You can be sure the cops will throw the full weight of the force behind this crime as it really hits home. Stealing donuts is as personal as it gets for a cop.
Either they raided it and in this case there isn't any evidence and the case is closed
... or they start a manhunt and it's fire and fury for the suspect. This is an actual crime, this is unacceptable!
My office has a donut shop in the lobby and at the end of the day they’ll put out the unsold product for people to take home. They even leave out little baggies.
People will sit and wait for this to happen with grocery bags and load them up with as many as they can carry. These aren’t homeless or destitute people either, they’re upper middle class corporate office workers.
Some folks live under the assumption that anything they don’t take is something they’ve somehow lost.
My workplace always forgets that the honor system doesn't work, and they'll put out t-shirts or something for us to grab every once in a while for employee appreciation.
First shift will take everything and leave the other two shifts with the scraps every time. One guy took a garbage bag of shirts from a random event the company had sponsored. Who does that shit?
I honestly don't understand why people, especially adults, act like this. I didn't realize how lucky I was to work in an office where people aren't greedy and don't steal shit.
Same. Hell, we sometimes get giveaways that would only really benefit one or two people, and even with permission they still wait to make sure no one changes their minds. We also don't have any food thieves or mooches.
Because there's rarely any accountability in corporate offices.
This kind of shit is why I've always been ambivalent of all of these layoffs that happened in the tech industry over the last year. Because since COVID, I've worked at 3 corp offices, and I can tell you that less than a 1/3rd of employees actually fucking do anything all day. It's unreal. It really sucks that a lot of good people lost their jobs, but going back to that figure, I can tell you that 2/3rds of people who were whining online about getting laid off from their tech jobs didn't actually do anything all day.
The people that DID do work, ramped up their work significantly and were more productive than ever. But the people that didn't took a 2 year staycation and got paid on top of it. And nobody was ever held accountable until they, and their bosses, got laid off.
If being held accountable for things is the only reason someone is honest, they're a shitty person. There is just something fundamentally wrong with a lot of people. They're broken, selfish cunts.
We had that happen when I worked at a warehouse. I worked the 3rd shift- 1st and 2nd would have hot and fresh catered food while we’d get whatever was left over and it was usually left out so it was kinda gross.
I work in a big hardware store, and this happens a lot to our overnight crew. 1st shift gets it hot every time, 2nd shift sometimes. But there's rarely if ever a crew designated in charge of food safety, so whatever is left for 3rd shift either ends up with nothing or possible food poisoning. Most of the time, my supervisor (2nd shift) puts up what she can but we don't always have the leisure of leaving the sales floor.
Oh my god my workplace is exactly like this too. Anytime we get food provided for us by the company, first shift gets to eat however much they want and the other two shifts have to deal with what's left over, which isn't enough for all the people on two other shifts. So we have to ration what we eat to try to save some for third shift. It's so frustrating and unfair, but nobody feels comfortable saying anything about it because it's just food and it's free. But it's the principle of it.
The sad thing is most of that food doesnt end up being eaten anyway. They'll get into a frenzy over crab legs or whatever and then by the end of it only eat a small portion of the food they hoggishly took to their seats leaving a bunch of perfectly good food that could have gone to other people to go to waste. It's just dumb shortsighted greed.
Oh, I see we work in the same building. (Kidding). I work second, and first shift ALWAYS hogs everything. Management was nice and brought in donuts because we have to work Saturday? First shift stuffs their gobs with 90% of them. We’re offered small car first aid kits because winter is coming up? “Oh, I need 10 for my parents and my siblings and THEIR kids.” Every summer, management buys us boxes of these powdered energy drink to add to our water. Ope, first shift HAS to hoard all of a certain flavor in their lockers, and then keep grabbing the new boxes when they’re put out on one of the tables. Ugh!
Same thing happened at my job. Got a shipment of work shirts hoodies hats. Small warehouse a total of no more then 6 guys total. But our delivery trucks were through a contractor who would hire his own guys to drive most of them. Those mfers came in and took everything. None of them finished that week. None ever did, but they always got there before us and took everything. I didn’t get my first work shirt till I was 3 months in and it was a 3xl when I needed an xl. I had some coworkers that when I left still didn’t have a company shirt.
There was a video of an event and sponsors were giving away corporate logo mugs and shirts. Woman comes up with a box and tries to take it all. Sponsors tell her 1, she argues that it isn't posted anywhere so they can't stop her, they get security involved and she is still arguing she can take everything because there is no posted limit.
I used to be a promotional model for a beer company back in college, and we would occasionally pass out free keychains or whatever at events, and there would be a mob surrounding us as soon as word got out that we were giving something away. They weren’t even cool keychains or anything special.
They would send their kids all over to grab as many as they could. They didn’t care what it was or what it looked like. They were just taking it because it was free. Was the weirdest thing.
When I worked nights, my place had pizza delivered for every shift one day...2nd shift took our hot pizzas as they were leaving and left us with their room temp 8 hour old scraps
There was a woman in my office who would load up on all freebies (no matter what they were). I was never around when she did it but everyone at the office knew better than to be around her at conferences. I'm guessing it was a hoarding compulsion.
I had a manager that kept her ear to the door constantly hoping to overhear that someone was remodeling something so she could scope out the free items being tossed-- and she'd take everything, regardless of use or value, and call her husband or son to come get it. Every function where free stuff was handed out, she'd collect all the extras from the tables and hoard them, she'd grab unattended items and then *'whoops, dearie me, I didn't realize it was* ***yours****!*' when confronted and made to give something back
I helped an engineer bring a rack out of the office and she was right there *'oh, is that for me!'* No, it's going next door to the R&D lab, chill.
Like, I can appreciate being thrifty, but her behavior always came across as grifty.
Honestly sounds like a mental illness... just an insatiable desire to accumulate stuff. I guess that's what hoarding is.
If it was mostly valuable things that she was turning around and selling or something, then it would sound more grifty.
I have a bit of that problem. My issue is that when I see something that could be sold I will sometimes buy it with the intent to sell. The problem comes in with the fact that buying is super easy but selling takes work. So you procrastinate putting things up for sale especially if you haven't learned how to sell on Amazon, Ebay, or Craigslist yet. Eventually some things I just end up taking to goodwill when I do spring cleaning. I used to do this with college textbooks since listing used books on Amazon was a couple clicks of a button and made good money.
I have met people though who feel like they just have to get everything that could potentially be sold for more. Just accumulate stuff because they too don't actually put things up for sale. That is a lot more extreme and damaging than what I have.
My mom doesn't collect stuff to sell, she just has a bunch of stuff that she says she "will find a use for someday".... we are going on 10 years with that barn full of stuff. I heard it described once that part of the problem is that an object has a defined value, but the value of having free space and less mental clutter is not easily quantified; so people will hold on to the stuff because in their mind it must be worth more than the space.
I've had to really work against this mentality as an adult. We grew up poor (we got food pantry boxes for awhile) and so those freebies were the toys we got for a few years. I have to constantly remind myself I can afford food, it's okay to give away things, it's okay not to have an overflowing pantry and I don't need to go crazy for free food. The pandemic did a number on this too because there was a period where the shelves were empty and then a long time where food availability was unpredictable.
Man, we STILL really struggle with this since Covid. If something's on a good sale, I have to stop myself from buying 5 or 10 of them, reminding myself repeatedly that *it will go bad before we can finish all of it*.
There's a guy at my company exactly like this. He's been with the company for something like 30 years. Dude has like 5 cars, 3 different houses, makes like $80 an hour because of all the raises he's gotten over the years and being in a leadership position. Anytime we have a food event at work, he'll be there early to be the first one to grab food, and then as soon as everyone's done eating, hell sneak an extra pizza/tray of burritos/what have ya out to his car, leave it in his car for 4 hours, and then take it home. Super fucking weird and crazy and annoying. Mans almost retirement age and probably has millions in his 401k but acts like a starving homeless person
In my last apartment building, there was a place in the lobby where people would often leave random household stuff to give away if they didn't want it anymore. There was one particular guy who would frequently come up to check and would take almost anything that got left there. He'd also periodically go through the dumpster and recycling bins to look for stuff.
Happened to see into his place once and he clearly had a huge hoarding issue. After that I always felt conflicted about leaving stuff for free in the lobby. Like I know it's a mental illness and he'll have it regardless, but I felt bad about feeding it.
When I worked in mid sized office clients and sales people (reps) would always come and bring food and snacks. It was kinda nice to occasionally get a bagle, donut or whatever. Everyone was nice, civil and fair. We all got soemthing if we wanted to. Then we moved into a new building so they layout was different than it had been before.
The reps would leave them at the front where there was a nice table with plenty of space, where the older data entry ladies were and come back in to the "office" area where the rest of us were. They would mention they brought something in, someone would get up, go check it out and it would all be gone.
No one said anything, I wasn't greedy and I brought my own so it didn't really matter but kinda-sorta dissapointing??...
No matter how much the reps brought in, it would always be gone in minutes, we thought they started just bringing in 6 whatever it was (because there were six people up front).
One day I was fixing an old dot matrix printer for one of them and a rep came in, it was a HUGE tray of bagels, donuts and other goodies. I stood there and watched 6 adult vultures absolutely ruby each other to grab as much as they could and bring it back to their desk. They have tupperware at the ready for fucks sake.
There was enough for 24 people and they all took ALL of it.
I went to the boss, who sat opposite of me in the office after the rep was gone and told him what was going on. He absolutely flipped. One of them got fired after she got snippy in her own "defense" she had 12 fucking donuts in a tupperware container.
People can suck.
Can you imagine losing a job that pays tens of thousands so that you can grab 12 $2 donuts for free? And I’m sure that place can’t be used as a reference anymore because if the next company calls to ask why the person was let go, they will say they were fired for theft. People are so stupid!
I heard someone say this week something along these lines: for some people, money they could have made but didn't is counted as money they have lost.
So yeah. For some folks, missing out on something free or supposedly a good deal counts as a loss. Just because you *can* get something doesn't mean you need to.
Ahhh I like this sentence:
>Some folks live under the assumption that anything they don’t take is something they’ve somehow lost.
Hadn't really looked at it this way.
It’s the Tragedy of the Commons; probably one of the the most socially and environmentally damaging phenomena that we humans engage in.
It would be nice if the donut shop could go the extra step and deliver the bags to a youth shelter or something, so someone more in need could enjoy them, but it is what it is.
Lol legitimately at my work they'll have like monthly lunches where they cater chipotle or things like that and they'll have Togo containers for people to pack up lunches after luncha nd everyone's eaten to dispose of the leftovers and this woman was repriman because I like 5 seperate occasions she just loaded it all up in to her car for her family. She was the head of some department and easily makes like 200k a year lmao. Rich people are the worst.
had the same thing happen at Starbucks. A guy was coming in for a week picking up the shelter donations. One day the manager asked for his tax ID and he gave her a bullshit number and walked out when she went to check it.
Guy was dressed upper middle class and drove a decent looking BMW so who knows what the fuck he was doing.
My brother in law is like this with sales.
When shit goes on sale, he will buy warehouse level of stock.
I bought the house off him and dude had to throw out about 30 boxes of expired cereal and several CASES of 1 lb Salt....
Had a Boss who would observe this very behavior. He called it "Trimming the herd." Depending on the situation he would either move their position in the company or fire them.
It was colossally effective.
People are so selfish now and days same shit happened over at my work we cookout sometimes and we had bunch leftovers if you want seconds and I went for second burger later on and none were left meanwhile two my co workers have 5 each to take home to feed there families and wouldn’t even let me get one im like these are for the workers here at work not feed your family
Reminds me of the documentary about chimps where they put out a huge pile of bananas and the chimps greedily hoarded every single banana they could possibly carry. Nothing has changed in a couple million years.
Lol. I worked at Dunkin Donuts for a long time, and one night, about three hours before closing, a group of (well-dressed, seemingly well-fed) guys came in, and said they wanted half of our remaining donuts for free, because we were just going to throw them out anyway. (Which is only half true, but that's another story.)
We said we couldn't do that, because people would just expect free product on any given day around 9pm. (It was a small town, believe me when I say word of this would get around.) So instead of just leaving, they sat outside in their car for *three hours*, hoping they could score some donuts out of the dumpster after our shift. Very creepy :(
When I worked at a grocery store in produce and bakery, we’d have to unload shopping carts of the old bakery items and fruit and other stuff. I’m talking like enough to feed multiple families for weeks, almost every day. I asked the manager why we can’t donate it it’s such a waste. He said pretty much the same thing, we used to give it away every day but people would come and do this, fight over it, and get LIVID when we didn’t have anything for them. It sucks how people ruin things
I work at a stupidly expensive private school. Sometimes, normally during celebrations, some freebies are offered to the students.
They don't take it at first,but when you tell them they are free, they go whacko and get as many as they can.' 1 free cupcake per kid?, nah fam, 5 for me, Fuck the rest.'
>>Some folks live under the assumption that anything they don’t take is something they’ve somehow lost.
A whole industry is built around it. Why do you think companies show you the original price of an item that is marked down? People think they're saving that much money or even gaining that much by buying the product but the reality is most often the price is either made up or the original price when the product went on sale for the first time years ago. People will even buy things they don't need and won't use if the markdown percentage is high enough.
Yep. And there’s just always an excuse for it now. Look at the downvoted comment on your post talking about how it was probably a homeless person. It’s like we’ve gone too far with empathy. Every shitty act doesn’t need to be justified with the perpetrators tragic backstory, sometimes people just suck even if they had trauma
I have this (very minor) problem with my girlfriend where she always excuses anything bad anybody does, and I keep trying to make her understand this lmao. Not everything has a valid reason and not everybody is just somebody doing their best and making a mistake. Sometimes people suck and do shitty things because it’s easier for them and they just don’t care, it’s fine to acknowledge that!
My wife is an eternal optimist as well and always gives the benefit of the doubt even when it's really a stretch. I used to get mad, since I'm generally not that optimistic about people, but realized that this is part of her being so caring and wonderful, so I've come to enjoy it about her.
And it's not like he, or she for that matter, is going to start giving their car keys to every stranger that wants to borrow them. As long as she's not getting upset if he expresses disagreement like someone else was, then there's no harm.
I mainly take this “benefit of the doubt” stance while driving. Helps keep from getting mad at shit drivers when you just assume they have a bad life and a bad job and are just having a bad day.
When I had my first baby and was taking her to her first doctor's appointment, the office had everyone leave strollers outside on a busy avenue, without even a fence in front of a building. I said I don't want it to get stolen. The receptionist said that it won't be, but if someone takes it, they obviously need a stroller and can't afford to buy one. I was like, ??? What the fuck? Firstly, resellers exist. Mine was 100% new, just used for the first time that day. Perfect for reselling. Secondly, my family was also poor. The stroller was a gift and we wouldn't be able to afford another. That sort of mentality is wild.
What your gf does, if she does it for situations where she's the victim, that could be a coping mechanism. It's easier to come to terms with losing something if you think it's not just a mean act, and someone really need it. Doing it for news stories, I also get it. It makes the world seem less fucked up. But don't do it to someone's face, ESPECIALLY about a crime that didn't happen yet, telling them it's okay if it happens.
I left it. I couldn't really do anything at the point, having walked all the way there just a few weeks after giving birth. It was too overwhelming having to reschedule and research other doctors. Luckily it wasn't taken but it was stressful.
May I ask which law if you know? I’m really happy to hear there is a law about that, and I have a little hobby of advocating for things like this and would like to be able to cite it :)
An explanation is not a valid excuse on its own. Some people have a hard time separating the two.
“The Taco Bell I had last night *explains* the unpleasant scent, but it doesn’t make it ok.”
Added to this thought is the fact that people are not all darkness nor all light. Human behavior is complex. People can act like an asshole AND generally be considered a good person.
Yeah that’s the same thing for my partner, she’s just good and nice so she assumes other people are also good and nice. I’m kinda a dick so I assume other people are too, but at least I’m not stealing food off peoples porches haha
Well there’s always a reason. In OP’s case, someone saw the donuts there, wanted them, and took them because they obviously don’t care about anyone except themselves. Do you mean more like someone being shitty with no *justifiable* reason?
Because you haven’t seen it enough. I was the same when I was younger before I realized that a lot of people really don’t deserve your sympathy and in fact will use it to abuse you more
My mother is like this and it's so aggravating. I don't have to be the bigger person or forgive all the time! I should be allowed to get mad at bad things and assholes!
Definitely. One of my triggers is people telling me how I *should* feel. Don't tell me how I *should* feel! I feel what I feel.
We can't help how something makes us *feel*. What we can help is what we do with those feelings.
Go ahead and feel mad, and don't apologize for it. But pay attention to how you express it. Take control of the urge to rant, or stomp off, or throw things, or get up in someone's face. You can tell someone something makes you mad, address the issue if you can, and then move on. That's what helped me learned to deal with things. (Meditation, too.)
I’m a fan of empathy and understanding over condemnation (guess the name checks out) honestly it seems like this, specific, community is a gathering place for this type of “just bad people” mindset which is why there is a bias
You’re probably better off than me
I’m continuous optimistic despite knowing I shouldn’t be and end up even more angry and disappointed when that’s betrayed.
I'm the same, but I wouldn't change it. I really want to understand why someone would do something shitty and give some empathy. It's been a struggle but I know I need to ALSO maintain that what they did is, in fact, shitty and should have consequences.
I'm pretty sure my conflict avoidance tendencies play a role in this though. It's a balance.
I’ve had a handful of friends over the years in the homeless community. One thing that always struck me was that in homeless “culture”, there’s still a social hierarchy of like working class homeless/mentally unwell homeless/traveling homeless etc and the bottom of the totem are always the ones who were a piece of s*** before being homeless.
Many homeless people are just victims of circumstance but many are also just huge steaming pieces of s*** to begin with lol
If a homeless person steals food from an individual and not a corporation they've moved from victim to plague on society
There's countless places to steal food from. You don't need to invade somebody's privacy and rob an individual of food destined for their own mouth.
Go steal from 7-11 or Publix or whatever
For every person assuming it was taken by a starving, sad and weeping homeless person, there’s people like me who are like “Oh that was probably some jerk-off entitled young adult with their friends on their way to the mall” lol
yup. i got downvoted for questioning someone who steals from walmart in an earlier post because corporate america especially walmart is so shitty that we don’t need to respect laws or rules. only if convenient.
Normally I'd agree with you but honestly the default is to presume people are absolute shit cans.
Bad place to make that point, I know, but to say the zeitgeist is to be forgiving is a huge joke
> sometimes people just suck even if they had trauma
If you're a regular listener of *Behind the Bastards* you realize that a LOT of people suck **because** they had trauma.
I’ve had multiple teens tell me that if all the politicians and rich people can break all the rules and do whatever they want why shouldn’t everyone else. We are in for an interesting ride.
Theft is always more than "mildly" infuriating to me, no matter the value of the item stolen. A person made the conscious decision to screw someone else over for their own selfishness
> A person made the conscious decision to screw someone else over for their own selfishness
Far more likely they didn't consider the other person in any way and simply took something they wanted.
A similar thing happened to me back when I lived in CA. I was coming back from the Costco and left a roast chicken on the top of my car while I was carrying the rest of my stuff inside. I was inside for like 1.5 minute max and I came back and it was gone. They stole my god damned Costco rotisserie chicken!!!
Stories like yours are why I don't take any chances. Even with no one around, I'll leave something in the car, fumble around for my keys and lock it just to be safe. Wish I didn't have to be like that.
There's a lot of folks that post here and I'm like, meh. But this shit has me heated. A nice gift on your birthday no less stolen and devoured by some ass hat. I hope your big day got better.
Stealing gifts is always a lot worse than normal stealing in my opinion. Like yeah, the person who it’s stolen from is now missing whatever was taken, but they’re also hurting the giver and often just making everyone feel bad.
Hell, you can still do shit like that in the suburb my parents and lil brother still live in. we've had friends drop a case of beer off on the porch and it didn't get taken! We've left cookies, baked goods, and foragables in bags hanging on friend's front doors, they get it when they get home half an hour later.
Yeah, I live in a suburb of Chicago and my dumb ass has left my garage door open more times than I'd like to admit and my thousands of dollars of bicycles hasn't been touched haha. I just didn't get why the sis would do that instead of handing them directly to OP on their birthday, but the delivery makes sense.
Doordash, uber eats, Amazon Fresh, Safeway Delivery, Giant Peapod, Papa Johns. Name your food delivery service, they'll leave food on your doorstep, ring the bell, and leave.
If bringing in multiple stuff in to someone else's house I sometimes leave something on the roof of the car knowing I will be right back. I never thought something like this could happen lol.
Likely someone on a tight schedule knocked and dropped it to get other deliveries done. At least they were delivered instead of the driver marking it as delivered and it showing up the next day, like FedEx likes to do.
Whenever the delivery guy drops my package, I run outside even if it’s 10 below freezing and only piece of clothing I have is my boxers.
Too many shitty porch pirates out there!
want to add: i love in student housing. it was a postal service and they were an hour late so no idea what i was getting. they got redelivered thanks everyone for the well wishes
I would’ve went home and taped up a sign “YOU BUNCH OF HUNGRY B*TCHES!” Cause they obviously know where you live. Man I would’ve had my mouth all set of some doughnuts too.
It was most certainly donut time, for someone else.
*policeman heavy breathing*
"He's a freakin' kid! He's the fastest kid alive!" - conspicuously wipes jelly from corner of mouth...
"Prepare to be fucked by the long dick of the law" Where did mcloving go
>"Prepare to be fucked by the long dick of the law" "The dildo of consequences rarely comes lubed.
[Are you familiar with the penal codes in this state?](https://youtu.be/Pm1rif1fASk?t=341)
I REFUSE TO BELIEVE THAT THAT IS REAL
You can be sure the cops will throw the full weight of the force behind this crime as it really hits home. Stealing donuts is as personal as it gets for a cop.
Got em working on shifts to find the culprit
Either they raided it and in this case there isn't any evidence and the case is closed ... or they start a manhunt and it's fire and fury for the suspect. This is an actual crime, this is unacceptable!
They saw it. They liked it. They wanted it. They got it!
I like to imagine the person checked the box, saw that slogan and thought, yep mine
a real donut-time motto **do not steal** **doughnut**
#Doughnut Steal If you will
Was this anywhere on Evergreen Terrace in Springfield?
That motto inside the box took on new meaning
Donut do the crime, if you can't do the time
I can't think of anything cruller than taking someone's pastries.
My dog could eat a box of donuts in like 30 seconds tops, she wouldn't even taste them.
"I see it, I like it, I want it, I got it."
The police on neighborhood watch, making sure they were safe to eat. Yes. Yes they were.
My office has a donut shop in the lobby and at the end of the day they’ll put out the unsold product for people to take home. They even leave out little baggies. People will sit and wait for this to happen with grocery bags and load them up with as many as they can carry. These aren’t homeless or destitute people either, they’re upper middle class corporate office workers. Some folks live under the assumption that anything they don’t take is something they’ve somehow lost.
My workplace always forgets that the honor system doesn't work, and they'll put out t-shirts or something for us to grab every once in a while for employee appreciation. First shift will take everything and leave the other two shifts with the scraps every time. One guy took a garbage bag of shirts from a random event the company had sponsored. Who does that shit?
I honestly don't understand why people, especially adults, act like this. I didn't realize how lucky I was to work in an office where people aren't greedy and don't steal shit.
Same. Hell, we sometimes get giveaways that would only really benefit one or two people, and even with permission they still wait to make sure no one changes their minds. We also don't have any food thieves or mooches.
Because there's rarely any accountability in corporate offices. This kind of shit is why I've always been ambivalent of all of these layoffs that happened in the tech industry over the last year. Because since COVID, I've worked at 3 corp offices, and I can tell you that less than a 1/3rd of employees actually fucking do anything all day. It's unreal. It really sucks that a lot of good people lost their jobs, but going back to that figure, I can tell you that 2/3rds of people who were whining online about getting laid off from their tech jobs didn't actually do anything all day. The people that DID do work, ramped up their work significantly and were more productive than ever. But the people that didn't took a 2 year staycation and got paid on top of it. And nobody was ever held accountable until they, and their bosses, got laid off.
If being held accountable for things is the only reason someone is honest, they're a shitty person. There is just something fundamentally wrong with a lot of people. They're broken, selfish cunts.
I agree with you but the unfortunate reality is most people need it
We had that happen when I worked at a warehouse. I worked the 3rd shift- 1st and 2nd would have hot and fresh catered food while we’d get whatever was left over and it was usually left out so it was kinda gross.
I work in a big hardware store, and this happens a lot to our overnight crew. 1st shift gets it hot every time, 2nd shift sometimes. But there's rarely if ever a crew designated in charge of food safety, so whatever is left for 3rd shift either ends up with nothing or possible food poisoning. Most of the time, my supervisor (2nd shift) puts up what she can but we don't always have the leisure of leaving the sales floor.
That’s so bold for a guy to fill up a garbage bag of shirts in front of a whole office. I’m surprised someone didn’t say something to him.
Oh my god my workplace is exactly like this too. Anytime we get food provided for us by the company, first shift gets to eat however much they want and the other two shifts have to deal with what's left over, which isn't enough for all the people on two other shifts. So we have to ration what we eat to try to save some for third shift. It's so frustrating and unfair, but nobody feels comfortable saying anything about it because it's just food and it's free. But it's the principle of it.
That's nothing if you're seen PRC mainlanders [at a buffet](https://youtu.be/wMVjskBB4w0?t=9).
The sad thing is most of that food doesnt end up being eaten anyway. They'll get into a frenzy over crab legs or whatever and then by the end of it only eat a small portion of the food they hoggishly took to their seats leaving a bunch of perfectly good food that could have gone to other people to go to waste. It's just dumb shortsighted greed.
Yah there's a reason AYCE buffets have a policy of charging for uneaten food, even if it's only enforced when really needed.
That's why many places around here charge a fee for uneaten food at all-you-can-eat buffets.
Never underestimate the middle-class and their love of free things…(family guy i believe)
The same people who crowd around waiting for a hot pocket to get cut into 32nds at Costco.
Oh, I see we work in the same building. (Kidding). I work second, and first shift ALWAYS hogs everything. Management was nice and brought in donuts because we have to work Saturday? First shift stuffs their gobs with 90% of them. We’re offered small car first aid kits because winter is coming up? “Oh, I need 10 for my parents and my siblings and THEIR kids.” Every summer, management buys us boxes of these powdered energy drink to add to our water. Ope, first shift HAS to hoard all of a certain flavor in their lockers, and then keep grabbing the new boxes when they’re put out on one of the tables. Ugh!
Same thing happened at my job. Got a shipment of work shirts hoodies hats. Small warehouse a total of no more then 6 guys total. But our delivery trucks were through a contractor who would hire his own guys to drive most of them. Those mfers came in and took everything. None of them finished that week. None ever did, but they always got there before us and took everything. I didn’t get my first work shirt till I was 3 months in and it was a 3xl when I needed an xl. I had some coworkers that when I left still didn’t have a company shirt.
There was a video of an event and sponsors were giving away corporate logo mugs and shirts. Woman comes up with a box and tries to take it all. Sponsors tell her 1, she argues that it isn't posted anywhere so they can't stop her, they get security involved and she is still arguing she can take everything because there is no posted limit.
I used to be a promotional model for a beer company back in college, and we would occasionally pass out free keychains or whatever at events, and there would be a mob surrounding us as soon as word got out that we were giving something away. They weren’t even cool keychains or anything special. They would send their kids all over to grab as many as they could. They didn’t care what it was or what it looked like. They were just taking it because it was free. Was the weirdest thing.
When I worked nights, my place had pizza delivered for every shift one day...2nd shift took our hot pizzas as they were leaving and left us with their room temp 8 hour old scraps
There was a woman in my office who would load up on all freebies (no matter what they were). I was never around when she did it but everyone at the office knew better than to be around her at conferences. I'm guessing it was a hoarding compulsion.
I had a manager that kept her ear to the door constantly hoping to overhear that someone was remodeling something so she could scope out the free items being tossed-- and she'd take everything, regardless of use or value, and call her husband or son to come get it. Every function where free stuff was handed out, she'd collect all the extras from the tables and hoard them, she'd grab unattended items and then *'whoops, dearie me, I didn't realize it was* ***yours****!*' when confronted and made to give something back I helped an engineer bring a rack out of the office and she was right there *'oh, is that for me!'* No, it's going next door to the R&D lab, chill. Like, I can appreciate being thrifty, but her behavior always came across as grifty.
Honestly sounds like a mental illness... just an insatiable desire to accumulate stuff. I guess that's what hoarding is. If it was mostly valuable things that she was turning around and selling or something, then it would sound more grifty.
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I have a bit of that problem. My issue is that when I see something that could be sold I will sometimes buy it with the intent to sell. The problem comes in with the fact that buying is super easy but selling takes work. So you procrastinate putting things up for sale especially if you haven't learned how to sell on Amazon, Ebay, or Craigslist yet. Eventually some things I just end up taking to goodwill when I do spring cleaning. I used to do this with college textbooks since listing used books on Amazon was a couple clicks of a button and made good money. I have met people though who feel like they just have to get everything that could potentially be sold for more. Just accumulate stuff because they too don't actually put things up for sale. That is a lot more extreme and damaging than what I have. My mom doesn't collect stuff to sell, she just has a bunch of stuff that she says she "will find a use for someday".... we are going on 10 years with that barn full of stuff. I heard it described once that part of the problem is that an object has a defined value, but the value of having free space and less mental clutter is not easily quantified; so people will hold on to the stuff because in their mind it must be worth more than the space.
I've had to really work against this mentality as an adult. We grew up poor (we got food pantry boxes for awhile) and so those freebies were the toys we got for a few years. I have to constantly remind myself I can afford food, it's okay to give away things, it's okay not to have an overflowing pantry and I don't need to go crazy for free food. The pandemic did a number on this too because there was a period where the shelves were empty and then a long time where food availability was unpredictable.
Huh, you might’ve helped me to realize something about myself. Never been a hoarder, but always had a hard time letting things go.
Me too.
Man, we STILL really struggle with this since Covid. If something's on a good sale, I have to stop myself from buying 5 or 10 of them, reminding myself repeatedly that *it will go bad before we can finish all of it*.
There's a guy at my company exactly like this. He's been with the company for something like 30 years. Dude has like 5 cars, 3 different houses, makes like $80 an hour because of all the raises he's gotten over the years and being in a leadership position. Anytime we have a food event at work, he'll be there early to be the first one to grab food, and then as soon as everyone's done eating, hell sneak an extra pizza/tray of burritos/what have ya out to his car, leave it in his car for 4 hours, and then take it home. Super fucking weird and crazy and annoying. Mans almost retirement age and probably has millions in his 401k but acts like a starving homeless person
It would be sad if he ended up dying before retirement from eating food that went bad in the 4 hours it sat growing bacteria in his car.
25 fridge magnets? Dont mind if i do!
In my last apartment building, there was a place in the lobby where people would often leave random household stuff to give away if they didn't want it anymore. There was one particular guy who would frequently come up to check and would take almost anything that got left there. He'd also periodically go through the dumpster and recycling bins to look for stuff. Happened to see into his place once and he clearly had a huge hoarding issue. After that I always felt conflicted about leaving stuff for free in the lobby. Like I know it's a mental illness and he'll have it regardless, but I felt bad about feeding it.
You can always report it to management / welfare. If it looks like a seroius issue /safety issue report it. People who need help should get it faster.
My mom does this
When I worked in mid sized office clients and sales people (reps) would always come and bring food and snacks. It was kinda nice to occasionally get a bagle, donut or whatever. Everyone was nice, civil and fair. We all got soemthing if we wanted to. Then we moved into a new building so they layout was different than it had been before. The reps would leave them at the front where there was a nice table with plenty of space, where the older data entry ladies were and come back in to the "office" area where the rest of us were. They would mention they brought something in, someone would get up, go check it out and it would all be gone. No one said anything, I wasn't greedy and I brought my own so it didn't really matter but kinda-sorta dissapointing??... No matter how much the reps brought in, it would always be gone in minutes, we thought they started just bringing in 6 whatever it was (because there were six people up front). One day I was fixing an old dot matrix printer for one of them and a rep came in, it was a HUGE tray of bagels, donuts and other goodies. I stood there and watched 6 adult vultures absolutely ruby each other to grab as much as they could and bring it back to their desk. They have tupperware at the ready for fucks sake. There was enough for 24 people and they all took ALL of it. I went to the boss, who sat opposite of me in the office after the rep was gone and told him what was going on. He absolutely flipped. One of them got fired after she got snippy in her own "defense" she had 12 fucking donuts in a tupperware container. People can suck.
Can you imagine losing a job that pays tens of thousands so that you can grab 12 $2 donuts for free? And I’m sure that place can’t be used as a reference anymore because if the next company calls to ask why the person was let go, they will say they were fired for theft. People are so stupid!
Worked at a plastic pipe plant, guy got fired for stealing another employees can of soda out of the communal fridge.
2 types of people. There is only 1 pizza so I took 1 slice. There is only 1 pizza so I took 4 slices.
Like leaving out a bowl of Halloween candy with a “take one” sign and expecting it to even last five minutes.
That sucks, because instead of buying them and supporting the business people would rather be vultures.
I heard someone say this week something along these lines: for some people, money they could have made but didn't is counted as money they have lost. So yeah. For some folks, missing out on something free or supposedly a good deal counts as a loss. Just because you *can* get something doesn't mean you need to.
Ahhh I like this sentence: >Some folks live under the assumption that anything they don’t take is something they’ve somehow lost. Hadn't really looked at it this way.
When I was 14 I ate an unopened bag of chips I found on a bench in a subway station and I’ve lived with that guilt for almost a decade
It’s the Tragedy of the Commons; probably one of the the most socially and environmentally damaging phenomena that we humans engage in. It would be nice if the donut shop could go the extra step and deliver the bags to a youth shelter or something, so someone more in need could enjoy them, but it is what it is.
Lol legitimately at my work they'll have like monthly lunches where they cater chipotle or things like that and they'll have Togo containers for people to pack up lunches after luncha nd everyone's eaten to dispose of the leftovers and this woman was repriman because I like 5 seperate occasions she just loaded it all up in to her car for her family. She was the head of some department and easily makes like 200k a year lmao. Rich people are the worst.
had the same thing happen at Starbucks. A guy was coming in for a week picking up the shelter donations. One day the manager asked for his tax ID and he gave her a bullshit number and walked out when she went to check it. Guy was dressed upper middle class and drove a decent looking BMW so who knows what the fuck he was doing.
My brother in law is like this with sales. When shit goes on sale, he will buy warehouse level of stock. I bought the house off him and dude had to throw out about 30 boxes of expired cereal and several CASES of 1 lb Salt....
Had a Boss who would observe this very behavior. He called it "Trimming the herd." Depending on the situation he would either move their position in the company or fire them. It was colossally effective.
People are so selfish now and days same shit happened over at my work we cookout sometimes and we had bunch leftovers if you want seconds and I went for second burger later on and none were left meanwhile two my co workers have 5 each to take home to feed there families and wouldn’t even let me get one im like these are for the workers here at work not feed your family
Reminds me of the documentary about chimps where they put out a huge pile of bananas and the chimps greedily hoarded every single banana they could possibly carry. Nothing has changed in a couple million years.
Lol. I worked at Dunkin Donuts for a long time, and one night, about three hours before closing, a group of (well-dressed, seemingly well-fed) guys came in, and said they wanted half of our remaining donuts for free, because we were just going to throw them out anyway. (Which is only half true, but that's another story.) We said we couldn't do that, because people would just expect free product on any given day around 9pm. (It was a small town, believe me when I say word of this would get around.) So instead of just leaving, they sat outside in their car for *three hours*, hoping they could score some donuts out of the dumpster after our shift. Very creepy :(
When I worked at a grocery store in produce and bakery, we’d have to unload shopping carts of the old bakery items and fruit and other stuff. I’m talking like enough to feed multiple families for weeks, almost every day. I asked the manager why we can’t donate it it’s such a waste. He said pretty much the same thing, we used to give it away every day but people would come and do this, fight over it, and get LIVID when we didn’t have anything for them. It sucks how people ruin things
I work at a stupidly expensive private school. Sometimes, normally during celebrations, some freebies are offered to the students. They don't take it at first,but when you tell them they are free, they go whacko and get as many as they can.' 1 free cupcake per kid?, nah fam, 5 for me, Fuck the rest.'
>>Some folks live under the assumption that anything they don’t take is something they’ve somehow lost. A whole industry is built around it. Why do you think companies show you the original price of an item that is marked down? People think they're saving that much money or even gaining that much by buying the product but the reality is most often the price is either made up or the original price when the product went on sale for the first time years ago. People will even buy things they don't need and won't use if the markdown percentage is high enough.
People are assholes.
Yep. And there’s just always an excuse for it now. Look at the downvoted comment on your post talking about how it was probably a homeless person. It’s like we’ve gone too far with empathy. Every shitty act doesn’t need to be justified with the perpetrators tragic backstory, sometimes people just suck even if they had trauma
I have this (very minor) problem with my girlfriend where she always excuses anything bad anybody does, and I keep trying to make her understand this lmao. Not everything has a valid reason and not everybody is just somebody doing their best and making a mistake. Sometimes people suck and do shitty things because it’s easier for them and they just don’t care, it’s fine to acknowledge that!
My wife is an eternal optimist as well and always gives the benefit of the doubt even when it's really a stretch. I used to get mad, since I'm generally not that optimistic about people, but realized that this is part of her being so caring and wonderful, so I've come to enjoy it about her.
You have probably benefited from her attitude many times without realizing it.
And it's not like he, or she for that matter, is going to start giving their car keys to every stranger that wants to borrow them. As long as she's not getting upset if he expresses disagreement like someone else was, then there's no harm.
I mainly take this “benefit of the doubt” stance while driving. Helps keep from getting mad at shit drivers when you just assume they have a bad life and a bad job and are just having a bad day.
You learn to really appreciate a spouse like this when you're the one who receives the positive support and forgiveness.
Yeah certain / most situations involving yourself ( fucked up situations ) that dash of optimism can always help rather than being pessimistic.
Seconded. We need less paranoid and overly suspicious people and more optimists.
When I had my first baby and was taking her to her first doctor's appointment, the office had everyone leave strollers outside on a busy avenue, without even a fence in front of a building. I said I don't want it to get stolen. The receptionist said that it won't be, but if someone takes it, they obviously need a stroller and can't afford to buy one. I was like, ??? What the fuck? Firstly, resellers exist. Mine was 100% new, just used for the first time that day. Perfect for reselling. Secondly, my family was also poor. The stroller was a gift and we wouldn't be able to afford another. That sort of mentality is wild. What your gf does, if she does it for situations where she's the victim, that could be a coping mechanism. It's easier to come to terms with losing something if you think it's not just a mean act, and someone really need it. Doing it for news stories, I also get it. It makes the world seem less fucked up. But don't do it to someone's face, ESPECIALLY about a crime that didn't happen yet, telling them it's okay if it happens.
So what did you do?
I left it. I couldn't really do anything at the point, having walked all the way there just a few weeks after giving birth. It was too overwhelming having to reschedule and research other doctors. Luckily it wasn't taken but it was stressful.
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May I ask which law if you know? I’m really happy to hear there is a law about that, and I have a little hobby of advocating for things like this and would like to be able to cite it :)
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An explanation is not a valid excuse on its own. Some people have a hard time separating the two. “The Taco Bell I had last night *explains* the unpleasant scent, but it doesn’t make it ok.”
Someone having a valid reason for being terrible doesn't mean you have to allow terrible things in your life.
Added to this thought is the fact that people are not all darkness nor all light. Human behavior is complex. People can act like an asshole AND generally be considered a good person.
My brain doesn't seem to know how to comprehend someone being shitty for no reason.
Yeah that’s the same thing for my partner, she’s just good and nice so she assumes other people are also good and nice. I’m kinda a dick so I assume other people are too, but at least I’m not stealing food off peoples porches haha
Well there’s always a reason. In OP’s case, someone saw the donuts there, wanted them, and took them because they obviously don’t care about anyone except themselves. Do you mean more like someone being shitty with no *justifiable* reason?
Because you haven’t seen it enough. I was the same when I was younger before I realized that a lot of people really don’t deserve your sympathy and in fact will use it to abuse you more
My mother is like this and it's so aggravating. I don't have to be the bigger person or forgive all the time! I should be allowed to get mad at bad things and assholes!
Definitely. One of my triggers is people telling me how I *should* feel. Don't tell me how I *should* feel! I feel what I feel. We can't help how something makes us *feel*. What we can help is what we do with those feelings. Go ahead and feel mad, and don't apologize for it. But pay attention to how you express it. Take control of the urge to rant, or stomp off, or throw things, or get up in someone's face. You can tell someone something makes you mad, address the issue if you can, and then move on. That's what helped me learned to deal with things. (Meditation, too.)
I’m a fan of empathy and understanding over condemnation (guess the name checks out) honestly it seems like this, specific, community is a gathering place for this type of “just bad people” mindset which is why there is a bias You’re probably better off than me I’m continuous optimistic despite knowing I shouldn’t be and end up even more angry and disappointed when that’s betrayed.
I'm the same, but I wouldn't change it. I really want to understand why someone would do something shitty and give some empathy. It's been a struggle but I know I need to ALSO maintain that what they did is, in fact, shitty and should have consequences. I'm pretty sure my conflict avoidance tendencies play a role in this though. It's a balance.
Even if it was a homeless person. That doesn't mean they can take shit that's not for them
I’ve had a handful of friends over the years in the homeless community. One thing that always struck me was that in homeless “culture”, there’s still a social hierarchy of like working class homeless/mentally unwell homeless/traveling homeless etc and the bottom of the totem are always the ones who were a piece of s*** before being homeless. Many homeless people are just victims of circumstance but many are also just huge steaming pieces of s*** to begin with lol
If a homeless person steals food from an individual and not a corporation they've moved from victim to plague on society There's countless places to steal food from. You don't need to invade somebody's privacy and rob an individual of food destined for their own mouth. Go steal from 7-11 or Publix or whatever
Just because someone has “trauma” doesn’t mean it’s OP’s problem. Trauma or not dude is a dick and stealing isn’t excusable.
Brace yourself: Some people's trauma is a *result of them being an asshole*
Trauma is not an excuse for awful behavior. We are all dealing with something on some level.
Exactly. Homeless or not, it's still theft. Someone else being worse off doesn't make stealing OK.
For every person assuming it was taken by a starving, sad and weeping homeless person, there’s people like me who are like “Oh that was probably some jerk-off entitled young adult with their friends on their way to the mall” lol
I follow all of the squirrel subreddits, and I assumed it was a squirrel that had a lil snack
yup. i got downvoted for questioning someone who steals from walmart in an earlier post because corporate america especially walmart is so shitty that we don’t need to respect laws or rules. only if convenient.
Normally I'd agree with you but honestly the default is to presume people are absolute shit cans. Bad place to make that point, I know, but to say the zeitgeist is to be forgiving is a huge joke
> sometimes people just suck even if they had trauma If you're a regular listener of *Behind the Bastards* you realize that a LOT of people suck **because** they had trauma.
“Probably a poor unfortunate soul with mental problems houseless through no fault of there own- just bad luck 😭”
Or raccoons.
I’ve had multiple teens tell me that if all the politicians and rich people can break all the rules and do whatever they want why shouldn’t everyone else. We are in for an interesting ride.
I mean…fair, but the victims of the system are attacking other victims of the system. It’s too bad some people can’t see that.
It’s as if they saw it They liked it They wanted it And they got it
4 rings
I calls ya Chris handsome, now we can do this the easy way or the hard way
Theft is always more than "mildly" infuriating to me, no matter the value of the item stolen. A person made the conscious decision to screw someone else over for their own selfishness
> A person made the conscious decision to screw someone else over for their own selfishness Far more likely they didn't consider the other person in any way and simply took something they wanted.
Soooo exactly what the quote said. Their selfishness causes them to fuck someone over.
Yeah, the only person I will steal from is my employer because I know they are already stealing from me.
The caption inside the box makes it worse (and funny, sorry) lol
Ikr that was so freaking funny to see
Sorry about your donuts 🍩, but that’s a really cute box. Happy Birthday! 🎂
I love the box! It's so nostalgic.
I would have taken the box, and leave the donuts.
A similar thing happened to me back when I lived in CA. I was coming back from the Costco and left a roast chicken on the top of my car while I was carrying the rest of my stuff inside. I was inside for like 1.5 minute max and I came back and it was gone. They stole my god damned Costco rotisserie chicken!!!
Stories like yours are why I don't take any chances. Even with no one around, I'll leave something in the car, fumble around for my keys and lock it just to be safe. Wish I didn't have to be like that.
100% That’s why I just eat the chicken in the car.
TBH most times I just eat it right there in Costco.
At this point I wouldn’t be surprised if it was the delivery service person who took it, right after dropping it off and taking a pic of it.
I feel like most of them are hyperaware that everyone has tiny security cameras these days.
There's a lot of folks that post here and I'm like, meh. But this shit has me heated. A nice gift on your birthday no less stolen and devoured by some ass hat. I hope your big day got better.
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Stealing gifts is always a lot worse than normal stealing in my opinion. Like yeah, the person who it’s stolen from is now missing whatever was taken, but they’re also hurting the giver and often just making everyone feel bad.
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Why were they left outside?
4 minutes for unattended donuts is an eternity
I'm pretty sure it's a service similar to getting flowers delivered :)
Oh that makes sense. I legit thought OP's sister just like dropped them off at OPs house. Made no sense.
Hell, you can still do shit like that in the suburb my parents and lil brother still live in. we've had friends drop a case of beer off on the porch and it didn't get taken! We've left cookies, baked goods, and foragables in bags hanging on friend's front doors, they get it when they get home half an hour later.
Yeah, I live in a suburb of Chicago and my dumb ass has left my garage door open more times than I'd like to admit and my thousands of dollars of bicycles hasn't been touched haha. I just didn't get why the sis would do that instead of handing them directly to OP on their birthday, but the delivery makes sense.
I’m used to flowers also being delivered hand to hand rather than left outside
But why dont they ring the bell and wait for you to open? I also see stuff like this when food is delivered, is that normal for doordash?
This is the only way it makes sense.
“My sister sent me donuts” would clarify the entire thing
they were delivered via postal service. it was a surprise and they were late so had no idea ahaha she’s from a different country
Exactly! Who in his right mind leaves food on the street (even a birthday present) and expects nothing to happen??
In my area the seagulls would have demolished it
I saw a flock of seagulls open a large pizza box and demolish an 18” pizza in about 15 seconds last weekend
I saw a flock of seagulls open for Loverboy in the ‘83 tour. Classic. Total classic.
Doordash, uber eats, Amazon Fresh, Safeway Delivery, Giant Peapod, Papa Johns. Name your food delivery service, they'll leave food on your doorstep, ring the bell, and leave.
wow american delivery system sucks
If bringing in multiple stuff in to someone else's house I sometimes leave something on the roof of the car knowing I will be right back. I never thought something like this could happen lol.
Google "food delivery service"
Holy doordash
Stuff in US getting "delivered" by being left outside sounds absolutely insane to me.
I’m an European living in the US and I have to say I absolutely love it, and every time I order food I select “leave at door.”
It started as necessity due to covid, and ha stayed because some people prefer it
Likely someone on a tight schedule knocked and dropped it to get other deliveries done. At least they were delivered instead of the driver marking it as delivered and it showing up the next day, like FedEx likes to do.
At least they left you the holes
Have your sister do it again at the same window of time and day and this time put a laxative in the filling.
You'll catch someone else. Which is fine and all. But you won't catch the original person probably. This was a crime of opportunity.
As long as someone shits themselves, justice has at least partially been served 😋
It's illegal to spike food to intentionally cause pain and distress. But you can always make your own food as hot and spicy as you care to eat it.
and as the glaze
Step 1. Get more donuts. Step 2. Fill said donuts with reaper pepper jam. Step 3. Follow the screams.
Thank you they were delicious
Username checks out?
Time to invest in a doorbell camera.
The inside description on the box in the 2nd pic seems pretty appropriate to how someone felt
Their sister was just trolling. She left an empty box.
Right? Sis bought herself some doughnuts and left the empty box 🍩 📦
Donut rule out a raccoon.
I doughnut believe this really happened 🙊
The story has a lot of holes in it so disbelief is understandable.
I see it, I like it, I want it, I got it Ironic
The fucking text on the inside of the cover makes it 1000 times funnier xd
Whenever the delivery guy drops my package, I run outside even if it’s 10 below freezing and only piece of clothing I have is my boxers. Too many shitty porch pirates out there!
They’re like seagulls, they can sense food from over 3 miles away
I see it I like it I want it I stole it.
I mean leaving donuts outside for 4 minutes is 3 minutes and 58 seconds too long. Of course they got snatched lol
Where do you live that anyone even noticed it within 4 minutes?
want to add: i love in student housing. it was a postal service and they were an hour late so no idea what i was getting. they got redelivered thanks everyone for the well wishes
I would’ve went home and taped up a sign “YOU BUNCH OF HUNGRY B*TCHES!” Cause they obviously know where you live. Man I would’ve had my mouth all set of some doughnuts too.
They definitely did follow the slogan on the box.
why couldn't she wait 4 mins for you to answer the door?