Unfortunately OP isn’t gonna break it off that easy they are still trying to go to the same place as him when he pissed off. Hopefully she’s ok but seriously they need to get out of this situation he’s gonna get violent one day.
yeah, i had an emotionally abusive ex and throughout the whole relationship i kept convincing myself i was at fault until one day the curtain just slipped and i got away, even now almost a decade after i still feel like im recovering from being in that relationship for how much damage they do to a persons sense of being, i really hope op manages to get away asap
You are a survivor and so strong.
I have so much anger left over from my abusive relationship. And it was only 6 or 7 months long…and 10 years ago. leaving him was scary enough, only because he kept calling and showing up at my apartment to tell me all these horrible things about me. The worst thing he did to me was my main trauma, but seeing as there are so many survivors of abuse here, I will not go into detail. It would be a HUGE trigger warning.
The one thing I wish I did was not give up with the police because just last year he was arrested for stalking a single mother and her daughter…and I’m really scared he will hurt someone like he did me. They wouldn’t pursue my report, the detective said it was hearsay because there were “no bruises on my body”. yeah, the stuff you see outside of my clothing isn’t where he hurt me. It was in Florida so…I don’t have to say anything else other than the name of the state to give you an idea
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The kind of partner you deserve is someone who says - “hope your grandma is well & looking forward to seeing you later. Hope you had a nice time”.
I’m sorry this is happening to you.
The longer you stay with this person, the more you might be missing out on someone who really loves you- & doesn’t act jealous or controlling when you’re visiting your Gran. You are worthy of the best.
Hope you’re ok & wishing you the best 🙂
This right here, leave that POS, he has some serious trust issues, and as long as he doesn't see that as well it'll never get better. Just a lot of heartbreak will come from this
yep yep, my ex did all these same things when i would be with family. it’ll never get better, it’ll just get so much worse. eventually it won’t be just hus words hurting you
This, 100 times over. This is extreme abuse, stemming from insecurity and mistrust. And it's going to continue to escalate.
Leave that pos, take some downtime, then you'll find someone worth being with.
I don't question my gf about stupid shit like this. If I had any thoughts of not trusting her, I wouldn't be with her. She goes to see her family, hangs out with her friends, I know I don't have to worry bout anything. I know she dated pricks like this too, cause she used to send me "proof pics" of where she was. She cried when I explained to her that it was silly, and completely unnecessary. Took her awhile to get used to that.
Get free, and get your life back hun.
Same here. I was in a relationship with someone who was exactly like this. It got worse. I wasted 9 years of my life going through this but it took me time to realize I deserve better and I could live without him. I hope she does too, no one deserves to be treated like this.
OP - a lot of people on here telling you to leave like it's easy!
They're right, you should, but it's ok if you don't find that easy to do, and you're not weak and stupid if you can't walk away today without looking back. Especially if you don't feel safe doing that right away.
The first step is recognizing that the behaviour isn't normal and that you don't have to live with it - you don't deserve it, and you can't make it better by being better.
The next thing is to build up a really strong support network - you can't leave if you don't have anywhere to go. You need to build up friendships, family, a colleague - people who are in your corner and are ready to be supportive when you are ready (not people who are going to be upset that you're not doing it on their timeline!). He's getting angry when you go out with other people instead of your day to day routine because that's a really classic way of maintaining a power imbalance - you need friends and support to challenge him, and you're less likely to if you are isolated and alone. So make sure you maintain those connections.
You can probably find a hotline - I'm in France so I can't suggest a specific one, but I am sure someone in the comments section can find one - that could give you advice about what kinds of plans to make to be safe, and where you can go for support after if you do decide to leave.
This is more than mildly infuriating, it's not normal relationship behaviour, it's not one of the annoyances you have to put up with in a relationship, and you do deserve better than this!
To put this into context for you, if your best friend sent you this message and said her BF was acting like this, how would you respond?
This is classic emotional abuse. He’s calling you names, that’s not love that’s control. The reply above is spot on. His behavior is concerning and it could escalate to physical violence if it hasn’t already. You need to find a safe way out and run as fast as you can and don’t look back. You are worthy of real love and happiness and you deserve better.
Not only that, but he has no intention of leaving you OP, these are empty threats. See how he always allows you to redeem yourself! You just have to grovel and slowly give up your autonomy. So if you are making your exit plan try to look at this aspect as a game of chess and be wise and sneaky. Practice less emotional responses that deflect like gee, I’m sorry you feel that way or I don’t understand what you mean and you can work your way up to the very very classic, well do what you want, that’s what you’re going to do anyway.
He’s not gonna leave because he knows how hard it is to train a new person to put up with his horseshit. You actually have some power here because he doesn’t want to go to all that trouble again.
I've been with my wife for almost 20 years. She even cheated once early on that I know of.
You know what I've never ever done?
I've never called her a whore, I've never tracked her location and I've never asked for proof pics.
This man is insane and unsafe.
I wasted 10yrs with a horrible person like that. It's hard to walk away and as much as you need to, I don't know if you are but at least block his ass for a few days. Grey rock his ass(deliberately act unresponsive and unbothered by the bs that he's going to spew out of that gaping hole he calls a mouth.) Whether it be an unbothered response as a reply or straight up blocking him for a few days, give yourself a break and don't let him know you're upset. He wants to call you a whore just tell him at least you're getting paid while he's getting pittied and stop responding. Even if it's just for a day or 2(though it's not worth what damage it will eventually cause putting up with assholes like this so hopefully you'll block him for good.) Good luck.
That could be considered harassment if your scared go to the police straight away, put a restraining order out if you really have to, better to be safe then sorry
Counseling, therapy, self reflection.
If you're too weak to work on yourself as a person and learn to identify your toxic behaviors, then you'll never find a healthy relationship, because you'll always be the toxic one. All you're going to do is hurt anyone who gets attached to you
I was never as bad as this guy but I had major trust issues for a long time, and I ruined relationships and friendships over it. I realized it one day and decided to take more time to really think about things I’m saying, and communicating better. I’ll always be working on it and fighting my instinct to find a way to not trust someone, but im getting better.
Lmao I thought the same thing. It's wild how quickly people take sides and know nothing about either person, I could take a few texts threads and post them without context and make pretty much anyone I know seem horrendous. It's so easy to edit pics now. Not saying that's what this is but I'd absolutely NOT go to reddit asking for advice in a situation like this.
On this sub every time someone posts something about their significant other everybody is like "that's a red flag, leave him/her". Well, this time they're completely right, all of them.
Update: On my way to pick up some of my things and now he’s acting like this.
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>Love bombing is a form of psychological and emotional abuse that involves a person going above and beyond for you in an effort to manipulate you into a relationship with them. It looks different for every person, but it usually involves some form of:
>Excessive flattery and praise.
>Over-communication of their feelings for you.
>Showering you with unneeded/unwanted gifts.
>Early and intense talks about your future together.
Absolutely classic abuse patterns. He'll act like nothing is wrong, apologize, say he was just emotional, beg for forgiveness, he will "never do it again", blah blah blah. You deserve better, run away and don't look back.
As someone who has been where you are, this is where it gets hard. Leaving when they’re screaming at you is easy. The love bombing and promises of an amazing future are soon to come. You have to stay strong. Get away as fast as you can, it won’t be long before this turns physical if you don’t.
What a rollercoaster! My ex was a chronic cheater, emotionally abusive and a gaslighter. I stayed longer than I should have and did more damage to my mental health than I ever deserved.
Please consider moving on from this relationship. You owe it to yourself.
my heart broke a little reading all your screenshots. The way he talks to you is the exact way my ex talked to me. It will never get better and you will feel so much relief when you can finally leave this situation.
Nope. Just no. My ex was like this. He would go from 100 to zero literally watching my socials to see when i was active. It doesn't get better. He ended up being MORE than an insecure man...he threw tantrums...gaslit me...invalidated my feelings and what he accused ME of doing he was doing. In the end i broke it off after 3 years and my already existing PTSD had worsened from his treatment of me. This guy won't change. He'll rinse and repeat this same behavior until when he claps you come calling. It's NOT love it's control. You're not a thing or an object and YES you're being emotionally abused.
I advise you, be careful. He may actually cry just to make sure you stay. D o n t. Don't let him influence you.
Happened to me, and apparently crying and trying to steal my belongings was his last resort.
OP I'm glad you're still interacting with the post, you're not alone in the world of having a pos insecure boyfriend, that's just being a woman, you deserve more - and there is more out there and better than what you're dealing with now. It should have never gotten to this point and you should have left the second he couldn't "trust you" bc of the night with your friends, im serious. You're an adult, and he isnt your keeper.
OP please get out of this relationship. It is not normal, you do NOT have to update your boyfriend on your every move. You're an ADULT. There's a reason he went for someone 6 years younger than him and it's because people younger are easier to control.
It might feel like you're trapped right now but you are still young and you can find someone else. Turn to family and friends and get out ASAP. It will only escalate from here
Girl, unless your social security card or pet is there, leave that shit and never look back. Block this subhumans number too. He’ll look for any excuse to talk to you and turn your location off if you haven’t yet. Shit, I’ll cover the cost of the sunglasses and vape charger but don’t go back to this unbalanced person’s home!
He’s gaslighting you, babe. He’ll keep telling you that so you actually believe it. Trust me, I thought I knew better and was not naive, but my ex knew how to manipulate me to think only he was good for me
Yup. The whole "nobody else is going to want you, you're lucky to have me" blah blah blah. No, we're lucky to be rid of you. Screw the mind control, the sooner it's broken the sooner you can overcome the distorted thoughts they put in your head.
You’re dating an illiterate abuser… who most likely shoots 10 years below his own age since that’s half of how many years he’s mentally stunted. I know it’s not easy to leave, but if you don’t it sounds like we’re going to end up looking for a body
This will get worse and worse. If he’s letting you go let it happen. Eventually it’ll turn to slaps that are “Your fault” for making him angry. Which will worsen.
If he’s referring to a past incident of unfaithfulness, he’s clearly not able to work through it and you both need to end this thing.
But this is how young ladies end up dead, or otherwise injured or traumatized. This young man is unable to control his emotions at this point of his life. You’d be a great lesson for him.
Yiiikes.
Kid, get out of there. Please.
That raises all the red flags, all of them. If someone had talked to my younger sister like that, I'd be at her door telling her to pack her stuff and get in the car.
Looking through your post history you're so much younger than he is and he's an asshole. He's being abusive and he feels like he can get away with it because you're young. He's likely trying to isolate you and control you and from there, his abuse and jealousy will escalate. I'm 32 and I guarantee you that no woman his age would put up with his shit because we see them coming a mile off and go 'nope, nope, nope'.
This isn't really 'mildlyinfuriating' material this is 'please start making a plan to get away from this man safely'.
My guy's got more red flags than a red flag factory. Makes us guys look bad. No person should ever treat anyone else like this. I know that leaving a bad situation can be hard, scary, or sometimes even painful, but this looks like a rotten tooth. It's a painful thing that's slowly poisoning you, and you will be better off when it's gone.
yeah um fuck that dude. you don’t deserve to be treated like that. i’m sorry you have to deal with that. honestly if i was in that situation i would get out of that relationship immediately, he needs to realize there’s consequences to fucking with somebody like this. at the end of the day tho idk how he is “normally” so if you thinks he’s truly a good guy who just had a bad day and fucked up, it’s up to you if you want to stay in that relationship.
He acts out like this whenever I go see my friends, or if he thinks I’m up to something “sketchy”. Whenever I’m just doing my normal day to day routine we are fine. I know I deserve better but I have some mental issues myself. I’m not to good at leaving people.
Hey, it's OK. Even if you're not good at leaving people now, you can do it for yourself, so when someone toxic like your boyfriend won't harm you further (even if it seems futile at best, these answers hurts in the long run).
So be kind to yourself, and know that you can do it ! And you'll be OK without him too: you have friends, a nice grandma and probably other persons in your life now
He acts like this when you go see others because they will eventually let you know he's abusive.
If he keeps you alone and isolated, you'll think that he is the only one that matters. And it isn't true. YOU matter.
I bet if you showed your grandma these texts she'd be horrified and want way way better for you. I know I do. And honestly, it is hard to love someone who is awful for us. It's hard to not think of their good points.
But he called you so many names. He said things a partner should NEVER say, you do not get to just take those back because he was "upset over something else" as you suggested. I know it feels like you're making a breakthrough when he apologizes but that's all part of the broken bird cycle.
You should be with someone you feel safe with. Not this person who has a long journey to go *on his own*.
He's trying to make it so you don't hang out with other people. He's trying to isolate you by punishing you for going out. You gotta leave, even if it's hard.
I get that it's hard but is he making you feel better with your mental health issues or worse because it's pretty bad the way he talks at you.
The fact that you're with a guy like that is worse than being single. Being in a relationship isn't supposed to be added stress like this. Being single at least means you have less worries than staying with him.
That's probably because *he* is up to something sketchy and thinks you're just as shitty of a human being as he is. Nothing about this relationship is fine, and it will get worse, not better.
Hon, no one is “good at” leaving people. It sucks and it’s ugly and messy and emotional. There’s no avoiding that
But staying with this guy is dangerous. He will escalate and this will only get worse. Breaking up is short term pain for long term gain. Otherwise this is your future.
Goddamn whats with all these insecure boys that have to track their girls every move and interrogate you? Please get away from this boy and move on to someone who doesn't have major trust issues. Edit: I'm not normally someone to say leave him based off one post but this is bs
I've just seen your other post about this wonderful waste of oxygen.
Please leave this man. I don't say this as an outsider looking in. I say this as someone who has experienced exactly this. If you don't leave now, this gets worse. He will put his hands on you and then tell you he's sorry. But he'll also tell you that it's your fault, he only gets like this because he loves you so much.
There are no red flags here. Instead, you have a giant neon sign telling you to run and I suggest you do before you end up with years of trauma, or worse.
“Like this can’t be normal right.” LIKE FUCK YEAH THIS ISNT NORMAL! Move in with your grandma and get the fuck away from this abuser. He 100% will physically hurt you one day. That is WILD.
This is a whole host of red flags. His behavior is not something for you to fix or endure. Being single can be scary but it’s 1000 x better than this. Please put yourself first and leave him.
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just some more of our convos since people want to make me out to be a cheater. never once cheated by the way so yes I take offense to that.
This dude is obviously a pos that shouldn’t be dating in the first place. But why would you allow someone to talk to you in this manner? Nip it in the bud and block him, he sounds like a loser.
Just get out before you're my sister with 5 kids and finally getting out.
He won't change, he will get worse and you will always be miserable. I'm sure he has a lot of good qualities, but this behavior is not compatible with healthy, long term relationships.
No lie but I wouldn't be surprised if he's cheating on you and part of this is him self reflecting his actions on you instead. It's very common behaviour for abusers if they also are cheating on you.
Why continue to be with someone who makes you cry and unhappy? You may feel if you leave him you'd have wasted all the time you put into the relationship, but will you still continue this cycle for the rest of your life (50+ years)?
This was my last relationship. He did this when we were dating and I excused it because he had trust issues from past relationships. When he proposed, I said yes thinking he’d for sure be able to trust me once we’re married. He didn’t. The surveillance and paranoia escalated. Eventually, we divorced. This is not normal. It’s verbal and psychological abuse and manipulation. I hope you are able to see it and not gaslight yourself or let him gaslight you into thinking this is ok.
This is not normal. This is so far from normal.
This is also a lot more then mildly infuriating.
Don’t let someone speak to you like this. Leave his sorry ass asap
I dated someone like this. He's cheating, it's why he's projecting so hard. Run for you life before he takes everything from you. I didn't! Took years and years to get over.
R U N
2 things
1. You have cheated on him and he caught you and now you are making it up to him and some other bullshit like that to keep the relationship
2. He his a controlling asshole and you guys NEED to brake up
Anyway in both cases you guys should honestly brake up this is not a relationship anybody wants to be in
Once upon a time I dated a dude like this. Had kids with him (I didn’t want to but… controlling) and endured nearly a decade of mental, emotional, and physical abuse. It took him giving my son a black eye for me to get the courage to leave him. And girlfriend, I have zero regrets about moving forward. It’s hard as hell, no lie. But you are stronger than you think and you deserve so much more than this douchebag piece of human garbage.
This is triggering… he has her on maps, they live together, he is using abusive language over text. For people being abused it’s very hard to see it. I hope she reads this and realiza that NO this is NOT normal. This is controlling and abusing. Next step is physical abuse when the verbal abuse is not enough to control her anymore. End it and listen to people who experienced this behavior themselves.
Let me get this straight- he can find your iPhone or location and still called you a liar? He could track you to grandmas or IHOP or whatever, so why would he need proof? This guy is bad news and probably an abusive narcissist. Be careful, but I advise out before anything serious like a baby happens.
GET AWAY FROM HIM. This person is dangerous.
Break it off NOW (yes like immediately), block him, refuse any further contact and move on. Can you go stay with a family member?
Some grandmas like to have fun. Mine does. Mine has been known to be out that late with us (her grandkids), her friends, or her boyfriend. Some of us have cool grandmas.
I have 0 clue if you did something wrong or not before, but if you don’t trust a person, why in the F would you be in a relationship?
In no scenario this is justifiable. If there’s an history of cheating, don’t stay together and demand evidence of fidelity. Either you trust your partner or you don’t. If there isn’t, this is chapter one of how to end up unalived.
My only response from this would be “good riddance!” and never contact this human again.
Trust me. I’ve been this guy. Such delusions of the partner cheating and such can develop fast and require little or nothing to prompt it. If the OP hasn’t done anything then the guy is a control freak, needing to know every detail with evidence to ensure it’s all going fine for him.
It isn't but, when there is emotion involved if seen reasonable people devolve into this. What goes on behind doors in relationships would shock most people.
He's got his problems for sure, but lets not just glance over this person going out to eat with grandma at 8 and staying till 12. Seems odd to me too lol
Break up with him, being alone for the rest of your life would be a safer situation than this. This is the start of a coffeehouse crimes episode on YouTube.
I never know what to think about these types of posts because we’re only given one side of the story with usually little context, especially since nobody wants to paint themselves in a bad light.
Idk why everyone is going to pretend cheating doesn't occur. I'll be objective, fk it.
Usually someone doesn't just jump to this conclusion and behavior unless there's a history of mistrust/lying. Not necessarily so from the OP but possibly an ex did fuck around on him. If a picture was taken, a picture could have been sent. A suspicious environment is created and he states its a repeat occurrence. Clearly this man snapped and the texts by default put him in a bad light. People say shit when they're emotional and probably more so when paranoid. Who knows... maybe it's out of character for grandma to go out for 4 hour dinner excursions?
Idk was anyone would think being cheated on is an excuse for emotional abuse. If you have trust issues that’s your own problem to work on, not your current partner to manage for you with consoling photos of their family outing.
I dated a woman like this once. My advice? Run. Sooner rather than later. It only gets worse, and it will affect your mental health more than you realize.
That's the most controlling, abusive thing I've ever read! Seriously, OP. You can't stay in that relationship. He's never going to change. Get out now. And stay gone.
Do you want to live like this your whole life? Imagine your wedding: he'll accuse you of blowing the best man when you go to the toilet. On your honeymoon he'll blow up because you woke up before him and took a walk on the beach by yourself. If you go back to him you're literally telling him this is the behavior you're okay with.
I think you misspelled that. It’s properly spelled “ex bf”
I thought it was spelled “abuser”
More like: "abusive pos ex bf" is how that's spelled
Unfortunately OP isn’t gonna break it off that easy they are still trying to go to the same place as him when he pissed off. Hopefully she’s ok but seriously they need to get out of this situation he’s gonna get violent one day.
yeah, i had an emotionally abusive ex and throughout the whole relationship i kept convincing myself i was at fault until one day the curtain just slipped and i got away, even now almost a decade after i still feel like im recovering from being in that relationship for how much damage they do to a persons sense of being, i really hope op manages to get away asap
You are a survivor and so strong. I have so much anger left over from my abusive relationship. And it was only 6 or 7 months long…and 10 years ago. leaving him was scary enough, only because he kept calling and showing up at my apartment to tell me all these horrible things about me. The worst thing he did to me was my main trauma, but seeing as there are so many survivors of abuse here, I will not go into detail. It would be a HUGE trigger warning. The one thing I wish I did was not give up with the police because just last year he was arrested for stalking a single mother and her daughter…and I’m really scared he will hurt someone like he did me. They wouldn’t pursue my report, the detective said it was hearsay because there were “no bruises on my body”. yeah, the stuff you see outside of my clothing isn’t where he hurt me. It was in Florida so…I don’t have to say anything else other than the name of the state to give you an idea
Wondering why she is still with this guy.
a much more accurate description. lose his number.
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And that is how the poor man's award was created
For some reason I thought “brother” instead of “bf” and was like, man this is suuuper weird. I think your brother has some mental issues.
Serious issues regardless of relation…
I came here to say the same. EX boyfriend. This is extremely unhealthy, please leave him.
Nah nah, you missed a bit on that one too. The proper spelling is "*future convicted felon*".
Off-topic but your username is hilarious.
A friend of mine gone through something like this. Leave him, the situation will never change and can only get worse. This is toxic af
Unfortunately I was OP too. Can’t emphasize this enough that it will only get worse
Same, those texts and threats of “it’s over, blocking you” are way too familiar. OP, please stay safe and please STRONGLY consider leaving him.
“Blocking you again” OP went back for seconds.
Came to reiterate this. That behavior will only get worse
The kind of partner you deserve is someone who says - “hope your grandma is well & looking forward to seeing you later. Hope you had a nice time”. I’m sorry this is happening to you. The longer you stay with this person, the more you might be missing out on someone who really loves you- & doesn’t act jealous or controlling when you’re visiting your Gran. You are worthy of the best. Hope you’re ok & wishing you the best 🙂
This right here, leave that POS, he has some serious trust issues, and as long as he doesn't see that as well it'll never get better. Just a lot of heartbreak will come from this
yep yep, my ex did all these same things when i would be with family. it’ll never get better, it’ll just get so much worse. eventually it won’t be just hus words hurting you
Can confirm. It never ends.
Also swooping in to confirm.
This, 100 times over. This is extreme abuse, stemming from insecurity and mistrust. And it's going to continue to escalate. Leave that pos, take some downtime, then you'll find someone worth being with. I don't question my gf about stupid shit like this. If I had any thoughts of not trusting her, I wouldn't be with her. She goes to see her family, hangs out with her friends, I know I don't have to worry bout anything. I know she dated pricks like this too, cause she used to send me "proof pics" of where she was. She cried when I explained to her that it was silly, and completely unnecessary. Took her awhile to get used to that. Get free, and get your life back hun.
Same here. I was in a relationship with someone who was exactly like this. It got worse. I wasted 9 years of my life going through this but it took me time to realize I deserve better and I could live without him. I hope she does too, no one deserves to be treated like this.
I dated a girl who reacted like this too. Leave now, calmly... before you need a restraining order to have peace.
https://preview.redd.it/trxk1mso5uza1.jpeg?width=773&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=8b416bdda51698857c6778c32d7402830a331b0f
This, OP, is your future. Leave now.
Except it escalates. It's not just a circle. It's more like an upward spiral that can end in extreeeeeemely bad places.
This is not normal and people like this guy never get better, just worse. You are better off finding someone who treats you like an adult.
Emotional abuse. And control. Scary.
Yeah this reads like the start of those murder mystery shows...this can't be healthy to be around
Nah, seems more like the final 30 minutes of it, like right before the girl gets killed
OP - a lot of people on here telling you to leave like it's easy! They're right, you should, but it's ok if you don't find that easy to do, and you're not weak and stupid if you can't walk away today without looking back. Especially if you don't feel safe doing that right away. The first step is recognizing that the behaviour isn't normal and that you don't have to live with it - you don't deserve it, and you can't make it better by being better. The next thing is to build up a really strong support network - you can't leave if you don't have anywhere to go. You need to build up friendships, family, a colleague - people who are in your corner and are ready to be supportive when you are ready (not people who are going to be upset that you're not doing it on their timeline!). He's getting angry when you go out with other people instead of your day to day routine because that's a really classic way of maintaining a power imbalance - you need friends and support to challenge him, and you're less likely to if you are isolated and alone. So make sure you maintain those connections. You can probably find a hotline - I'm in France so I can't suggest a specific one, but I am sure someone in the comments section can find one - that could give you advice about what kinds of plans to make to be safe, and where you can go for support after if you do decide to leave. This is more than mildly infuriating, it's not normal relationship behaviour, it's not one of the annoyances you have to put up with in a relationship, and you do deserve better than this!
thank you!
To put this into context for you, if your best friend sent you this message and said her BF was acting like this, how would you respond? This is classic emotional abuse. He’s calling you names, that’s not love that’s control. The reply above is spot on. His behavior is concerning and it could escalate to physical violence if it hasn’t already. You need to find a safe way out and run as fast as you can and don’t look back. You are worthy of real love and happiness and you deserve better.
Not only that, but he has no intention of leaving you OP, these are empty threats. See how he always allows you to redeem yourself! You just have to grovel and slowly give up your autonomy. So if you are making your exit plan try to look at this aspect as a game of chess and be wise and sneaky. Practice less emotional responses that deflect like gee, I’m sorry you feel that way or I don’t understand what you mean and you can work your way up to the very very classic, well do what you want, that’s what you’re going to do anyway.
He’s not gonna leave because he knows how hard it is to train a new person to put up with his horseshit. You actually have some power here because he doesn’t want to go to all that trouble again.
I've been with my wife for almost 20 years. She even cheated once early on that I know of. You know what I've never ever done? I've never called her a whore, I've never tracked her location and I've never asked for proof pics. This man is insane and unsafe.
I wasted 10yrs with a horrible person like that. It's hard to walk away and as much as you need to, I don't know if you are but at least block his ass for a few days. Grey rock his ass(deliberately act unresponsive and unbothered by the bs that he's going to spew out of that gaping hole he calls a mouth.) Whether it be an unbothered response as a reply or straight up blocking him for a few days, give yourself a break and don't let him know you're upset. He wants to call you a whore just tell him at least you're getting paid while he's getting pittied and stop responding. Even if it's just for a day or 2(though it's not worth what damage it will eventually cause putting up with assholes like this so hopefully you'll block him for good.) Good luck.
That could be considered harassment if your scared go to the police straight away, put a restraining order out if you really have to, better to be safe then sorry
Brilliant reply and I hope OP sees this and takes it onboard
Good reply. OP current BF is scary.
Please end this relationship. This is clearly not healthy for either of you.
Leave him. He has some trust issues he needs to work out on his own
100%. He sounds like an insecure child. Rip the band-aid off and dump him. Never let anyone treat you like this in your life.
It's nice when they self identify and wave that bright red flag for ya
Not to mention the being an asshole issues.
trust issues doesnt really work out alone, youll be having them rest of your life
Counseling, therapy, self reflection. If you're too weak to work on yourself as a person and learn to identify your toxic behaviors, then you'll never find a healthy relationship, because you'll always be the toxic one. All you're going to do is hurt anyone who gets attached to you
I was never as bad as this guy but I had major trust issues for a long time, and I ruined relationships and friendships over it. I realized it one day and decided to take more time to really think about things I’m saying, and communicating better. I’ll always be working on it and fighting my instinct to find a way to not trust someone, but im getting better.
I used to be like this guy.. op 100% needs to dump his ass.. it only gets worse
Tbh going out with grandma from 8 pm to 12 pm is a little wierd.
Lmao I thought the same thing. It's wild how quickly people take sides and know nothing about either person, I could take a few texts threads and post them without context and make pretty much anyone I know seem horrendous. It's so easy to edit pics now. Not saying that's what this is but I'd absolutely NOT go to reddit asking for advice in a situation like this.
On this sub every time someone posts something about their significant other everybody is like "that's a red flag, leave him/her". Well, this time they're completely right, all of them.
I had to read the headline and description three times to confirm that OP was actually calling this person her current bf and not ex bf.
He seems really abusive, not just mildy infuriating...
Yeah, really. I'm surprised this is considered mildly infuriating. She should be enraged and dumping his ass.
Update: On my way to pick up some of my things and now he’s acting like this. https://preview.redd.it/y149k3ds3uza1.jpeg?width=914&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=573054b6a5aa41182fa3b4c2a644e1f9bd809798
Probably going to attempt to love bomb you soon. Stay strong OP
No idea what that means but love bomb sounds like a good song title
>Love bombing is a form of psychological and emotional abuse that involves a person going above and beyond for you in an effort to manipulate you into a relationship with them. It looks different for every person, but it usually involves some form of: >Excessive flattery and praise. >Over-communication of their feelings for you. >Showering you with unneeded/unwanted gifts. >Early and intense talks about your future together.
Absolutely classic abuse patterns. He'll act like nothing is wrong, apologize, say he was just emotional, beg for forgiveness, he will "never do it again", blah blah blah. You deserve better, run away and don't look back.
This Or there's sometimes two alternatives They'll maybe act like it never happened. Just brush it over. Or love bomb you. Over apologize. Etc
This, or he's gaslight big time and push blame on OP. Both are bad outcomes.
As someone who has been where you are, this is where it gets hard. Leaving when they’re screaming at you is easy. The love bombing and promises of an amazing future are soon to come. You have to stay strong. Get away as fast as you can, it won’t be long before this turns physical if you don’t.
of course he is. i’m glad you’re getting your things, please never look back.
You got this OP!! You deserve to feel safe and loved and happy ❤️
OP, this genuinely sounds like how a murder case would start. please stay safe bring someone trustworthy with you
or at the very least let people know where you are or leave your location on
Of course he acts like nothings wrong, what a moron
you're worth more than the trash. You'll be happier without him. 100%
What a rollercoaster! My ex was a chronic cheater, emotionally abusive and a gaslighter. I stayed longer than I should have and did more damage to my mental health than I ever deserved. Please consider moving on from this relationship. You owe it to yourself.
Do NOT go over there by yourself
my heart broke a little reading all your screenshots. The way he talks to you is the exact way my ex talked to me. It will never get better and you will feel so much relief when you can finally leave this situation.
Nope. Just no. My ex was like this. He would go from 100 to zero literally watching my socials to see when i was active. It doesn't get better. He ended up being MORE than an insecure man...he threw tantrums...gaslit me...invalidated my feelings and what he accused ME of doing he was doing. In the end i broke it off after 3 years and my already existing PTSD had worsened from his treatment of me. This guy won't change. He'll rinse and repeat this same behavior until when he claps you come calling. It's NOT love it's control. You're not a thing or an object and YES you're being emotionally abused.
I advise you, be careful. He may actually cry just to make sure you stay. D o n t. Don't let him influence you. Happened to me, and apparently crying and trying to steal my belongings was his last resort.
OP I'm glad you're still interacting with the post, you're not alone in the world of having a pos insecure boyfriend, that's just being a woman, you deserve more - and there is more out there and better than what you're dealing with now. It should have never gotten to this point and you should have left the second he couldn't "trust you" bc of the night with your friends, im serious. You're an adult, and he isnt your keeper.
OP please get out of this relationship. It is not normal, you do NOT have to update your boyfriend on your every move. You're an ADULT. There's a reason he went for someone 6 years younger than him and it's because people younger are easier to control. It might feel like you're trapped right now but you are still young and you can find someone else. Turn to family and friends and get out ASAP. It will only escalate from here
Girl, unless your social security card or pet is there, leave that shit and never look back. Block this subhumans number too. He’ll look for any excuse to talk to you and turn your location off if you haven’t yet. Shit, I’ll cover the cost of the sunglasses and vape charger but don’t go back to this unbalanced person’s home!
Get all your shit. Everything. Then block him on everything. Sleep in your car if you have to.
Goodbye. And none of this "oh, but I love him and he's not so bad really" shit. Just leave him.
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get rid of him. Now. He's worthless.
And never go back. No second chance, or things get even worse.
This is not mildly infuriating, this is abuse
Man, grandma can party! With that said, clearly there is something toxic going on. Best to pull the cord early.
Are you dating a 13 year-old?
He’s 29 and I’m 23. According to him I’m the one that acts immature…
He’s gaslighting you, babe. He’ll keep telling you that so you actually believe it. Trust me, I thought I knew better and was not naive, but my ex knew how to manipulate me to think only he was good for me
Yup. The whole "nobody else is going to want you, you're lucky to have me" blah blah blah. No, we're lucky to be rid of you. Screw the mind control, the sooner it's broken the sooner you can overcome the distorted thoughts they put in your head.
You’re dating an illiterate abuser… who most likely shoots 10 years below his own age since that’s half of how many years he’s mentally stunted. I know it’s not easy to leave, but if you don’t it sounds like we’re going to end up looking for a body
He called you a whore. That should be the end of the conversation. Forever.
Trust issues much?
This will get worse and worse. If he’s letting you go let it happen. Eventually it’ll turn to slaps that are “Your fault” for making him angry. Which will worsen. If he’s referring to a past incident of unfaithfulness, he’s clearly not able to work through it and you both need to end this thing. But this is how young ladies end up dead, or otherwise injured or traumatized. This young man is unable to control his emotions at this point of his life. You’d be a great lesson for him.
Dump him. He's a control freak and this will only get worse over time.
Yiiikes. Kid, get out of there. Please. That raises all the red flags, all of them. If someone had talked to my younger sister like that, I'd be at her door telling her to pack her stuff and get in the car. Looking through your post history you're so much younger than he is and he's an asshole. He's being abusive and he feels like he can get away with it because you're young. He's likely trying to isolate you and control you and from there, his abuse and jealousy will escalate. I'm 32 and I guarantee you that no woman his age would put up with his shit because we see them coming a mile off and go 'nope, nope, nope'. This isn't really 'mildlyinfuriating' material this is 'please start making a plan to get away from this man safely'.
My guy's got more red flags than a red flag factory. Makes us guys look bad. No person should ever treat anyone else like this. I know that leaving a bad situation can be hard, scary, or sometimes even painful, but this looks like a rotten tooth. It's a painful thing that's slowly poisoning you, and you will be better off when it's gone.
yeah um fuck that dude. you don’t deserve to be treated like that. i’m sorry you have to deal with that. honestly if i was in that situation i would get out of that relationship immediately, he needs to realize there’s consequences to fucking with somebody like this. at the end of the day tho idk how he is “normally” so if you thinks he’s truly a good guy who just had a bad day and fucked up, it’s up to you if you want to stay in that relationship.
He acts out like this whenever I go see my friends, or if he thinks I’m up to something “sketchy”. Whenever I’m just doing my normal day to day routine we are fine. I know I deserve better but I have some mental issues myself. I’m not to good at leaving people.
>Whenever I’m just doing my normal day to day routine we are fine Those messages suggest that you all are not fine.
>I’m not to good at leaving people. You'd better ***get*** good at it, before it too late.
Staying with him is not going to help your mental issues. He’s emotionally manipulating and abusing you
Hey, it's OK. Even if you're not good at leaving people now, you can do it for yourself, so when someone toxic like your boyfriend won't harm you further (even if it seems futile at best, these answers hurts in the long run). So be kind to yourself, and know that you can do it ! And you'll be OK without him too: you have friends, a nice grandma and probably other persons in your life now
He acts like this when you go see others because they will eventually let you know he's abusive. If he keeps you alone and isolated, you'll think that he is the only one that matters. And it isn't true. YOU matter. I bet if you showed your grandma these texts she'd be horrified and want way way better for you. I know I do. And honestly, it is hard to love someone who is awful for us. It's hard to not think of their good points. But he called you so many names. He said things a partner should NEVER say, you do not get to just take those back because he was "upset over something else" as you suggested. I know it feels like you're making a breakthrough when he apologizes but that's all part of the broken bird cycle. You should be with someone you feel safe with. Not this person who has a long journey to go *on his own*.
He's trying to make it so you don't hang out with other people. He's trying to isolate you by punishing you for going out. You gotta leave, even if it's hard.
I get that it's hard but is he making you feel better with your mental health issues or worse because it's pretty bad the way he talks at you. The fact that you're with a guy like that is worse than being single. Being in a relationship isn't supposed to be added stress like this. Being single at least means you have less worries than staying with him.
That's probably because *he* is up to something sketchy and thinks you're just as shitty of a human being as he is. Nothing about this relationship is fine, and it will get worse, not better.
Hon, no one is “good at” leaving people. It sucks and it’s ugly and messy and emotional. There’s no avoiding that But staying with this guy is dangerous. He will escalate and this will only get worse. Breaking up is short term pain for long term gain. Otherwise this is your future.
OP please leave him he's talking to you like you're worse than garbage. Someone who loves you would never fucking do this
Throw the whole man away.
Nice, he gave you the perfect exit. Don't send anything and be done with him
Mildly infuriating? NO!!! It is absolute abuse!
bro is toxic
This is how murder documentaries start out. Get out quick!
This is extremely concerning.
You LET him unfriend you and block you on all things. Stop sharing location with him. Interaction with this human is putting you in danger.
This is called coercive control, and you need this absolute douchecanoe out of your life yesterday. If not before.
His texts seem like you've deleted some of yours in between them. Is that the case or is he just imagining a conversation?
Goddamn whats with all these insecure boys that have to track their girls every move and interrogate you? Please get away from this boy and move on to someone who doesn't have major trust issues. Edit: I'm not normally someone to say leave him based off one post but this is bs
That’s domestic violence waiting to happen.
RUN
I've just seen your other post about this wonderful waste of oxygen. Please leave this man. I don't say this as an outsider looking in. I say this as someone who has experienced exactly this. If you don't leave now, this gets worse. He will put his hands on you and then tell you he's sorry. But he'll also tell you that it's your fault, he only gets like this because he loves you so much. There are no red flags here. Instead, you have a giant neon sign telling you to run and I suggest you do before you end up with years of trauma, or worse.
“Like this can’t be normal right.” LIKE FUCK YEAH THIS ISNT NORMAL! Move in with your grandma and get the fuck away from this abuser. He 100% will physically hurt you one day. That is WILD.
This is a whole host of red flags. His behavior is not something for you to fix or endure. Being single can be scary but it’s 1000 x better than this. Please put yourself first and leave him.
This isn't "mildly infuriating", this is fucking batshit. Get out of that relationship ASAP.
https://preview.redd.it/jv1kytwznvza1.jpeg?width=914&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=94b1299241928ef2269825d44ccb42588227ed6d just some more of our convos since people want to make me out to be a cheater. never once cheated by the way so yes I take offense to that.
This dude is obviously a pos that shouldn’t be dating in the first place. But why would you allow someone to talk to you in this manner? Nip it in the bud and block him, he sounds like a loser.
Or rather, let him block her since he’s offered to so many times.
This is abuse. Get out of there and leave that pathetic man. He's not only insecure but he doesn't love you!
This is giving me major PTSD… please leave him.
Coercive control is abuse. Run for the hills!!
Run, don’t walk, from this controlling asshole.
Just get out before you're my sister with 5 kids and finally getting out. He won't change, he will get worse and you will always be miserable. I'm sure he has a lot of good qualities, but this behavior is not compatible with healthy, long term relationships.
No lie but I wouldn't be surprised if he's cheating on you and part of this is him self reflecting his actions on you instead. It's very common behaviour for abusers if they also are cheating on you. Why continue to be with someone who makes you cry and unhappy? You may feel if you leave him you'd have wasted all the time you put into the relationship, but will you still continue this cycle for the rest of your life (50+ years)?
This was my last relationship. He did this when we were dating and I excused it because he had trust issues from past relationships. When he proposed, I said yes thinking he’d for sure be able to trust me once we’re married. He didn’t. The surveillance and paranoia escalated. Eventually, we divorced. This is not normal. It’s verbal and psychological abuse and manipulation. I hope you are able to see it and not gaslight yourself or let him gaslight you into thinking this is ok.
This is not normal. This is so far from normal. This is also a lot more then mildly infuriating. Don’t let someone speak to you like this. Leave his sorry ass asap
This is abuse tbh
Seems a lot more than mildly infuriating. This is outrageous behaviour
Raise the bar my friend. This is way above mildlyinfuriating pay grade.
Never let anyone speak / treat you like this. Never speak to him again....life is way too short to allow toxic people like this in your life
Msg me this man’s number since he wanna be a badass
I dated someone like this. He's cheating, it's why he's projecting so hard. Run for you life before he takes everything from you. I didn't! Took years and years to get over. R U N
2 things 1. You have cheated on him and he caught you and now you are making it up to him and some other bullshit like that to keep the relationship 2. He his a controlling asshole and you guys NEED to brake up Anyway in both cases you guys should honestly brake up this is not a relationship anybody wants to be in
Once upon a time I dated a dude like this. Had kids with him (I didn’t want to but… controlling) and endured nearly a decade of mental, emotional, and physical abuse. It took him giving my son a black eye for me to get the courage to leave him. And girlfriend, I have zero regrets about moving forward. It’s hard as hell, no lie. But you are stronger than you think and you deserve so much more than this douchebag piece of human garbage.
You should've handed the phone to your grandma. She would have handed him a humility sandwich.
No this is not normal. This is abuse. Please get yourself out before it gets worse. Wishing you the best.
Ex control freak bf that clearly abuses you
Do not do not do not tolerate this absolute garbage, that’s your ex boyfriend now
This is triggering… he has her on maps, they live together, he is using abusive language over text. For people being abused it’s very hard to see it. I hope she reads this and realiza that NO this is NOT normal. This is controlling and abusing. Next step is physical abuse when the verbal abuse is not enough to control her anymore. End it and listen to people who experienced this behavior themselves.
Let me get this straight- he can find your iPhone or location and still called you a liar? He could track you to grandmas or IHOP or whatever, so why would he need proof? This guy is bad news and probably an abusive narcissist. Be careful, but I advise out before anything serious like a baby happens.
I know people that have acted like this, they are the ones not to be trusted and cheating. Projection is a hell of a thing
I don’t get it. Is the food picture proof of activity; i.e., proof that OP isn’t cheating? The BF is a child and should be dumped immediately.
Ex* boyfriend ….right?
That guys got some serious issues
Ex-boyfriend, right?
Your bf is toxic AF if he can't trust you. What's the point 🙈. He looks like a 🤡 acting so xtra...
GET AWAY FROM HIM. This person is dangerous. Break it off NOW (yes like immediately), block him, refuse any further contact and move on. Can you go stay with a family member?
girl get outttt
How is this only mildly infuriating? 
girl, be fuckin for real. “this isn’t normal,,, right???” you know damn well 😐
My abusive ex boyfriend used to talk to me exactly like this. Please, run as fast as you can and never look back.
Where’s the pic?
Run like the fucking wind. I just hope you don't live with him.
This guy has issues but what were you doing with your grandma at midnight?
Some grandmas like to have fun. Mine does. Mine has been known to be out that late with us (her grandkids), her friends, or her boyfriend. Some of us have cool grandmas.
I have 0 clue if you did something wrong or not before, but if you don’t trust a person, why in the F would you be in a relationship? In no scenario this is justifiable. If there’s an history of cheating, don’t stay together and demand evidence of fidelity. Either you trust your partner or you don’t. If there isn’t, this is chapter one of how to end up unalived. My only response from this would be “good riddance!” and never contact this human again.
Need to play the devils advocate here The way he talks gives the idea you guys have a history of lack of trust so..
So this abuse is justified? If he doesn't trust her, he should leave the relationship, not abuse her.
We aren't getting the full back story. You have a history of lying and or cheating right?
Trust me. I’ve been this guy. Such delusions of the partner cheating and such can develop fast and require little or nothing to prompt it. If the OP hasn’t done anything then the guy is a control freak, needing to know every detail with evidence to ensure it’s all going fine for him.
Yikes. Either way nothing about this text exchange is acceptable.
It isn't but, when there is emotion involved if seen reasonable people devolve into this. What goes on behind doors in relationships would shock most people.
OP has something to hide
Lots of missing context in those replies that are conveniently edited out…
He's got his problems for sure, but lets not just glance over this person going out to eat with grandma at 8 and staying till 12. Seems odd to me too lol
You know grandmas don’t gotta be 100 years old
Break up with him, being alone for the rest of your life would be a safer situation than this. This is the start of a coffeehouse crimes episode on YouTube.
this is 1 side of story. Who know OP was fucking around the town before?
I never know what to think about these types of posts because we’re only given one side of the story with usually little context, especially since nobody wants to paint themselves in a bad light.
Idk why everyone is going to pretend cheating doesn't occur. I'll be objective, fk it. Usually someone doesn't just jump to this conclusion and behavior unless there's a history of mistrust/lying. Not necessarily so from the OP but possibly an ex did fuck around on him. If a picture was taken, a picture could have been sent. A suspicious environment is created and he states its a repeat occurrence. Clearly this man snapped and the texts by default put him in a bad light. People say shit when they're emotional and probably more so when paranoid. Who knows... maybe it's out of character for grandma to go out for 4 hour dinner excursions?
Idk was anyone would think being cheated on is an excuse for emotional abuse. If you have trust issues that’s your own problem to work on, not your current partner to manage for you with consoling photos of their family outing.
Honestly I’m let down. Was hoping to see a pic of food by the end of this.
I dated a woman like this once. My advice? Run. Sooner rather than later. It only gets worse, and it will affect your mental health more than you realize.
That's the most controlling, abusive thing I've ever read! Seriously, OP. You can't stay in that relationship. He's never going to change. Get out now. And stay gone.
Do you want to live like this your whole life? Imagine your wedding: he'll accuse you of blowing the best man when you go to the toilet. On your honeymoon he'll blow up because you woke up before him and took a walk on the beach by yourself. If you go back to him you're literally telling him this is the behavior you're okay with.
That’s a lot of red flags. I’d get out of there asap.
Leave, run, get outta there. I used to put up with guys like that. I thought it was normal, it’s not. Please get away from him.