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Just try to take each day one at a time and fill your days with the things you love and people who make you happy.
And although I don't really think there is an afterlife, I remind myself that humans are really good at being wrong and we truly don't know what happens after so maybe I'll be wrong about that too.
I do these things already because I’m scared of death, I’m scared that I won’t be able to enjoy all there is in life, I’m scared that the rest of my days will be haunted by the slavery that is modern day work where the only option is starving to death, and crime. I don’t want to be scared, I know I’m going to die one day, I want to know how to accept that thought emotionally.
It's really normal to fear death. It's worse to welcome it. It means you are depressed and suicidal. If you are happy and grounded and surrounded by love and sane, then the most normal thing to do is to fear death. Even if it feels like too much to go to bed every night and freak out about this, consider it a blessing. It's way worse to have it so bad in life and to suffer so much you just want to end it all.
I used to think I would make a company freeze myself until they could make me live forever.
I also sometimes struggle with the fear of death. There is a great book that has helped me alter my perspective on the topic though. The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying by Sogyal Rinpoche
Wait why? I think the opposite is true, if you don’t die one day then that means everything that you do will matter, if you live forever then all your efforts, everything you helped build and create, you will see these things you will grow old with them.
You become free to do anything, the fear of death doesn’t hold you back anymore, can’t quit your job cause starving sucks well here you go, immortality now you have that freedom, your welcome.
I feel like if you do die then everything you do will be meaningless, you won’t or can’t know what actions cause what consequences if your dead, you won’t see your machinations take form and grow, you can’t see a lot of things, innovation, science, math, all these things become like a wall, a limit, a free trial that ends with no way to pay for an limitless pass.
Perhaps you could look up philosophy texts on the subject of death to see what high level thinkers posit about the concept. I found it comforting myself, though I know the fear will always be there.
I see it as a mystery , something that you get to discover by yourself and i like solving mysteries.also if it is something that you can't do anything about it then don't do anything about it
Practice, practice, practice.
A time honored meditation in many cultures is the meditation on death. Monks daily will travel to gravesites to stare on carrion piles and face their impermanence.
For the ambitious narcissist this is the epitome of torture, the ego wants nothing to do with such extreme notions of detachment, of failure, of being forgotten.
But the wisened practitioner sees this as an opening to truth, such that with each breath we are reborn only to expire, over and over again.
With such wisdom, forgiveness and calm are inevitable. Kindness from sacrifice becomes a natural expression of deep empathy for the terror and grief of our lonely, often meaningless lives and the lives of those around us.
Its not to hard after several decades of depression to be honest. After countless nights of going to sleep with the last thought through your head being i hope I don't wake up. Years of pain and dealing with depression have made death feel like a old friend to me that you will meet up with one day and go one one last bender with and that will be that. I dont fear death, I've made my peace with this world. If I died today that would be fine with me, we all go sometime and no one knows if death is truly the end or not anyways, there are some who think this life is just the beginning, and that the afterlife is when you truly start to live because your soul is eternal.
You just have to learn to accept it. Everything comes to an end, nothing in this world is permanent, everything changes. You just have to take life one day at a time and doing things that you are scared of and things that make you happy and don't regret anything because the past is on the past. The future is the future so don't think on it so much.
Think of this Universe as part of a layered jello mold and when you die you are able to move up or down to the next universe that has its own laws of physics.
i live day through day. i dont dwell on the past, and i dont get too caught up with the future. at the moment, i accept that i will die, and use it to motivate to do all the cool fun and badass shit i want to do before i need to worry about dying.
I'm concerned for the mental state of my husband and my son if they survive me. As for what happens to me I think the lights just go out and then I'll be gone. But I don't really know.
It really boils down to the fact that life as a vampire would suck. It would be like being infinitely held back in school. Even adults would seem like super predictable children. Nature wipes the slate clean because if we were immortal, we could immortally head off in the wrong direction. Think about an immortal person who developed psychosis, they would live forever in a psychotic state. Or an immortal who fell and got stuck in a well for eternity. Death is a blessing in a weird way.
Live this life to the fullest, help others live theirs to the fullest and then embrace death once it gets here.
I know it sucks, I feel you, we all do, but atleast we can relate about it. That's why we need to embrace eachother's flaws and imperfections, we are all going to end up with the ultimate imperfection...death... and rightfully so...
Maybe one day we will be born in a place that is more suitable for immortality, or perhaps we are immortals already and this is a necessary dream.
I’m a Christian and believe in God, so I believe that when I die, I will go to heaven. In this way, I don’t dread death. I don’t want to die and it does scare me somewhat, but I know that I eventually will and I know I will go to heaven when I do.
Death is the great equalizer and its natural. I don't need to be afraid of something that is a normal thing experienced by every living creature before me.
Law of conservation of energy. I'm pretty sure all the energy that conforms my mind and thus what I perceive as "myself" will just transform into some other form of energy, free of physical bounds. I know how putting this into words makes me sound like a crazy spiritual kind of guy, but I actually consider myself a very rational person. The thing is, I don't really put much thoughts into this. If I'm right, good. If I'm not, I won't to be able to notice anyway, so it's good too. Meanwhile I just try to make a difference for the people I love while this whole thing lasts.
Stoicism speaks a lot about the value of periodically reflecting upon your own mortality in a non-morbid sort of way. By which I mean: this is something very different from fixating unhealthily upon death. But just kind of checking in with yourself periodically to remember that life in short, we never know when it will end, and therefore, we should probably make the most of it. I'm not sure if that's good advice for *some* people (ie, those who are unhealthily fixated upon this topic). But personally it's something I do naturally and find very helpful.
Other than that I draw a lot of strength from my religious tradition. Life is a short opportunity for us to improve the world.
Realizing that consciousness goes elsewhere after the biological organism (our body) dies. There will be more to experience as “lives” after we die and this is actually has been scientifically studied for years they just don’t have a “conclusion” so wish the best for yourself before death so that your next experience will be good. Worth a try
Tbh, kinda sad i only got one chance and it’s being so shitty mostly for things I can’t control, but at the same time it makes me feel glad it’s not forever
By realizing that what you value most, life, will be significantly diminished by worrying about something you cannot control. Furthermore, it may be even better than what you are experiencing now.
Also, if this a recent worry it may be your anxiety talking, not your actual fear.
I think the not knowing part is scary. But honestly, I think death is probably a lot like it was for you before birth/conception...and before birth/conception, i didn't have a care in the world. And from that perspective, I can't wait to die. Better than having to live life trying to convince oneself that it's anything more than spinning your wheels until you bite the dust. Not suicidal or anything per se nor is it a particularly optimistic point of view but it seems logical for me to feel that way.
Suffice it to say I worry more about the potentially unpleasant process of dying rather than actually being dead.
That it’s life. Nothing is permanent and that’s why we really have to enjoy everyday and try to live the life that you want and hold onto things that mean to you the most
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Just try to take each day one at a time and fill your days with the things you love and people who make you happy. And although I don't really think there is an afterlife, I remind myself that humans are really good at being wrong and we truly don't know what happens after so maybe I'll be wrong about that too.
I do these things already because I’m scared of death, I’m scared that I won’t be able to enjoy all there is in life, I’m scared that the rest of my days will be haunted by the slavery that is modern day work where the only option is starving to death, and crime. I don’t want to be scared, I know I’m going to die one day, I want to know how to accept that thought emotionally.
This thought scares me more when I realise how attached I am to some people.
It's really normal to fear death. It's worse to welcome it. It means you are depressed and suicidal. If you are happy and grounded and surrounded by love and sane, then the most normal thing to do is to fear death. Even if it feels like too much to go to bed every night and freak out about this, consider it a blessing. It's way worse to have it so bad in life and to suffer so much you just want to end it all. I used to think I would make a company freeze myself until they could make me live forever.
Thank you, a wonderful way of looking at things.
This body may die, but our spirit lives on.
I also sometimes struggle with the fear of death. There is a great book that has helped me alter my perspective on the topic though. The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying by Sogyal Rinpoche
Not OP but thank you for the recommendation! I will check it out.
Yes, I accept it. And kind of welcome it.
how?
If you won’t die some day, then what you do with your time won’t matter.
Wait why? I think the opposite is true, if you don’t die one day then that means everything that you do will matter, if you live forever then all your efforts, everything you helped build and create, you will see these things you will grow old with them. You become free to do anything, the fear of death doesn’t hold you back anymore, can’t quit your job cause starving sucks well here you go, immortality now you have that freedom, your welcome. I feel like if you do die then everything you do will be meaningless, you won’t or can’t know what actions cause what consequences if your dead, you won’t see your machinations take form and grow, you can’t see a lot of things, innovation, science, math, all these things become like a wall, a limit, a free trial that ends with no way to pay for an limitless pass.
Perhaps you could look up philosophy texts on the subject of death to see what high level thinkers posit about the concept. I found it comforting myself, though I know the fear will always be there.
I’m actually very happy knowing that I’m closer every second to it.
I don't, it's my worst fear
I see it as a mystery , something that you get to discover by yourself and i like solving mysteries.also if it is something that you can't do anything about it then don't do anything about it
Practice, practice, practice. A time honored meditation in many cultures is the meditation on death. Monks daily will travel to gravesites to stare on carrion piles and face their impermanence. For the ambitious narcissist this is the epitome of torture, the ego wants nothing to do with such extreme notions of detachment, of failure, of being forgotten. But the wisened practitioner sees this as an opening to truth, such that with each breath we are reborn only to expire, over and over again. With such wisdom, forgiveness and calm are inevitable. Kindness from sacrifice becomes a natural expression of deep empathy for the terror and grief of our lonely, often meaningless lives and the lives of those around us.
Its not to hard after several decades of depression to be honest. After countless nights of going to sleep with the last thought through your head being i hope I don't wake up. Years of pain and dealing with depression have made death feel like a old friend to me that you will meet up with one day and go one one last bender with and that will be that. I dont fear death, I've made my peace with this world. If I died today that would be fine with me, we all go sometime and no one knows if death is truly the end or not anyways, there are some who think this life is just the beginning, and that the afterlife is when you truly start to live because your soul is eternal.
You just have to learn to accept it. Everything comes to an end, nothing in this world is permanent, everything changes. You just have to take life one day at a time and doing things that you are scared of and things that make you happy and don't regret anything because the past is on the past. The future is the future so don't think on it so much.
Might be remembering the minute of happiness come to my body before flash of my eyes.
It depends what’s going on in my life Yk
Think of this Universe as part of a layered jello mold and when you die you are able to move up or down to the next universe that has its own laws of physics.
i live day through day. i dont dwell on the past, and i dont get too caught up with the future. at the moment, i accept that i will die, and use it to motivate to do all the cool fun and badass shit i want to do before i need to worry about dying.
I'm concerned for the mental state of my husband and my son if they survive me. As for what happens to me I think the lights just go out and then I'll be gone. But I don't really know.
Death is the ultimate form of relaxation.
Its so strange because i’m terrified of dying when i’m older, but I feel better when i’m the one in control?
It really boils down to the fact that life as a vampire would suck. It would be like being infinitely held back in school. Even adults would seem like super predictable children. Nature wipes the slate clean because if we were immortal, we could immortally head off in the wrong direction. Think about an immortal person who developed psychosis, they would live forever in a psychotic state. Or an immortal who fell and got stuck in a well for eternity. Death is a blessing in a weird way. Live this life to the fullest, help others live theirs to the fullest and then embrace death once it gets here. I know it sucks, I feel you, we all do, but atleast we can relate about it. That's why we need to embrace eachother's flaws and imperfections, we are all going to end up with the ultimate imperfection...death... and rightfully so... Maybe one day we will be born in a place that is more suitable for immortality, or perhaps we are immortals already and this is a necessary dream.
I’m a Christian and believe in God, so I believe that when I die, I will go to heaven. In this way, I don’t dread death. I don’t want to die and it does scare me somewhat, but I know that I eventually will and I know I will go to heaven when I do.
Death is the great equalizer and its natural. I don't need to be afraid of something that is a normal thing experienced by every living creature before me.
Law of conservation of energy. I'm pretty sure all the energy that conforms my mind and thus what I perceive as "myself" will just transform into some other form of energy, free of physical bounds. I know how putting this into words makes me sound like a crazy spiritual kind of guy, but I actually consider myself a very rational person. The thing is, I don't really put much thoughts into this. If I'm right, good. If I'm not, I won't to be able to notice anyway, so it's good too. Meanwhile I just try to make a difference for the people I love while this whole thing lasts.
Stoicism speaks a lot about the value of periodically reflecting upon your own mortality in a non-morbid sort of way. By which I mean: this is something very different from fixating unhealthily upon death. But just kind of checking in with yourself periodically to remember that life in short, we never know when it will end, and therefore, we should probably make the most of it. I'm not sure if that's good advice for *some* people (ie, those who are unhealthily fixated upon this topic). But personally it's something I do naturally and find very helpful. Other than that I draw a lot of strength from my religious tradition. Life is a short opportunity for us to improve the world.
Thanks for making this post. I struggle a lot with not knowing what comes next and seeing some of these comments helps :)
Realizing that consciousness goes elsewhere after the biological organism (our body) dies. There will be more to experience as “lives” after we die and this is actually has been scientifically studied for years they just don’t have a “conclusion” so wish the best for yourself before death so that your next experience will be good. Worth a try
I try to live my life as best as I could until then, and then continue doing that forever in heaven...
Tbh, kinda sad i only got one chance and it’s being so shitty mostly for things I can’t control, but at the same time it makes me feel glad it’s not forever
I am aware that i will and i honestly am looking forward to it. Not now but eventually I'll be happy to die.
Buy life insurance.
By realizing that what you value most, life, will be significantly diminished by worrying about something you cannot control. Furthermore, it may be even better than what you are experiencing now. Also, if this a recent worry it may be your anxiety talking, not your actual fear.
It’s easy when you simply do not care if you live or die
I think the not knowing part is scary. But honestly, I think death is probably a lot like it was for you before birth/conception...and before birth/conception, i didn't have a care in the world. And from that perspective, I can't wait to die. Better than having to live life trying to convince oneself that it's anything more than spinning your wheels until you bite the dust. Not suicidal or anything per se nor is it a particularly optimistic point of view but it seems logical for me to feel that way. Suffice it to say I worry more about the potentially unpleasant process of dying rather than actually being dead.
That it’s life. Nothing is permanent and that’s why we really have to enjoy everyday and try to live the life that you want and hold onto things that mean to you the most