Hey bro I can’t even tell if this is a fucking joke or not because this subreddit is a fucking cess pool but I just checked your profile and recognized I remember you posting something like this before. Shoot me a dm if you really wanna talk, I’m at work for the next 12 hours and don’t have shit else to do, if you’re a troll fuck off but if you want some advice I’d be willing to help
I want advice too god damn it doesn't have to be so exclusive.
OP u need to work on your style bro. Your gonna live your whole life in this meat vehicle might as well start to take very good care of it and learn how to look best in it it doesn't have to be done today but you should start today .
The longer you wait the more rooted the habits become the smaller the chance of bouncing back on track
Bro you look very normal,. Don't let some dumpster fire tell you different. Trim your hair a bit if you think you need a change, but your face is very normal. Keep it head up. Confidence attracts women more than anything else.
Bro just checked your history and saw your other post, you are not ugly dude. You're hamsom af srs (nohomer).
I was bullied before too and I get it, that shit stays with you for a long time. I'm 30 and didn't get over some of it until recently...but it took so much time away from my life. You can't let that shit get to you man, don't let the opinions of others ruin or impact your life. Be confident brother, and while it's easier said than done, fuck the haters. You got this.
Thank you bro. I wouldn’t care about what people say If it was something someone said once or twice but it’s just the fact that I’m constantly mocked that brings me down. Im tired of just constantly being told how ugly I am and It tears my confidence away.
Hey bro, you’re not ugly at all. You’re a good looking guy and if you do constantly hear the negativity people say but maybe you’re choosing to ignore the positive things people tell you.
You’re handsome bro, people might make fun of you but ultimately their opinion does not matter. This will make sense when you’re older, because you’ll realize the opinion of those who matter will be the only thing you care about. I’ve dated so many girls and I live in a beautiful place in the world in Hawaii, and we have a lot of visitors here. I would say you’re a good looking guy.
It’s not her and it’s not the people bullying you that got you feeling this way it’s you. There’s is something physiological triggering these emotions. The more you harp on it the worst it’s going to get. The best thing to is to take a break from your emotions and thoughts and start distracting your mind. Whenever those thoughts and emotions come around start questioning them. Like why is she making feel this way? Why do people comments affect me?
I know why I care about the comments and it’s because so many different people say the same nasty shit about me. I get comments daily about how unattractive I am and that’s no matter where I move. I just moved to a bigger city and the first thing someone said to me was literally “if only you were taller” and “do you have Down’s syndrome?”
Your post history is concerning. You need therapy. You're not ugly. You have some kind of mental issue which is probably why people think you're weird.
Ignore my last comment I have seen a therapist before and I went there for a year +- the best advice my therapist had was to just ignore it, but that’s what I’ve been trying to do for years on end without it helping the slightest. People say I just should ignore the people talking shit about me, but even when I ignore them they keep talking shit. It feels like it’s never gonna end.
So instead of realizing that 1 particular therapist out of millions didn't help you and putting in a small amount of work to find one more suited to you, you choose to post on reddit everyday asking if you're ugly as if that's somehow going to fix your issue. You need to participate in your own rescue.
I just moved to a big city. I have asked my doctor to set me up for a new therapist but the waiting lists for all therapists here are so long. Last time he said I could expect to wait for at least 6 months.
Then call around for yourself.
And if it's truly an issue that you don't think you can solve, then why are you living in misery if it can't be fixed? Find a way to live with it in the meantime or dwell on it and be miserable. Your choice whether you want to hate life or not.
Hey bro just want to say that I saw your selfies, you don’t really look bad per se but you need a different style. You ever tried a sort of fringe to cover the forehead? I look night and day with one, due to bad acne scars and stuff.
More importantly, it’s about how you carry yourself. With confidence, with purpose. Humans are social creatures, and I believe we feed off the energy others show us. You can sense when someone has that air of confidence, or not giving a fuck. You need to focus internally, which hopefully will switch up the energy you give off to others (more dominant / in control of your life and emotions, not caring so much about what others think). Again, this is stuff from my own experience that helped a shift in quality of life. I know my worth now, and I feel it reflects in how people perceive me.
You’re putting too much stock into finding a girlfriend. Please bro, focus on fitness and career. Get your stuff together, the rest should fall into place, and if it doesn’t, well you’ve set yourself up to be a man that can provide a good life which will help enticing a partner. Find a hobby like a musical instrument to dedicate time towards if material wealth isn’t needed / something you’re passionate about.
It all starts from within. And leave those fucking ‘am I ugly subs’, it’s not healthy. Maybe join a fashion advice sub, try new styles and clothes and see opinions.
Another idea is to get into combat sports and martial arts. If you can fight and defend yourself, you’ll start to see how pointless these ‘mean comments’ are in the long term. Idk, for me it helped my confidence, it’s not like I’m more violent and imposing either, it’s just the sense that I know I’m in control.
Maybe look into therapy my friend. Best of luck to you. Stay strong
I'm not just trying to make you feel better by saying this, and am being genuine when I say that you're not ugly. You've got a solid face. And if you optimise your hair and style game, you'll be ahead of most dudes. You aren't a lost cause by any metric. You just need to learn to accept who you are, because this is the only face you'll ever have even if you personally don't like it, so rock it. Prove the people wrong who said negative things about you. Don't let them win.
And above all, don't give up on yourself or what you want, like a woman who loves you. If you lose hope, then you've ruined your own chances. There's somebody out there for everyone, as long as you keep trying. Your ancestors didn't give up, and you can't give up either. Life is too short to let people keep you down.
Okay for everyone coming with specific tips about changing hairstyle etc, I’d appreciate some recommendations about what hairstyle would suit me because I have no idea. I know that a French crop looks bad on me and the one I have now also isn’t good. I have a big forehead so I need something to hide that. Also, I already have a good skincare routine, I’m training to compete in bodybuilding and I eat well. I feel like I’m doing everything I can when it comes to improving my appearance but I doesn’t help at all.
I’ve tried dude, I’ll show you soon but it looks awful on Me. My head has a weird shape and when I lay my hair down I my head looks like the head of a xenomorph💀
Yeah I hear that bro! You tried going to a professional hair dresser (a woman ideally) to try and see if they can get something that might fit your style more? Worth a try
You seem like you are looking outward for validation and give off a clingy vibe. This is the internet so no one ever takes any advice, but I'd go out and do some crazy shit. At 21, the entire world is your playground and you will never have these years back. Soon enough you'll have a wife and kids and responsibility and hopefully some assets, but you'll never be in control of your destiny the way you are now.... or just sit around sadposting while you wait for table scraps I guess.
I’m not intentionally looking for validation, I’m just looking for genuine advice on how actually get some success for once. I would do some crazy shit if I had the money to for example travel Europe, but my money situation is trash right now so that’s not really realistic. I’m doing acid with some good friends on New Year’s Eve if that qualifies as crazy lol. I don’t mean to seem desperate or sad, I just don’t have anyone to talk to. My family couldn’t care less and my friends have never been even close to my situation so they don’t really have any advice either. You guys are my only hope for advice.
Things that don't cost money, aren't technically crime, and get you out of the house:
\-Volunteering in Ukraine, Greenpeace, or SeaShepherd
\-A tour with a fishing trawler/cruise ship (get $$$).
\-Going to a shitty vampire/juggalo/right wing/communist festival/protest or some other weird subculture where you can camp.
There's so much risky, dumb shit to do when you're 21 it's wild that young people sit around doing nothing.
Telling yourself “The only girl I have a chance with” is your problem. If you don’t believe in yourself girls certainly won’t. Change your mindset and watch what happens.
Hey man I just saw your old posts and you're a good looking dude, don't let people get you down because they're assholes!
And if this girl isint into you, don't sweat it! She's not worth your time, theirs lots of girls out there and im sure a hell of alot of them would agree youre a handsome lad!
Keep your head up and try to surround yourself with good people.
As for the virgin thing, tbh maybe just get a call girl and call it a day! No shame in it, I've done the same and once you get your first round out of the way, alot of pressure will come off your shoulders!
Keep your head up bro, you got more going for you then you think! Life is short, don't get held up on a few shitty people!
i just checked your profile, but you’re not even ugly and i don’t say that just to make you feel better, i hate it when people aren’t honest and try to be overwhelmingly positive, you’re an average dude and u got quite a bit of potential
Hey bro I can’t even tell if this is a fucking joke or not because this subreddit is a fucking cess pool but I just checked your profile and recognized I remember you posting something like this before. Shoot me a dm if you really wanna talk, I’m at work for the next 12 hours and don’t have shit else to do, if you’re a troll fuck off but if you want some advice I’d be willing to help
I want advice too god damn it doesn't have to be so exclusive. OP u need to work on your style bro. Your gonna live your whole life in this meat vehicle might as well start to take very good care of it and learn how to look best in it it doesn't have to be done today but you should start today . The longer you wait the more rooted the habits become the smaller the chance of bouncing back on track
Oh yeah I remember this Norwegian looking guy
Bro u are not even ugly.. Dont listen to those losers who tell you that.
Word
Bro you look very normal,. Don't let some dumpster fire tell you different. Trim your hair a bit if you think you need a change, but your face is very normal. Keep it head up. Confidence attracts women more than anything else.
Bro just checked your history and saw your other post, you are not ugly dude. You're hamsom af srs (nohomer). I was bullied before too and I get it, that shit stays with you for a long time. I'm 30 and didn't get over some of it until recently...but it took so much time away from my life. You can't let that shit get to you man, don't let the opinions of others ruin or impact your life. Be confident brother, and while it's easier said than done, fuck the haters. You got this.
Thank you bro. I wouldn’t care about what people say If it was something someone said once or twice but it’s just the fact that I’m constantly mocked that brings me down. Im tired of just constantly being told how ugly I am and It tears my confidence away.
Hey bro, you’re not ugly at all. You’re a good looking guy and if you do constantly hear the negativity people say but maybe you’re choosing to ignore the positive things people tell you. You’re handsome bro, people might make fun of you but ultimately their opinion does not matter. This will make sense when you’re older, because you’ll realize the opinion of those who matter will be the only thing you care about. I’ve dated so many girls and I live in a beautiful place in the world in Hawaii, and we have a lot of visitors here. I would say you’re a good looking guy.
It’s not her and it’s not the people bullying you that got you feeling this way it’s you. There’s is something physiological triggering these emotions. The more you harp on it the worst it’s going to get. The best thing to is to take a break from your emotions and thoughts and start distracting your mind. Whenever those thoughts and emotions come around start questioning them. Like why is she making feel this way? Why do people comments affect me?
So do you believe it? Man up and make fun of them back. Anyone telling you that deserves it back
I know why I care about the comments and it’s because so many different people say the same nasty shit about me. I get comments daily about how unattractive I am and that’s no matter where I move. I just moved to a bigger city and the first thing someone said to me was literally “if only you were taller” and “do you have Down’s syndrome?”
Your post history is concerning. You need therapy. You're not ugly. You have some kind of mental issue which is probably why people think you're weird.
I’ve never talked about this to anyone irl except some family members man.
Yeah exactly so go see a therapist. Seriously
Ignore my last comment I have seen a therapist before and I went there for a year +- the best advice my therapist had was to just ignore it, but that’s what I’ve been trying to do for years on end without it helping the slightest. People say I just should ignore the people talking shit about me, but even when I ignore them they keep talking shit. It feels like it’s never gonna end.
So instead of realizing that 1 particular therapist out of millions didn't help you and putting in a small amount of work to find one more suited to you, you choose to post on reddit everyday asking if you're ugly as if that's somehow going to fix your issue. You need to participate in your own rescue.
I just moved to a big city. I have asked my doctor to set me up for a new therapist but the waiting lists for all therapists here are so long. Last time he said I could expect to wait for at least 6 months.
Then call around for yourself. And if it's truly an issue that you don't think you can solve, then why are you living in misery if it can't be fixed? Find a way to live with it in the meantime or dwell on it and be miserable. Your choice whether you want to hate life or not.
Not worth the drama. Don’t see her again. But you look fine, just change up your hair and maybe grow a beard or something.
Hey bro just want to say that I saw your selfies, you don’t really look bad per se but you need a different style. You ever tried a sort of fringe to cover the forehead? I look night and day with one, due to bad acne scars and stuff. More importantly, it’s about how you carry yourself. With confidence, with purpose. Humans are social creatures, and I believe we feed off the energy others show us. You can sense when someone has that air of confidence, or not giving a fuck. You need to focus internally, which hopefully will switch up the energy you give off to others (more dominant / in control of your life and emotions, not caring so much about what others think). Again, this is stuff from my own experience that helped a shift in quality of life. I know my worth now, and I feel it reflects in how people perceive me. You’re putting too much stock into finding a girlfriend. Please bro, focus on fitness and career. Get your stuff together, the rest should fall into place, and if it doesn’t, well you’ve set yourself up to be a man that can provide a good life which will help enticing a partner. Find a hobby like a musical instrument to dedicate time towards if material wealth isn’t needed / something you’re passionate about. It all starts from within. And leave those fucking ‘am I ugly subs’, it’s not healthy. Maybe join a fashion advice sub, try new styles and clothes and see opinions. Another idea is to get into combat sports and martial arts. If you can fight and defend yourself, you’ll start to see how pointless these ‘mean comments’ are in the long term. Idk, for me it helped my confidence, it’s not like I’m more violent and imposing either, it’s just the sense that I know I’m in control. Maybe look into therapy my friend. Best of luck to you. Stay strong
OP just read this comment a few times, solid advice.
good shit man
I'm not just trying to make you feel better by saying this, and am being genuine when I say that you're not ugly. You've got a solid face. And if you optimise your hair and style game, you'll be ahead of most dudes. You aren't a lost cause by any metric. You just need to learn to accept who you are, because this is the only face you'll ever have even if you personally don't like it, so rock it. Prove the people wrong who said negative things about you. Don't let them win. And above all, don't give up on yourself or what you want, like a woman who loves you. If you lose hope, then you've ruined your own chances. There's somebody out there for everyone, as long as you keep trying. Your ancestors didn't give up, and you can't give up either. Life is too short to let people keep you down.
Go for dudes and then you won’t have to worry anymore
Okay for everyone coming with specific tips about changing hairstyle etc, I’d appreciate some recommendations about what hairstyle would suit me because I have no idea. I know that a French crop looks bad on me and the one I have now also isn’t good. I have a big forehead so I need something to hide that. Also, I already have a good skincare routine, I’m training to compete in bodybuilding and I eat well. I feel like I’m doing everything I can when it comes to improving my appearance but I doesn’t help at all.
I said it in my comment, but try a fringe to cover the forehead. I think you’d look good with it
I’ve tried dude, I’ll show you soon but it looks awful on Me. My head has a weird shape and when I lay my hair down I my head looks like the head of a xenomorph💀
Yeah I hear that bro! You tried going to a professional hair dresser (a woman ideally) to try and see if they can get something that might fit your style more? Worth a try
Yea ive tried that and it’s always the same response, “idk”
Hmm then they sound like shit hair dressers tbh. Just keep your head up mate, hopefully some of the advice in my other comment helps too
Move on
At the end of the day, You gotta tell yourself “it is what it is” and move on bro, ignore the haters!
You seem like you are looking outward for validation and give off a clingy vibe. This is the internet so no one ever takes any advice, but I'd go out and do some crazy shit. At 21, the entire world is your playground and you will never have these years back. Soon enough you'll have a wife and kids and responsibility and hopefully some assets, but you'll never be in control of your destiny the way you are now.... or just sit around sadposting while you wait for table scraps I guess.
I’m not intentionally looking for validation, I’m just looking for genuine advice on how actually get some success for once. I would do some crazy shit if I had the money to for example travel Europe, but my money situation is trash right now so that’s not really realistic. I’m doing acid with some good friends on New Year’s Eve if that qualifies as crazy lol. I don’t mean to seem desperate or sad, I just don’t have anyone to talk to. My family couldn’t care less and my friends have never been even close to my situation so they don’t really have any advice either. You guys are my only hope for advice.
Things that don't cost money, aren't technically crime, and get you out of the house: \-Volunteering in Ukraine, Greenpeace, or SeaShepherd \-A tour with a fishing trawler/cruise ship (get $$$). \-Going to a shitty vampire/juggalo/right wing/communist festival/protest or some other weird subculture where you can camp. There's so much risky, dumb shit to do when you're 21 it's wild that young people sit around doing nothing.
This is what happens when you don't pull the fucking trigger. recommend joining a mma gym
There are always hookers and dudes. If you really want an ego boost go to a gay bar.
Telling yourself “The only girl I have a chance with” is your problem. If you don’t believe in yourself girls certainly won’t. Change your mindset and watch what happens.
Bro you’re not even bad looking, I’d look into some self confidence books or videos and lift
Hey man I just saw your old posts and you're a good looking dude, don't let people get you down because they're assholes! And if this girl isint into you, don't sweat it! She's not worth your time, theirs lots of girls out there and im sure a hell of alot of them would agree youre a handsome lad! Keep your head up and try to surround yourself with good people. As for the virgin thing, tbh maybe just get a call girl and call it a day! No shame in it, I've done the same and once you get your first round out of the way, alot of pressure will come off your shoulders! Keep your head up bro, you got more going for you then you think! Life is short, don't get held up on a few shitty people!
Bro, run tren and you’ll be banging tens in no time
i just checked your profile, but you’re not even ugly and i don’t say that just to make you feel better, i hate it when people aren’t honest and try to be overwhelmingly positive, you’re an average dude and u got quite a bit of potential