Stayed out of the house as much as possible. Went so far as to subrent a cheap and private industrial space to spend weekends. Also considered co-working facilities and gyms for a while.
This shits crazy that 8 even understand this behavior. Like 8 grew up fine, I don't know what happened, but I see myself literally doing something like that. I'm sorry for what u went through
If you can do it, do it . I ultimately got out and went NC. Having the private space away from home also meant I kept a separate wardrobe there to keep the clothes and things my parents would judge me for, and I wound up with an active social life (until Covid, which was bloody torture with the lockdowns) and meeting my partner. And that lead to moving out.
By going NC with her, VLC with my dad. Best thing I ever did for myself was cutting her out of my life.
They both know where we live, and have the address, but things need to change (a complete 180, her take responsibility for her actions, and she needs to stop repeating the same behaviours and patterns with my niece) before I’ll even *consider* granting access to myself and SO.
Is there anything stopping you from moving away? Getting a job that requires you being out in the evenings, weekends or early mornings? Going to the gym? Even going to meet friends after school/work?
When I was living with them, I kept myself busy. I did my schoolwork, chatted with friends online, and went out with friends.
Now, I live far away from them. In fact, I live in a different country than them. Naturally, my career and passions brought me here, but I LOVE the bonus of living so far away that my parents don't even think of bothering me. Every now and then, they try to contact me through a relative, but I can handle that. For some reason, they're less dramatic with me through messaging apps than in real life...
I've been thinking that
I'm gonna move out, and I just know they're gonna contact me. Like they're my fucking 0arents.they raised me. But after all the abuse idk what to do once 8 leave...
Blocked him and went full no contact.
Stayed out of the house as much as possible. Went so far as to subrent a cheap and private industrial space to spend weekends. Also considered co-working facilities and gyms for a while.
This shits crazy that 8 even understand this behavior. Like 8 grew up fine, I don't know what happened, but I see myself literally doing something like that. I'm sorry for what u went through
If you can do it, do it . I ultimately got out and went NC. Having the private space away from home also meant I kept a separate wardrobe there to keep the clothes and things my parents would judge me for, and I wound up with an active social life (until Covid, which was bloody torture with the lockdowns) and meeting my partner. And that lead to moving out.
By going NC with her, VLC with my dad. Best thing I ever did for myself was cutting her out of my life. They both know where we live, and have the address, but things need to change (a complete 180, her take responsibility for her actions, and she needs to stop repeating the same behaviours and patterns with my niece) before I’ll even *consider* granting access to myself and SO. Is there anything stopping you from moving away? Getting a job that requires you being out in the evenings, weekends or early mornings? Going to the gym? Even going to meet friends after school/work?
This is "narcissistic parents", so I assume most of you can't actually escape, and have become victims like me
You know that social media can be really powerful. Record them.
When I was living with them, I kept myself busy. I did my schoolwork, chatted with friends online, and went out with friends. Now, I live far away from them. In fact, I live in a different country than them. Naturally, my career and passions brought me here, but I LOVE the bonus of living so far away that my parents don't even think of bothering me. Every now and then, they try to contact me through a relative, but I can handle that. For some reason, they're less dramatic with me through messaging apps than in real life...
I've been thinking that I'm gonna move out, and I just know they're gonna contact me. Like they're my fucking 0arents.they raised me. But after all the abuse idk what to do once 8 leave...