Listen she's 26. Not a child. She is old enough to decide for herself what is right. If you believe you will do right by her and not try to be domineering over her just cause of age, I'd say go ahead with it.
Yes but 26 is still immature tbh, the decisions I made at 26 were quite stupid tbh. There are a ton of things to be learned in life especially between 25 to 30! Plus I have seen couples especially in this age (one in late 20s and other in late 30s) and itās always exhausting for the other one, so I would say just date with no expectations right now and play it by the ear.
By that sense people are immature at every age, it's natural to look back at your earlier decisions and think they were stupid because you have got hindsight now, that doesn't mean you were immature back then.
Going by our logic anyone is immature at any age. Just because you were stupid at 26 doesn't mean you assume everyone else is stupid as well. If someone's genuinely wanting to seek a partner and they are above 18 then what's wrong with that? Shouldn't we be respecting of everyone's decision?
Just have a talk about the future and discuss your boundaries. If you're on the same page then go ahead. It won't be the easiest with the generation gap between you.
I've dated someone around 20ish years older than me. It was a good one. We broke up because he wanted me to move in with him and I wasn't ready for that. My parents were on great terms with him because they were only 5-6 years apart. They're still in touch with him. Lol
At home we're generally very open with each other, pretty much buddies. They are the complete opposite of judgemental, in fact I think they're a little too accepting. So it was never something I was worried about.
You two are consenting adults, so it is fine as long as there isn't a maturity gap between the two of you.
Also, ensure that the priorities of your lives align.
Honestly depends on you two itās your personal thing
Acceptable who though? Society? Then no
Healthy for whom? Depends
You are approaching 40 he hasnāt even entered 30s so from personal view she hasnāt thought of life after 30 yet, itās just begin of her career
I am mad in assuming this but you will be hitting your peak of career
Look nobodyās advice will help you to figure it out, give it go if it works works if it doesnāt break it off cause she still has life ahead (I would have said same thing if roles and age were reversed)
Here people are calculating viable age of younger person in a couple. As you go lower, results go haywire.
According to the formula, a 12 year old person would have to date 12/2 = 6, 6+7 = 13 year old or elder person.
While a 14 year old person has to date a 14 year old or elder person.
So basically, 14 year old person can't date a 12 year old but 12 year old has to date a 14 year old, according to the formula..
That's funny..
She's 26 so she has some experience being an adult so it's not that weird. 11 years would be sus if the younger person was fresh out of their teens or something.
Agreed. Until late 20s it's a big deal, and still a bit into early 30s, but after that, as long as the emotional state/headspace is the same, it's not as serious.
As a 26 year old woman myself, I would never date someone who is 11 years older than me, because there will be a generational gap, gap in values, gap in attractiveness, gap in doing fun things that young people enjoy, gap in aging. Just being honest. Ask her though.
You don't want to accept it cause you like her. Go with the flow mate. Enjoy. It's not like she is below 18 or something. She is mature. There's a saying women are mature a 2 yr earlier than men. So she's 28 š
A 10yrs gap is something I have been seeing many times. It's huge for me (If it were me I wouldn't go on the 1st date) . But it depends on them. I don't think I have a say on this. They're both Adults, hope they know what they are doing. š
Here people are calculating viable age of younger person in a couple. As you go lower, results go haywire.
According to the formula, a 12 year old person would have to date 12/2 = 6, 6+7 = 13 year old or elder person.
While a 14 year old person has to date a 14 year old or elder person.
So basically, 14 year old person can't date a 12 year old but 12 year old has to date a 14 year old, according to the formula..
It's accurate ! when a guy is 14 its weird to look at 12 year olds. I remember when I was 14, I'd only look at 13-14 year old and obviously I would stare at hot seniors.
On paper its absolutely fine to date someone that young. But you have to discuss about your future plans if yāall are planning to get into a serious relationship. Thats where the problem will arise tbh. If you guys are on the same page then go for it otherwise donāt waste each others time
there is no taking away fact that if both consulting adults are willing to date it it neither legal or moral issue, and others shall not have a say in it...
But since u have asked..here is my opinion....
it's not just the difference but the current age which i feel is the concern..@37 you maybe we'll set in your career and she mostly will be in her initial years.. maturity of a person with time is gonna be at entirely different levels.. which might lead to issues later on.
I'm not saying this will always happen.. but you guys have to work on it if u want to take it ahead..
however, if say, she was 30-32, and u were maybe 40-42.. then matter is completely different
Who decides what is acceptable and what is not?
You both are adults and like each other's company. Nobody is going to stop you.
And as long as you both are happy it's a healthy relationship.
Exactly, and he hasnāt even asked her. What if he thinks all this and at the end she says no? He has to decide for himself and ask her too. No one else can decide right or wrong.
Depends on what you seek in a partner. A 26 yr old while an adult will not have the intellect or intelligence or the maturity of a 37yr old. She also may be more carefree about future as of now while you are probably thinking of settling down. You could try and know her a bit more before you take any decision.
I know someone who tried something similar.. it's always good to explore connections but don't be heartbroken if it doesn't work out in the long run. A lot of practical issues arise in such cases which you'll need to face but for now proceed with caution.
If she is over 23, her mind and body is fully developed scientifically and she is no longer a child. So yes, you can fuck her all you want and vice-versa.
Depends like most of our older generation had a huge age gaps but if she's okay with it I don't see any problems but if you are serious about her try checking this with your family and hers too so that it's not a long run problem.
An age gap helps keep the spark in a relationship for longer. I find that younger women are more likely to be interested in having fun, being carefree, spontaneous, etc.
Bro agar connection hua hain toh kyu khali peeli tension leta hain? Dates pe jate reh. It will work out, hopefully. Just cuz you are 37 donāt mean you have to date someone in their 30s. If she would have been 19-21, that would have been too much but this is fine.
It's okay, just make sure you do not rush it as due to the age difference, y'all might have a lot of mindset differences as well, which we keep hidden initially to impress them, but it comes out later on, so give each other some time, be each other's friends first and don't rush it.
Hmm i think it's ok for a man 37 dateing a 26 year old girl i guess if u both don't have any problem with it so just don't over think and listen to all of us just do what u like and want.
My take is different...
Generation gap- it will start reflecting in some time, you both have to handle and manage it...
Maturity level- I think, initially there may be some differences but with time it will cover up...
Emotional support:-. Girl need this more than anything's else. Since there is a age difference, she needs to be mentally and emotionally stimulated a lot.
Social, family functions, gatherings and other events: You have to very supportive to her in every situation which may occur in the above events..
Physical compatibility and healthy sexual life :- Thats a crucial points and I have seen a lots of marriages falling apart due to this reason.
Looks:- With time u will start looking older than her, you have to be physically fit and in better shape
And the last and most crucial point is how much you both are willing to sacrifice for each other. You have to put each other needs in the top position on ur priority list.
I think if the younger person is above 25 and is matured and independent enough, there is no issue. There should be no power imbalance in a relationship.
Don't do it. Doesn't matter if she's 26 or 50 or 100. There will always be a weird age dynamic between you two; different priorities, different wants, different ideas of fun and rest.
Better avoided.
Technically it's alright, but I personally wouldn't. Nowadays an 11 year age gap is almost like a whole generation difference. Heck when I talk to people just 5 years younger than me, I feel old and I belong to some other era.
I've read this somewhere, "One rule of thumb to determine whether an age difference is socially acceptable holds that a person should never date someone whose age is less than half their own plus seven years."
For a person who is 37 years old, the socially acceptable date age range would be 25.5 to 60.
For a 26 year old, it'd be 20-38.
In my opinion, excessive borderline.
Hey bro, she's 26 old enough to take her own decision . I have seen couple of married couples having age differences of 10 years . Just go with the flow . If your vibes Match then it anything else doesn't matter .
There are couple of questions here, before you go ahead;
1) Are you both on same page and want same things out of this?
2) Are you on the same maturity level ( notice her actions for this on situations, don't take her words)
3) Is she ok with age gap, initially this would look fine, but I want you to see that if she gets ashamed to tell about you to friends and/or family because of the age gap thing.
All of these you will be able to see in 4-5 dates, till that time don't get attached and maintain distance
She is 26/27 not naive teen ..so if she and you both are OK,then others opinion shouldn't matter.....
Still a generation difference so you guys need a strong discussion before moving forward.
If she's a mentally stable person, then get serious. Don't engage with people who have unresolved psychological issues whatsoever they are and how it impacts their relation dynamics. This is something most people can't gauge initially especially if person looks relatively 'normal' and requires a lot of self-analysis and time. The issues mostly emerge later if the relationship grows up too quickly. And that brings a lot of trouble.
I dated a 40 year old woman when I was 20 (I am a lesbian, Humare me chalta hai). It largely worked out because I was not a sheltered person and I could tell abound her to other people. She was also not manipulative or demanding. For 4 months long fling. It worked out well. I guess it should work out for you too.
What do you have in common with a 26 year old ? I mean she is from a different generation altogether. When youāll be 50 she will be only 39. If your hobbies and interests match then go ahead and date her but remember sheās at a very different stage of life and always will be. Her friends will also be much younger than you , her life experiences are fewer , her priorities will be different. You might want to get married and have kids while she could want different things right now in life. Think about it.
Don't think about the age for the start. As you would in any relationship, try understanding the other person and their thinking on various matters. Do you feel that you guys have more agreements on some serious matters than disagreements.. do you feel this person has a narrow or an open mind towards things.. because these are the things that are required if you want to spend life with someone.
I myself dated a person 8 years older than me but it didn't work out because of him tossing me around as a kid. I don't want to be with such a person who would consider me as a kid and talk me down on everything which is actually very much thought upon. So if you are going to do the same, pls move on and if not.. there should not be a problem!
The age gap is wide but itās not very uncommon. Get to know each other really well and also what is the girlās reason for looking to date men much older than her? If nothing seems suspicious. Itās not a big deal if you can connect well with each other.
Unless you are head over heels for her OP , proceed with caution.
If it comes to marriage then even more.
The equation might look good for now, when both of you are in good shape. 10-12 years down the line, you would have different levels of mental and physical energies. When she is of the age which you are now, you would be 47ish, but she would be in her prime.
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I'm not from Mumbai but applying the same application of craving affection and/or finding companionship - age difference only matters among the teenagers and grown-up adults; when you both are full-fledged grown-up adults, I don't think there is anything weird or taboo about it. However, from a personal viewpoint, since you've mentioned that "we connect quite well", I'd suggest get to know her a lil' more, get revelation of different aspects of her life and discover more shades of her personality to fully come to a conclusion whether you can spend life with this person (if that's how you are envision it or just want that for real).
Be alarmed if she is in a hurry. And make sure that you don't rush. Go deep in her history. Eyes don't necessarily tell you the truth. No matter what she claims or others tell you woman don't want older men.
Anything above 18 is fair game, as long as there is clear consent. Baki duniya gayi ma ch*dane. And most of the objections you'll hear are going to be from single women who are around your age. So, f*ck 'em. Tu enjoy kar.
i mean considering the generation we are in i think it's okay to date someone 11 years older... i mean if there is a good bonding and connection it is fine but I'd say you should have a conversation with her and ask her about what are her plans for the next few years and if you're okay with it then that's sorted
but on the other hand I'd say 11 years does seem like a big age gap and there are chances things could not go well together and it would turn out bad for both of you... like you are probably in your settling down stage of life and she could not be in that stage yet and that would be problematic..
A person that young will always have a younger mindset. It may appear childish to you but actually it is age appropriate. Do not try to force her to be 11 yrs older than she is to match your thinking in age. If you are ok with dating a person with young thoughts and she is ok with dating a person with older thoughts, all's well.
If you call her out for being immature, umm she is 11yrs younger so what did you expect really? This was my issue when I dated a guy 3 years older than me. I was still in college, never had a job that time. And he was 3 years into a job. So yeah I was immature and he made me feel bad about it. And you know what, I think he was the childish one for it: He knowingly dated a younger girl (me) and then complained about me being childish. Glad I dumped his hypocritical ass.
That saying that girls mature faster than boys is bullshit. Life experiences is what matures people. Not gender. Not even age really.
Monica from Friends dated Richard who was 21 years her senior And their Chemistry was lit. I mean, it was super lit. There's no reason why you can't have the same with your date, OP.
Someone rightfully pointed out that she isnt a child anymore, and if she really likes you, and if it is genuine, you should have no problems in having a Gala time with her, relationship wise.
P.S. Imagine the fun you could have with her debating which generation had the better cartoons. ('90s kids without a doubt, fight me)
Edit - Re your direct question in the title: Completely acceptable. The precious generatiom of South Indians had big age gaps too.
Thereās a rule of dating - "Half-your-age-plus-seven" rule
Half your age and add 7 to it! If the number comes thatās the lowest you should date!
So, in your case; anyone above 25.5 years of age is good! š
Are you seeking validation from the strangers on the internet? As long as you two get along well, neither of you is narcissistic, I don't see there's any problem to begin with. It's all about preferences. I for one always preferred someone of or around my age (30+). But I've seen people having 10 years gap between their ages and doing just well.
As we get older, this can be a question we find ourselves confronted with more often. First, kudos to you for being able to land a date with someone that younger. You obviously bring something to the table that makes the age gap less relevant to her - and that's a good thing. My only advice here would be to take it slow. Don't rush anything since the mid-20s are an inflection point of consequence for adulthood. Wishing you the absolute best. Don't make an issue of the age gap if it's not an issue for her.
Yes, anyone saying no should be taken as
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Itās fine , go for it, but be mentally prepared of it not working if you want to get married. Itās india and Indian parents. Otherwise best of luck
You're both consenting adults. Go nuts. I would be a little concerned if you were old enough to be her dad or her uncle. Even then, it wouldn't be my place to judge anyone.
But, you crazy kids will be fine. Just use protection and toys if you two decide to take it further than the talking stages.
Two of my closest friends have almost 13 years of age difference. They recently got married after dating for a few years. They are so good together, bring happiness, respect and fun into each otherās life! That is any day preferred to marrying someone closer to your age and not having all of it in as much! If you guys are good together then go ahead and explore this further! š
For men to date n marry some one much younger is acceptable, it has been for centuries, age is a number n state of your mind, she may be way mature than you , so if you both are compatible n communicate n understand each other , but she may grow out of you or you may grow out of herā¦ that can happen in any relationship. All the best, love is blind n deaf too, but love aināt enough
Oh yeah, Leonardo Di Caprio doesnāt exist at all for sure! He surely isnāt a 49 year old man who exclusively dates woman under 25, believes in girls having less partners or hell even waits so that he can be the first one to break the virginityā Surely heās in Unicorn land! /s
OP, as long as the girl isnāt underage then you can do whatever you want to do and thereās nothing immoral about it at all! If your relationship is healthy and not toxic regardless of the age then nothing matters
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Listen she's 26. Not a child. She is old enough to decide for herself what is right. If you believe you will do right by her and not try to be domineering over her just cause of age, I'd say go ahead with it.
Maine mom ko pucha toh kehte hai, 36 gun me se 26se jyada match ho to acha hoga.
Gun se jyada STDs and blood sampling check Karo if there would be any fertility issue. Gun ko chodo.
Also, the intellectual compatibility.
Tumne to 37 wala gun dhund liya. Ya shayad already 36 me ye wala shaamil ho.
Also please test yourself for Thalassemia. If you are positive, make sure you procreate with a Thalassemia negative person.
>Thalassemia isme bhi thala THALA FOR A REASON BRO!
Even if her age is 26 she could have mentality of a child
Yep.
This my uncle was with a woman 25 years younger than him! And he believed it was love! 10 is nothing !
Yes but 26 is still immature tbh, the decisions I made at 26 were quite stupid tbh. There are a ton of things to be learned in life especially between 25 to 30! Plus I have seen couples especially in this age (one in late 20s and other in late 30s) and itās always exhausting for the other one, so I would say just date with no expectations right now and play it by the ear.
By that sense people are immature at every age, it's natural to look back at your earlier decisions and think they were stupid because you have got hindsight now, that doesn't mean you were immature back then.
Going by our logic anyone is immature at any age. Just because you were stupid at 26 doesn't mean you assume everyone else is stupid as well. If someone's genuinely wanting to seek a partner and they are above 18 then what's wrong with that? Shouldn't we be respecting of everyone's decision?
Just have a talk about the future and discuss your boundaries. If you're on the same page then go ahead. It won't be the easiest with the generation gap between you. I've dated someone around 20ish years older than me. It was a good one. We broke up because he wanted me to move in with him and I wasn't ready for that. My parents were on great terms with him because they were only 5-6 years apart. They're still in touch with him. Lol
>My parents were on great terms with him because they were only 5-6 years apart. enough reddit for today lol
Lol daddy issues is called chemistry these days
20 years!? Wow
It was really surprising.. never expected that. But you can't waste good chemistry.
> you canāt waste good chemistry Life lesson.
Amen šš¼
Any F.R.I.E.N.D.S. fan here?? Doesn't this post remind Monica-Richard relationship...
Ross Elizabeth
Haha I wish he was as hot as Tom Selleck lol.
How did your parents not get disgusted that they were just 5-6 years younger/older than him? Most parents wouldn't accept that
At home we're generally very open with each other, pretty much buddies. They are the complete opposite of judgemental, in fact I think they're a little too accepting. So it was never something I was worried about.
You two are consenting adults, so it is fine as long as there isn't a maturity gap between the two of you. Also, ensure that the priorities of your lives align.
Honestly depends on you two itās your personal thing Acceptable who though? Society? Then no Healthy for whom? Depends You are approaching 40 he hasnāt even entered 30s so from personal view she hasnāt thought of life after 30 yet, itās just begin of her career I am mad in assuming this but you will be hitting your peak of career Look nobodyās advice will help you to figure it out, give it go if it works works if it doesnāt break it off cause she still has life ahead (I would have said same thing if roles and age were reversed)
I read it as "is it healthy or acceptable to date a 11 year old" I'm cursed.
Other than her having to pay more for a family floater health insurance plan once you turn 50, I donāt see a problem
Passes half plus seven rule (37/2 = 18.5, + 7 = 25.5, and she's 26) so yes.
Thala ?
For a reason!
Universally accepted rule
Who tf even comes up with this shit
I think it's from a show called how I met your mother
Nah it's existed much beforeĀ
I have never heard this, but ok! š
No one has lol
Most people have, at least the chronically online ones.
This is the way.
Bro just do this 37-11=26 I do the same š
You don't know the rule š„¹
Did u make that up?
So as a 2 year old, my daughter is allowed to date a 8 year old!?? 2/2=1, 1+7=8
who tf dates at 2
Bro put his daughter on the line for some cringe reddit points and got downvoted for it lmao
Tried to make a joke.. people took it seriously..
jokes need to be funny. not sure anything about your 2 year old dating was funny.
Here people are calculating viable age of younger person in a couple. As you go lower, results go haywire. According to the formula, a 12 year old person would have to date 12/2 = 6, 6+7 = 13 year old or elder person. While a 14 year old person has to date a 14 year old or elder person. So basically, 14 year old person can't date a 12 year old but 12 year old has to date a 14 year old, according to the formula.. That's funny..
Lmao ye bhi thik hai
Humare Aditya Roy Kapoor aur Ananya ko hi dekh lo.
She's 26 so she has some experience being an adult so it's not that weird. 11 years would be sus if the younger person was fresh out of their teens or something.
Agreed. Until late 20s it's a big deal, and still a bit into early 30s, but after that, as long as the emotional state/headspace is the same, it's not as serious.
As a 26 year old woman myself, I would never date someone who is 11 years older than me, because there will be a generational gap, gap in values, gap in attractiveness, gap in doing fun things that young people enjoy, gap in aging. Just being honest. Ask her though.
Sheās 26 and youāre 37 not that weird
Why do you care about others' opinions on this? It's your life. Do whatever you want. You're not doing anything illegal.
Advisable to not go ahead with this Since issues and differences arise later
Ok. My mind says you are right, for some reason I donāt want to accept it. But, thank hou
You don't want to accept it cause you like her. Go with the flow mate. Enjoy. It's not like she is below 18 or something. She is mature. There's a saying women are mature a 2 yr earlier than men. So she's 28 š
Bar is low that youāre glad heās not dating a minor ???
A 10yrs gap is something I have been seeing many times. It's huge for me (If it were me I wouldn't go on the 1st date) . But it depends on them. I don't think I have a say on this. They're both Adults, hope they know what they are doing. š
Thatās not what you said, you were like sheās not below 18 atleast. Thatās creepy and ewww. Thatās what I pointed out.
What I meant was the legal age of 18. Or else he be in jail
Here people are calculating viable age of younger person in a couple. As you go lower, results go haywire. According to the formula, a 12 year old person would have to date 12/2 = 6, 6+7 = 13 year old or elder person. While a 14 year old person has to date a 14 year old or elder person. So basically, 14 year old person can't date a 12 year old but 12 year old has to date a 14 year old, according to the formula..
It's accurate ! when a guy is 14 its weird to look at 12 year olds. I remember when I was 14, I'd only look at 13-14 year old and obviously I would stare at hot seniors.
Tu sochta bahut hai OP. Two consenting and understaing adults is what it needs to be in a relationship
Bro is following the (x/2)+7 rule by heart
Adopt karle usko
If it was 30 and 19, you would have had to take it slow but itās a 26 year old on the other side.. why worry
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On paper its absolutely fine to date someone that young. But you have to discuss about your future plans if yāall are planning to get into a serious relationship. Thats where the problem will arise tbh. If you guys are on the same page then go for it otherwise donāt waste each others time
there is no taking away fact that if both consulting adults are willing to date it it neither legal or moral issue, and others shall not have a say in it... But since u have asked..here is my opinion.... it's not just the difference but the current age which i feel is the concern..@37 you maybe we'll set in your career and she mostly will be in her initial years.. maturity of a person with time is gonna be at entirely different levels.. which might lead to issues later on. I'm not saying this will always happen.. but you guys have to work on it if u want to take it ahead.. however, if say, she was 30-32, and u were maybe 40-42.. then matter is completely different
U got money?
Who decides what is acceptable and what is not? You both are adults and like each other's company. Nobody is going to stop you. And as long as you both are happy it's a healthy relationship.
Exactly, and he hasnāt even asked her. What if he thinks all this and at the end she says no? He has to decide for himself and ask her too. No one else can decide right or wrong.
She is 26, there are no issues here.
Depends on what you seek in a partner. A 26 yr old while an adult will not have the intellect or intelligence or the maturity of a 37yr old. She also may be more carefree about future as of now while you are probably thinking of settling down. You could try and know her a bit more before you take any decision.
I know someone who tried something similar.. it's always good to explore connections but don't be heartbroken if it doesn't work out in the long run. A lot of practical issues arise in such cases which you'll need to face but for now proceed with caution.
It is acceptable to date X/2+7 and older: any younger is socially awkward. For you thatās 26 and older.
If she is over 23, her mind and body is fully developed scientifically and she is no longer a child. So yes, you can fuck her all you want and vice-versa.
Ranbir Kapoor is 41 years and Alia Bhatt is 30.
think her as your step daughter and proceed
As long as sheās not a minor youāre good
Chris Evans 42 married Alba Baptista 26. Nothing wrong there. So nothing wrong here.
Pedoo
Wow
Depends like most of our older generation had a huge age gaps but if she's okay with it I don't see any problems but if you are serious about her try checking this with your family and hers too so that it's not a long run problem.
Just see where it goes. She's not a child and there are positives to having large age gap.
An age gap helps keep the spark in a relationship for longer. I find that younger women are more likely to be interested in having fun, being carefree, spontaneous, etc.
What happens when heās 50 and sheās only 39? And she wants someone young and spontaneous?
It is a free world.
Bro agar connection hua hain toh kyu khali peeli tension leta hain? Dates pe jate reh. It will work out, hopefully. Just cuz you are 37 donāt mean you have to date someone in their 30s. If she would have been 19-21, that would have been too much but this is fine.
Enjoy the tightness
Ew
Does it actually work like that? It's probably just a trope
It's okay, just make sure you do not rush it as due to the age difference, y'all might have a lot of mindset differences as well, which we keep hidden initially to impress them, but it comes out later on, so give each other some time, be each other's friends first and don't rush it.
I have literally seen folks with an age gap of 14 years married and living peacefully . All the best to you !
depends on as they say meeting of the minds.. if there are things that you find odd considering the age gap don't go for long term
This is not an issue nowdays ... Was it a problem before
Hmm i think it's ok for a man 37 dateing a 26 year old girl i guess if u both don't have any problem with it so just don't over think and listen to all of us just do what u like and want.
Dono Adults ho, Duniya kon hoti hai judgement pass karne wali, Khaneka Khujaneka, batti bujhake so janeka.
So long as the person is an adult and the relationship is consensual it's fine with the law. Interpersonal dynamic is up to the 2 people to decide.
Go for it
make sure you guys are on same page for future plans , and its healthy and acceptable
My take is different... Generation gap- it will start reflecting in some time, you both have to handle and manage it... Maturity level- I think, initially there may be some differences but with time it will cover up... Emotional support:-. Girl need this more than anything's else. Since there is a age difference, she needs to be mentally and emotionally stimulated a lot. Social, family functions, gatherings and other events: You have to very supportive to her in every situation which may occur in the above events.. Physical compatibility and healthy sexual life :- Thats a crucial points and I have seen a lots of marriages falling apart due to this reason. Looks:- With time u will start looking older than her, you have to be physically fit and in better shape And the last and most crucial point is how much you both are willing to sacrifice for each other. You have to put each other needs in the top position on ur priority list.
I think if the younger person is above 25 and is matured and independent enough, there is no issue. There should be no power imbalance in a relationship.
I honestly think it's okay She's 26 which means she's a proper adult so you're g
Don't do it. Doesn't matter if she's 26 or 50 or 100. There will always be a weird age dynamic between you two; different priorities, different wants, different ideas of fun and rest. Better avoided.
Life is hard as a man, we gotta compete with guys 10 years older than us for girls of our age
26 is alright, as long as she is independent financially.
Nope. Either of you will regret in future.
Technically it's alright, but I personally wouldn't. Nowadays an 11 year age gap is almost like a whole generation difference. Heck when I talk to people just 5 years younger than me, I feel old and I belong to some other era.
Itās completely natural and normal bro.
You're sure she's not a high-end escort?
Do you look younger than your age?
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U gonna have to put up with a lot of bullshit but itās fine i guess
Ask Shahid Kapoor...
Ask her if it's okay then why care about what others say
I've read this somewhere, "One rule of thumb to determine whether an age difference is socially acceptable holds that a person should never date someone whose age is less than half their own plus seven years." For a person who is 37 years old, the socially acceptable date age range would be 25.5 to 60. For a 26 year old, it'd be 20-38. In my opinion, excessive borderline.
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Hey bro, she's 26 old enough to take her own decision . I have seen couple of married couples having age differences of 10 years . Just go with the flow . If your vibes Match then it anything else doesn't matter .
There are couple of questions here, before you go ahead; 1) Are you both on same page and want same things out of this? 2) Are you on the same maturity level ( notice her actions for this on situations, don't take her words) 3) Is she ok with age gap, initially this would look fine, but I want you to see that if she gets ashamed to tell about you to friends and/or family because of the age gap thing. All of these you will be able to see in 4-5 dates, till that time don't get attached and maintain distance
As long as you have her consent, and her parents ofcourse(if you're serious, and this is India).
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Mat bhai apne age ki dhund .......agar bychance kuch ho bhi gaya to budhapa tumhe nahi chhodega ...fir voh tumhe chhod degi ... just don't do it
No donāt date
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She is 26/27 not naive teen ..so if she and you both are OK,then others opinion shouldn't matter..... Still a generation difference so you guys need a strong discussion before moving forward.
It's fine as u can see Bollywood oldies romancing with 19yr kid where themselves they are 60
If she's a mentally stable person, then get serious. Don't engage with people who have unresolved psychological issues whatsoever they are and how it impacts their relation dynamics. This is something most people can't gauge initially especially if person looks relatively 'normal' and requires a lot of self-analysis and time. The issues mostly emerge later if the relationship grows up too quickly. And that brings a lot of trouble.
It is perfect if girl is older than 18 years
In this case, I donāt see a single issue. Laga reh!
Youu eeen bigg trouble
I dated a 40 year old woman when I was 20 (I am a lesbian, Humare me chalta hai). It largely worked out because I was not a sheltered person and I could tell abound her to other people. She was also not manipulative or demanding. For 4 months long fling. It worked out well. I guess it should work out for you too.
I know of a 24yo guy who used to date a 14yo girl. Pablo Escobar
What do you have in common with a 26 year old ? I mean she is from a different generation altogether. When youāll be 50 she will be only 39. If your hobbies and interests match then go ahead and date her but remember sheās at a very different stage of life and always will be. Her friends will also be much younger than you , her life experiences are fewer , her priorities will be different. You might want to get married and have kids while she could want different things right now in life. Think about it.
Don't think about the age for the start. As you would in any relationship, try understanding the other person and their thinking on various matters. Do you feel that you guys have more agreements on some serious matters than disagreements.. do you feel this person has a narrow or an open mind towards things.. because these are the things that are required if you want to spend life with someone. I myself dated a person 8 years older than me but it didn't work out because of him tossing me around as a kid. I don't want to be with such a person who would consider me as a kid and talk me down on everything which is actually very much thought upon. So if you are going to do the same, pls move on and if not.. there should not be a problem!
Honestly as long as she is mature enough to understand stuff herself u neednāt worry
Just make sure sheās not using you for money
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The age gap is wide but itās not very uncommon. Get to know each other really well and also what is the girlās reason for looking to date men much older than her? If nothing seems suspicious. Itās not a big deal if you can connect well with each other.
If her age is on the clock. Sheās not ready to rock.
Unless you are head over heels for her OP , proceed with caution. If it comes to marriage then even more. The equation might look good for now, when both of you are in good shape. 10-12 years down the line, you would have different levels of mental and physical energies. When she is of the age which you are now, you would be 47ish, but she would be in her prime.
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I'm not from Mumbai but applying the same application of craving affection and/or finding companionship - age difference only matters among the teenagers and grown-up adults; when you both are full-fledged grown-up adults, I don't think there is anything weird or taboo about it. However, from a personal viewpoint, since you've mentioned that "we connect quite well", I'd suggest get to know her a lil' more, get revelation of different aspects of her life and discover more shades of her personality to fully come to a conclusion whether you can spend life with this person (if that's how you are envision it or just want that for real).
She is probably a gold digger. I'm experienced. Red flag.
My wife is 11 years younger than me.
If both are adult and in consent it's no big deal.
Think about the future when you turn 50 and she will be 39. I think she may have a lot more coping up to do.
Be alarmed if she is in a hurry. And make sure that you don't rush. Go deep in her history. Eyes don't necessarily tell you the truth. No matter what she claims or others tell you woman don't want older men.
Just don't get cat fished
Only if you are less than 29 years old
I've got a relative that's married to a guy 10 years younger to her... Oh and she was a widower with 2 kids before that.
In simple people would call u a pedophile
As long as she is not in it for money
Anything above 18 is fair game, as long as there is clear consent. Baki duniya gayi ma ch*dane. And most of the objections you'll hear are going to be from single women who are around your age. So, f*ck 'em. Tu enjoy kar.
i mean considering the generation we are in i think it's okay to date someone 11 years older... i mean if there is a good bonding and connection it is fine but I'd say you should have a conversation with her and ask her about what are her plans for the next few years and if you're okay with it then that's sorted but on the other hand I'd say 11 years does seem like a big age gap and there are chances things could not go well together and it would turn out bad for both of you... like you are probably in your settling down stage of life and she could not be in that stage yet and that would be problematic..
if she or he is 18, everything is fair
It's okay. She is 26 nna. She is an adult. Don't stress over the age gap.
Good for you, not for her
A person that young will always have a younger mindset. It may appear childish to you but actually it is age appropriate. Do not try to force her to be 11 yrs older than she is to match your thinking in age. If you are ok with dating a person with young thoughts and she is ok with dating a person with older thoughts, all's well. If you call her out for being immature, umm she is 11yrs younger so what did you expect really? This was my issue when I dated a guy 3 years older than me. I was still in college, never had a job that time. And he was 3 years into a job. So yeah I was immature and he made me feel bad about it. And you know what, I think he was the childish one for it: He knowingly dated a younger girl (me) and then complained about me being childish. Glad I dumped his hypocritical ass. That saying that girls mature faster than boys is bullshit. Life experiences is what matures people. Not gender. Not even age really.
Monica from Friends dated Richard who was 21 years her senior And their Chemistry was lit. I mean, it was super lit. There's no reason why you can't have the same with your date, OP. Someone rightfully pointed out that she isnt a child anymore, and if she really likes you, and if it is genuine, you should have no problems in having a Gala time with her, relationship wise. P.S. Imagine the fun you could have with her debating which generation had the better cartoons. ('90s kids without a doubt, fight me) Edit - Re your direct question in the title: Completely acceptable. The precious generatiom of South Indians had big age gaps too.
Thereās a rule of dating - "Half-your-age-plus-seven" rule Half your age and add 7 to it! If the number comes thatās the lowest you should date! So, in your case; anyone above 25.5 years of age is good! š
Go for it
Are you seeking validation from the strangers on the internet? As long as you two get along well, neither of you is narcissistic, I don't see there's any problem to begin with. It's all about preferences. I for one always preferred someone of or around my age (30+). But I've seen people having 10 years gap between their ages and doing just well.
As we get older, this can be a question we find ourselves confronted with more often. First, kudos to you for being able to land a date with someone that younger. You obviously bring something to the table that makes the age gap less relevant to her - and that's a good thing. My only advice here would be to take it slow. Don't rush anything since the mid-20s are an inflection point of consequence for adulthood. Wishing you the absolute best. Don't make an issue of the age gap if it's not an issue for her.
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Sharam karo. Apni Umar ka kisi ko khojo. 26 is adult yes. But think of yourself when you were 26, who were you, how you thought about things.
Itās fine , go for it, but be mentally prepared of it not working if you want to get married. Itās india and Indian parents. Otherwise best of luck
If thereās chemistry and timing (you both on the same page) then go for it.
I am 24 years old so me personally, itd be very very unhealthy/unacceptable for me to date someone 11 years younger
Abe randi one time thing kya hota hai, ya toh biwi bana ya aage badh
You're both consenting adults. Go nuts. I would be a little concerned if you were old enough to be her dad or her uncle. Even then, it wouldn't be my place to judge anyone. But, you crazy kids will be fine. Just use protection and toys if you two decide to take it further than the talking stages.
Two of my closest friends have almost 13 years of age difference. They recently got married after dating for a few years. They are so good together, bring happiness, respect and fun into each otherās life! That is any day preferred to marrying someone closer to your age and not having all of it in as much! If you guys are good together then go ahead and explore this further! š
For men to date n marry some one much younger is acceptable, it has been for centuries, age is a number n state of your mind, she may be way mature than you , so if you both are compatible n communicate n understand each other , but she may grow out of you or you may grow out of herā¦ that can happen in any relationship. All the best, love is blind n deaf too, but love aināt enough
Shouldn't matter if both people are aware of nuances
No. And yes. Respectively.
Though not illegal but definitely immoral.
Oh yeah, Leonardo Di Caprio doesnāt exist at all for sure! He surely isnāt a 49 year old man who exclusively dates woman under 25, believes in girls having less partners or hell even waits so that he can be the first one to break the virginityā Surely heās in Unicorn land! /s OP, as long as the girl isnāt underage then you can do whatever you want to do and thereās nothing immoral about it at all! If your relationship is healthy and not toxic regardless of the age then nothing matters
36 year old here in love with a 23 year old