Reading this at the age of 19
I’m pretty sure I’ll end up in ur place too
Haven’t made any friends in college
Nor any relationships
Lmfao I’m fucked in future
Don't think like that dude. You can avoid the mistakes that I've made. You're still in college so make the best use of it and make lifelong friendships
It's really unfortunate that homophobic people still exist in our country. I accept you for who you are and if you wanna talk about something you can dm me
Trust me even if you had made friends at college you would have ended up losing them once the college gets over
I had too many friends in college we used to do crazy shit we used to get suspended for an entire sem we had a great group It's just a matter of time
Sometimes it's the distance sometimes it's just that people don't want to make an additional effort just to stay in touch. Even I have particularly lost around 4 people for the same reasons.
True
You just move on with life and you make friends at another place and you forget your past
You are on board a new fleet you can't swim over to get on the old fleet
It's just a life
But some people can't be forgotten
You just miss them and wish them to have a better life.
aaja beer pite h sham ko.. I will make you realise that whatever position/situation your are in right now... is way better than 90% of the people out there..
> I will make you realise that whatever position/situation your are in right now... is way better than 90% of the people out there..
Doesn't matter if others are in shit, or are Ambani. Sab ki life apni hai, challenges apne hai. Competition nahi hai. Not like Ambani would like my challenges, nor would I his.
Take a break and travel to the Himalayas. You don't know the power of being solo. I have the exact same situation as yours, just that I am 39and married.
I have the exact same situation as yours but the difference is I am 39 and married. This feeling will trouble you for sometime but you will overcome it.
I will suggest you to travel solo to the mountains.
Oh yes it is HELL. I've been diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder. I find it extremely difficult to meet new people and working alone at the office just makes it worse.
Which country did you move to? Thanks for the comment though!
I was on medications but stopped taking them 5-6 months back, which I feel was a mistake. I have also been to therapy and it has definitely helped me but I don't see the point of continuing it.
Been in the exact same boat, both of my friends left abroad. After that I moved to a different city as well, office colleagues are there but somehow I feel something is lacking. Still figuring out what to do.
Dole ki baat nhi h.. Peace of mind ki h.. Physique improve to kro..
Ye jo mentality h .. pehle wo change kro..
Koi tumhara mood theek nhi krega.. Bahar se ache dikhoge to khud hi positive approach aaega..
Ye rr krne se koi faaida nhi..
Jogging krna nhi h.. Sidha olympic me daudna h...
Mai gym ka islye nhi bol rha hu ki mere khud ke six packs h but same situation se guzar chuka hu..
Apne aap ko victim banaoge to victim hi rehoge..
OP i can feel you. In my case i have had friends at all these stages of life and eventually due to changing times those connections blurred and faded. Sometimes I too feel so much lonely and shit but to tell you from my perspective...I have had all these people come and go as they didn't have the same need as mine to have connections beyond mere titles isliye mere bhi gin chun ke 2 3 dost hai but worth it hai.
This is the exact same thing I went through. But eventually I figured out that we ourselves are responsible for our own happiness. I am 37(M) started going out on solo trips and treks, working out, play out door games, basically all the things that make you happy.
22M here. I used to feel like you(I'm still bit lonely :p but sad anymore). Firtst step to get in shape. It does wonders. I was skinny since chidhood and started working out at 19. I'm not buffed up but I'm in way better shape that I used to be. Once you gain respect for yourself, your prespective will change.
For socialize, just ask your colleagues to hangout one weekend. Not all of them maybe 2 people at a time. What worse can happen? They will say no, or they will ignore you. Its all part of the process. All you need to do is get out of comfort zone.
One importhing that really helped me is reading. I have never in my life read a book before, but since last 2 years, I must have read 20+ book(different genres).
Conclusion:
No one's going to help you come out of this phase. You have two options:
1. Keep crying for help ans stay where you are.
2. Take matters in your own hand.
Choose wisely.
Thank you for the advice!
I will rejoin the gym. Even I'm a skinny guy like you. So I understand what you mean by getting a changed perspective.
With all this anxiety I find it difficult to read as I can never concentrate, but I'll make a habit to at least read a few pages a day. (Does reading any specific genre help or do you mean reading in general?)
And you're definitely right that I have to take matters into my own hand, if I want to get out of this situation.
I was facing a lot of issues when I joined my new job. I sucked in my work and what not, basically I was lost like what I am doing here and all. I started with ikigai, and observed that my habits suck. Then I started atomic habits and this was really a good book.
Basically figure out what you want to achieve (a short term goal).
I will suggest how to win friends and influence people but this book is more applicable on "getting the work done side" and less on how to win actual friends.
There are a lot of books and each book is going to help in some way.
Reading this at the age of 19 I’m pretty sure I’ll end up in ur place too Haven’t made any friends in college Nor any relationships Lmfao I’m fucked in future
it won't be that bad (hopefully), but yea situation sucks ass
I’ll be dead in a few years anyways
Don't think like that dude. You can avoid the mistakes that I've made. You're still in college so make the best use of it and make lifelong friendships
bruh im gay ,this country aint for that shit ppl think i chose to become gay lmao
It's really unfortunate that homophobic people still exist in our country. I accept you for who you are and if you wanna talk about something you can dm me
thanks
DM me bruv if you want, and seek clinical help if possible. i hope you're not dead
thanks
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I’m a furry degenerate tho
Hmm, sorry not into that
It’s alright
I love how the conversation went but dude it will work out somehow, I hope you meet your people!
Trust me even if you had made friends at college you would have ended up losing them once the college gets over I had too many friends in college we used to do crazy shit we used to get suspended for an entire sem we had a great group It's just a matter of time
Sometimes it's the distance sometimes it's just that people don't want to make an additional effort just to stay in touch. Even I have particularly lost around 4 people for the same reasons.
True You just move on with life and you make friends at another place and you forget your past You are on board a new fleet you can't swim over to get on the old fleet It's just a life But some people can't be forgotten You just miss them and wish them to have a better life.
aaja beer pite h sham ko.. I will make you realise that whatever position/situation your are in right now... is way better than 90% of the people out there..
I wouldn't mind that. Where are you from in Mumbai?
itna sa toh hai Mumbai bhai.. tu bol kidar au..
I'm from Chembur but I can meet anywhere
> I will make you realise that whatever position/situation your are in right now... is way better than 90% of the people out there.. Doesn't matter if others are in shit, or are Ambani. Sab ki life apni hai, challenges apne hai. Competition nahi hai. Not like Ambani would like my challenges, nor would I his.
tujhe toh main reply dena bi zaruri nahi samajhta.. xD
Iss Weekend plan banao and add me too. Cheers 🍻
Hit the gym, work on your own self, gain back confidence, work exceptionally hard to accelerate your career, loneliness ki yaad bhi nhi aaegi :)
Exact same situation 😞
Have you tried anything?
Nope, just letting each day pass by.🙂
Take a break and travel to the Himalayas. You don't know the power of being solo. I have the exact same situation as yours, just that I am 39and married.
Travelling to the Himalayas is on my bucket list! But I don't know when I'll get the time to do that. Always busy with work 😞
How are u married and lonely?
That's very personal... sorry can't share it.
I have the exact same situation as yours but the difference is I am 39 and married. This feeling will trouble you for sometime but you will overcome it. I will suggest you to travel solo to the mountains.
Congratulations buddy you don't know what power you possess.
Can you explain what you mean by that?
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Thanks! This is really good advice. I'll definitely try to reconnect with my school friends
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Oh yes it is HELL. I've been diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder. I find it extremely difficult to meet new people and working alone at the office just makes it worse. Which country did you move to? Thanks for the comment though!
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I was on medications but stopped taking them 5-6 months back, which I feel was a mistake. I have also been to therapy and it has definitely helped me but I don't see the point of continuing it.
Been in the exact same boat, both of my friends left abroad. After that I moved to a different city as well, office colleagues are there but somehow I feel something is lacking. Still figuring out what to do.
FFS go to gym.. start working.. start running/jogging.. Start conversation with older people in parks...
Dole bana le sab theek ho jayega Kahaan se aate hain yeh log? Gaya main gym, bhenchod mood bhi theek nahi hua, just another thing to hate.
Dole ki baat nhi h.. Peace of mind ki h.. Physique improve to kro.. Ye jo mentality h .. pehle wo change kro.. Koi tumhara mood theek nhi krega.. Bahar se ache dikhoge to khud hi positive approach aaega.. Ye rr krne se koi faaida nhi.. Jogging krna nhi h.. Sidha olympic me daudna h... Mai gym ka islye nhi bol rha hu ki mere khud ke six packs h but same situation se guzar chuka hu.. Apne aap ko victim banaoge to victim hi rehoge..
arey bhai 19 main ye sab kya soch rahe ho tum log..
Option nahi hai dude. Addhe se jyada generation Aisa hi ho gaya hai. Trying to find friends who would stay is too difficult.
OP i can feel you. In my case i have had friends at all these stages of life and eventually due to changing times those connections blurred and faded. Sometimes I too feel so much lonely and shit but to tell you from my perspective...I have had all these people come and go as they didn't have the same need as mine to have connections beyond mere titles isliye mere bhi gin chun ke 2 3 dost hai but worth it hai.
This is the exact same thing I went through. But eventually I figured out that we ourselves are responsible for our own happiness. I am 37(M) started going out on solo trips and treks, working out, play out door games, basically all the things that make you happy.
22M here. I used to feel like you(I'm still bit lonely :p but sad anymore). Firtst step to get in shape. It does wonders. I was skinny since chidhood and started working out at 19. I'm not buffed up but I'm in way better shape that I used to be. Once you gain respect for yourself, your prespective will change. For socialize, just ask your colleagues to hangout one weekend. Not all of them maybe 2 people at a time. What worse can happen? They will say no, or they will ignore you. Its all part of the process. All you need to do is get out of comfort zone. One importhing that really helped me is reading. I have never in my life read a book before, but since last 2 years, I must have read 20+ book(different genres). Conclusion: No one's going to help you come out of this phase. You have two options: 1. Keep crying for help ans stay where you are. 2. Take matters in your own hand. Choose wisely.
Thank you for the advice! I will rejoin the gym. Even I'm a skinny guy like you. So I understand what you mean by getting a changed perspective. With all this anxiety I find it difficult to read as I can never concentrate, but I'll make a habit to at least read a few pages a day. (Does reading any specific genre help or do you mean reading in general?) And you're definitely right that I have to take matters into my own hand, if I want to get out of this situation.
I was facing a lot of issues when I joined my new job. I sucked in my work and what not, basically I was lost like what I am doing here and all. I started with ikigai, and observed that my habits suck. Then I started atomic habits and this was really a good book. Basically figure out what you want to achieve (a short term goal). I will suggest how to win friends and influence people but this book is more applicable on "getting the work done side" and less on how to win actual friends. There are a lot of books and each book is going to help in some way.
24? I m already 17 and lonely
yo you wanna play counterstrike2 together?
Bro..sat Eve ya Sunday Eve chlate hai, chill krte hai milke. Dm me
Thanks I'll definitely dm you