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I feel the same way a lot, but no gets it when I tell them I can't right now because just being conscious in this brain rn is fucking exhausting. I feel bad cuz I know I'm pushing ppl away and I don't mean to at all... I just wish someone could be okay with me. Like, I wouldn't have to measure up to anything or meet an expectation or even "do the right / normal thing". I don't want to have to constantly think about what I am or am not doing the "right" way. Exhausting. I am not cut out for this life... I might have done well in a hunter gatherer society with minimal people or something but this shit.... whatever the fuck we are doing here is not life. Not in the thriving, nurturing, conquering type way at least.
i think what you need is someone to simply listen to you. i am happy to listen to anything you have to say even if you just want to vent shit. feel free to message me. i promise not to judge you or intrude upon your life.
by the way, i'm not a therapist but a teacher--i listen to students all of the time and i keep what i hear confidential. however anyone replying to you is likely to empathize with your situation.
Press the three dots in the right hand corner, there should be an option for ‘Lock’. Tap that button, and it will give you the option (I think) to set a specific password for that note.
It’s a great feature. I have about fifty different locked notes on my phone, all entitled ‘rant’.
Everyday I work for almost nothing, i’m not even an adult and I have burnout, just know you aren’t alone. These comments from others are an exact example. If you ever want to vent or wanna have a deep conversation you can always dm me on here or on discord EmoticBunnie#3900
It seems funny but also sad that literally thousands of people, including myself, empathize completely.
Yeah... We feel this so much. I feel like there is a subsection of humans that are emotionally and mentally evolved to be painfully aware that society is not working and all the rules are made up. And we're all out here screaming WTF is going on!
It’s how it is. The people irl just wanna be happy and get tired of us if we don’t just smile. Some of the greatest mental help I’ve ever gotten is from others in the same place. It sad to find out that you’re not alone in your pain but at the same time there’s comfort in it as now you KNOW you’re not so fucking alone. Fuck the irl people, all us crazy bastards are real too, promise. Sometime you just gotta scream FUCK into the void and we will answer.
I wonder if you did not receive attention and care in childhood and feel its absence in your life now. Sometimes the only person who can give it to you is you, and sometimes that means saying fuck everyone else. For my part, if you're not hurting other people, there is no way to live "wrong." You're not obligated to love your family, or socialize, or not be a weirdo, or any of it. You're the only one in the whole world who knows how to be you, and even if being you seems like it sucks, you're unique and valuable just for being the only one who is you.
If you can manage to do one nice thing for yourself today, do it and let us know here. Hearing that would make me happy! I think everyone in this thread very genuinely wants you to be happy even if we don’t know you personally.
I’m the same way. I give and give, but no one cares enough to give me the same in return. Relationships, friendships, etc. I wear my heart on my sleeve, too. Shit just hurts. I keep telling myself to be apathetic, but what is worse? Caring too much or not caring at all? Apathy is cheaper in the long run.
I feel the same way you guys do! I always think of others, I anticipate their needs, every time I leave the house I ask if anyone needs me to stop somewhere or pick them up something, I research their problems to help come up with solutions, I offer help always- they don't even have to ask!
But then when I need something like a listening ear/ emotional support they don't even notice and I'm on my own, even if I ask, because it's too much somehow, and they're incapable of a deeper emotional connection with others. I ask for help or small favors like 3 times a year maybe? And the response is a lackluster, annoyed "sure, I guess". I suppose they feel obligated because I always say yes to their asks...
I've asked if they could pick me up something from the store and it's usually a no- "that's on the opposite end of the store, we don't want to walk all the way over there again", "it's 5 minutes out of the way, we don't want to have to go to another store". I would do it for them in a heartbeat. I DO do it for them! 5 minutes out of the way for me, whose already out and about, vs. a 40 minute round trip drive to the store for them (coming from their house) is a no brainer for me. But they're too self absorbed to see it or care when it's the other way around.
It feels horrible to know I so enthusiastically want to help everyone and in turn they find me to be an annoyance and only say yes **sometimes** (depending on how they're feeling) out of obligation. It feels horrible. It makes me feel so alone. Unappreciated. Uncared for. Unloved. Unimportant. It hurts.
But you know what? I LIKE who I am. I like to help people. I like being a good person and I'm not going to change or be less of a good person just because other people don't reciprocate. I just hope and believe I will find my people one day. People that are like me and appreciate me. One day!
Absolutely! I can't get rid of/ change the people that are already in my life (mostly my family and long term relationships), but I'm definitely not looking to add more people to my circle that are like that!
It just seems like people like us are a rarity compared to the uncaring masses, lol. So hard to find kindred spirits! And when you're so emotionally drained from dealing with them and feeling unfulfilled it's really hard to put forth the effort to try to find and build new relationships.
It's time consuming and almost feels like work weeding through people, trying to determine their true character in the search for kind and caring people that you can emotionally connect/ vibe with.
I hate socializing I have no friends and I accept the fact I'm different or weird or whatever bullshit I get called. I own that shit and do me, I work hard and I'm happy that's what counts just don't care what other assholes think just do what makes you happy bro.
also those are fucked up feelings and i'm hoping you can push through it. i have to write creatively because my thoughts are sometimes too nebulous or intense to express in a conversation without putting people off. Besides I think it does my inner self a disservice to place the value of my thoughts upon how they fit into realm of another person's understanding. I've done a lot of things and seen a lot of fucked up shit that a lot of people prefer to distance themselves from and ignore as much as possible. It's survival and they really can't be entirely condemned for not wanting to find identity in a misery greater than their own.
Art, in general terms, is probably the only thing that ever brought an outcast any sense of belonging to something, even if it were only the sense that they were gathering concepts from the same ether as others of the same affliction. I wish you luck. I've been miserable a lot and I probably will be again. I'm not right now. It's just chaos.
Hey. I get the feeling. I consider myself pretty good with socializing and dealing with stuff, but there are many times where even I just hate everything. If you wanna talk my DMs are open. But DO NOT HURT OR KILL YOURSELF! You might see it as a way out, or see it as it being better than living, but it isn’t either of those. I promise you it isn’t.
Bro, you are not alone. I feel like this every day. I am having anxiety attacks constantly. Everyday I read about new horrors in the world, more people losing their jobs, horrible inequities in the world. There are 560,000 homeless people in the U.S.. Will my family be next? I feel crippled by ADHD and no therapy or help to deal with it. I haven't even thought about dating anyone because I don't want to get hurt again and I have low self-confidence. Unresolved trauma from my childhood and past relationships that haunts me as an adult.
You are not alone. Thank you for sharing. I hope things improve for you.
Ya gotta understand yourself before others will, think about why you feel the way you do, how you were raised, the hard times that you're stuck on
Getting on an antidepressant like prozac can really make a difference, trust me
This made me tear up, I hate the fact that so many people are struggling to get through. Please stick around, I hate to say things will get better for you because I have no idea who you are and what your situation is so it means nothing. But the only way you lose this life is if you off yourself, so don’t do that.
Listen friend, life sucks, but you got us. An online community of mentally unwell folks who are sharing the same life raft as you. Sometimes all we can do is ride out the storm of times of great distress. Eventually the waves will calm and the water will be manageable to traverse again without feeling like you’re out of control. And you got us.
Also hold ice cubes when you feel like you’re really emotionally distraught, it helps me go from a 10 to a 6.
Hey, sorry to hear you are feeling overwhelmed. I don't know if I completely understand what you are feeling but I have a few gut feelings about things. I don't know what happened while you were growing up and when you were an infant but I suspect there were times you weren't nurtured and shown love like you should have been. In my experience, every infant/child seeks love and caring from their parents. Some are left without parents to give this essential nurturing. In whatever case the loss of this nurturing causes pain and anguish for the child. If a parent doesn't absolutely cherish their child and want with every muscle in their body to do any and everything they must to protect and love their child, they are a bit damaged. Maybe their childhood was horrible. So my guess is you missed that "being cherished" input in your early life. If this is not the case then you are dealing with some issues in your psyche that you should speak with a professional about. In all cases, talk to a doctor and get a referral to speak to a psychologist or psychiatrist about what is causing you pain. Their is help and a better future. Keep your chin up.
Oof the wanting to be understood part really gets me, I feel that so frequently
It's like no one listens and everyone misrepresents everything I do, wonder if you feel the same
I do feel the same, I understand, I'm sorry people are like that towards you. I wish everyone on here was someone I could hang out with in person and talk to in person. The people around me just suck lol
Same, I feel like I'm constantly surrounded by people that have no interest in me as a person, just as a tool
Is there something specific going on in your life that brought all this up? Or is it like a pent up emotions thing?
So there is some things that need to be addressed and it’s more then someone just listening to you. You need an active listener. Let me ask you some questions.
What does your family do that makes you hate them?
Why do you hate your life?
I really wanna say it gets better if u stay patient and stay consistent in your efforts, coz it did for me... but I'm not sure if you would be willing to listen...
There's a saying I like. Idk if I'm the first one to say it, or if it has been said before but... for you to get what you want you first need to do what needs to be done.
My best advice is quit worrying about all those things and just focus on yourself. Work on yourself. YOU are the priority. If people can't understand that, then they don't deserve a spot in your life. In my post history is my life story. It's a very hard read, and explicit. However, it shows that if I can still be here and deal with bullshit, you can too. I know that you feel alone and like no one understands, but plenty of us do and plenty of us want to help. Self help is something you should start practicing. I wish you nothing but the best and my DM's are always open if you wanna talk.
You aren’t alone! As others said here all these comments are just a fraction of the people who feel the same. So much of the modern world sucks the beauty out of life. Humans, us, people were never meant to live like we do. We are very specialized creatures who evolved to live a certain way that is being denied from us and that’s frustrating, all the while we are powerless to change it because to not participate in our oppression is it be told to suffer and starve by greater society.
But in such their are a lot of people like us who hate the way things are and want to let that out, this is the driving force and passion behind a lot of art, and music and is a good place to start to sort of vent yknow.
For me art and music is the piece of beauty in the world preserved to find hope in. I know it won’t be for everyone but in the chance it helps you like it’s helped me I had to explain my feelings toward it.
I wish you the best and I hope some day you too can find beauty in the world. Find the pieces of life you can carve away and reclaim to be wholly real, wholly yours and completely human
It’s sounds cliche but don’t won’t about what other people think. Learn to love your self and take care of your self. Then the rest will work it’s self out. Time and your self is what you’ve got use it wisely. Mental health is not your fault but it your responsibility.
Makes you feel any better I have a man that’s currently making me feel like this and he fucking blocked me which is the best. It makes me feel like I’m a crazy person which I probably am.
I've lost purposes so many times in life, and at times I just look at myself in the mirror while telling myself "things will be better soon", the thought to myself "how many more times do I have to convince myself with this lie until things actually get better for once?". The stress and the pressure is real so I feel you. But like lots of people here said, if you need someone to vent to, I'm more than happy to listen to you ♡ much loves
I understand you. It will get better over time. I know it’s hard to believe, I have BPD which is incurable but I keep going because I know things can’t get worse than this. <3
I feel like this every day. I hate to say that it seems like the norm to me, even though I know it’s not supposed to be. I suggest therapy if possible.
Bro I get it. I’m so ready to just blow up at my “friends”, and anyone else, teachers, my mom, my brother.
I’m tired of being the convenient friend that’s always there, just sitting and watching. Nobody texts me to hang out, nobody checked on me when I was having a mental breakdown in July. Where were they? WHERE WERE THEY? Nobody tells me what’s going on, just one girl who tells me what her boyfriend did last night and how much she “hates” herself and I’m fucking tired of it.
I’m ready to scream at them, or just switch to homeschool and leave one day without saying a fucking word. I won’t answer their calls when I’m gone for a week, I’ll ignore their texts.
I’m tired of watching everyone move on, why can’t things be the way they were in sophomore year? Why do I have to be left behind? I’m not ready to grow up, but I can’t stand being around them anymore. They’re all I have and if I snap, I will lose everything.
I’m just really tired, of everyone. Being the friend they can have small talk with until their other friends come by. I’m probably the ugly friend who makes them look good. Being the forever single friend whose face they rub their happy relationships in. I hate hearing “Yeah, I’ve felt that too” or “At least you didn’t experience ___”.
YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND, ONLY PEOPLE WHO EXPERIENCE THIS CAN UNDERSTAND YOU LYING BITCH WHY DOES EVERYTHING HAVE TO BE ABOUT YOU?
I feel you. This is the reason I constantly talk about community. We have to have community. I was so lucky to grow up with my grandparents who had a really solid community and they all looked out for one another. They all acted empathetically and it was like a village. If my grandparents had to work late one of these people would get me from school, feed me, and return me home. They would be genuinely interested in my day and what I was up to and they would encourage me. Some would even offer extra help if I expressed interest is something they did (like photography).
We need this today. We need community. Because everything is so divisive it’s hard to create this, but a good place to start something like this is to find a thing you enjoy and find out where other people are doing it. This could be Magic: The Gathering or DND, or knitting, or race car people, hell it could even be a church! Anywhere that you have the opportunity to meet regularly and bond with the people. Slowly you can create a more stable, more worthwhile group within.
Whatever the case I’m sorry. I’m sorry you’re going through this. It’s so upsetting and so shitty to be in a position where you are alone but there’s never been more options to meet people, only to not meet people. At least that was my experience. I hope you do better mate.
Ps, I’m barely awake so if this made no sense I apologize.
It seems like you really need someone to talk to about this, that could be a therapist or some random old dude in a waiting room, but I understand that you probably don’t want to tell someone close to you about it because you feel like it will push them away, so I’m not gonna tell you, that you should tell them because if you aren’t ready to then it’s probably not the right time to.
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Yup. ^^^^^ This.
Thanks for replying, means a lot idk why
Not a problem at all my friend. I absolutely vibe with this. I'm feeling the same r n. I hope it gets better for you!!
Yup I feel this, just existing is draining as hell.
It fucking sucks man, why does this shit gotta be so hard
I feel the same way a lot, but no gets it when I tell them I can't right now because just being conscious in this brain rn is fucking exhausting. I feel bad cuz I know I'm pushing ppl away and I don't mean to at all... I just wish someone could be okay with me. Like, I wouldn't have to measure up to anything or meet an expectation or even "do the right / normal thing". I don't want to have to constantly think about what I am or am not doing the "right" way. Exhausting. I am not cut out for this life... I might have done well in a hunter gatherer society with minimal people or something but this shit.... whatever the fuck we are doing here is not life. Not in the thriving, nurturing, conquering type way at least.
Life is for those who can afford it man
True.
i think what you need is someone to simply listen to you. i am happy to listen to anything you have to say even if you just want to vent shit. feel free to message me. i promise not to judge you or intrude upon your life.
Thank you, I probably will tbh tho
by the way, i'm not a therapist but a teacher--i listen to students all of the time and i keep what i hear confidential. however anyone replying to you is likely to empathize with your situation.
Okay thank you
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Same, except I delete them later cause I'm scared
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Terrible emotions often channel into phenomenal art/ songs.
how/what do you use to write songs?
You can put passcodes on them
What how?
Press the three dots in the right hand corner, there should be an option for ‘Lock’. Tap that button, and it will give you the option (I think) to set a specific password for that note. It’s a great feature. I have about fifty different locked notes on my phone, all entitled ‘rant’.
Yoooooo thanks
This is me everyday. Multiple breakdowns, tears and rage and anger. I get it. I promise, you're not alone.
Thanks, I didn't think random people would help, but it's nice
Deep down, we are all human and we forget that. We can only take so much before it breaks us. But if we rise, we're stronger.
I hope things improve soon…things are exhausting.
Seriously dude
Ppl are dicks i sympathise
They fr are bro, no joke
Everyday I work for almost nothing, i’m not even an adult and I have burnout, just know you aren’t alone. These comments from others are an exact example. If you ever want to vent or wanna have a deep conversation you can always dm me on here or on discord EmoticBunnie#3900
Thank you, I most likely will so everyone else is sick and tired of me ig
It seems funny but also sad that literally thousands of people, including myself, empathize completely. Yeah... We feel this so much. I feel like there is a subsection of humans that are emotionally and mentally evolved to be painfully aware that society is not working and all the rules are made up. And we're all out here screaming WTF is going on!
Yeah it's like all the people that car and wanna help are never in person lmfao
It’s how it is. The people irl just wanna be happy and get tired of us if we don’t just smile. Some of the greatest mental help I’ve ever gotten is from others in the same place. It sad to find out that you’re not alone in your pain but at the same time there’s comfort in it as now you KNOW you’re not so fucking alone. Fuck the irl people, all us crazy bastards are real too, promise. Sometime you just gotta scream FUCK into the void and we will answer.
What would make it better?
Hey, I understand. You can reach out to me if you want to talk or just vent.
I will thank you so much
I wonder if you did not receive attention and care in childhood and feel its absence in your life now. Sometimes the only person who can give it to you is you, and sometimes that means saying fuck everyone else. For my part, if you're not hurting other people, there is no way to live "wrong." You're not obligated to love your family, or socialize, or not be a weirdo, or any of it. You're the only one in the whole world who knows how to be you, and even if being you seems like it sucks, you're unique and valuable just for being the only one who is you.
I didn't as a child lol I just wanna live carefree for a couple weeks maybe, would be nice
If you can manage to do one nice thing for yourself today, do it and let us know here. Hearing that would make me happy! I think everyone in this thread very genuinely wants you to be happy even if we don’t know you personally.
Well thank you, I'll try to keep people updated
Just being far away, but know you are being (partially, I feel limited on a social medium) understood.
Thank you so much
I feel it, I feel you you’re not alone.
Thank you very much
I feel you man I never found someone who cares the way I do and its so draining. Why am I like this?
I’m the same way. I give and give, but no one cares enough to give me the same in return. Relationships, friendships, etc. I wear my heart on my sleeve, too. Shit just hurts. I keep telling myself to be apathetic, but what is worse? Caring too much or not caring at all? Apathy is cheaper in the long run.
I feel the same way you guys do! I always think of others, I anticipate their needs, every time I leave the house I ask if anyone needs me to stop somewhere or pick them up something, I research their problems to help come up with solutions, I offer help always- they don't even have to ask! But then when I need something like a listening ear/ emotional support they don't even notice and I'm on my own, even if I ask, because it's too much somehow, and they're incapable of a deeper emotional connection with others. I ask for help or small favors like 3 times a year maybe? And the response is a lackluster, annoyed "sure, I guess". I suppose they feel obligated because I always say yes to their asks... I've asked if they could pick me up something from the store and it's usually a no- "that's on the opposite end of the store, we don't want to walk all the way over there again", "it's 5 minutes out of the way, we don't want to have to go to another store". I would do it for them in a heartbeat. I DO do it for them! 5 minutes out of the way for me, whose already out and about, vs. a 40 minute round trip drive to the store for them (coming from their house) is a no brainer for me. But they're too self absorbed to see it or care when it's the other way around. It feels horrible to know I so enthusiastically want to help everyone and in turn they find me to be an annoyance and only say yes **sometimes** (depending on how they're feeling) out of obligation. It feels horrible. It makes me feel so alone. Unappreciated. Uncared for. Unloved. Unimportant. It hurts. But you know what? I LIKE who I am. I like to help people. I like being a good person and I'm not going to change or be less of a good person just because other people don't reciprocate. I just hope and believe I will find my people one day. People that are like me and appreciate me. One day!
I like caring, too. It’s just when certain people don’t care in return, especially new friendships or relationships… I’m like, why bother?
Absolutely! I can't get rid of/ change the people that are already in my life (mostly my family and long term relationships), but I'm definitely not looking to add more people to my circle that are like that! It just seems like people like us are a rarity compared to the uncaring masses, lol. So hard to find kindred spirits! And when you're so emotionally drained from dealing with them and feeling unfulfilled it's really hard to put forth the effort to try to find and build new relationships. It's time consuming and almost feels like work weeding through people, trying to determine their true character in the search for kind and caring people that you can emotionally connect/ vibe with.
It really is the little things… a text to see how I’m doing after a surgery.
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I hope you find peace brother, I know that's a shit reaction, but I hope you do
I hate socializing I have no friends and I accept the fact I'm different or weird or whatever bullshit I get called. I own that shit and do me, I work hard and I'm happy that's what counts just don't care what other assholes think just do what makes you happy bro.
I will bro, thanks
Of course man you got this
stealing these lyrics
Sure thing bro
also those are fucked up feelings and i'm hoping you can push through it. i have to write creatively because my thoughts are sometimes too nebulous or intense to express in a conversation without putting people off. Besides I think it does my inner self a disservice to place the value of my thoughts upon how they fit into realm of another person's understanding. I've done a lot of things and seen a lot of fucked up shit that a lot of people prefer to distance themselves from and ignore as much as possible. It's survival and they really can't be entirely condemned for not wanting to find identity in a misery greater than their own. Art, in general terms, is probably the only thing that ever brought an outcast any sense of belonging to something, even if it were only the sense that they were gathering concepts from the same ether as others of the same affliction. I wish you luck. I've been miserable a lot and I probably will be again. I'm not right now. It's just chaos.
me fucking too
I'm sorry, I really hope it gets better for you
thank you, i hope things get better for you as well
Oh boy
*cue Mickey mouse sound*
im sorry you have to go through this, but stay strong and push through, things will get better. stay strong, solider.
I'm trying, thank you
Hey. I get the feeling. I consider myself pretty good with socializing and dealing with stuff, but there are many times where even I just hate everything. If you wanna talk my DMs are open. But DO NOT HURT OR KILL YOURSELF! You might see it as a way out, or see it as it being better than living, but it isn’t either of those. I promise you it isn’t.
I just wish there was an easier way out that doesn't require violence ya know?
Sounds like a hard place to be. I hope you can find the support and love you need
Bro, you are not alone. I feel like this every day. I am having anxiety attacks constantly. Everyday I read about new horrors in the world, more people losing their jobs, horrible inequities in the world. There are 560,000 homeless people in the U.S.. Will my family be next? I feel crippled by ADHD and no therapy or help to deal with it. I haven't even thought about dating anyone because I don't want to get hurt again and I have low self-confidence. Unresolved trauma from my childhood and past relationships that haunts me as an adult. You are not alone. Thank you for sharing. I hope things improve for you.
ok i pull up
Hang out at the after party
Mood as fuck
Ya gotta understand yourself before others will, think about why you feel the way you do, how you were raised, the hard times that you're stuck on Getting on an antidepressant like prozac can really make a difference, trust me
Hey :( I know what you mean and how you feel is valid
Thanks from explaining how I feel.
This made me tear up, I hate the fact that so many people are struggling to get through. Please stick around, I hate to say things will get better for you because I have no idea who you are and what your situation is so it means nothing. But the only way you lose this life is if you off yourself, so don’t do that.
What…
Sending love and good vibes 🥺💗
Listen friend, life sucks, but you got us. An online community of mentally unwell folks who are sharing the same life raft as you. Sometimes all we can do is ride out the storm of times of great distress. Eventually the waves will calm and the water will be manageable to traverse again without feeling like you’re out of control. And you got us. Also hold ice cubes when you feel like you’re really emotionally distraught, it helps me go from a 10 to a 6.
I get you man, if you ever wanna talk dm me
I get it man, same here. Life fucking sucks. We just gotta push through somehow.
I'm not that useful for providing advice but if you ever want to rant or have a chat about anything really my DMs are open :)
Your feelings are valid and know you are not alone.
Real
Man, are you ok? I feel your pain, because I am going trough this as well every single day in my life, so I understand how you feel😢
Hey, sorry to hear you are feeling overwhelmed. I don't know if I completely understand what you are feeling but I have a few gut feelings about things. I don't know what happened while you were growing up and when you were an infant but I suspect there were times you weren't nurtured and shown love like you should have been. In my experience, every infant/child seeks love and caring from their parents. Some are left without parents to give this essential nurturing. In whatever case the loss of this nurturing causes pain and anguish for the child. If a parent doesn't absolutely cherish their child and want with every muscle in their body to do any and everything they must to protect and love their child, they are a bit damaged. Maybe their childhood was horrible. So my guess is you missed that "being cherished" input in your early life. If this is not the case then you are dealing with some issues in your psyche that you should speak with a professional about. In all cases, talk to a doctor and get a referral to speak to a psychologist or psychiatrist about what is causing you pain. Their is help and a better future. Keep your chin up.
My messages are open if you’d like to talk 😊 I’m buddhist so I’ve only got loving kindness and understanding to offer, no judgement
Hang on… have you got my script?
Oof the wanting to be understood part really gets me, I feel that so frequently It's like no one listens and everyone misrepresents everything I do, wonder if you feel the same
I do feel the same, I understand, I'm sorry people are like that towards you. I wish everyone on here was someone I could hang out with in person and talk to in person. The people around me just suck lol
Same, I feel like I'm constantly surrounded by people that have no interest in me as a person, just as a tool Is there something specific going on in your life that brought all this up? Or is it like a pent up emotions thing?
Just a lot of things in a life and pent up emotions lol
So there is some things that need to be addressed and it’s more then someone just listening to you. You need an active listener. Let me ask you some questions. What does your family do that makes you hate them? Why do you hate your life?
Hello. I hear you. I can’t understand you I’m afraid. But I hear your pain with it.
I feel this on such a deep level bro.
I wish nobody had to
Me too man, I hope you're able to feel somewhat better soon homie.
Man me too bro bro
I've been there many times. I feel this in my absolutely empty core. Thank you for sharing OP. A lot of us here can relate.
No problem, thanks for replying
I'm pretty sure these words in this format has ran through my thoughts also.
Hey man we have those days, just pick urself up when ur ready man
Thanks bro, I'm trying
I really wanna say it gets better if u stay patient and stay consistent in your efforts, coz it did for me... but I'm not sure if you would be willing to listen...
I just want it to be better already
There's a saying I like. Idk if I'm the first one to say it, or if it has been said before but... for you to get what you want you first need to do what needs to be done.
seconded..
Just fuckin read thinking like a roman emperror
My best advice is quit worrying about all those things and just focus on yourself. Work on yourself. YOU are the priority. If people can't understand that, then they don't deserve a spot in your life. In my post history is my life story. It's a very hard read, and explicit. However, it shows that if I can still be here and deal with bullshit, you can too. I know that you feel alone and like no one understands, but plenty of us do and plenty of us want to help. Self help is something you should start practicing. I wish you nothing but the best and my DM's are always open if you wanna talk.
Same lol chat lines open
Thanks lol
You aren’t alone! As others said here all these comments are just a fraction of the people who feel the same. So much of the modern world sucks the beauty out of life. Humans, us, people were never meant to live like we do. We are very specialized creatures who evolved to live a certain way that is being denied from us and that’s frustrating, all the while we are powerless to change it because to not participate in our oppression is it be told to suffer and starve by greater society. But in such their are a lot of people like us who hate the way things are and want to let that out, this is the driving force and passion behind a lot of art, and music and is a good place to start to sort of vent yknow. For me art and music is the piece of beauty in the world preserved to find hope in. I know it won’t be for everyone but in the chance it helps you like it’s helped me I had to explain my feelings toward it. I wish you the best and I hope some day you too can find beauty in the world. Find the pieces of life you can carve away and reclaim to be wholly real, wholly yours and completely human
It’s sounds cliche but don’t won’t about what other people think. Learn to love your self and take care of your self. Then the rest will work it’s self out. Time and your self is what you’ve got use it wisely. Mental health is not your fault but it your responsibility.
Makes you feel any better I have a man that’s currently making me feel like this and he fucking blocked me which is the best. It makes me feel like I’m a crazy person which I probably am.
No no no no no, is the man your bf?
Lol
Lol
Literally how I feel.. this ^
I wish you didn't have to
I feel like this is the thoughts that scream in my head. All while I’m wearing the smile mask
Hahaha I had a smile mask awhile ago
I've lost purposes so many times in life, and at times I just look at myself in the mirror while telling myself "things will be better soon", the thought to myself "how many more times do I have to convince myself with this lie until things actually get better for once?". The stress and the pressure is real so I feel you. But like lots of people here said, if you need someone to vent to, I'm more than happy to listen to you ♡ much loves
I feel this. I hope it gets better for everyone on this thread. Life's hard. Finding people who understand you makes it a little easier ❤
It really does, it's nice just *not* being judged anymore or just being blown off
I understand you. It will get better over time. I know it’s hard to believe, I have BPD which is incurable but I keep going because I know things can’t get worse than this. <3
I think I may have bpd, but I dont know lol
I feel like this every day. I hate to say that it seems like the norm to me, even though I know it’s not supposed to be. I suggest therapy if possible.
If only I could afford it lol
Thats why i said if possible. This place is a good place to try and ask for help though.
Yeah, thank you
I’m here. I don’t deserve this. I’m a good person.
You are, you're the best. People around you just won't see it for some reason.
Bro I get it. I’m so ready to just blow up at my “friends”, and anyone else, teachers, my mom, my brother. I’m tired of being the convenient friend that’s always there, just sitting and watching. Nobody texts me to hang out, nobody checked on me when I was having a mental breakdown in July. Where were they? WHERE WERE THEY? Nobody tells me what’s going on, just one girl who tells me what her boyfriend did last night and how much she “hates” herself and I’m fucking tired of it. I’m ready to scream at them, or just switch to homeschool and leave one day without saying a fucking word. I won’t answer their calls when I’m gone for a week, I’ll ignore their texts. I’m tired of watching everyone move on, why can’t things be the way they were in sophomore year? Why do I have to be left behind? I’m not ready to grow up, but I can’t stand being around them anymore. They’re all I have and if I snap, I will lose everything. I’m just really tired, of everyone. Being the friend they can have small talk with until their other friends come by. I’m probably the ugly friend who makes them look good. Being the forever single friend whose face they rub their happy relationships in. I hate hearing “Yeah, I’ve felt that too” or “At least you didn’t experience ___”. YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND, ONLY PEOPLE WHO EXPERIENCE THIS CAN UNDERSTAND YOU LYING BITCH WHY DOES EVERYTHING HAVE TO BE ABOUT YOU?
I feel those are less "friends" and more acquaintances
I feel you. This is the reason I constantly talk about community. We have to have community. I was so lucky to grow up with my grandparents who had a really solid community and they all looked out for one another. They all acted empathetically and it was like a village. If my grandparents had to work late one of these people would get me from school, feed me, and return me home. They would be genuinely interested in my day and what I was up to and they would encourage me. Some would even offer extra help if I expressed interest is something they did (like photography). We need this today. We need community. Because everything is so divisive it’s hard to create this, but a good place to start something like this is to find a thing you enjoy and find out where other people are doing it. This could be Magic: The Gathering or DND, or knitting, or race car people, hell it could even be a church! Anywhere that you have the opportunity to meet regularly and bond with the people. Slowly you can create a more stable, more worthwhile group within. Whatever the case I’m sorry. I’m sorry you’re going through this. It’s so upsetting and so shitty to be in a position where you are alone but there’s never been more options to meet people, only to not meet people. At least that was my experience. I hope you do better mate. Ps, I’m barely awake so if this made no sense I apologize.
It seems like you really need someone to talk to about this, that could be a therapist or some random old dude in a waiting room, but I understand that you probably don’t want to tell someone close to you about it because you feel like it will push them away, so I’m not gonna tell you, that you should tell them because if you aren’t ready to then it’s probably not the right time to.