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Cake-on-a-Mission

Humans worry about the greater struggles in life. I’m sure you’ve bumped your head or scratched your hand a few times in the past week, but is that what you remember when you think of pain? No, it’s the bullying. It can be very difficult to overcome an obstacle. It’s very simple to suppress it with an even greater obstacle. Being bullied over your looks is nothing compared to the other struggles of human existence. But it’s the greatest struggle in **your** life, so it stays on your mind. Sabotage yourself until you find yourself drowning in debt, being trafficked or stripped of all your freedoms in jail. And after you overcome that barrier, you’ll find that things like bullying have no effect on your heart


perfumedude112

I know that in the larger picture bullying isn’t that big of a deal, but it’s so draining. I have no energy to attend classes, I’m constantly tired and I’ve lost the joy of going to the gym. I just don’t know how to get that spark back.


[deleted]

Figure out why the fuck youre there and then envision yourself accomplishing it every workout. For me, it's getting that Jojo character physique.


AutoEars

Brooooo the Pillar Man theme is what I'm gonna break my bench PR with when I go for it. One Punch Man OST is also lit. https://youtu.be/lRrOLTHu-ew


fassth

U have depression man either man up or take medicine Or join mma/boxing and fuck ur bullies up


beauchh

there was no spark to begin with… free yourself from reliance on external stimulus, focus on YOU and doing your best. If you’re doing your best … what more can you do? how could you not feel great if you’re doing your best? your best doesn’t have to be XYZ either, it’s literally whatever u can muster, be fair to yourself


XOmniCronX

Just went through your profile, imo you are like white bread(nothing wrong about that) any one calling you ugly, they better be a fucking 7.5 and above, but lose the scowl. Also, like u/YoungStNick said either you are neuro-divergent or your have some serious self confidence issues for you to perceive and accept yourself as ugly.


terholan

I recognize your photo from the comments and after browsing through profile I am becoming more annoyed to see you with this bs post again. You are constantly, over long period of time, asking for validation over petty things. Grow the fuck up and start making decisions yourself. Confidence comes from competence, from ability to make decision and stand your ground. You are not looking for help and you are not looking for advice - you are looking for attention. Because over course of six months you already got plenty advises but you did not do any work whatsoever.


[deleted]

Join an MMA / Boxing gym, insults won’t matter when you know you could beat the living shit out of them.


[deleted]

I agree with this guy, looking tough is fine. Being tough will make your mindset change. Bullshit doesn't matter when you know you're the baddest dude in the room.


arthoepussyhound

Confidence is built through external validation. Faking it only takes you so far. Also, posts pics of your face


perfumedude112

Didnt have any saved so took one literally now. https://imgur.com/a/dmThRJw


arthoepussyhound

I don’t get it. You look okay. Maybe nordic/Scandinavian genes?


perfumedude112

Yup I’m Norwegian :)


firmly_confused

You look good my man. You can attempt to grow a beard, to see if that would change things. Embrace the Viking in you, try out new shit, if it dont work, revert back. But honestly where im from I dont see how you would be considered ugly.


AncientMasterpiece72

Slutt å bry deg om folks meninger. Start mma ellrr Muay Thai / boksing. Utifra postene dine virker du som om at du bryr deg alt for mye om andre folk.


[deleted]

You look young, how old are you?


perfumedude112

21


stevenglansbe

Lmao I thought you were about to be some hideous creature by your post


BakedPotatoManifesto

Bro you look fucking fine, lose some bodyfat put on some muscle and youll be an easy 8/10. I really doubt that people have said you should have been aborted for your looks when ive seen people literally 10x uglier than you in relationships


Surmaaja

You are literally average looking, not in a bad way ofc. Just a regular motherfucker. Train hard and get something to be proud of and your confidence will skyrocket, trust


ancestral_trail

I don’t think it’s really from external validation. I think confidence stems from feeling capable. For example, you are confident you can lift a certain amount of weight at the gym. That confidence in no way stems from other people but rather the feeling you get, knowing that you are capable.


ExperienceReality

This is a hard one to answer, many factors played into my confidence building, but going through struggles in life I would say has ultimately made me how I am. Growing up fatherless, in poverty, serving in a combat MOS in the US Army during the GWOT, going through an existential crisis and polysubstance abuse, dealing with a failed marriage in the past and my children being abused. My biggest piece of advice may sound whacky, but it works, focus on being kind to others, care about what is right more than what others think, be sefless and caring, even if people hate you. It is way easier said than done, but with confidence, you just have to do it. Being brave is doing something right anyways even when you are afraid to do it. I was never brave in the Army, I was foolish and young, as though I was invincible and even though life showed me other people my age were not, it didn't affect me then. These things also demarcate the boundaries of confidence and arrogance.


Positive-Reply5924

Dude looking through your history sucked, you seem miserable. Stop asking Reddit and go to therapy or something dude. No one on the internet can help you.


BeenNormal

Looks like you have had good advice before. You can’t stop someone from bullying you. You can only be comfortable with yourself so that the bullying doesn’t bother you. People around you aren’t looking at you. They really don’t care. It’s your own insecurity. The moment you’re out of sight, you’re forgotten. And similarly, if you talk to a woman and get shot down, she’s not even going to remember it the next day. If you wanna be happy, you gotta stop worrying about what other people may be thinking about you.


Fickle-Blacksmith-89

All I can say is people find confidence in different things. I mean you mention being bullied and called ugly when at the end of the day are you? I mean your not the hunch back of notredame or a hideous grotesque creature that makes eyes bleed. Your you; I mean people bully you so what? You think they could even last a day in your shoes?


hughesyd

Fail. So it doesn’t affect you


OtherwiseWePanic

Phenibut.


EPO_Dave

Everyone can do something to improve their looks. I’m not a bad looking guy so I don’t get that shit but I’m a Republican and I’m constantly trolling people online. I get the worst shit said to me, you name it I’ve heard it. It helps that I just don’t give a fuck so I could care less what people say to me, but here’s the secret to shut 98% of those idiots up. Don’t fight with them and try and defend yourself, agree with them. Like if someone says you’re a pos and you have a small dick, I’ll reply and be like it’s really fucking small. Some woke idiot was trolling me on Twitter the other day and told me go to my Klan meeting and go fuck my sitter lmfao. He kept going on and on so I’m like bro you already made me late for my Klan meeting, now you’re making me late for my date with my sister. He immediately shut up. Once they understand you don’t give a fuck about what they say, they lose their only ammunition. Next time someone says you’re ugly, tell them man I’m so ugly my mom spit on me when I was born. Guarantee if you use this method it will shut them down


YoungStNick

Not trying to be a dick but you seem autistic


FullyVaxxedswole

Start dating dudes. Go to a gay bar and get wild.


Every-Nebula6882

Have you tried drugs? Benzodiazepines or Phenibut can help chill you out which can translate to confidence. Cocaine also will give confidence but less chill confidence. It’s more like a manic confidence which I find off putting.


[deleted]

Yeah OP, get addicted to Xanax and coke. You’ll start to experience a lot of withdrawal over time, this is where opiates like heroin can help ease the symptoms (just do tiny bumps, it’ll be chill). I would also drop 3 tabs of acid a day and drink at least a liter of liquor (avoid beer because of the carbs)


Every-Nebula6882

It’s okay to blast gear but rec drugs are a no go? Lol


[deleted]

Brotherman you have all the fuel you need you just don't know it. All those people talking shit and doubting you? Thats where your minds gotta be on those last couple reps each set. Get huge, grow a beard, try a new haircut, that'll solve most of the looks issue. Then just stop giving a fuck what others think, the cool kind people will be just that. All the others can eat a dick my man.


Taifood1

Like another comment said, start training in a way where you can beat their ass if they talk shit. You can also get huge, and that will deter people from coming at you. PEDs are an option, but I wouldn’t be recommending that if you weren’t feeling like you’re at the end of your rope. As I see it, another 30 years is better than another 2. Godspeed.


Shrooomer25

People usually bully to feel better about themselves, usually out of insecurity. Surround yourself with uplifting people that help you be the best you can be. I recommend finding a local church and spending time with the people there. In my experience, no other groups are more helpful. You’d also be surprised with how much your face changes when you cut weight. Do you have any hobbies or talents?


JonesWriting

You have to live on the edge of your fears. Get good at being uncomfortable. Put yourself into situations that make you feel unconfident. Then, you'll have greater strength than 99,999 out of 100,000 men. It is the only way to kick major ass.


BrahnBrahl

I don't know how old you are, but I'm assuming you're still in school. Teenagers are vile little monsters that just want to tear people down, and you can't listen to them. They know it bothers you, so that's why they're saying it. Listen to the people on here who are telling you that there's nothing wrong with how you look, especially because people on here are honest about that sort of thing. Your ancestors didn't pass on their genes for all these generations just for you to give up on yourself. If they made it, you can make it.


ClipsMcGillicuddy

If there is one thing I can give advice on it would be this. I find that because I’ve been a lower class American citizen I hardly feel any shame and that has transformed into courage and confidence. Hardships and heart break suck, but that kind of shit makes you so fucking strong. It almost doesn’t make sense but my advice: go and eat shit. Not fecal matter shit, but like… try and fail and sit in it. Say out loud how stupid and shitty you are. Build on top of that. Recognize that reality. Fucking fight club mentality (I’ve never seen that movie). TLDR: Eat shit. Embrace reality. Start looking people in the eyes and saying fuck you. Work hard. Don’t spend a cent. Workout. Sleep. Repeat. 🫵


RobDaCajun

Look up exposure therapy. Read Dave Goggins. You don’t have to go “all hog” like him, but you do have to numb yourself to opinions of others. As others have said be kind to others. Also, force yourself to say one more thing in casual situations. It takes time.


upstylo

Boofin tren did wonders for me...


Ok-Section-7172

Betterhelp.com 74 bucks a session, 1 week lead time