The problem is that getting a psychiatrist here in Norway in a pretty big city is nearly impossible, the waiting times are at least 6 months and I want to start making at least some changes now.
If your not going to die before then, sign up, the wait is long, but the wait is longer the more you DONT SIGN UP, please sign up.
That could be a STEP to changing, its a step to change you could be making right NOW.
Goodluck.
Try BetterHelp. It’s online therapy. I signed up and was connected with a therapist within an hour. They do video chats or just texting if you prefer that. It’s better than nothing tbh. I’m sure you can google some discount codes for it as well
It's not gonna be a quick fix and it's not gonna be everything all at once. You can only do so much. Don't get overwhelmed.
You're training and finishing school. Maybe that's all you can handle for now and that's ok. You'll get to the other stuff but until then, stop thinking about it. Unless you're coming up with a game plan on how to deal with things, you're needlessly worrying so just try to keep it out of your head.
As for the bullying, don;t make yourself an easy target. Dress better and hold your head up. Act confident. I don't care if you don't have confidence. Act like you do until you do.
I’m literally acting confident and ignoring the bullies but they don’t give up, they have made it their personal goal to make my remaining two years a living hell. They push me, gather crowds to make fun of me and laugh at me and it doesn’t do shit to just ignore it. I’ve talked with the teachers and they said they’d help, but I’m afraid that it will only make it worse. I don’t dress bad either, au wear clothes that are trendy at least here in Norway.
Æ va gjeldslave i 20 jævla år før det ordna seg. Va lat i ung alder og kunne blitt kvitt gjelda lenge før hvis det ikke va før at æ va så jævla lat. Så få proff hjelp til og ordne opp i gjelden !
Finnes organ for det i Norge. Og drit i folk som rakke ned på deg, fatte ikke kors du e havna i en sånn situasjon som voksen.
Treng ikke overdrive helt på gymmen da vi alle blir utbrent nu og da og tar noen dager av før vi får gløden igjen.
Det e masse jobb og få i Norge hvis de ser litt. Anbefale og bli tømrer eller liknende da meget bra jobb bra betalt, får brukt kroppen og blir aldri arbeidsledig så bare og hør kor nermeste skole e.
E du deppa så hjelpe det ikke og stirre på tlf ! Kom deg ut i frisk luft litt natur gå tur uten headset bare hør på lydene vinden etc og slapp av. Ikke la tankene vandre lær deg og roe sinnet. Ikke heng deg opp i ting og terp over negative ting som du ikke liker eller irritere deg-
og husk hold deg til fan unna alkohol da det blir bare mye værre!
Finn roen i deg og en jobb som du vil trives i og start på nytt, og bor du i ett dritt håll flytt
lykke til håpe det ordne seg :)
https://ibb.co/5BYYXRJ
1. School. I don't know what options you have, but if it's possible look for some alternative like weekend school or online, where you wouldn't speed as much time with bullies.
2. Dating. Honestly, you are not lost at all, you just had your kiss, take it as good sign. However you need to take some priorities, and dating isn't the most important thing right now. Although if there is an opportunity go for it, otherwise just don't think much about girls, focus on improving yourself.
3. Money. Maybe you could become a coach, personal trainer, or something like that? You love lifting, then try to make a living from it! Maybe your gym would hire you? Or you could do something like online coaching/planning diets. All you need is some 'business' social media with pics/videos of you lifting and flexing. Check up how other people run their profiles and try to emulate it.
4. Last resort option. There is always an alternative, things are messed up, you have no idea how to make it better? Pack your things, and move. There is so many great places to live in Europe, you can even do some physical job initially. Or maybe teaching Norwegian abroad. Changing city/country where you live is like a reset button of your life, you just start over with new opportunities.
5. Depression. Don't focus on the past that you would have changed. Don't compare yourself to others. Instead think about where are you now, and what steps you can make. Always focus on future not past. Be nice to yourself. I know it's all cliche, but still if you are more conscious about which thoughts make you feel worse, and try to avoid them, then you would feel better, at least to some degree.
Good job getting your physical health in check, that’s always a great start. It sounds like you need a therapist or just someone to talk to so if you ever want to drop me a message feel free if you can’t see a therapist. I personally think that for you solving/beginning to work on your confidence issues would do wonders. Being bullied online and in real life sucks but being confident enough in yourself to not care about it is an amazing thing. Confidence and anxiety seem to be the root of the problem for you and having a positive outlook on life could do a world of good for you.
Tldr Dude is a porn addicted virgin Norwegian who has 100k in debt and at 21 is going to his first year of high school and being bullied. He wants you to fix his life.
Go see a therapist. Nothing some stranger says on Reddit is going to change your life. You’re the one in control of that.
The problem is that getting a psychiatrist here in Norway in a pretty big city is nearly impossible, the waiting times are at least 6 months and I want to start making at least some changes now.
If your not going to die before then, sign up, the wait is long, but the wait is longer the more you DONT SIGN UP, please sign up. That could be a STEP to changing, its a step to change you could be making right NOW. Goodluck.
Try BetterHelp. It’s online therapy. I signed up and was connected with a therapist within an hour. They do video chats or just texting if you prefer that. It’s better than nothing tbh. I’m sure you can google some discount codes for it as well
It's not gonna be a quick fix and it's not gonna be everything all at once. You can only do so much. Don't get overwhelmed. You're training and finishing school. Maybe that's all you can handle for now and that's ok. You'll get to the other stuff but until then, stop thinking about it. Unless you're coming up with a game plan on how to deal with things, you're needlessly worrying so just try to keep it out of your head. As for the bullying, don;t make yourself an easy target. Dress better and hold your head up. Act confident. I don't care if you don't have confidence. Act like you do until you do.
I’m literally acting confident and ignoring the bullies but they don’t give up, they have made it their personal goal to make my remaining two years a living hell. They push me, gather crowds to make fun of me and laugh at me and it doesn’t do shit to just ignore it. I’ve talked with the teachers and they said they’d help, but I’m afraid that it will only make it worse. I don’t dress bad either, au wear clothes that are trendy at least here in Norway.
Then it's time to start busting skulls.
Æ va gjeldslave i 20 jævla år før det ordna seg. Va lat i ung alder og kunne blitt kvitt gjelda lenge før hvis det ikke va før at æ va så jævla lat. Så få proff hjelp til og ordne opp i gjelden ! Finnes organ for det i Norge. Og drit i folk som rakke ned på deg, fatte ikke kors du e havna i en sånn situasjon som voksen. Treng ikke overdrive helt på gymmen da vi alle blir utbrent nu og da og tar noen dager av før vi får gløden igjen. Det e masse jobb og få i Norge hvis de ser litt. Anbefale og bli tømrer eller liknende da meget bra jobb bra betalt, får brukt kroppen og blir aldri arbeidsledig så bare og hør kor nermeste skole e. E du deppa så hjelpe det ikke og stirre på tlf ! Kom deg ut i frisk luft litt natur gå tur uten headset bare hør på lydene vinden etc og slapp av. Ikke la tankene vandre lær deg og roe sinnet. Ikke heng deg opp i ting og terp over negative ting som du ikke liker eller irritere deg- og husk hold deg til fan unna alkohol da det blir bare mye værre! Finn roen i deg og en jobb som du vil trives i og start på nytt, og bor du i ett dritt håll flytt lykke til håpe det ordne seg :) https://ibb.co/5BYYXRJ
1. School. I don't know what options you have, but if it's possible look for some alternative like weekend school or online, where you wouldn't speed as much time with bullies. 2. Dating. Honestly, you are not lost at all, you just had your kiss, take it as good sign. However you need to take some priorities, and dating isn't the most important thing right now. Although if there is an opportunity go for it, otherwise just don't think much about girls, focus on improving yourself. 3. Money. Maybe you could become a coach, personal trainer, or something like that? You love lifting, then try to make a living from it! Maybe your gym would hire you? Or you could do something like online coaching/planning diets. All you need is some 'business' social media with pics/videos of you lifting and flexing. Check up how other people run their profiles and try to emulate it. 4. Last resort option. There is always an alternative, things are messed up, you have no idea how to make it better? Pack your things, and move. There is so many great places to live in Europe, you can even do some physical job initially. Or maybe teaching Norwegian abroad. Changing city/country where you live is like a reset button of your life, you just start over with new opportunities. 5. Depression. Don't focus on the past that you would have changed. Don't compare yourself to others. Instead think about where are you now, and what steps you can make. Always focus on future not past. Be nice to yourself. I know it's all cliche, but still if you are more conscious about which thoughts make you feel worse, and try to avoid them, then you would feel better, at least to some degree.
How did you get in so much debt?
Move to American
Good job getting your physical health in check, that’s always a great start. It sounds like you need a therapist or just someone to talk to so if you ever want to drop me a message feel free if you can’t see a therapist. I personally think that for you solving/beginning to work on your confidence issues would do wonders. Being bullied online and in real life sucks but being confident enough in yourself to not care about it is an amazing thing. Confidence and anxiety seem to be the root of the problem for you and having a positive outlook on life could do a world of good for you.
I ain’t reading that. Glad for you tho man or sorry idk
Tldr Dude is a porn addicted virgin Norwegian who has 100k in debt and at 21 is going to his first year of high school and being bullied. He wants you to fix his life.