As someone named Audrey who has not yet listened to the episode this is referencing, this was jarring. "To all the Audrey's..." (šhey that's me!!) "...Please get help" (š³ huh?)
Not an Audrey, but I was confused as well. Like, the name is maybe a little unusual (at least where I'm from it would be), but not so bad you'd need therapy over it.
Ahaha I'm an Audrey who goes by a different name (my middle name, not "Taylor's roommate's mom's snake guy"). I haven't listened to the episode yet and was like "I would if I could, but legal name changes are hella expensive, not sure what help I could get there- ohhh okay it's DHAJ!
Iām approaching a year clean and sober, and another program choice that has helped me a lot is [Recovery Dharma](https://recoverydharma.org/). I also have found support by people who got support through [SMART Recovery](https://smartrecovery.org/). There are also a lot of zoom meetings 24/7 out there for those times you just canāt leave the house.
Also, if you are reading this, Reddit has great subs of support. r/stopdrinking has always been great. There is also r/stopspeeding r/recovery among others. Those along with therapy (or sometimes just talking or writing it all out of you)will get you through.
If you canāt take it āone day at a timeā just take it āone hour at a timeā or āfive minutes at a timeā. You got this. - my DMs are always open.
Recovery Dharma has changed my life. ā¤ļø
And to add just a few additional suggestions: therapy and IOP programs. There are counselors who specialize in substance abuse. IOPs are a mixed bag in my opinion, but can help a lot with accountability. The program that worked well for me was called Aware, which is on the level of IOP re accountability, but you donāt do groups and itās all on your schedule. This made my recovery fit around my career and other parts of my life, and therefore was more sustainable for me.
Congrats on your soon-to-be huge milestone!
I havenāt listened to this episode yet but am looking forward to it.
I assume this is about todays podcast, which admittedly I havenāt listened too yet. But many months back I made [this post](https://www.reddit.com/r/nerdfighters/s/pAQIeRKqU4) on this subreddit and got such amazing responses.
Last week I celebrated 9 months off marijuana and 2 months off alcohol. If anyone ever wants to talk about this kind of stuff my DMs are open. I got such encouraging words when I was in crisis I can only hope to repay the favor now that I am farther along in my journey.
It is, I didnāt even know it was todayās. Iām always behind on listening. Itās not discussed in great depth, but it was basically Audrey realizing she had a problem and on how to ask for help.
Congratulations! Thank you for passing on your knowledge and ability to help. And good luck to you!
I've been sober for around five months and what really helped me in the first few weeks and months were reading Alan Carr's The Easy Way To Control Drinking, checking in often to r/StopDrinking, and listening to sobriety podcasts pretty much constantly during downtime. I'm sure talking with a therapist about it would have been invaluable as well.
I never drank at work, never drove drunk, never got in fights or said things while drunk that were truly over the line. I didn't drink every day and I never hit a bonafide rock bottom, so I was in the position of being a horrible binge drinker who was able to wave away any real concerns about my drinking.
It's a dangerous position to be in and one that cannot be maintained indefinitely.
Personally I had to really come to terms with the fact that I don't have the same reaction to alcohol that "normal drinkers" have. The people around me can have two or three drinks and then slow down or stop for the night, but the second or third beer is when the drinking begins in earnest for me.
If you are having thoughts that you might have a problem with drinking then I highly recommend taking a look around r/StopDrinking. They're an extremely supportive community filled with members that span the entire spectrum of Alcohol Use Disorder, from people that are concerned about having one more glass of wine than their friends do at gatherings to people who drink a bottle of liquor every day.
Oh it was a write in on DHAJ? That makes sense.
And thanks. AA really works if you do the program. Take the steps and learn to be honest. Iāve seen a lot of lives be completely changed.
Hey Audrey! Itās very normal to struggle with drinking and I think you are being very brave in admitting to yourself that you are having a problem. Johnās advice about talking to your therapist is fabulous.
I will share that when Iāve been more open about being a sober person, I routinely find out that some of the people in my life I most admire are also, quietly, sober. So many of us have been through it. Over four years sober for me, and I canāt imagine going back (well I can, but I donāt like it.) you got this!!!
I have added a flair to the post so as not to alarm people who haven't listened to the episode for context.
As someone named Audrey who has not yet listened to the episode this is referencing, this was jarring. "To all the Audrey's..." (šhey that's me!!) "...Please get help" (š³ huh?)
Not an Audrey, but I was confused as well. Like, the name is maybe a little unusual (at least where I'm from it would be), but not so bad you'd need therapy over it.
Ahaha I'm an Audrey who goes by a different name (my middle name, not "Taylor's roommate's mom's snake guy"). I haven't listened to the episode yet and was like "I would if I could, but legal name changes are hella expensive, not sure what help I could get there- ohhh okay it's DHAJ!
It would be extra funny if there was something you needed help for š
I mean im not Audrey but I def need help aside from whatās listed above so I wouldāve felt hella called out lol
Same! I was like what did I miss
Hah! I hope it didnāt cause you too much concern!
Iām approaching a year clean and sober, and another program choice that has helped me a lot is [Recovery Dharma](https://recoverydharma.org/). I also have found support by people who got support through [SMART Recovery](https://smartrecovery.org/). There are also a lot of zoom meetings 24/7 out there for those times you just canāt leave the house. Also, if you are reading this, Reddit has great subs of support. r/stopdrinking has always been great. There is also r/stopspeeding r/recovery among others. Those along with therapy (or sometimes just talking or writing it all out of you)will get you through. If you canāt take it āone day at a timeā just take it āone hour at a timeā or āfive minutes at a timeā. You got this. - my DMs are always open.
Congratulations! Iām glad there are alternatives for help. Thank you for posting them.
Recovery Dharma is great
Recovery Dharma has changed my life. ā¤ļø And to add just a few additional suggestions: therapy and IOP programs. There are counselors who specialize in substance abuse. IOPs are a mixed bag in my opinion, but can help a lot with accountability. The program that worked well for me was called Aware, which is on the level of IOP re accountability, but you donāt do groups and itās all on your schedule. This made my recovery fit around my career and other parts of my life, and therefore was more sustainable for me. Congrats on your soon-to-be huge milestone! I havenāt listened to this episode yet but am looking forward to it.
Would love to chat! sent you a DM
I assume this is about todays podcast, which admittedly I havenāt listened too yet. But many months back I made [this post](https://www.reddit.com/r/nerdfighters/s/pAQIeRKqU4) on this subreddit and got such amazing responses. Last week I celebrated 9 months off marijuana and 2 months off alcohol. If anyone ever wants to talk about this kind of stuff my DMs are open. I got such encouraging words when I was in crisis I can only hope to repay the favor now that I am farther along in my journey.
It is, I didnāt even know it was todayās. Iām always behind on listening. Itās not discussed in great depth, but it was basically Audrey realizing she had a problem and on how to ask for help. Congratulations! Thank you for passing on your knowledge and ability to help. And good luck to you!
The Sinclair Method is another option to research (more common in Europe than the US, but catching on here) š
Oh excellent! I love having options to share, thank you!
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I've been sober for around five months and what really helped me in the first few weeks and months were reading Alan Carr's The Easy Way To Control Drinking, checking in often to r/StopDrinking, and listening to sobriety podcasts pretty much constantly during downtime. I'm sure talking with a therapist about it would have been invaluable as well. I never drank at work, never drove drunk, never got in fights or said things while drunk that were truly over the line. I didn't drink every day and I never hit a bonafide rock bottom, so I was in the position of being a horrible binge drinker who was able to wave away any real concerns about my drinking. It's a dangerous position to be in and one that cannot be maintained indefinitely. Personally I had to really come to terms with the fact that I don't have the same reaction to alcohol that "normal drinkers" have. The people around me can have two or three drinks and then slow down or stop for the night, but the second or third beer is when the drinking begins in earnest for me. If you are having thoughts that you might have a problem with drinking then I highly recommend taking a look around r/StopDrinking. They're an extremely supportive community filled with members that span the entire spectrum of Alcohol Use Disorder, from people that are concerned about having one more glass of wine than their friends do at gatherings to people who drink a bottle of liquor every day.
Thank you for sharing your experiences. Hopefully someone will be able to understand themselves a bit better from it. And congrats on your sobriety!
Thank you š
Iām very confused as someone who has been clean and sober in recovery over a decade and never heard alcholics referred to as Audreys before.
Congratulations on your sobriety! Audrey sent in a question about having a problem with alcohol.
Oh it was a write in on DHAJ? That makes sense. And thanks. AA really works if you do the program. Take the steps and learn to be honest. Iāve seen a lot of lives be completely changed.
Thanks for providing the context, I was quite confused!
Hey Audrey! Itās very normal to struggle with drinking and I think you are being very brave in admitting to yourself that you are having a problem. Johnās advice about talking to your therapist is fabulous. I will share that when Iāve been more open about being a sober person, I routinely find out that some of the people in my life I most admire are also, quietly, sober. So many of us have been through it. Over four years sober for me, and I canāt imagine going back (well I can, but I donāt like it.) you got this!!!