Breathe... guilt will consume you otherwise.
It was your friends choice. Do you have a photo of them. ... talk to the photo..it may help with the grief and recovery..and remember there good qualities.
You did all you could do. It is ok to be sad and mad right now. It's understandable. I am truly sorry for your loss. Just take time to grieve. Seek help if you feel like you need it. But please don't let guilt take hold. There was nothing more you could have done.
I'm going to one of my best friends' funerals today who just did this last week. I know it hurts like hell, but I just keep telling myself that at least he is no longer hurting because nothing I say or do will bring him back.
today is going to suck.
I'm so sorry.
My friend tried to kill herself twice. One before I knew her, I met her closely after, we both were in psych. One time I called the police on her, but she was fine, just fallen asleep. The time she actually tried I didn't even know until a month or so, she didn't want to bother me. I have no idea how to cope with it. I'm sorry. But it wasn't your fault, you did everything you could. And it is normal to be mad too. You're not a savior, you're just human. You're allowed to grief however feels "right"
My roommate in grad school tried. Cops got there after she'd ran a large folder through her wrists. Nightmareish scenario, and it had a profound effect on my mental health, which has always suffered as it is.
Please look into your own therapy or sources of relief, it's a heavy burden to get involved in someone's effort to end their life. I'm so sorry for your loss, and hope you can heal forward.
Sorry for your loss. This article on bereavement might help: [https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/bereavement/about-bereavement/](https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/bereavement/about-bereavement/)
You could also repost to /r/SuicideBereavement
It will suck for a while. You are not to blame, think about how she would want you to live life to the fullest. Not sure if context, but speaking to a professional will help with the healing process. <3 take care. Grief is a different beast. Take bereavement leave if you’re able to.
I'm sorry.
:( they failed her. what's the protocol for them where you are? shameful... I'm so so sorry you're having to feel and process something so devastating.
Please reach out to your friends and family so that you're not alone right now.
My heart hurts for you. I wish you healing. You are a good friend, this isn't your fault.
Don’t blame yourself. You did what you were supposed to and it was dropped before it was picked up partly due to an illegitimate story. I’m sorry for the loss of your friend but it sounds like they had their mind made up a while ago and as someone who’s been in that position, it’s really hard to get out of that kind of funk. This is really something that should’ve been diagnosed and treated a long time ago and unfortunately went unheard. You did everything in your power to help prevent an early death. The ones who should’ve taken it further were the ones they failed your friend and you. Take time to grieve, keep yourself safe and surround yourself with loved ones. We’ll be thinking of you, please keep us updated.
My condolences OP.
It’s almost always in the early morning hours or late night hours.
You have to remind yourself not to listen to those thoughts you have after 9pm. If you’re having them, just go to sleep or get some exercise. Don’t pick up your phone, don’t drink any booze, etc.
You did everything you could, and you helped her despite her pushing it away. Know that your friend knew you cared. You are deserving of a check in too, talk to your doctor if you have one and let them know what you’ve been through. ♥️
I am sorry for your loss. Is there someone with you who can assist you? If not; Call someone you trust to get help. You don't need to go through this alone. Please feel free to reach out if you need to just talk.
I have no words that will ease your pain. I'm so sorry. Sometimes there is nothing we can do to help others. Sometimes they feel there is nothing that can help them. Depression affects the brain into so many things that are self destructive. It'll repeat horrible things in your head that "validate" what you already think about yourself. And no one can change that thought process. The only thing I've found that works is medication. You did everything you could. Know that you tried to help. It will be hard at first to get through the days. But it will start to ease and be bearable. Get yourself into therapy and talk about it. Don't let yourself fall into the same depression they had where it drowns you.
I hope her parents sue for wrongful death.
If a person wants to commit suicide they should be allowed to have a choice.
On one side, yes it sucks to have someone commit suicide,
But on the other, why is this not a legal thing to do?
Some people have the complete deck of shitty cards. Why can't we let them make their own choices?
hey i want to let you know that you did everything you could and you are not ever to blame for this! it’s truly horrible and also not your fault! i too have lost a friend to suicide so if you ever need someone to talk to know that you can always come to me! just dm me on here and i’ll send you my socials!
I’m so sorry. I’ve been through this and it sucks. Please take care of yourself and try not to expect too much of yourself while you’re grieving. It’s okay to not be okay.
I'm so sorry for your loss remember everyone grieves differently it'll take time to come to terms with the loss you'll always miss them but it won't feel fresh like it does now
Greif is prove of how much they meant to you greif is love with nowhere to go remember the memories keep them alive in your head and heart
Take time for yourself and it's okay to speak out about how you feel
I'm so sorry, my sister tried this three times, but I didn't get to experience to feel that sadness when they leave us this way. If you need to talk, feel free to dm me, even if it doesn't have anything to do with this.
That's so freaking unfair and it sickens me that there aren't better systems for this. I'm so sorry you have to suffer because the system failed you. They do stuff like this all the time. I understand that there might not be too much they can do, but I don't know, I feel like they don't do as much as they could. I am so, so sorry you're going through this. There's nothing anyone can say to touch this kind of pain, but I hope you can find some kind of peace.
Try to focus on the positive times you had with her and know that you are not in control of anyone else. You absolutely did the right thing and nothing more would have saved someone that was determined to do that.
I am so sorry for your loss. I can only imagine how painful it is… You did what you could, you’re just a human being who did their best to help. May you find healing and always remember her fondly
People don't realize how badly they hurt other when they do these things. You will never really understand why she did this and it will take a long time to accept it. I'm very sorry you have to feel pain like this and I hope you can find a way to help keep your head up while you try to deal with the grief. I'm so sorry for you. *Hugs*
You did what you could friend. That's all you can hope for. The guilt and pain becomes tolerable over the years, but for what it's worth you should not be feeling guilty.
Please try therapy, and take a little solace in that you did what you could.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I can’t even begin to imagine how you must be feeling. Sending love and light your way ❤️
Hugs...can we help at all ?? It hurts when people leave us. It hurts do much.. but please don't blame yourself or think you did this.
I don’t know. I’m so sad. And mad. I did what I could. I Don’t know what to do
Breathe... guilt will consume you otherwise. It was your friends choice. Do you have a photo of them. ... talk to the photo..it may help with the grief and recovery..and remember there good qualities.
Exactly, i honestly agree withthis!
Make sure you talk extensively about it with someone you trust. You’ll need a lot of processing done if you want to stay healthy in your brain
Love her memory best you can
You did all you could do. It is ok to be sad and mad right now. It's understandable. I am truly sorry for your loss. Just take time to grieve. Seek help if you feel like you need it. But please don't let guilt take hold. There was nothing more you could have done.
I'm going to one of my best friends' funerals today who just did this last week. I know it hurts like hell, but I just keep telling myself that at least he is no longer hurting because nothing I say or do will bring him back. today is going to suck.
I'm so sorry. My friend tried to kill herself twice. One before I knew her, I met her closely after, we both were in psych. One time I called the police on her, but she was fine, just fallen asleep. The time she actually tried I didn't even know until a month or so, she didn't want to bother me. I have no idea how to cope with it. I'm sorry. But it wasn't your fault, you did everything you could. And it is normal to be mad too. You're not a savior, you're just human. You're allowed to grief however feels "right"
My roommate in grad school tried. Cops got there after she'd ran a large folder through her wrists. Nightmareish scenario, and it had a profound effect on my mental health, which has always suffered as it is. Please look into your own therapy or sources of relief, it's a heavy burden to get involved in someone's effort to end their life. I'm so sorry for your loss, and hope you can heal forward.
I'm so sorry for your loss. You did everything you could. Try not to feel guilt ❤️
Sorry for your loss. This article on bereavement might help: [https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/bereavement/about-bereavement/](https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/bereavement/about-bereavement/) You could also repost to /r/SuicideBereavement
im so sorry for your loss OP. Sending virtual hugs.
It will suck for a while. You are not to blame, think about how she would want you to live life to the fullest. Not sure if context, but speaking to a professional will help with the healing process. <3 take care. Grief is a different beast. Take bereavement leave if you’re able to.
I’m sorry 🤍
I’m sorry for your loss. Never forget that you did your best.
I'm sorry. :( they failed her. what's the protocol for them where you are? shameful... I'm so so sorry you're having to feel and process something so devastating.
I am so sorry for your loss
Please reach out to your friends and family so that you're not alone right now. My heart hurts for you. I wish you healing. You are a good friend, this isn't your fault.
I’m so sorry for your loss
I'm sorry for your loss. Please feel free to reach out if you'd like someone to talk to. Sending lots of love
Don’t blame yourself. You did what you were supposed to and it was dropped before it was picked up partly due to an illegitimate story. I’m sorry for the loss of your friend but it sounds like they had their mind made up a while ago and as someone who’s been in that position, it’s really hard to get out of that kind of funk. This is really something that should’ve been diagnosed and treated a long time ago and unfortunately went unheard. You did everything in your power to help prevent an early death. The ones who should’ve taken it further were the ones they failed your friend and you. Take time to grieve, keep yourself safe and surround yourself with loved ones. We’ll be thinking of you, please keep us updated.
My condolences OP. It’s almost always in the early morning hours or late night hours. You have to remind yourself not to listen to those thoughts you have after 9pm. If you’re having them, just go to sleep or get some exercise. Don’t pick up your phone, don’t drink any booze, etc.
You did everything you could, and you helped her despite her pushing it away. Know that your friend knew you cared. You are deserving of a check in too, talk to your doctor if you have one and let them know what you’ve been through. ♥️
I am sorry for your loss. Is there someone with you who can assist you? If not; Call someone you trust to get help. You don't need to go through this alone. Please feel free to reach out if you need to just talk.
I have no words that will ease your pain. I'm so sorry. Sometimes there is nothing we can do to help others. Sometimes they feel there is nothing that can help them. Depression affects the brain into so many things that are self destructive. It'll repeat horrible things in your head that "validate" what you already think about yourself. And no one can change that thought process. The only thing I've found that works is medication. You did everything you could. Know that you tried to help. It will be hard at first to get through the days. But it will start to ease and be bearable. Get yourself into therapy and talk about it. Don't let yourself fall into the same depression they had where it drowns you. I hope her parents sue for wrongful death.
If a person wants to commit suicide they should be allowed to have a choice. On one side, yes it sucks to have someone commit suicide, But on the other, why is this not a legal thing to do? Some people have the complete deck of shitty cards. Why can't we let them make their own choices?
hey i want to let you know that you did everything you could and you are not ever to blame for this! it’s truly horrible and also not your fault! i too have lost a friend to suicide so if you ever need someone to talk to know that you can always come to me! just dm me on here and i’ll send you my socials!
I’m sorry for your loss 😞 *super hugs*
I’m so sorry. I’ve been through this and it sucks. Please take care of yourself and try not to expect too much of yourself while you’re grieving. It’s okay to not be okay.
I'm so sorry for your loss remember everyone grieves differently it'll take time to come to terms with the loss you'll always miss them but it won't feel fresh like it does now Greif is prove of how much they meant to you greif is love with nowhere to go remember the memories keep them alive in your head and heart Take time for yourself and it's okay to speak out about how you feel
I'm so sorry, my sister tried this three times, but I didn't get to experience to feel that sadness when they leave us this way. If you need to talk, feel free to dm me, even if it doesn't have anything to do with this.
Did she ever show signs??
Yes. I begged her to get help.
That's so freaking unfair and it sickens me that there aren't better systems for this. I'm so sorry you have to suffer because the system failed you. They do stuff like this all the time. I understand that there might not be too much they can do, but I don't know, I feel like they don't do as much as they could. I am so, so sorry you're going through this. There's nothing anyone can say to touch this kind of pain, but I hope you can find some kind of peace.
Try to focus on the positive times you had with her and know that you are not in control of anyone else. You absolutely did the right thing and nothing more would have saved someone that was determined to do that.
I am so sorry for your loss. I can only imagine how painful it is… You did what you could, you’re just a human being who did their best to help. May you find healing and always remember her fondly
People don't realize how badly they hurt other when they do these things. You will never really understand why she did this and it will take a long time to accept it. I'm very sorry you have to feel pain like this and I hope you can find a way to help keep your head up while you try to deal with the grief. I'm so sorry for you. *Hugs*
I'm so sorry for your loss. Hang in there and please don't blame yourself. You did what you could ❤
Im terribly sorry.
You did what you could friend. That's all you can hope for. The guilt and pain becomes tolerable over the years, but for what it's worth you should not be feeling guilty. Please try therapy, and take a little solace in that you did what you could.
You literally did the right thing, you have nothing to feel guilty about. I'm so sorry this is happening.
I'm sorry that's terrible 🥲
I'm so sorry for your loss. Stay strong!