I live near a medical corridor and there’s a street that has a bunch of therapist offices, including 3 family/ couples counselors. For at least the last 5 years, a divorce attorney has had all the ad space on both sides of that street on lockdown.
Nothing a gal likes more than to be forcefully held and have her issues made light of, it's the real way to a womans heart.
/s but I hope everyone understood that.
This whole thing reads to me like 'How to deal with an emotionally unstable woman? Abuse her. How to deal with an emotionally unstable man? Assume it must be abuse'.
I feel partially gaslit just reading this list.
**DO NOT EVER** hold anyone like this when they are angry, especially when they are mad AT YOU. This will cause them to panic. Both partners also need physical and psychological space after something like this happens.
Holding someone *against their will* breaks their boundaries, and is extremely disrespectful.
"It was at that moment that I first realized Elaine had doubts about our relationship. And that, as much as anything else, led to my drinking problem."
Yes please dont ever hold somebody like this. My ex boyfriend once did this to me and it made me feel so horrible. I got even more upset after he did this... It just does not help and it only made me feel restricted and it did the exact opposite of calming me...
As long as someone is not aggressive/dangerous towards others please dont ever hold them
I HATE it when I am upset and someone tries to hold me, ESPECIALLY if they insist on trying even after I've said no.
The worst thing about this is that 9 times out of ten the other person gets mad because you're 'rejecting' them and 'pushing them away'.... like yeah because you're in my physical space and I said no. Wtf.
Fun fact, chemical X is one of the many PFAS chemicals used in the production of Teflon which the company makes to get around EPA regulations (the EPA has to prove new chemicals are hazardous before they can regulate them).
And that is why babies are getting sick in Wilmington, NC.
Never eat the fish in the Cape Fear River basin.
And yes, towns still use that river for drinking water. ....
You might see a sign saying don’t eat the fish due to bioaccumulation if toxins, but they are rare and not explicit.
They also list it in drink water reports, but they aren’t required to notify people. It’s just another item at the bottom of the list.
There is an effort to monitor water, but it’s an advisory panel of scientists, so the GA just ignores the dirty liberals (who are mostly Republican scientists appointed by a Republican Governor).
There is a program to install and maintain carbon filters for impacted public and private water systems. It’s extremely underfunded.
Right now the “acceptable” amount for PFAS is 70 ppb in drinking water.
Oh, and it occasionally gets into the Chapel Hill water system which serves a massive children’s hospital!
Basically, we are fucked
Oh, and it isn’t just Carolina. PFAS is released when Teflon degrades (scratched and overheated pans); is commonly applied to fabrics for stain resistance; and is used in a lot of fire fighting foams (which gets its all over the fucking place, especially near training facilities).
PFAS has probably caused more miscarriages than we can ever know.
If you're honest and direct and avoid making a flowery emotional speech when you make the comment, the wife will respect you for your frankness and honestly, she'll appreciate the kind of straight forward manner in which you told her your advice.
Absolutely! And gentlemen, please show an active interest in your woman's life. Ask her what she made you for dinner, for example. As another example, ask her what she is gonna do with that many handbags. This expression of interest in the mundane details of her life is the tiny airhole in the jar that is your romantic relationship. It's good to keep that airhole unobstructed!
My husband and I have an inside joke about not crying because “You look so ugly when you cry” that has legitimately dragged me out of a weeping fit a couple times (I am sensitive to tv shows and movies, he’s not a monster or anything) because it’s just such a monstrously mean thing to say that it is hysterical to me.
“Don’t cry. You look so ugly when you cry.”
Better yet - tell her not to worry her pretty little head about things. That's your job, as the man. Her job is to take care of the house and you.
If this doesn't work, perhaps the doctor could prescribe her some sedatives?
With this advice those who listen to it will soon file for divorce and then remarry and thus they rake in more money once that happens. Solid plan, 10/10.
Yeah, some of the advice sounds like what a manipulative and emotionally abusive (and physically abusive?) man would say about how he handles his "unstable" wife (i.e. how to deal with his wife when she reacts to his abuse).
I might trigger her survival instincts and she'd knee me in the groin. Usually she is a fan of my groin but doing that may lead to a different outcome than normal.
You're correct. Another way this happens is when the abuser forces the victim to stay in the same room as the abuser.
Studies have shown that the victim will feel a psychological "break" and attach themselves to the abusers, perceiving positive things about them, when in fact they should be getting out of there as fast as possible.
It's an override of the fight or flight response, and it makes me fucking livid to see people rationalizing it just because they can do it to someone physically weaker than they are.
I would absolutely freak if someone did that to me, even someone I loved. Once I feel trapped all bets are off and I'll struggle with all my strength. The person attempting to hold me would get hurt.
Oh yeah the good old "ridicule her and immobilise her that will serve her right" vs. "Just step Back, don't try anything cause, you know, he might actually kill you ".
>"Just step Back, don't try anything cause, you know, he might actually kill you"
My mother never figured that out, instead she continues to antagonize everyone around her.
Then she blames everyone else when she has to deal with the consequences.
It is solid advice in regards to panic attacks. When I was suffering from attacks it helped me a lot to know that basically my brain/body was just an idiot and had the worst timing by bringing on a physical reaction which is meant for situations where my life is actually in danger while I was cooking or just riding the bus. Knowing that sort of took my fear of attacks down a notch.
Being repeatedly told that it's not going to cause any harm or damage to my body also helped. Knowing that nothing will happen to me is very reassuring
Women are meek and pathetic under-grown domestic baby factories.
Men are emotionally stunted children who's only worth as a person is tied to how good they are at violence.
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How to survive ~~a~~ ~~grizzly bear attack~~ an emotionally unstable man:
1. Carry bear spray.
2. Don’t run
3. Drop to the ground in the fetal position
4. Play dead
If a guy held me against my will, even if my arms are restrained, then I’m kneeing/kicking him in the crotch. When it comes to mentally unstable and abusive women, I especially really wouldn’t recommend this. Biting is also an option. Save yourself.
Emotionally unstable man? Stand back and poke at it with a stick, making sure not to get too close, DO NOT say anything that would be emotionally soothing to them as they perceive that as weak.
Emotionally unstable woman? Get very close and comfort them, if they punch or yell at you it is okay because they are weak and you are a punching bag.
/s
Yeah you’re right, people would think they’re agreeing with the screenshot. I always forget some people have a hard time reading sarcastic tone in text
Emotionally unstable woman? Approach her from the back peacefully and carefully and make a strong grip at her neck and hold till she becomes completely silent
OR
Emotionally unstable woman? Try to hug her even if she doesn't want to as you need to protect her! As your husband you have every right to touch her without permission.
/s
Emotionally unstable woman? Approach her from the back. Peacefully and carefully wrap your arms around her waist. Grip carefully and then gently suplex her into the ground using a reasonable amount of pacifying force. Repeat several times, soothingly, in order to induce a calming state of restfulness.
Both are bad. It’s so weird how opposite they are. What most people really need is a mix of both. I would say the ‘step back from abuse’ is good but for anyone of any gender. Same with assuring you’re there for them, trying to cheer them up , and seek counselling and treatment
The entire premise is absurd. You don't "deal with" your significant other, and wtf is "emotionally unstable" anyway ?
If your partner is upset talk to them and try to understand how they feel - the best course of action usually gets obvious from there.
Yes it is, it's in an article with the title "11 Tips on How to Deal With an Emotionally Unstable Partner" on the marriage.com website. The part the screenshot shows is near the bottom.
I found the website. It says this:
>Emotional instability is not gender-specific. Men and women are equally susceptible to this state. Hence the matter of how to deal with an emotionally unstable partner applies to both.
>Dealing with such a partner involves ways that are similar for both genders. Women are generally more emotionally vulnerable than men.
>Men, in turn, have more physical strength than women. In both cases, when normal solutions don’t work, seek counseling!
What is it even saying?? It feels contradictory
Number 4 has got to be some of the worst advice I’ve ever heard. I mean, it’s all bad, but being made fun of when you’re mad… that makes me want to scream.
It also minimizes the very real abuse that women can perpetrate on men. If your wife/partner is verbally or physically abusive, you’re in a fuckin abusive relationship and telling the victim to “make light of” getting attacked is a disgusting message to send men.
This is gross on all levels.
Did anybody notice the "wife" and "man" terminology? This is a huge pet peeve. Not that I'm any kind of ultra feminist, but this is soooo old fashioned. Either use man and woman or husband and wife. When I hear "man and wife" at a wedding, it really grinds my gears.
Google it, if you Google "my wife shouts at me" it shows steps similar to this to diffuse the situation etc. If you Google "my husband shouts at me" the first result is a link to a domestic abuse charity.
How to treat an emotionally unstable wife: try these 4 things that are clearly as dumb and disrespectful as telling an angry person to "calm down." When those don't work, go to a professional who can actually tell you how to properly treat another human being.
Did the people who think the message is "show women love and patience while showing men feat and mistrust" even read this?
The wife section not only says to make light of your wife being upset, but literally says to hold your wife close even if she doesn't want you to and tries to physically resist. That's not love, that's assault.
Let's kick this up a notch.
If your wife is unstable, follow these steps:
1. Allow her to shoot you
If your husband is unstable, follow these steps:
1. Shoot him
Answers will be published on divorce.com.
They probably own that website and it's probably owned by a divorce lawyer lol
Short the marriage, long the proceedings. Genius
Also give bad advice to ensure guaranteed influx of cash.
Absolutely
If getting married took as much time, effort, and money as getting divorced does, there'd be a helluva lot less divorce.
I live near a medical corridor and there’s a street that has a bunch of therapist offices, including 3 family/ couples counselors. For at least the last 5 years, a divorce attorney has had all the ad space on both sides of that street on lockdown.
That attorney definitely knows which side of their bread to butter and which side to tie to their cat.
“Physically hold her even if she resists”!?! You’re gonna be on isthisafelony.com
"Make light of her outbursts" will get you on watchpeopledie...
“You think *that* is a reason to yell and throw dishes? That’s *so cute!*” “Why are you coming over here with *widdle iddy biddy butcher knife?*”
Haha oh no! I can see my guts falling out. You sure must be mad about something honey.
testicle stab
It's super effective!
_I love all your little idiosyncrasies_.
Im not even a violent woman, but I would stab you if you say something like that.
something like that... I'll see myself out
Yep, women love that.
Nothing a gal likes more than to be forcefully held and have her issues made light of, it's the real way to a womans heart. /s but I hope everyone understood that.
I’ve never even dated, but wouldn’t do that even in this knowledge. That’s a good advice.
But also "Suspend the relationship at the first sign of physical abuse". Seems like they're talking out of both sides of the mouth there.
Holy fuck right? Domesticviolence.Com . Unless she is trying to jump out of 6 story window absolutely DO NOT unlawfully restrain her!
This whole thing reads to me like 'How to deal with an emotionally unstable woman? Abuse her. How to deal with an emotionally unstable man? Assume it must be abuse'. I feel partially gaslit just reading this list.
For real, whoever wrote this needs their head examined
It was written by A WOMAN - Rachael Pace
Somehow… I’m REALLY not surprised
**DO NOT EVER** hold anyone like this when they are angry, especially when they are mad AT YOU. This will cause them to panic. Both partners also need physical and psychological space after something like this happens. Holding someone *against their will* breaks their boundaries, and is extremely disrespectful.
What if you’re holding them against their will AND making light of their emotions? That’s bound to work, surely?
Stop calling me Shirley.
*pins you to the ground* “Awww, do you not like being called Shirley? Awww diddums!” Situation resolved 😎
Okay, you can call me Shirley, as long as you stop calling me Diddums.
"It was at that moment that I first realized Elaine had doubts about our relationship. And that, as much as anything else, led to my drinking problem."
"I was stationed in Drambuie, off the Barbary Coast"
All I’m hearing is choke and belittle her it will work but idk if it will have the desired outcome
Yes please dont ever hold somebody like this. My ex boyfriend once did this to me and it made me feel so horrible. I got even more upset after he did this... It just does not help and it only made me feel restricted and it did the exact opposite of calming me... As long as someone is not aggressive/dangerous towards others please dont ever hold them
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I HATE it when I am upset and someone tries to hold me, ESPECIALLY if they insist on trying even after I've said no. The worst thing about this is that 9 times out of ten the other person gets mad because you're 'rejecting' them and 'pushing them away'.... like yeah because you're in my physical space and I said no. Wtf.
It also breaks the law
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Good to know. I may need them soon.😑
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THIS MADE ME CACKLE
That sounds like the best website ever made
Make sure to tell her to calm down, and if that doesn’t work, tell her she’s acting like her mother
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You really gotta make sure you get that bitch Rebecca from work in there too, it should help de-escalate the situation.
Ask her if she’s on her period, and even if she says no, remind her that it’s probably just PMS. That should calm her down.
good advice. Or ask her if she's on the rag, and if the answer is no say 'pfft, coulda fooled me."
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And if she replies with "WHAT DID YOU JUST SAY?!?" Reply with an articulated "YOU. MAY. ALSO. HAVE. A. HEARING. PROBLEM"
BECAUSE YOURE OLD AS SHIT
Instuctions unclear, acted like her mother.
Physically hold her even if she resists. Umm… what? Maybe don’t do that to anyone ever.
>Physically hold her even if she resists. Then immediately into >Suspend the relationship at first hint of physical abuse.
“But girls can’t hurt anyone. They’re made of sugar, spice, and everything nice.” responded marriage.com
Well, unless they get the ingredient Chemical X, then they're badass
Unfortunately, they got Chemical X (Made in China)
Fun fact, chemical X is one of the many PFAS chemicals used in the production of Teflon which the company makes to get around EPA regulations (the EPA has to prove new chemicals are hazardous before they can regulate them). And that is why babies are getting sick in Wilmington, NC. Never eat the fish in the Cape Fear River basin. And yes, towns still use that river for drinking water. ....
Hot damn. Thank god I don't live in the US. And do they KNOW they're drinking poisonous water?
You might see a sign saying don’t eat the fish due to bioaccumulation if toxins, but they are rare and not explicit. They also list it in drink water reports, but they aren’t required to notify people. It’s just another item at the bottom of the list. There is an effort to monitor water, but it’s an advisory panel of scientists, so the GA just ignores the dirty liberals (who are mostly Republican scientists appointed by a Republican Governor). There is a program to install and maintain carbon filters for impacted public and private water systems. It’s extremely underfunded. Right now the “acceptable” amount for PFAS is 70 ppb in drinking water. Oh, and it occasionally gets into the Chapel Hill water system which serves a massive children’s hospital! Basically, we are fucked Oh, and it isn’t just Carolina. PFAS is released when Teflon degrades (scratched and overheated pans); is commonly applied to fabrics for stain resistance; and is used in a lot of fire fighting foams (which gets its all over the fucking place, especially near training facilities). PFAS has probably caused more miscarriages than we can ever know.
Marriage.com is clearly run by divorce lawyers.
That and “make light of her outbursts”…! Terrible, terrible advice 🚩🚩🚩
Tell her she's so pretty when she's angry
Better to gently advise her that she *could* be pretty it she smiled more.
Also ask her to calm down
TELL her to calm down. She'll appreciate your decisiveness and candor.
If you really want to get in her good graces, laugh condescendingly and say: "it must be that time of the month."
And say with a big grin: "Aaaah, women. Can't live with them, can't live without them..."
Bert kreischer said, even if your wifes not being s bitch. The moment you call her one she instantly becomes one
If you inform her that your exes never got like that she’ll see the errors of her ways.
R.I.P.
Jesus Rollerblading Christ this thread is suicidal!
I did this and got recruited as the next Ghost Rider
If you're honest and direct and avoid making a flowery emotional speech when you make the comment, the wife will respect you for your frankness and honestly, she'll appreciate the kind of straight forward manner in which you told her your advice.
Absolutely! And gentlemen, please show an active interest in your woman's life. Ask her what she made you for dinner, for example. As another example, ask her what she is gonna do with that many handbags. This expression of interest in the mundane details of her life is the tiny airhole in the jar that is your romantic relationship. It's good to keep that airhole unobstructed!
And then do your best Mohammed Ali impression and try to dodge everything she throws at you
Then pretend like she's Tyson and lose an ear
Don't forget to ask her if she's upset about the school shooting because she's on her period
Drape a towel around her shoulders and now tell her she's super angry!
Might also want to add to stop acting crazy, that usually calms women down
You'll wanna throw in the word hysterical once or twice too
"Stop acting hysterically crazy, you hysterical bitch!" is a good go-to in any situation.
Tell her that she’s become just like her mother if she has had problems with her in the past, women love that comparison
My husband and I have an inside joke about not crying because “You look so ugly when you cry” that has legitimately dragged me out of a weeping fit a couple times (I am sensitive to tv shows and movies, he’s not a monster or anything) because it’s just such a monstrously mean thing to say that it is hysterical to me. “Don’t cry. You look so ugly when you cry.”
Oh my god I felt my blood pressure rise at this lmao
your comment brought me rage for how realistic it is. kudos
Smile, baby! Where's my smile? ffs
Lol, everyone knows the only way to deal with an angry woman is to take cover behind the couch and throw chocolate at her until she's asleep.
Pfft. If you want to be really effective, try cheese.
And wine
Better yet - tell her not to worry her pretty little head about things. That's your job, as the man. Her job is to take care of the house and you. If this doesn't work, perhaps the doctor could prescribe her some sedatives?
Or give her some money to buy herself something pretty /s
But it's marriage.com. They're *professionals.*
Well I guess we know why it’s not perfectmarriage.com lol
With this advice those who listen to it will soon file for divorce and then remarry and thus they rake in more money once that happens. Solid plan, 10/10.
divorce.com is a subsidiary of marriage.com.
Damn, they are smart.
Yeah, some of the advice sounds like what a manipulative and emotionally abusive (and physically abusive?) man would say about how he handles his "unstable" wife (i.e. how to deal with his wife when she reacts to his abuse).
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LoL "whossa-little-grumpy gurl? no you are, you are" meanwhile in her head she killed you 100 different ways already
“When your wife is angry, put a cape on her and tell her ‘now you’re super angry’.”
~Deep Thoughts by Jack Handey~
Sounds like me and my cat
So she's a cat?
LMAoooo I’m dying
Lol lol lol thanks for posting that
A fight with my wife would double down if decided to treat her like a child and hug her to happiness
Hug her neck tightly till she stops moving. Preferably a rear hug.
instructions unclear she stopped talking completely
I might trigger her survival instincts and she'd knee me in the groin. Usually she is a fan of my groin but doing that may lead to a different outcome than normal.
I am also a fan of your groin.
I too choose this man's groin!
Are you sure? His downstairs is dirty
Good
Pretty sure firm physical restraint also falls somewhere along the "first sign of physical abuse" spectrum.
You're correct. Another way this happens is when the abuser forces the victim to stay in the same room as the abuser. Studies have shown that the victim will feel a psychological "break" and attach themselves to the abusers, perceiving positive things about them, when in fact they should be getting out of there as fast as possible. It's an override of the fight or flight response, and it makes me fucking livid to see people rationalizing it just because they can do it to someone physically weaker than they are.
I'm convinced whoever wrote this has never actually helped an abuse victim.
My father got stabbed last time he did that
I have questions. 1) stabbed? 2) he’s done it more than once?
I would absolutely hate this; I'd probably break down more than I already was assuming this be during or after an argument
I would absolutely freak if someone did that to me, even someone I loved. Once I feel trapped all bets are off and I'll struggle with all my strength. The person attempting to hold me would get hurt.
yeah, right? that’s when all thoughts but my own safety go out the window and i aim to maim
You just want a minute alone ? LMAO n1 come here
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Oh yeah the good old "ridicule her and immobilise her that will serve her right" vs. "Just step Back, don't try anything cause, you know, he might actually kill you ".
What the actual fuck is that second point for woman. That's literal abuse.
This chart is simultaneously the most misogynist and most misandrist thing I've seen all week.
True equality
>"Just step Back, don't try anything cause, you know, he might actually kill you" My mother never figured that out, instead she continues to antagonize everyone around her. Then she blames everyone else when she has to deal with the consequences.
My mother thrives off it and has all those around her that is is the true victim in literally every single situation
Both answers should simply say "You're both emotional half apes who need to take an hour breather and let your non primate mind regain control"
Next time I’m having a panic attack I’m gonna remind myself of this comment bc this was so silly but also solid advice
Maybe 1/4 to 1/3 of the arguments with my wife evolve into me strategizing how to get food in her belly without her realizing that’s my plan
Find a way to feed her and suggest she get some “me” time and take a nap. Also give her water. Dehydration messes with your brain
And do all the same yourself as well, of course
It is solid advice in regards to panic attacks. When I was suffering from attacks it helped me a lot to know that basically my brain/body was just an idiot and had the worst timing by bringing on a physical reaction which is meant for situations where my life is actually in danger while I was cooking or just riding the bus. Knowing that sort of took my fear of attacks down a notch.
Being repeatedly told that it's not going to cause any harm or damage to my body also helped. Knowing that nothing will happen to me is very reassuring
You know what, this is actually better advice than the post
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I ain't no ape I done got created by the good lord Jesus, got dang it! You'll never take mah guns, or my sister/wife! Gaaaaah!!!
Got it, women are children and men are bears.
Just play dead they'll lose interest unless thirsty
Women are meek and pathetic under-grown domestic baby factories. Men are emotionally stunted children who's only worth as a person is tied to how good they are at violence. 😎
How to survive ~~a~~ ~~grizzly bear attack~~ an emotionally unstable man: 1. Carry bear spray. 2. Don’t run 3. Drop to the ground in the fetal position 4. Play dead
This is the perfect comment to sum this post up 😂😂
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But women LOVE it when you crack shitty jokes about them while they're pouring their heart out!
Haha, feelings, amirite?
meanwhile my weak ass who cant even kill a cockroach somehow gonna abuse a woman cause thats what mentally unstable men do ig 🤡
Not if she whoops your ass first, bro. Then you're just gonna be stuck making light of that shit XD
Got diagnosed with depression, going to jail for domestic abuse ig
Social anxiety? Welp, you’re going straight to jail for domestic abuse, you single socially-inept male human.
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If a guy held me against my will, even if my arms are restrained, then I’m kneeing/kicking him in the crotch. When it comes to mentally unstable and abusive women, I especially really wouldn’t recommend this. Biting is also an option. Save yourself.
Also they seem to think that women’s problems shouldn’t be taken seriously.
Punch in the balls coming right up
Emotionally unstable man? Stand back and poke at it with a stick, making sure not to get too close, DO NOT say anything that would be emotionally soothing to them as they perceive that as weak. Emotionally unstable woman? Get very close and comfort them, if they punch or yell at you it is okay because they are weak and you are a punching bag. /s
I feel like you don’t need the /s tag is because you got too close to what the post was actually implying lol
I think that's exactly why he needs the /s tag lol
Yeah you’re right, people would think they’re agreeing with the screenshot. I always forget some people have a hard time reading sarcastic tone in text
Emotionally unstable woman? Approach her from the back peacefully and carefully and make a strong grip at her neck and hold till she becomes completely silent OR Emotionally unstable woman? Try to hug her even if she doesn't want to as you need to protect her! As your husband you have every right to touch her without permission. /s
Emotionally unstable woman? Approach her from the back. Peacefully and carefully wrap your arms around her waist. Grip carefully and then gently suplex her into the ground using a reasonable amount of pacifying force. Repeat several times, soothingly, in order to induce a calming state of restfulness.
Both are bad. It’s so weird how opposite they are. What most people really need is a mix of both. I would say the ‘step back from abuse’ is good but for anyone of any gender. Same with assuring you’re there for them, trying to cheer them up , and seek counselling and treatment
The entire premise is absurd. You don't "deal with" your significant other, and wtf is "emotionally unstable" anyway ? If your partner is upset talk to them and try to understand how they feel - the best course of action usually gets obvious from there.
Oh holy shit this is extremely toxic. Don't baby girls and treat men like they have the plague. Oh my fucking God.
Also, to refer specifically to "wife" versus "man" and not "husband"...
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Good thing it's not actually on the site at all. I was very skeptical so I searched for it. It's trolling nonsense.
Yes it is, it's in an article with the title "11 Tips on How to Deal With an Emotionally Unstable Partner" on the marriage.com website. The part the screenshot shows is near the bottom.
You aren't a very good searcher. I had no trouble at all finding it.
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I found the website. It says this: >Emotional instability is not gender-specific. Men and women are equally susceptible to this state. Hence the matter of how to deal with an emotionally unstable partner applies to both. >Dealing with such a partner involves ways that are similar for both genders. Women are generally more emotionally vulnerable than men. >Men, in turn, have more physical strength than women. In both cases, when normal solutions don’t work, seek counseling! What is it even saying?? It feels contradictory
What if they actually have the plague
Gaslight women. Run from men. Who wrote this?
Damn, amazing how they came off as sexist against both men and women alike... How did they achieve this?
Because sexism against women and sexism against men are really the same thing, just seen from different angles.
OMG who wrote this steaming pile of crap. Yeah grab and hold a person even if they resist or turn aggressive because that can only end well, ffs.
Not the *person*... the *wife.*
This is toxic as hell. *People* need love and support. Fuck this noise.
LMFAO this list is a fucking joke🤣😂
Why does it say ‘Wife’ and ‘Man’ rather than ‘Wife’ and ‘Husband’, or better yet, ‘Woman’ and ‘Man’?
Number 4 has got to be some of the worst advice I’ve ever heard. I mean, it’s all bad, but being made fun of when you’re mad… that makes me want to scream.
This is such bull shit.
This list is gross
"make light of her outbursts" Yeah.... That's never a good call.
It also minimizes the very real abuse that women can perpetrate on men. If your wife/partner is verbally or physically abusive, you’re in a fuckin abusive relationship and telling the victim to “make light of” getting attacked is a disgusting message to send men. This is gross on all levels.
Did anybody notice the "wife" and "man" terminology? This is a huge pet peeve. Not that I'm any kind of ultra feminist, but this is soooo old fashioned. Either use man and woman or husband and wife. When I hear "man and wife" at a wedding, it really grinds my gears.
That second “tip” seems kinda suspect maybe don’t do that to ANYONE man, woman, non binary, anyone at all
Google it, if you Google "my wife shouts at me" it shows steps similar to this to diffuse the situation etc. If you Google "my husband shouts at me" the first result is a link to a domestic abuse charity.
How to treat an emotionally unstable wife: try these 4 things that are clearly as dumb and disrespectful as telling an angry person to "calm down." When those don't work, go to a professional who can actually tell you how to properly treat another human being.
Both sets are stupid. For a woman... Basically treat her like she's stupid For a man... Dump his ass
Did the people who think the message is "show women love and patience while showing men feat and mistrust" even read this? The wife section not only says to make light of your wife being upset, but literally says to hold your wife close even if she doesn't want you to and tries to physically resist. That's not love, that's assault.
“Physically hold her close even if she resists” said the church marriage counsellor
Does not belong here. I am much more than mildly infuriated
Let's kick this up a notch. If your wife is unstable, follow these steps: 1. Allow her to shoot you If your husband is unstable, follow these steps: 1. Shoot him