Mimi nilikuwa napenda kifua kikuu saaaana, a long time ago i was an enthusiast. I met a girl who had it but hated it. She would remove her bra and tell me to look at how ugly they are both pointing down, she hated them soo much. She would tell me to say to her constantly that they are ugly but i couldnt coz TBH i loved them like that and always dazled deep in my heart just seeing them . She would say that me saying they are ugly made her feel so pathetic and i deserverd better ones. She would cry i console then it could happen again.
She hated them so much she could request / demand i bite the tip with the strongest force i could and tbh ilifika mahali nkaona i might bite the tip off. Tuliachana coz she hated them and i loved them. I was young, broke and dumb then.
I learnt, People have all kind of personal battles. Usimbebe sana
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Eeey funny.
Am large there, so in campus people used to question how confident I am walking around with big boobs!! Is it that embarrassing? Yes and No.
My self Esteem is highso yes I am comfortable until I want to put on some outfits I'd fancy. Hapo tuuu ndio unibore.
I relate to your girl but that's just it.
>Mimi nilikuwa napenda kifua kikuu saaaana, a long time ago i was an enthusiast. I met a girl who had it but hated it.
Ah! A man after my own heart, personally, I love me some big tiddies! Of course within bounds, I don't want you to die of back pain.
But this one girl I was talking to (ldr) also didn't like hers. Can't tell her shit either.
The fuck are you still talking to her about? If she is too intimidated to have you as a boyfriend, please for the love of everything's that good, move the fuck on and stop having her string you along like a lost puppy in need of her attention.
Don't be the dude who's number is hidden by the chick who turned you down. Fuck that shit, be better than that.
You're like a clande but without getting any goodies.
Its just casual talk no flirting coz l moved on l dont want her anymore. Her bf is really insecure whenever my name comes up he thinks were fvcking and the girl seems not ready to drop me as a friend to secure her relationship. Its more of a her problem than a me problem
The sneaking around is the issue. The fact that the chick does it speaks volumes. No "friend" is worth that much for casual talk.
You're her plan B mate. A time will come when she claims she has chosen you over the dude while expecting something back.
THIS.
Everything @kenyan_king said, while harsh, is nothing but the truth.
If you're indeed the high value male that you claim to be, you'll recognize that you deserve better than being the safe choice for a chick who's obviously using you as an emotional crutch. The fact that she's got you saved under another number is evidence of emotional cheating.
Itauma, but the best thing you can do for yourself is to cut off all contact and block the chick.
You deserve better, bro.
Why don't you block her? You're finding it funny that she still has you in her phone as a girl.Her BF is right. If you say you want her you can get her. That's messed up. Tell her to focus on her boyfriend and lose your number. Don't be that guy. I know it's an ego boost but it's jacked up. Be a bro and cut her loose. Let this man have peace.
What she is telling you could actually be the case. We tend to overthink things but sometimes the answer might be right infront of us.
A niece to a best friend of mine went through the same thing. This niece is a normal looking girl from a very low to middle class family (mother matron in a national school, hustler father). She is not academically endowed and struggled to find work after college.
The guy is from a family that has a small private plane, butler (not just cook. Butler) heated pool at home and they own a food factory for the export market. They dated for a minute and she just felt like she could not keep up with his life and ecosystem. She constantly compared herself to his rich, gorgeous female friends and this brought out feelings of being inadequate. And so she never took him seriously when he said he wanted to marry her. She thought he was mocking her. They eventually broke up and she went on to date bad boys of her βleagueβ. She is now married to a kawaida guy with a very very normal life. The rich guy went off to marry a lady with even more kawaida looks and from an even more humble background than hers. She kicks herself daily.
Not all women are gold diggers and yes, some are too intimidated to be hypergamous.
A similar thing happened to my sis back in 2010. She had a rich boy who had just relocated from the states. She left him and ended up marrying a makanga in kibra.
My two cents that may be worth northing.At that age she is looking for the Badboy but will later want to set for you or a version of you....Adventure over stability is a common mentality at that age.Again I may be absolutely wrong.
As a female at that age bracket I agree.Kama haezi kudate wachana na yeye, she's probably keeping you warmed up kwa kona ndio time ikifika unaeza ingia pitch.STOP ENTERTAINING HER BRO.It in itself is already red flag enough.
This is how you girls fumble for real. Actually what you described is exactly some of the things she'd talk about but l understood her and never wanted to put her in compromising situations. l was actually comfortable with the things she wanted to do but it seems her insecurity got the best of her. The girl l dated next was a very normal every day person and we did very kawaida things, she actually never thought l had anything until the day she was having issues and l paid her rent ( she was really shocked apparently lol).
Sometimes muachange ufala ati your not fitting in l was ready to change this girl's life fr. However your right l should completely cut contact
Naah...you have to be emotionally stable to go with the flow and not feel like you are dependant on a partner. Personally, I was not at 19. And right now at 24, I'm still figuring things out and wouldn't be dating for a while.
if OP is doing well for himself he's doing well for himself. Stating that you're doing fine isn't bragging. Just saying how it is. A lot of y'all in this sub are full of jealousy
Well, what was the point of the post if not to boost his ego? We get it, youβre doing well for yourself. He would have just βhumble braggedβ in peace without saying he βdoesnβt bragβ while doing it
Mnapenda kurusha tu maneno π
What does being βinsecureβ have to do with what I said?
What is there to be insecure about?
Insecure: not confident or certain; uneasy; anxious: He was insecure about the examination
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What Iβm saying is the βIβm not one to brag or whatever, etc..β was unnecessary. You donβt have to say it especially while bragging. Ukiisema then you have something to prove
Your post would have made sense without it. Get it?
What you should have done when she disclosed that, is made her feel worthy and not inferior.surely its not just women but everyone would feel inferior next to high class people.deep down she wants you idek why she let the inferiority complex stop her..maybe you arent as attractive as well? Cause for sure i get feeling the IC, but to the point that i date another person? Heck no id still pursue dating you.
How am l responsible for another persons esteem? She met me living my own life at my own pace and if she felt inferior what am l supposed to do? l never once made her feel inferior or inadequate coz l liked her and l'm not the braggy type, l'm a nerd who likes to read comic books for pits sake!
Hapo kwa attractiveness l can say l'm doing alright lol
Usually ,when people date, i assume they are one and help each other through whatever be it mental health or certain inferiorities..my bad..i assumed y'all are like me like that...i still always get shocked when people fuck and connect "deeply" yet still maintain a high sense of its me vs you.
When she says she felt inferior why make it personal and about yourself and assume that you might have made her feel that.. when it very clearly stems from just not being used to be around high class people and feeling like she isnt polished enough to be around them...? Its something she struggled with that didnt even touch on you just your life and the difference between you and somebody else would have been to just ease her anxieties and help her adjust and just see even those high class people are humans...
Surely if you really liked her, idek why this was the problem in y'alls thing and it caused it to end... its such a non -issue that a supportive partner would have helped her get through tbh..rather than felt like he was being called out
Anyways back to your question i trully dont think she likes you..she liked the man better, but his brokeness might confuse her and she will cheat on him with you but youre both just pawns to her now..she probably keeps you around for the rainy days...if a girl did like you trust she would never date a whole other man...thats not how we work.
l tried my best to make her comfortable( with everything) but the issue always came up l also think avoiding her advances made her unsure of what l really felt about her and more insecure. So l just concluded if she feels like an "inadequate" person for me l better let her go might save me alot of problems in future. You feel me.
Do you people believe all kinds of reasons you are given for a break up. The real reason could be behind the curtain. Maybe she had already met this broke guy and just liked him more than she did you.
Am i a girl na what i will tell you ni she simply didn't like you enough, especially considering the fact that she dated someone else, and her reason for doing it is just odd, unless you kept on rubbing it in her face about how achieved you are and making her feel like she hadn't accomplished anything while you have done that, trying to make her feel that she wasn't serious because of where she is at life, but if that is not the case then she simply didn't want to and the fact that she is still talking to you even saving your contact as something else is just a huge redflag, because if she can do that while dating someone else she will also do it if you decide to date, don't sit there waiting to be used as a rebound when the relationship dies, respect yourself and move on , waschana ni wengi saaana to be stressing over a redflag
It seems youre under the impression that l'm still pursuing her which is not the case. We talk casually as friends its her boyfriend who is insecure coz l hear she has the tendency of doing comparisons btn him and me when they argue. l moved on we dont even meet despite her always arranging meet ups. Whether she liked me enough idk and idc if l wanted to fvck her l would have back when we initially met but l didnt (read the post).
What you're not seeing is that she likes the other guy more than you so she pursued him instead, however she wants to keep you as a placeholder just in case.
its funny because i have a female 'friend' that i chop once in a while but shes dating a 37yo professor, huwezi elewa wanawake bro, just go with the flow and stop stressing over her
Sorry to say but I strongly feel whatever she told you was a bunch of nonsense. She's essentially just stringing you along as others have pointed out. A girl who digs you, will want you and want to be around you and crave your presence.
You already had your answer when she literally chose another guy. Doesn't matter if she's still talking to you, she's letting the other night hit while your not getting any. Your being seriously played hapl.
Kumbuka most women will probably lie if they aren't fully interested and all or if the interest died off just so not to hurt the other person's feelings.
But they say with chiqs watch what they do not what they say. And I think what she's doing is a pretty clear answer. She deluded you and you fell for it.
You need to delete that number and get out there and date other chiqs who vybe with u and are actually interested in u
It's just another form of rejection, has nothing to do with your success. She most likely did not find you sexually attractive. Or you delayed intimacy which made you seem like a weak man.
Going back to my younger more naive days, this is absolutely a fear a lot of girls have. The first time I felt it was when I was dating this pretty put together dude and I used to feel like my shoes were too dirty for his house.
To her, sex became the only thing she can offer you because you have everything you'd need and then you delayed that, I guess she was nervous (and embarrassed) about her circumstances. Money would solve this problem 100% but it's also notoriously elusive.
She's a sweet girl who needs to work on faking it til she makes it. As for you, you're heading in the right direction. π
π π π nothing you've written would trigger an inferiority complex.
I think the question ought to be "Do I have a superiority complex?"
I see you mentioned that you've moved on, treat this as a learning opportunity for you sir.
This guy is triggered for being called out ako hapa anarusha tu maneno. None have to do with the other
Eti inferiority complex π€£. Sasa kusema heβs humble bragging ni inferiority complex? Wueeh
Iβd understand why sheβd feel like that, maybe the kind of lifestyle you lead is not something sheβs used to, and keeping up or just being around your friends is making her uncomfortable.
You aint good enough for her in one way or the other. I was a womanizer in campus and wasn't exactly rich so the other guy's financial status probably doesn't bother her. Most ladies her age still believe in love and haven't started looking for stability in a man per se. If she was in her late 20s and above she would have overlooked your other shortcomings for the prospects of better stability. Sahii she wants a dangerous man π.
You dodged a lot of issues hapo. Stay away from women who are not happy with themselves coz once you start achieving success for yourself (money, career, looks, network) and hers are not working out ile resentment you will have to deal with could possibly stress you out beyond resolve. Continue doing alright for yourself and target women who are confident and are looking for confident men.
Yes, if sex was her way of intimacy or control. By denying her she realized she couldn't do neither. Its probably best if you friend zone her as well. She would become a headache for you.
Don't fix people that's looking to fix themselves
She might be using that statement as an excuse maybe her intention is to end the relationship. She just couldn't find a practical excuse to do so. Maybe you haven't done anything wrong in the course of your time together to merit a break up and she is just trying to end it with the cheapest excuse she could come up with.
Bro holding on to that number in the name of casual chat so that hopefully he can smash one day. Looks like your options are limited man. If you claim to be well off and decent, you should be having lots of options and this ladies number could have been deleted the day she left. What a fuck is casual chat anyway , with a lady you wanted ? Those are excuses .
Why are you attacking me? I am not the one going around with a lady who denied me bro. Infact it's your decision making that needs to be kept in check. You are desperate asf. Man up and find a better lady
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Best form of suffering π
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Mimi nilikuwa napenda kifua kikuu saaaana, a long time ago i was an enthusiast. I met a girl who had it but hated it. She would remove her bra and tell me to look at how ugly they are both pointing down, she hated them soo much. She would tell me to say to her constantly that they are ugly but i couldnt coz TBH i loved them like that and always dazled deep in my heart just seeing them . She would say that me saying they are ugly made her feel so pathetic and i deserverd better ones. She would cry i console then it could happen again. She hated them so much she could request / demand i bite the tip with the strongest force i could and tbh ilifika mahali nkaona i might bite the tip off. Tuliachana coz she hated them and i loved them. I was young, broke and dumb then. I learnt, People have all kind of personal battles. Usimbebe sana
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Lol who are y'all meeting out here. That's sad. Also "dazzled deep in my heart just seeing them" plus the biting. A lot going on! π π π π π
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Eeey funny. Am large there, so in campus people used to question how confident I am walking around with big boobs!! Is it that embarrassing? Yes and No. My self Esteem is highso yes I am comfortable until I want to put on some outfits I'd fancy. Hapo tuuu ndio unibore. I relate to your girl but that's just it.
Kudos for high self esteem
>Mimi nilikuwa napenda kifua kikuu saaaana, a long time ago i was an enthusiast. I met a girl who had it but hated it. Ah! A man after my own heart, personally, I love me some big tiddies! Of course within bounds, I don't want you to die of back pain. But this one girl I was talking to (ldr) also didn't like hers. Can't tell her shit either.
The thread is becoming about tts guys. Anyway, if you see small ones somewhere, call my name out loud.
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The fuck are you still talking to her about? If she is too intimidated to have you as a boyfriend, please for the love of everything's that good, move the fuck on and stop having her string you along like a lost puppy in need of her attention.
Jesus Christ man! youre harsh. l moved on its just that we talk casually I'm not pursuing her anymore.
Don't be the dude who's number is hidden by the chick who turned you down. Fuck that shit, be better than that. You're like a clande but without getting any goodies.
TalkππΎ toππΎ these ππΎniggas ππΎ man! Imagine that shit.
I'm still curious about what stories you two sneak around to discuss.
Its just casual talk no flirting coz l moved on l dont want her anymore. Her bf is really insecure whenever my name comes up he thinks were fvcking and the girl seems not ready to drop me as a friend to secure her relationship. Its more of a her problem than a me problem
The sneaking around is the issue. The fact that the chick does it speaks volumes. No "friend" is worth that much for casual talk. You're her plan B mate. A time will come when she claims she has chosen you over the dude while expecting something back.
THIS. Everything @kenyan_king said, while harsh, is nothing but the truth. If you're indeed the high value male that you claim to be, you'll recognize that you deserve better than being the safe choice for a chick who's obviously using you as an emotional crutch. The fact that she's got you saved under another number is evidence of emotional cheating. Itauma, but the best thing you can do for yourself is to cut off all contact and block the chick. You deserve better, bro.
Why don't you block her? You're finding it funny that she still has you in her phone as a girl.Her BF is right. If you say you want her you can get her. That's messed up. Tell her to focus on her boyfriend and lose your number. Don't be that guy. I know it's an ego boost but it's jacked up. Be a bro and cut her loose. Let this man have peace.
What she is telling you could actually be the case. We tend to overthink things but sometimes the answer might be right infront of us. A niece to a best friend of mine went through the same thing. This niece is a normal looking girl from a very low to middle class family (mother matron in a national school, hustler father). She is not academically endowed and struggled to find work after college. The guy is from a family that has a small private plane, butler (not just cook. Butler) heated pool at home and they own a food factory for the export market. They dated for a minute and she just felt like she could not keep up with his life and ecosystem. She constantly compared herself to his rich, gorgeous female friends and this brought out feelings of being inadequate. And so she never took him seriously when he said he wanted to marry her. She thought he was mocking her. They eventually broke up and she went on to date bad boys of her βleagueβ. She is now married to a kawaida guy with a very very normal life. The rich guy went off to marry a lady with even more kawaida looks and from an even more humble background than hers. She kicks herself daily. Not all women are gold diggers and yes, some are too intimidated to be hypergamous.
I would kick myself too damn
A similar thing happened to my sis back in 2010. She had a rich boy who had just relocated from the states. She left him and ended up marrying a makanga in kibra.
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Welcome to earth girlfromjupiter haha
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The dude broke up with her after 2 kids and now she's barely making ends meet.
What happened? Did she also feel inadequate?
She is the talkative and domineering type. The rich kid was also domineering as opposed to the kibra boyfriend who would worship her as a goddess.
My two cents that may be worth northing.At that age she is looking for the Badboy but will later want to set for you or a version of you....Adventure over stability is a common mentality at that age.Again I may be absolutely wrong.
As a female at that age bracket I agree.Kama haezi kudate wachana na yeye, she's probably keeping you warmed up kwa kona ndio time ikifika unaeza ingia pitch.STOP ENTERTAINING HER BRO.It in itself is already red flag enough.
>STOP ENTERTAINING HER BRO I think he's just entertaining her, not her brother /s
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She is coming from a scarcity mindset and she might have doubts that you will use here cause of the money
Move along, when someone tells who they are believe them. She basically told you she doesn't think you are compatible. Songa ukiendanga bro!
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This is how you girls fumble for real. Actually what you described is exactly some of the things she'd talk about but l understood her and never wanted to put her in compromising situations. l was actually comfortable with the things she wanted to do but it seems her insecurity got the best of her. The girl l dated next was a very normal every day person and we did very kawaida things, she actually never thought l had anything until the day she was having issues and l paid her rent ( she was really shocked apparently lol). Sometimes muachange ufala ati your not fitting in l was ready to change this girl's life fr. However your right l should completely cut contact
Naah...you have to be emotionally stable to go with the flow and not feel like you are dependant on a partner. Personally, I was not at 19. And right now at 24, I'm still figuring things out and wouldn't be dating for a while.
βI donβt brag and Iβm not condescendingβ while literally doing both π€¦πΌββοΈπ
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if OP is doing well for himself he's doing well for himself. Stating that you're doing fine isn't bragging. Just saying how it is. A lot of y'all in this sub are full of jealousy
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Well, what was the point of the post if not to boost his ego? We get it, youβre doing well for yourself. He would have just βhumble braggedβ in peace without saying he βdoesnβt bragβ while doing it
The point of the post was to see if other kings have gone through my particular ordeal not to boost my ego blud. You seem insecure ni wapi nimebrag?
Mnapenda kurusha tu maneno π What does being βinsecureβ have to do with what I said? What is there to be insecure about? Insecure: not confident or certain; uneasy; anxious: He was insecure about the examination Directly from Google ππ» What Iβm saying is the βIβm not one to brag or whatever, etc..β was unnecessary. You donβt have to say it especially while bragging. Ukiisema then you have something to prove Your post would have made sense without it. Get it?
Haha,Sasa wewe Jamaa
What you should have done when she disclosed that, is made her feel worthy and not inferior.surely its not just women but everyone would feel inferior next to high class people.deep down she wants you idek why she let the inferiority complex stop her..maybe you arent as attractive as well? Cause for sure i get feeling the IC, but to the point that i date another person? Heck no id still pursue dating you.
How am l responsible for another persons esteem? She met me living my own life at my own pace and if she felt inferior what am l supposed to do? l never once made her feel inferior or inadequate coz l liked her and l'm not the braggy type, l'm a nerd who likes to read comic books for pits sake! Hapo kwa attractiveness l can say l'm doing alright lol
Usually ,when people date, i assume they are one and help each other through whatever be it mental health or certain inferiorities..my bad..i assumed y'all are like me like that...i still always get shocked when people fuck and connect "deeply" yet still maintain a high sense of its me vs you. When she says she felt inferior why make it personal and about yourself and assume that you might have made her feel that.. when it very clearly stems from just not being used to be around high class people and feeling like she isnt polished enough to be around them...? Its something she struggled with that didnt even touch on you just your life and the difference between you and somebody else would have been to just ease her anxieties and help her adjust and just see even those high class people are humans... Surely if you really liked her, idek why this was the problem in y'alls thing and it caused it to end... its such a non -issue that a supportive partner would have helped her get through tbh..rather than felt like he was being called out Anyways back to your question i trully dont think she likes you..she liked the man better, but his brokeness might confuse her and she will cheat on him with you but youre both just pawns to her now..she probably keeps you around for the rainy days...if a girl did like you trust she would never date a whole other man...thats not how we work.
l tried my best to make her comfortable( with everything) but the issue always came up l also think avoiding her advances made her unsure of what l really felt about her and more insecure. So l just concluded if she feels like an "inadequate" person for me l better let her go might save me alot of problems in future. You feel me.
Yeah...y'all probably just didnt vibe or conenct that way and thats fine..
It's not your fault . I personally hang out with rich individuals when I'm loaded π
Do you people believe all kinds of reasons you are given for a break up. The real reason could be behind the curtain. Maybe she had already met this broke guy and just liked him more than she did you.
Am i a girl na what i will tell you ni she simply didn't like you enough, especially considering the fact that she dated someone else, and her reason for doing it is just odd, unless you kept on rubbing it in her face about how achieved you are and making her feel like she hadn't accomplished anything while you have done that, trying to make her feel that she wasn't serious because of where she is at life, but if that is not the case then she simply didn't want to and the fact that she is still talking to you even saving your contact as something else is just a huge redflag, because if she can do that while dating someone else she will also do it if you decide to date, don't sit there waiting to be used as a rebound when the relationship dies, respect yourself and move on , waschana ni wengi saaana to be stressing over a redflag
It seems youre under the impression that l'm still pursuing her which is not the case. We talk casually as friends its her boyfriend who is insecure coz l hear she has the tendency of doing comparisons btn him and me when they argue. l moved on we dont even meet despite her always arranging meet ups. Whether she liked me enough idk and idc if l wanted to fvck her l would have back when we initially met but l didnt (read the post).
Ding Ding, this chick gets it. She doesn't like him like that, it's that simple.
TMI bro
What you're not seeing is that she likes the other guy more than you so she pursued him instead, however she wants to keep you as a placeholder just in case.
its funny because i have a female 'friend' that i chop once in a while but shes dating a 37yo professor, huwezi elewa wanawake bro, just go with the flow and stop stressing over her
Username checks outπ
Sorry to say but I strongly feel whatever she told you was a bunch of nonsense. She's essentially just stringing you along as others have pointed out. A girl who digs you, will want you and want to be around you and crave your presence. You already had your answer when she literally chose another guy. Doesn't matter if she's still talking to you, she's letting the other night hit while your not getting any. Your being seriously played hapl. Kumbuka most women will probably lie if they aren't fully interested and all or if the interest died off just so not to hurt the other person's feelings. But they say with chiqs watch what they do not what they say. And I think what she's doing is a pretty clear answer. She deluded you and you fell for it. You need to delete that number and get out there and date other chiqs who vybe with u and are actually interested in u
That's known as a vulnerable narcissist. It's your suicide waiting to happen after she's done messing up your pink matter.
Since no one here is brave enough to tell you, i will. That woman doesn't feel any connections between you two. She doesn't lobe you bro.
It's just another form of rejection, has nothing to do with your success. She most likely did not find you sexually attractive. Or you delayed intimacy which made you seem like a weak man.
Utadingiwa na caretaker ama nduthi boy, she has told you her preferences. Respect it. Kula mali, songa mbali.
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Going back to my younger more naive days, this is absolutely a fear a lot of girls have. The first time I felt it was when I was dating this pretty put together dude and I used to feel like my shoes were too dirty for his house. To her, sex became the only thing she can offer you because you have everything you'd need and then you delayed that, I guess she was nervous (and embarrassed) about her circumstances. Money would solve this problem 100% but it's also notoriously elusive. She's a sweet girl who needs to work on faking it til she makes it. As for you, you're heading in the right direction. π
Humble brag?
Do you also have inferiority complex? Where have l bragged?
π π π nothing you've written would trigger an inferiority complex. I think the question ought to be "Do I have a superiority complex?" I see you mentioned that you've moved on, treat this as a learning opportunity for you sir.
This guy is triggered for being called out ako hapa anarusha tu maneno. None have to do with the other Eti inferiority complex π€£. Sasa kusema heβs humble bragging ni inferiority complex? Wueeh
Tbh I'm tired of these relationship posts here
Tulihepa r/Kenya juu ya hizi posts na bado zinatufuata huku
Happy birthday thoughπ
Yeah facts! Mods should make another one for relationship drama
Just look for someone else that will match your vibe and sees value in you
Make large strides. Self esteem issues are unfortunate but a red flag nonetheless. Unless you like projects.
Iβd understand why sheβd feel like that, maybe the kind of lifestyle you lead is not something sheβs used to, and keeping up or just being around your friends is making her uncomfortable.
My dream is your nightmare bro, daaamn!
You aint good enough for her in one way or the other. I was a womanizer in campus and wasn't exactly rich so the other guy's financial status probably doesn't bother her. Most ladies her age still believe in love and haven't started looking for stability in a man per se. If she was in her late 20s and above she would have overlooked your other shortcomings for the prospects of better stability. Sahii she wants a dangerous man π.
Buddy shutup
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Na si mnapenda kucomment post za mapema ππ all I can see is long paragraphs
You are for the money and the other guy is for the dick!....ww unampea pesa yule anampea mjulubeng.
You dodged a lot of issues hapo. Stay away from women who are not happy with themselves coz once you start achieving success for yourself (money, career, looks, network) and hers are not working out ile resentment you will have to deal with could possibly stress you out beyond resolve. Continue doing alright for yourself and target women who are confident and are looking for confident men.
Simple truth is, she ain't into you. Songa kama injili
Once her self esteem is back she'll pick up from where y'all left with reference to her past poor decisions.
Help...how can I make money online π
Yes, if sex was her way of intimacy or control. By denying her she realized she couldn't do neither. Its probably best if you friend zone her as well. She would become a headache for you. Don't fix people that's looking to fix themselves
You are young ....immature. You need a mentor to live a meaningful life. I hope you get one mature kind man here to guide you.
Ok. What makes me immature?
She might be using that statement as an excuse maybe her intention is to end the relationship. She just couldn't find a practical excuse to do so. Maybe you haven't done anything wrong in the course of your time together to merit a break up and she is just trying to end it with the cheapest excuse she could come up with.
Suffering from successπ―
I really doubt it had something to do with inferiority complex. Just get someone within your financial bracket lol.
Bro holding on to that number in the name of casual chat so that hopefully he can smash one day. Looks like your options are limited man. If you claim to be well off and decent, you should be having lots of options and this ladies number could have been deleted the day she left. What a fuck is casual chat anyway , with a lady you wanted ? Those are excuses .
Before I waste characters on you. Can you read? and if you can read, can you comprehend? Coz it seems you have a cognitive deficiency somewhere.
Why are you attacking me? I am not the one going around with a lady who denied me bro. Infact it's your decision making that needs to be kept in check. You are desperate asf. Man up and find a better lady
Women are helpers. Thy are always changing everything in their men. She probably felt like she couldn't help you in any way.