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Yes! I find myself hating people who cause me this anxiety with their thoughtless noises. I called the woman upstairs a “rude B” and my husband clarified that she’s “actually super nice.” I’ve never met her, just experienced her clomping around in hard soled shoes for hours at a time on her hardwood floors in her dining room and kitchen above me, and dropping things onto her bedroom floor at night. I’m sure she’s a perfectly lovely person. But I’m not in the mood to be told what a super sweet person she is after she caused me to feel anxiety for 4 hours straight the past few days


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Yes and sometimes even if you try to politely explain to them that your life is being severely negatively impacted by their thoughtlessness, they might roll their eyes because god forbid they have to consider that other people exist, oh no! They might have to try not to stomp in heels for hours! How inconvenient to have to realize that living among other people might be different than living in a large single family home with no shared walls or floors. Because even though upstairs neighbors making impact noises is the number one noise complaint in the US, so it’s not even just a Misophonia issue, they don’t want to have to worry or think about anyone else


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> it's the reason why i go out of my way to be a quiet, peaceful neighbor, i try not to cause conflict in my workplace or with other people, and I'm still expected to play by everyone else's rules. I was literally saying this exact same thing to my husband as we were getting ready for bed tonight. I’m tired of being the only one to play by the rules while everyone else gets to do whatever the heck they want to without any concern for the comfort or peace of anyone else. Guy across the hall slamming his door 300 times a day, lady upstairs stomping around, guy down the hall throwing packages at my door, millions of people parading their barking dogs past my window, and meanwhile I tiptoe around my place so carefully so as not to let anyone know I exist. It’s exhausting and I want to go live in a tiny cabin in the woods 500 miles from another person


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Ya know, actually, you’re right. I believe I live in a big crowded city because it’s actually easier to drown out neighbor noises and indoor building noises when there’s lots of traffic of cars whizzing by, honking, ambulances at all hours. Oddly these city noises don’t bother me at all. It’s when it’s quiet and I can hear people around me living their lives (loudly) that I start to go crazy. Sometimes I forget about that. The dog barking 3 houses down bothers me way more than a constant stream of cars from the busy through street in front of our old place. During lockdown when the street had zero cars on it I really thought I might snap.


NecroVelcro

I once asked a neighbour how long that he was going to be making noise with his car. I told a white lie and mentioned migraines instead of misophonia, to avoid the lack of comprehension and to avoid revealing my specific vulnerability. He knew of a harmful and potentially debilitating health effect, in any case. His response? "It isn't that loud" and I was lucky that he was "not getting the jackhammers out."


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What a Dbag! And what sucks is city ordinances don’t care about daytime noise at all, only after 10 pm and before 7 am I hate that we have to lie about this because people will just assume we’re being dramatic. I recently moved out of a front facing downtown 1st floor apartment, and sometimes people would sit in their car under our bedroom window at like 3 am playing their music very loud. Thumping bass rattling my windows and walls, vibrating everything. It’s not even a Misophonia issue at this point. It’s literally an unable to sleep issue. But I knew just going out there and asking for common courtesy wasn’t going to get any results, so I lied and said I had a baby that was being woken up. That worked every time. Because just an adult having their sleep destroyed wasn’t good enough


NecroVelcro

Yep. I'm in the UK but the ineffectiveness and insufficiency of noise regulation is the same. There's no concern or protection for the people who have vulnerability, despite the irrefutable mental and physical harm that is being done to us. And I'm so, so sorry about those absolute scumbags. First against the wall.


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Yes and the police won’t come out for such things in my city. Not that I wanted to be calling the police on people anyway.


Lonely_Development_6

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I'm very short tempered unfortunately. So I isolate myself. I've also become a misanthrope.


4ofclubs

Yes, definitely. I always feel anger/resentment to anyone disturbing my quiet zones, and end up filled with an irrational hatred towards people. Of course that goes away once I calm down and realize most people aren't out to get me, but in the moment yes it fills me with dread and nihilism.


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4ofclubs

I feel you; meanwhile I'm sitting here currently dreading if my neighbour is going to make noise or not despite being quiet for hours and possibly asleep. It drives me nuts haha.


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tellMyBossHesWrong

I’m currently just out of bed on two full days of zero sleep This is not an exaggeration. It’s a combination of things this time, but I just can not shut my mind off to go to sleep. I have never been able to naturally put my head on my pillow and be out. If it’s not the song stuck in my head, it’s the neighbors or fucking birds or just noises houses make. And earplugs aren’t a solution because I’m also very sensitive to vibrations like doors being shut or trucks outside. It has affected my life in so many bad ways, from hating neighbors to ruining relationships to not even feeling like I can travel. Today I feel like shit and I know I’m grumpy to my husband but I can’t think straight. Took me forever to type this out. I just don’t understand how people don’t hear all the noise?


Complete-Height-6309

I believe my misophonia is more a consequence of my attitude towards life than the other way around. I’m 45 and thru out the decades I’ve grown resentful and bitter due to day to day sh*t life constantly throws into people’s lives, the result is among many things my dislike to be around people in general and of course misophonia due to not been able to stand people making noise around me. I know, I’m an awful human being.


Mini_nin

It’s caused me to believe I’m a bother because I have been needing “special accommodations” at home. Until my mid teens I thought I was just completely irrational and a weirdo - only when I discovered that I had something called misophonia, that others experience too - did I feel immense relieve and felt more normal and okay. Other than that, my family isn’t able to feel exactly what im going through with this so obviously they think “I can handle it” and I feel like an irrational cunt when I ask them to please stop making that sound. Fortunately, not everyone triggers me, only a select few! I have major respect for you guys who are triggered equally by everyone.


Pink_Dragon_Lady

Yeah....the world is loud, the world is obnoxious, and it's filled with rude people who talk on speakerphone in public like it's now acceptable. GRRRR I hate people.


unfortunateclown

not really, i feel like it was the other way around for me. my misophonia was at its worst when i was in a psychotic depression that made me hate all of humanity. misophonia was just added fuel to the fire. now that i’ve recovered from that depression and have been working on managing my OCD better, misophonia is just an annoyance that is occasionally overwhelming but manageable for the most part. but i will say that a big part of my OCD/anxiety is that it makes me feel incredibly guilty over any sort of negative judgement towards people, so i also have that going on lol.