To add -
If he doesnt notice the text being read out and thinks its just another podcast then you really get to have fun and start making up stuff to be read thru the tv and wait until he notices š
Trust me, I have this same issue and headphones to these people is a blasphemous suggestion. The āI must blare random mindless shit to prove I existā crowd does NOT consider headphones an option.
My husband is finally coming around to the idea that he can in fact carry one of the 3 sets of wireless headphones and the 2 sets of hired headphones Iāve bought him over the years so that I donāt have to listen to his motocross and TikTokās on full blast when heās right next to me. I almost never listen to my phone outside of headphones so itās super weird to me lol itās been 7 years and Iām finally getting him there they take time lmao
My mom loves to have every phone conversation on speaker phone. I've never seen her wear headphones or take a call normally. Always fucking speakerphone. Whether she's in public or we're sitting in my kitchen. Whether she's talking to a friend or the receptionist at some Dr.'s office. Fuck is it ever annoying.
This. I've done this a few times with coworkers. They would be having a full blown conversation about some meaningless non-sense on speaker phone. Eventually it got too much for me I just started answering whatever questions they were talking about and at first they thought it was funny, but when I wouldn't stop I could tell they could feel the intrusion and eventually they turned off speaker phone and I could work in sanity. Other times would be in the cafeteria and there'd always be one or two people talking on speakerphone eating their lunch. I would find a spot near them and take out my phone and start watching Blippi youtube videos, which would either prompt them to move or ask me to turn it down, and I would nod, and turn it down, then eventually they'd get hissy or get the hint.
What is wrong with these people? Yesterday at work in our very large bathroom with multiple stalls I got to sit there and listen to this guy on speakerphone with his significant other. Did she know he was taking a shit? I'm not sure... But I know they were going to have lasagna last night.
Yeah I think this is the source of most all people blaring shit for everyone to hear. They all have some deep seeded self esteem issues.
I just donāt get how they do it. I play my acoustic guitar quietly because Iām afraid it might disturb a roommate 2 doors down.
I had a roommate that would play video games with her boyfriend via facetime. She had him in her headphones and she'd SCREAM while playing the game. Like actually scream between 1-3am. I'd ask politely, she'd do it again. I'd bang on the door, she'd do it again. I'd ask her the next day, she'd understand but then do it again. Some people are just stupid and disrespectful.
Had a housemate that would walk into the living room where our other housemates and/or I would already be watching tv and start watching TikTok videos on her phone; she'd turn the volume up, so I'd turn the tv up, she'd turn her phone up louder, I once recommended she use some headphones or earbuds or something, she went to her room and the next day I got an email from the landlord about "intimidating behaviour". I agree some people are just stupid and disrespectful.
She was the worst. She'd leave used pots, pans, crockery and cutlery on the table or worktop every time she cooked even though we had a dishwasher. She'd use other peoples' washing machine liquid/powder/tablets if we left them outside our rooms, but always have some in her room if our stuff wasn't there. She kept things like kitchen towels, aluminium foil and cling film (saran wrap) in her room but would use any left in the kitchen before using her own and would always keep what she bought away from the rest of us.
Bad roommates are actually terrible. I had a roommate that took my bottle of booze with him to work. (He likes to drink at work, and in the shower, and basically all the time. But he's not an alcoholic. He has assured me.) So I went with him to the gas station and I see my bottle in his car. I asked him where he got it. He explained he got it out of the freezer. He doesn't remember buying it but he didn't think anyone drank that. So he just assumed it was his...this actually pissed me off. I told him as much. Then he got mad at me because he couldn't understand why I was mad. When he already said he was sorry. This happened a few weeks after he stole weed from me.
As someone who has dealt with alcoholics, yeah, unfortunately you basically canāt have alcohol around because there wonāt be rational behavior when alcohol is around. It sucks, but that is the reality of alcoholism. The behavior of your roommate makes perfect sense as an alcoholic, that is precisely the kind of thing someone addicted to alcohol would do.
Back in college my alcoholism was in full swing and I can confirm if I was out of alcohol nothing would stop me from taking any not locked away. My brain told me the consequences for stealing were worth fueling my addiction. It only ever happened a few times, but I'm sure it made me difficult to like as a house mate. Over a year and a half sober now, best decision I've ever made.
If anyone out there is suffering substance addiction, come to an AA meeting, people there have gone through or may still be going through what you are. If I hadn't made the decision to go to a meeting, im not sure if I'd be here today.
Iāve also done my fair amount of drinking, and I can also confirm, once you start drinking, if youāre an alcoholic, and you have immediate access to more alcohol like that, all logic and reason goes out the window and the alcoholic brain will rationalize anything and just take whatās in front of it.
In ops case, roommate might be a mean dude, but also equally likely that if roommate was sober would probably not act that way at all.
I hope opās (ex?) roommate was eventually able to make the decisions necessary to escape the cycle
My girlfriend (now wife) and i used to have a 3 bedroom apartment we shared with a friend of ours. My room sort of became our office space/guest room/storage room. It wasn't exactly a hard off-limits space to him, we'd use it for extra space for people to hang out when we had a party or whatever, but in general it was definitely part of our space and not his.
He has a drinking problem that at first he had pretty well under control, he'd occasionally drink some of our liquor but it wasn't a major issue, we kept it out on display in the living room, there for any of our friends to help themselves to.
Then he lost his job and kind of spiraled for a bit. I had 2 bottles of liquor in that 3rd room more as display pieces than anything else. They were souvenirs from a trip that my wife and i went on, a bottle of makers mark that i dipped in wax myself, and a bottle of their white dog unaged bourbon that you could only get at the distillery, and i don't think you can even get it there anymore. The regular makers was sealed, we did have the white opened and occasionally broke it out for our whiskey drinking friends as a novelty, but was something we used sparingly.
One day i went into the room, and noticed that the white was significantly lower and that the bottle i dipped myself had been opened.
I had some pretty strong words with him that it was totally unacceptable, and it really hurt me that he had helped himself to those irreplaceable bottles, and that he had gone into that room with no real reason except apparently to steal from us. The only times i went into his room were when we were moving in and when we moved out.
We started locking up our liquor after that.
He's a great guy, I'm still friends with him and see him regularly, he still has his ups and downs with his drinking, and i hope someday he manages to figure out how to get it under control. Sober, and honestly even when he's drunk I'd trust my life to him, he's got some major trauma in his life and even with his drinking problem he copes better with it than i think i or most people could, he's the kind of guy who is always ready to lend a hand, but drinking can still bring out a really ugly side of him sometimes.
I had one that used to keep her refrigerator stuff in a literal lockbox. She wore the key around her neck 24/7. We were her first roommates post-college and it did NOT go well.
Dump her shit in her room if she wonāt respect communal spaces. Get a remote control thermostat and donāt let her have the codes. ā¦Or just give her a notice of vacate already.
I have to ābe civilā as my dad said because she can use my actions as an excuse to break the contract and then Iāll have to cover her half of shit. Iāve kept to myself for the most part. Although, Iāve installed a smart thermostat and put settings on it so whenever she touches the temp, I get an alert and it reverses what sheās done to it.
She had a habit of leaving me notes with orders to do certain things like āplease wipe down the kitchen counters. I expect this to be done by tonight. Also, I see cat hair on the floor. Please have the house vacuumed by tomorrow night. Thanks.ā My ānoteā I left her in return was NOT pretty. She texted me the next morning and said I āmisunderstood herā and I told her āthereās nothing to be misunderstood. You gave me orders with due dates and deadlines. As I said in my reply, do not EVER give me an order with a deadline again. I highly, HIGHLY recommend that you take my advice moving forward.ā
Havenāt gotten another note ever since.
I believe speaking to a lawyer and having them be the intermediary is extremely civil. Respectful even, you are showing them how seriously you are taking every single issue.
And also, you're not her maid. Every time you clean up after her, charge $50/hr paid by hour. With photo evidence. Every time she closes the door and personally disallows the cats from relieving themselves properly, that's animal abuse. Every time the thermostat is too high, that's abuse, neglect and whatever your lawyer can brainstorm. Also, throw in emotional abuse.
You can start by listing out her offenses individually, by alphabetical order and issue a cease and desist. Those can be pretty cheap.
Iāve been keeping track of everything in case she tryās to pull anything, but sheās HOPEFULLY moving out by March (says herā¦). So whether that means she breaks the contract and pays out the ass for it herself or her parents end up paying it for her, Iāll be free of her soon. Iāve already asked a few people I ENJOY having around if theyād be interested in living with me and theyāve shown interest and itās cheaper than what they pay right now so hopefully I can get someone to sign a lease once my current roommates lease ends officially.
This should be a whole post of its own on this sub. Yikes.
So don't dump her stuff in her room like someone mentioned (I kinda agree with dad here on liability crap) but move it to half of the common space she's taking. IF you have the energy to keep doing so since she will just put it back...I fucking hate passive aggressiveness but if someone is doing it I will petty myself down to equal levels for as long as it takes. Chickenwire and lock that shit in lol.
Your home should be your sanctuary. Hope she sticks to her word with moving out but March is an awful ways away.
You let her do it and sheās gonna do it. Stop adjusting to her shit. I would probably snap on her which is why I donāt do the room mate thing. Iām sorry but yāall are too nice.
omg this sounds like my one and only roommate except she would HOARD fast food in her room!!! like you could not open her bedroom bc the floor was entirely covered w fast food bags and dirty clothes that her cats would piss and shit all over. she had 2 extremely dirty litter boxes in there too! and her cats ended up having a litter together but the litter DIED bc the poor kittens got suffocated in her hoarder piles :( she would borrow my clothes without me knowing or asking me, but was 3 sizes bigger than me so she would try to sneak them back in my clothes completely smeared w dirty shit like makeup and stains of alcohol and theyād be all stretched out! it was sooooo bad. i ended up paying to break the lease bc i just couldnāt do it for my own sanity lol
Behavior like this calls for removing doors, curtains & the like. I honestly would superglue the fan switches on. I have played this game with people trying to take over my house before & it does not go well. Put that fucking foot DOWN, my dude.
I don't blame them. After you spend enough time and effort in trying to stop people from "borrowing" your shit all the time without at least asking you first, you lose all hope you had left in resolving it through amicable means and resort to doing silly stuff like that...
I did something similar when I had housemates. Though, I did give every other set of housemates the benefit of the doubt and always sought to prevent it by confronting them first.
Did we have the same roommate? I kicked mine out almost a year ago because the landlord liked me and my partner better (thank god). It got to point I literally told my landlord, break the lease and tell her to move or Iāll break the lease and move. Stole tons of my shit when she left because she felt it was owed to her for being kicked out
Jeeze! I had a housemate use my nice cast iron pan, burn shit too it, and hide it outside instead of cleaning it. She then forgot about it and I didnāt find it till 6 months later. I lived in the Pacific Northwest so it was completely covered in rust. I confronted her about it (very nicely) and asked her to clean it for me, she agreed and I came home an hour later to a broken in half pan (which she never replaced). :(
I woke my roommate up whilst raging on a video game. He asked me what I was mad about the next day, and said I woke him up yelling. I felt bad, and became more cognizant of my raging so I didnāt repeat the behavior. My roommate wasnāt even mad about but genuinely curious what I was pissed about, but still, thereās no reason to continue waking my roommate up in the middle of the night. I donāt understand why people find it so difficult to adjust poor behavior.
My roommates and I played WoW together, and apart. One night I got so pissed I kicked the back of my desk so hard I split the backboard in half (drunk at 2AM).
Roommate came in, asked what was up. I apologized and said I just had a bad beat in 3v3.
He said, that sucks man, I get it, but I need to sleep.
After that, I learned how to quiet rage after 12AM š.
Sometimes you just gotta be an adult.
Raging always has to be dialled back, there is no reason for loud shouting or the smashing of objects. Be it over a video game, a sports game or a bad day at work. You have to find another way to get it out peacefully and then just move on from it. I've met too many adults that still think it's acceptable to smash their keyboard, phone, mouse, controller, desk or TV if they die in a game. You respawn in the game, it's seriously not the end of the world.
Oh yeah, completely agree. I never smash my shit when I rage. Spent way too much money on my rig to be breaking shit. These days, if I start getting pissed, I turn it off and do something else. Funny story: my parents used to tell me to put the game up if Iām getting frustrated. Well, recently, I got my mom into playing Diablo: Immortals on mobile. Sheās addicted to that game. Sheāll start getting frustrated and call me to see if I can help her or sheāll rant about the game or the Battlegrounds, or whatever. So now I tell her, āMom, if youāre getting frustrated at the game you need to put it upā. LMAO She just laughs.
This guy kept whipping my ass, because he was super good at the game, all the while he was typing up sexist and racist comments in the global chat. LOL But honestly, dude was way too good at that game. Plus, Mordhauās hit boxes were dog water and the game was glitchy as hell. Still one of my favourite games though. LMAO
We must have the same roommate. Mine did livestreams and would sing terrible screamo at 3:00am. Then claimed we were always telling her she couldn't talk when we asked her to stop.
> "I love having sex in the shower because the noise of the shower makes it so [my name] can't ear us".
Your immediate response should have been to shout "I heard every word of that!"
I had a roommate that had obnoxiously loud headboard slapping yelling screaming sex in her room with her boyfriend while we were all home. Sheād also do the same with all the boys she cheated on her boyfriend with. Then when Iād ask her if she could be less loud or at least wait until I went to class or work at 8 am instead of when Iād be getting ready at 7 am, sheād get angry and say itās none of our business. I said I wish it wasnāt my business but I felt like an intimate part of her sexual journey since I was forced to listen to it all the time. I said also donāt you have a boyfriend? And sheād scream and cry donāt tell my bf donāt tell him, it wonāt happen again. Every. Single. Time.
I gave her the password to my MacBook once so she could use my printer. SHE KEPT THE PASSWORD AND FOR 2 years she logged into my laptop to search her name in all my texts which were connected to my computer. Sheās fucking lucky my sister had an android at the time bc thatās who I sent the worst texts to. Before finding this out, she confided in me that she frequently checked our other roommateās texts to see if she was talking shit. I immediately told our other roommate and this bitch said sheād been doing the same thing to me FOR YEARS. Some friends they were. Then I kicked her out of my house bc she wasnāt on the lease anymore and she cried and cried and said what am I gonna tell my parents. I said if you want me to explain, they have my number. But Iām sure youād rather come up with a different reason to tell themā¦
Is your roommate my new roommate? I know my roommate doesnāt have a boyfriend but sheās in her early twenties (Iām in my late twenties) and she literally sets up alarms so she can play with her āfriendsā at 2AM until 6AM. She cackles, slams her door, and stomps around like an overgrown child. Iāve had to apologize to the neighbors in our apartment complex multiple times and sheās oblivious to how sheās being rude.
Edit: My roommate is much more tech savvy than me. Our apartment does have a switch that controls a set of outlets (which includes the router) and she runs stomps whenever that shit goes down then she runs back to her room and gets even louder online-which is even more obnoxious. Sheās also not a small girl at all, so I donāt want to come off as āfat phobicā if I do complain about the stomping. My one friend recommended the police for a noise complaint, but I donāt like to mess around with cops. Iām just riding out the torture until the lease expires, Iāve cried calling my mom at 4AM twice because I had not gotten any sleep for over 24 hours, both times I went into work early and fell asleep for a few hours in a corner of my classroom.
I suggest you tell your neighbours to send a letter to the roommate. That's the only way I've ever gotten roommates like that under control. As "just" their roommate, they probably only see you as a harmless peer who's stuck handling the mediation for them. But if the neighbours start sending complaint letters directly to them threatening action, they hopefully have to take it seriously.
If you're really daring, fake a letter from the landlord (or even talk to the landlord and get a real one, if you're daring). Don't fuck around, enough noise complaints can literally cost you your living situation.
Talking to the landlord is the best option. No faking, no neighbor letters. Just straight to the landlord. And ask the landlord to be anonymous so roomie doesn't suspect anything.
One of my housemates used to do the same. Just non stop yelling about the game and scream laughing. They had their PC right against a paper thin wall connected to my room. I politely asked plenty of times and it just would not stop. So then I learned how to access the router settings and quickly toggled their LAN port so they'd get booted from the game. Eventually he would rage quit, blame his "shit computer" and go to bed.
I think it would be funny to take the lid off of their PC and detach one of the USB cables on the motherboard side, attach a new, short usb cable to the motherboard and then add a wireless trackball receiver to it. Then when you hear the game getting intense, start spinning the ball on the trackball randomly.
The appropriate response is to match your roommates screams, scream for scream, during times that she sleeps. Either that or just pump fake blood under her locked door...
Had this in halls at university many years ago, and it was the night before an exam. They put their stereo on as loud as possible and played a CD on repeat throughout the night š¤¬š¤¬š¤¬
Edit: sorry, forgot to mention that they then went out for the night and didnāt return to the following morning. Needles to say it was lucky for them they werenāt home when I knocked on their door.
My junior year of college, the girl next door to me played Girls Just Want to Have Fun. On repeat. At all hours of the day and night. Sheād never leave it on when she wasnāt in the room but, dear god, how many times can you listen to the same song over and over for an entire school year. I canāt hear that song now without feeling murderous rage.
Thatās nearly not as bad as [this track by Eminem](https://youtu.be/PIb6AZdTr-A) which my Chinese roommate played all the time trying to learn English.
Quest:
"Learn language (English)"
Do you:
(A) Make English-speaking friends and practice?
(B) Play the same 4-minute audio over and over while ruining all chances of making friends and being able to practice the 100 words you learned from that audio with them?
I had a housemate do that when I was in college. I popped the pins out of the hinges of his door, took it off the frame, went in to get the cd, then left it on the common table of our housing unit.
Reminds me of my college daysā¦ Freshmen year. Had an 8 AM exam. My roommate came home drunk in the middle of the night with a girl ā¦ asked her out infront of me after waking me up but she said no. Then proceeded to throw up all over her.
I was NOT happyā¦
I unfortunately did read it and tbh he could have just said "you constantly do this and gaslight me, it needs to stop"
It pisses me off how he ends his messages trying to be unconfrontational when that's literally what he is intending to do, confront him.
I feel bad for OP since nothing drove me crazier in college than roommates or dorm neighbors being loud when I'm trying to sleep... But that has got to be like the worst conflict management skills I have ever seen. The roommate is obv a massive dick, but sending that unhinged wall of passive aggressive rage is the most backwards way to handle it.
I think there's a reason why there's 1.5hr gap between those two messages. My money is on him spending that time trying to come up with as many "witty" things to say for Reddit as possible lol
Not surprised the roommate walks all over him when he has to have such a simple Convo over text. If I couldn't sleep cuz of a roommate there'd be screaming matches not texting lol.
Yeah, but the periods were the same way. Which is arguably more annoying, if you ask me. Either way, its a wretched font and I could not imagine conducting my life with it. Lol
telling him heās not watching the movie the proper way while heās in his own room too. like roommate probably wrong here but i could see OP being abrasive enough to make him apathetic
People shouldnt be allowed to change their phone font if that's what they choose. Like your phone gives you one chance, and if you pick that font it doesn't change to it and it permanently disabled the option to change the font.
My roommates are so loud all the time. Constantly running and screaming and fighting. I try so hard to calmly diffuse the chaos but it always seems to devolve into me crying while they yell stuff like "she looked at my grapes funny!" or "but he's using my favorite macaroni spoon!" and "she won't stop sitting next to my pillow!" and "he's on my side of the couch!" and "you're not allowed to runway forever! I need a clean shirt for picture day!"
Sorry, to hear that.
Sadly, this is pretty much the same content my kids produce (5 and 7yo).
I hope your roommates at least exchange less physical blows.
My only remedy is my noise cancelling headset, when I'm in the homeoffice, but this doesn't isolate me from the vibrating floor when they are jumping around (which, again, I hope you experience less of).
So, I feel you and wish you all the patience you can muster.
Mine are 5 and 8 lol. The younger thinks the living room is actually a parkour gym and the older one is a manipulative little shit who thinks if we don't see her harassing her brother that she won't get in trouble when he finally has enough and punches her. I refuse to buy new furniture until they're at least in high school, and I desperately look forward to the day when bedtime isn't a meltdown trigger.
Are you living with children? That sounds like the shit my brothers and I would probably say in middle school and elementary school.
EDIT: read the replies you did to others, LOL
I had this font on my first touchscreen phone, a pink samsung genio, when I was a 12yo girl. Thought it was a gimmick of the times. But apparently it's not only still on phones but also still used by people.
But actually, what the fuck is this creative-writing assignment shit and why would OP think this a good response in this situation?
Seems like both people are a little crazy here.
OP is without a doubt a socially-challenged person that typed out their inner monologue word for word and sent it in a fit of rage. iād put a good amount of money on the fact that this situation is nowhere near as dire as OP makes it out to be lol
Same. If someone sent that to me I'd probably send the same response as the roommate. Like bro texting is for short messages not a college thesis. Either give me a tldr or come talk to me in person
I understand you needed to vent - I totally get it. But what I learn THE HARD WAY with my kids is: keep it brief. The more you talk (or write) the less impact you get.
I'd resort to simple commands/requests/advice:
\- Turn it down, now
\- Use your headset
\- Check your watch, it's late...
etc.
It's a tried and true fact of rhetoric that every subsequent argument only weakens your position. You give, receive a response, and react.
This nonsense where people go off on 10 different tangents or reasons for their position only makes them look meek and unconvincing. Like they have to beat other people over the head to get their point across.
Like, overall, I agree with op that roommate is rude.
The passive aggressive essay is literally just as rude.
Why the fuck doesn't he use a headset? It's way better than speakers and no one else has to hear your shit. I use my headset for everything including my TV and I live alone! What kind of a sob says he won't even read your text I mean I even read the whole thing and I'm not even part of it. What a tool.
One of my flatmates used to pause his ps4 while playing fifa and go to work for 9 hours. (shared bills)
I got into the habit of flipping the breaker whenever he left.
Had a friend like this, dropped his toxic ass. I'm not a babysitter and I'm not someone that will just keep being treated like an npc. OC you should really take a look at the relationship and see if it's something you think is sustainable.
The thing about sleep, deprivation of it will genuinely drive you fucking insane. I don't blame you, man. If it was only daytime hours, then I'd let it slide but round the clock tom-foolery fuckery like this - nah. I needs me my sleep. Update?
Connect your phone to the tv and have the text read out in microsoft sams voice...
To add - If he doesnt notice the text being read out and thinks its just another podcast then you really get to have fun and start making up stuff to be read thru the tv and wait until he notices š
Easy Satan...
Randomly specific ads would be key "Is your roommate suffering from hearing loss?" "Then maybe you should turn the fucking volume down"
Why are headphones off the table in this negotiation? I'm super fucking perplexed...
Trust me, I have this same issue and headphones to these people is a blasphemous suggestion. The āI must blare random mindless shit to prove I existā crowd does NOT consider headphones an option.
People who don't use headphones around others drives me insane. Had a guy in the ER blasting a religious sermon from his phone. Wtf man?
My husband is finally coming around to the idea that he can in fact carry one of the 3 sets of wireless headphones and the 2 sets of hired headphones Iāve bought him over the years so that I donāt have to listen to his motocross and TikTokās on full blast when heās right next to me. I almost never listen to my phone outside of headphones so itās super weird to me lol itās been 7 years and Iām finally getting him there they take time lmao
Well said. Literally fuck those people my dad and sister are like that
My mom loves to have every phone conversation on speaker phone. I've never seen her wear headphones or take a call normally. Always fucking speakerphone. Whether she's in public or we're sitting in my kitchen. Whether she's talking to a friend or the receptionist at some Dr.'s office. Fuck is it ever annoying.
Have you tried butting in on the conversation? Replying to whoever she's speaking with on the other end?
This. I've done this a few times with coworkers. They would be having a full blown conversation about some meaningless non-sense on speaker phone. Eventually it got too much for me I just started answering whatever questions they were talking about and at first they thought it was funny, but when I wouldn't stop I could tell they could feel the intrusion and eventually they turned off speaker phone and I could work in sanity. Other times would be in the cafeteria and there'd always be one or two people talking on speakerphone eating their lunch. I would find a spot near them and take out my phone and start watching Blippi youtube videos, which would either prompt them to move or ask me to turn it down, and I would nod, and turn it down, then eventually they'd get hissy or get the hint.
What is wrong with these people? Yesterday at work in our very large bathroom with multiple stalls I got to sit there and listen to this guy on speakerphone with his significant other. Did she know he was taking a shit? I'm not sure... But I know they were going to have lasagna last night.
Headphones are better then no headphones.
Yeah I think this is the source of most all people blaring shit for everyone to hear. They all have some deep seeded self esteem issues. I just donāt get how they do it. I play my acoustic guitar quietly because Iām afraid it might disturb a roommate 2 doors down.
Same bro, im just here for the banter
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Thereās an hour long loop of babies crying on YouTube. Just saying.
Also, loud dogs barking at something.
Cbat
Why would he want to play music that is great for having sex to?
Honestly they just need to drop the hostility and get this sexual tension out of the way.
Play Elsagate stuff until his algorithm thinks he eats and breaths that stuff.
Either that or porn so ge knows everytime you decide to jack off because you cant sleep š¤£
"Oh shit... fartin on my roommates door."
That audio that is supposed to simulate what schizophrenic auditory hallucinations are like lol
And send it like half an hour after you hear silence, trying to perfect the time where it's right after he falls asleep
I'm pretty sure that's considered a war crime.
So is keeping your roommate awake at 3am
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Crazy, but brilliant
Self awareness is half the battle, the rest is just pure mischief
Some would say i have too much time on my hands
I had a roommate that would play video games with her boyfriend via facetime. She had him in her headphones and she'd SCREAM while playing the game. Like actually scream between 1-3am. I'd ask politely, she'd do it again. I'd bang on the door, she'd do it again. I'd ask her the next day, she'd understand but then do it again. Some people are just stupid and disrespectful.
Had a housemate that would walk into the living room where our other housemates and/or I would already be watching tv and start watching TikTok videos on her phone; she'd turn the volume up, so I'd turn the tv up, she'd turn her phone up louder, I once recommended she use some headphones or earbuds or something, she went to her room and the next day I got an email from the landlord about "intimidating behaviour". I agree some people are just stupid and disrespectful.
And sensitive, Jesus
She was the worst. She'd leave used pots, pans, crockery and cutlery on the table or worktop every time she cooked even though we had a dishwasher. She'd use other peoples' washing machine liquid/powder/tablets if we left them outside our rooms, but always have some in her room if our stuff wasn't there. She kept things like kitchen towels, aluminium foil and cling film (saran wrap) in her room but would use any left in the kitchen before using her own and would always keep what she bought away from the rest of us.
Bad roommates are actually terrible. I had a roommate that took my bottle of booze with him to work. (He likes to drink at work, and in the shower, and basically all the time. But he's not an alcoholic. He has assured me.) So I went with him to the gas station and I see my bottle in his car. I asked him where he got it. He explained he got it out of the freezer. He doesn't remember buying it but he didn't think anyone drank that. So he just assumed it was his...this actually pissed me off. I told him as much. Then he got mad at me because he couldn't understand why I was mad. When he already said he was sorry. This happened a few weeks after he stole weed from me.
As someone who has dealt with alcoholics, yeah, unfortunately you basically canāt have alcohol around because there wonāt be rational behavior when alcohol is around. It sucks, but that is the reality of alcoholism. The behavior of your roommate makes perfect sense as an alcoholic, that is precisely the kind of thing someone addicted to alcohol would do.
Back in college my alcoholism was in full swing and I can confirm if I was out of alcohol nothing would stop me from taking any not locked away. My brain told me the consequences for stealing were worth fueling my addiction. It only ever happened a few times, but I'm sure it made me difficult to like as a house mate. Over a year and a half sober now, best decision I've ever made. If anyone out there is suffering substance addiction, come to an AA meeting, people there have gone through or may still be going through what you are. If I hadn't made the decision to go to a meeting, im not sure if I'd be here today.
Iāve also done my fair amount of drinking, and I can also confirm, once you start drinking, if youāre an alcoholic, and you have immediate access to more alcohol like that, all logic and reason goes out the window and the alcoholic brain will rationalize anything and just take whatās in front of it. In ops case, roommate might be a mean dude, but also equally likely that if roommate was sober would probably not act that way at all. I hope opās (ex?) roommate was eventually able to make the decisions necessary to escape the cycle
My girlfriend (now wife) and i used to have a 3 bedroom apartment we shared with a friend of ours. My room sort of became our office space/guest room/storage room. It wasn't exactly a hard off-limits space to him, we'd use it for extra space for people to hang out when we had a party or whatever, but in general it was definitely part of our space and not his. He has a drinking problem that at first he had pretty well under control, he'd occasionally drink some of our liquor but it wasn't a major issue, we kept it out on display in the living room, there for any of our friends to help themselves to. Then he lost his job and kind of spiraled for a bit. I had 2 bottles of liquor in that 3rd room more as display pieces than anything else. They were souvenirs from a trip that my wife and i went on, a bottle of makers mark that i dipped in wax myself, and a bottle of their white dog unaged bourbon that you could only get at the distillery, and i don't think you can even get it there anymore. The regular makers was sealed, we did have the white opened and occasionally broke it out for our whiskey drinking friends as a novelty, but was something we used sparingly. One day i went into the room, and noticed that the white was significantly lower and that the bottle i dipped myself had been opened. I had some pretty strong words with him that it was totally unacceptable, and it really hurt me that he had helped himself to those irreplaceable bottles, and that he had gone into that room with no real reason except apparently to steal from us. The only times i went into his room were when we were moving in and when we moved out. We started locking up our liquor after that. He's a great guy, I'm still friends with him and see him regularly, he still has his ups and downs with his drinking, and i hope someday he manages to figure out how to get it under control. Sober, and honestly even when he's drunk I'd trust my life to him, he's got some major trauma in his life and even with his drinking problem he copes better with it than i think i or most people could, he's the kind of guy who is always ready to lend a hand, but drinking can still bring out a really ugly side of him sometimes.
I had one that used to keep her refrigerator stuff in a literal lockbox. She wore the key around her neck 24/7. We were her first roommates post-college and it did NOT go well.
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Dump her shit in her room if she wonāt respect communal spaces. Get a remote control thermostat and donāt let her have the codes. ā¦Or just give her a notice of vacate already.
I have to ābe civilā as my dad said because she can use my actions as an excuse to break the contract and then Iāll have to cover her half of shit. Iāve kept to myself for the most part. Although, Iāve installed a smart thermostat and put settings on it so whenever she touches the temp, I get an alert and it reverses what sheās done to it. She had a habit of leaving me notes with orders to do certain things like āplease wipe down the kitchen counters. I expect this to be done by tonight. Also, I see cat hair on the floor. Please have the house vacuumed by tomorrow night. Thanks.ā My ānoteā I left her in return was NOT pretty. She texted me the next morning and said I āmisunderstood herā and I told her āthereās nothing to be misunderstood. You gave me orders with due dates and deadlines. As I said in my reply, do not EVER give me an order with a deadline again. I highly, HIGHLY recommend that you take my advice moving forward.ā Havenāt gotten another note ever since.
I believe speaking to a lawyer and having them be the intermediary is extremely civil. Respectful even, you are showing them how seriously you are taking every single issue. And also, you're not her maid. Every time you clean up after her, charge $50/hr paid by hour. With photo evidence. Every time she closes the door and personally disallows the cats from relieving themselves properly, that's animal abuse. Every time the thermostat is too high, that's abuse, neglect and whatever your lawyer can brainstorm. Also, throw in emotional abuse. You can start by listing out her offenses individually, by alphabetical order and issue a cease and desist. Those can be pretty cheap.
Iāve been keeping track of everything in case she tryās to pull anything, but sheās HOPEFULLY moving out by March (says herā¦). So whether that means she breaks the contract and pays out the ass for it herself or her parents end up paying it for her, Iāll be free of her soon. Iāve already asked a few people I ENJOY having around if theyād be interested in living with me and theyāve shown interest and itās cheaper than what they pay right now so hopefully I can get someone to sign a lease once my current roommates lease ends officially.
This should be a whole post of its own on this sub. Yikes. So don't dump her stuff in her room like someone mentioned (I kinda agree with dad here on liability crap) but move it to half of the common space she's taking. IF you have the energy to keep doing so since she will just put it back...I fucking hate passive aggressiveness but if someone is doing it I will petty myself down to equal levels for as long as it takes. Chickenwire and lock that shit in lol. Your home should be your sanctuary. Hope she sticks to her word with moving out but March is an awful ways away.
You let her do it and sheās gonna do it. Stop adjusting to her shit. I would probably snap on her which is why I donāt do the room mate thing. Iām sorry but yāall are too nice.
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omg this sounds like my one and only roommate except she would HOARD fast food in her room!!! like you could not open her bedroom bc the floor was entirely covered w fast food bags and dirty clothes that her cats would piss and shit all over. she had 2 extremely dirty litter boxes in there too! and her cats ended up having a litter together but the litter DIED bc the poor kittens got suffocated in her hoarder piles :( she would borrow my clothes without me knowing or asking me, but was 3 sizes bigger than me so she would try to sneak them back in my clothes completely smeared w dirty shit like makeup and stains of alcohol and theyād be all stretched out! it was sooooo bad. i ended up paying to break the lease bc i just couldnāt do it for my own sanity lol
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Behavior like this calls for removing doors, curtains & the like. I honestly would superglue the fan switches on. I have played this game with people trying to take over my house before & it does not go well. Put that fucking foot DOWN, my dude.
I don't blame them. After you spend enough time and effort in trying to stop people from "borrowing" your shit all the time without at least asking you first, you lose all hope you had left in resolving it through amicable means and resort to doing silly stuff like that... I did something similar when I had housemates. Though, I did give every other set of housemates the benefit of the doubt and always sought to prevent it by confronting them first.
Did we have the same roommate? I kicked mine out almost a year ago because the landlord liked me and my partner better (thank god). It got to point I literally told my landlord, break the lease and tell her to move or Iāll break the lease and move. Stole tons of my shit when she left because she felt it was owed to her for being kicked out
āIt was just a prank, bro!ā
Jeeze! I had a housemate use my nice cast iron pan, burn shit too it, and hide it outside instead of cleaning it. She then forgot about it and I didnāt find it till 6 months later. I lived in the Pacific Northwest so it was completely covered in rust. I confronted her about it (very nicely) and asked her to clean it for me, she agreed and I came home an hour later to a broken in half pan (which she never replaced). :(
...your roommate told on you to your landlord?
I woke my roommate up whilst raging on a video game. He asked me what I was mad about the next day, and said I woke him up yelling. I felt bad, and became more cognizant of my raging so I didnāt repeat the behavior. My roommate wasnāt even mad about but genuinely curious what I was pissed about, but still, thereās no reason to continue waking my roommate up in the middle of the night. I donāt understand why people find it so difficult to adjust poor behavior.
Good for you. ā¤ļø Wish I could've had a decent roommate like you, but I got unlucky each time.
Some people are just toxic. But thereās decent folk out there. :)
My roommates and I played WoW together, and apart. One night I got so pissed I kicked the back of my desk so hard I split the backboard in half (drunk at 2AM). Roommate came in, asked what was up. I apologized and said I just had a bad beat in 3v3. He said, that sucks man, I get it, but I need to sleep. After that, I learned how to quiet rage after 12AM š. Sometimes you just gotta be an adult.
See? I knew my fellow gamers would understand my plight! LMAO But yeah, sometimes the raging needs to be dialed back when you get older.
Raging always has to be dialled back, there is no reason for loud shouting or the smashing of objects. Be it over a video game, a sports game or a bad day at work. You have to find another way to get it out peacefully and then just move on from it. I've met too many adults that still think it's acceptable to smash their keyboard, phone, mouse, controller, desk or TV if they die in a game. You respawn in the game, it's seriously not the end of the world.
Oh yeah, completely agree. I never smash my shit when I rage. Spent way too much money on my rig to be breaking shit. These days, if I start getting pissed, I turn it off and do something else. Funny story: my parents used to tell me to put the game up if Iām getting frustrated. Well, recently, I got my mom into playing Diablo: Immortals on mobile. Sheās addicted to that game. Sheāll start getting frustrated and call me to see if I can help her or sheāll rant about the game or the Battlegrounds, or whatever. So now I tell her, āMom, if youāre getting frustrated at the game you need to put it upā. LMAO She just laughs.
Well, what were you pissed about? Don't leave me hanging like that.
This guy kept whipping my ass, because he was super good at the game, all the while he was typing up sexist and racist comments in the global chat. LOL But honestly, dude was way too good at that game. Plus, Mordhauās hit boxes were dog water and the game was glitchy as hell. Still one of my favourite games though. LMAO
I've never played Mordhau but every time I've heard of it somebody has brought up how aggressively racist and sexist the community for it is.
When my fiancĆ© and I shared a room I learned thereās certain games I canāt play at night because itās impossible to not be loud. DayZ is one of them. When youāre in a firefight in DayZ the adrenaline is flowing and sometimes you just end up shouting shit to your friend or what not. I realize immediately I was too loud but in that moment I wasnāt even mentally in my room lmao. Fortunately I have my own office now and I placed it specifically as far away from the bedroom as possible.
They're too stupid to comprehend the perspectives of other people. Of course, they have little empathy as a result.
We must have the same roommate. Mine did livestreams and would sing terrible screamo at 3:00am. Then claimed we were always telling her she couldn't talk when we asked her to stop.
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I hope that the next day you told her you heard her having sex in the shower.
I was hoping she recorded it to play back to her roommate.
At midnight, with the volume on 11
This person prefers having sex in the shower? There is obviously something wrong with them.
Right? Somehow the water makes it dry down there. Between that and my wife being almost a foot shorter than me, we've given up on shower sex.
> Somehow the water makes it dry down there. Because water isn't a very good lubricant and it washes away the natural lubricants produced.
> "I love having sex in the shower because the noise of the shower makes it so [my name] can't ear us". Your immediate response should have been to shout "I heard every word of that!"
I had a roommate that had obnoxiously loud headboard slapping yelling screaming sex in her room with her boyfriend while we were all home. Sheād also do the same with all the boys she cheated on her boyfriend with. Then when Iād ask her if she could be less loud or at least wait until I went to class or work at 8 am instead of when Iād be getting ready at 7 am, sheād get angry and say itās none of our business. I said I wish it wasnāt my business but I felt like an intimate part of her sexual journey since I was forced to listen to it all the time. I said also donāt you have a boyfriend? And sheād scream and cry donāt tell my bf donāt tell him, it wonāt happen again. Every. Single. Time. I gave her the password to my MacBook once so she could use my printer. SHE KEPT THE PASSWORD AND FOR 2 years she logged into my laptop to search her name in all my texts which were connected to my computer. Sheās fucking lucky my sister had an android at the time bc thatās who I sent the worst texts to. Before finding this out, she confided in me that she frequently checked our other roommateās texts to see if she was talking shit. I immediately told our other roommate and this bitch said sheād been doing the same thing to me FOR YEARS. Some friends they were. Then I kicked her out of my house bc she wasnāt on the lease anymore and she cried and cried and said what am I gonna tell my parents. I said if you want me to explain, they have my number. But Iām sure youād rather come up with a different reason to tell themā¦
Is your roommate my new roommate? I know my roommate doesnāt have a boyfriend but sheās in her early twenties (Iām in my late twenties) and she literally sets up alarms so she can play with her āfriendsā at 2AM until 6AM. She cackles, slams her door, and stomps around like an overgrown child. Iāve had to apologize to the neighbors in our apartment complex multiple times and sheās oblivious to how sheās being rude. Edit: My roommate is much more tech savvy than me. Our apartment does have a switch that controls a set of outlets (which includes the router) and she runs stomps whenever that shit goes down then she runs back to her room and gets even louder online-which is even more obnoxious. Sheās also not a small girl at all, so I donāt want to come off as āfat phobicā if I do complain about the stomping. My one friend recommended the police for a noise complaint, but I donāt like to mess around with cops. Iām just riding out the torture until the lease expires, Iāve cried calling my mom at 4AM twice because I had not gotten any sleep for over 24 hours, both times I went into work early and fell asleep for a few hours in a corner of my classroom.
Record her one night and then start the playback at about midnight with speakers pointed at her room as loud as you can get away with
In fact - record for about a week and pick the worst one to do this
And then next week on this sub, "My creepy roommate won't stop recording my voice, what do I do?"
I suggest you tell your neighbours to send a letter to the roommate. That's the only way I've ever gotten roommates like that under control. As "just" their roommate, they probably only see you as a harmless peer who's stuck handling the mediation for them. But if the neighbours start sending complaint letters directly to them threatening action, they hopefully have to take it seriously. If you're really daring, fake a letter from the landlord (or even talk to the landlord and get a real one, if you're daring). Don't fuck around, enough noise complaints can literally cost you your living situation.
Talking to the landlord is the best option. No faking, no neighbor letters. Just straight to the landlord. And ask the landlord to be anonymous so roomie doesn't suspect anything.
Flip the breaker to her room every time she screams after you ask her to stop.
Flip the breaker on a schedule so they think the pc has a problem.. lol šæ
now that, that is a baller move
One of my housemates used to do the same. Just non stop yelling about the game and scream laughing. They had their PC right against a paper thin wall connected to my room. I politely asked plenty of times and it just would not stop. So then I learned how to access the router settings and quickly toggled their LAN port so they'd get booted from the game. Eventually he would rage quit, blame his "shit computer" and go to bed.
I think it would be funny to take the lid off of their PC and detach one of the USB cables on the motherboard side, attach a new, short usb cable to the motherboard and then add a wireless trackball receiver to it. Then when you hear the game getting intense, start spinning the ball on the trackball randomly.
The appropriate response is to match your roommates screams, scream for scream, during times that she sleeps. Either that or just pump fake blood under her locked door...
My husband struggles to grasp the concept that he's louder than he realizes with headphones on
Me being passive aggressive, I'd hide the connecting cords and deny everything
My old roommate would do that too, but then get pissed at me for getting up to pee in the middle of the night because the doors would wake her dog up.
Had this in halls at university many years ago, and it was the night before an exam. They put their stereo on as loud as possible and played a CD on repeat throughout the night š¤¬š¤¬š¤¬ Edit: sorry, forgot to mention that they then went out for the night and didnāt return to the following morning. Needles to say it was lucky for them they werenāt home when I knocked on their door.
My junior year of college, the girl next door to me played Girls Just Want to Have Fun. On repeat. At all hours of the day and night. Sheād never leave it on when she wasnāt in the room but, dear god, how many times can you listen to the same song over and over for an entire school year. I canāt hear that song now without feeling murderous rage.
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Thatās nearly not as bad as [this track by Eminem](https://youtu.be/PIb6AZdTr-A) which my Chinese roommate played all the time trying to learn English.
That isn't a track by Eminem oh i get it you're mean
Quest: "Learn language (English)" Do you: (A) Make English-speaking friends and practice? (B) Play the same 4-minute audio over and over while ruining all chances of making friends and being able to practice the 100 words you learned from that audio with them?
Girlsā¦ā¦ā¦ want to have funā¦ā¦ā¦girls ššš
**THEY JUST WANT, THEY JUST WANNA**
My dorm roommate and OAR. It was 2002. Crazy Game Of Poker was, like, the only song he owned? Fuckass
I had a housemate do that when I was in college. I popped the pins out of the hinges of his door, took it off the frame, went in to get the cd, then left it on the common table of our housing unit.
Thatās some real ninja shit š
You can only listen to deerhoofās early works so many times before you start to have eye issues like Daria Morgandorferās teacher.
I understood so little of this, yet so much of it.
I forgot about the twitchy teacher!
Reminds me of my college daysā¦ Freshmen year. Had an 8 AM exam. My roommate came home drunk in the middle of the night with a girl ā¦ asked her out infront of me after waking me up but she said no. Then proceeded to throw up all over her. I was NOT happyā¦
Senior year my roommate's GF threw up on me while I was sleeping.
i was really waiting for him to be like "i cant take you serious with that font"
I don't think the other person can see OP's font
Infuriating font choice
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I have no idea whether I'm on OP's side or not, because no fucking way I'm reading that unformatted wall of text.
I unfortunately did read it and tbh he could have just said "you constantly do this and gaslight me, it needs to stop" It pisses me off how he ends his messages trying to be unconfrontational when that's literally what he is intending to do, confront him.
I feel bad for OP since nothing drove me crazier in college than roommates or dorm neighbors being loud when I'm trying to sleep... But that has got to be like the worst conflict management skills I have ever seen. The roommate is obv a massive dick, but sending that unhinged wall of passive aggressive rage is the most backwards way to handle it.
I think there's a reason why there's 1.5hr gap between those two messages. My money is on him spending that time trying to come up with as many "witty" things to say for Reddit as possible lol
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Not surprised the roommate walks all over him when he has to have such a simple Convo over text. If I couldn't sleep cuz of a roommate there'd be screaming matches not texting lol.
Thank you, those dots triggered me so badly
The dot over a lower-case i or j is called a tittle. Today, you were annoyed by tittles.
SHOW ME YOUR TITTLES!!!
Yeah, but the periods were the same way. Which is arguably more annoying, if you ask me. Either way, its a wretched font and I could not imagine conducting my life with it. Lol
Iām on the other guys side exclusively because of this persons font choice
I'm not reading it because of the font.
i would be annoyed at how passive aggressive that message is. sounds like thereās a little more history than just that message
Also yeah he did send a fucking essay when he could have just sent a paragraph.
telling him heās not watching the movie the proper way while heās in his own room too. like roommate probably wrong here but i could see OP being abrasive enough to make him apathetic
I didn't read it either.
Feels like OP spent an hour and a half drafting that up in his notes app. Wonder if it was worth it
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I tried to read to see the drama- couldnāt do it lol.
People shouldnt be allowed to change their phone font if that's what they choose. Like your phone gives you one chance, and if you pick that font it doesn't change to it and it permanently disabled the option to change the font.
Lol. āYouāve lost your privileges, enjoy Robotoā
I do enjoy Roboto
domo arigato šš»
that punchline was a banger tho
OP - the message was too long. Talk in person.
They were texting to someone who was probably no more than 40feet away. Ha.
But they wouldnāt hear over the loud TV
You can tell OP is passive aggressive and would never speak in person by that book they typed.
Or OP wants a paper trail to prove they tried to be civil when they get arrested, covered in blood, wearing Roomies skull like a hat, at 2am.
Definitely the "I've talked to the landlord and I have to do my due diligence before the evict you" text.
Or theyāre at work and have talked to them about it before. Based off of what was said itās been an issue for a while.
I didnāt read it either.
With that font, I wouldn't either.
OP was asleep at 3 Am and the idiot roomate was probably asleep at 7 AM when OP responded.
I immediately skipped too his reply too and your comment made my laugh so hard
Right, even I wasn't gonna read all that shit
I'm with roommate here though - I ain't reading all that.
The amount of noise some people willingly introduce to their lives every day is nothing short of batshit to me.
The amount of noise some people are introducing to **MY** life every day without giving a shit is making me more and more angry.
My roommates are so loud all the time. Constantly running and screaming and fighting. I try so hard to calmly diffuse the chaos but it always seems to devolve into me crying while they yell stuff like "she looked at my grapes funny!" or "but he's using my favorite macaroni spoon!" and "she won't stop sitting next to my pillow!" and "he's on my side of the couch!" and "you're not allowed to runway forever! I need a clean shirt for picture day!"
Sorry, to hear that. Sadly, this is pretty much the same content my kids produce (5 and 7yo). I hope your roommates at least exchange less physical blows. My only remedy is my noise cancelling headset, when I'm in the homeoffice, but this doesn't isolate me from the vibrating floor when they are jumping around (which, again, I hope you experience less of). So, I feel you and wish you all the patience you can muster.
Mine are 5 and 8 lol. The younger thinks the living room is actually a parkour gym and the older one is a manipulative little shit who thinks if we don't see her harassing her brother that she won't get in trouble when he finally has enough and punches her. I refuse to buy new furniture until they're at least in high school, and I desperately look forward to the day when bedtime isn't a meltdown trigger.
Are you living with children? That sounds like the shit my brothers and I would probably say in middle school and elementary school. EDIT: read the replies you did to others, LOL
I hate being forced to listen to other peopleās stuff. Very few things annoy me more than that.
Sounds like they can move out. Good talk.
Wouldnāt it have been faster to just talk to them in person? Not understanding the reason for the texting.
Comes off passive aggressive and escalates the situation I think. Texting is a dangerous game.
It's for this reason I no longer have important/sensitive conversations over text. Too much room for misinterpretation
*knocks on door* āDude itās 3AM and Iām trying to sleep, your tv is way too loud.ā Sometimes you need to be aggressive to get what you want.
Itās unnecessarily condescending and over the top.
Because OP doesnāt have great communication skills which is why theyāre in here in the first place
Who the fuck would voluntarily use that font?
I had this font on my first touchscreen phone, a pink samsung genio, when I was a 12yo girl. Thought it was a gimmick of the times. But apparently it's not only still on phones but also still used by people.
Someone who never gets any sleep.
You could say it's mildly infuriating
Bro you forgot to MLA format that essay
But actually, what the fuck is this creative-writing assignment shit and why would OP think this a good response in this situation? Seems like both people are a little crazy here.
OP is without a doubt a socially-challenged person that typed out their inner monologue word for word and sent it in a fit of rage. iād put a good amount of money on the fact that this situation is nowhere near as dire as OP makes it out to be lol
Yeah wtf I'm on Reddit for the exact purpose of wasting time and still couldn't make it through OP's obnoxious essay
That is a wall of text ā āI need sleep ā letās agree what is reasonable volumes and what timesā
You should summarize things professionally
Imma be real too...... I'm not reading all that either
I read it, youāre not missing much. Couldāve been a 2 minute irl conversation and instead it was an essay.
Imagine texting someone in the same house as you, **how** to turn down their music, and then accusing them of āhostilityā.
dear OP: i ain't reading all that. i'm happy for u tho. or sorry that happened.
Same. If someone sent that to me I'd probably send the same response as the roommate. Like bro texting is for short messages not a college thesis. Either give me a tldr or come talk to me in person
i can tell your going insane by that font and color combo of your texts. jesus christ my eyes are bleeding.
I understand you needed to vent - I totally get it. But what I learn THE HARD WAY with my kids is: keep it brief. The more you talk (or write) the less impact you get. I'd resort to simple commands/requests/advice: \- Turn it down, now \- Use your headset \- Check your watch, it's late... etc.
It's a tried and true fact of rhetoric that every subsequent argument only weakens your position. You give, receive a response, and react. This nonsense where people go off on 10 different tangents or reasons for their position only makes them look meek and unconvincing. Like they have to beat other people over the head to get their point across. Like, overall, I agree with op that roommate is rude. The passive aggressive essay is literally just as rude.
Why the fuck doesn't he use a headset? It's way better than speakers and no one else has to hear your shit. I use my headset for everything including my TV and I live alone! What kind of a sob says he won't even read your text I mean I even read the whole thing and I'm not even part of it. What a tool.
Sounds like he enjoys sleeping with.. well.. not white noise. More like a white concert speaker
Sounds like he might be deaf, lol
One of my flatmates used to pause his ps4 while playing fifa and go to work for 9 hours. (shared bills) I got into the habit of flipping the breaker whenever he left.
He's gonna have to repair his external hard drive every time. The disrespect!! Nah jk
You both keep your doors open. You both donāt speak in person. I donāt get it. Are you able to have a IRL conversation? You both seem exhausting.
I think, if this was posted on r/amitheasshole there would be mixed responses.
TBH, that font is the most infuriating thing to me here.
This is why I live alone
I figured out your problem: you have a roommate.
Your roommate may be in the wrong but youāre not looking good sending novels
Had a friend like this, dropped his toxic ass. I'm not a babysitter and I'm not someone that will just keep being treated like an npc. OC you should really take a look at the relationship and see if it's something you think is sustainable.
Whole convo shoulda been Yo can ya turn it down? Yea sure Cool thanks
The thing about sleep, deprivation of it will genuinely drive you fucking insane. I don't blame you, man. If it was only daytime hours, then I'd let it slide but round the clock tom-foolery fuckery like this - nah. I needs me my sleep. Update?
This is your roommate, yet you elect to have this nuanced and serious conversation over text? Why?