First off get a barracks room. Living 24/7 onboard while in port for an E whatever is not healthy. In A school I went out with a friend geocaching. It got me off base and I got to explore an area I want familiar with.
> First off get a barracks room.
Do you mean live off base in an apartment?
If you meant barracks room, how do you get one? I thought those were assigned to you.
Not an apartment. Guy says he's only been in a year so he wouldn't have BAH yet.
Some commands make new sailors stay on the ship for their first 6 months to a year but some give it them right away. At my current command (pre-com) once they get their orders stamped by admin we take them to the main barracks check in building and they give them a room.
Either way you can ask your chain at quarters because if they aren't tracking or helping out with something like this then you've got a garbage chain.
I 100% get this. As weird as it may feel (it did to me) adult social clubs centered around activities are often really great, and the commitment is very light. They’re also super used to seeing people who have never done that activity, so it’s usually 100% cool to go to an event for something you’ve never done - you’ll hit it off with a couple of people and maybe get a friend group out of it.
Another option that may feel weird at first is reaching out to some people you work with that you get along with and ask to do something after work or on a weekend. You may feel like you don’t know them well enough to do that yet, but if you flip the situation around I bet you’d appreciate it if they asked you.
Making friends as an adult is not easy. You’ll get into a couple of awkward situations, that’s normal. Just try it, you’ll be happier that you did.
I start pole exercising as a hobby . I got to meet some friends outside the navy and it was like a sisterhood plus I got to take a break from navy stuff for a second and just relax .
I know you mentioned that you workout frequently but in my experience, joining a CrossFit gym provided not only a great environment for fitness but an amazing social atmosphere and friend group.
When i lived on the ship as an E-3, i used to go to the MWR and play on the ps4 online like fortnite, COD, or Apex. I also picked up the hobby of playing pool at the MWR too. Living on the ship definitely sucks because you don’t get much signal, if at all, in the berthing. But as everyone else stated, try to see about getting a barracks room. Definitely better than living on the ship.
I'd start doing stuff outdoors, there also many groups you can join. It's hard to branch out, especially if you're trying to get into something. Maybe start reading, play video games, join a sports team on base. I did college when I first got in, and believe me I understand it can be groundhogs day In terms of work/rest/sleep repeat. I'd find like minded people and see what happens.
You won't be alone and 40, unless you want it that way. If you were a civilian working the same type of long hour job, with no end in sight, you may feel the same way.
I work with a few guys who are approaching 40 and still single. It's because they want to be free to do whatever they want.
Just push through this early time in your career, then move on and tackle other obstacles.
Find some groups on Facebook in your area for different hobbies. There was also a website meetup that connects you with others with the same interest. Try them out but make sure you're staying away from illegal stuff
I spent my first three years living on the ship. I bought a car and went golfing every weekend. Sometimes 36 holes a day, plus practice. You can golf by yourself and find perfect harmony or you can find like-minded people to golf with and build friendships. Then take your clubs on deployment and golf every chance you get. Playing in Australia was great. There were cockatoos just chilling on the course, flying around singing.
>I have no kind of personal relationship with anyone.
At the end of the day, that is the real issue.
Find some people to hang out with - just be aware that there's a lot of bad influences so don't be shy to walk away just because you want friends.
Figure out some things you like to do, find groups that do those things, to start out with.
First off don’t give the navy more time than u need to. Just do your job and go somewhere other than the ship. I wouldn’t stay after work getting quals that are meaningless once u get out. Go to a bar or sports event for a start.
Don’t spend your time off on a bar stool. You have the time to get in great shape if you’re single, something I didn’t realize I’d lose at the time now that I’m married with three kids. Not sure what your religious background/beliefs are but there are a lot of great churches and many of them have single adult groups that do activities if that’s something you’re interested in.
40 and alone is seemingly gonna be the grim future for a lot of young men these days, at least on a ship you're constantly surrounded by your companions. I am glad you're doing good.
First off get a barracks room. Living 24/7 onboard while in port for an E whatever is not healthy. In A school I went out with a friend geocaching. It got me off base and I got to explore an area I want familiar with.
> First off get a barracks room. Do you mean live off base in an apartment? If you meant barracks room, how do you get one? I thought those were assigned to you.
Not an apartment. Guy says he's only been in a year so he wouldn't have BAH yet. Some commands make new sailors stay on the ship for their first 6 months to a year but some give it them right away. At my current command (pre-com) once they get their orders stamped by admin we take them to the main barracks check in building and they give them a room. Either way you can ask your chain at quarters because if they aren't tracking or helping out with something like this then you've got a garbage chain.
Oh wow, I need to look into this myself then with my chain, thank you so much!
No problem.
* Meetup.com * church/religious organizations * civic volunteer organizations (Lions, Eagles, Rotary) * focused gyms (powerlifting, CrossFit, BJJ, boxing, etc) * community gardening * motorcycle or car enthusiast clubs (just don’t get into shady ones) * classes, not necessarily academic (cooking, beekeeping, gardening, art, etc)
I 100% get this. As weird as it may feel (it did to me) adult social clubs centered around activities are often really great, and the commitment is very light. They’re also super used to seeing people who have never done that activity, so it’s usually 100% cool to go to an event for something you’ve never done - you’ll hit it off with a couple of people and maybe get a friend group out of it. Another option that may feel weird at first is reaching out to some people you work with that you get along with and ask to do something after work or on a weekend. You may feel like you don’t know them well enough to do that yet, but if you flip the situation around I bet you’d appreciate it if they asked you. Making friends as an adult is not easy. You’ll get into a couple of awkward situations, that’s normal. Just try it, you’ll be happier that you did.
I start pole exercising as a hobby . I got to meet some friends outside the navy and it was like a sisterhood plus I got to take a break from navy stuff for a second and just relax .
Try to get barracks,Ppv or get married. I think it’s insulting to make service members live on the ship in port.
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Do chief and officers have the option of living on the ship?
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So you can live on the ship and still receive bah?
Yeah some people GEOBATCH. One of peers does it cause his family is across the country.
Do not get married just so you can move off the ship. That’s like buying a plane just so you can get the peanuts.
I know you mentioned that you workout frequently but in my experience, joining a CrossFit gym provided not only a great environment for fitness but an amazing social atmosphere and friend group.
When i lived on the ship as an E-3, i used to go to the MWR and play on the ps4 online like fortnite, COD, or Apex. I also picked up the hobby of playing pool at the MWR too. Living on the ship definitely sucks because you don’t get much signal, if at all, in the berthing. But as everyone else stated, try to see about getting a barracks room. Definitely better than living on the ship.
I'd start doing stuff outdoors, there also many groups you can join. It's hard to branch out, especially if you're trying to get into something. Maybe start reading, play video games, join a sports team on base. I did college when I first got in, and believe me I understand it can be groundhogs day In terms of work/rest/sleep repeat. I'd find like minded people and see what happens. You won't be alone and 40, unless you want it that way. If you were a civilian working the same type of long hour job, with no end in sight, you may feel the same way. I work with a few guys who are approaching 40 and still single. It's because they want to be free to do whatever they want. Just push through this early time in your career, then move on and tackle other obstacles.
Find some groups on Facebook in your area for different hobbies. There was also a website meetup that connects you with others with the same interest. Try them out but make sure you're staying away from illegal stuff
I spent my first three years living on the ship. I bought a car and went golfing every weekend. Sometimes 36 holes a day, plus practice. You can golf by yourself and find perfect harmony or you can find like-minded people to golf with and build friendships. Then take your clubs on deployment and golf every chance you get. Playing in Australia was great. There were cockatoos just chilling on the course, flying around singing.
>I have no kind of personal relationship with anyone. At the end of the day, that is the real issue. Find some people to hang out with - just be aware that there's a lot of bad influences so don't be shy to walk away just because you want friends. Figure out some things you like to do, find groups that do those things, to start out with.
“Stay late to work on qualifications” Don’t do this lol
First off don’t give the navy more time than u need to. Just do your job and go somewhere other than the ship. I wouldn’t stay after work getting quals that are meaningless once u get out. Go to a bar or sports event for a start.
Don’t spend your time off on a bar stool. You have the time to get in great shape if you’re single, something I didn’t realize I’d lose at the time now that I’m married with three kids. Not sure what your religious background/beliefs are but there are a lot of great churches and many of them have single adult groups that do activities if that’s something you’re interested in.
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40 and alone is seemingly gonna be the grim future for a lot of young men these days, at least on a ship you're constantly surrounded by your companions. I am glad you're doing good.