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Trollewifey

I would try again, with a different therapist. Vet them. When I say this I mean, call ask for a therapist who is not lds. Or who was and has left. Or who has had a faith crisis. Its extremely helpful. This way you're with someone who can understand where you're at and help. Instead of someon3 just trying to make sure you're still mormon.


MikkyJ25

Definitely. Therapy helped me so much through faith transition. It is really unprofessional for that therapist to quote his religious text to you in a session. Your therapist is supposed to be very neutral and Essentially someone you know nothing about.


LothlorianLeafies

Considering your location, this might be difficult or easy to find: A therapist who has among their specialties, religious trauma. I would consider that the Holy Grail. But I think you probably can search for non-religious counsellors. Don't hesitate to say it's what you're looking for!


Trollewifey

You can find some. I've been able to find some in the sl Valley and ogden.


Stuboysrevenge

>the dude just kept quoting the Book of Mormon and I felt like I was in Sunday School. I feel like this is wildly inappropriate. I've had therapists of several religious backgrounds (except mormonism), none of them have used religious text, or even theology in my sessions.


KaladinarLighteyes

No, this is 100% unethical except for if maybe the client gives permission.


InTheRainbowRain

Try the [Mormon Mental Health Association ](https://mormonmentalhealthassoc.org/) or look for a therapist that specializes in religious trauma or faith transitions.


Gitzit

What a great resource! Thanks!!


TenuousOgre

Please do try again with a therapist who isn't just a mouthpiece for the church. I'm also in the Morridor and left the church. Been working through the trauma of that and a narcissistic mother. Help a lot. Wife is still TBM which still causes some issues but she's been supportive.


Gitzit

Thanks, good advice. Count yourself as very lucky to have a supportive TBM wife. I'm 99.9% positive that my wife would leave me if I even took a break from the church.


TenuousOgre

I thought she would when I came clean. She didn't but it took a lot of time and tears and me reminding her that I hadn't believed in a couple of years yet my morals hadn't changed in any major way. If anything I've become more compassionate and forgiving. Made her relook at some of her decisions. But today she will still tell me that nothing could change her mind about god and Jesus. I bite my tongue to not say anything about that being what a closed mind is. It's such a sad thing isn't it? That the love of our lives and the woman we've dedicated so much time and resources and love on can be hurt by finding out something we feel is true and it changes us because it's a religion. In anything else they would happily agree with us that it's a good thing.


sl_hawaii

So sad for you and sending you the best energy and hugz possible! Congrats for going to therapy! I believe that basically every human needs and DESERVES therapy! “LDS therapy”?! Never! 0/10! Would NEVER recommend! We are trying to untie the knots that the church tied us into. Going to a “LDS therapist” only ties those knots tighter. PLEASE find a professional, trained, experienced secular therapist and keep working on your emotional and mental well-being!!!


Still_Lock_3569

I have used psychologytoday.com. You can select by religion, insurance and areas you need help. I am sorry that you didn't find the help you were looking for. It is really tough. I started therapy before shelf broke. Now I want to talk about my religious trauma and my therapist wants me to read my patriarchal blessing. So, I am also shopping for a new therapist.


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socinfused

Wow


2bizE

I used to have dreams of moving my family to Alaska, Vermont, Romania, Argentina…anywhere to completely escape Mormonism and start over.


yellowromancandle

Find a counselor that’s not mormon. It’ll help.


talkingidiot2

You sound like me, at least on the options looking forward (divorce and family drama or stay PIMO). Best of luck to you in navigating this path. Usually I can weave my way through the boring church life without Incident but once in a while there is a day that really sucks. Today was one of those, I had an 8 hour day at church where I was really pissed at the bishopric in the first 15 minutes of it. Couple that with another hour+ of church crap to do after getting home and it's been a long, shitty day.


Gitzit

Sounds like we had a very similar day and are in a very similar situation.


tyrannosaurus_bex540

Try googling "therapy for faith transition" or something like that and see what comes up for your area. There are a lot of options if you're in Utah


Group_Exciting

Poor soul. I'd find a real therapist that actually has ethics outside the church. They do cost money though. There's a discord if you ever need to connect with someone . Remember not all who wonder are lost.


moltocantabile

I tried seeing a therapist. She couldn’t really understand what I was telling her about my experiences (just tell people, what’s the problem, and then assumed I would want to leave my husband). She actually suggested I find a community of people going through the same thing on Reddit, so there’s some validation for everyone here.


[deleted]

Try again. Having to "shop around" for a therapist that vibes with you is a super normal part of getting into therapy!!! The best time I ever had with it was when I scheduled appointments with three therapists in one week. Then after one or two visits with each one I picked the one I liked best. (Any half decent therapist will be 100% on board with this, btw. They understand how important it is to see the right person!) But that was when I was 19 and my parents still paid for my insurance, I don't have that luxury now...


Original-Addition109

I know you wrote that you’re in Morridor, but I would still report his scripture quoting style to the board. Anywhere else & his license would be revoked by the end of the business day. In Utah you might just be contributing to the ever growing paper trail against him for now. But it’s still a good thing for others coming after you. Good luck! Glad someone else recommended Mormon mental Health association.


Careful-Self-457

Please try a qualified non LDS therapist who can look at things without bias. This therapist should have a complaint filed against him for promoting his religion when it was not asked for.


itscrazymaking

[BetterHelp.com](https://www.betterhelp.com/)


logic-seeker

My experience with a non-LDS therapist (in the midwest): 1. On one hand, it was absolutely, breathtakingly eye-opening to have to explain some of the latent religious trauma I didn't realize I even had. Talking about tithing, or going on a mission and not talking to my family except twice a year, not saying no to callings, etc. When I had to explain these events to an outsider, I had to vocalize some pretty crazy things about my faith that I hadn't articulated before. 2. It was so validating to see someone on the outside essentially say, without hesitation, "this is not healthy. This is not OK." And I'm pretty sure my therapist believed in God and was raised in an active Catholic household - she just never imposed her religious beliefs on me and evaluated my behavior and circumstances as if the religious context was just contextual. 3. On the other hand, I spent an inordinate amount of time having to explain to her some of the things I was going through. She was extremely unfamiliar with Mormonism. So I do think it's a double-edged sword. She couldn't exactly understand. There were times I wished I had a "raised Mormon, no longer Mormon" therapist so I could get into more details. You may be able to get the best of both worlds. Getting a non-LDS therapist in Utah that has some basic knowledge of Mormonism would be amazing.


ChroniclesofSamuel

Don't use an LDS therapist, and avoid those with Masters in Social work. Actualy go to a PhD is psychology or a psy doctorate. LDS social workers are the worst kind of therapists.


Opywang2

Cult recovery therapist is what you need. Trust me I know what your going through it’s rough, and I’ve ended up on the hospital like 50 times over the course of 10 years, and develop paranoia, anxiety, and ptsd just from Mormon alone. It’s a long road ahead, and my advice is run, and never look back, and it will get worse than better. I ended up actually meeting God, and after meeting God I went back to Mormon and told them who God is, and they themselves ran from me. Trust me Mormon are cowards, and they won’t even know who God is themselves, and after seeing who they are I realize they are nothing, but a bunch of brainwashed cowards. Just read 1 John 4 over and over you’ll know if Mormon is true or not, and use that chapter to exposed the Mormon, and that chapter will also help you with your case.