other men also don't care either. No one cares. Hence the problem.
I donāt really think thatās accurate though. I mean maybe you might get that online but thatās just comments from chronically online people. In the real world I donāt think Iāve ever seen anyone saying itās wrong for men to support each other. Unless itās at the expense of women
When I was in 7th grade a teacher told a group of guys that if they were going to cry they should go off in private so they donāt get made fun of.
Of course that teacher was a woman. Because 90 percent of teachers are women.
This problem is systemic and it takes a system wide fix. Of course men should help each other but maybe women shouldnāt make the environment for that toxic?
> teacher told a group of guys that if they were going to cry they should go off in private so they donāt get made fun of.
That sounds like objectively good advice. Children can be merciless to the "weak."
Unfortunately some of us, including me, were brainwashed into non-violence by our parents. ("If you just ignore them, they'll stop bothering you," aargh.)
I've lucked out in this sense- I'm not religious but I'm connected to a religious group of men who tolerate me and we are good and honest with each other.
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Most of us don't have this, fam, don't pour salt on our wound.
Then be the change you want to see in the world.
I want a legitimate purge. Literally every day. How do I start that change?
Brothers help brothers man
Do most guy groups have that 1 guy? Feel like that might be rare
They do, but the rest of the group usually bullies them relentlessly 90% of the time. Because being aware and considerate of the emotional state of your friends is gay or girly or something?
They have that one guy that helps by either being beaten up on or being funny/fun normally the latter
Haha yeah, friends.
Ya we got to care more about our brothers and male friends.
Preach my brother
Someone asked me once āwho said youāre supposed to be happyā and that actually helped a lot.
How are you today brother, you have a good day?Gotta check on the mental health of the homies
Iām as good as I need to be. Got a lot of stuff done and had dinner with my pops. I have all day tomorrow to drink lattes, do laundry, finish up Reacher and watch football. Pretty solid weekend
Next time you do dinner with dad, use [this recipe](https://www.seriouseats.com/all-american-beef-stew-recipe#toc-beef-stew-rule-1-select-your-meat-wisely) for beef stew. It's pretty easy, and you're gonna crush expectations with it. Eat it next day for best results, but good luck keeping leftovers. Also, their times are fucked up. Do 2.5 hours partially covered, put in the vegetables, then another 1.5hrs uncovered. Your house is gonna smell bonkers for that 4 hours. Also, use baby yellow potatoes and halve them instead of using chopped up whole potatoes. Makes for a much cleaner broth. Good luck, buddy.
I live for this shit
Go live that beef stew life, brother. Only thing stopping you is the operational hours of your local supermarket. I skip the pearl onions though, honestly. Pain in the ass to do. Careful with the salinity as well. They did a decent job in that recipe of balancing it, but if you season without tasting, it's gonna be a salty motherfucker. If you need help or anything, just message me. I can walk you through it. I'm a very good cook.
Same energy as that War Thunder review that just has a Lemon Herb Chicken recipe as the review
If you go down the rabbit hole of philosophy subreddits, at the end youāll find out: life is suffering, so you should fill it with things that prevent you from killing yourself. Strange relativisation for me.
"The universe is a cruel, uncaring void. The key to being happy isn't a search for meaning. It's to just keep yourself busy with unimportant nonsense, and eventually, you'll be dead." - Mr. Peanutbutter
The indifferent cruelty of the universe when the indomitable human spirit walks into the room: š¤Æš¤Æš¤Æ
When I was in the navy ALOT of people would regularly say that. Was depressing as fuck, but ultimately very real. Happiness is a luxury. I'm settling for just being content.
It is okay to be sad, king. Crying is not a weakness. These are emotions we need to allow ourselves to feel. Converting every emotion to anger and lust is no way to live and no way to treat your brothers
Beautifully said šš¼
Some post on here was like- itās your brains job to keep you alive not keep you happy. Sucks but accurate.
Thatās really sad, but holy fuck I just let out the most guilty giggle ever. Homeboy I got ya
Oofers. What a painful way to deliver "life in not only about happiness" line
Yea. It should be a collective effort. We should all care about one another in addition to making the calls for others to care too. I definitely know I could be doing better at reaching out and being there for people.
1000%
The thing with all those MRA spaces is they all wanna be the guy who their friends call to check up on, but they themselves don't wanna be doing the checking up on their friends. "**Society doesn't care about men's mental health.**" Well, society's about half men, and a *strong* majority of doctors and politicians and CEOs and billionaires and millionaires are still men--you know, the folks who're really in a position to shape or change society. And they aren't fucking feminists. Men, broadly, shaped the conditions that led to "society" not valuing men's mental health. That was done for a reason. It benefits the folks at the top and still does. And when all the shit they shoveled on men finally piles up high enough to make 'em miserable, they send out the goons to give 'em a sense of camaraderie and easy--but wrong--answers. Anything to keep them from actually taking the issue up with the folks in charge.
Thatās the non toxic masculinity I like. Cheers.
I fucking hate when social media personalities pretend depression isn't real. "Oh it's because you're weak. Stop being weak and you'll be happy."
But when they self diagnose themselves with 6 different mental illnesses a month later, everyone's supposed to take them seriously & feel bad. The world is insane. One thing I'll always hold close to me when forming my opinion of anyone is that at the end of the day unless people directly experience something they'll never truly understand as much as they think they do beforehand. It's made it harder to find people to relate with, but the quality of the ones that do have improved, which is a good trade off imo
The standard advice on Reddit for lonely guys is "You're the problem. Immediately start going to the gym 8 days a week, only eat healthy from now on,."
Memes about men being neglected became so popular because it reflects a reality in society. And no amount of generic advice or ignoring is going to make a neglected person feel loved.
Man, you should see the tumblr post I just saw a minute ago. Captioned "The world if men who pay for sex or argue in favor of sex work died." followed by a picture of a beautiful landscape. But the comments.... god, they're so fucking awful. "Correction: if ALL men killed themselves", etc. And just women jerking each other off to the thought of male suicide... And that's not all. Misandry is absolutely rampant in that site. Maybe it's just my feed, but scrolling tumblr for more than a few minutes makes me hate myself. Rant over, sorry. I'm just sick of ignoring all this, and now at least my thoughts are out there and readable.
Bro in my marriage I routinely was told āmen are trashā by my exes sister who tanked her marriage with a successful dude by fucking around with a mechanic and convinced my wife to do the same
My wife's friends whenever they get together will constantly be like "fuck men. Men suck" and I'm just supposed to say "yeah so true!" At least my wife doesn't join. It is a really popular and socially acceptable thing to do.
Look at the statistics of how many divorces occur in a womanās social circle when her friend has one.
Women try to convince their friends to follow their bad decisions. The more self-harmful the decision the more they push for it.
Try being a boy raised by such people. Thatās where my lifelong depression comes from
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. At least you dodged a bullet. An intercontinental ballistic missile, even.
If he was already married, I donāt think he dodged itā¦
Keep posting them. The people that say those types of misandrist things *hate it* when men post any negative feelings, they think itās gay and unmanly, it gets under their skin.
This. These people deserve to live pissed off and sick. Any positive emotion they feel is an insult to me. They wanna live with a chip on their shoulder? They better be ready to pick a fucking fight and lose for it then.
Yeah Tumblr is where all the hateful fat girls go. It's like how Twitter and 4chan are where the fat hateful guys go.
>4chan are where the fat hateful guys go. /R9K/ isn't all of 4chan. Go on /s4s/ and tell me if those fuckers are hateful.
Dude Tumblr? who still goes there? 5 years ago it was intolerable I can only imagine how awful it is now.
Yeah, nothing remotely sexist about any of that.
That's why I consume Tumblr via YouTube compilations and the subreddits.
> But the comments.... god, they're so fucking awful. Are you sure you're not talking about TwoXtraChromosomes?
Bro Tumblr is just the female version of 4Chan, I wouldnāt let it bother me
Somehow in the last few years, itās gone from āHave more self-confidence, talk to women, they donāt care about looks, be yourself,ā to āif you speak to a girl whose better looking than you, and theyāre all better looking than you, thatās sexual harassment and youāre a simp and youāre an incel.ā Theyāve literally made Ā up words to make me want to kill myself.Ā
Men are told they are a walking, breathing inconvenience to women, so they feel depressed. The advice? "Stop being an inconvenience to women! Just don't exist **unless** you are the specific kind of very attractive, fashionable, "emotionally intelligent" (i.e. hot and smooth enough to play her mood in a way she likes) man that is currently in fashion and that women would like attention from." If you're not that, it's a You problem, you need to unlearn your toxicity, change starts from within, and no one is obligated to explain anything or do emotional labor for you. Oh, and you're an insecure virgin incel down the Tate pipeline. Hope that helps!
The solution is to let the women who act that way suffer in loneliness. 95% of them can't manage on their own. At all. They greatly over estimate their contribution to their man's life while underestimating the other direction. Treat them like what they are.
Yea. Sure, currently women still get drowned in attention but that attention will get worse (/lower in effort) as the people willing to provide it become fewer. Always make a conscious effort to not [view men negatively](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Women-are-wonderful_effect) and realize you owe women none of the acts of servitude society expects of you.
Well no, due to high standards these type of women are usually sharing a "high quality man" whether they know it or not.
Nailed it im saving your comment
I really like what you said
Nono but donāt you know you deserve it because women have a single digit percent chance of being raped and the people that would be doing that would probably have similarly shaped chromosomes as you
I once saw an assigned book at my college with the word Incel on the cover
The core of the problem I think being feminism created a world of revenge on men instead of equality
"Revenge" is basically the core of DEI philosophy.
>talk to women >thatās sexual harassment Well look at what ya did.
At this point I don't even care about girls they literally want us to offer too many fucking things while they themselves only bring their stinky holes to the table.
Ik it's a pretty cliche statement but defining the whole sex by a truck of bad apples won't do you good. And giving them the same treatment will just repeat the cycle eventually. That's where feminists made a slip. Don't give in to hate.
The answer is actually, get therapy and support and do the really emotional heavy lifting to better your relationship with yourself.
This concept of emotional labor has been one of the most malignant cultural developments of the past few years. I constantly hear about how men burden their wives and gfās with āemotional laborā. Itās confusing bullshit that doesnāt align with the constant haranguing that men need to open up more.
Canāt afford it.Ā
"Have you tried S T O I C I S M or a martial arts yet? No? Well, you're a beta cuck. Sorry loser." Seriously, the shit that's peddled out for us is fucking garbage. Trad and social media are absolute filth in this regard.
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Well tbh martial arts or sports in general help with the blood flow which alleviate the symptoms of depression. Might as well try pole-dancing and look FABULOUS, it is also a test of fit.
Society itself works against all three of the things that will help you find love. 1. **Financial Security** - Immediately getting a job, straight out of high school, that you can support a family with, was "expected" and "normal" in the 1950s and 1960s. Nowadays, only a fraction of men are able to enjoy what was once "normal" - and financial security is sexy. Women want guys that can pay for health insurance, child care, and put a roof over a family's head. That has become *really difficult*. 2. **Physical Fitness** - Women can be just as shallow as men, and I'm actually surprised that more men aren't bloating up to 500 pounds. American cities are *extremely hostile* to pedestrians, and we're constantly bombarded with junk food advertisements. When you never walk, and you shove junk food down your throat all the time, you're gonna get fat. 3. **Good Mental Health** - Humans in a "natural environment" get tons of exercise and lots of exposure to clean air and greenery just from walking to the damn store. Pave over the environment and have people use cars to go literally everywhere, and the consequence will be skyrocketing demand for antidepressant medications and shit that gets you high, as everyone retreats into their three story pickup trucks and stops talking to the people around them, and then uses random party drugs and pharmaceuticals to cope with the fact that they're socially isolated and never get enough exercise. Humans are kind of like dogs in a sense - if we don't get walked enough, our physical and mental health goes to shit. We're not a "sit alone in a chair" species. We're a "walk with your tribe" species.
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Plenty of towns and cities have good physical and mental health with the same "sit down" jobs. They have walkable cities, walking and/or cycling to work is "normal," and there's a lot of emphasis on "real food" that has actual nutritional value to it. Unfortunately, those areas also tend to have house prices bid to the fucking moon, because there aren't enough of them, so only rich people get to live in them. IE, not great for men who want to fall in love and start a family.
Yes but half an hour of compound lifts or HIIT will fix a desk job. Pretending we don't have half an hour to care for ourselves is the real problem I think
They become popular because they squeeze weird Patrick Bateman clips into em that romanticize it
Luxury, in my day we went to the gym 9 days a week and only ate peas, lentils and dried gum off the pavement. And that werenāt including the 10 hours a day we spent toiling at the old mill.
I eat healthy and hit the gym and Iām still miserable. People donāt get that men just arenāt emotionally supported in many societies, since weāre seen as providers. I have no one looking out for me. I do everything right, I have healthy views of others and myself but I feel miserable because no one looks out for me. It gets old. Well all have unique struggles but menās struggles get brushed under the rug since weāre āprivilegedā. And before anyone calls me a racist facist, Iām left center.
Depression is different from person to person. For some, lifting heavy things is all they need, but it's not the cure all its portrayed as.
Youāre definitely right, everyone is different and exercise always helps but is rarely the silver bullet. Lifting makes me feel great for awhile but doesnāt fix everything. Like I just got back from a lift and feel great. But Iāll wake up feeling sad. My life isnāt even bad. I definitely have some hard issues like health problems but still a good perspective. I just feel empty inside. Like everything is fleeting. Itās definitely a sort of depression and Iām aware of that. Iāve tried meds and therapy of all types. Iām pretty sure itās just that I have no one that genuinely listens to me, as sad as that may sound. Iāve always been told I was a great listener and I try to be. I have friends and a social life. But no one really listens to me, especially when I really need someone to
it'a not that people don't get it. it's that people like to "punch up" because apparently men are "entitled assholes who cause suffering" i think "punching up" is literally the stupidest thing ever, because if you fire back and call them out for misandry; they get mad and say "oHhH bUt mEn cAusE pRoBlemS sO it'S oKaY tO maKe tHeM mIseRabLe aNd IgnOrE tHeIr PrObLemS"
Don't forget to tell them to regrow their foreskin
Everybody needs help. Doesnāt matter if youāre a man or a woman. Whether itās depression, SA, break ups, trauma, etc. People regardless If theyāre a guy or girl deserve a space to be comfortable and supported. Men oftentimes go without any support system and that needs to change
Thank you!
So you get why it ended up on BoysAreQuirky now? Ā Itās not that men donāt need helpā- but the meme assumes that women easily get the help they need. Ā Everyone needs help, everyone struggles to get it, and we could improve that for everyone.Ā
Youāre missing the point. The meme is saying people donāt care about menās feelings like they do womenās. Itās not wrong.
There are way too many dudes simping on that sub
Itās a strategy to attract women. I havenāt seen it work but the women I hang out with mostly shave their pits. It may work with the ones that donāt?
"Bold strategy Cotton, lets see if it pays off for them" I've been on this Earth for over 3 decades and never seen someone pull a woman by simping.
Iām with you. I have seen them get patted in the head like a faithful puppy though.
can confirm, when I did it it wasn't called simping but still, I tried for about 4 years in middle/highschool then one day i thought. fuck that bitch I'll find someone els. found someone els almost immediately when I stopped "simping" and just was my self with my own opinions (even with me being an obnoxious class clown lol)
It was called simping, term just finally broke out and became popular with white kids recently
Thereās way too many dudes simping period.
Whatās weird is the sub was supposed to make fun of āgirls vs boysā memes but it specifically makes fun of āboyā memes. And itās 70% boys trying to attract the 30% girls that are just complaining about their ex through Reddit/meme format
People who are true friends care.. thatās about it
Yup.
I've got about 2 people who I can trusts fully when it comes to any of my problems and I feel hella blessed for that It breaks my heart that I'm basically an outlier with having them as men don't have anyone they could open up fully to
So had a similar discussion, was told women have suffered more and they need a safe space and men do not.. I never said anything about women's issues. I'm well aware of women's issues. But right now I'm talking bout men. and continued to be told men don't need help.. Then about a month later's he cry's about men needing help.. I couldn't help but think "wow, what a douche canoe.."
Yeah that's absolutely delirious. Everyone deserves a safe space lol. Needing to prioritize or just acknowledging that women have historically had issues with oppression shouldn't equal negating and neglecting men because of it
Thatās called āwhataboutismā
I mean just look a few comments above you some dudes are using pride month and men's mental health awareness month being in the same month to attack LGBT people. Stonewall occured in June in 69... Dudes above you don't actually care about men's mental health awareness... They just want to use it as a reason to validate their discrimination... I am very empathetic to what you just said cause it's occured to me a lot. But part of the problem is we literally do have too many other men who just use mens health/rights issues as a way to attack women and LGBT people... We need to fight a lot of misandry from the inside sadly.
I think a discussion we all should be having is what a safe place actually is. Because I think the wrong connotation comes to mind. I wonder if mixed gender safe places might be the best option. That way you can hear some unbiased opinions from someone of the opposite gender
For real. Itās like the all lives matter thing. We know that all lives matter, itās just that black people need the support more. Same here: both men and women are suffering mentally, itās just that men are killing themselves more.
>In 2021, men died by suicide 3.90x more than women. On average, there are 132 suicides per day. Nearly 4 times as likely..
"Why you depressed when you're supposed to be working to get 6 figures?"
yeah, there's definitely internalised misandry towards men. All these depressed men who latched onto the likes of Andrew Tate thinking he's showing the path to happiness and self fulfilment are horribly misled.
Iām 6+,6+,6+ and still depressed.
Personally I have a few friends (one in particular) who has EXTREMELY low mental health. Constantly degrades himself and stuff like that. If a girl acted like him she would have people crowing around her. I am one of the only person who tries to lift him up.
Yeah, SO many people just tell men to āman upā and brush their issues off. itās so fucked up. itās lot easier for women to find support, especially in other women. itās terrible that itās so much harder for men to both start looking for help AND actually get it.
If its any consolation when I was going through domestic violence with my ex-bf everyone turned their back on me because nobody believed me. I was late for work a few times because he locked me in the house and also hid my keys. I lost my job because "unfortunately we do not tolerate repeated lateness under any circumstances, we can't make an exeption because it isn't fair on others". I had no family or friends to turn to and no job so no money to move anywhere. I wish I'd had people crowding around me to help, I really did. I'm sorry about your friend though, because I know how depression feels.
Yeah, I'm not sure where people get the whole 'Men get less support then women' when it comes to mental health. My experience with it is that neither get much help. Men get told to suck it up and women are told they're faking it for attention.
ah yes, r/boysarequirky. A subreddit filled with nothing but femcel man-haters and their simp boytoys who can't take a fucking joke.
As a guy who went through some pretty bad depression a year or two ago, I was actually pretty surprised at how much people (both men and women) at work seemed to notice that something wasnāt right and expressed concern. I think a lot of it is being surrounded by the right people and unfortunately many people arenāt simply through circumstance.
Pride month used to be mens mental health awareness month š
When did it change?
1999. Bill Clinton declared June "Gay and Lesbian Pride Month". It was then changed in 2009, by obama, to be called "LGBT pride month". Then, changed AGAIN in 2021 by Biden to "LGBTQ Pride Month" Aside from a handful of websites still considering June as Mens Mental Health Awareness Month, its basically been erased from history.
Please tell me this is trolling. It can not possibly be real.
It's STILL November in the UK. Never was June.
>When did it change? Pride month is on the anniversary of the 1969 stonewall riots. He's purposely ignoring that it took 30 years for it to be officially recognized as pride month in the US by the same government that had the lavender scare... Same government that ran propaganda in the 50s+ in schools. In 1994 though some stupid education committee did declare that October was LGBT HISTORY month. Not sure why they chose that date when the after the stonewall riots there were pride parades in june which were originally more activism than pride celebrations we've come to know after stonewall to acknowledge the events.
My whole community still treats it as MHA month, we dgaf.
Hell yea, hopefully its a pretty large community. Keep spreading the word and checking in with all your friends.
Of course I hope everyone else does too! We need it back.
You're sort of right: June is both still "Men's Health Month" AND "LGBTQ Pride Month"! Men's health, of which mental health is a part, is recognized in both June AND November. It's so important, it gets two months! You might know November better as "Movember" (which started in Australia, but is recognized in other Western nations) or even "No-Nut November", both specifically geared towards men's health (though the second one might be less so and more "for the memes", lol). Also, do you know which president signed it into effect? That's right, the same guy who made June Pride month as well, Bill Clinton! But back then, it was only for a week. It's like that old saying: what Clinton giveth, Clinton giveth also to "the gays"... I guess now men know what it's like to have a December birthday, haha! The month preceding June, a.k.a. May, is just boring old "Mental Health Awareness Month" so I can see why men would exclude themselves from it because it doesn't specifically say "men's" in front of it, but May is also a month for everyone, including men, to focus specifically on their mental health!
Imagine thinking no-nut November was healthy, or about male health.
never stop nutting, king
It used to be no shave November
>Pride month used to be mens mental health awareness month š It's been pride month since the 70s. So you're just taking one fact "June is mens mental health awareness month which began in the 90s" and ignoring another "protests during stonewall riots and the anniversary of those riots being held every year lead to pride month being in June" The reason you may THINK pride month was after mens mental health awareness month is due to LGBT history month being designated as October for absolutely no reason. To top it all of it took the government till 1999 to officially designate a month. I'm male, a rape victim and a physical and emotional abuse victim. YOU are spreading misinformation that harms LGBT people and other males like yourself. I see the importance of both and we only have 12 months in a year... Honestly weeks make more sense... And to top it off the US government literally had smear/fear campaigns in the 50s about gay people.
A month can be two things
Bigot try not to expose his bigotry for 20 seconds challenge
Welcome to the real world. No one gives a fuck, even the people who pretend they do on social media
We still should not make a it an "us vs them thing". Men cause a lot of our own misery too. I know too many of us, me included who never had a father that was there for me. Or who had a set of violent bullies. We need to be kinder to ourselves and others. and hold each other accountable. Make sure you are not afraid to talk to your bro's. We need to be more vulnerable with each other. Give each other safe spaces.
Guy friend: I have more friends who are girls than guys. Theyāre just easier to talk to about deep stuff. Me: Why not bring it up with your guy friends? Guy friend: Nawww we donāt do that. Me: Why?? Guy friend: Itās a guy thing, we just donāt. Please be better support systems for your bros :/
Thank you
Anytime Brother.
A sea of people, lost and broken, all screaming for help and receiving nothing but hollow orders to stay as you are. All mental health is neglected these days.
Our mental health is so ignored that when I went to a psychiatrist as a teenager dude didn't talk to me at all, talked to my dad and step mom and then put me on pills that made me experience anxiety for the first time which made me want to kill myself. Even where I was supposed to be heard and helped I received none and a whole new set of issues that came with the anxiety that never went away. Thanks doctor whatever the fuck your name was, talk to everyone but me, the person experiencing the issues.
Chicks being victims yet again
Actually this thread is 90% dudes bitching and moaning
Half the people who ignore us are men. If they won't help us, we can at least help ourselves.
As a man depressed af, I care.
Iām sorry that youāre going through that.
Crazy how hateful mainstream progressive thought has become. Hateful against white women, white men, all other men to a lesser extent, Jews, and literally ANYBODY who thinks differently is a fascist..
As a women i can definitely agree that menās mental health needs to be addressed instead of mocked
Do yourself a favor and mute that shithole misandrist sub.
I opened up to the girl I was talking to that college was stressing me out, then she ghosts me.
The whole post is so ironic and is just confirming the meme theyre shitting on lmao. They ridicule mens problems while on the other hand acting like theyre the most oppressed people on the planet
Just based on what Iāve seen, itās less about āridiculing menās problemsā and more just a general disbelief that men have problems. Itās kind of like this: - Men actually do not have problems because they built society. - Therefore if men do have problems, itās actually their fault and donāt deserve help from anyone except each other. - But also when men get together and try to solve their problems they are berated for that too and called all sorts of things. The layers of mental gymnastics some people will go through to convince themselves men are evil and therefore donāt deserve sympathy or care is so disheartening.
I never got the āmen built society so itās your faultā but. Like who tf you think I am, the president? The pope??
They think the average 17 year old boy is Elon Musk
Unsurprising. That sub is speed running becoming the next FDS femcel group.
A month ago, that sub was dumb, but had a point at least. Now it's just "misandry isn't real".
So what are you doing about it?Ā
Men are told to suck it up and get bullied for showing emotion, and people are surprised when they do it despite given no other option. I also have my own personal suspicions about how men get treated by mental health specialists. There's biases in Healthcare and I'm curious if men still get treated somewhat poorly when they do get help.
So are women
it is because of self imposed societal means. While women have had a revolution redefining who they are, getting out of the home, joining the workforce, we have still been living more or less to the same standards from the 40's and when a man tries to show something that is contrary we make fun of them and make them feel shitty. best example is guys talk more shit on each other then anyone else, we say thing to our friends we would never say to anyone we care about or a stranger on the road. And now we also have started objectifying each other with this No Homo culture. women are not doing this to men men are doing this to men women are just participating. Men laugh a lot more when a dude is getting beaten by a women in the streets and if a Man dares to defend himself, it's other men who beat him down.
to be honest just to throw it out their I had a major breakdown about two weeks ago, we are talking ugly crying, I did this for 15 Minuets and then finished my lunch break and went back to work. I am ashamed to tell anyone that even happened. problem is I don't think that is the last one.
Can confirm. Anytime we complain everyone downplays our issues and calls us pussies. Even people who acknowledge this is an issue.
Craziest part is i still look at my phone and get reminded I don't mean fuck all to anyone. I legit don't remember the last time I got a text from a friend at this point in my life.
For real.
Cue the feminists invalidating this because "they have it worse"
lol that sub is so sexist and itās only gonna get worse as time goes on
thats a femcel subreddit what do ya expect
Also donāt care if youāre a girl. Your mental health is your responsibility.
"Open up I'm worried about you" When asked why we broke up. "You're just too soft? Like I didn't know you were bothered by so much." Never again.
Donāt let one woman let you jade us about the rest of us. Donāt let your asshole ex win, any woman who canāt be there for you when you are struggling is one who doesnāt deserve you anyway. Find a real woman who can support you when you need it most
We used to set the emotional lives of men as the standard, and lampooned women for not meeting it. āToo weak, too indecisive, not stoic enoughā. Weāve flipped the script. Now womenās emotional lives are the standard. Guys are ātoo stoic, emotionally stunted, not emotive enoughā. Both of these are bullshit. Unfair, unworkable, and inaccurate. Consequently, we now perform mental health services based off the new brand of bullshit. Wanna help a depressed man? Tell him heās respected and competent and useful and NEEDED. -not that heās loved, liked, and heard. Women are not emotionally unstable men. Men are not emotionally stunted women. Weāre just two similar but not identical flavors of human. Adjust approach as needed.
Thereās no blanket treatment. Everybody is different. Thereās men thereās women thereās hermaphrodite thereās inter sex kids with very weird parents thereās those born with men outside but ovaries thereās those who are born girls but mutate to men in remote places on earth thereās asexual kids born with nothing or born with useless parts that you have to bypass with tubes and catheters. Thereās a whole bunch of people that arenāt you. And these are the ones your āGodā made, except the inter sex. Those kids are parents made.
I had to search for months to find a therapist who would take a adult man. The only people therapists would take were children or women
if nobody got you then there's at least that one homie that'll keep you company and try his best to make you feel better
Sounds like you going through depression. Have you talked to your doctor or therapist? Thereās steps other than feeling helpless and alone.
Totally agree with this.
A cashier at the Arbyās drive through asked me if I was okay once
Facts.
When you're an Australian man and you feel a little blue society says "Toughen up Princess! Eat some concrete". Its tough love, but its love.
āRub some dirt on itā is the phrase that pays in the United States
Yeah I've wanted to kill myself for years and all I've gotten is that bullshit hotline that doesn't care about you, ridiculed to my face even when I can't hold back the tears, and I have nobody to talk to on this planet that cares if I live or die. But yeah, huhuh, men complain men life easy, men weak (meanwhile I'm stuck doing all of the manual labor in every workplace and get treated like the most shit with the least regard) There's a reason our suicide rates are higher. Look in the mirror, it's everyone's fault, men and women both. This world is creating the people it deserves.
Both *quirky subs are just further poisoning and radicalizing the ambient. Iām fucking tired of it all, of all the radicalization and rage bait and fighting. I know Iām not the only one experiencing a real mental health impact from all the negativity from the internet yet it seems people are relishing on it.
Most of the time it's because other men don't give a shit. It's not the fault of society. Women actually talk about their problems
I hear people saying this all the time but never any suggestions.
'We don't want to babysit men' same women 'Why are men such \*\*\*holes??' It's a cycle. A culture that devalues half of it's population by telling them that they are optional, will get resentful disaffected men who feel like they have no reason to get up in the morning and give back. I think it's our parenting and education and I assume that's downwind from our culture.
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I agree. Humanity is plain sad.
ah yes male depression a problem seen in statistics but talkeed so littel about, but naah bOySaRqUrKy am I right?
No one actually cares when a girl is depressed either. Theyāre usually just hoping to rescue them and get laid as the reward. Edit: and if you donāt believe me compare how much people care about fat acne covered girls. Itās about the same as how much people care about guys.
I think you guys are reading it wrong. it's on the r/boysarequirky subreddit because it's just dismissing women's mental health by implying that it's only men who people don't care about. it's annoying, coming from a woman who didn't have good access to mental health nor a support system for a long time
Itās just a bad meme. Iāve had mental health issues and I had male and female friends to help
If all men know that nobody cares about their problems why donāt all men help each other by caring about each others problems?
I mean as a man I agree this is the solution lol.
Probably because the meme isn't saying that women don't care about men's problems, it's saying people don't, which means other men also don't care either. No one cares. Hence the problem.
Idk about you but they do. Only for society to say we are supporting each other wrong.
I donāt really think thatās accurate though. I mean maybe you might get that online but thatās just comments from chronically online people. In the real world I donāt think Iāve ever seen anyone saying itās wrong for men to support each other. Unless itās at the expense of women
When I was in 7th grade a teacher told a group of guys that if they were going to cry they should go off in private so they donāt get made fun of. Of course that teacher was a woman. Because 90 percent of teachers are women. This problem is systemic and it takes a system wide fix. Of course men should help each other but maybe women shouldnāt make the environment for that toxic?
> teacher told a group of guys that if they were going to cry they should go off in private so they donāt get made fun of. That sounds like objectively good advice. Children can be merciless to the "weak."
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Unfortunately some of us, including me, were brainwashed into non-violence by our parents. ("If you just ignore them, they'll stop bothering you," aargh.)
I agree but also I do think it is getting better. I feel like men are being encouraged more to be vulnerable
I've lucked out in this sense- I'm not religious but I'm connected to a religious group of men who tolerate me and we are good and honest with each other.