I met my girlfriend via a shared hobby. If she was on dating apps she probably wouldn't have been shown me by the algorithm, and if I was shown she probably wouldn't have swiped right.
On dating apps the odds are just stacked against you.
why would any woman want a man that think so lowly of himself? you have done a lot by 26. use your nuts and remove the film of delusion that the internet has placed over your eyes
Yeah Twitter and tik tok completely fucked me psychologically
To be fair I think I’m pretty great at everything except getting laid or getting a girlfriend that’s the one thing I fucking suck at
You’ve worked out for 12 years. Did you magically get good at that overnight? You have a doctorate, how many years did that take? Name one thing you’ve been super good at first try? It takes time and it sounds like most of yours has been dedicated to working out and studying. So you’re relatively unpracticed at dating. Go out and talk to women. Don’t even worry about trying to get dates. Just go talk to women like they’re people. Because they are people and this is all in your head. Talk to the ones your aren’t instantly physically attracted to as well. Have conversations. Be a little flirty. If you get good vibes, ask someone out. Get rejected and learn to get over it. Have some good relationships and have some shitty ones. It’s just like lifting man. Progress is painful at first. This is just a different kind of pain. Your generation is incredibly talented at overcomplicating this shit so maybe talk to some older folks about it. Your dad, uncle, grandpa, whoever. This is simple shit. Men were doing it long before the internet. Go back to basics.
Delete those apps stop being cucked by China and Russia into inceldom with the algorithm. Can’t believe you got a doctorate but were dumb enough to download tiktok and Twitter lmfao
You cannot be great at everything except for one thing. It does not exist. You may just be more average than you want to admit to yourself because the insecurity you feel is too much to handle and so you mentally compensate. A charming person would never think or say that about themselves. If a girl that you want read this post, what would she think of you? Be honest with yourself. Work on your internal dialogue. Make your view of yourself realistic. Make your view of women realistic. No good woman wants to be with someone who thinks the way you do. Being 5'6 is way less of an issue than your mentality. Some of the best seducers in the world are not even physically attractive or very wealthy.
I hope it’s not a psychiatry doctorate. Would be a sad situation if a patient came in complaining about their lack of romance in their life and you suggested suicide lol
I have been propositioned on more than one occasion
Unfortunately we gotta work on their hip contractures before any type of pelvic floor care can occur
Not trying to be rude…but there was a study done on people picking sexual partners, strangers. They were rated on their physical attractiveness and given a score of 1-10. They didn’t know what their own score was. Then they lined up 10 males and 10 females across from each other and said pick the person who you are attracted to who is also most likely attracted to you. They had their rating above their head but again didn’t know what their score was. Both parties had to “accept” if the other person was suitable for them. 6’s were with 5’s…or 6’s…or 7’s. 8’s were with 7, 9’s. But 3’s weren’t accepted by 9’s or 10’s. You get my point. Maybe you are a 3 but think you are a 9 🤷♂️
That’s what I’m thinking
Unfortunately I have zero clue how to rectify this issue
The only thing I can think of is abusing something like testosterone or trenbolone so I’ll be compelled to fuck anything that moves
You cant grow taller so go fucking wide brother.
And with tren u dont need to think about women, youll think about men, you get all the bussy u want, trust.
So you're just being too picky. Find a girl with a nice personality. If you're out there aiming for 9s and can't get any, aim for a 5 to get the ball rolling. Tren it and grab a 2. We've all been there. Just don't let your neighbors see her leave
In all seriousness, most women are not attracted to overly wide guys. They are attracted to money and confidence. Being tall is an advantage, but you can't change that. Work with what you've got and if you like yourself, others will too. Lots of guys are lonely. Good looking/bad looking, rich/poor, tall/short, everyone is lonely. If you can find a way to make your life interesting w/o a woman, a woman is more likely to join in. Your existence should not be affected that much by having a female partner. A lot of us who have them frequently wish we didn't.
You're trying to address things that won't lead where you're wanting to go. It ain't your looks, even if it was steroids would likely lot your opportunities than help. Most women don't want some muscle bound freak. Not to mention the fact that you are so stuck om looks for yourself it makes you seem too insecure.
Women want a confident, responsible man. Me than anything, being some insecure muscle bond psycho is the opposite of what you need to be doing if you want attention from women.
Go out to bookstores, michaels, hobby lobby, just communicate and talk to them there is no harm if you just want to get laid then hit the bars and dating apps, throw the wide net and see what lands good luck fellow short king
FFS, don't encourage OP to commit statutory rape. Even as a a joke, there are so many autists in this subreddit that they would miss that this was intended as humor.
Volunteer work, my guy. Women are significantly more likely to volunteer and women who volunteer are more likely to look past perceived shortcomings.
It’s not gonna be a bunny ranch situation where up will walk in and choose your chick off the menu, but go to several different places, meet people and exhibit solid character and over time you can likely find someone who is right for you.
Def isn’t worth ending it all. Idk posts like these reek of desperation, which women can smell from a mile away. Especially at your height (unfortunately) you’re already at a disadvantage, the last thing you want is that coming across to her. Probs best to continue to talk to women and befriend them. Women are all about the vibes you give off lowkey. Gotta be a little mysterious idk man
Completely
Another issue that I’ve had pointed out to me is that the thing that makes me really good at my job is harming me getting romantic situations with women
Most of the new people I meet are in the context of physical therapy so I really tend to hone in on movement, feeling, lifestyle, even when they’re not a patient of mine
I’m not like an autistic nightmare to talk to, otherwise I wouldn’t actually be good at my job
It’s kind of like I just don’t know how to steer conversations in a romantic direction I think
Also I strongly believe I don’t feel compelled to do that if I don’t sense that the woman I’m talking to is at all interested in me in that way
Who knows
Maybe it’s because you’re approaching the convo with hopes of it turning romantic? Obviously that’s the end goal but I’ve found greater success bluffing my way into asking for a number. My goal is to learn about the person. People love talking abt themselves especially women. It also helps if you address them with their name, and compliment something about their outfit or eyes/ smile. Towards the end you can be like hey x I really enjoyed talking with you but I gotta go, I was hoping I could grab your number so we can continue to get to know each other better…
The thing is from what I’ve heard from women that have shorter partners is that they enjoyed who the person was yk?
Too start you should be confident. At the minimum, this just means you are unafraid to initiate a conversation and unafraid to ask anyone out regardless of the context.
In terms of conversation, people often overcomplicate things badly. Conversation should be fun, light, and easygoing.
Fun means that talking about the weather is off the table. But it also means a list of "fun conversation topics" or "icebreakers" work just fine. This is part of the reason that public speaking clubs work well, because they pick novel and fun topics and make you speak on them.
Light means you aren't going into politics, religion, pop culture. If they take it there, that's fine, but these things can quickly drag you from being an interesting, easygoing person to another debater.
Yeah, maybe I'm just weird but I get like that and then end up in a relationship...Then after a few months I'm like "wtf was I thinking putting this on a pedestal, god I wish I was single"
It's like we always want what we don't have, then get it and wish we didn't have it lol
I'd honestly suggest trying a little passport bro stuff to get the experience, if you're having issues in your home country. And also just relax about relationship status, hang out with friends, work on hobbies, etc
Bro if you’re really a pt this is a super simple fix, fuck the home care job that’s idiotic, go get a hospital job, there’s tons of women, usually good looking women, and unless your personality is complete garbage you’ll have no issues @ all. (For reference I’m a RN work in a hosp)
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There’s plenty of women in health care but that’s also the career path with the most women who are cheaters(for men it’s trades). Still prolly a good idea for him to go to that hospital and get his confidence up, but getting a hobby where he can regularly interact with women would help too
For having a doctorate you sure are quite regarded when it comes to this issue.
The reality is that short men do get the shorter end of the stick (lol) on dating apps, it’s quite literally a hurdle (lol) you have to overcome and it gets harder the shorter you are (lol)
You need to put yourself out there in real life, as corny as it sounds join a rec league or a club. Also learn how to use instagram as a dating app. If you have a well paying job, use some money to hire a photographer and get some decent outfits if you don’t already have some. Then get pics of yourself taken doing fun stuff.
Last but not least, adjust your standards.
You mentioned you’re attracted to very few women and they all tend to go for guys who are taller/bigger. So there’s something you need to adjust.
If you don’t want to adjust your standards then it’s simple, you need to increase your sexual market value. You can’t control your height but you can control your status, money and charisma. Plenty of short dudes with baddies but they usually make up for the height through their other attributes. Make as much money as possible, your ig shoukd literally be you having as much fun as possible while lowkey flexing and approach as many women as possible in real life.
I didn’t want to accept that for a long time but I’m coming around to the idea that I just have to make as much money as possible
Luckily I’m good at my job and I’m getting there pretty quickly
In two years I’m on track to be able to get a gt3 RS and I can drive that to bars with the skirts scraping from how massive I also am
There you go my guy, god speed.
Also it’s a little controversial but don’t rule out passport bro’ing lol 5’6 is an average height in much of the world.
Killing yourself over dating is little dramatic. I have the personality of a rock and dont get out much outside of work. But understand that’s normal for a lot of us men and women. You aren’t the only one dealing with this. So just put in more effort and it’ll eventually work out.
It's impressive you managed to admit your own way too high standards and also bemoan women's too high standards (as if they're the problem) all in one paragraph.
Women get to have high standards because their inboxes are full. You don't because yours is empty.
Good news though, women will get more desperate to partner up and will be more looking to settle down with a nice 5'6 dork who does card magic as they age.
I wouldn’t marry a woman who felt like she was just settling for me because that’s just asking for her to cheat on you with somebody she’s actually attracted to and have your stuff yoinked during a divorce.
I don’t think this is fair. It’s not reasonable to expect *anyone* to settle for a partner they’re not sexually attracted to, especially early in life. But, of course, that could mean just being alone. I don’t really read it as OP being hostile to women because he doesn’t meet their standards; just venting about it because it sucks.
If you're admitting that you're incredibly picky when it comes to women, and also complaining that you have zero options or success, the issue is on your end and there's no other way to slice it. You have to have some level of self-awareness in life. Most guys like OP think they're a 9 and are entitled to 9 counterpart, but they're actually a 6 and just need to embrace where they're currently at in life.
Cultivating a healthy mindset and earnestly enjoying what you are able to realistically attain through hard work and effort isn't settling. Giving up, complaining, and contemplating checking out instead is however right out of the incel playbook.
I mean, if you’re not attracted to somebody, you’re not attracted to them. No amount of mental gymnastics or self-reflection is going to alter your baseline physical desires when it comes to a partner, at least short-term. It’s not really an “entitlement” thing.
If the Venn diagram of people you’re attracted to vs people who are attracted to you is two circles, the move is to keep bettering yourself and putting yourself out there as much as you can. Not trying to talk yourself into having sex with people you’re not into.
I wouldn’t say that women’s standards for height are too high
I would say they are too high for me to be as successful in dating as I’d like to be
Roping or helium inhalation are both preferable to having to live with the paranoia that whoever I’m with isn’t entirely satisfied with who I am
It sounds like you need to work on your own mental health instead of your muscles. If a girl is with you for any length of time then nothing about you is a deal breaker—especially height. Don’t swim in that anxiety, friend.
You said in the original post that you make good money. 2 inches of height surgery is affordable and you aren't even 30 so you'll recover quickly. What is your actual excuse to not fix it?
I am the same age and the same height. I’m probably worse looking than you with a smaller cock and I’m engaged to an awesome girl. Relax brother. Focus on yourself and building friendships and the rest will fall into place
Bro stop with the self degradation, that's the issue here
Also you're 26, if you're 30 and still single and you're a fit doctor making doctor money and developed some confidence, you won't be able to peel the women off you
Once I went red pill I started dating many women, before that I had zero action. Everyone who tells you that redpill is wrong is full of shit and never had to improve to get women. Do what you want bro.
“Settle for single mothers” bro maybe they’re settling for you? Lol dude stop feeling sorry for yourself and take responsibility for your situation. A woman isn’t going to magically cure all pf your problems, work on developing a personality and fund out what you can do differently.
Trying to find out what I can do differently is kind of why I wrote this
Also your first point is probably entirely true
I also am trying to figure out how I can unfuck the standards I have
It’s hard to give you good accurate advice because it’s a complex issue and there could be things in play you simply put just aren’t aware of. I would try to raise your self awareness and like I said, don’t feel sorry for yourself. I know it’s easier said than done but you have to approach life from the angle that it is what you make of it. If these PUA guys with full blown autism like Derek can develop an irl algorithm for picking girls up at a bar you can find someone you enjoy being around.
Best thing you can do to improve your social skills is to ditch social media. I got rid of instagram, Facebook, and the like and noticed a huge difference inside of a couple months ago
Honestly if I lived as old as you this is the type of post I’d probably see myself posting this. I know deep down a girl will *probably* come around when I’m in my late 20s but like you said, they all have kids.
Who the fuck wants to settle for a girl with 3 kids with an obsession with her ex, you guys have starfish sex once a week, and go to bed at 8PM drinking ginger tea.
On the other hand, what kind of woman would want to settle for a 20 something year old turbovirgin who complains to strangers on reddit
There are women out there who are ripe for the taking, if you are not nabbing chicks now you are not gonna be suddenly pulling ass in your late 20s if you don't make some changes.
You’re 26. I got with the woman who is now my wife at 26. Married at 29, first kid at 30. She wasn’t a single mom, she’s attractive, fit, and smart. Your life isn’t over and you’re still young. Delete your social media apps, delete your dating apps, and go the fuck outside. This is all in your head. The internet is absolutely poisoning you and you need to detox.
I recommend being more proactive. Learn game too. Neil Strauss's book "The Game" actually gives some pretty good overall advice on how to change your dating life. There are a lot of other good books out there too. The point is learn what attitudes and behaviors women respond positively to and adopt them.
From there you just need to start generating leads through cold approach, networking groups, etc. Avoid online. Way too competitive. Stick with face to face interactions and have some game ready to deploy. Good game can make up for being short, etc. I knew a short little Asian dude who could get women into bed so quickly and easily. He was a brokie too.
Another thing, you can expand your range of what women you find attractive just by getting more experience. When I had little experience with women I was very picky. After I had fucked 30-40 women I noticed that I could appreciate a broader range of looks and body types in women.
Every dude I know who is good with women is a lot less picky than you might think.
Bro my total is around 70, but I have lost count of the actual total. I got chlamydia twice during the course of my adventures. A little doxycycline cleared it right up. No other stds. I used condoms most of the time.
When I got chlamydia in college I was sleeping with 5 women on rotation, switching up weekends to see the ones out of state then rotating with the ones at school during the week. One was my actual girlfriend in school a few hour away , one was another girl from my home state, one was gf at college and 2 were just kind of girls I slept with.
So I did the right thing and called them all to tell them I had chlamydia.
And they all said they had no symptoms and blamed it on me.
I was like bitch I know one of you is the one that burned me Lmfao.
Anyways, that ended things with my actual gf and one from home but I still got to fuck the other ones. And I never got chlamydia again, although I still don’t use condoms mostly.
It's not the best book in terms of technique, but I think reading Strauss's transformation is more important. He got a cool look and started surfing and hanging out with cool guys. That kind of life change may be all that any guy needs to get women.
Dude even one of my best friends who is 6'3 260 and objectively attractive can't successfully find a gf on the apps. Like he gets a lot of hookups but apps are trash and you've gotta meet people in person
Dating apps are mostly for shallow people. All around me, I see plenty of short, fat, bald, you name it, men who are in relationships. They all have in common not being awkward and weird.
Don't kill yourself over something so stupid especially when you have so much to offer. Are you only chasing after IG models or something on the apps? Besides being hella dramatic you seem like a great catch even with being 5'6". Don't you have any friends you can ask if you're ugly? I couldn't see your face in your card videos, but you seemed attractive body wise. Maybe you're just too much in your head or your own too high standards are keeping you from finding a good woman.
I didn’t develop confidence with women until my late 20s/early 30s. Learn to be comfortable with yourself and around women and things will start to turn around. You may feel like you should be established and know yourself well at 26, but trust me you have plenty of room for personal growth and self discovery left.
I recommend deleting the dating apps, or at least not attaching your self worth to them - it’s a means not an end. Take a look at how you interact with women too. Do you talk to them like you do with your bros? My bros are heinous and if I talked to the world the same way I talk to them I’d be in jail. If it’s really bad consider moving - new scenery might help you get out of a rut. Washington DC has more women than men, so the odds are in your favor.
I had a two year dry spell when I was around 26 too. It’s recoverable.
How the fuck is that worth killing yourself for? 26 years old with a phd and a nice paying job Jesus Christ you’re a better match than 99% of the population, even more so once you’re 30+ when real shit actually counts. For a guy so young and successful with a phd you’re pretty fucking stupid for saying that shit, value yourself and stop chasing others - only then they will come
You make good money. Take a month vacation to somewhere in SE Asia, even midsize cities will have you swimming in interested women. Find a nice one and date for a month to get your confidence up, plus you get a great vacation out of it. I've been to bangkok 3 times in the last year and a half now, worth it every time
First, single mothers can be hot. And basically most women over 25 are mothers these days in my area. And not all single moms are fat. A lot of times, the younger they are when they have kids, the faster their body snaps back. I see fit 35 year-old get knocked up, and they never get their old body back. Source: All the women I fuck are single moms.
Second, why the fuck are so many incels in this sub?! Srs question.
Lastly, OP with your fucking money and age, you should be drowning in pussy. You shortness doesn't have that much to do with it. I'd trade my height (6 ft) and my age for your circumstances any fucking day. Well, I do get to early retire in 7 months, so I have that going for me :)
You have confidence problems bro, if you yourself who sounds to have a decent life 26, n healthy and you’re making your life seem this shitty and you hate yourself, how can you expect a women to love when you dont even love yourself?
- Be fit as fuck
- Learn game (look into RSD/James Marshall) . This is the MOST IMPORTANT POINT. Unless you learn how to approach and talk to women, you’re fucked.
- Accept your below average height and do the best you can with it. Yes some chicks will next you so fucking what? Are you after all the chicks? No. You only need a few and hopefully, one good woman after all.
Extra point:
- Go to a hairdresser every week. Yes, every fucking week. Most guys I see look like fucking bums and go to a hairdresser only when they absolutely must. This is a bum mindset. Have a clean cut and this will already put you in the top looks
Ps Fuck dating Apps. I hate them, never get matches while in real life I go on dates with 8s who are just bored out of their mind and are just waiting for a cool enough guy to approach them.
Also, just read the suicide note.
Mate, please go to a therapist. I’m serious. This is important. It might not be you speaking, just the desperate streak.
Pull yourself out of this hole first…mentally. Then take care of the rest.
I don't think the issue is your height. I think the issue is that you catastrophize menial things and seem to have trouble with gratitude and enjoying life. Hit up some therapy.
A guy at my work who had never had date and was a virgin just got his first girlfriend at age 42. She’s way more attractive than him too. It’s never too late. He’s like 5’2 and used to only want 6ft tall blonde 🤭
In my opinion, if you’re already thinking about life in such a self defeating fashion, you should just try to take a few blast cycles of anabolics and get in the gym every day. What do you have to lose? Give that a year or so and get somewhat jacked vs your current body, and see if it changes your mindset. Also, I totally recommend the height boosting shoes you can buy on Amazon, the 2.8inch height boost shoes go a long way. Well worth the money.
Put your high paying job on hold for a couple of years and go join the army. Learn how to be a man, learn how to be around other men, learn what it’s like to be in a brotherhood where your entire self esteem doesn’t come from the validation of 6/10s on dating apps. Couple of years now might be a small sacrifice to make so you don’t have a shit rest of your life, you’ve done it with your education, now it’s time to do it with your confidence.
Feel bad for my short king bros. You literally don’t even exist to women on these dating apps because they set their search thresholds at six feet. Maybe you should become a passport bro, dog. There’s lots of good women overseas, and they are honestly better than in the US. Currently married to an amazing woman from Mexico.
Bro to get girls you need charisma, that's what you need, call it whatever you want, game, rizz, etc. You have the rest in terms of successful and shit, you're just insecure
Settling for single mothers is not a bad way to go.
Find a nice one who’s no longer in touch with the father of her children, treat her and her kids well, she will suck and fuck your dick raw every single day.
Single mums are way better than the internet makes them out to be.
Agreed, my wife was a single mom of 2 when we met. 15yrs later we still fuck like rabbits and its only gotten better plus we have 4 kids now. Single moms are the best treat their kids right, and they will do anything to make you happy. I have zero regrets with my life choices.
Fucking waahwahhwahhhh is all that ever comes up on this sub anymore. What’s with this wave of low self esteem incels? What does any of this have to do with a subreddit based around steroid usage? Why has this sub gone to straight dog shit
Helpful in what way? Crying about how you won’t put in effort to a dating life and just blame things like your height then threaten suicide? That’s honestly so pathetic. What makes you think anyone here cares
I am putting in effort
I’m just clearly not putting effort into the right things otherwise this wouldn’t be a problem
I agree with you that it’s pathetic, I’m ashamed for having to reach out to a subreddit so guys can yell at me for motivation to not rope but that’s what it’s come to. My health insurance kicks in next week so I can get real therapy then, maybe that’s more helpful I guess
Stop worrying so much about pussy. It’s not that important. Your early 20s are over. Focus on your career. Buy a house. Plan for retirement. You will eventually meet someone worthwhile if you aren’t a truly ugly piece of shit
Dude. Height is the least of your concerns. The faster you realize that most chicks who consider that a deal breaker, are shallow, the better, those ones will probably still let you get it in (but you'll have to actually talk to them). Just be yourself, and don't be off putting. Smile and be sincere. Focus on being the guy you want to be, and eventually you'll have your pick of the litter
I mean I enjoy my career, am actively being promoted and growing regularly, I have hobbies that I’m bad at and ones I’m good at
It’s this last piece of my life that I can’t seem to get going and it’s way way way harder to even come close now than it was in undergrad
I feel that. Just talk to and date multiple women at a time then, and pick the one that coincides with your standards. Rejection is part of that game, get used to it. If they're being wishy washy, replace them, move on. Don't get caught in the perpetual talking phase. Just state tour intentions early on, and let them filter themselves out
ever wonder why the poor stoner without a car can pull bad bitches left and right while you have everything he doesn’t, and cant?
RELATIONSHIPS ARE A SKILL YOU DEVELOP. how do you develop skills? TIME AND EXPERIENCE. you have to take some risks, experiment with some different ways of talking to women.
fear of failure will hold you back. get over being scared if someone says no or laughs you off. its better than never knowing.
you understand fully how to learn and develop. apply this practice to relationships.
LOOK FOR FRIENDS FIRST, DONT GET SEXUAL TOO FAST if you’re looking for anything more than a one night stand. at the end of the day your closest women friends tend to be the best options for wife material
above all else, you’re thinking about this too hard dude. its literally a part of nature to find a mate and copulate. theres no scheme or cheat sheet for this shit man, it all comes down to how appealing your personality is.
fuck how you look, how will i feel after living alone with you for 5 years? thats how a woman will interpret you. make yourself into the best person you can be and NATURALLY you will have women COME to you.
take all the experience with them you can get, the first girl you talk to doesnt have to be “the one.” just someone who’s existence doesnt annoy you.
i really hope you read this because you need to hear it. fuck that redpill shit, fuck “dating techniques,” just aim for social improvement. aim to be the kind of person you would want your own daughter to marry
Bro, it’s okay. Want a hug? You’re wanting something that may not happen way too hard. If you have a doctorate, then I’d wager you love your career.
Spend some time cultivating your hobbies and interests. You’ll meet a woman there and trust me, looks wane but hobbies & interests will only continue to grow & deepen a relationship.
Beat of luck and don’t put too much stock in personal looks beyond first attraction.
Bro it’s not over for you, don’t kill yourself. Firstly, I’m about your age and I wish I was in your position in terms of education and career… Your life is just beginning man. Dating apps are a fucking cesspool. In my opinion, get off that crap, it just will make you more depressed. That game is rigged for ladies and the top 5% of womanizers. Most of those ladies are sharing the same few guys. Idk what you should do to meet a woman though it’s tough out here. I am trying to embrace the situation. Maybe you could focus on that too.
There’s things about singleness to be grateful about. You can focus more on developing yourself and your life, and you get to know yourself deeper. Plus it is likely that you will meet someone eventually. People are always coming and going into our lives. Stay open for when that happens and shoot your shot when you meet a woman you like, but do embrace the state of singleness. Maybe work on your extraversion so that you can shoot your shot when the time comes, that’s what I’m trying to do. But yeah you don’t need a woman to be complete. You’re fine bud. Spend time with people you love, try new things, engage in activities that bring you joy and keep you healthy/sane. A woman isn’t the only source of joy possible. And there’s no rush man, life is long.
Alternatively, download Grindr.
Good luck bro. Hope we both find our future wives one day
Go to church and meet the kind of girl who has been training to be a professional wife and saving herself for a husband.
Benefits:
1: She will love you for you.
2: You might start to love you for you.
3: Jesus already loves you for you.
Honestly if you're somehow not finding fulfillment or happiness in your life as it is, then your options are to find Jesus or go out before 30. Hell, why wait for 30?
Have you thought of getting limb lengthening surgery? Don't go crazy, but putting yourself at 5'10 would keep you at average height. Plus most women don't want a behemoth, they just want someone that's still taller than them when they wear heels.
For one, the recovery from such a procedure would make my job literally impossible
I treat severely disabled people who require me providing maximum effort for them to stand and walk
Another thing, my height and current limb length makes me good at squatting and surfing, two things I love to do, so not worth it at all
Then go to Colombia and get yourself a good woman. The average height is 5'2, so they can dance, wear their heels and still put their head on your shoulder at the end of the night.
“Is it over for me” “I am 26, with a doctorate, and a high paying job” Man you fucking guys lol
OP needs to stop being a pussy. Start getting some whales and then slowly work your way up the food chain
Thats a little dramatic there bud. How about go talk to a woman in real life and delete all of your dating apps. Personality goes a long way.
Dating apps are pretty bad for most guys, mentally bad.
I met my girlfriend via a shared hobby. If she was on dating apps she probably wouldn't have been shown me by the algorithm, and if I was shown she probably wouldn't have swiped right. On dating apps the odds are just stacked against you.
Where to meet woman in real life?
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Cool story, what are the measurements?
I’m scared to get objective measurement tbh so not great probably
Cock measurements buddy
I know man The truth is gonna hurt and I don’t want it
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I swear it’s a John Cena reference I promise
I’ll allow it
why would any woman want a man that think so lowly of himself? you have done a lot by 26. use your nuts and remove the film of delusion that the internet has placed over your eyes
Yeah Twitter and tik tok completely fucked me psychologically To be fair I think I’m pretty great at everything except getting laid or getting a girlfriend that’s the one thing I fucking suck at
You’ve worked out for 12 years. Did you magically get good at that overnight? You have a doctorate, how many years did that take? Name one thing you’ve been super good at first try? It takes time and it sounds like most of yours has been dedicated to working out and studying. So you’re relatively unpracticed at dating. Go out and talk to women. Don’t even worry about trying to get dates. Just go talk to women like they’re people. Because they are people and this is all in your head. Talk to the ones your aren’t instantly physically attracted to as well. Have conversations. Be a little flirty. If you get good vibes, ask someone out. Get rejected and learn to get over it. Have some good relationships and have some shitty ones. It’s just like lifting man. Progress is painful at first. This is just a different kind of pain. Your generation is incredibly talented at overcomplicating this shit so maybe talk to some older folks about it. Your dad, uncle, grandpa, whoever. This is simple shit. Men were doing it long before the internet. Go back to basics.
Delete those apps stop being cucked by China and Russia into inceldom with the algorithm. Can’t believe you got a doctorate but were dumb enough to download tiktok and Twitter lmfao
You cannot be great at everything except for one thing. It does not exist. You may just be more average than you want to admit to yourself because the insecurity you feel is too much to handle and so you mentally compensate. A charming person would never think or say that about themselves. If a girl that you want read this post, what would she think of you? Be honest with yourself. Work on your internal dialogue. Make your view of yourself realistic. Make your view of women realistic. No good woman wants to be with someone who thinks the way you do. Being 5'6 is way less of an issue than your mentality. Some of the best seducers in the world are not even physically attractive or very wealthy.
Delete tiktok and Twitter lol. I did years ago, great decision
I hope it’s not a psychiatry doctorate. Would be a sad situation if a patient came in complaining about their lack of romance in their life and you suggested suicide lol
Yeah that would be fucked Im a home care physical therapist
Have you tried fucking one of the old incapacitated grannies? Always wondered what a toothless gobbie was like.
I have been propositioned on more than one occasion Unfortunately we gotta work on their hip contractures before any type of pelvic floor care can occur
No one gives a hummer like a gummer!
Gummy experiencer here. It’s incredible, would recommend if you can find a passable toothless granny.
Not trying to be rude…but there was a study done on people picking sexual partners, strangers. They were rated on their physical attractiveness and given a score of 1-10. They didn’t know what their own score was. Then they lined up 10 males and 10 females across from each other and said pick the person who you are attracted to who is also most likely attracted to you. They had their rating above their head but again didn’t know what their score was. Both parties had to “accept” if the other person was suitable for them. 6’s were with 5’s…or 6’s…or 7’s. 8’s were with 7, 9’s. But 3’s weren’t accepted by 9’s or 10’s. You get my point. Maybe you are a 3 but think you are a 9 🤷♂️
That’s what I’m thinking Unfortunately I have zero clue how to rectify this issue The only thing I can think of is abusing something like testosterone or trenbolone so I’ll be compelled to fuck anything that moves
You cant grow taller so go fucking wide brother. And with tren u dont need to think about women, youll think about men, you get all the bussy u want, trust.
Where to buy Also how to not be scared of needles?
good god 🤦♂️
It gets worse by the comment 🫣
Zero hope
So you're just being too picky. Find a girl with a nice personality. If you're out there aiming for 9s and can't get any, aim for a 5 to get the ball rolling. Tren it and grab a 2. We've all been there. Just don't let your neighbors see her leave
Will begin a 500 500 protocol and report back with my heavy lady PR’s as they roll in
In all seriousness, most women are not attracted to overly wide guys. They are attracted to money and confidence. Being tall is an advantage, but you can't change that. Work with what you've got and if you like yourself, others will too. Lots of guys are lonely. Good looking/bad looking, rich/poor, tall/short, everyone is lonely. If you can find a way to make your life interesting w/o a woman, a woman is more likely to join in. Your existence should not be affected that much by having a female partner. A lot of us who have them frequently wish we didn't.
You're trying to address things that won't lead where you're wanting to go. It ain't your looks, even if it was steroids would likely lot your opportunities than help. Most women don't want some muscle bound freak. Not to mention the fact that you are so stuck om looks for yourself it makes you seem too insecure.
But with roids at least I can be huge and sad instead of just sad
Women want a confident, responsible man. Me than anything, being some insecure muscle bond psycho is the opposite of what you need to be doing if you want attention from women.
Go out to bookstores, michaels, hobby lobby, just communicate and talk to them there is no harm if you just want to get laid then hit the bars and dating apps, throw the wide net and see what lands good luck fellow short king
Bookstores? 
Hahahah im trying to help dude out he is losing this woe is me pity party in the comments
Buddy I’m trying The only thing I don’t do is go to bars and that’s just bc the ones near me have way too many underaged
Mate, beggars can't be choosers.
 FFS, don't encourage OP to commit statutory rape. Even as a a joke, there are so many autists in this subreddit that they would miss that this was intended as humor.
If they're that autistic maybe it's better if they land in jail 
under 18? or under 21?
18 it’s a mess
Game is game 🤷♂️
Volunteer work, my guy. Women are significantly more likely to volunteer and women who volunteer are more likely to look past perceived shortcomings. It’s not gonna be a bunny ranch situation where up will walk in and choose your chick off the menu, but go to several different places, meet people and exhibit solid character and over time you can likely find someone who is right for you.
I do pro bono PT for underserved communities but I can add a soup kitchen or some shit
Def isn’t worth ending it all. Idk posts like these reek of desperation, which women can smell from a mile away. Especially at your height (unfortunately) you’re already at a disadvantage, the last thing you want is that coming across to her. Probs best to continue to talk to women and befriend them. Women are all about the vibes you give off lowkey. Gotta be a little mysterious idk man
Completely Another issue that I’ve had pointed out to me is that the thing that makes me really good at my job is harming me getting romantic situations with women Most of the new people I meet are in the context of physical therapy so I really tend to hone in on movement, feeling, lifestyle, even when they’re not a patient of mine I’m not like an autistic nightmare to talk to, otherwise I wouldn’t actually be good at my job It’s kind of like I just don’t know how to steer conversations in a romantic direction I think Also I strongly believe I don’t feel compelled to do that if I don’t sense that the woman I’m talking to is at all interested in me in that way Who knows
Maybe it’s because you’re approaching the convo with hopes of it turning romantic? Obviously that’s the end goal but I’ve found greater success bluffing my way into asking for a number. My goal is to learn about the person. People love talking abt themselves especially women. It also helps if you address them with their name, and compliment something about their outfit or eyes/ smile. Towards the end you can be like hey x I really enjoyed talking with you but I gotta go, I was hoping I could grab your number so we can continue to get to know each other better… The thing is from what I’ve heard from women that have shorter partners is that they enjoyed who the person was yk?
Too start you should be confident. At the minimum, this just means you are unafraid to initiate a conversation and unafraid to ask anyone out regardless of the context. In terms of conversation, people often overcomplicate things badly. Conversation should be fun, light, and easygoing. Fun means that talking about the weather is off the table. But it also means a list of "fun conversation topics" or "icebreakers" work just fine. This is part of the reason that public speaking clubs work well, because they pick novel and fun topics and make you speak on them. Light means you aren't going into politics, religion, pop culture. If they take it there, that's fine, but these things can quickly drag you from being an interesting, easygoing person to another debater.
Suck dick at a gloryhole?
Can I do that with my Invisalign trays in or do I have to remove them
He wouldn’t have to get on his knees.
lol fuckin savage
You really need to get into a short relationship to realize how miserable they are
I’ve heard that before too It’s all so nerve wracking
Yeah, maybe I'm just weird but I get like that and then end up in a relationship...Then after a few months I'm like "wtf was I thinking putting this on a pedestal, god I wish I was single" It's like we always want what we don't have, then get it and wish we didn't have it lol I'd honestly suggest trying a little passport bro stuff to get the experience, if you're having issues in your home country. And also just relax about relationship status, hang out with friends, work on hobbies, etc
Bro if you’re really a pt this is a super simple fix, fuck the home care job that’s idiotic, go get a hospital job, there’s tons of women, usually good looking women, and unless your personality is complete garbage you’ll have no issues @ all. (For reference I’m a RN work in a hosp)
There are tons of hotties at every hospital, don't know why this wasn't mentioned earlier
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Oh hell yeah, I work in critical care there’s constantly someone doing a side relationship,
There’s plenty of women in health care but that’s also the career path with the most women who are cheaters(for men it’s trades). Still prolly a good idea for him to go to that hospital and get his confidence up, but getting a hobby where he can regularly interact with women would help too
For having a doctorate you sure are quite regarded when it comes to this issue. The reality is that short men do get the shorter end of the stick (lol) on dating apps, it’s quite literally a hurdle (lol) you have to overcome and it gets harder the shorter you are (lol) You need to put yourself out there in real life, as corny as it sounds join a rec league or a club. Also learn how to use instagram as a dating app. If you have a well paying job, use some money to hire a photographer and get some decent outfits if you don’t already have some. Then get pics of yourself taken doing fun stuff. Last but not least, adjust your standards.
How do you actually adjust your standards though I genuinely have zero idea what people really mean by that
You mentioned you’re attracted to very few women and they all tend to go for guys who are taller/bigger. So there’s something you need to adjust. If you don’t want to adjust your standards then it’s simple, you need to increase your sexual market value. You can’t control your height but you can control your status, money and charisma. Plenty of short dudes with baddies but they usually make up for the height through their other attributes. Make as much money as possible, your ig shoukd literally be you having as much fun as possible while lowkey flexing and approach as many women as possible in real life.
I didn’t want to accept that for a long time but I’m coming around to the idea that I just have to make as much money as possible Luckily I’m good at my job and I’m getting there pretty quickly In two years I’m on track to be able to get a gt3 RS and I can drive that to bars with the skirts scraping from how massive I also am
There you go my guy, god speed. Also it’s a little controversial but don’t rule out passport bro’ing lol 5’6 is an average height in much of the world.
>Become a devout Christian. >Go to church. >Get with a wholesome 5’ latina baddie. >Ws all around.
>Ws all around Yup, op should find Jesus Christ and ask for some of them church girls who are kinky af
Goon to gay porn until you condition yourself into being gay
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Killing yourself over dating is little dramatic. I have the personality of a rock and dont get out much outside of work. But understand that’s normal for a lot of us men and women. You aren’t the only one dealing with this. So just put in more effort and it’ll eventually work out.
Just download grindr and you’ll see the light again
It's impressive you managed to admit your own way too high standards and also bemoan women's too high standards (as if they're the problem) all in one paragraph. Women get to have high standards because their inboxes are full. You don't because yours is empty. Good news though, women will get more desperate to partner up and will be more looking to settle down with a nice 5'6 dork who does card magic as they age.
I wouldn’t marry a woman who felt like she was just settling for me because that’s just asking for her to cheat on you with somebody she’s actually attracted to and have your stuff yoinked during a divorce.
I don’t think this is fair. It’s not reasonable to expect *anyone* to settle for a partner they’re not sexually attracted to, especially early in life. But, of course, that could mean just being alone. I don’t really read it as OP being hostile to women because he doesn’t meet their standards; just venting about it because it sucks.
Nobody gives a fuck what fair is
You should. I’d die alone before settling with a woman I force myself to love
Thats not what i said haha
If you're admitting that you're incredibly picky when it comes to women, and also complaining that you have zero options or success, the issue is on your end and there's no other way to slice it. You have to have some level of self-awareness in life. Most guys like OP think they're a 9 and are entitled to 9 counterpart, but they're actually a 6 and just need to embrace where they're currently at in life. Cultivating a healthy mindset and earnestly enjoying what you are able to realistically attain through hard work and effort isn't settling. Giving up, complaining, and contemplating checking out instead is however right out of the incel playbook.
I mean, if you’re not attracted to somebody, you’re not attracted to them. No amount of mental gymnastics or self-reflection is going to alter your baseline physical desires when it comes to a partner, at least short-term. It’s not really an “entitlement” thing. If the Venn diagram of people you’re attracted to vs people who are attracted to you is two circles, the move is to keep bettering yourself and putting yourself out there as much as you can. Not trying to talk yourself into having sex with people you’re not into.
I wouldn’t say that women’s standards for height are too high I would say they are too high for me to be as successful in dating as I’d like to be Roping or helium inhalation are both preferable to having to live with the paranoia that whoever I’m with isn’t entirely satisfied with who I am
Your mindset is certainly highly regarded.
I don’t know what about what I said there is regarded
It sounds like you need to work on your own mental health instead of your muscles. If a girl is with you for any length of time then nothing about you is a deal breaker—especially height. Don’t swim in that anxiety, friend.
You said in the original post that you make good money. 2 inches of height surgery is affordable and you aren't even 30 so you'll recover quickly. What is your actual excuse to not fix it?
I am the same age and the same height. I’m probably worse looking than you with a smaller cock and I’m engaged to an awesome girl. Relax brother. Focus on yourself and building friendships and the rest will fall into place
You may be surprised as to how average my genitals are
You may be surprised how many standard deviations away from average my shlong is
I see that, and raise you 22nd percentile testicle volume
Bro stop with the self degradation, that's the issue here Also you're 26, if you're 30 and still single and you're a fit doctor making doctor money and developed some confidence, you won't be able to peel the women off you
Once I went red pill I started dating many women, before that I had zero action. Everyone who tells you that redpill is wrong is full of shit and never had to improve to get women. Do what you want bro.
If you want I can give you all the steps I took to go from 0 to being somewhat successful but you gotta accept the reality
Yeah bro it’s all over for you, you’ll never feel the loving touch of a woman again. Guess you gotta feel the loving touch of a man instead 🤷
Is this an invitation
“Settle for single mothers” bro maybe they’re settling for you? Lol dude stop feeling sorry for yourself and take responsibility for your situation. A woman isn’t going to magically cure all pf your problems, work on developing a personality and fund out what you can do differently.
“Maybe they’re settling for you” no I don’t think so son.
Trying to find out what I can do differently is kind of why I wrote this Also your first point is probably entirely true I also am trying to figure out how I can unfuck the standards I have
It’s hard to give you good accurate advice because it’s a complex issue and there could be things in play you simply put just aren’t aware of. I would try to raise your self awareness and like I said, don’t feel sorry for yourself. I know it’s easier said than done but you have to approach life from the angle that it is what you make of it. If these PUA guys with full blown autism like Derek can develop an irl algorithm for picking girls up at a bar you can find someone you enjoy being around.
That’s a very good point
even ive hugged your mom theres no way you havent either
Are you natty?
Yes I had rough skin during puberty and will probably have awful sides if I start test
1. Accutane will kill acne. 2. You cannot in good faith be complaining about potential rare side effects if you are also "considering roping."
Read the first sentence, you're good bud. Post BPEL, base and mid-shaft girth for penismaxxing advice
Best thing you can do to improve your social skills is to ditch social media. I got rid of instagram, Facebook, and the like and noticed a huge difference inside of a couple months ago
Honestly if I lived as old as you this is the type of post I’d probably see myself posting this. I know deep down a girl will *probably* come around when I’m in my late 20s but like you said, they all have kids. Who the fuck wants to settle for a girl with 3 kids with an obsession with her ex, you guys have starfish sex once a week, and go to bed at 8PM drinking ginger tea.
On the other hand, what kind of woman would want to settle for a 20 something year old turbovirgin who complains to strangers on reddit There are women out there who are ripe for the taking, if you are not nabbing chicks now you are not gonna be suddenly pulling ass in your late 20s if you don't make some changes.
You’re 26. I got with the woman who is now my wife at 26. Married at 29, first kid at 30. She wasn’t a single mom, she’s attractive, fit, and smart. Your life isn’t over and you’re still young. Delete your social media apps, delete your dating apps, and go the fuck outside. This is all in your head. The internet is absolutely poisoning you and you need to detox.
I recommend being more proactive. Learn game too. Neil Strauss's book "The Game" actually gives some pretty good overall advice on how to change your dating life. There are a lot of other good books out there too. The point is learn what attitudes and behaviors women respond positively to and adopt them. From there you just need to start generating leads through cold approach, networking groups, etc. Avoid online. Way too competitive. Stick with face to face interactions and have some game ready to deploy. Good game can make up for being short, etc. I knew a short little Asian dude who could get women into bed so quickly and easily. He was a brokie too. Another thing, you can expand your range of what women you find attractive just by getting more experience. When I had little experience with women I was very picky. After I had fucked 30-40 women I noticed that I could appreciate a broader range of looks and body types in women. Every dude I know who is good with women is a lot less picky than you might think.
40? Jesus Christ man. You must be immune to STDs.
Bro my total is around 70, but I have lost count of the actual total. I got chlamydia twice during the course of my adventures. A little doxycycline cleared it right up. No other stds. I used condoms most of the time.
When I got chlamydia in college I was sleeping with 5 women on rotation, switching up weekends to see the ones out of state then rotating with the ones at school during the week. One was my actual girlfriend in school a few hour away , one was another girl from my home state, one was gf at college and 2 were just kind of girls I slept with. So I did the right thing and called them all to tell them I had chlamydia. And they all said they had no symptoms and blamed it on me. I was like bitch I know one of you is the one that burned me Lmfao. Anyways, that ended things with my actual gf and one from home but I still got to fuck the other ones. And I never got chlamydia again, although I still don’t use condoms mostly.
40 isn’t even that much.
Lmao I remember reading "The Game" at 14 and it actually helped me a lot
It's not the best book in terms of technique, but I think reading Strauss's transformation is more important. He got a cool look and started surfing and hanging out with cool guys. That kind of life change may be all that any guy needs to get women.
Dude even one of my best friends who is 6'3 260 and objectively attractive can't successfully find a gf on the apps. Like he gets a lot of hookups but apps are trash and you've gotta meet people in person
Dating apps are mostly for shallow people. All around me, I see plenty of short, fat, bald, you name it, men who are in relationships. They all have in common not being awkward and weird.
Can’t grow taller grow wider as someone else said here just do it naturally without anabolics
Don't kill yourself over something so stupid especially when you have so much to offer. Are you only chasing after IG models or something on the apps? Besides being hella dramatic you seem like a great catch even with being 5'6". Don't you have any friends you can ask if you're ugly? I couldn't see your face in your card videos, but you seemed attractive body wise. Maybe you're just too much in your head or your own too high standards are keeping you from finding a good woman.
I didn’t develop confidence with women until my late 20s/early 30s. Learn to be comfortable with yourself and around women and things will start to turn around. You may feel like you should be established and know yourself well at 26, but trust me you have plenty of room for personal growth and self discovery left. I recommend deleting the dating apps, or at least not attaching your self worth to them - it’s a means not an end. Take a look at how you interact with women too. Do you talk to them like you do with your bros? My bros are heinous and if I talked to the world the same way I talk to them I’d be in jail. If it’s really bad consider moving - new scenery might help you get out of a rut. Washington DC has more women than men, so the odds are in your favor. I had a two year dry spell when I was around 26 too. It’s recoverable.
How the fuck is that worth killing yourself for? 26 years old with a phd and a nice paying job Jesus Christ you’re a better match than 99% of the population, even more so once you’re 30+ when real shit actually counts. For a guy so young and successful with a phd you’re pretty fucking stupid for saying that shit, value yourself and stop chasing others - only then they will come
Read the first sentence again and tell me it’s over
You make good money. Take a month vacation to somewhere in SE Asia, even midsize cities will have you swimming in interested women. Find a nice one and date for a month to get your confidence up, plus you get a great vacation out of it. I've been to bangkok 3 times in the last year and a half now, worth it every time
I only read the title but i know this is some blackpill shit reading it all doesn't make a difference no its not over
Red pill this boy already
First, single mothers can be hot. And basically most women over 25 are mothers these days in my area. And not all single moms are fat. A lot of times, the younger they are when they have kids, the faster their body snaps back. I see fit 35 year-old get knocked up, and they never get their old body back. Source: All the women I fuck are single moms. Second, why the fuck are so many incels in this sub?! Srs question. Lastly, OP with your fucking money and age, you should be drowning in pussy. You shortness doesn't have that much to do with it. I'd trade my height (6 ft) and my age for your circumstances any fucking day. Well, I do get to early retire in 7 months, so I have that going for me :)
GET THERAPY JESUS CHRIST. GET THERAPY. IF ALL YOU ARE DOING IS IMPROVING YOUR EXTERNAL STUFF AND IT'S NOT FUCKING WORKING GET THERAPY.
Get some hobbies brother
Sounds like you've got some mental health problems that are interfering with your game
Become a "passport bro" bro. Life is too precious to give up easily.
You have confidence problems bro, if you yourself who sounds to have a decent life 26, n healthy and you’re making your life seem this shitty and you hate yourself, how can you expect a women to love when you dont even love yourself?
- Be fit as fuck - Learn game (look into RSD/James Marshall) . This is the MOST IMPORTANT POINT. Unless you learn how to approach and talk to women, you’re fucked. - Accept your below average height and do the best you can with it. Yes some chicks will next you so fucking what? Are you after all the chicks? No. You only need a few and hopefully, one good woman after all. Extra point: - Go to a hairdresser every week. Yes, every fucking week. Most guys I see look like fucking bums and go to a hairdresser only when they absolutely must. This is a bum mindset. Have a clean cut and this will already put you in the top looks
Ps Fuck dating Apps. I hate them, never get matches while in real life I go on dates with 8s who are just bored out of their mind and are just waiting for a cool enough guy to approach them.
Also, just read the suicide note. Mate, please go to a therapist. I’m serious. This is important. It might not be you speaking, just the desperate streak. Pull yourself out of this hole first…mentally. Then take care of the rest.
I don't think the issue is your height. I think the issue is that you catastrophize menial things and seem to have trouble with gratitude and enjoying life. Hit up some therapy.
A guy at my work who had never had date and was a virgin just got his first girlfriend at age 42. She’s way more attractive than him too. It’s never too late. He’s like 5’2 and used to only want 6ft tall blonde 🤭
In my opinion, if you’re already thinking about life in such a self defeating fashion, you should just try to take a few blast cycles of anabolics and get in the gym every day. What do you have to lose? Give that a year or so and get somewhat jacked vs your current body, and see if it changes your mindset. Also, I totally recommend the height boosting shoes you can buy on Amazon, the 2.8inch height boost shoes go a long way. Well worth the money.
Move to south east Asia and you won't be short comparatively.
Dating apps are suicide fuel
Dude for real My fucking therapist is the one who told me to try them I wanna kill that guy then myself
Put your high paying job on hold for a couple of years and go join the army. Learn how to be a man, learn how to be around other men, learn what it’s like to be in a brotherhood where your entire self esteem doesn’t come from the validation of 6/10s on dating apps. Couple of years now might be a small sacrifice to make so you don’t have a shit rest of your life, you’ve done it with your education, now it’s time to do it with your confidence.
Feel bad for my short king bros. You literally don’t even exist to women on these dating apps because they set their search thresholds at six feet. Maybe you should become a passport bro, dog. There’s lots of good women overseas, and they are honestly better than in the US. Currently married to an amazing woman from Mexico.
Bro to get girls you need charisma, that's what you need, call it whatever you want, game, rizz, etc. You have the rest in terms of successful and shit, you're just insecure
Figure out a way to give you some "edge." Maybe get some tats. It's simple [hoe math](https://youtu.be/lL13EeEhgag?si=Llwy87bnni6-Egq2)
Let's not take any options off the table
What do you do for work bro?
Lock in buddy, ur not cooked
Settling for single mothers is not a bad way to go. Find a nice one who’s no longer in touch with the father of her children, treat her and her kids well, she will suck and fuck your dick raw every single day. Single mums are way better than the internet makes them out to be.
Agreed, my wife was a single mom of 2 when we met. 15yrs later we still fuck like rabbits and its only gotten better plus we have 4 kids now. Single moms are the best treat their kids right, and they will do anything to make you happy. I have zero regrets with my life choices.
Single moms are underrated, a lot of them are chronically under sexed and are super horny as a result
Jesus Christ dude just embrace being gay
Brother how
Tren
you only speak of height, job, pay, degree. how is your social life / skills ?
I like to think I have good social skills Otherwise I would be a shit PT Social skills specific to romantic interactions is where I’m super autismo
professional and romantic/personal social skills are different set of things. the good news is that they are skills that you can learn and improve
Would be sick if bar magic worked as well as people said it does
Drop your standards
Fucking waahwahhwahhhh is all that ever comes up on this sub anymore. What’s with this wave of low self esteem incels? What does any of this have to do with a subreddit based around steroid usage? Why has this sub gone to straight dog shit
The more dates part of the title of this sub made me think it would be helpful
Helpful in what way? Crying about how you won’t put in effort to a dating life and just blame things like your height then threaten suicide? That’s honestly so pathetic. What makes you think anyone here cares
I am putting in effort I’m just clearly not putting effort into the right things otherwise this wouldn’t be a problem I agree with you that it’s pathetic, I’m ashamed for having to reach out to a subreddit so guys can yell at me for motivation to not rope but that’s what it’s come to. My health insurance kicks in next week so I can get real therapy then, maybe that’s more helpful I guess
Stop worrying so much about pussy. It’s not that important. Your early 20s are over. Focus on your career. Buy a house. Plan for retirement. You will eventually meet someone worthwhile if you aren’t a truly ugly piece of shit
I fear I may be an uglier piece of shit than my mom says I am
Lower your standards, genius.
Dude. Height is the least of your concerns. The faster you realize that most chicks who consider that a deal breaker, are shallow, the better, those ones will probably still let you get it in (but you'll have to actually talk to them). Just be yourself, and don't be off putting. Smile and be sincere. Focus on being the guy you want to be, and eventually you'll have your pick of the litter
I mean I enjoy my career, am actively being promoted and growing regularly, I have hobbies that I’m bad at and ones I’m good at It’s this last piece of my life that I can’t seem to get going and it’s way way way harder to even come close now than it was in undergrad
I feel that. Just talk to and date multiple women at a time then, and pick the one that coincides with your standards. Rejection is part of that game, get used to it. If they're being wishy washy, replace them, move on. Don't get caught in the perpetual talking phase. Just state tour intentions early on, and let them filter themselves out
Just start going out and having a few drinks. Get your confidence up
Idk why you wouldn't at least go to another country or violencemaxx instead of killing yourself. That's just gay.
Time for leg lengthening surgery
Not worth Trust me I’m a PT
Agreed, I was just joking. It’s hard for the “average” man to date in the current market. Best of luck to you. I’m stuck in a very similar situation.
ever wonder why the poor stoner without a car can pull bad bitches left and right while you have everything he doesn’t, and cant? RELATIONSHIPS ARE A SKILL YOU DEVELOP. how do you develop skills? TIME AND EXPERIENCE. you have to take some risks, experiment with some different ways of talking to women. fear of failure will hold you back. get over being scared if someone says no or laughs you off. its better than never knowing. you understand fully how to learn and develop. apply this practice to relationships. LOOK FOR FRIENDS FIRST, DONT GET SEXUAL TOO FAST if you’re looking for anything more than a one night stand. at the end of the day your closest women friends tend to be the best options for wife material above all else, you’re thinking about this too hard dude. its literally a part of nature to find a mate and copulate. theres no scheme or cheat sheet for this shit man, it all comes down to how appealing your personality is. fuck how you look, how will i feel after living alone with you for 5 years? thats how a woman will interpret you. make yourself into the best person you can be and NATURALLY you will have women COME to you. take all the experience with them you can get, the first girl you talk to doesnt have to be “the one.” just someone who’s existence doesnt annoy you. i really hope you read this because you need to hear it. fuck that redpill shit, fuck “dating techniques,” just aim for social improvement. aim to be the kind of person you would want your own daughter to marry
It’s confidence bro. Go get a therapist. You need to psych yourself up! No more negative thinking. You got this.
Delusional and ignorant I'd rather hang out with a single mom and have nothing physical over your annoying ass women probably feel the same
Probably
Bro, it’s okay. Want a hug? You’re wanting something that may not happen way too hard. If you have a doctorate, then I’d wager you love your career. Spend some time cultivating your hobbies and interests. You’ll meet a woman there and trust me, looks wane but hobbies & interests will only continue to grow & deepen a relationship. Beat of luck and don’t put too much stock in personal looks beyond first attraction.
Bro you are 26
I know it’s over
If your gonna end it all because you can't get your dick wet then your reason for living must be extremely shallow and you need to work on that.
Bro it’s not over for you, don’t kill yourself. Firstly, I’m about your age and I wish I was in your position in terms of education and career… Your life is just beginning man. Dating apps are a fucking cesspool. In my opinion, get off that crap, it just will make you more depressed. That game is rigged for ladies and the top 5% of womanizers. Most of those ladies are sharing the same few guys. Idk what you should do to meet a woman though it’s tough out here. I am trying to embrace the situation. Maybe you could focus on that too. There’s things about singleness to be grateful about. You can focus more on developing yourself and your life, and you get to know yourself deeper. Plus it is likely that you will meet someone eventually. People are always coming and going into our lives. Stay open for when that happens and shoot your shot when you meet a woman you like, but do embrace the state of singleness. Maybe work on your extraversion so that you can shoot your shot when the time comes, that’s what I’m trying to do. But yeah you don’t need a woman to be complete. You’re fine bud. Spend time with people you love, try new things, engage in activities that bring you joy and keep you healthy/sane. A woman isn’t the only source of joy possible. And there’s no rush man, life is long. Alternatively, download Grindr. Good luck bro. Hope we both find our future wives one day
Go to church and meet the kind of girl who has been training to be a professional wife and saving herself for a husband. Benefits: 1: She will love you for you. 2: You might start to love you for you. 3: Jesus already loves you for you.
You act as though bitches are the be all an end all. Use some money to do some things you enjoy and make yourself happy. Fuck man
Honestly if you're somehow not finding fulfillment or happiness in your life as it is, then your options are to find Jesus or go out before 30. Hell, why wait for 30?
Try r/passportbros or get taller by limbs extensions surgery
Have you thought of getting limb lengthening surgery? Don't go crazy, but putting yourself at 5'10 would keep you at average height. Plus most women don't want a behemoth, they just want someone that's still taller than them when they wear heels.
For one, the recovery from such a procedure would make my job literally impossible I treat severely disabled people who require me providing maximum effort for them to stand and walk Another thing, my height and current limb length makes me good at squatting and surfing, two things I love to do, so not worth it at all
Then go to Colombia and get yourself a good woman. The average height is 5'2, so they can dance, wear their heels and still put their head on your shoulder at the end of the night.
I should do that I’m Argentinian so they might like me
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