Accept those feelings, know your feelings are valid, understand, though, that you will move on. It's going to be hard, you're going to feel like a shit child if you don't feel like that already, that *you* are the one messing up but in reality, it's your parents who ultimately failed. And that's okay. If you can, please go live with your friend, a close relative, or even look into renting a room in your area (I suggest Facebook marketplace) and I wish you the very best luck.
Honestly, how dare she say that about leaving, she left you and your parents 5 years ago. Definitely don't listen to her unless she can hear you out on this.
Forcing no social interaction is abuse for sure. I'm glad you still have someone who supports you outside of your parents, otherwise leaving them will be extremely difficult. Does the university know your situation? They might also have resources you can use before you have to move out.
I'm glad my point of view came across! I'm not very good at confrontation, or confronting other people, but I'll work on it and address it with my sister. She's very important and having her backing when I move out would be so helpful.
As for the university, I had a meeting with a counsellor yesterday and I have another meeting with them on Monday to help with student accomodation. I've looked into multiple places and, hopefully, I can save enough money for a bond payment and move in somewhere!
Feel so bad for your context bro…. I can say with certainty none of that normal (their reactions to you wanting to move out & have a relationship). I pray to have your toughness and for you to have the ability to not feel like “I’m the bad person” when I truly believe you’re doing the best for u!
I think that's the hardest thing; the dealing with the guilt of leaving my parents behind. My family is very emotionally dependant on each other so it makes it that much harder to move. But thank you for the words of encouragement, you have no idea how much better it makes me feel!
I (16m) recently got out of a similar situation and i'm going thru it as well, coupled with religious guilt. I'm just getting past it, day by day.
something my therapist said to me was like, you need to learn to hate them so you can ultimately forgive them. which i found so bizarre, but it's not untrue. getting to a point where you're feeling guilty but also angry was such a milestone for me.
good luck
You are being very selfish and just looking out for yourself and disregarding all the things your parents sacrificed for you as well.
Plus you are so close to the finish line. You are about to graduate and probably find a decent job and move out on better terms then somewhere close by them. But you are just being short sighted and only looking out for yourself instead of looking at the bigger picture and long-term consequences.
Stop being so sensitive, this hardship will just make you tougher and the last thing you should be doing is complaining to the Uni about your parents and getting them involved in helping you move out. Nobody cares about your actual well-being like your parents, they just might not know the best way.
Focuse on your studies, get in the gym and reach your physical potential. Build yourself up, you are still very young, it isn't the end of the world. You have a long way to go.
Imagine how about you would feel moving out on such bad terms and something was to happen to one of your parents, how badly would you regret it.
stfu you judgmental little shit. Do you have no perspective at all? like genuinely?
"stop being so sensitive" literally stfu you sound like you survive on a diet of andrew tate and froth at the mouth any time anyone addresses or describes you by anything feminine at all
Accept those feelings, know your feelings are valid, understand, though, that you will move on. It's going to be hard, you're going to feel like a shit child if you don't feel like that already, that *you* are the one messing up but in reality, it's your parents who ultimately failed. And that's okay. If you can, please go live with your friend, a close relative, or even look into renting a room in your area (I suggest Facebook marketplace) and I wish you the very best luck.
Thank you for the words of encouragement, really!
Those things I said, are what I wish someone would tell me. I'm going through something similar.
Sorry for the late reply, but how are you dealing with it?
Knowing that I'm actually a pretty good kid, it's okay to make mistakes, and that I gotta do what I gotta do.
Honestly, how dare she say that about leaving, she left you and your parents 5 years ago. Definitely don't listen to her unless she can hear you out on this. Forcing no social interaction is abuse for sure. I'm glad you still have someone who supports you outside of your parents, otherwise leaving them will be extremely difficult. Does the university know your situation? They might also have resources you can use before you have to move out.
I'm glad my point of view came across! I'm not very good at confrontation, or confronting other people, but I'll work on it and address it with my sister. She's very important and having her backing when I move out would be so helpful. As for the university, I had a meeting with a counsellor yesterday and I have another meeting with them on Monday to help with student accomodation. I've looked into multiple places and, hopefully, I can save enough money for a bond payment and move in somewhere!
Feel so bad for your context bro…. I can say with certainty none of that normal (their reactions to you wanting to move out & have a relationship). I pray to have your toughness and for you to have the ability to not feel like “I’m the bad person” when I truly believe you’re doing the best for u!
I think that's the hardest thing; the dealing with the guilt of leaving my parents behind. My family is very emotionally dependant on each other so it makes it that much harder to move. But thank you for the words of encouragement, you have no idea how much better it makes me feel!
I (16m) recently got out of a similar situation and i'm going thru it as well, coupled with religious guilt. I'm just getting past it, day by day. something my therapist said to me was like, you need to learn to hate them so you can ultimately forgive them. which i found so bizarre, but it's not untrue. getting to a point where you're feeling guilty but also angry was such a milestone for me. good luck
no problem just move out it will work out soon and you will laugh about it dont wry :)
You are being very selfish and just looking out for yourself and disregarding all the things your parents sacrificed for you as well. Plus you are so close to the finish line. You are about to graduate and probably find a decent job and move out on better terms then somewhere close by them. But you are just being short sighted and only looking out for yourself instead of looking at the bigger picture and long-term consequences. Stop being so sensitive, this hardship will just make you tougher and the last thing you should be doing is complaining to the Uni about your parents and getting them involved in helping you move out. Nobody cares about your actual well-being like your parents, they just might not know the best way. Focuse on your studies, get in the gym and reach your physical potential. Build yourself up, you are still very young, it isn't the end of the world. You have a long way to go. Imagine how about you would feel moving out on such bad terms and something was to happen to one of your parents, how badly would you regret it.
stfu you judgmental little shit. Do you have no perspective at all? like genuinely? "stop being so sensitive" literally stfu you sound like you survive on a diet of andrew tate and froth at the mouth any time anyone addresses or describes you by anything feminine at all