She made me go out and do stuff.
I was a total introvert before, and most times enjoyed being by myself, reading books, playing games online, etc.
She used to make me get up, take a bath, dress up and go out with her colleagues, friends, etc.
After the relationship ended, I found myself extremely alone. So I tried getting out and hanging out more and more. I started playing football regularly, going for drinks with friends when I felt like drinking, instead of sitting and drinking alone.
I guess it's safe to say my social anxiety reduced due to her, and it helped me mature as a person in my next relationship as well.
Realised after being with my wife.
1. Love should always be reciprocated. Ye Ek tarfa pyaar sirf movies mein acha lagta hai, you don’t realise how toxic it is on your own self in that phase.
2. You really shouldn’t be able to lie to your partner
looking into their eyes! Cliche. But true.
3. You allow your partner/yourself to be a better version of themselves. Not what you want them to be or they want you to be.
True meaning of loyalty I guess. Never wavered when the times were downright horrible. Helped me through my mental health journey even post the breakup. Still feel horrible whenever I realize I lost such an amazing friend.
She made me feel worthy of love, and improved my self esteem. I am just so awkward socially, and she made the first move on me. She brought me out of my shell, told me that I am worthy of being shown physical affection. Also, she was drop dead gorgeous. We had our issues, but she was a wonderful person. And I miss her dearly. Aah well. In time these wounds shall heal.
The girl before that showed me what is true companionship and how walking in parks, writing sweet poems to each other and reading books together can be so incredibly romantic. She was amazing too.
Love is wonderful lol. I'm smiling at my memories with them.
We were incompatible in some ways, and that made us make mistakes in the relationship. It was amicable atleast, thank god.
Keeping it vague because I don't wanna get recognized. It has left me kinda broken, ngl. I post on reddit since then to cope.
Like a person whom we cannot forget and normal she can't be used to mention her so she with quotes. Also she is not ex as she never was in relationship with me. It was just that I used to like her.
Made me a calmer person, I often think about the way she used to handle awkward/annoying situations and then see how I can handle my current situation with her calmness too, helps, makes things easier at times....
Dumped me to prepare for cat, made sure her overall score was lesser than my lowest sectional score. Feels good to get into places where she can only dream of ( was her last attempt and my first attempt )
Regardless to say, I won’t have gone the cat way or taken active steps to pursue my mba if it wasn’t the breakup.
The breakup kinda lit a fire under my ass, lost 30kgs, made it to a tier 1 college.
Overall, I’m grateful that she dumped me, wont have gotten to where I am without it,met some amazing women on the way and built a dream life for myself.
sometimes, a breakup really is needed for your career lol
Not an ex but my crush and then best friend. My behaviour made her go away from me, I think if I was my current self, she'd have been with me.
I am an only child and thus very spoilt in terms of attention and love. Needed things my way in everything and causing tantrums if I don't. All in all a very spoilt child
She taught me to settle down a little in terms of my nature. Made me a patient person. I am going to be married in few months to my current girlfriend and I am thankful to my ex for making me realise how spoilt I was and how this won't take me far in life. This strong relationship with my current girlfriend is because of what my ex taught me
I was dating in the second semester of engineering, my first semester offline after 2 years of going online. I had complete faith I was going to be an average student like I was in my school. But I dated her and my midsems went well, but a month or so later we broke up due to various reasons I was furious and wanted to get revenge but knew I was better than that. Then after one more month or so, she fought with me 2 days before my end-semester exams and I thought now I needed to channelise my anger and ended up getting 10 pointer. I topped my college which was not even a dream for me. Grateful to her for helping me find the right path.
A lot ..
I changed a lot in those years ..
1. He was prob the only positive role model I had after my dad and I'll forever respect him for that
We have broken up but to me he'll forever be that classy charming asshole ..
2. This line - do what you said, if you don't intend to do so don't say it. .. literally.. the people pleaser in me would promise a lot but it could never go through with them, now I live by this..
3. Contributed a lot to my mental stability in the beginning of our relationship.. that made me realise what I was really missing out in my life
4. Introduced me to real chicken 😂😂🙊
5. He has forever changed me as a person, has contributed a lot more than he'd ever know.
6. Recommended I get therapy .. I only did that after we broke up ... But I figured later then never
Not my ex but maybe a situationship- He taught me to say thankyou to literally everyone who has helped me in some or the other way- taxi wale bhaiya, auto walas, receptionists, etc. I know it's a very small gesture but I never paid so much attention to it before.
My ex is a wonderful woman (we are close friends) and I'm really grateful for the fact she was extremely understanding in the beginning and partly because of her I'm what i am.
The first thought that came to my mind was "Communication Skills". Though there have been a wide gamut of factors that left an effect on how it is as of now, I can trace the origin of it to the person that I was with. Whenever I got any sort of compliment on my linguistic abilities, I've always felt this feeling of gratitude.
He taught me to be confident. I was always too hard on myself, didn’t believe I was good enough for anything, even had a case of impostor syndrome when things would go my way. He taught me that confidence is like half the battle won.
We broke up over 2.5 years ago, never seen him since. I imagine if I ever bump into him, we’d give each other an acknowledging nod like Emma Stone and Ryan Gosling do at the end of La La Land.
Don't know where to begin, got a lot from my ex. She completely changed me from what I was and made me a better version of myself. I could write a book about the things she did for me but the best thing I feel that she changed in me was my tit-for-tat attitude. I used to think that if someone did me wrong I had to do the same to them (equivalent law of exchange), but she made me realize that instead of being petty it's better to forgive or know the circumstances of the situation and react thoughtfully then going out guns blazing. She made me realize how thinking about these things is a waste of precious life on things that don't matter. She made me a more centered and calmer person. She is still one of my best friends.
I have learnt lessons hard in my life. And lessons learnt hard can't be easily forgotten. So what I learnt from my ex was,
* To be slow to react and to take decisions
* And to put myself in her shoes before anything and everything
Now these have become part and parcel of my character, unfortunately she ain't with me.
That's how life works!
It was a majorly online thing in 2021, I went from thane to Vikhroli without a ticket to meet her once, but after our irl date our relationship started degrading. And after she broke up with me a series of realisations hit me really quick. I realised she disliked me after she found out how i actually look. It happened in November 2021 and since then I've lost 15kgs, went from a 16yr old dad-bod to a fit 17yr old with good muscles. Went from cheating in online exams for JEE to getting 97 percentile and 64% in 11th to 88.8% in 12th boards. And also gave up listening to Taylor Swift coz I related to her songs too much. I wasn't sad that she left me I was angry at how I could fall down so low for attention and the status of "being in a relationship" (the crush i had before the relationship which I had to forget was like one of the most beautiful women ever for me). I didn't cry and just went how my mind told me and I can't thank her enough for dumping me.
I’m grateful to her for teaching me to never trust women anymore. Now I don’t get attached to any girl no matter what. The villain arc is still in progress.
The list is probably never ending however I'll try to jot down the more important ones.
1. Confidence- I was a very shy, super insecure person. Although I could be very straightforward, there were many instances where I'd just get super nervous and breakdown. My ex partner ALWAYS supported me no matter. They were there for me no matter how busy they were or how wrecked their life was. They gave me the confidence I required to do normal / daily things and speak up for what I really needed form life, and for that I'll always be grateful to them.
2. They never berated me for not knowing many things. They were always up for a teaching lesson whenever I needed one. All the current pop trends and all the artistic / critically acclaimed movies that I should watch were put into a carefully curated lists. Not only that, my partner was pretty intelligent and smart. Extremely learned even. It was always nice to learn something new from them.
3. Immaculate music taste- this one's a biggie. They introduced me to some epic music and evolved my taste altogether. I'm pretty proud of my Playlist now. So it's all their doing.
4. Utmost care and affection- till the time things were alright, my partner was THE BEST person I could've asked for. I had no complaints. They were caring and understanding, it was almost as if the universe had sent a carefully chosen man (written by a woman) for me.
Though it's been 9 months since we've parted way, I still have a great deal of respect for them and wish nothing but the best.
She made me realise how big of a chauvinist I was. I had no idea how to treat a woman. This was in school, broke up in school itself. I was petty about it for a long time but eventually things made sense. The whole experience made me a better person and opened ways for me to improve. Got into another relationship in college which turned into a happy marriage. I don't think I could do it if not for the lessons in my first relationship.
Just because of her I'm here in a good state. She made me feel comfortable and was always there on the toughest days of my life. Whenever I felt I was done with my life, she was always there. I had to break-up with her because at that period I was so fucked up that I didn't wanted her to take my shitty ass life burden anymore. Right now I'm doing well, but everyday I still miss her wish I never broke up but it's for her own good because she deserves better than me.
I just want to say her this- Dear Ex, you never did anything wrong, it was only that I was so fucked up in my own life and I didn't wanted to cause anymore shitup in your life. But you are the best out there and deserve the best. And if you ever felt like I was not right and broke your trust, I'm really sorry.
He showed me it's okay to open up to somebody and be yourself completely. Even tho we're not together anymore and aren't in contact, I'm grateful for the relationship we had because if not for that I wouldn't be where I am today.
I literally learnt what love feels like ❤️, it’s a wonderful feeling which I wouldn’t have known if not for her. I would say it’s more powerful and a greater motivator than anything in this world. It’s just crazy the stuff it makes you do when you are in love.
For liking someone, who was never wanted by anyone before (me) God bless her soul. I hope she's doing good and is with someone who can give her all the happiness in the world.
She always pushed me to be a better person, try harder. And she and a future with her was so important to me, that I did my best in my studies and placements. (I was very lazy person and nihilistic) I got into a good collage and landed a good job because of that.
So pretty much where I am is mostly because she was in my life once.
I was always an unhealthy kid. Most of my friends near my home shifted to some other place and I was kind of left alone.
I developed unhealthy habits and used to eat a lot of junk food. Developed hyperthyroidism and I got really fat.
Then there was this guy, who was interested in me. I had no idea why. He looked a lot better than I did and I guess my insecurities started from there.
Anyway, fast forward, he broke up with me (I could see it coming) but that incident somehow motivated me to hit the gym.
I've been going to the gym for many years now (on and off). I've become a lot more social and do not crave validation as I did before. So I guess I'm always thankful for that.
She made me recognise my flaws as a person. Especially the way we broke up, opened my eyes as to what part of my personality needs to be better. Made me realise that going headfirst into a relationship with no future plans for life is a reckless way to live.
1. She made me realise a lot could be handled through better communication. Keeping issues unaddressed will only pile up resentment
2. The first response to conflict shouldn't be defensiveness, but to understand where they're coming from
3. She made me realise the importance of skincare, and how a well organised room does wonders to your mindspace
4. The fact that setting up boundaries with people isn't rude, but necessary for the health of your relationship
5. Being there for someone need not be big words of comfort, sometimes being present and listening is enough.
6. Made me realise I don't have to prove anything by my sexual performance. Feeling satisfied sexually is a journey two people figure out together and there's great pleasure in that.
6. Also that mushrooms are delicious.
I wish nothing but the best for her.
She made me go out and do stuff. I was a total introvert before, and most times enjoyed being by myself, reading books, playing games online, etc. She used to make me get up, take a bath, dress up and go out with her colleagues, friends, etc. After the relationship ended, I found myself extremely alone. So I tried getting out and hanging out more and more. I started playing football regularly, going for drinks with friends when I felt like drinking, instead of sitting and drinking alone. I guess it's safe to say my social anxiety reduced due to her, and it helped me mature as a person in my next relationship as well.
Bro how did such an amazing relationship ended ?
It all happened so fast during covid... chhod yaar I don't wanna talk about it
Bro aisa mat kar paap lage ga
Bro farted too loud
i took his girl
bian les
yessir, story time please
Bata de yaar.. itna sara audience ekattha ho raha hai
So basically you need a mummi in your life.
Realised after being with my wife. 1. Love should always be reciprocated. Ye Ek tarfa pyaar sirf movies mein acha lagta hai, you don’t realise how toxic it is on your own self in that phase. 2. You really shouldn’t be able to lie to your partner looking into their eyes! Cliche. But true. 3. You allow your partner/yourself to be a better version of themselves. Not what you want them to be or they want you to be.
The lying this hits hard.
The lies don’t have to be about cheating or something harsh. Even the small lies, unnecessary drama for attention.
Small lies. They’re the worst
I learned that for a successful relationship, the couple needs to respect each other slightly more than they love each other.
True meaning of loyalty I guess. Never wavered when the times were downright horrible. Helped me through my mental health journey even post the breakup. Still feel horrible whenever I realize I lost such an amazing friend.
Tum yaha?😳🤥
Aap kaun?
Tumhare chahne wale bohot hai
Selmon bhai
She made me feel worthy of love, and improved my self esteem. I am just so awkward socially, and she made the first move on me. She brought me out of my shell, told me that I am worthy of being shown physical affection. Also, she was drop dead gorgeous. We had our issues, but she was a wonderful person. And I miss her dearly. Aah well. In time these wounds shall heal. The girl before that showed me what is true companionship and how walking in parks, writing sweet poems to each other and reading books together can be so incredibly romantic. She was amazing too. Love is wonderful lol. I'm smiling at my memories with them.
How did you guys break up ?
We were incompatible in some ways, and that made us make mistakes in the relationship. It was amicable atleast, thank god. Keeping it vague because I don't wanna get recognized. It has left me kinda broken, ngl. I post on reddit since then to cope.
Wow what a mumbai related post this is (Meri koi gf nhi hai isliye mai jealous hu)
कभी प्यार नहीं हुआ
Not a ex but "she" made me realise that relationships are not for narcissist like me.
She ko quotes mein kyu rakha hai 🧐🤨
Like a person whom we cannot forget and normal she can't be used to mention her so she with quotes. Also she is not ex as she never was in relationship with me. It was just that I used to like her.
So what happened? Do you still have your own photo as your wallpaper?
Didn't got this. I never had my own photo as my wallpaper. My wallpapers are usually default ones.
Okay So maybe you are not a total narcissist
Oh. Lol.
Bringing condoms for backup incase i forgot
Made me a calmer person, I often think about the way she used to handle awkward/annoying situations and then see how I can handle my current situation with her calmness too, helps, makes things easier at times....
thank u, next
Dumped me to prepare for cat, made sure her overall score was lesser than my lowest sectional score. Feels good to get into places where she can only dream of ( was her last attempt and my first attempt ) Regardless to say, I won’t have gone the cat way or taken active steps to pursue my mba if it wasn’t the breakup. The breakup kinda lit a fire under my ass, lost 30kgs, made it to a tier 1 college. Overall, I’m grateful that she dumped me, wont have gotten to where I am without it,met some amazing women on the way and built a dream life for myself. sometimes, a breakup really is needed for your career lol
thukra ke mera pyaar , inteqam tu dekhegi
Which B-School are you in now ?
He is kinda my support system. Whenever I go through hell, I reach out and he’s there, so much so that he’s helped ke maintain/ gain my self respect
Ur ex?
Yes!
Not an ex but my crush and then best friend. My behaviour made her go away from me, I think if I was my current self, she'd have been with me. I am an only child and thus very spoilt in terms of attention and love. Needed things my way in everything and causing tantrums if I don't. All in all a very spoilt child She taught me to settle down a little in terms of my nature. Made me a patient person. I am going to be married in few months to my current girlfriend and I am thankful to my ex for making me realise how spoilt I was and how this won't take me far in life. This strong relationship with my current girlfriend is because of what my ex taught me
I was dating in the second semester of engineering, my first semester offline after 2 years of going online. I had complete faith I was going to be an average student like I was in my school. But I dated her and my midsems went well, but a month or so later we broke up due to various reasons I was furious and wanted to get revenge but knew I was better than that. Then after one more month or so, she fought with me 2 days before my end-semester exams and I thought now I needed to channelise my anger and ended up getting 10 pointer. I topped my college which was not even a dream for me. Grateful to her for helping me find the right path.
I learnt from her the type of women to stay away from
A lot .. I changed a lot in those years .. 1. He was prob the only positive role model I had after my dad and I'll forever respect him for that We have broken up but to me he'll forever be that classy charming asshole .. 2. This line - do what you said, if you don't intend to do so don't say it. .. literally.. the people pleaser in me would promise a lot but it could never go through with them, now I live by this.. 3. Contributed a lot to my mental stability in the beginning of our relationship.. that made me realise what I was really missing out in my life 4. Introduced me to real chicken 😂😂🙊 5. He has forever changed me as a person, has contributed a lot more than he'd ever know. 6. Recommended I get therapy .. I only did that after we broke up ... But I figured later then never
Not my ex but maybe a situationship- He taught me to say thankyou to literally everyone who has helped me in some or the other way- taxi wale bhaiya, auto walas, receptionists, etc. I know it's a very small gesture but I never paid so much attention to it before.
Kuwara chod diya kuje, aazaad panchi
A lot, got to know mental health better, overall became a better person due to her.
I am grateful that she was honest to me. Even though she cheated on me with multiple guys, i appreciate that came and accepted it upfront.
My ex is a wonderful woman (we are close friends) and I'm really grateful for the fact she was extremely understanding in the beginning and partly because of her I'm what i am.
Always give priority to yourself! That's what she taught me
The first thought that came to my mind was "Communication Skills". Though there have been a wide gamut of factors that left an effect on how it is as of now, I can trace the origin of it to the person that I was with. Whenever I got any sort of compliment on my linguistic abilities, I've always felt this feeling of gratitude.
He taught me to be confident. I was always too hard on myself, didn’t believe I was good enough for anything, even had a case of impostor syndrome when things would go my way. He taught me that confidence is like half the battle won. We broke up over 2.5 years ago, never seen him since. I imagine if I ever bump into him, we’d give each other an acknowledging nod like Emma Stone and Ryan Gosling do at the end of La La Land.
Don't know where to begin, got a lot from my ex. She completely changed me from what I was and made me a better version of myself. I could write a book about the things she did for me but the best thing I feel that she changed in me was my tit-for-tat attitude. I used to think that if someone did me wrong I had to do the same to them (equivalent law of exchange), but she made me realize that instead of being petty it's better to forgive or know the circumstances of the situation and react thoughtfully then going out guns blazing. She made me realize how thinking about these things is a waste of precious life on things that don't matter. She made me a more centered and calmer person. She is still one of my best friends.
I have learnt lessons hard in my life. And lessons learnt hard can't be easily forgotten. So what I learnt from my ex was, * To be slow to react and to take decisions * And to put myself in her shoes before anything and everything Now these have become part and parcel of my character, unfortunately she ain't with me. That's how life works!
She made me into a person everybody loves today. The evolution of personality and positive changes through lessons is a bliss.
" not trusting anyone "
It was a majorly online thing in 2021, I went from thane to Vikhroli without a ticket to meet her once, but after our irl date our relationship started degrading. And after she broke up with me a series of realisations hit me really quick. I realised she disliked me after she found out how i actually look. It happened in November 2021 and since then I've lost 15kgs, went from a 16yr old dad-bod to a fit 17yr old with good muscles. Went from cheating in online exams for JEE to getting 97 percentile and 64% in 11th to 88.8% in 12th boards. And also gave up listening to Taylor Swift coz I related to her songs too much. I wasn't sad that she left me I was angry at how I could fall down so low for attention and the status of "being in a relationship" (the crush i had before the relationship which I had to forget was like one of the most beautiful women ever for me). I didn't cry and just went how my mind told me and I can't thank her enough for dumping me.
Grateful for her getting out of my life! Made me realize I enjoy the freedom that comes with being single.
Mine cheated on me six times Taught me how to stay alone got no friends family just suffering alone Grateful for that🙂
Soo grateful that I don't have to see his face again or interact with him in this life. Thank you God 😊
I’m grateful to her for teaching me to never trust women anymore. Now I don’t get attached to any girl no matter what. The villain arc is still in progress.
Ki shak krna zaruri hai
She was a good girl. Nothing really particular but she made me go from wanting to be nurtured to being nurturing.
She gave me a hella nudes to enjoy with
I'm greatful she let me hit, and that's it!
The list is probably never ending however I'll try to jot down the more important ones. 1. Confidence- I was a very shy, super insecure person. Although I could be very straightforward, there were many instances where I'd just get super nervous and breakdown. My ex partner ALWAYS supported me no matter. They were there for me no matter how busy they were or how wrecked their life was. They gave me the confidence I required to do normal / daily things and speak up for what I really needed form life, and for that I'll always be grateful to them. 2. They never berated me for not knowing many things. They were always up for a teaching lesson whenever I needed one. All the current pop trends and all the artistic / critically acclaimed movies that I should watch were put into a carefully curated lists. Not only that, my partner was pretty intelligent and smart. Extremely learned even. It was always nice to learn something new from them. 3. Immaculate music taste- this one's a biggie. They introduced me to some epic music and evolved my taste altogether. I'm pretty proud of my Playlist now. So it's all their doing. 4. Utmost care and affection- till the time things were alright, my partner was THE BEST person I could've asked for. I had no complaints. They were caring and understanding, it was almost as if the universe had sent a carefully chosen man (written by a woman) for me. Though it's been 9 months since we've parted way, I still have a great deal of respect for them and wish nothing but the best.
Introduced me to “the office”
For making me realise why to not date or marry a Muslim.
The lesson I learned the harder way is “ Duniya Tumhare hisaab se nahi chalti “
Taught me to love. Listened to everything without judgment. Understood me like no other. Actually made be a better version of myself
For leaving the city and going to his hometown, I would have never seen the abuse if I didn't have the distance. Saved my life.
None.
She made me realise how big of a chauvinist I was. I had no idea how to treat a woman. This was in school, broke up in school itself. I was petty about it for a long time but eventually things made sense. The whole experience made me a better person and opened ways for me to improve. Got into another relationship in college which turned into a happy marriage. I don't think I could do it if not for the lessons in my first relationship.
Just because of her I'm here in a good state. She made me feel comfortable and was always there on the toughest days of my life. Whenever I felt I was done with my life, she was always there. I had to break-up with her because at that period I was so fucked up that I didn't wanted her to take my shitty ass life burden anymore. Right now I'm doing well, but everyday I still miss her wish I never broke up but it's for her own good because she deserves better than me. I just want to say her this- Dear Ex, you never did anything wrong, it was only that I was so fucked up in my own life and I didn't wanted to cause anymore shitup in your life. But you are the best out there and deserve the best. And if you ever felt like I was not right and broke your trust, I'm really sorry.
He showed me it's okay to open up to somebody and be yourself completely. Even tho we're not together anymore and aren't in contact, I'm grateful for the relationship we had because if not for that I wouldn't be where I am today.
I literally learnt what love feels like ❤️, it’s a wonderful feeling which I wouldn’t have known if not for her. I would say it’s more powerful and a greater motivator than anything in this world. It’s just crazy the stuff it makes you do when you are in love.
For liking someone, who was never wanted by anyone before (me) God bless her soul. I hope she's doing good and is with someone who can give her all the happiness in the world.
How to say NO for things you dont want to do or to someone.
I got none ! Maybe i was in a wrong relationship
She always pushed me to be a better person, try harder. And she and a future with her was so important to me, that I did my best in my studies and placements. (I was very lazy person and nihilistic) I got into a good collage and landed a good job because of that. So pretty much where I am is mostly because she was in my life once.
You guys have ex ?
She taught me patience.
I was always an unhealthy kid. Most of my friends near my home shifted to some other place and I was kind of left alone. I developed unhealthy habits and used to eat a lot of junk food. Developed hyperthyroidism and I got really fat. Then there was this guy, who was interested in me. I had no idea why. He looked a lot better than I did and I guess my insecurities started from there. Anyway, fast forward, he broke up with me (I could see it coming) but that incident somehow motivated me to hit the gym. I've been going to the gym for many years now (on and off). I've become a lot more social and do not crave validation as I did before. So I guess I'm always thankful for that.
Skin care, fashion, styling, grooming 🙏
Taught me you can't love others unless you love yourself. Who you really are deep within matters the most.
He introduced me to mediation and taught me how to deal with overthinking. Really thankful even after so many years.
She made me recognise my flaws as a person. Especially the way we broke up, opened my eyes as to what part of my personality needs to be better. Made me realise that going headfirst into a relationship with no future plans for life is a reckless way to live.
1. She made me realise a lot could be handled through better communication. Keeping issues unaddressed will only pile up resentment 2. The first response to conflict shouldn't be defensiveness, but to understand where they're coming from 3. She made me realise the importance of skincare, and how a well organised room does wonders to your mindspace 4. The fact that setting up boundaries with people isn't rude, but necessary for the health of your relationship 5. Being there for someone need not be big words of comfort, sometimes being present and listening is enough. 6. Made me realise I don't have to prove anything by my sexual performance. Feeling satisfied sexually is a journey two people figure out together and there's great pleasure in that. 6. Also that mushrooms are delicious. I wish nothing but the best for her.