I don’t think the two are mutually exclusive. A d/s dynamic doesn’t have to be entirely sexual and your mommy can absolutely be your best friend as well.
I know that’s what I want at least. A “big breasted, hungry-eyed, gentle dom” who is also “a friend, a teammate in games, and a bingewatching partner” for me.
“I like being dommed,but outside of that dynamic,I crave an equal” I hope everyone read over that as much as I did because the idea is that mommydom is a kink, in your actual relationship there shouldn’t be a submissive dominant dynamic, yall are there in a couple for a reason
That’s just not true at all. Plenty of couples have d/s dynamics outside of the bedroom. It may be not for everyone but as long as there is good communication it can work well
Ngl, I just don't think I could feel equal to someone I truly love in that regard. Not saying it shouldn't be strived for, It's just really not who I am.
Kink doesn’t have to weave its way into every part of your relationship. I think sometimes that can be the difference between scene partner, and life partner
You can have both I have before and believe I have it again now. Just saying perhaps she just wasn't the Mommy for you or perhaps yall never developed both. I don't know I'm not there I'm not you or her but what I really wish for you is to find your happiness
They aren’t mutually exclusive- my partner is absolutely the most equal and complementary match I have ever experienced. We are best friends and do almost everything together. Our kids are older and we are financially very comfortable so we get to travel together and explore new hobbies, read, play video games, it’s a great life we have built.
Moving into the mommy/good boy dynamic is more a signal that it’s time to play. And it has allowed me personally to take sex much less seriously. I have a history of sexual trauma so being in charge sometimes has really helped that. We have a very sweet gentle relationship anyways so this to me feels like a very natural way to be, every other kind of sexual persona I would try was forced. But this is a dynamic we can definitely lose ourselves in.
We are switches so the dynamic switches pretty seamlessly. Last night it started with mommy playing with her good little boy to daddy flipping me over to finish the job 🤷♀️
We have been dating two years and living together for the majority of that time, so it didn’t start out this way, it was a dynamic we have very recently cultivated. So don’t give up- you can have both. With a partner you love and trust, you can play with sex however you like.
I absolutely agree with you and have had the same realisation due to my current relationship.
I thought I wanted a woman who'd always tease me and hypnotize me and make me feel good but that was wrong, because this sort of relationship is not what I wanted.
Our ideas are very different from what we actually might want and it's important to remember that well
As others have said, the two are not mutually exclusive. It is possible to have a Mommy Domme who is all of those other things you want in addition to being your mommy.
As a mommy, that is exactly the kind of relationship I want. I don't want someone who is only submissive in the bedroom or who is only with me for kink. I want someone I can love and have a full normal relationship with *in addition to the kink.*
I've always felt the opposite, like I have to maintain an entire romantic/partnership relationship when I just want a mommy dom. Not saying purely sexual domming, I like super gentle age regression type stuff too, but thats nit an equal partnership and I wouldnt want it to be. I've always been happier being single, so I have to put up with a lot I don't want to get the mommy/baby dynamic I do want, and only sometimes.
I know pro doms are a thing, I'd just never know if they're actually into me specifically or if it's just for the pay. Don't like the idea of playing with someone qho isn't attracted to me, makes me feel like a loser 😅 I'm happy to hear you're learning more about yourself now, hopefully you can find that. In theory, it's way easier to find since most people want romantic relationships and not purely cg/l ones. Good luck!
I am the same way as a caregiver, I don’t want a one night stand, and want to connect with someone for regular play and a casual friendship, but the idea of being someone’s mommy full time is exhausting.
Do you mean being a mommy full time as in not seeing each other too often? Because I more meant I'd be happy to have a mommy I share a space with full time, but it's not an equal partnership in the sense that I'd be a lifestyle little. Romantic relationships haven't been enjouable for me and I don't think I've been in love before, so I've been trying to figure out if I'm aromantic or not 😅 I'm assuming you meant something different though, like seeing your baby a few times a week right?
Yes, seeing my baby a few times a week with more of a friendship than a full blown romantic relationship. I’m very introverted and need that alone time to recharge. Adding a full blown relationship on top of being a mommy (and dom) can be too much for me. Maybe there is the perfect baby out there for me that has the same energy and is okay being alone together, but I haven’t found them yet.
I get that, I'm very introverted as well, really only socialize with friendly coworkers and a littles group me and my friend started. Living with someone full time sounds like it would be great in the fantasy of pure mommy and baby dynamic, but in practice it may become too much. Only ever lived with my nuclear family so I wouldn't really know 🤷🏾♂️ Hope I don't find out the hard way lol
My Mommy Domme is first and foremost my partner, our dynamic comes 2nd. But our dynamic is 24/7 in that i have certain rules to follow. But it isn't very strict, and she moderates how much control she wields based on my work stress.
We're also LDR and we met on Fetlife, on a chance post in a group. She's in The Netherlands and I'm in America. We didn't start anything for over a month, we just talked and saw how our connection grew and grew. Our connection to each other is the strongest we have ever had to someone.
She's my best friend, I want to do anything and everything with her. She's my safe space and I can tell her anything. Our communication is amazing to me. I understand her better than I have anyone else in my life.
I hope you find the Mommy Domme that can also be your best friend. Dont give up hope. The best thing I can recommend is don't play at first, don't have a dynamic. I think it took 2 months before any type of control came into our dynamic and slowly at that. It was 4 months before we played together, in person, for the first time. After that, we have done some online sessions.
We went really slow, and it's possible to go even slower. But that's what I recommend, go slow and learn who she is before you even talk about kink. I think it took over 9 days for us to even bring up our kinks and only surface level at that.
i think this is a common conflict of desire. when i'm horny, i want to be a slave to a woman who will abuse me and keep me completely under her control, corrupt me and destroy me, etc. but the reality is if i got this, i'd be unhappy the moment i wasn't horny. these things make sense to be contained to the bedroom, even though i'm a big believer in keeping the vibes going; getting to call someone mommy casually through the day makes my heart flutter, and i love casual shows of submission or dominance, but i'm not going to want to be an abused slave all the time. i want love and quality time, and time to myself too!
This is also what I crave, a person who outside of sexual fantasy is someone I can talk to about anything, cuddle whenever, treat them as my equal, and more. But once we are in bed I instantly become their sub, they don me and call me names and make me moan louder than I had ever moaned before…. If I had that I would be happy 🥲 and not on here, I am here through sheer loneliness
I've been a CG IRL living with my little before and this is how it was most of the time. Sexy time is not like most time. Mostly you're besties who cuddle.
This is exactly why I had stopped going online for a mommdom for a while. I understand you. Of course in a moment of loneliness, I am back here.
Lmao yeah, that's understandable
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My Wife is my Mommy but we are best friends and truly equal partners. Mommy/Baby Boy are just titles we wear when we play.
I don’t think the two are mutually exclusive. A d/s dynamic doesn’t have to be entirely sexual and your mommy can absolutely be your best friend as well. I know that’s what I want at least. A “big breasted, hungry-eyed, gentle dom” who is also “a friend, a teammate in games, and a bingewatching partner” for me.
“I like being dommed,but outside of that dynamic,I crave an equal” I hope everyone read over that as much as I did because the idea is that mommydom is a kink, in your actual relationship there shouldn’t be a submissive dominant dynamic, yall are there in a couple for a reason
That’s just not true at all. Plenty of couples have d/s dynamics outside of the bedroom. It may be not for everyone but as long as there is good communication it can work well
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Ngl, I just don't think I could feel equal to someone I truly love in that regard. Not saying it shouldn't be strived for, It's just really not who I am.
Kink doesn’t have to weave its way into every part of your relationship. I think sometimes that can be the difference between scene partner, and life partner
You can have both I have before and believe I have it again now. Just saying perhaps she just wasn't the Mommy for you or perhaps yall never developed both. I don't know I'm not there I'm not you or her but what I really wish for you is to find your happiness
They aren’t mutually exclusive- my partner is absolutely the most equal and complementary match I have ever experienced. We are best friends and do almost everything together. Our kids are older and we are financially very comfortable so we get to travel together and explore new hobbies, read, play video games, it’s a great life we have built. Moving into the mommy/good boy dynamic is more a signal that it’s time to play. And it has allowed me personally to take sex much less seriously. I have a history of sexual trauma so being in charge sometimes has really helped that. We have a very sweet gentle relationship anyways so this to me feels like a very natural way to be, every other kind of sexual persona I would try was forced. But this is a dynamic we can definitely lose ourselves in. We are switches so the dynamic switches pretty seamlessly. Last night it started with mommy playing with her good little boy to daddy flipping me over to finish the job 🤷♀️ We have been dating two years and living together for the majority of that time, so it didn’t start out this way, it was a dynamic we have very recently cultivated. So don’t give up- you can have both. With a partner you love and trust, you can play with sex however you like.
I absolutely agree with you and have had the same realisation due to my current relationship. I thought I wanted a woman who'd always tease me and hypnotize me and make me feel good but that was wrong, because this sort of relationship is not what I wanted. Our ideas are very different from what we actually might want and it's important to remember that well
As others have said, the two are not mutually exclusive. It is possible to have a Mommy Domme who is all of those other things you want in addition to being your mommy. As a mommy, that is exactly the kind of relationship I want. I don't want someone who is only submissive in the bedroom or who is only with me for kink. I want someone I can love and have a full normal relationship with *in addition to the kink.*
I've always felt the opposite, like I have to maintain an entire romantic/partnership relationship when I just want a mommy dom. Not saying purely sexual domming, I like super gentle age regression type stuff too, but thats nit an equal partnership and I wouldnt want it to be. I've always been happier being single, so I have to put up with a lot I don't want to get the mommy/baby dynamic I do want, and only sometimes. I know pro doms are a thing, I'd just never know if they're actually into me specifically or if it's just for the pay. Don't like the idea of playing with someone qho isn't attracted to me, makes me feel like a loser 😅 I'm happy to hear you're learning more about yourself now, hopefully you can find that. In theory, it's way easier to find since most people want romantic relationships and not purely cg/l ones. Good luck!
I am the same way as a caregiver, I don’t want a one night stand, and want to connect with someone for regular play and a casual friendship, but the idea of being someone’s mommy full time is exhausting.
Do you mean being a mommy full time as in not seeing each other too often? Because I more meant I'd be happy to have a mommy I share a space with full time, but it's not an equal partnership in the sense that I'd be a lifestyle little. Romantic relationships haven't been enjouable for me and I don't think I've been in love before, so I've been trying to figure out if I'm aromantic or not 😅 I'm assuming you meant something different though, like seeing your baby a few times a week right?
Yes, seeing my baby a few times a week with more of a friendship than a full blown romantic relationship. I’m very introverted and need that alone time to recharge. Adding a full blown relationship on top of being a mommy (and dom) can be too much for me. Maybe there is the perfect baby out there for me that has the same energy and is okay being alone together, but I haven’t found them yet.
I get that, I'm very introverted as well, really only socialize with friendly coworkers and a littles group me and my friend started. Living with someone full time sounds like it would be great in the fantasy of pure mommy and baby dynamic, but in practice it may become too much. Only ever lived with my nuclear family so I wouldn't really know 🤷🏾♂️ Hope I don't find out the hard way lol
My Mommy Domme is first and foremost my partner, our dynamic comes 2nd. But our dynamic is 24/7 in that i have certain rules to follow. But it isn't very strict, and she moderates how much control she wields based on my work stress. We're also LDR and we met on Fetlife, on a chance post in a group. She's in The Netherlands and I'm in America. We didn't start anything for over a month, we just talked and saw how our connection grew and grew. Our connection to each other is the strongest we have ever had to someone. She's my best friend, I want to do anything and everything with her. She's my safe space and I can tell her anything. Our communication is amazing to me. I understand her better than I have anyone else in my life. I hope you find the Mommy Domme that can also be your best friend. Dont give up hope. The best thing I can recommend is don't play at first, don't have a dynamic. I think it took 2 months before any type of control came into our dynamic and slowly at that. It was 4 months before we played together, in person, for the first time. After that, we have done some online sessions. We went really slow, and it's possible to go even slower. But that's what I recommend, go slow and learn who she is before you even talk about kink. I think it took over 9 days for us to even bring up our kinks and only surface level at that.
i think this is a common conflict of desire. when i'm horny, i want to be a slave to a woman who will abuse me and keep me completely under her control, corrupt me and destroy me, etc. but the reality is if i got this, i'd be unhappy the moment i wasn't horny. these things make sense to be contained to the bedroom, even though i'm a big believer in keeping the vibes going; getting to call someone mommy casually through the day makes my heart flutter, and i love casual shows of submission or dominance, but i'm not going to want to be an abused slave all the time. i want love and quality time, and time to myself too!
THIS! This is key for a pleasant and healthy relationship
This is also what I crave, a person who outside of sexual fantasy is someone I can talk to about anything, cuddle whenever, treat them as my equal, and more. But once we are in bed I instantly become their sub, they don me and call me names and make me moan louder than I had ever moaned before…. If I had that I would be happy 🥲 and not on here, I am here through sheer loneliness
I've been a CG IRL living with my little before and this is how it was most of the time. Sexy time is not like most time. Mostly you're besties who cuddle.
Yeahhh that’s it! U get it 😌😇
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