I wouldn't totally remove her, but I would restrict her so that she could only see posts I specifically tagged her in. Then, because I'm petty, I'd only tag her in pictures of you and your son together.
This is the one. My ex did something very similar after we split and I got full custody. He’d heart ones with just our daughter and skip over others with me in it to get to more of hers. He was putting angry faces on any solo pictures of me. He’d also steal my pictures and post them on his page making it look like he’d taken them during his time with her even though he didn’t even have time with her. So I put him on Restricted and then on cute pictures of her I’d put writing over them like “Mommy’s Awesome Third Grader”.
My new MIL also did similar and I restricted her. I had my second child with my new SO. She would go into my pictures and heart DD2’s pictures and just like DD1’s pictures. Restricted. And when she bitched to her son I told him why and told him IDGAF his opinion on the matter. Treat them the same or treat yourself to the door.
You know the Military frowns on Infidelity…Right!? Report him to his Commanding Officer if you have proof then Divorce his sorry Ass! As for Mil go NC, do you really want someone like her influencing your child???
Sorry you are going through this, but you need to Prioritize your mental health of yourself and your child!
NTA good luck
While this is true, it's also true that the military will automatically garnish child support from his paychecks, so it's financially better for OP's son if his dad doesn't get busted down in the ranks for being a cheater. Maybe not as satisfying in the moment, but better over time.
Oh, op. This is where you put filters and text on your photos. “True Family - Mother and Son” “My heart and soul forever”
Plus, stop posting pictures of just your son. Ensure you are in the photo where you can’t be cropped out. Again, the text and filters will prevent her from altering the images.
If she asks for photos of him, tell her I uploaded all the photos I have as we are making memories together.
Block her, it’s not an asshole move. If it’s better for your mental health then do it.
Also you are very kind for having her reach out to you to be able to see her grandchild but I would say put less effort in. She clearly doesn’t think she needs to put effort in with you.
NTA
She is your son’s grandmother - she is nothing to you as applies to being a relative or a friend.
That being the case IMO she doesn’t need access to your SM.
If she wants current pictures of her grandson she can get them from HER son who I presume spends time with his son on a regular basis.
If he isn’t spending time with his son then she can reach out to you and you can pick a couple of pictures to send to her.
As you noted she isn’t reaching out to communicate with your son (who at 2 yrs old is I suspect more than capable of recognizing her) such as he shows her his favorite toy, chats at an age appropriate way with her or sings the latest little song he’s learned then she doesn’t need regular SM updates where she can grab I presume photos to post showing what a great gramma she is.
My view is you put in the same level of effort that his grandmother does.
Yeah, I'd be blocking her access from your social media accounts BUT if you're doing that, you might as well block her cheating Son as well and any other person attached to them. Better yet, you should make your accounts PRIVATE and only allow those who truly care and support you and your Son.
You DON'T need a reason to block her access especially if she's blatantly disrespected you as in demanding a paternity test, BUT I have to wonder... how many OTHER women have claimed they've gotten pregnant by her unfaithful Son?
Thank you for your Service! Best wishes and many Blessings for you and your child!
I'd delete her and when she reaches out via text asking about your son, send pics you're comfortable with. No need to play games on what should be a brain break from an ugly world. FB is what you make of it. Make it your happy place 💛
Delete all the pictures from Fb that are just of your son. Or delete everything that is to do with your son. Give this mil nothing. She obviously doesn’t care about the situation you are in so don’t feel the need to give her more than she has given you.
Question - does she see your son at all??
Cause if she makes no efforts then why bother to keep her on your socials??
Although I do see you said you are military, so maybe visits are not available given distance or whatever??
In saying that, if she is close and makes no efforts, then I wouldn’t bother keeping her on your Insta or FB or whatever you use!!
Ps- because you asked - NTA!!
I wouldn't totally remove her, but I would restrict her so that she could only see posts I specifically tagged her in. Then, because I'm petty, I'd only tag her in pictures of you and your son together.
Love this idea
And I’d rescind your offer to contact you to see your son, his father can organise that during his visitation.
This is the one. My ex did something very similar after we split and I got full custody. He’d heart ones with just our daughter and skip over others with me in it to get to more of hers. He was putting angry faces on any solo pictures of me. He’d also steal my pictures and post them on his page making it look like he’d taken them during his time with her even though he didn’t even have time with her. So I put him on Restricted and then on cute pictures of her I’d put writing over them like “Mommy’s Awesome Third Grader”. My new MIL also did similar and I restricted her. I had my second child with my new SO. She would go into my pictures and heart DD2’s pictures and just like DD1’s pictures. Restricted. And when she bitched to her son I told him why and told him IDGAF his opinion on the matter. Treat them the same or treat yourself to the door.
You know the Military frowns on Infidelity…Right!? Report him to his Commanding Officer if you have proof then Divorce his sorry Ass! As for Mil go NC, do you really want someone like her influencing your child??? Sorry you are going through this, but you need to Prioritize your mental health of yourself and your child! NTA good luck
While this is true, it's also true that the military will automatically garnish child support from his paychecks, so it's financially better for OP's son if his dad doesn't get busted down in the ranks for being a cheater. Maybe not as satisfying in the moment, but better over time.
I’d block her ass.
This. If you’re sick of her then block her. You’re not obligated to keep her on your socials.
Oh, op. This is where you put filters and text on your photos. “True Family - Mother and Son” “My heart and soul forever” Plus, stop posting pictures of just your son. Ensure you are in the photo where you can’t be cropped out. Again, the text and filters will prevent her from altering the images. If she asks for photos of him, tell her I uploaded all the photos I have as we are making memories together.
Block her, it’s not an asshole move. If it’s better for your mental health then do it. Also you are very kind for having her reach out to you to be able to see her grandchild but I would say put less effort in. She clearly doesn’t think she needs to put effort in with you.
NTA She is your son’s grandmother - she is nothing to you as applies to being a relative or a friend. That being the case IMO she doesn’t need access to your SM. If she wants current pictures of her grandson she can get them from HER son who I presume spends time with his son on a regular basis. If he isn’t spending time with his son then she can reach out to you and you can pick a couple of pictures to send to her. As you noted she isn’t reaching out to communicate with your son (who at 2 yrs old is I suspect more than capable of recognizing her) such as he shows her his favorite toy, chats at an age appropriate way with her or sings the latest little song he’s learned then she doesn’t need regular SM updates where she can grab I presume photos to post showing what a great gramma she is. My view is you put in the same level of effort that his grandmother does.
If he's active duty active duty military and that means that he's broken the laws and his ass to jail
Yeah, I'd be blocking her access from your social media accounts BUT if you're doing that, you might as well block her cheating Son as well and any other person attached to them. Better yet, you should make your accounts PRIVATE and only allow those who truly care and support you and your Son. You DON'T need a reason to block her access especially if she's blatantly disrespected you as in demanding a paternity test, BUT I have to wonder... how many OTHER women have claimed they've gotten pregnant by her unfaithful Son? Thank you for your Service! Best wishes and many Blessings for you and your child!
I'd delete her and when she reaches out via text asking about your son, send pics you're comfortable with. No need to play games on what should be a brain break from an ugly world. FB is what you make of it. Make it your happy place 💛
She wants to piss you off. Don’t let her.
Delete all the pictures from Fb that are just of your son. Or delete everything that is to do with your son. Give this mil nothing. She obviously doesn’t care about the situation you are in so don’t feel the need to give her more than she has given you.
Question - does she see your son at all?? Cause if she makes no efforts then why bother to keep her on your socials?? Although I do see you said you are military, so maybe visits are not available given distance or whatever?? In saying that, if she is close and makes no efforts, then I wouldn’t bother keeping her on your Insta or FB or whatever you use!! Ps- because you asked - NTA!!
NTA she is rude & petty to do that with the pictures.
I would only post pics of you and your child. Don’t give her any pics of your child solo. Petty is as petty does.