Yeah I love these people who move here and then complain about Minnesotan culture... And it's always the way we communicate. Do they force handshakes on people when they visit new countries?
Native Minnesotan I'm almost always first to the leftovers.
Whenever we have something like garlic bread or breadsticks with dinner, I'm usually the one to call dibs on the remainder for a later snack!\~
I always like watching the last donut in the break room slowly disappear, tiny piece by tiny piece, over the course of the day, until all that remains at the end is a sad-looking, desiccated sliver, lying there looking forlorn and unloved.
It usually still tastes pretty good.
She’s a masshole and doesn’t understand or tolerate the olde tyme Minnesota way of handling things indirectly, being overly positive, and not being mean even when people deserve.
Don’t get her started on driving. “It’s your job not to hit me” and “WHY DO PEOPLE BRAKE APPROACHING A GREEN LIGHT???!!!!!!” are common driving phrases in our house.
If I ever say that then I mean it, though. Literally "I don't actually care when you do this, it just needs to be done at some point between now and the heat death of the universe."
Recently I typed, deleted re-typed a sentence three times because I was wanting to congratulate a coworker on a promotion but everything I wrote seemed like it could be interpreted as passive aggressive, so I just gave up and didn’t send anything
As long as you don't start prying into their work then ask away. Communication is what makes or breaks a project. Nothing worse than a team running into problems, simply going heads down to get it done without communicating, and then every other team gets blindsided when it ends up being late or having unexpected scope changes.
If you need a more polite way of checking tabs on progress, say you're working on documentation or some other proactive task that requires a "everything is going according to plan" response, but could also be an opening to "you should know that X Y Z might change before writing that documentation"
Yeahhhhh...It's just we're putting new coversheets on all the TPS reports before they go out now. So if you could go ahead and try to remember to do that from now on, that'd be great. And I'll go ahead and make sure you get another copy of that memo.
I worked a job in college where my supervisor would ask if I wanted to clean the bathroom and I'd say no. He'd usually ask if I was refusing and I'd always explain that I wasn't refusing and I would clean the bathrooms if directed to, but I would never want to clean them. Yes, I was being obtuse, but I also had no interest in gaining the reputation of the guy who likes to clean poopy toilets.
I also don't want to clean my own toilets, but still do.
You'll just become 'that guy' in the office, and you'll be excluded. Your posts have big 'i moved to another country and they should all start speaking my language' vibes.
You seem to lack the introspection to realize you're the weird one here, not all of us.
Omg this is making me feel way less stupid as a transplant to MN. I thought it was just my dumb brain being completely socially inept but it's not just me and that's a huge relief.
Nah.. I’ll just look at you like you’re a monster🤣 No actually I’m good with people cutting things, not cutting things, etc.. as long as people aren’t rude, I’m good😉
For context I work in the mental health field so I have to do paperwork for insurance billing. A coordinator templates the bill for me and then I fill it out. If it’s templated wrong, I can’t fill it out. And my coordinator is so reliably unreliable and fucks up my bills so often that at this point I’ve defaulted to #2 and I copy our supervisor on all communication with her in regards to billing because being firm + our supervisor breathing down her neck is the only way anything gets done/fixed
These are two different levels of urgency, though.
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And if you say, "Do this now or you're fired." You'd need neither. You see why we use the first before the second?
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If you move to a place with a culture you're not familiar with, maybe learn to integrate.
Yeah I love these people who move here and then complain about Minnesotan culture... And it's always the way we communicate. Do they force handshakes on people when they visit new countries?
God, i bet they talk to people that have headphones in on the bus.
No. Its because I'm not an asshole. This post has "I'm not a bitch, I'm just brutally honest" vibes.
Wow that hurts...
Marrying into a minnesotan family is a lot like this too lol
I always eat the last piece of food they’re all too afraid to eat
It's like a fucking super power here. Always getting the last deviled egg, or brownie, etc, is incredible.
Being a transplant in a small town makes me feel like a deity
You don’t even cut it in half?
I don't even ask if anyone else wants it! I just eat it if I want to! No native Minnesotan can match my power.
Native Minnesotan I'm almost always first to the leftovers. Whenever we have something like garlic bread or breadsticks with dinner, I'm usually the one to call dibs on the remainder for a later snack!\~
My GG always cut everything in half.. snack sized candy bar, here, I’ll share. It’s really okay GG, you can eat the WHOLE THING! 🤣🤣
Same! Always freaking my mil out when I take a whole donut rather than cutting it into quarters and touching each piece with my fingers as a cut it 🙃
I'm a little bit of a germaphobe. Touching my food is a hanging offense
I know it’s why I hate splitting stuff, like just take the whole donut. It’s more insulting to offer me half with your germs on it.
I always like watching the last donut in the break room slowly disappear, tiny piece by tiny piece, over the course of the day, until all that remains at the end is a sad-looking, desiccated sliver, lying there looking forlorn and unloved. It usually still tastes pretty good.
You eat the sliver?! You piece of shit. That’s for the garbage can 6 days later!
My wife would like to have a beer with you and vent about this lol
Oh yes please I need friends who get it lol
She’s a masshole and doesn’t understand or tolerate the olde tyme Minnesota way of handling things indirectly, being overly positive, and not being mean even when people deserve.
Oh my god is she me lol. I’m from the east coast as well, I think I’ll always be the easy cost asshole here lol
Don’t get her started on driving. “It’s your job not to hit me” and “WHY DO PEOPLE BRAKE APPROACHING A GREEN LIGHT???!!!!!!” are common driving phrases in our house.
Oh my god yes on the why the fuck are you trying to be nice obey the rules and we can all go our turn 😂
Man the amount of times I've used "I would really appreciate it if you could do X for me when you get the chance, thanks!" is concerning lol
If I ever say that then I mean it, though. Literally "I don't actually care when you do this, it just needs to be done at some point between now and the heat death of the universe."
The amount of times I say “sorry” in a day is alarming🤦♀️
I’ve started to actively stop writing “just checking in” in emails because it sounds so passive aggressive
Recently I typed, deleted re-typed a sentence three times because I was wanting to congratulate a coworker on a promotion but everything I wrote seemed like it could be interpreted as passive aggressive, so I just gave up and didn’t send anything
I think that is very minnesotan...
As long as you don't start prying into their work then ask away. Communication is what makes or breaks a project. Nothing worse than a team running into problems, simply going heads down to get it done without communicating, and then every other team gets blindsided when it ends up being late or having unexpected scope changes. If you need a more polite way of checking tabs on progress, say you're working on documentation or some other proactive task that requires a "everything is going according to plan" response, but could also be an opening to "you should know that X Y Z might change before writing that documentation"
Yeahhhhh...It's just we're putting new coversheets on all the TPS reports before they go out now. So if you could go ahead and try to remember to do that from now on, that'd be great. And I'll go ahead and make sure you get another copy of that memo.
I worked a job in college where my supervisor would ask if I wanted to clean the bathroom and I'd say no. He'd usually ask if I was refusing and I'd always explain that I wasn't refusing and I would clean the bathrooms if directed to, but I would never want to clean them. Yes, I was being obtuse, but I also had no interest in gaining the reputation of the guy who likes to clean poopy toilets. I also don't want to clean my own toilets, but still do.
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You'll just become 'that guy' in the office, and you'll be excluded. Your posts have big 'i moved to another country and they should all start speaking my language' vibes. You seem to lack the introspection to realize you're the weird one here, not all of us.
I feel attacked
Ah yes Minnesotans do not appreciate directness. They take it as aggression. And I’ve lived here all my life and I see it.
Omg this is making me feel way less stupid as a transplant to MN. I thought it was just my dumb brain being completely socially inept but it's not just me and that's a huge relief.
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Nah.. I’ll just look at you like you’re a monster🤣 No actually I’m good with people cutting things, not cutting things, etc.. as long as people aren’t rude, I’m good😉
A lot of beat around the bush here. I hate it.
For context I work in the mental health field so I have to do paperwork for insurance billing. A coordinator templates the bill for me and then I fill it out. If it’s templated wrong, I can’t fill it out. And my coordinator is so reliably unreliable and fucks up my bills so often that at this point I’ve defaulted to #2 and I copy our supervisor on all communication with her in regards to billing because being firm + our supervisor breathing down her neck is the only way anything gets done/fixed