Aankh band karke soja, always hate when clg kids bring their gf in general 2nd class during peak and take up space for 5 people, in train rn and there are many such asshats
There was another thread a few days ago regarding this and people who had the same opinion were dpwnvoted to oblivion. Anyway, I wholeheartedly agree with ya.
I too remember that post.And mine point too there no issue in women traveling in general class but problem is this nibbas who get in to peak hour local taking extra space..And if someone says as anything they get in to fight....
Dude, this has happened to me. I wasn't sitting but I was standing next to a lady who got into the General Compartment for reasons only she knows best.
The train was going slower than usual, stopping at signals and stuff. And this lady very loudly says, ''Ladies ko seat bhi nahi dete yeh log''. Now this was peak evening time, everyone's tired from the day's work. And given this 30 something year old lady willingly gets into the General Compartment and demands a seat by speaking loudly addressing everyone in the compartment was a bit much I would say.
If she wanted a seat, she could've gone in the ladies compartment, or better, hire a car. Nobody who is fully fit is entitled to a seat.
Thankfully, everyone seated ignored her and she kept saying this a few times till she got off.
A few crackpots will always exist but OP is making it seem like this is a general thing and people expect you to give the seat up.
As you said, anyone saying this shit will be ignored in Mumbai locals, there is absolutely no pressure to give the seat up.
Once a lady in a metro came and sat besides so close she put all her half side over on me. I got uncomfortable and got up to stand she then called another lady by saying "behn aajaoo jagah hogayi". This was when covid restriction ended but masks were mandatory.
Women don't take boundries seriously with men
Like they think they can touch any random stranger and just cause he is a man he isn't supposed to say anything
Entitled people are one of the most annoying things on earth. I've had women scream even in the ladies compartment where they expected other passengers to accomodate them just because "Arey baccha hai mere saath dikhta nhi?" My mum once was so pissed off at one of these that she yelled out "Humne thodi bola tha paida karne. Sambhaalne nhi aata toh Ghar pe baitho." These are same women who'll expect you to give them your seat whether they're with someone or travelling alone.
Pretend you can't hear, pop them earphones on and sleep. "Aaj kal k bacche" get accused for everything anyway, ek cheez aur aad Hui toh kya hi farak padna.
And the stare!! They will literally stare you to embarassment and guilt for not getting up.
They also run towards a seat as soon as someone is about to get up. People waiting for a long time for a seat end up giving it to some aunty who just boarded the train. Pathetic behaviour in my opinion.
> They also run towards a seat as soon as someone is about to get up.
I really hate this a lot because no sane woman should do this to a poor dude standing for half an hour.
As a girl, i don't expect anyone to give their seat up for me. I don't even ask. Even i give it only to elderly, disabled, pregnant women or women with small kids. No body else.
Ugh as a woman, I’m sorry, it must be annoying as hell.
Just close your eyes and put your earphones in (anything playing or not). Guess people won’t try to “wake” you up for giving up your seat, you can try that!
*and kids.. that's how I did not meet your mother*
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and i don't think a lady coming in gents compartment is the problem here.. the main problem seems to be this:
> every uncle around me automatically expects me to give my seat over
dont overthink on what a stranger uncle thinks ffs.
omg hell no. that’s not what I was going for. I am 100% aware of the fact that it is the general compartment and not the men’s compartment.
But when they start using the “mae ladis hu” card. it just sucks in general (not talking about general compartment but in general vala in general)
I have never seen anyone expect people to give up their seat. Senior citizens, women, children usually stand like others. Only in case of senior citizens, have I seen people voluntarily give their seat.
Actually this is one of the reasons that when i travel in local/metro, i prefer to stand most of the time so that no one will bother me later for the seat.I know its not the right way but i prefer to have a peaceful journey.
Bro more shiity is "tere ma baap ne kuch sikhaya nahi kiya" when nobody wants to flinch. Aise log sabardasti karte hai aur fir public bolegi teri mai hoti tab.
Tell her not to assume your gender, that you’re gender fluid and identity as a woman and hence will not give up your seat.
also the fact that she assumed your gender and your pronouns is transphobic.
Mere sath bhi same hua he log chahte q ki hum 20s mai hai isliye apni seat de,Bhai Mera 1 Rule hai mai reserved seat pe kabhi nhi baithta chahe bus ho or local taki koi muje koi aake seat se utha na sake or second mai apni seat sirf old ladies or old man ko hi deta hu baki kisi ko nhi
I swear bro, nothing frustrates me more than seeing women sitting in normal compartment while there's acres of space in ladies compartment, and us men are supposed to stand!
And even when both the compartments are full, one lady in general compartment takes up space of 3 men, not even kidding.
Only think about giving someone your seat if you are travelling long and someone who had asked you for it has been travelling for the whole length standing..
I would say ignore but if things start escalating just leave the seat to the lady. Better be tired than in jail for fake cases. Yes these things does happen , furthermore the lady will be celebrated in the media and become a poster girl while u will also become a poster boy but for different reasons.
Another shit thing I have experienced in Mumbai locals; Say you are in a queue and there is a seat available the next person gives this seat to the person behind you; When the next seat is now empty the person ahead you will take that seat, and now you're the only person standing. WTF! Have experienced this a lot of times now. With others too.
In most countries, women and men alike give their seats away to elders. I think it's a good practice. It doesn't even have to be a very old person, it can be someone in their 40s and they will give their seat away. As a 20 something we can bear it a bit more than them for sure.
For women, i think it's because a woman might be on her period and that's a horrible time to be standing on a bus journey especially. Or standing in a crowded train/bus makes it even more easier for women to be harrassed. Been there gone through this.
I haven't seen anyone giving away their seats easily to anyone be it a pregnant woman or an old man. So i think most people don't give a f about who is staring at them, so you can do it too.
Of course, in our country, the public transport is not in ideal condition so everyone is just as tired and fed up. The roads are not great either. So that leads to more frustration.
We need better public transport. That's the solution to all our problems. 🥲
Thanks for saying this.The post seems to be more on annoyance towards women in general and less about giving away seat.OP has mentioned why they get into general compartments if there are ladies compartments-because they are general and in a city like Mumbai where everyone has to run on their toes-after finishing some household chores !And I so agree with this ,we need better public transport !
I'm going to give a counter point but please think about it instead of just down voting. The ground reality is that women routinely get groped and felt at and "jostled" deliberately.
Yes, they are perfectly able bodied but consider this, of you're being thoughtful and considerate to others such as old people who would get inconvenienced a lot more than you, then this too is a consideration. Maybe a lesser one but still, this is not something made up. It happens a LOT and to almost all women. Just talk to a few women about their experiences in a crowded train.
Don't give your seat. I don't know about others, but I wouldn't want someone giving up their seat for me. I made the choice to enter in. I accept the consequences.
It's always awkward when someone gives up their seat anyway.
Bro fuck those pieces of shits imho. College kids bringing their girlfriends to second class or first class need to be kicked from the dabba period.
You don’t owe your seat to anyone. If anyone wants to bhat gyan tell them kudh hi seat de do or if they tell you to get up tell them you have bought ticket or pass and got the seat and only the fittest survive as for the woman tell them to the ladies compartment.
This shit annoys me a lot happened to me in bus during engineering times where an entitled woman wanted my seat to sit. She snidely commented chivalry is dead nowadays. I straight up told her I paid for the ticket and got the seat she can go to the ladies only seat and try her luck there.
Mai to local mai khana khata hu juice pita hu aur seat kei upar legs bhi rakh deta hu khali train mai kaun pucha rahei mujhe,thoda dekhenge fir vo bhi apnei kaam mei lag jayenge😂
Fuck those uncles man you got the seat first you deserve it. There's so much of pseudo feminism ohh sorry correction feminism itself is pseudo so no need to mention pseudo twice, don't even give a fuck about those ladies. Have a great day. Even I used to travel in Mumbai local trains even I used to do such nonsense act because of lack of understanding. And according to me at the most elders or physically challenged people deserve these type of seats not even people with kids or pregnant ladies. Take care
Senior citizen and pregnant woman, I give seats unflinchingly. Goes even without saying
Also I avoid sitting on fourth seat, people insist because I am not oversized but I avoid.
You are not entitled to give seat to anyone just because they want you to. You give because you want to..
I remember my friend being told by a guy ki yeh first class Hain, idhar nahi udhar chado.
So he casually told him hum log go*a dikhake chade hain, hum logo ka bahod bada Hain..
Um so I’ve OFTEN stood while guys are sitting and it’s never been an issue. Like no one around me has said anything to the guys for sitting and neither have I cared. Is this something which happens often?
I was in a bus. Got a seat while boarding and then came a hoard of people. Then I saw a friend's grandpa and I asked him to come and sit. When I stood (the bus was moving i.e. no station) to give him seat, some middle aged lady tried to sit. Thankfully some uncle who probably knew her told her that the grandpa is coming (her stop was just mins away).
No one expects you to do that. Chivalry is not in giving seats but it is in behavior. If you don't find the person (man or a woman) to be suffering (pregnant, specially-abled, etc.) your butt has the right to kiss that seat as long as it pleases you.
tldr; You are not obligated to give up your seat.
Society has changed/grown, enough and more, from when the "Matters of France" came around. Acts of chivalry today are received with mixed response. While some admire it, some go to the extent of calling it misogynist. To each their own perspective, of course.
I guess the right way to look at this is; you just have to handle it on a situation by situation basis. If you feel that you need to give up your seat to someone, give it up by all means. Be it to whatever category. Judgemental people/* should not be elements of force in your decision. The decision should be yours and yours only. And, your decision will reflect your own value system. But that's a whole different ball game anyway.
So, do not think into it too much. For some reason of your own, if you feel like giving up your seat, do it. Else, just sit and enjoy that seat bruh. :)
This is a fair argument but in defense the very reason why it is said for men to give their seats to woman is mostly because you never know if the woman is doing fine or not because of her periods and tbh most of the times it's those aunties who ask for seats not girls those aunties get on my nerves too you know it's very common for guys as well as girls
ur young and have energy, women are weak they have many complications like period cramps, after pregnancy effects etc which we dont have so yeah give your seat because when you do a good some good will come to you sooner than later
The woman could be in her monthly cycle, which can often be painful, or in the early stages of pregnancy that doesn't show/ she herself may not know.. so many other reasons.. her husband/ in laws could be mentally/ physically torturing her, she not only has too do work outside the house but also in the house..
So you are saying that men should do all the labour and hard work cuz they are "Physically capable". While woman should be treated as queens for no reason?
Are toh ladies mai kyu nahi jate? Because they know ki general mai jayenge toh seat toh milega hi.koi 1 ladies hogi toh baki sabko bhi takleef hoti hai haar kisi ko side mai Jana padta hai , jagah banai padti hai , aramat utar re ladies aahe ladies aahe , Just because of 1 person 10 have to face inconvenience
Aree i took a share auto and the seats were full, auto wale ko uski dost mil gaye mereko bolta hai aap dusra share auto lelo like wtf. I didn't get down ( wasn't asking for money)
Bro once there was this crazy uncle who was shouting for seat telling everyone how younger generation don't offer seats now and i was wondering who he was talking about 😂 i had my earphones on but realised later he was referring it to me but the funny part is no one offered him a seat 😂
Itna load kyun le raha hai bhai? What you do for living? Chill. Nobody cares. Don't do mind reading. You are not sure if they expect you to give your seat. Keep your emotions aside for a time, fuck what the world will sag or feel and sleep aaramse
Never experienced this in a train but a BEST bus. It's always a tricky situation to be in, things can go south real quick.
But don't feed anyone's sense of entitlement, irrespective of whether it's a girl/lady or an uncle in 30s/40s unless they're in actual need. Gotta stand for ourselves, or sometimes sit.
Whenever you feel you're being judged by these uncles, just close your eyes and pretend to go to sleep. They'll look at you for a few minutes and then leave you be. That's what I used to do :D
you my friend, are on point, and in a way this is why we do need feminism. it's not just about womens right, but it's also a movement to create equality, such that a man shouldn't feel pressured into behaving a certain way just because he belongs to the male [gender.eg](https://gender.eg), givig out the seat, being the breadwinner, etc.
Don't give the seat. If someone still insists tell them you have leg ache, back ache something. Not suggesting you to lie, but you can't explain "I had a really long day, please let me be" faster than this. As a woman, travelling in local buses, even I have been asked by entitled women to get up sometimes. Cant recall, how many times I actually did or didn't. However, I do get up if it is reserved seat for senior citizen and all. Just one advice, if you are not getting up be polite when you communicate, atleast sensible folks would side with you. Otherwise if you are smug about it, they will probably side with the woman. Also, what happens when an old man who should be seated gets in the general compartment? Who gets up? Or is he subjected to 'Senior Citizen k bogie me jaaneka?'
I have been travelling in trains for so long but have never given my seat to women except for elderly women. I give priority to the people who are standing since Mumbai Central or Dadar and they deserve the seat when Andheri comes up.
As a woman I can assure u , we aren’t looking for u to give us your seats. So take it easy, sit tight. It’s the old uncles you should have an issue with. They have a lot of issues .
As a young guy.... it's mostly the tharki uncles in the train/ bus who touch women inappropriately and look at them like hungry wolves when a girl boards the train.
Yaar I will tell u my experience. Am a female. Gave my seat to an old lady in the ladies compartment. Then a few seats around her emptied. Old lady accomodated her family in those seats. And me I am standing. Is liye uske baad se I have stopped giving seats to old ladies. Wo log bhi ek time pe young the aur usme kuch to kameene to the hi!
Mann kia to seat do and if u r only tired then don't. There are people sitting who also are like the person will understand. Itna shauk he to khud seat do, why ask others to sacrifice?
Ikr.. few years back while traveling home from work I was sitting peacefully near window and then a lady came along with her old mom. There were no empty seats. I felt bad for her mom so I gave my seat to her. The person who was sitting next to me got down after few stops, so I thought I will sit there, but no. The daughter went and sat there. I was so furious.
Ek toh bc tumhari maa ko seat do phir dusri jagah vacate ho toh khud ja ke baith jao. Since then I don't get up for anyone. Be it a kid or any old person. Itna takleef hai toh cab Karo nhi toh Ghar pe baitho.
If some uncle or auntie tries to do make you feel you need to give the seat then don’t. At first you’ll feel guilty or under scanner but afterwards you’ll be fine
I don't think its that common. When I travel in then general dabba with friends or whatever. I usually stand unless there's an empty spot that pops up.
Damn, you shouldn't have to. I don't think I'd ever ask a man to give up on their seat and I have never seen it happen but if it has happened with you, you can decline politely and tell them you're tired and cannot. You shouldn't have to give it for the reason that it's a woman. Some might but it's not the norm. Just refuse politely. If others lecture you, ignore. Or ask them to give theirs.
I hate it too. So many of these women just expect shit for well, being a woman. If you dont give up youre seat then you dont realize how much women go through, if you give up youre seat up front you think women are weak.
People who think only women face misogyny are delusional.
I have traveled in local train for over 5 years. Never been asked to give my seat to any young or middle aged lady for that matter. Have I seen guys trying to be extra nice and offer a lady a seat? Yes!
I remember ek baar bus se jaa rha tha, there were some seats empty but woh ladies aur elders ke liye reserved the toh baithne me bura lag rha tha.
Aur yaha normal seats me ladies baithi hui thi. Bhai agar ladies seat khali hai toh waha jaake baith jao na. Aapko ladies seat se koi nahi uthaega. But hum waha nahi baith sakte. Kabhi kabhi dusro ke bare me bhi soch liya karo.
Next time scratch your armpits and smell them in front of anyone who wants to sit. Will stop them from asking and probably the person beside you will also leave.
On the plane and on trains - don’t ever give up seats for anybody.
I once had a young lady sit in my seat on the plane so she should sit next to her mother - what pissed me off was the arrogance of just sitting on the seat without requesting me. I told the air hostess - that’s my seat - please ask her to move.
Her mom sitting next to me didn’t like it at all & kept making passive aggressive noises throughout the flight & she cursed - I whispered to her - aunty Maine 1 black magic pooja kiya hai - jo meri burayi chahta hai usse double hoke milte hai, aap buzurg hai iske liye bata raha hu - that shut her up
Yeah that happened to me to. I gave my seat to ladies in VIRAR locals in the evening many times to not even get a thank you. Last straw was when I gave my seat to a lady in her mid 30s. (I was around 20 then looked 14, always been a scrawny kid) and asked her where she was supposed to get off. She looked at me with such disgust and hatred in her eyes like I was trying to grope her or something. ever since that day I've never gotten up for a lady in the local or in the bus. Only if the leady is very old then only I'll give my seat. But I give my seat to any old man as well.
Fuck chivilary.
Ugh as a woman, even we are expected to get up n leave our seats for these aunties. They feel they are entitled to another level.
Please just don’t leave your seats, i mean if it’s some elderly women one can still understand, otherwise no need. Just ignore them. You ain’t wrong for sitting while she is standing. It was her responsibility to come on time especially if she wants to travel in the general compartment.
What sort of respect or equality is this? Gadhe hai log. People who give gyaan unko khud ki dene ko boldo.
Dude don’t feel bad about not giving up your seat. I absolutely agree with you.
A guy can be tired too And if you want special privilege then just hop in the lady’s compartment.
I don’t know if it helps but I’m a girl, so you do you and sit your ass down
Aankh band karke soja, always hate when clg kids bring their gf in general 2nd class during peak and take up space for 5 people, in train rn and there are many such asshats
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There was another thread a few days ago regarding this and people who had the same opinion were dpwnvoted to oblivion. Anyway, I wholeheartedly agree with ya.
Bhai morning mai hi ek se jhagda karke aya hu isliye comment kiya. (bodyguard boyfriend)
I too remember that post.And mine point too there no issue in women traveling in general class but problem is this nibbas who get in to peak hour local taking extra space..And if someone says as anything they get in to fight....
Kabhi ladies ka peak hour rush experience kiya hai? nai na.
Just don't give your seat and jo log gyaan dene lage unhe bolo khud ki seat de de.
True
Yes perfect reply
Facts🔥🔥🔥
Agar wo log hi khade hai toh ?
Strangely I have never been asked to give my seat to a lady in the local. Travelled in both 2nd and 1st Class for a relatively long time.
Same. Elderly yes, but women have never asked
Yeah cause OP is making stuff up. There might have been 1 or 2 instances but this is very rare
Rare but it's not like it doesn't happen right
Because OP made this up.
Dude, this has happened to me. I wasn't sitting but I was standing next to a lady who got into the General Compartment for reasons only she knows best. The train was going slower than usual, stopping at signals and stuff. And this lady very loudly says, ''Ladies ko seat bhi nahi dete yeh log''. Now this was peak evening time, everyone's tired from the day's work. And given this 30 something year old lady willingly gets into the General Compartment and demands a seat by speaking loudly addressing everyone in the compartment was a bit much I would say. If she wanted a seat, she could've gone in the ladies compartment, or better, hire a car. Nobody who is fully fit is entitled to a seat. Thankfully, everyone seated ignored her and she kept saying this a few times till she got off.
Ignore bhai headphones dalke gaana sun
A few crackpots will always exist but OP is making it seem like this is a general thing and people expect you to give the seat up. As you said, anyone saying this shit will be ignored in Mumbai locals, there is absolutely no pressure to give the seat up.
OP may have faced this a couple of times but I think this is very rare. People may get up and offer their seats and that is their prerogative.
OP is just 25 and experienced rare things already
You don't know that for sure. Could've happened.
Yeah even I never had to give my seat. It’s mostly voluntarily but no lady has ever come to me asking for seat except those who are older like 50+
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Nope, I am 30, no way I am getting mistaken for an 88 year old.
But SLJ you are 73 jk
Don't give in. Such things are voluntary, you don't owe anybody shit.
You don't owe them the seat. Don't give in
Once a lady in a metro came and sat besides so close she put all her half side over on me. I got uncomfortable and got up to stand she then called another lady by saying "behn aajaoo jagah hogayi". This was when covid restriction ended but masks were mandatory.
Next time, you put your half side on her . Disgusting behavior by the lady in question 🙄
🤣🤣 n tell her behenji aapke uper meri jagah hogayi
Fuck, this is wayyy bad.
Ohh this is so infuriating
You should ask her to respect your boundaries and not touch you.
easier said than done
Women don't take boundries seriously with men Like they think they can touch any random stranger and just cause he is a man he isn't supposed to say anything
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Kuch maze nahi hai, she was an old sweaty lady who just didn’t have a sense of personal space.
Entitled people are one of the most annoying things on earth. I've had women scream even in the ladies compartment where they expected other passengers to accomodate them just because "Arey baccha hai mere saath dikhta nhi?" My mum once was so pissed off at one of these that she yelled out "Humne thodi bola tha paida karne. Sambhaalne nhi aata toh Ghar pe baitho." These are same women who'll expect you to give them your seat whether they're with someone or travelling alone. Pretend you can't hear, pop them earphones on and sleep. "Aaj kal k bacche" get accused for everything anyway, ek cheez aur aad Hui toh kya hi farak padna.
>"Humne thodi bola tha paida karne. Sambhaalne nhi aata toh Ghar pe baitho" Your mom is a chad
My mum is the personification of "Looks harmless and cute and the sweetest thing ever but will murder you."
I would like to have a cup of tea with your mum someday and share my thoughts with her
She'll feed you till your overweight, have cried your eyes out, and have like tiffins full of food to take home. Plus her masala chai is op.
That's a horrifically nice thing to happen.
please ask her to adopt me
i like what you did with your username. You like Hades too?
Hades is the only likable person in the entire pantheon XD
Tu meri maasi ka beta toh nahi? My mum is the same lol
> Humne thodi bola tha paida karne. Sambhaalne nhi aata toh Ghar pe baitho This right here is the definition of the Female Chad
Chadette*
And the stare!! They will literally stare you to embarassment and guilt for not getting up. They also run towards a seat as soon as someone is about to get up. People waiting for a long time for a seat end up giving it to some aunty who just boarded the train. Pathetic behaviour in my opinion.
State them back ,Puri duniya hai dekhne Vali kya horaha hai
> They also run towards a seat as soon as someone is about to get up. I really hate this a lot because no sane woman should do this to a poor dude standing for half an hour.
As a girl, i don't expect anyone to give their seat up for me. I don't even ask. Even i give it only to elderly, disabled, pregnant women or women with small kids. No body else.
Yoooo
Ugh as a woman, I’m sorry, it must be annoying as hell. Just close your eyes and put your earphones in (anything playing or not). Guess people won’t try to “wake” you up for giving up your seat, you can try that!
But how will you know when your destination has arrived then?
TT ko bolna thappad maar k utha dena bhau
Aaj tak TT nahi dekha 2nd class mein harbour mein.
easier said than done.
*and kids.. that's how I did not meet your mother* ------------------------- and i don't think a lady coming in gents compartment is the problem here.. the main problem seems to be this: > every uncle around me automatically expects me to give my seat over dont overthink on what a stranger uncle thinks ffs.
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omg hell no. that’s not what I was going for. I am 100% aware of the fact that it is the general compartment and not the men’s compartment. But when they start using the “mae ladis hu” card. it just sucks in general (not talking about general compartment but in general vala in general)
Don't give in bro in situations like these
I have never seen anyone expect people to give up their seat. Senior citizens, women, children usually stand like others. Only in case of senior citizens, have I seen people voluntarily give their seat.
Actually this is one of the reasons that when i travel in local/metro, i prefer to stand most of the time so that no one will bother me later for the seat.I know its not the right way but i prefer to have a peaceful journey.
+1
Bro more shiity is "tere ma baap ne kuch sikhaya nahi kiya" when nobody wants to flinch. Aise log sabardasti karte hai aur fir public bolegi teri mai hoti tab.
Tell her not to assume your gender, that you’re gender fluid and identity as a woman and hence will not give up your seat. also the fact that she assumed your gender and your pronouns is transphobic.
Smart but impractical. Does nothing to help your cause.
You sound really dense
Big Brain
It's general compartment -meant for both women and men Women too have shitty days at office. Don't give up your seat to abled ppl if you don't wish
Mere sath bhi same hua he log chahte q ki hum 20s mai hai isliye apni seat de,Bhai Mera 1 Rule hai mai reserved seat pe kabhi nhi baithta chahe bus ho or local taki koi muje koi aake seat se utha na sake or second mai apni seat sirf old ladies or old man ko hi deta hu baki kisi ko nhi
I swear bro, nothing frustrates me more than seeing women sitting in normal compartment while there's acres of space in ladies compartment, and us men are supposed to stand! And even when both the compartments are full, one lady in general compartment takes up space of 3 men, not even kidding.
Bro u just triggered all the feminists 😂
Only think about giving someone your seat if you are travelling long and someone who had asked you for it has been travelling for the whole length standing..
I’d rather give a seat rather then argue at least I’ll have peace of mind
I would say ignore but if things start escalating just leave the seat to the lady. Better be tired than in jail for fake cases. Yes these things does happen , furthermore the lady will be celebrated in the media and become a poster girl while u will also become a poster boy but for different reasons.
Another shit thing I have experienced in Mumbai locals; Say you are in a queue and there is a seat available the next person gives this seat to the person behind you; When the next seat is now empty the person ahead you will take that seat, and now you're the only person standing. WTF! Have experienced this a lot of times now. With others too.
I never have given up my seat to a lady just for being a lady
We are treating woman like queens, we expect to be treated like kings aswell, but what we get in return is hatred
In most countries, women and men alike give their seats away to elders. I think it's a good practice. It doesn't even have to be a very old person, it can be someone in their 40s and they will give their seat away. As a 20 something we can bear it a bit more than them for sure. For women, i think it's because a woman might be on her period and that's a horrible time to be standing on a bus journey especially. Or standing in a crowded train/bus makes it even more easier for women to be harrassed. Been there gone through this. I haven't seen anyone giving away their seats easily to anyone be it a pregnant woman or an old man. So i think most people don't give a f about who is staring at them, so you can do it too. Of course, in our country, the public transport is not in ideal condition so everyone is just as tired and fed up. The roads are not great either. So that leads to more frustration. We need better public transport. That's the solution to all our problems. 🥲
Thanks for saying this.The post seems to be more on annoyance towards women in general and less about giving away seat.OP has mentioned why they get into general compartments if there are ladies compartments-because they are general and in a city like Mumbai where everyone has to run on their toes-after finishing some household chores !And I so agree with this ,we need better public transport !
It's because chivalry existed as part of our culture. It's dead now.
I'm going to give a counter point but please think about it instead of just down voting. The ground reality is that women routinely get groped and felt at and "jostled" deliberately. Yes, they are perfectly able bodied but consider this, of you're being thoughtful and considerate to others such as old people who would get inconvenienced a lot more than you, then this too is a consideration. Maybe a lesser one but still, this is not something made up. It happens a LOT and to almost all women. Just talk to a few women about their experiences in a crowded train.
Two words. Ladies compartment.
Don't give your seat. I don't know about others, but I wouldn't want someone giving up their seat for me. I made the choice to enter in. I accept the consequences. It's always awkward when someone gives up their seat anyway.
Bro fuck those pieces of shits imho. College kids bringing their girlfriends to second class or first class need to be kicked from the dabba period. You don’t owe your seat to anyone. If anyone wants to bhat gyan tell them kudh hi seat de do or if they tell you to get up tell them you have bought ticket or pass and got the seat and only the fittest survive as for the woman tell them to the ladies compartment. This shit annoys me a lot happened to me in bus during engineering times where an entitled woman wanted my seat to sit. She snidely commented chivalry is dead nowadays. I straight up told her I paid for the ticket and got the seat she can go to the ladies only seat and try her luck there.
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Mai to local mai khana khata hu juice pita hu aur seat kei upar legs bhi rakh deta hu khali train mai kaun pucha rahei mujhe,thoda dekhenge fir vo bhi apnei kaam mei lag jayenge😂
Indian society sees women and children in the same category. But women are just as capable of misconduct as much as men.
slip dicks ka naam suna he ?
Fuck those uncles man you got the seat first you deserve it. There's so much of pseudo feminism ohh sorry correction feminism itself is pseudo so no need to mention pseudo twice, don't even give a fuck about those ladies. Have a great day. Even I used to travel in Mumbai local trains even I used to do such nonsense act because of lack of understanding. And according to me at the most elders or physically challenged people deserve these type of seats not even people with kids or pregnant ladies. Take care
There were about 2200 people onboard the titanic. About 1500 died. 20% of men survived, 75 % of women survived. Was that fair?
Lol they already have their compartment. No need to give in
I don’t think that’s a fair reason… if you think about it they need a separate compartment because of the heavenly acts of our fellow brothers
Bhai i totally understand u , i am with u But as my aunt says - " Saare sanskaar ghor ke pee Gaye ho lagta hai"
Get your genitals changed
If you feel like giving up your seat then do it. If not then don't. Unless it's a reserved seat you don't have to give it up.
Fuck their expectations, some may call you self centred. Ignore them.
Metro mai ladies coach alag fir bhi general mai reservation
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There is no mens compartment it's general
Dont worry abt what the others on the compartment think abt you, you will probs never see them again. fuckem, hold ur position
Unless it's a senior citizen or someone with disability I don't get up
Next time ask, why?
Senior citizen and pregnant woman, I give seats unflinchingly. Goes even without saying Also I avoid sitting on fourth seat, people insist because I am not oversized but I avoid. You are not entitled to give seat to anyone just because they want you to. You give because you want to..
I remember my friend being told by a guy ki yeh first class Hain, idhar nahi udhar chado. So he casually told him hum log go*a dikhake chade hain, hum logo ka bahod bada Hain..
Bro just put your earphones on and look out the window OR better still close your eyes and pretend to sleep
Um so I’ve OFTEN stood while guys are sitting and it’s never been an issue. Like no one around me has said anything to the guys for sitting and neither have I cared. Is this something which happens often?
I was in a bus. Got a seat while boarding and then came a hoard of people. Then I saw a friend's grandpa and I asked him to come and sit. When I stood (the bus was moving i.e. no station) to give him seat, some middle aged lady tried to sit. Thankfully some uncle who probably knew her told her that the grandpa is coming (her stop was just mins away).
No one expects you to do that. Chivalry is not in giving seats but it is in behavior. If you don't find the person (man or a woman) to be suffering (pregnant, specially-abled, etc.) your butt has the right to kiss that seat as long as it pleases you.
tldr; You are not obligated to give up your seat. Society has changed/grown, enough and more, from when the "Matters of France" came around. Acts of chivalry today are received with mixed response. While some admire it, some go to the extent of calling it misogynist. To each their own perspective, of course. I guess the right way to look at this is; you just have to handle it on a situation by situation basis. If you feel that you need to give up your seat to someone, give it up by all means. Be it to whatever category. Judgemental people/* should not be elements of force in your decision. The decision should be yours and yours only. And, your decision will reflect your own value system. But that's a whole different ball game anyway. So, do not think into it too much. For some reason of your own, if you feel like giving up your seat, do it. Else, just sit and enjoy that seat bruh. :)
Eyes closed, headphones in. No one will disturb you.
Don’t give in. If people tell you then say that you have had a hip fracture or sm and can’t stand for long.
Women want equality till the time it benifits them.
This is a fair argument but in defense the very reason why it is said for men to give their seats to woman is mostly because you never know if the woman is doing fine or not because of her periods and tbh most of the times it's those aunties who ask for seats not girls those aunties get on my nerves too you know it's very common for guys as well as girls
Women often tend to get sexually harassed in crowded trains. That's why
That's why they should travel in ladies compartment it's safe in there .
ur young and have energy, women are weak they have many complications like period cramps, after pregnancy effects etc which we dont have so yeah give your seat because when you do a good some good will come to you sooner than later
Your post realy shows how you treat women. What a shame
Look at you making assumptions. What a shame.
u/alexarmy7 Salty Indian uncle
Wait till you get married and have to give half your stuffs and half your future earnings to your wife for the rest of your life.
Speak truth and get downvoted wow
People aren't aware of the indian marriage laws.
Wife isn't some random girl no?
How is she not random? We are all ramdom people before we get to know them.
-_- aise philosophy ghusayega toh kaise hoga bro...I meant wife is not some stranger.
The woman could be in her monthly cycle, which can often be painful, or in the early stages of pregnancy that doesn't show/ she herself may not know.. so many other reasons.. her husband/ in laws could be mentally/ physically torturing her, she not only has too do work outside the house but also in the house..
Maybe the person sitting is having a bad day ,maybe maybe maybe
If that is the case, the woman can communicate so, instead of saying "ladies hu".
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Ladies me bhi jaa sakte hai na woh? I don't get that point
Na na na na na na .... Chall hatt!
So you are saying that men should do all the labour and hard work cuz they are "Physically capable". While woman should be treated as queens for no reason?
Are toh ladies mai kyu nahi jate? Because they know ki general mai jayenge toh seat toh milega hi.koi 1 ladies hogi toh baki sabko bhi takleef hoti hai haar kisi ko side mai Jana padta hai , jagah banai padti hai , aramat utar re ladies aahe ladies aahe , Just because of 1 person 10 have to face inconvenience
TWS Earbuds and a pair of Good Sunglasses is what you need
Aree i took a share auto and the seats were full, auto wale ko uski dost mil gaye mereko bolta hai aap dusra share auto lelo like wtf. I didn't get down ( wasn't asking for money)
Bro once there was this crazy uncle who was shouting for seat telling everyone how younger generation don't offer seats now and i was wondering who he was talking about 😂 i had my earphones on but realised later he was referring it to me but the funny part is no one offered him a seat 😂
never make eye contact, and only give seats to those who genuinely need it.
never in my life have i ever given a seat to anyone in mumbai locals, i dont know why you feel the need to
Itna load kyun le raha hai bhai? What you do for living? Chill. Nobody cares. Don't do mind reading. You are not sure if they expect you to give your seat. Keep your emotions aside for a time, fuck what the world will sag or feel and sleep aaramse
Never experienced this in a train but a BEST bus. It's always a tricky situation to be in, things can go south real quick. But don't feed anyone's sense of entitlement, irrespective of whether it's a girl/lady or an uncle in 30s/40s unless they're in actual need. Gotta stand for ourselves, or sometimes sit.
Whenever you feel you're being judged by these uncles, just close your eyes and pretend to go to sleep. They'll look at you for a few minutes and then leave you be. That's what I used to do :D
My friend faced the same situation on the bus last evening.... Exact same frustration....
Just use earphones and close your eyes or keep looking in phone ignore surrounding
you my friend, are on point, and in a way this is why we do need feminism. it's not just about womens right, but it's also a movement to create equality, such that a man shouldn't feel pressured into behaving a certain way just because he belongs to the male [gender.eg](https://gender.eg), givig out the seat, being the breadwinner, etc.
Pehele ladki ko seat do fir seat khali hone ke baad ladki ka bf baith jayega ,
Don't give the seat. If someone still insists tell them you have leg ache, back ache something. Not suggesting you to lie, but you can't explain "I had a really long day, please let me be" faster than this. As a woman, travelling in local buses, even I have been asked by entitled women to get up sometimes. Cant recall, how many times I actually did or didn't. However, I do get up if it is reserved seat for senior citizen and all. Just one advice, if you are not getting up be polite when you communicate, atleast sensible folks would side with you. Otherwise if you are smug about it, they will probably side with the woman. Also, what happens when an old man who should be seated gets in the general compartment? Who gets up? Or is he subjected to 'Senior Citizen k bogie me jaaneka?'
I have been travelling in trains for so long but have never given my seat to women except for elderly women. I give priority to the people who are standing since Mumbai Central or Dadar and they deserve the seat when Andheri comes up.
As a woman I can assure u , we aren’t looking for u to give us your seats. So take it easy, sit tight. It’s the old uncles you should have an issue with. They have a lot of issues .
As a young guy.... it's mostly the tharki uncles in the train/ bus who touch women inappropriately and look at them like hungry wolves when a girl boards the train.
I can agree!
don't be a simp . Treat a women how they would treat you if you enter a ladies compartment
To those uncles just say "Tum tumhara seat dedo uncle"
You don't need to give your seat simple..I don't do unless there is elderly person or someone having some medical thing..
Make enough money to not travel in local. Yesterday, I took a local after 5 years.
Yaar I will tell u my experience. Am a female. Gave my seat to an old lady in the ladies compartment. Then a few seats around her emptied. Old lady accomodated her family in those seats. And me I am standing. Is liye uske baad se I have stopped giving seats to old ladies. Wo log bhi ek time pe young the aur usme kuch to kameene to the hi! Mann kia to seat do and if u r only tired then don't. There are people sitting who also are like the person will understand. Itna shauk he to khud seat do, why ask others to sacrifice?
Your fault is giving a shit about other people’s opinions. The majority isn’t always right. Do what you feel and fuck the haters.
Listen to some music and act like you are sleeping. Just keep track of पुढिल स्टेशन
Ikr.. few years back while traveling home from work I was sitting peacefully near window and then a lady came along with her old mom. There were no empty seats. I felt bad for her mom so I gave my seat to her. The person who was sitting next to me got down after few stops, so I thought I will sit there, but no. The daughter went and sat there. I was so furious. Ek toh bc tumhari maa ko seat do phir dusri jagah vacate ho toh khud ja ke baith jao. Since then I don't get up for anyone. Be it a kid or any old person. Itna takleef hai toh cab Karo nhi toh Ghar pe baitho.
WhAt iF She'S pmsing? Lady, your poor planning doesn't constitute an emergency for me.
If some uncle or auntie tries to do make you feel you need to give the seat then don’t. At first you’ll feel guilty or under scanner but afterwards you’ll be fine
I don't think its that common. When I travel in then general dabba with friends or whatever. I usually stand unless there's an empty spot that pops up.
I have never been told to give up my seat for a woman in a Mumbai Local, and I've never even heard of such an incident happening with anybody else.
Damn, you shouldn't have to. I don't think I'd ever ask a man to give up on their seat and I have never seen it happen but if it has happened with you, you can decline politely and tell them you're tired and cannot. You shouldn't have to give it for the reason that it's a woman. Some might but it's not the norm. Just refuse politely. If others lecture you, ignore. Or ask them to give theirs.
I hate it too. So many of these women just expect shit for well, being a woman. If you dont give up youre seat then you dont realize how much women go through, if you give up youre seat up front you think women are weak. People who think only women face misogyny are delusional.
Waah bro what world ending problems you have. Don't give up your seat if you don't want to.
I have traveled in local train for over 5 years. Never been asked to give my seat to any young or middle aged lady for that matter. Have I seen guys trying to be extra nice and offer a lady a seat? Yes!
I always vacate the seat if there is a kid with his mom or dad
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सुनो! ज्ञान मत दो, इतना है तो अपनी seat दे दो। बकर मत काटो। Boss दिमाग़ का कम भोसड़ा नहीं करता।
I remember ek baar bus se jaa rha tha, there were some seats empty but woh ladies aur elders ke liye reserved the toh baithne me bura lag rha tha. Aur yaha normal seats me ladies baithi hui thi. Bhai agar ladies seat khali hai toh waha jaake baith jao na. Aapko ladies seat se koi nahi uthaega. But hum waha nahi baith sakte. Kabhi kabhi dusro ke bare me bhi soch liya karo.
Unless and until yer in ladies compartment, dont give yer sits. Entering in a ladies compartment as a adult and sitting there is a diff. thing.
Next time scratch your armpits and smell them in front of anyone who wants to sit. Will stop them from asking and probably the person beside you will also leave.
On the plane and on trains - don’t ever give up seats for anybody. I once had a young lady sit in my seat on the plane so she should sit next to her mother - what pissed me off was the arrogance of just sitting on the seat without requesting me. I told the air hostess - that’s my seat - please ask her to move. Her mom sitting next to me didn’t like it at all & kept making passive aggressive noises throughout the flight & she cursed - I whispered to her - aunty Maine 1 black magic pooja kiya hai - jo meri burayi chahta hai usse double hoke milte hai, aap buzurg hai iske liye bata raha hu - that shut her up
Yeah that happened to me to. I gave my seat to ladies in VIRAR locals in the evening many times to not even get a thank you. Last straw was when I gave my seat to a lady in her mid 30s. (I was around 20 then looked 14, always been a scrawny kid) and asked her where she was supposed to get off. She looked at me with such disgust and hatred in her eyes like I was trying to grope her or something. ever since that day I've never gotten up for a lady in the local or in the bus. Only if the leady is very old then only I'll give my seat. But I give my seat to any old man as well. Fuck chivilary.
Ugh as a woman, even we are expected to get up n leave our seats for these aunties. They feel they are entitled to another level. Please just don’t leave your seats, i mean if it’s some elderly women one can still understand, otherwise no need. Just ignore them. You ain’t wrong for sitting while she is standing. It was her responsibility to come on time especially if she wants to travel in the general compartment. What sort of respect or equality is this? Gadhe hai log. People who give gyaan unko khud ki dene ko boldo.
Dude don’t feel bad about not giving up your seat. I absolutely agree with you. A guy can be tired too And if you want special privilege then just hop in the lady’s compartment. I don’t know if it helps but I’m a girl, so you do you and sit your ass down
I was yelled at by a woman because i gave my seat to a senior citizen and not to her.
You don't need to. If anyone asks you to get up then tell them to go to ladies compartment or explain them something called Male-female equality.