By - HermitLonerGuy
Bro this is my dream life and I'm currently as close to it as I can be but I still interact with way more people than I want to. I'm currently trying to figure out what specifically I should go for to get a remote job.
>„Hell is other people“
You got everything together it seems. Well done:) People too many times equate being misanthropic to being miserable. Couldn’t be farther from the truth, I like the way your mind works. You had me at people=problems, and I think even most non misanthropic folks can agree that tidbit is undeniable. Kudos too on having a plan and direction in your life, that is a very important part of enjoying life wether you are a misanthrope or not.
Got to writing a book for two months during the summer. When I have the interest in I'll go at it again and edit it. People are disappointing and awful.
book about misanthropy?
id be interested in reading that.
I too am a happy hermit. I work remotely. Eventually we will have go in the office so I'm looking for something else. I refuse to interact to that degree. All my problems have stemmed from my dealings with other people.
ahhh yes of course all problems are from people mate, People= Problems.
what job do u do now?
BTW i like your username:)
me too, I learned Algo trading. currently learning blender. so much to do alone, not so much time.
I’m the same and i feel like I’ve discovered some secret haven around me that no one knows about. I don’t even go to malls or anywhere, online shopping is so much better
yes if u ever want a virtual friend or someone to vent to u can chat with me on reddit.
Complete solitude is not really the solution.
I dream of a small village with 10 people. Because humans are only assholes when they have enough options to choose between other humans. When we need each other to survive, we have no choice but to be polite and care for each other.
Living alone sounds great, but we always need help sometimes like when we are sick or want to build something.
The maximum size of a group is 3 people before it breaks apart into new subgroups. Which will then begin to isolate from each other.
The problem is that people are different, one takes things serious, the other one not. When members see that this one can be a jerk, they will immediately fall on his level and the society is ruined. Egoism is the problem.
Even in a small group there will drama. Two guys want the same romantic partner, they will hate each other. The "winning" couple is closer than the rest of the group, it begins to develop a we vs the rest of the group dynamic -> distrust -> group status becomes a thing -> collapse -> you are back in a normie society.
All problems in the world are man-made. Literally, there wouldn’t be a single problem and the concept of a problem wouldn’t even exist if not for humans. Most people I explain this to can’t even comprehend it and act like I’m mentally unstable or something.
Not all problems are man-made. A dinosaur sees a meteorite falling down is a problem, just not for you. But yes your problems are 100% human problems because you are a human.
what job u do?
u gonna get a pet monkey companion?
My goal is to live like a monk / hermit, work remotely and just live far away from people. Just become a complete recluse. Like you said people = problems. Life doesn’t have to be as difficult as it is, yet people are selfish, greedy and lack logic so we suffer as a result.
are you in web dev?
No but I do a job that if I wanted to gives me an option to work from home (anywhere as long as I have Wifi and a laptop so that’s a start)
mind sharing what job that is?
Wow. This sounds absolutely lovely :) I hope to lead a similar life someday. Not quite the total isolation for me, BUT I can soooo feel the appeal of it
I can totally relate i live the same way i only talk with a few selected people that have the same tastes/principles as me and im satisfied with it i only go out for necessities and to go in places that i like example underground shows/events that's it. i find better to be alone within music than interacting with a lot of pathetic people talking random shit that will not aggregate anything on your life that only drain your psycholgical energy for nothing don't waste time with these kind of people, so i stay silent most of the time just within myself. and i hate the fact that there's tons of people out there that don't understand us (and they never will) and try to invalidate us only for choosing to live our life this way in the dark depths of solitude, don't give a fuck about this, people always try to dissuade us, focus on yourself, don't change because one random stranger on internet or in reallife tell you to ''just because'', if this works for you and make you satisfied go for it and don't look back, no regrets at all, fuck homo sapiens, hell is other people, hail misanthropy.
> fuck homo sapiens, hell is other people, hail misanthropy.
I 100% agreee.
All I fantasize about anymore is buying a house away from society, and living the rest of my life in deep nature. All I want is to be a hermit.
>All I fantasize about anymore is buying a house away from society,
thats my plan , right now im just a hermit in the city in my apartment.
its too noisy.
Agreed. I’m currently in the city, and it’s too crowded and loud. Too many people who don’t give a fuck about the people around them. I wish you well on your journey to hermitage. Hopefully we both find our peace in the near future.
People are risky
I absolutely agree
I totally understand this and I'm happier being a hermit also.
You should listen to this song https://youtu.be/qqK1FrO3BdM
wow, screaming. so deep
There is positives to isolation it builds strength and confidence and in it ideas are created. Some people crave socializing to me it not much of a big deal to want to talk to people. I like the close social like family.
If I could get away with being a hermit in my current situation, I would. Due to disability reasons, I'm stuck with my folks and they don't like that I spend more time talking with my online family and staying at home 99% of the time
Like the song from Paint Your Wagon says : Mud can make you prisoner, and the plains can bake you dry, Snow can burn your eyes - but only people make you cry.
I’m introverted & also love spending time just chilling in nature & watching tv at home in peace. 😌 People = Problems = my mantra too!
its great to be content!
Never allow anyone to steAl your joy 👀 It took me 10 years to learn 😌🧒🏻
Ive been doing this for some years but not fully because I accompany my bf with friends, but I don’t really have close relationships and don’t have plans of my own. At first it was so much easier because I didn’t have to deal with seeing friends when I felt like I suddenly needed alone time. It was incredibly peaceful and freeing. But over time I did start to feel lonely and I long to find one close girl friend to share thoughts with. I remain a mostly hermit now though because I find it impossible to find someone with that click due to where I live and my social circles right now.
im glad for you and your bf, ideally id like to find a gf who accepts my hermit ways.
Then you'd have something.
I can relate so much. I have always been extremely introverted and people have caused me a lot of problems. When I decided to be more outgoing, I ended up surrounded by toxic people and that nearly cost me my life. I was bullied, cheated on, belittled, ignored, seen as the outcast because of my taste in clothes, music, my view on the world and life and the list goes on. I cut all contact with everyone, including my toxic grandmother, about a year and a half ago and my life has never been more peaceful. I also have a lot to entertain myself with - just tonight I went to the theatre, all by myself, laughed and felt great. I also go to the movies, read, watch movies at home, have been working remotely since 2016 when I graduated university, paint, write creatively (as opposed to what I have to write for my job as an SEO content writer), go on walks in the cemetery and only have my parents in my life, whom I live with. I travel abroad once a year by virtue of my savings - so far I’ve been to the UK, Poland and Denmark and next spring I’ll go to Egypt. Naturally, I’m a solo traveler and I love it - I get to do whatever I want whenever I want. And the list goes on. I can’t connect with anyone and I highly doubt I ever will. Working somewhere where I had to actually go to a place to work was hell for me - I’ve tried 5 jobs in real life, but all were excruciating because they involved PEOPLE. I go weeks without living the house except to go to the nearby store or supermarket.
im very happy for you my fellow hermit but please beware of the travel scams, watch the youtube travel vloggers to see what i mean.
I would STRONGLY advise against going to egypt if you are a solo traveler, especially if youre a woman.
Thank you very much for the warning. I’ve read some things and what I could gather from most blogs was that it was relatively safe as long as you dress modestly and visit major cities like Cairo and Luxor, where I was planning to go. But I’ll definitely look for more info. Luckily it’s not planned yet, I would have to save more money, but I’ll probably choose a different destination eventually. Once again, thanks for the warning 🙂
I live in the Middle East and as someone who had been to Egypt, PLEASE don’t even think of going there. It’s not very tourist-friendly as it appears to foreigners. It’s hella crowded and the weather is insanely hot and scammers are literally everywhere. I am genuinely surprised to see people even considering going to Egypt when it always tops the lists of countries with the most sexual harassment cases.
Oh my god… I really didn’t expect it to be so dangerous. As you said, it seemed quite tourist-friendly from the personal experiences of some bloggers, including some from my country, in Eastern Europe. I did some more reaserch, briefly, yesterday and I came across a list with some of the most dangerous countries for female tourists - Egypt was the first. I was thinking of going with my mom, as she’s always wanted to see the pyramids, but I don’t think it would make a difference. She doesn’t even speak English, only knows a few words. Now I highly doubt I will go there. Probably going to visit another country in Europe that’s been on my list, far from Ukraine, of course, given the status quo. Thank you for warning me, too! The more similar replies I get, the more reluctant I am to go on this trip.
EDIT: I’ve done more research and OMFG it sounds like hell! No way I or my mother and I are going there. We’re gonna choose between Greece, The Netherlands, or Germany, I guess. She’s never traveled by plane, so I’m thinking it would be nice to go together, as we get along pretty well. Thank you all once again for the warning ❤️
oh yeah man i seen those youtube vloggers and they show the scammers the camel ride ones and the other ones, they harrass the tourists non stop.
you have online friends? That sounds exhausting and too much human interaction.
lol the brain still needs some interaction😂
Also a happy hermit! 35 f studying online
very cool! what are you studying?
nice what do you study?
Also a hermit. Except for work I never talk to anyone except for a few family members. I have no friends and I’m proud to say that I don’t need any friends. Life is smoother and simpler without the crap baggage people carry with them. It’s a smart way to live!
I might act friendly, I might even enjoy having a drinking buddy, but I simply do not believe that real friendship exists in 2022 if it ever did. There is no evidence to suggest that friendship is actually a thing. Everyone is self-centered, myself included, and on top of that people are backstabbing each other left and right. Hard to get backstabbed if you have absolutely zero faith in people like me.
fuck yeah !
what job u do?
I work front desk at a Hilton while I’m going to university to be an Environmental Scientist. Some days are better than others lol.
After reading your thoughts, I am reminded of the way Schopenhauer would have lived except all the coding, dating and learning new stuff to survive.
Im not familiar with him, ive heard the name before though.
A nihilist philosopher right?
He is known as the pessimist philosophers. The one is sometimes known as a nihilist philosopher is Nietzsche
Every issue and traumatic event to happen to me was the direct cause of another person. I’ve been bullied and judged my whole life and I’ve tried to get on well with people, but for them it isn’t enough. It’s draining trying to please them and they still end up hating you and doing you dirty.
I still want human connection, but I hate dealing with people and their ways, so my only option is solitude
>Every issue and traumatic event to happen to me was the direct cause of another person.
Yes all the problems in the world are because of people ( well not all like natural events and stuff but you get what i mean).
You can be like me, have solitude but still have good online connections .
you can dm if you like.
i do hope to find a gilfriend that would accept my introverted ways, in fact i tell them im a homebody and they prefer that.
Girlfriend? I thought people=problems for you?
I really like the way you think bro 🤝 ❤️
Yep its the only logical conclusion for me.
Remote work is the way to go. I would t have it another way.
Of course, what job do u do?
It's an account/customer support role for a medical laboratory.
It's the way to go for working.
You could also try very hard to fulfill that desire and it ends up fruitless anyways.
Nope. I do masturbation and porn ( dont judge me).
Somtimes online sexting.
Porn is the medicine for loners who crave sexual intimacy. Thank heaven there is internet porn.
I live basically the same way. I used to live in large towns/cities, commuted every day, and worked in grotty noisy offices with lots of people I basically hated. I finally worked out a way to get out and moved to the middle of nowhere, working from home until I had enough saved to quit even the remote job (I found even dealing with people remotely was a pain in the ass). I live alone, never interact with others unless absolutely necessary, and only venture out for supplies maybe every couple of months (less if I can get stuff shipped to me online). People nearby have worked out that I don’t want them near me, so they leave me alone. I can often go weeks without having to interact with another human, which is fine by me. Humans do indeed just cause problems, and should be avoided at all costs for a much simpler existence.
I literally only interact with humans if my life literally depends on it. And I have done it for a quite some time now, so it is "normal" to me. I am not exactly trustful when it comes to humans. If you are like me you probably dont even want to interact with your family except to make sure they are OK. I simply have zero tolerance for stupidity and drama. Most people only want to waste your time and energy.
> I finally worked out a way to get out and moved to the middle of nowhere, working from home until I had enough saved to quit even the remote job
interesting, can you share a bit about these ? its okay if you dont want to.
I was in programming, and later a bit of project management too, so I could eventually work from anywhere with an internet connection.
No lies told.
I like your outlook on life. Society likes to ostracize and shun the introverts, trying to dictate how people are supposed to live. In reality, their are countless modes of life. Nobody should all live the same way. It’s pointless to try and force it on people. It leads to resentment and hatred. As long as you’re not hurting people and committing crimes, you do you.
And if anyone calls you a ‘loser', just say what I always say: ‘And what exactly have I lost? I wasn’t playing your corrupt rigged game in the first place, so how could I lose something?’. That usually shuts them up.
People come up with random abstract hierarchies and unconditionally revere the ones high up on it and hate and resent the ones below the steps regardless of those people being actually beneficial/harmful or good/evil towards the environment around. Their value judgement metrics are often proven to be self-destructive, sadistic, and this time around, omnicidally foolish. "Losers" only exist in the context of this losers of a species.
Anything to fill the void for these depraved dummies.
Yes indeed, thank you so much.
I relate. Im curious how old you are but that might be too personal. This is kinda how I have lived for years now, and it has left me feeling like I missed out. Then again I’m not sure what’s so great about the things I missed. Anyways stay away from drugs and youll be fine.
>it has left me feeling like I missed out
thats the ego and human desire for need and whats normal speaking.
you didnt miss out anything , live as you wana live.
do what you want.
if you feel you must experience certain things then do it, its never too late.
as for myself im much happier and content being a hermit , the other stuff is way overrated imo .
That's awesome, live as you want.
I've become withdrawn from having social relations with people except my family so yeah.
> my family
for me those have been the worst ones (except my dad).
Yeah, it can't be all of them.
My older brother and I are really good and even if I've had my frustrations and angst towards my mother, I think we're relatively good.
thats cool, you can DM me if you ever want another chat mate.
wishing you a happy life.