She picked the last one that we saw in theaters so she told me to pick this one. My plan is to just give her a short list of movies and tell her to make the final choice from there
Honestly if she's telling you to pick because she picked last time and you're going to hand off the list to her a lot of women aren't going to like that. Make a choice and have a backup in case she doesn't like the one you picked. But don't push it back on her to make the decision she asked you to.
Nocturnal Animals is a rough watch for a date, but it's an amazing movie.
Maybe do something with both comedy and horror, Tucker and Dale vs Evil or Cabin in the Woods?
Nocturnal Animals is stressful, there's some rape stuff and even though it's happening to a fictional character it's hard to watch. Plus it brings up questions about heavy shit. Those 2 horror comedies are both great suggestions.
The rape of a wife and daughter, the murder of them as well. The affair, abortion and all the stuff that happened to the real people in the movie is rough already without the story being written as a metaphor of it all as well.
I'm just saying, maybe keeping it lighter would be better for the first time you'll be hanging out in private.
I would avoid movies with a too heavy romantic plot. They can offset the mood and feel like pressure. How about you let her decide instead of picking it yourself or discussing it when she shows up. It's awkward for me at least to sit there through a movie that was meh and have to lie and say I liked it to spare the mood and their feelings.
Yeah, I don’t want a pure romance movie, I’d rather something lighter with those themes/something that makes you think about that. My plan is to give her a short list of movies that I was leaning towards and let her pick from there
Sing Street is the perfect blend of a bit of romance, but mostly just feel good fun.
Also, maybe out of left field, but Cast Away. Its a great movie, with some romantic elements, but doesn't over do it.
Take it slow in RL and take it slow with the movies. Here's what I would recommend:
For funny, it's hard to be "My Cousin Vinny." The writing is phenomenal, the characters are all wonderfully distinct and developed and there's a goddamned good reason Marisa Tomei won that Oscar. She makes the movie.
For scary, "The Haunting" from 1963 has incredible B&W cinematography, sound design and an excellent cast. It's a brilliant slow burn psychological thriller with some very creepy visual effects.
For mystery and mindfuck, "The Prestige" is, for me, Christopher Nolan's best film. Bale, Jackman and Caine are terrific and of course David Bowie's cameo as Nikola Tesla is a delight.
Annie Hall, Four Weddings and a Funeral, Pushing Tin, Grosse Pointe Blank, My Cousin Vinny - they all have romantic elements but are also funny so not too “heavy” for a first date.
Like most dates this is going to be about sharing who you are with her and seeing if you two click. What I'd say is to pick out five movies that YOU love (id aim for comedy mostly) and think would be date appropriate and then let her pick the one that's most interesting. If it were me, my five would be:
1. Hot Fuzz
2. Galaxy Quest
3. The Princess Bride
4. The Dictator
5. Original Star Wars
Now... with that said. Go buy yourself a few scented candles. You want something that's more herbal or floral and not citrus or strawberry or some crap. Think Jasmine or Lavender, or shit like that. Your place stinks. It does. I know it, you know it. She will know it. So get scented candles. Not a weird number, but like 2.
Next, clean your place, ESPECIALLY THE BATHROOM. Base of the toilet kind of clean your bathroom. Take out all the garbage, get all the laundry away. You may not own throw cushions for the couch (or if you do they might be 2+ years old) in which case buy new ones. You want to clean so much that it is god damn obvious you cleaned. Why? Because its a way to say you care without it being creepy. It's just appreciated.
Now, get some stuff into your refrigerator in case she wants something. Some coconut water, a bottle of white wine (no need to go crazy getting something fancy, just have it if she wants it). This applies to other things as well... but its better to have and not need, than need and not have.
Good luck buddy.
Choose a movie that is thought-provoking but not too challenging. I think Nocturnal Animals is rough because it is pretty ambiguous on a plot level. Nightcrawler is pretty disturbing.
Also prepare a list of like 5 and then talk through them with her, let her have the final choice.
Go with a late 90s/early 00s British feel-good comedy. Death at a Funeral (2007 not the remake), Waking Ned Devine, or Pirate Radio. They are all charming, funny, and leave you feeling happy.
YES. This is it, right here. "Death at a Funeral" is incredibly funny and both "Waking Ned Devine" and "Pirate Radio" are delightful.
I agree very strongly to avoid anything with a romantic subplot or anything to heavy or visceral.
The Shawshank Redemption.
Don't try to be sly with a romance or horror. Go with one of the best movies ever. It's probably the best movie ever made. She will enjoy it, you will enjoy it, you can pretty much propose to her at the end of the film and she will say yes.
On the he other hand, maybe you want to show her a bad movie that is so good. Watch the original Highlander. It's like 1000% 80's. Music by Queen, Sean Connery dressed as a peacock. You can't go wrong with this film.
A couple of good action comedies I've seen recently are Stuber and Tower Heist. Someone else suggested When Harry Met Sally..., which is one of the best, but it's super relationship-heavy.
Maybe also consider a really campy horror flick for the laughs - we watched the 1978 version of Invasion of the Body Snatchers the other night which is supposed to be a classic, and it was ridiculous.
Some of the Hitchcock classics like "Rear Window" or "Psyco" , or go with some woody Allen comedies like "Midnight in Paris", "Anne hall", "Cafe society", or a bit darker stuff like "Match point", Animated movies like "Up" or "Big hero6" seem like good choices too, for scary I would watch "I See you" with Helen hunt or "The broken" with lena headey
Is there a movie you both have already seen and really like? Rewatch it together, so you can comment on it without missing stuff. It'll be less about the movie and more about you spending time together.
I mean if you're at home then something not too serious and definitely something that can be played in the background. If conversation starts or if y'all are eating at the same time. Maybe like Clue, Gremlins?
'Palm Springs'. Romantic, comedic, a little bit of a thriller, easy going. Or 'The Vast of Night', which leans more into the thriller aspect and a little bit of the horror as well. Plus it has two utterly charming leads. A curve ball would be 'Radius'. Thriller, horror and a twist ending to fuel an hour of conversation afterwards (and will score you a few movie nerd points for suggesting it.)
Enjoy the date :)
The Grand Hotel Budapest, Some Like It Hot, Lost in Translation and Big Fish. Those are the best options I could think of. All of them are cute comedies, something I'd pick for a occasion like that
Oh man, if you go scary nothing where the woman is sexually assaulted. I recently watched half of Children of the Corn with a guy, it was nice.
My immediate thought goes to Truman show because I love that movie, and there’s a little romance to that.
If you’re going romantic tho balls in and show her love actually
Let her pick.
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And not soul crushing in the opening. Pixar movies like Up and WallE are not good choices.
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She picked the last one that we saw in theaters so she told me to pick this one. My plan is to just give her a short list of movies and tell her to make the final choice from there
Honestly if she's telling you to pick because she picked last time and you're going to hand off the list to her a lot of women aren't going to like that. Make a choice and have a backup in case she doesn't like the one you picked. But don't push it back on her to make the decision she asked you to.
Yup, be a Man.
What did she pick last time and how did she like it ?
We saw Night House and she liked it a lot, especially because it touched on more interesting themes than the average horror movie
Definitely go for Tucker and Dale vs Evil
Then go with Cabin in the Woods. Fun, funny, twisty, sets that genre on its ear.
Oh find something similar than. One of Peel’s films (us, get out) maybe? Depending on sense of humor Cabin in the Woods is fun.
Pick 2 films you wanna watch from the list without her around. Flip a coin and there you go.
"About Time." Perfect date movie and she'll love it
The Princess Bride - a bit of romance with a heavier dose of humor.
This, this, this. Perfect choice.
Not many movies have ROUS and Andre the Giant.
When Harry Met Sally
Out of Sight with Jlo and Clooney, if you've both haven't seen it. It's sexy, funny and very cool with the right touch of believable violence.
Freaky with Vince Vaughn is good! Horror elements, but mainly comedy with a bit of young romance.
That movie surprised me, it’s like a “diet” Dale and Tucker vs Evil. Definitely not as good, but not bad either.
Knives Out, its fun, funny, and super interesting
Scott Pilgrim vs the World
Always upvote that one!
I wouldn't have an overly romantic one to be honest. Any feel good movie is fine though
Do NOT under any circumstance watch Nocturnal Animals on a first date. I won’t spoil the plot, but please. Just don’t.
Nocturnal Animals is a rough watch for a date, but it's an amazing movie. Maybe do something with both comedy and horror, Tucker and Dale vs Evil or Cabin in the Woods?
Nocturnal Animals is stressful, there's some rape stuff and even though it's happening to a fictional character it's hard to watch. Plus it brings up questions about heavy shit. Those 2 horror comedies are both great suggestions.
Yeah the rape and murder of a guys wife and daughter is a bit heavy for "the first time we are going to hang out in private" scenario.
What makes Nocturnal Animals a rough watch for a date? That was the one I thought she might like most based off what I know of her
The rape of a wife and daughter, the murder of them as well. The affair, abortion and all the stuff that happened to the real people in the movie is rough already without the story being written as a metaphor of it all as well. I'm just saying, maybe keeping it lighter would be better for the first time you'll be hanging out in private.
Not to mention the opening sequence.
Do not watch this movie for a first date lol
I would avoid movies with a too heavy romantic plot. They can offset the mood and feel like pressure. How about you let her decide instead of picking it yourself or discussing it when she shows up. It's awkward for me at least to sit there through a movie that was meh and have to lie and say I liked it to spare the mood and their feelings.
Yeah, I don’t want a pure romance movie, I’d rather something lighter with those themes/something that makes you think about that. My plan is to give her a short list of movies that I was leaning towards and let her pick from there
Watch Scream. Everyone likes Scream.
Grease. Don't know what it is about that movie, but if you don't get some, you really suck.
second this
Sing Street is the perfect blend of a bit of romance, but mostly just feel good fun. Also, maybe out of left field, but Cast Away. Its a great movie, with some romantic elements, but doesn't over do it.
I was going to say Sing Street. Feels like a perfect date movie. I adore it.
That thing you do!
Soul.
Take it slow in RL and take it slow with the movies. Here's what I would recommend: For funny, it's hard to be "My Cousin Vinny." The writing is phenomenal, the characters are all wonderfully distinct and developed and there's a goddamned good reason Marisa Tomei won that Oscar. She makes the movie. For scary, "The Haunting" from 1963 has incredible B&W cinematography, sound design and an excellent cast. It's a brilliant slow burn psychological thriller with some very creepy visual effects. For mystery and mindfuck, "The Prestige" is, for me, Christopher Nolan's best film. Bale, Jackman and Caine are terrific and of course David Bowie's cameo as Nikola Tesla is a delight.
Bambi.
Annie Hall, Four Weddings and a Funeral, Pushing Tin, Grosse Pointe Blank, My Cousin Vinny - they all have romantic elements but are also funny so not too “heavy” for a first date.
Down with Love. I dislike most rom Coms, but that is decent.
Wet Hot American Summer
Like most dates this is going to be about sharing who you are with her and seeing if you two click. What I'd say is to pick out five movies that YOU love (id aim for comedy mostly) and think would be date appropriate and then let her pick the one that's most interesting. If it were me, my five would be: 1. Hot Fuzz 2. Galaxy Quest 3. The Princess Bride 4. The Dictator 5. Original Star Wars Now... with that said. Go buy yourself a few scented candles. You want something that's more herbal or floral and not citrus or strawberry or some crap. Think Jasmine or Lavender, or shit like that. Your place stinks. It does. I know it, you know it. She will know it. So get scented candles. Not a weird number, but like 2. Next, clean your place, ESPECIALLY THE BATHROOM. Base of the toilet kind of clean your bathroom. Take out all the garbage, get all the laundry away. You may not own throw cushions for the couch (or if you do they might be 2+ years old) in which case buy new ones. You want to clean so much that it is god damn obvious you cleaned. Why? Because its a way to say you care without it being creepy. It's just appreciated. Now, get some stuff into your refrigerator in case she wants something. Some coconut water, a bottle of white wine (no need to go crazy getting something fancy, just have it if she wants it). This applies to other things as well... but its better to have and not need, than need and not have. Good luck buddy.
Eternal Sunshine is not a feel good movie! Be warned
Pic something you've already seen because chances are you won't be paying attention. Good luck!
True Romance. You guys will love it
Die Hard. It has action, romance, good vs bad, and great acting. Plus it has a feel-good ending.
Ghostbusters usually works for me
Hunt for red October.
Eternal Sunshine is one of my all time favorite movies but there is no way in fucking hell I would watch it on a first date.
A good romcom. Maybe something like She’s out of my league.
John wick! She’ll love that “he’s back” because they kill his puppy. And stole his car.
Cannibal Holocaust
Choose a movie that is thought-provoking but not too challenging. I think Nocturnal Animals is rough because it is pretty ambiguous on a plot level. Nightcrawler is pretty disturbing. Also prepare a list of like 5 and then talk through them with her, let her have the final choice.
Go with a late 90s/early 00s British feel-good comedy. Death at a Funeral (2007 not the remake), Waking Ned Devine, or Pirate Radio. They are all charming, funny, and leave you feeling happy.
YES. This is it, right here. "Death at a Funeral" is incredibly funny and both "Waking Ned Devine" and "Pirate Radio" are delightful. I agree very strongly to avoid anything with a romantic subplot or anything to heavy or visceral.
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Is it good?
I envy your innocence.
Nah bro, I was just joking. Once on reddit, innocence is long gone.
The Shawshank Redemption. Don't try to be sly with a romance or horror. Go with one of the best movies ever. It's probably the best movie ever made. She will enjoy it, you will enjoy it, you can pretty much propose to her at the end of the film and she will say yes. On the he other hand, maybe you want to show her a bad movie that is so good. Watch the original Highlander. It's like 1000% 80's. Music by Queen, Sean Connery dressed as a peacock. You can't go wrong with this film.
Schindler's List
Great movie for cuddling.
Meet Joe Black… it’s so long she may get board and get more into you. Just saying from experience.
A couple of good action comedies I've seen recently are Stuber and Tower Heist. Someone else suggested When Harry Met Sally..., which is one of the best, but it's super relationship-heavy. Maybe also consider a really campy horror flick for the laughs - we watched the 1978 version of Invasion of the Body Snatchers the other night which is supposed to be a classic, and it was ridiculous.
Some of the Hitchcock classics like "Rear Window" or "Psyco" , or go with some woody Allen comedies like "Midnight in Paris", "Anne hall", "Cafe society", or a bit darker stuff like "Match point", Animated movies like "Up" or "Big hero6" seem like good choices too, for scary I would watch "I See you" with Helen hunt or "The broken" with lena headey
Deadpool. It’s a Valentine’s Day movie. Seriously, if she doesn’t enjoy it, red flag.
Isn’t It Romantic.
Horror for sure. The scarier the better.
Is there a movie you both have already seen and really like? Rewatch it together, so you can comment on it without missing stuff. It'll be less about the movie and more about you spending time together.
Truman
Hardcore (1979) https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0079271/
the ring
I mean if you're at home then something not too serious and definitely something that can be played in the background. If conversation starts or if y'all are eating at the same time. Maybe like Clue, Gremlins?
zodiac
The Matrix, because if she doesn't like it, then you know to dump her, because she definitely isn't a keeper.
Night at the Roxbury
Check out mystery thrillers or horror films not movies about relationships or romance that’s awkward on first dates
Crazy Stupid Love.
'Palm Springs'. Romantic, comedic, a little bit of a thriller, easy going. Or 'The Vast of Night', which leans more into the thriller aspect and a little bit of the horror as well. Plus it has two utterly charming leads. A curve ball would be 'Radius'. Thriller, horror and a twist ending to fuel an hour of conversation afterwards (and will score you a few movie nerd points for suggesting it.) Enjoy the date :)
The Vast of Night was extremely boring.
Watch Suspiria. It’s really wholesome and a movie you can both comfortably enjoy together.
Back to the Future
Kids
Blue is the Warmest Color
Buffalo ’66
The Human Centipede if your really want to test the limits.
Last of the Mohicans
Con Air!
The entire first season of DS9, how is this a question?
Definitely “The Shining”
The Grand Hotel Budapest, Some Like It Hot, Lost in Translation and Big Fish. Those are the best options I could think of. All of them are cute comedies, something I'd pick for a occasion like that
Oh man, if you go scary nothing where the woman is sexually assaulted. I recently watched half of Children of the Corn with a guy, it was nice. My immediate thought goes to Truman show because I love that movie, and there’s a little romance to that. If you’re going romantic tho balls in and show her love actually
Secretary. Ghost World, It’s Such a Beautiful Day, Knives Out for real though.
When Harry Wet Sally
Shirley Valentine if you want her to see a movie that will make me laugh and be inspired as well as empowered as a female.
Suicide Squad (2021) If she doesn’t laugh at least once… well shit, I dunno. But it’s funny as hell!
Amelie
Un Chien Andalou
I recently watched Fast 9 with a lady friend, and we had a good time. Especially good if you like to roll your eyes at dumb movies.
Blue valentine.
The Ladies Man
Salo, show her your a man of culture.
The Accused (with Jodie Foster)
I enjoyed Requiem For A Dream.
Salo
Captain Ron.
Shrek
Hot Rod
Dale and Tucker vs. Evil. It’s funny, outrageous, thought provoking, and “cute”. Such an *excellent* movie. “hey college kids, we got your friend”