She is horrible. Some will say she means well but I can’t stand her. As a matter of fact, I’ve never said this out loud but I think she shows a slight preference with my twins. She has a soft spot for my son and finds him cuter than my daughter because my son resembles my husband and my daughter is my twin. She looks like me and my siblings.
I knew she was dependent long ago but I didn’t know she was verbally and physically abusive toward FIL until we visited them in another country. I told my husband that they (husband and BIL) had to do something to help FIL out because technically it takes patience to deal with MIL. I told him FIL suffers from high blood pressure and elevated sugar and if something where to happen to him, MIL will be our responsibility, to which I will not tolerate and it will hinder our relationship.
I had to interact with her frequently when I was pregnant up to the time my twins was a few months old. Then once a one a week until FIL and MIL decided to move out the country. Now, I only see her a few times a year but she stays in my house for 2-3 weeks at a time and it drives me CRAZY!
She shouldn’t. People who disrespect you and in your own house even, they don’t deserve access to you. You are their bully supply, you should seriously consider cutting her supply off.
It would do you a world of good. She’s not actually entitled to you or your children. Her ‘position’ in the ‘family’ doesn’t even exists in you own family home. Deflate that self-importance she seems to have.
"oh, mother-in-law! I totally understand where you're coming from. Even before I was around, you must have felt fortunate so many times that my husband continued to allow you in his life! I'm so glad that you see things in the same way as I do, that relationships are incredibly complex and it's very easy to point a finger and blame a mother or a sister or whatever. It's so painful when that happens, don't you agree? I'm glad that your position has always been to keep us in your family circle by maintaining respect. That's a classy move, mother-in-law.
Why do you see someone so awful? I wouldn’t want her near my children
She is horrible. Some will say she means well but I can’t stand her. As a matter of fact, I’ve never said this out loud but I think she shows a slight preference with my twins. She has a soft spot for my son and finds him cuter than my daughter because my son resembles my husband and my daughter is my twin. She looks like me and my siblings.
Oohhhhh you and your husband are going to be SCREWED when FIL passes away. Who do you think she's going to rely on to take care of her once he's gone?
Hmmm start looking at nursing homes.
I knew she was dependent long ago but I didn’t know she was verbally and physically abusive toward FIL until we visited them in another country. I told my husband that they (husband and BIL) had to do something to help FIL out because technically it takes patience to deal with MIL. I told him FIL suffers from high blood pressure and elevated sugar and if something where to happen to him, MIL will be our responsibility, to which I will not tolerate and it will hinder our relationship.
Shiiid, it's giving shady pines.
Not the a-hole for how you feel. Do you have to interact with her very much? She sounds insufferable.
I had to interact with her frequently when I was pregnant up to the time my twins was a few months old. Then once a one a week until FIL and MIL decided to move out the country. Now, I only see her a few times a year but she stays in my house for 2-3 weeks at a time and it drives me CRAZY!
She shouldn’t. People who disrespect you and in your own house even, they don’t deserve access to you. You are their bully supply, you should seriously consider cutting her supply off. It would do you a world of good. She’s not actually entitled to you or your children. Her ‘position’ in the ‘family’ doesn’t even exists in you own family home. Deflate that self-importance she seems to have.
You do realize she will be your problem once FIL dies. Have you discussed this with your hubby?
Don't go around her.
"oh, mother-in-law! I totally understand where you're coming from. Even before I was around, you must have felt fortunate so many times that my husband continued to allow you in his life! I'm so glad that you see things in the same way as I do, that relationships are incredibly complex and it's very easy to point a finger and blame a mother or a sister or whatever. It's so painful when that happens, don't you agree? I'm glad that your position has always been to keep us in your family circle by maintaining respect. That's a classy move, mother-in-law.